Letting Go of Dreams, Visions, Nightmares, and Even Memories

Using Dreams to Let Go

By Cathy Eck

 

I’d recommend reading my earlier article on Dreams and Nightmares first.

 

Dreams, Visions, Nightmares, and Memories

In this post, I’ll walk you through a short example of finding the causal beliefs within your dreams, visions, nightmares, and memories.  The example I’m using was a clear vision that I had about twenty years ago during a reflexology session.  During that time, I was lost, depressed, my body ached all the time, and I was always exhausted — common symptoms for being trapped in another person’s illusion.  I feared going to a doctor, so I went to healers.  I needed and wanted someone to tell me how to let go.  But I wasn’t finding anyone.

As the reflexologist pushed on my feet, I suddenly smelled something like sulfur.  It was so strong that my eyes watered.  I mentioned this to the reflexologist, and she said, “It must be a message for you.  I don’t smell anything.”  Then she said, “I’m pushing on your heart area now…might be something about love.”  She told me to relax and see what popped into my mind, which was good advice.

I saw a young girl standing before a Nazi guard.  The girl was wearing a cute, ruffled blue dress and patent leather shoes.  Since my mom dressed me that way, I immediately identified with that character.

She was being led to the gas chamber.  That was the smell.   The little girl looked at the guard.  She smiled at him and said, “I still love you.”  I felt such peace and softness in my body; I felt unconditional love for this guard.  The guard pushed her into the gas chamber, and she died.  I was crying at this point — kind of wallowing in my sadness and victimhood.

She said I was releasing a past life, but I knew that I wasn’t letting go; I could see that my mind had already started to make conclusions about this vision like love isn’t enough.  I could see that we both wanted to turn my vision into a reason why I was powerless to change my life.  I was trying so hard to not allow that to happen.  I kept searching for a way to free myself from the vision.  But I didn’t know how to do that for many years.

 

The Cure

This vision was produced from my mind based on where I was at that time.  I eventually realized that the causal belief was that unconditional love was worthless currency on earth — it was not enough to make things right.  That was truly how I felt about my life.

Looking from the eyes of the guard, I could see another huge causal belief.  We have to obey authority — to do as we’re told.  Then I flipped back to the character of the girl.  I truly believed that authority was much more powerful than love.  Of course, these are common beliefs in the illusion — beliefs we all need to let go to be free.

After I discovered how to let go of beliefs, I could see that the belief, “Love is not enough” isn’t true.  I could see that the belief, authority has more power than love” was also a lie.  I could see that the whole damn vision was the product of my beliefs.  Do you see why it’s not helpful to call it a past life?  We don’t need to make it true.  Our past experiences are just the effect of the beliefs we held in mind at that time; they might be real, but they aren’t true.  When we live from truth, we won’t need to let go of beliefs anymore.

The vision showed me where my mind was at that time.  It showed me the beliefs that kept me trapped in an illusion.  To get free, I didn’t need to analyze the details or interpret symbols; it was all very straight forward.

Was I once this child killed in a Nazi concentration camp?  Who knows?  What’s key in that vision are the beliefs that would have caused me to be in such a situation.  After clearing those beliefs, I allowed the vision to replay from my current mental state.  I saw the girl look at the guard and say her words of love.  I felt the same purity.  He looked at her with a scowl and told her to go to the side of the gas chamber and wait for him.  He was still an obedient authority, but it didn’t matter.  I didn’t need to morph him into a saint.  She had the power because she had the real love.  I’d finally seen this vision from the perspective of the True Self.

Let me emphasize…I didn’t put love or positive thinking on top of my erroneous beliefs.  I simply let the beliefs go… they’re false.  The vision no longer bothered me; it existed like a dream…the illusion that it was.

 

Reasons

The reflexologist helped me focus on my body; she triggered the place where the belief was stored.   But her helpfulness ended when she saw the vision as a reason for the way things were.  People often feel satisfied when they find the reason.  Sadly, most people don’t realize they can let go.  They sing “Let It Go” but don’t know how.  We can’t help another let go of their beliefs until we let go ourselves.

When we take any memory, vision, nightmare, or dream and see the causal beliefs that created it, notice our emotional feedback, and let those beliefs go completely, we experience something amazing — freedom.  The scene changes; we learn that without those beliefs, we could never have had those dreams, nor could we experience such a reality.  I find that amazing.  As we clean up our memories and nightmares in this way, we start to see a different world.  We feel safe without needing everyone else to behave or let go.  We realize that other people’s illusions would only affect their life if we didn’t believe them.

Taking Your Power Back By Playing a Game

Breaking through the wall

By Cathy Eck

 

FYI:  This is an advanced post that might not make sense if you’re new to letting go.

Stuck in Someone’s Beliefs

My blog readers aren’t heads of government, religions, or corporations.  They’re creative people who feel stuck in belief systems that were imposed upon them by others.  They often feel locked in a feminine role.

The majority of leaders and authority figures (even family leaders) see enemies and problems to be fixed in the people who play feminine roles beneath them.  They don’t realize that the problems and enemies they see actually exist ONLY in their own mind.  They speak as if the illusion that their mind created is real and true; it is for them.  We all see what we believe.  The false masculine thinks that its beliefs are God’s laws.  It rewards and punishes accordingly.

Our problems began when we believed our first false masculine leader or parent.  We began to see what they said we should see.  Life on earth has been this way for thousands of years.  It will change when we stop believing what others claim to see or know — when everyone admits that the Emperor is buck naked.

Here’s a game to help you escape the feminine role.  It’s challenging, and it’s designed to show you what to let go, to improve your discrimination, and to flip your mind back into the mental, True Self perspective.  Ultimately, we want letting go to become like driving — it’s mostly automatic.

 

The Game

See yourself in front of an audience consisting of difficult people from your life — people who judge you or want to control or fix you.  They can be people you know, authority figures, or imaginary people.  You can even invite God.  Let them speak one at a time.  Allow them to say what’s wrong with you or what you need to believe or be to please them.

I want you to see that what they say is their projection and their own level confusion.  Often they are looking only at what you are doing and judging their own beliefs about it.  Sometimes they don’t even see you.  Here’s an example:  One audience member looks at you and says, “You’re lazy.  You haven’t done anything lately.”  From the physical perspective, they’re right.  You’ve been doing lots of inner work.  But you aren’t allowed to tell them off, defend yourself, or react in this game.

First, you must recognize that they’re speaking from their physical perspective — the beliefs that form their illusion.   Notice how their comment feels to you.  You probably feel emotion; remember, the emotion means that what they said was FALSE.  If you take that emotion in and defend it, you enter their illusion.  You’re powerless because their illusion is a foreign land for you.  If you simply let go of their comment because it’s FALSE, your mind stays clear and free.

Take it slow.  You might feel lots of emotion regarding their comment.  You want to drain it all by witnessing it and remembering why you felt the emotion.  Don’t label the emotion anger, fear, or rage.  That just makes it real.  The emotion is simply saying that what they said was false.  That’s all!

You’ve been letting go a lot lately; and it’s true that you’re not doing much physical work.  But are you lazy?  Mentally, no.  In fact, mentally speaking, they’re lazy.  They haven’t let go of anything.  This is what frees you.  You see that they’re judging you from their physically oriented illusion.  They’re projecting their unwanted defect of mental laziness on you by confusing levels.  A person living from the mental perspective looks like an enemy to someone in the physically oriented illusion.  In the illusion, it’s all about what they see!

We all start life at the mental perspective; and as we accept physical perspective projections from others, we fall into their illusion.  By recognizing the error of the people who cast their stones upon us, we reverse our OWN fall.  Their fall is their problem.  Once you’re clear, you’ll have the words to explain yourself to them.  Or you’ll feel comfortable not responding at all.

 

Explain Yourself!

When we’re living from the mental point of view, we’re often asked by people in the illusion to explain ourselves.  People in the physical perspective don’t understand the mental perspective.  Often the only answer we have is that we did what felt right.  By untangling these two perspectives in your mind, you move out of right-wrong.  You no longer accept their projected judgment.  Their more limited physical perspective will only affect them if you let their beliefs go from your mind.

The trick to winning this game is to remember that what they say is what’s on their mind.  You must realize that neither their conviction, emotional projection, nor authority make their words true in the mental perspective.

Don’t go into their mind.   Keep watching your mind.  See what arises next.  In some instances, you’ll notice judgments toward them in your mind; and ideally, you’ll let them go even if they deserve the judgment.  If you let your judgments toward them go, you might just get to the True Self perspective and feel unconditional love for them.  You just see life from different perspective than they do.  Understanding cleans up that gap.  You’ll see them as powerless and lost — they’re in the fallen world.  You might want to help them, but you won’t want to fix them.  People fix others because they are afraid of them.  We help others because we care.

Your audience members can leave for two reasons:  1) They admit that they don’t want to let go; that’s fine but they must leave your mind (not necessarily your life).   2) They get it, and they let go.  They no longer belong in your audience of difficult people.  Your job is to clean out the entire audience.  That’s how you win the game.

Living the Masculine and Feminine Roles in Relationships

Earth as a mirror of our mind

By Cathy Eck

 

Getting Right Inside

I usually discuss the masculine and feminine related to roles; but the masculine and feminine are actually aspects of our own mind.  The correct inner relationship manifests correct outer relationships.  However, most people live as if the outer world and relationships create their thoughts.  They live life backwards.

In order to let go, we must move our attention inside of our mind.  We must take our focus off the belief-generated illusion and other people; we become inner directed.  Don’t confuse this with introversion.  Inner directed means our attention is on our OWN mind, not other people’s minds.  It means constant discrimination.

Whether we’re male or female, we came hard-wired with a masculine and feminine mind aspect — once called God and Goddess within  (True Self).  Living as a True Self is only possible when we let go of everything false from our minds.  We’re left with only true.  We now create in the physical world using only first-cause thinking.

When we’re thinking true thoughts, our inner masculine and inner feminine harmonize as one.  Our mind is unified (top of the triangle).  These are our most creative moments.  Our inner God now loves unconditionally and thinks only the truth or first-cause thoughts; hence our inner Goddess is creative and wise.  Our life works.

 

Inner Relationships Create Outer Relationships

Jesus said (paraphrasing), “Don’t do shit until you find the kingdom of heaven within.”  That was damn good advice.  If our inner masculine mind is a giant mass of beliefs and knowledge, our inner feminine mind will be emotional and non-creative.  What’s inside our mind creates what’s outside of us if we hold a masculine role.  When we don’t hold a masculine role, then we’re lowly cast members in the stories of the people who hold the masculine roles.

The true masculine leader was modeled after the sun.  The sun gives light and warmth unconditionally.  It doesn’t check to see if we’re worthy of it’s gift or ask for something in return.  Likewise, the masculine sexual organ gives.  Thus the masculine role was considered a giving/assertive role.

The feminine role was modeled after the moon or earth to reflect or absorb.  The sun, moon, and earth were metaphors for the mentally oriented masculine and feminine.  We assume that the sun sends pure light; but humans in the false masculine role send fluorescent (fake) light.

If the masculine mind or leader is like the sun (true) and loves the feminine unconditionally, the feminine reflects that unconditional love back like the full moon, or the feminine earth absorbs the sun’s rays and creates life.  However, if the false masculine mind or leader projects judgment, criticism, or discipline on the feminine, the feminine reacts unnaturally with emotion, rebellion, problems, or disease.

The True Masculine lets go of any thought that causes emotion or limits the feminine (not win-win).  But the false masculine doesn’t let go.  It thinks its beliefs are right and true.  It projects the unwanted part of it’s divided (second-cause) thinking on to its feminine using blame.  It believes that it can think false and get true.  That’s ridiculous, but that’s what it believes; it calls it discipline.

If we all lived as True Selves, creating would be cooperative with two or more whole people creating more than the sum of the equal parts.  A common goal or desire would unite people — not their beliefs.  The leader would hold the vision for the group — not impose beliefs or rules on them.

 

Reality of Relationships

The True masculine role is mentally oriented; its pure mind never gets tired of giving.  What effort does it take to think truth or love unconditionally?

The false masculine, however, is physically oriented; a false masculine mind says to physically give, sacrifice, or serve.  The false masculine leader (or God/Lord) gives discipline, rules, and beliefs.  It gives conditional love (rewards) and punishment.

Thinking false thoughts is exhausting.  But the false masculine is cunning.  It makes the rules and convinces others to do it’s hard work with lies while it receives the benefits, power, and credit.  Rules are false; they shouldn’t be obeyed.  But we’ve been psychologically reversed to obey.

A powerful false masculine leader (like royalty or a billionaire) feels balanced.  But, they’re not.  They’re living the beneficial side of both roles.  They have no compassion for their projection — the people living the shitty side of both roles who have no power and no rewards.  Thus the successful false masculine leader often does a little charity work or service to mask their projection and look generous.

False masculine leaders have no reason to change their mind, so we have to transform ours.  When we let go of their beliefs/rules in our mind even if they’ve created our reality in the past, we move into the True Masculine role naturally.  The true leader is the person with the purist mind in any situation.  They have more power than the balanced false masculine; they can make everything right.

In initiation, we don’t fight for the masculine role or win it by education, expertise, or knowledge.  We simply let go of all of our beliefs.  We let go of allowing others to project or impose their beliefs on us.  We let go of our judgments of others.  Our mind becomes clear and pure.  Then we rise naturally to the true masculine role.  It’s so subtle that we hardly even know we’ve done it.

In initiation, this was called becoming the Christ or the Son of God.  In religion, it’s called impossible.  Religion worships the false masculine; the false masculine always has an enemy or opposite like Satan.  The higher the false masculine rises in the system, the more it’s attacked by Satan.  However, when the True Masculine takes the lead, the false masculine loses its false power; it retreats or submits because it’s finally feeling its own emotions.  It’s pulled inward.  Its lies no longer work.  The war is over.

Love! The Most Confusing Word in the English Language

True Love

My daughter’s rescued dogs.

By Cathy Eck

 

Words are Crazy

I love the word fuck.  It’s so clear and versatile.  If I say, “What the fuck?”  You know what I mean.  If I say, “You look fucking gorgeous!”  We’re in harmony.  If I say, “Fuck you.”  You get my drift without any further explanation.

However, if I say “I love you,” now you’re confused.  Does she mean she like… really loves me?  Does she want to have sex with me?  An exclusive relationship?  To marry me?  Three little words, “I love you,” create more relationship confusion in one day than fuck has ever created — and people claim fuck is the bad word.  But don’t worry; fuck comes to the rescue.  If you say, “I fucking love you man.”  Now you are safe.  Confusion gone.

 

Love is Enough

Nothing feels worse than hearing someone say, “My love is not enough to….. (fill in the blank)”  The statement isn’t true.  But in desperate moments, those words often come out of people’s mouths.  They wonder if they’re being punished when they love something so much and can’t make it right or save it.  That’s love in the illusion.  If you choose to believe in it, you get the consequences.

Unconditional love is the most powerful force in the universe.  I’m certain that it’s enough.  But love has been so watered down and so misused that it’s lost its incredible power.

Let’s start with romantic love.  We use the term “fall in love” for a good reason.  We take our whole True Self and cast it aside so we can be half of another person.  We define a good relationship as becoming more concerned over whether they like us then whether we like us.  Therefore, it’s also common to say, “I lost myself in that relationship.

We believe that strong emotions mean love.  But since you read my blog, you aren’t falling for that trick, are you?  The emotion is saying that what we’re thinking right now is false.  That’s all.  Emotional chemistry means that this person gets us to think a lot of false thoughts. True love is calm.  And sex should be the effect of love, not a synonym for it.

 

That’s Not Love

Some of you were raised by parents who told you that discipline was love.  My mom would smack us with her big wooden paddle and then tell us she did it because she loved us.  WTF?  That wasn’t true then and never will be true.  She was getting an emotional release because her thinking about us sucked.  That’s not love.

Then there are the people who think worry is love.  When we worry about someone, we’re projecting our fear on them.  That’s not love.

There’s the notion that sympathy as love.  When we sympathize with another, we’re believing the same lies that they believe making it harder for them to fix their situation.  Compassion, where we know they’ve just accepted a belief that isn’t true, and we know they can let it go, is equal to love.  Compassion comes from the True Self.

Controlling or fixing another isn’t love.  Someone who says, “I want you to read this self-help book because I love you.”  That’s not love.  While I freely express my ideas on my blog, I don’t even make my own kids read it.  It’s there for people who want it.  True love doesn’t need support or validation.

People equate love with doing shit.  That’s not love.  I’ve been told that love is thank you cards, cleaning, various activities, offering to buy dinner, hugs, visiting, calling, squeezing the toothpaste from the bottom, handing over the remote, etc.  I’ve been told that love is gifts, surprises, and the right words.  And I don’t believe any of it.  Fuck you Hallmark and 1-800-FLOWERS.

It’s all an issue of good old level confusion.  At the mental level, love is simply making sure that what we think of another when we think of them is loving and true.  When it’s not, we let go.  That’s it.  The mental level is what’s true.

People who feel inclined to follow the socially acceptable laws of love, as described above, view life from the physical orientation.  They often do nice things while talking about you behind your back or secretly hating you in the privacy of their mind.  They can look loving without really being loving.  If we’re honest and honor our emotions, we’ve known it all along; but usually, we didn’t want to admit it.

Humans spend their lives trying to get love when all we can control is our ability to give it.  In my experience, that’s enough.  When we get our mind clear enough that another’s false self has no power over us anymore, they’re really easy to love.  Our love power returns.

 

Unconditional love

Unconditional love is a nice word pairing — kind of like steak and Merlot; but most people don’t really know what it means.  We can’t do unconditional love.  We can’t figure it out.  We can’t pretend it.  Love doesn’t have power until it’s unconditional, and it isn’t unconditional until we let go of our false definitions of love.  Sometimes, that’s a long list.

False love is power over another — possession, fear-driven, and controlling.  It only has the power that we believe it has.  True unconditional love is a creative, healing, and unlimited power.  But we can’t fake it until we make it.  The way out is awkward, emotional, and often scary.

Often we wake up one day and realize that all the things we thought we loved about others aren’t real; their masks are covering something we don’t want to see.  But True love doesn’t turn away because when we remember another’s True Self by letting go of the false we see in them, we meet them at the True Self level.  Then we see our own reflection and it’s fucking awesome.   And I know that you know exactly what I mean.

Simple Lessons On Unity, Wisdom, and Unconditional Love

Cruise Ship

By Cathy Eck

 

Several years ago, I was deep into researching the roots of all religion.  I had my nose in books most of the time, I’d gathered lots of knowledge and unveiled much wisdom on a range of topics.  I wanted to travel to places that I had studied but was low on funds.  I got the idea that perhaps I could speak on cruise ships after hearing a cruise ship speaker talking about the Mayan calendar; he recited the facts well but didn’t understand the calendar.  So I worked out a way to spend three months a year at sea speaking on cruise ships.  (FYI:  I will help anyone get free, but I don’t help people get jobs on cruise ships.)

I loved being at sea and visiting places I’d studied.  My talks covered mythology, ancient cultures and religions, ancient sacred places.  Sometimes I told interesting backstories about famous people like Columbus or Michelangelo.  I talked about the Knights Templar, native traditions, and even Atlantis.  I didn’t hold back on the wisdom.  If it was right for the talk, I said it.  People of all religions seemed to enjoy and accept what I said, which surprised me.  I started to understand how the truth on any subject does cut through the bullshit like a knife.  It unites us.  It seemed as if people forgot their beliefs for the hour that we hung out together each day.

 

Lesson 1

I stayed around after my talks for private conversations or questions; people usually lined up to talk to me.  Lots of them wanted to recruit me into their religion.  They would wine and dine me, give me a great sales pitch about how their path was “The One,” then they’d confess that they loved their religion, but it could use a little tweaking.  If I would come on board perhaps I could help them make it right.  I realized that people often believe that they can’t leave their religion, but they aren’t blind to its flaws.  They deeply want to improve it.  Of course, as a reader of this blog, you know that you can’t fix anything in the illusion.  The True Self lives outside the illusion.  To get to the truth, we must let go of the false, including false religion.  While I did say “No” to those offers, I learned a lot about religions.

 

Lesson 2

While on a repositioning cruise from Barcelona to Dubai, I gave nine talks, about Greece, Egypt, and Dubai, which were very popular.  The talks were early in the morning, but they were well attended; no one fell asleep.  I had an audience that speakers dream about.

One elderly woman came in early every day.  She always sat in the back.  The last day, she introduced herself to me.  She told me that she was 92 years old.  She snuck out of her room each morning while her husband was still asleep to attend my talks.  She attended every one.  She smiled at me, took my hand, and said, “All my life people told me that I was stupid.  I believed them.  But you talked about some very complex topics, and I followed every minute of them.  I’ve never been so happy.  I think about these presentations all day long.  Today while listening, I realized that I’m not stupid.”  We hugged and cried.  I explained to her that by some miracle, she had retained access to her truth even when no one else saw it.  What she couldn’t learn was knowledge, which was worthless anyway.  She told me that if she died tomorrow, she’d die knowing she was a wise woman.  She inspired me and still does.  When I feel that I just can’t do this work anymore, I think of her.

 

Lesson 3

One day, I was explaining the astrological symbolism behind the Sun God.  The sun was the metaphor for God because it was perceived as eternal, gave light and warmth, and was unconditional in its giving.  It didn’t care what race, culture, or tribe you were from.  It didn’t judge you as good or evil.  Everyone received it’s gifts.  It’s an amazing metaphor, and shows that the ancient people were wise.  They simply weren’t civilized or learned.  But wisdom trumps knowledge every time.

Civilization replaced the Garden of Eden, created a new God with laws, and made earlier people into barbarians.  The illusion was born.

In my talk, I explained how meaningful the Sun metaphor is today.  It’s a reminder of the power of unconditional love.  After the talk, a woman came up to me.  She said, “Could you please explain to me what unconditional love feels like?  I don’t think I’ve ever felt it.”  I tried different metaphors that often work — children, pets — she got that right away.  But then she looked down, paused, and qualified her statement.  In a soft voice, she said, “I mean what does it feel like when you receive it from another?”  I had to confess, I too didn’t really know.  I’d never felt it from another either.  But I’d felt it inside myself.  She brought up a sad reality.  Most of us haven’t received unconditional love.  Society has replaced it with romance, care taking, and lust.  In fact, to most people unconditional love feels bad because it threatens that which is false inside of them.  Unconditional love dissolves that which isn’t true.  And for those who want to hold on to their beliefs, it’s the enemy.

 

These wonderful people planted seeds in my mind giving birth to many of the techniques I offer today.  Everything I write about and share is designed to get us back to our True Self — the place of unconditional love, wisdom, and unity.  Regardless of our religion or culture, if we’re honest, we all seek the True Self.  We think we lost it; we’re told we left it in Eden.  That’s a lie.  Our True Self still shines just like the sun; it’s immortal, universal, light, warm, and completely unconditional.

Freedom and Death are in Different Realities

Heaven isn't in the clouds

By Cathy Eck

 

Fear of Freedom

A long time ago, religion did a very clever thing.  They associated freedom and reward with death.  This confusion keeps many people from pursuing the path of initiation.  Those who are on the path to freedom have to deal with the beliefs that were planted by those who don’t want freedom for everyone.  These beliefs are often laced with enormous amounts of fear…making them look very true.

 

How We Get Tricked

Recently my dad sent me a very cute picture of a four-year old boy and his huge dog.    A story followed that was designed to tug at our heart-strings (I just realize I have no fucking clue what a heart-string is).  The dog had cancer, and the parents decided to put him down.  After it was done, the vet got tears in his eyes.  He said, “This is never easy.  I hate doing it.”  Now that’s a sign that he shouldn’t be doing it, but that isn’t the lesson in this story.  Then the vet said, “I love animals.  Why do they live such short lives?”  The boy answered confidently.  “My dog learned unconditional love; humans take a longer time to learn it.”  

So did you get sucked in?  Most reading this would immediately think “Oh, the wisdom of children.”  The reality is, “Oh how quick they brainwash the children.”  The statement sounds lovely, but it implies that once we learn unconditional love, we have no reason to be here.  It implies that no living human is unconditionally loving.  This is the world this child was being trained to see?

The example demonstrates how we get hooked into many illusory beliefs. I see these kind of heart-string quotes nearly every day on social media.  The words sound nice; however, most people don’t think about what the quotes really mean.

I often ask the people who I mentor what scares them about freedom?  Most think they’ll die.  They’ve been trained that freedom and heaven are the same.  Others say they’ll be poor and lonely.  Some believe that freedom means they’ll be an outcast or homeless.  My personal favorite is the one that says you don’t get rewarded until you die.  This is very helpful to people who need slaves to do their heavy lifting so they can drink tea and eat bonbons all day.  We can thank religion for most of these disempowering beliefs.  Few people notice that the very people who tell them to delay gratification aren’t delaying their own gratification.  There are a lot of Jesus-following churches that are very rich; but no one sees the irony in that.

 

Choose Your Mentors Wisely

You don’t want someone to mentor you who’s afraid of freedom.  Years ago, I was desperate to find ways to get freedom from beliefs.  I knew how to discriminate, but I didn’t yet know how to let go.  I read about this new thing called Voice Mapping and decided to try it.  At first, I did great or so I thought.  Now, I suspect that it was more my belief that the machine would get rid of beliefs, along with my clear discrimination and a well-crafted brochure.

The operator was Mormon.  We decided to take a break because I hit a road block.  My mind just wouldn’t let go.  She told me that she’d been thinking about her deceased husband during my session.  “Hum,” I thought, “I wonder if this affected my ability to let go.”

I asked her what he died from.  “He died quickly,” she said.  “He figured out who he was — a gay man.  He came out of the closet.  He suddenly became unconditionally loving and wise.  God didn’t need him on this planet anymore.”

“That is ridiculous,”  I responded in an unkind tone of voice “When we are unconditionally loving we can live fully, help others, and create, create, create.  You are full of shit.”  She smiled as she said, “He asked the Bishop why he felt so alive; and the Bishop said, his job on earth was done.”  He died soon after that.

I realized why my mind wouldn’t let go.  Her beliefs linked unconditional love with death.

 

The Truth

I sometimes wonder if Gandhi, John Lennon, or Martin Luther King felt their love made them unnecessary on earth.  Too often, the wrong people leave the planet.  Is that why people say the good die young?

Here is the truth, and you know this in your heart.  You don’t need me to say it, but I will anyway.  Heaven is on earth.  The truth was covered up with a political/religion-generated illusion.  When we reach the state of freedom and unconditional love, we get wise.  We see the illusion for what it is.  We become enlightened.  If we stayed on earth, we’ll expose the illusion.  We’ll help to free others.  Most people become very angry when they see the illusion.  And I feel that anger is what often kills them.

We can’t fix the illusion or fight it.  It’s hard not to become angry when we see the pain and suffering caused by those who say they care about us.  But anger and fear  don’t create change.  They are the fuel of the illusion.  They harm us.

We have to remember the illusion is false and keep letting go.  We must remember the anger is saying that whatever we’re seeing in the illusion isn’t true.  Emotions expose the illusion, which is why they’re labeled bad.  If we keep letting go…if we keep staring poverty and sickness and harmful beliefs in the eye and declaring them untrue, then we are committing a sin in the eyes of religion…we’re heretics bringing heaven back to earth.  We’re exposing their lies…freeing the world.  That takes courage and unconditional love.

Sorry little boy.  You’re cute as hell, but you’ve been brainwashed.  The kryptonite of the illusion is unconditional love.  The purpose of life is to become unconditionally loving to live, create, and be free — not die.

The Most Powerful Weapon: Guns or Unconditional Love

LGBT Congratulations

By Cathy Eck

 

Guns or Unconditional Love

We live in a crazy time where people who say they love Jesus shout words of hatred to those who are different.  Many of them pack a lot of heat.  It’s hard to know how to handle these types of incongruent people.

The false God of the Old Testament plays loudly in the religious zealot’s mind.  They don’t realize that they’re caught in a bait-and-switch program. They consciously honor Jesus while unconsciously projecting the rules of their false, punishing God on to anyone they feel fits their description of evil.  They don’t seem to notice that Jesus didn’t obey or honor the punishing God, and he didn’t think much of organized religion.

These Christians aren’t Christ-like.  They aren’t “Loving their enemies,” nor are they remembering that Jesus said that what kills us is what comes out of our mouth, not what goes in.  I’m not religious, but I do take the words of Jesus seriously because he speaks the words of initiation.

Fundamentalists might have numbers in their favor, but they have no real power.  We just have to know what to do when we’re in a tough situation with anyone who has a rigid, one-track mind.  Beliefs only have power over us if we believe them; but often, our automatic training causes us to believe people even when what they say feels terrible.  If we can let the belief that is laced with emotion go, we move back into power.

 

The Masculine Side

Let’s examine a conversation between a straight fundamentalist man projecting his beliefs on a gay man.  The fundamentalist says,  “If you keep up your behavior, you’ll go to hell.  The Bible says so.”  We know he’s speaking from beliefs because the words are emotionally charged and not win-win.  They fail both tests of truth.

Forget the words for a moment, and just focus on the emotion.   The speaker does feel the emotion (even if he doesn’t show it), but he believes the emotion is saying he’s right (psychological reversal).  He thinks the gay man is causing his emotion when his own poison words are causing his emotion.  Eventually that emotion will push him to think another thought to elevate his position because he has no concept of letting go.  He’ll think something like, “I’m doing this to help him so he doesn’t go to hell.”   He feels calmer since he now believes that he’s being helpful or kind to the gay man.  But his new statement is still not true — it doesn’t pass the win-win test.

Masculine-oriented minds are pretty accomplished at falsely elevating their position with thought.  They believe that if we’d think like them, everything would be perfect.

 

The Feminine Side

Let’s assume that our gay friend doesn’t consciously have the typical religious good-and-evil world view.  But subconsciously he does, or he wouldn’t have encountered this zealot.  He now has three choices:

In the first choice, he doesn’t discriminate.  He believes what the fundamentalist says because he shares the belief that what feels bad is true.  If our mind has this belief, we’ll be triggered to accept beliefs that are laced with emotion.  That belief shuts off our natural discrimination.  He’ll most likely try to defend himself, but he won’t win because now he’s on the same false playing field as the fundamentalist.  He’s stuck.

In the second choice, he’s a bit wiser.  This time he hears the fundamentalist’s words but realizes that what he just heard isn’t the truth. He recognizes his inner emotional signal to let go.  He doesn’t take on the fundamentalist’s projection or even try to fight him, he just realizes that the fundamentalist is stuck in false thinking.  He’s won the battle, but he hasn’t yet won the war because he remembers the event and the horrible feeling of being judged.  It worries that it could happen again.

He has a third choice if he discovers the power of unconditional love or true forgiving.  True forgiving means to go back to your state of mind before the first giving (the negative incident).  The fundamentalist’s giving was the statement that the gay man was wrong and was going to hell.  To forgive, he must ask himself why he would encounter such a man and get this unwanted gift.  He’s looking for the cause inside of his OWN mind.  Most likely, he believed that if it happened to others, it can happen to him.   Perhaps he also had some religious beliefs of his own that he needs to clean out.  He could have quite a complex of beliefs in his mind that attracted the hater.  If he let’s go of ALL causal beliefs, his power will return.  It’s no longer possible for the fundamentalist to project his beliefs on him.  When authorities can no longer project their evil on others, they’ll all wake up very quickly.

 

Winning With Unconditional Love

The LGBT battle for equality affects us all — it symbolizes the return of the powerful feminine.  The feminine aspect of man and woman became powerless when the patriarchal God was elevated and the Goddess disappeared.  This has caused us all to feel powerless when we are in a feminine role.

A few years ago, I was researching ancient Polynesian stories for a presentation.  I found one story that I really loved.  The story said that humans have long struggled with the problem that the masculine mind gets too power hungry, too righteous, and too war oriented.  At crucial times, large numbers of courageous souls volunteer to come to the planet with feminine minds in male bodies to return peace to earth.  They called them fairies because they thought they were magic.  Their strong feminine mind balances the overly masculine mind of the straight men in power.  Consequently, the birth of gay children was celebrated because they knew that fighting was about to end.  I’m willing to believe that story — it feels really good.

New Age, Self-Help, and Conspiracy Theory

Exposing Beliefs and Conspiracy Theory

By Cathy Eck

 

I spent this past weekend with a small group of amazing women who are totally committed to freedom.  They all displayed the kind of courage, radical honesty, and willingness to let go that really does change the world.

Each of these women had done their fair share of time in the New Age movement, dabbled in self-help, and even tasted the bitterness of religion.  The acceptance of New Age and self-help techniques seemed to repair the damage caused by religion.  It allowed them to feel balanced, but not free.  So we took a good hard look at how opposing belief systems keep us stuck.

 

His Story in My Life

I used to own a big private library.  I acquired my first self-help book about a year after I married a Catholic Italian.  Not having any strong beliefs myself, I saw beliefs as personal and not really that important.  I certainly wasn’t going to allow beliefs to get in the way of love.  But people with beliefs feel bonded with like-minded people; so I felt pressured to honor my husband’s beliefs.  I presumed that I was just keeping peace by giving in.  However, I was slowly giving his beliefs power in my own mind.  I was developing a yin for his yang false self.

With each Catholic and cultural belief that I honored, I acquired another self-help book.  I balanced his religious and cultural beliefs with other beliefs that appeared to neutralize the charges.  I accepted the self-help author’s projection of their beliefs because it felt like I was fixing my mind; but I was just putting more garbage into it. You can’t fix beliefs with more beliefs. Two wrongs don’t make things right; they make us stuck.

If I was positive, I wasn’t humble, obedient, and good.  I’d try to convince my husband that he was wrong.  But that didn’t work, so I’d obey his false god for awhile.  But then I wasn’t positive.  My mind was a fucking mess.

Everything that I write about on this site and Gateway To Gold were born out of my intense desire to free my mind.  I didn’t want balance — I wanted freedom.  I decided I would either get completely free or die.  But I would not create another false belief system to fix the false beliefs I had accepted. That meant that I had to discover how to let go.

 

How It Works

Any concept in the illusion has two sides; the True Self doesn’t have an opposite.  The New Age and self-help movements copied a very old trick invented by religion.  They take something from the bottom of the triangle and move it to the top (see above).  Now the True Self must move to the bottom.  What used to be true is now dual and false.

The triangle process will always get us to the truth.  If you want unconditional love.  You must see that our society put romance, caretaking, or two halves of a whole at the top of the triangle so that we’ll strive for that.  They define love by what you do.  Then they put hate and unconditional love at the bottom.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve truly loved someone unconditionally, and they thought I was hating them because I wasn’t agreeing with them or I didn’t do what they considered love.  They couldn’t feel my real love because they were looking for a gift, words that supported their false self, an action, or sex.

 

Conspiracy Theory

Conspiracy theory exposes this shift in the triangle.  People who detect conspiracy usually have a good sense of smelling the false.  But they go too far.  They turn what they see into a purposeful conspiracy.  In truth, people have no idea what they’re projecting because they’ve accepted the false triangle as the truth.  When we’re lost in the illusion, we always project an enemy.  We always think we’re good or right when we’re actually false.

Look at 9/11.  This was clearly George Bush’s projection.  He’s an Evangelical Christian who believes with all of his little pointy heart in good and evil.  He also sees himself as good, and his definition of good lives at the top of his Evangelical triangle.  His false God and his evil doers live at the bottom of his illusory triangle.  Evil shows up for him in the place where he isn’t winning — oil.

This was only his illusion, but he was the leader.  Our problem began when we believed his illusion.  Before every conspiracy type of event, there’s a grooming period where the authority sells their beliefs, usually with fear.  Once enough people accept the beliefs, the event occurs because we manifest it.  Everyone involved in 9/11 had the same false view of the world — it can’t be any other way.  The way to avoid these situations is to stop believing illusions, even if they come from authority.  We must remember how to discriminate between true and false.

The conspiracy theorists said 9/11 wasn’t real.  It was reality but not truth; it could only happen in the illusion.  Nothing in the illusion is true; it’s only the projection of a leader’s own enemy.

Conspiracy theory solidifies the illusion if we think we have to fix it, fight it, or if we think it was purposeful.  Once the conspiracy theorist exposes the illusion, their work is done.  If we let go, the leader’s projection boomerangs back to them.  We don’t have to do a thing.

We can look cold-hearted when we don’t empathize with people caught in illusory tragedy; we can look unsupportive if we don’t believe the latest self-help/New Age scheme.  But what we don’t let go will continue to manifest.  Balancing belief systems does no good.  In fact, the self-help/New Age movement created more chaos, more conspiracy, as people projected their evil and negativity on to others under the guise of spirituality.  We’ve tried it all, and it hasn’t made the world any better; now we must let it all go.

When It Feels Like Our Love is Not Enough

Path of Venus and the apple

By Cathy Eck

 

 

When Love Is Not Enough

Years ago, I met a sweet woman who was going through a tragic situation with her son.  At the time, I didn’t know how to let go of beliefs, but I could see that she had a very big belief.  She said it over and over again.  “How can I save my son if my love is not enough?”  I doubt that there’s a person alive who has not thought those words at some point in their life.  We all long to save the people we hold dear, and often we suspect that we just don’t have enough love.

I couldn’t get her story out of my mind for years even though I lost touch with her.  It felt completely wrong to me that we would be living in a world where our love is not enough.  Yet, I too had that belief.  I had memories to prove it.

Then I came to understand beliefs.  When we believe words, they become our truth.  We see proof of our belief/truth in the world, then we believe it even more.  We get caught in an infinite loop with no exit.

 

Conditional Love

Love is not enough because most love in this world is conditional or romantic.  Half people who complete each other or caretakers who simply do what others say is right or proper are operating at the level of the false self; and in the illusion, love is not enough.  If love was enough, the illusion would end.

You see, love is the most powerful force in the universe because it supports the truth while simultaneously dissolving the false. Thus if you can unconditionally love any situation, disease, or enemy, the false disappears.  But we can’t fake unconditional love, and beliefs mask it.  So most people can’t express it.  Their cure, their joy, their freedom is right inside of them; and they cover it up with beliefs that they have borrowed from others.

 

The Fall

I came to realize the meaning of the fall, and why our love is not enough, one day while eating an apple.  I don’t like apples and rarely eat them; but I’d wondered why they used the apple in the story of Adam and Eve.  I thought eating one might help.  I cut the apple in half and saw the picture above.  The symbolism immediately fell into place.  Thankfully, I didn’t have to eat it to get the answer.

The photo above shows the inside of my apple; it has a five-pointed star in the arrangement of the seeds.  The five-pointed star is also drawn by tracing the movement of Venus over eight years and five days.  Venus (Greek Aphrodite) was associated with love.  However, she’s associated with human love, not unconditional love.  Thus her love is dual in nature.

 

moving the points in the pentagram

So when Adam and Eve ate the apple, they ate the apple of the illusion (duality), where the knowledge of good and evil reigns supreme.  If you look at the five-pointed star with one point on top, it looks like the Vitruvian Man.

Just like the triangle process, one point is on top and duality is on the bottom meaning that we’re living within duality, but we put our True Self first.  Ideally, we lead with unconditional love and simply use the illusion or duality for its creative potential (called first-cause creation).  People who do this often capture our hearts; they put the wisdom of the heart (True Self) in front of their head (false self).

On the other hand, if we turn the five-pointed star upside down, we get something with horns, which is where Satan came from.  Satan, or the horned devil, often is depicted as a goat. The goat was associated with Old Capricorn on the Zodiac.  He wasn’t the Creator God (Genesis I); he was an earthly God with lots of baggage like the Roman Saturn or the Greek Zeus.

When duality comes first, good-evil, win-lose, dominance-submission, or right-wrong are the foundation (second-cause creation).  Competition is normal and accepted.  The devilish part of humans (false self) says it loves us or cares for us while it’s actually limiting us.  It says it loves us as it requires us to believe its lies and obey its rules.  It says it’s caring for us while projecting its beliefs on us.  It loves us when it beats us in competition and makes us the enemy when it loses.

 

Unconditional Love or Old Capricorn?

It is our choice, which way we use our mind.  Which Venus do we honor?  Pay attention when you see the five-pointed star because those who use it usually know the difference between the one point up and the reverse.  It is an old, old symbol.  It speaks volumes.

Sadly, the God of the Old Testament was modeled after Saturn, Old Capricorn.  When we put that God before us, we live from conditional love and reward and punishment; then our love is not enough.  But when we let him go, our spark of the Creator God comes alive.

 

Isis

The answer can be found in another loving goddess, Isis (Egyptian).  Isis was the wife and sister of Osiris, the Sun God.  When her lover/brother was tricked and cut into pieces, Isis brought him back to life (she re-membered him) because she had a pure virgin mind and unconditional love.  She remembered who he really was.  The virgin mind was a mind with no beliefs.  It creates anew with ease.  (A virgin body doesn’t mean a damn thing so have all the sex you want.)

When we let go of conditional love, we’re left with the heavenly man.  The Vitruvian Man stands within the squared circle, the symbol for the union of heaven (circle) and earth (square); he’s perfect.  He’s free.  This man was the ancient high initiate, who used his body as a temple for his True Self (his God within).  For this man or woman, love is enough.

 

The Four Levels of Relationships

relationships

By Cathy Eck

 

Level Confusion in Relationships

In many of my posts, I talk about the nemesis of initiation — level confusion.  Relationships are highly complicated by level confusion.  We view dysfunctional  relationships as normal or even good.  Unconditionally loving relationships are considered fantasy story material or boring.

The pyramid above is physically oriented.  Relationships at the bottom are much more noticeable because they create strong emotions and dangerous physical effects.  The top of the pyramid is barely visible because our bodies and minds are calm and the effects produced are pure, harmless, and lacking in drama.

 

Level 1:  Unconditionally Loving Relationships

This is where we begin our journey on earth — the True Self.  We love everyone; differences are celebrated and complementary.  No one harms another.  People are creative, joyous, and free.  Spirit, mind, and body are congruent.  This level is the goal of initiation — death of the false self; rebirth of the True Self.

When we look at the world through this spiritual or divine orientation, we focus on our own thinking and our own creating.  Our minds hold only true, undivided thoughts.  This level is perfect, but it would become boring if it was the only way we lived.  So we created level two.

 

Level 2:  Mental Relationships

In mental relationships, we create beliefs.  If we use our mind as designed, beliefs are personal or shared for purposeful co-creation.  When our creation is complete or the desired result is obtained, the beliefs were meant to be dropped.  We return to level one until we wish to create again.  This is called first-cause creation.  If we stay in first-cause creation, we remain a mental virgin — our mind is a pure, creative womb.  Our creations are win-win for everyone.  Life is joyous and free; we don’t experience problems.

However, if we create or borrow beliefs that separate us from others such as pretty versus ugly, rich versus poor, or Republican versus Democrat, we move into second-cause creation.  Second-cause beliefs contain an element of judgment, dividing us from the whole.  They’re always accompanied by emotion, which is the signal that what we’re thinking isn’t true and isn’t in our best interest.  When people learn to ignore their emotional signals, they hold on to beliefs as if they’re true.  They become half instead of whole.  They look to emotional relationships for completion, falling even further from their True Self.

 

Level 3:  Emotional Relationships

Most emotional relationships are labeled chemistry or romance.  But they also occur between people who are like-minded in beliefs (especially religious or political).  Beliefs cause us to feel alone and separate; emotional relationships seem to fix that separation.

Emotional relationships are usually held together by seemingly positive emotions such as romance, hope, excitement, and pride.  These are the most damaging emotions.  They pull us right into the illusion and hold us there.

All emotions are signals from our True Self that we’re creating with second-cause beliefs.  It’s as if we’re now running on limited battery power instead of unlimited electric current.  Consequently, emotional relationships last only because the fear of leaving outweighs the emotional pain of staying.  Death provides a welcome ending when our battery power runs out.

In emotional relationships, we feel connected when we’re with the one or ones who complete us.  Outsiders threaten our fragile beliefs and seeming connection.  Group power is false power that pretends to be real power.

Letting go of emotional relationships requires finding the causal belief that got us into the relationships.  We must move up to level two, find the second-cause belief, and let it go.  People often fear losing codependent emotional relationships and miss the opportunity to become whole or to experience higher level relationships.

Emotional relationships feel powerful because emotions create drama and the ups and downs of excitement.  Over time, emotions create disease and problems, which often unite us in yet another dysfunctional way.  Sadly, our creative power is diminished at this level.  Life eventually pulls us down into opposition.

 

Level 4:  Opposition in Relationships

The bottom level of the relationship pyramid is opposition.  It’s the foundation of the physical illusion.  People, who live completely within their false self, view this level as the truth.  Religion invented this world of opposites spiced with judgment — I’m good; you’re evil.  Business and gaming entered the picture — I win; you lose.  Moral and social behavior was defined — I’m right; you’re wrong.  Politics got involved — I dominate; you submit.

This level is the domain of fundamentalist religions and political division resulting in war, poverty, disease, and suffering of all types.  The only way to stay alive at this level is to create second-cause beliefs that place us above others, such as being part of a chosen group.  That takes a lot of effort to sustain because others will work hard to knock us off of our fragile pedestal.

Seeing level four as true is what causes people to have an apocalyptic view of life.  They see themselves as good; those who try to knock them off their pedestal of false superiority are labeled the enemy or evil.  Many try to resolve oppositional problems by looking for someone (like a savior) or something (bigger bomb) that neutralizes all their causal beliefs.

 

The Solution

True safety and real relationship comes from dropping all second-cause beliefs.  We must move out of our false selves and allow our True Selves to lead.

We must follow our emotions to unveil our second-cause beliefs.  We take responsibility for our beliefs, let them go, and ignore the creations and beliefs of others who are lost.  This is how we regain our creative power.

If we organized the above pyramid based on creative power instead of physical power, the levels would be reversed.  Unconditional love has the most creative power.  Opposition has almost none; it’s only about survival.

Unconditional love is pure creative energy.  When the initiate reached that level, they were said to create as Gods.  Earth became their heaven.

How Do You Know if it’s True Love?

Unconditional love Sun

The sun symbolized unconditional love in the ancient world because it gives without conditions.

By Cathy Eck

Knowing True Love

Love is a very confusing subject.  We talk about “falling” in love as a good thing.    People attach sex, romance, and chemistry to love, which nearly guarantees our fall.  One thing for sure, true love is never found in the traditional ball-and-chain relationship.  True love is like the sun; it is what we experience when we give  unconditionally.

I have to admit, “falling” in love took me on a giant life detour.  I buried my True Self with beliefs in relationship.  But one day, I could no longer pretend that fallen love was the real deal.  I wanted only True Love, and I was willing to do what it took to find it.  I didn’t yet realize I had it all along.

 

False Love Languages

Recently, Oprah interviewed Gary Chapman, the best-selling author of “The Five Love Languages.”  His book sold millions of copies; people credit it with saving their marriages.  However, Mr. Chapman has a severe case of true love and false love level confusion. The book should be called, “The Five False Love Languages.”

You take a questionnaire to find your love language — or what you need to feel loved.  Then your partner is supposed to give you what you need, i.e., speak your love language.  The author said the best question to ask your partner is, “What do I need to do to fill your love tank?”  To me that sounded more like a question a perverted gas station attendant would ask.

The love languages were as follows:

Words of Affirmation

Quality Undivided Attention

Gifts

Doing Acts of Service

Physical Touch

Here’s the key.  Our natural true masculine state of being gives unconditionally (like the sun); our natural true feminine state reflects (moon) or absorbs (earth).  We all have both masculine and feminine aspects within our minds that ideally work together.

In relationship, we play the masculine or feminine role; we project the other role out and interact with it.  If the one in the masculine role is giving true love, the feminine reflects it back.  The love continues to flow endlessly.

In true love, our True Self gives what we love to give.  If we’re joyous, we give joy.  If we’re wise, we give wisdom.  If we are spontaneous, we share our spontaneity.  If we’re funny, we make the other laugh.  The love we feel in this giving is the reconnection of two True Selves (often called soul mates), each playing a different role.  This giving is effortless; we don’t wear out giving our True Self because it is unlimited.

We actually feel love when we give it; but our false self tells us we feel it when we receive it.  

This is where people get confused.  You can see this clearly in the parent-child relationship.  When the baby first arrives, you feel so much love because you see only perfection in the baby even though the child is just eating and pooping.  You give unconditional love to the child.  They reflect your true love back.

Since you feel love, you think the child is giving love to you.  But what you’re feeling is the purity and lack of emotion that occurs when you think loving true thoughts.  You don’t yet have beliefs about the child.

 

Why Does True Love End

Eventually, the child does something that we label “bad,” and they feel the disconnection from the parent.  They eventually find the key to fixing that disconnect and that becomes part of their love language.  Maybe they hug the parent, now hugs mean that everything is okay.  We are connected again.  Love goes from unconditional giving to fixing the lack of love with behaviors.  If love morphs into sacrifice or duty, we’ve about hit bottom.

“The Five Love Languages” provides a fix for this false love dilemma.  The test exposes the childhood wound that needs fuel.  So if the person fills our empty tank with a kind word or touch, we feel loved for a little while.  But just like our gas tank, it will soon be empty again.

 

Fixing the Cause

We hug the person at intermittent intervals and this fixes the effect (empty tank) instead of the cause (childhood wound).  But come on, is that hug really love or is it just socially-acceptable manipulation?

The initiates said that it’s stupid to fix effects.  They’re right.  Do you really want to fill tanks with gifts, touches, doing laundry, or words of affirmation for the rest of your life?  Most of us do until we just can’t do it even one more time; then we run like hell, die, or wake up.

The goal of initiation was to live a life of unconditional love.  When the initiates reached this state, they were said to be like Gods (or like the sun).  They were powered by fuel that never runs out.

Initiates never played games; they’d never be half of a whole.  Two initiates would be two whole people that make more than the sum of one plus one.  They would be a creative partnership where each wants what the other’s True Self naturally gives.  When you step on the path of initiation, you stop filling tanks.  But you will help another heal their wounds and return to true love.

The good news is that you don’t need to know anyone’s love language because that isn’t true love anyway.  True love is natural, and we never get tired of expressing it.  The more we give true love, the more true love we feel.  That is because true love was perfectly designed to be felt when we gave it.  In that way, the love you feel is only limited by your beliefs, which limit your capacity to give.  That is insanely fair because everyone can give unconditional love, even when they are completely alone.

 

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When Love Doesn’t Seem to Be Enough

Martin Luther King Quote

By Cathy Eck

 

Love — A Powerful Force

A burning question erupted in my mind when John F. Kennedy was assassinated.  My mother said he was good; so how was it possible to kill him?  In my mind, good, positive, truthful, free, and unconditionally loving were all the same.  I felt strongly that love was a force that kept one safe.  But no one agreed with me; and in time, I came to believe them.  I learned that human good is different from True-Self good, and human good (or obedience) is what authorities wanted from me.  People thought my question was too big to ask.  I suspect it was too right to ask.

 

Adam and Eve

We’re taught that after their dirty deed, Adam and Eve were cursed by God; the door to paradise was locked.  They got us stuck for eternity in the land of good and evil.  But was the gate locked by God or was it locked by beliefs?  Could we let the beliefs go, and unlock the gate?  Another one of those “too big” questions, perhaps?

We’ve been convinced that heaven’s gate was locked.  We were convinced that good and evil are equal players in a never-ending battle.   We were convinced that a good person can be killed by evil.  But are any of these beliefs true?  Or have we just been conned to support an illusion that benefits the few at the expense of the many?

We believed these ideas because we were taught them by authority as children.  We didn’t realize that whatever beliefs we accepted as true would slide quietly into our mind and hold us hostage within an illusory reality; we were never told that we could discriminate and let beliefs go or that our love would keep us safe.  Only the ancient initiates were given that little piece of truth, which is why the initiates looked like Gods compared to the rest of us mortals.

 

The Key

People who died by assassination, like Martin Luther King, were rebels who exposed and fought the elite rulers.  The elite rulers have been the winners of the illusion for thousands of years.  We follow their belief — beliefs that were stacked to favor the patriarchal elite, not the little guy.  The rebels wanted the people in power to change their minds and adopt equality-centered views.  But why would they?  They were winning.

The initiates knew how to take our power back even when we were in a lesser role.  They said that nothing can exist in our experience until we accept a belief that allows the experience into our mind.  If we remove the causal belief, we can’t be harmed.

People who win at duality are experts at planting causal beliefs in the minds of the people that they want to control.  Slavery is the goal of the illusion.  The ability to discriminate and let go is, in fact, the great equalizer.  But hardly anyone knows how.

Martin Luther King had a True-Self vision of freedom; but he was stuck in the same false world as we are.  He tried to change the illusion.  But we can’t change or defeat the illusion; we must let it go.  Then it slowly dissolves like the Wicked Witch in the Wizard of Oz who was doused with water.

 

The Way Out

Each belief we hold in mind gives some of our power to authority.  It sounds counter-intuitive, but our fear disappears as we let beliefs go.  Our safety improves as our fear disappears.  False power diminishes because the disempowering beliefs and fear that we let go boomerang right back to those who sowed the seeds in our mind.  This is true justice — redemption without revenge.

If an authority figure can’t project their fear on to others, events are pulled into their life that push them off their pedestal.  They lose their special charisma that people fall for.  The truly good win without a fight.  In fact, no one loses in this deal because those who lose their false power gain the truth that sets them free too.

 

Getting to Love

According to the initiates, we must cease judging, hating, and fighting; instead, we must free our own minds.  We must become someone who can’t be another’s projection screen.

The big questions are the ones that free our minds because they take us to the truth.  That is why it is frowned upon to ask them.  They dissolve the illusion.

In my experience, people often have a deep core belief that their love is not enough to keep them safe.   But that is just not true.  Ultimately the goal is just as Jesus said, “Love your enemies.”  He didn’t say that so we’d be nice; he said it so we’d be powerful and safe.

I didn’t want to love my enemies at first.  It felt like I was letting them off the hook.  But I realized that I enabled the authorities in my life by believing their lies.  I trusted them because I didn’t know how to discriminate between true and false as a child.  Now I do.  Now I can strip them of their false power by letting go and unconditionally loving them — not because they deserve my love but because it renders them powerless.  It is never too late to take back our power and live our perfect life.

I don’t know how long it takes to clean out our mind completely and reach total unconditional love because I’m not there yet.  But I do know that I’m safer when I let go.  I’m healthier and happier when I remember to let go.  I have less fear and more choices when I let go.  Most important, I have more unconditional love.  I carry the most powerful weapon of all in my holster as long as I remember to just let go.

 

Think you still need your beliefs, read this one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Do You Know If It Is Unconditional Love?

Unconditional love honors our differences.

Unconditional love always honors our differences.

By Cathy Eck

 

Unconditional Love Is Normal

After speaking on a cruise ship, a woman came up to me and said, “I’m sorry if this is a stupid question, but can you please explain unconditional love.  I don’t think I’ve ever felt it or even thought it was possible.”  I wanted to cry because unconditional love should be our normal state of being, not some weird phenomenon that occurs only when Venus eclipses the sun.

Unconditional love is the raw material of our True Self.  You can’t pretend to be unconditionally loving.  You can’t learn unconditional love.  You are it.  But most people have forgotten that they are unconditional love because they’ve been plastered with papier-mache beliefs since birth.  We have to break through that paper mache  cover in order to find our True Self and live from unconditional love.

 

Unconditional love monkey and bird

Conditional love wants our differences to disappear. Unconditional love finds harmony in our differences.

 

Most Love is Conditional

Most love is conditional.  That is because we often use our emotions backwards in relationship.  When we feel emotions with another, we are in false love or what is often called chemistry or romance.  Emotions are a signal that we are a false self match to this person.  Unconditional love feels like peace; and often people find unconditional love and turn away from it because it feels boring.  Unconditional love is complete; it doesn’t need another to be whole.

Letting go of our beliefs about another is the road to unconditionally loving them.  The goal is not to get the other to unconditionally love you, it is for you to unconditionally love them.  Then you give them their freedom, even if that means they don’t want to be with you anymore.  Sounds hard, but it is truly worth it.  You end up with the right people in your life, and your relationships become mutually supportive and calm.

 

An Initiation Test

Here is a test that comes from the ancient mystery school teachings.  It was used to force initiates to become unconditionally loving.

Imagine a composite person in your mind standing before you, your own personal terrorist.  They have all the most horrific qualities that you could imagine in a human being.  They are blocking the exit from the initiation chamber, and you can’t leave until you love them unconditionally.

Take one disgusting quality of your terrorist, and you can even label it.  (Enjoy it now, I don’t usually let people label anything).  Now remember that they are unconditional love so this quality that you see is not who they are.  It is an illusion.  Notice that the quality doesn’t feel good.  Witness the emotion in your body, and keep reminding yourself that they are not that label.  The quality that you see is only a facade; it is not true.  If you don’t feel any emotion when focusing on that quality, it is probably because your mind is being right that they are what you see.

Letting go begins the moment you know that what you are thinking is not the truth.

You know when you have reached the place of unconditional love with that quality when there is no more emotion.  The picture in your mind of the terrorist will often change.  It will usually soften a bit.  Keep repeating this for each horrible quality you see in the terrorist until you feel nothing but love for them.  The ancient ones said that when you free the terrorist, the terrorist will free you.  This isn’t easy; so be kind to yourself if you don’t make it out alive.  Remember, it is just an exercise.

 

Is Your True Self Running Your Life?

The ease in doing this exercise shows you just how much influence your True Self has over your false mind.  The more you are in your false self, the harder it will be to let go.  The false self doesn’t like to let go, but it must listen to our True Self.

For a harder challenge, bring real people into the position of guard, and test your skill at letting go of your beliefs about them.  Often, we have a tendency to keep people we know on the hook.  So watch out for that.  And when you are really brave, put yourself in the guard position because the person we often love the least is our self.

In truth, all of these people are our own reflection so as you do to them, you are actually doing to your self.  When you can’t find a terrorist to guard your exit, you’re FREE.

 

Let me know how it goes.  Post a comment or write to me.  I’m always interested in hearing results even if the terrorist killed you.

Want a little more love?  Here is a link to an article on the Huna Golden Rule.