Surfing In Bangladesh and Much More

This is Nashima surfing; look at that gorgeous smile!

About Nashima

Before you begin this article, here’s a little reminder. My writing is not like anyone else’s writing. I don’t write for your entertainment, nor do I write for you to learn from me. I have nothing to teach anyone. I write to expose beliefs as false so that you can let those beliefs go and get free of the illusion. Consequently, when you feel emotion while reading my articles, that means that you hold the belief that I’m exposing as false or the opposite of that belief in your mind. Don’t deny it, or push it away. Stop reading, and let it go. You only make progress toward freedom by letting go. Reading about freedom or talking about letting go doesn’t do a damn bit of good.

I recommend that you use the triangle process or the Three Steps articles as a jumpstart if you don’t remember what to do when you feel emotion. Often when beliefs and emotions arise, people forget how to let go. Don’t be concerned if that happens to you. Our minds have been trained to hold on…not to let go. We’re breaking longstanding mental habits in initiation.

At the Palm Springs film festival this year (2022), I saw an excellent documentary film called “Nashima.”  It was about surfing in Bangladesh.  Surfing started in Bangladesh about twenty years ago when a dude made something that looked like a surfboard and taught himself how to surf. For a while, a few women surfed in the proper, full-body bathing suits.  But the religion (Islam) and culture said that surfing was just plain wrong for women.  So all but one woman, Nashima, quit.  This documentary was Nashima’s story.  

To make a long story short, Nashima’s passion for surfing kept her going for quite a while.  The religious and cultural critics couldn’t stop her. From my point of view, she was demonstrating the power of following one’s inspiration.  When Nashima would surf, her face had the biggest smile.  It was beautiful to watch her surf simply because she was so happy.  It wasn’t like her surfing ability was that great; it was her love for the sport that made her unique and interesting to watch. Today, joy is something we often overlook simply because we’re so obsessed with performance and talent.

Nashima said that she didn’t need support from others.  She said that she didn’t care what others thought of her.  We’ve all been there. Nashima wasn’t lying; she didn’t need support. She knew in her heart that surfing was her joy and her life. Our True Self doesn’t ever NEED support.

But there’s a HUGE difference between needing support and deserving support. When we come from our True Selves, we deserve support from everyone even though we don’t need it. But we rarely get such support because the collective illusion is filled with believers of all types; they want us to think, speak, and be like them. So often, we get the exact opposite of support. Consequently, we have to become very good at discrimination to live as our True Self; we have to let go of other people’s judgments and criticisms when they try to stop us. Eventually, all the naysayers will lose their steam if we don’t give in to them. But getting to that point can take time; and it requires patience and compassion for the naysayers.

Believers of all kinds are at odds with their own True Selves; so they sure as hell won’t be supporting our True Selves. We have to understand that and not take it personally. That’s hard to do unless you KNOW the difference between a belief and the truth.

Here’s the long and short of this dilemma. Believers will try to impose or project their beliefs on to anyone who shows up as a True Self. Most people face this challenge early in life. That’s because believers are envious of the True Self, and we are born into an illusion of believers. The part of our mind that holds beliefs is what I call the clone because often that mind aspect pretends to be our True Self; but it’s not our True Self. Our True Self will never be demanding, judging, critical, or punishing. Our True Self doesn’t have even one belief. Our True Self is quiet; it rarely uses words to inspire us. Clones want to defeat the True Self although they will never admit it. (I’ve written the whole story of how this came to be, and I work through countless examples of how to defeat clone voices in the Gold Circle.)

The conflict between the True Self and clones shows up in every good-and-evil story ever written. It shows up in our lives too; our lives are a story, and we all want our story to end with “happily ever after.” Sadly, clones do a great job at pretending to be good; but they are actually the so-called “evil” in our stories. From birth, we are trained to support clones and ignore our own True Self. So most people in the world are supporting the illusion without realizing it. Every belief system is part of the illusion; there are no exceptions.

Believers don’t want others to enjoy their lives when they’re holding themselves down with their own beliefs. Misery does love company. Now let me be clear; when I say “believers,” I’m not just talking about religious people of every faith. The New Age is a belief system. Positive thinkers are believers. Science is a belief system. Psychology and self-help are belief systems. Nutrition is a belief system. Politics is a belief system. I could go on and on. We are surrounded by believers of all kinds within the illusion, and that’s why it’s so damn hard to be ourselves.

When believers hold themselves down, they become envious of any True Self. That’s where the games begin. I’ve heard many people say, “I can’t believe my mom was envious of me.” “I can’t believe my best friend was envious of me.” “I can’t believe my spouse was envious of me.”I was just doing what I wanted to do.” In truth, the mom, friend, or spouse was resisting letting go and being their own True Self. For one reason or another, they felt the need to cling to their belief systems. Their beliefs, which formed a clone voice (or clone voices) in their mind, were holding them back from their own perfect life. So the clone felt the need to hold back their daughter/son, friend, or spouse, lest they would lose them.

If the believers let go of the beliefs that caused them to envy another person, they’d be able to enjoy their lives too. But believers don’t know that they can let go of their beliefs…especially their long-standing beliefs. No peddler of beliefs ever teaches their followers to let go. When the believer feels envy, they generally blame the person who they think is causing the envy. That’s the person who is living and enjoying their life. Then they invent reasons for their envy; often, they think that the person they envy stole what rightfully belonged to them. But nothing an envious person thinks is EVER true; envy is an emotion, and all emotions mean the same thing…that our thinking is FALSE.

When people are coming from false, clone minds because they’re sure that their beliefs are true, they support others who are “like-minded.” They look for agreement. If we want freedom, and we find ourselves gravitating to, or pleased with, others who agree with us, we should look to see what clone in our mind wants that agreement. We should never support anyone’s beliefs (including our own) if we truly want freedom. If we all stopped that one big error, life on earth would gently return to Eden without anyone doing a damn thing to fix it. The illusion would disappear like fog lifting because the sun came out.

Like-mindedness is NOT oneness; it’s nothing but false connections that keep the illusion intact. The New Age promoted the idea of oneness as shared beliefs; true oneness only exists between our True Selves. We should never have to think about oneness; our True Self connections never go away, even when we don’t notice them because we’ve become focused on the illusion. The New Age level confusion was just what the globalists needed to slip the idea of one global belief system into the collective mindset. They need one common belief system in order to rule over the entire world. So they cleverly poured very old wine into new bottles; and people bought that vinegar because it sounded like the truth. Now the globalists are doing the same thing with the ascension movement. They’re repeating the same, old trick that the Serpent played on Adam and Eve. Old clone tricks just keep recycling in the illusion; people start to get free, and then they get pulled into another trap. That’s why I expose them all. But my exposure doesn’t do any good unless people let go and start ignoring the next new and improved belief system.

In addition, believers treat everyone who doesn’t share their beliefs as a foe, and that adds more fire to the illusion. I’m a foe to every believer. I don’t share anyone’s beliefs; but I come from a place of unconditional love. When we have no beliefs, we come from the True Self. I want people to have a life of freedom, joy, peace, and more. That’s why I do what I do. But most people have turned against their own True Selves by putting belief-filled clones into their minds. Since our True Selves have no beliefs and never will, the True Self appears to be a foe to every clone; and this was why no one was supporting Nashima’s surfing.

Fortunately, when we have the support of our own True Self, we don’t give a damn about the support of others. But that perfect mental place is very hard to sustain when we’re living 24/7, 365 in a persistent illusion with believers surrounding us like sharks. That’s why initiation isn’t just a weekend workshop.

If we want freedom, it’s clear that we don’t want support for our beliefs. We don’t want to hang out in groups of like-minded believers. We just want people to leave us alone (mentally speaking), so we can live freely. Of course, we should all have natural support for each others’ True Selves. But natural support is not like the support that’s common within the illusion. It’s not about sappy praise or awards that take up space on our walls. It’s about sharing in each others’ joy and creativity.

As I was watching the film, “Nashima,” I got to share her joy. I got to live vicariously through her life experience. That’s how we feel oneness with another. That’s when a film becomes memorable; you don’t want it to end. But as you’ll see in the second half of this article, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Also, to be clear, I wasn’t being positive or looking for the good in Nashima (Step 2.5 of the Three Steps). I simply wasn’t judging her or looking for problems that didn’t exist.

When you are following your true desires, you know that no one can stop you. You can’t quit doing what you’re doing no matter what others say. At the same time, it doesn’t feel right that others are opposing you. You love those people. You don’t want to fight with them. Why are they opposing the very best part of you if they love you? Why are they opposing something that fills you with joy? You don’t care what they believe, and you aren’t asking them to change; so why do they care so much about what you don’t believe? If we don’t understand the dynamics of the illusion, and the minds of clones, we get pulled in. Clones are persistent because they think they hold the truth in their minds; they will do whatever it takes to get us to accept their beliefs as the truth.

The religious and cultural believers in Bangladesh were clearly imposing their beliefs on Nashima, and it was getting to her as time went on. You could see it. They were wearing her down. Nashima was losing her joy; problems were getting in her way. That’s what happens when we start to fall into someone’s illusion. It feels horrible.

As time goes on, most people give the clones power over them. I call that giving the clones the throne. Others say, “If you can’t beat them, you must join them.” It’s not easy to change the programming of a believer. So we have to keep our focus on our true desires, i.e., follow our inspiration (which comes from within, not from others).

I’ve studied this for a very long time so that I could fully understand and share the way to freedom. We can only defeat a clone by getting to our True Self; we must know that the clone’s beliefs are false, powerless, and impotent. We must get that clone’s voice out of our mind completely. We can’t defeat a clone with better beliefs; in facts, the clones in power use divide and conquer so that we’ll fall into the trap of fighting over whose beliefs are best or right. A clone might defeat another clone, but the win won’t last. All clones have a win-lose, not win-win, mindset. We win in initiation by letting go and freeing our minds of all beliefs. When we win, others win too. No one is ever harmed by letting go; it’s holding on that is harmful.

If we pay attention to our emotions and notice that the believers’ words don’t ever feel good, we can get to the place where the clones have to feel their own emotions. They will not be able to project or impose their beliefs or emotions on to us if we remain in our True Self (Step Three). That’s why unconditional love is the best remedy for every problem. It fuels the truth while dissolving what’s false. But we can’t fake unconditional love until we make it, and this is where so many have gotten confused and stuck.

Once we’re solid in unconditional love, even longstanding believers have the incentive to let go around us. Cause and effect is reunited in the same mind, and clones don’t like being stuck with their own emotions. So the clone is forced to see that its beliefs are false. That’s when we have the best chance of helping the people we love to let go. We are wasting our time telling others about letting go if they don’t want to let go.

But we can always expose beliefs as false. Never worry about humiliating clones. A clone is nothing but a persona; it’s not the person’s true identity. So you can never hurt a clone, even if it said that you did. Clones lie to keep their false power. Everyone would be better off without clones. In initiation, instead of making others change to our belief systems, which only creates an illusion of oneness, we expose the beliefs in our minds as false, as well as the con artists who gave us those false beliefs in the past.

As you probably know, that is easier said than done. Most people have been trained to never punch up at people in authority; people don’t even like when I do it for them. They associate exposure with punishment, like we’re all still living in the Inquisition. But I know that I can’t help people get free without exposing false beliefs as false. So I expose even when it’s uncomfortable. I know that the outcome of exposure is always win win and freedom for all.

As the film progressed, the false beliefs in Nashima’s mind grew in power.  Nashima’s life also got in the way of her surfing. She married young (as a teen), which is common in her culture; and a couple of years later, she had kids.  Now Nashima’s family and her husband were even more unsupportive of her surfing.  Moms don’t surf, wives don’t surf, and Muslim moms and wives definitely don’t surf. Their opposition to Nashima’s surfing became even stronger; so it was harder for Nashima to ignore them.

The stress of becoming a mom also complicated Nashima’s life. She was very busy, and she was responsible for her children now. Her True Self appeared to be losing power to the clones’ (believers’) voices all around her. This is common in adulthood. Responsibilities cause us to accept the beliefs that we often ignored as a child. But we must realize that our True Self never goes away or dies; we just cover it up with beliefs. Our True Self wants to LIVE fully, and it will keep trying to do so.

Once we decide that we can’t escape the illusion, we often join it. We put our true desires on the back burner; eventually, we take them off the stove altogether and stuff them in the back of the pantry. We think that we’ll get back to those desires one day, but our polluted false mind won’t allow that. Initiation, i.e., letting go, is the only way to get back to those true desires.

It was clear to me that this film was not really about surfing in Bangladesh.  It was about belief systems and how they stop us from living our true desires. Nashima’s surfing was a metaphor for her life; everything is a metaphor when we come from the True Self. Her inspiration was like catching a perfect wave. Her religious and cultural beliefs acted like an anchor that pulled her underwater, especially when those beliefs began to look real and true.  Those beliefs were causing Nashima to drown in the sea of consciousness. If she could let go of that anchor, however, she could float back to the top of the triangle, i.e., the surface of the water. Then every wave would be perfect. Once we see a story from the perspective of metaphor, which happens as we let go, the story makes sense for everyone. This is what people try to achieve within the illusion by sharing beliefs and writing stories about common illusory situations. But it doesn’t work. Beliefs, even good-sounding beliefs, will never work for everyone. We don’t want the same minds or the same lives as others. We are all meant to be unique.

We all have a True Self; and our True Selves are all in perfect harmony. This film was about keeping our True Self’s inspiration alive no matter how hard life became.  That’s the purpose of life for all of us. When we can find inspiration in the midst of suffering, the suffering disappears. Our purpose is not a special role within the illusion, and that’s the biggest mistake that most people make. They strive for success, security, or specialness within the illusion instead of freedom from the illusion.

Nashima’s story highlighted the necessity for discrimination. We all live with clones who think their beliefs are absolutely true. This was a great film for our time. We will never be truly satisfied or joyful if we give up our true desires. That’s why most people “can’t get no satisfaction.” In fact, many people end up in regret as they grow older. On their death beds, they feel the regret for all of their unlived dreams. But we can change that with true initiation…not occult initiation. I have to be clear because occultists have hijacked all of the initiates’ words.

I loved this film because it showed someone who fought off the status quo for a lot longer than most people do.  I wanted Nashima to keep going and live from true freedom. But she didn’t know how to let go. Nevertheless, my support for her didn’t stop even when she nearly stopped surfing. I’ve found that when we support someone’s True Self, and don’t accept their beliefs as true, they often work their way out of their illusion in time. That’s my definition of having compassion for someone.

In times where the illusion seems to have more power than we do, we forget that unconditional love is much more powerful than any belief system.  We forget that unconditional love exists when we get stuck in the illusion; we can only access conditional love in the illusion, and it’s powerless. In the end, Nashima did get back to surfing; but her ease and freedom had diminished somewhat. You could see more force of will in her. So the film didn’t have what I call a full-circle ending. But Nashima’s life isn’t over; she’s a young woman living in an interesting time. There will be much more to her story.

The Disastrous After-Film Q&A

The director and producer of this film were at the film festival. They were both women.  I’m often reminded in the after-film Q&A that films (especially documentaries) are usually an expression of someone’s baggage; the filmmakers want others to accept their point of view (beliefs) as true. They’re trying to manifest like-mindedness. The filmmaker’s baggage triggers similar baggage in anyone who is like-minded in the audience during the after-film Q&A.  At film festivals, we learn about the hidden intention of the filmmakers by watching their shadows come to life in the audience members.

This Q&A went south very quickly when a female audience member, who was a declared feminist, said that the world is screwed because of “toxic masculinity.”  She said that the film just pissed her off.  She loved Nashima, but it exposed the biggest problem in the world today.  She was loud and overbearing as she screamed: “Men are screwing up the world.” Her progressive, i.e., regressive, sound bites triggered others; and soon, the room was filled with hatred for ALL men.  Lots of hateful women were whining in unison about ALL men.  I guess feminists travel in groups. I watched as the men in the audience sunk down into their seats; they clearly wanted to disappear. It was ridiculous.

That feminist was a perfect example of a clone; she thought that her beliefs were the truth. But she was spewing false beliefs on everyone in the theater. Sadly, the director and producer agreed with the feminist; so the conversation transformed into a giant man-hating festival. I walked out. The joy of Nashima’s smile had devolved into the darkest sewage of the illusion in minutes.

This film had absolutely nothing to do with sexism. These women all saw their own baggage projected on to Nashima. Is that fair to her? You can’t fix a problem unless you see the real mental cause. Nashima was bound by religious and cultural beliefs.  That was so clear. I saw the real movie; so I saw the natural union of mental cause and physical effects. I would have mentored Nashima to let go of her religious and cultural beliefs so that she could break her false connections with her family and friends. Then she’d go back to the free Nashima that she used to be. She’d still have a true connection with everyone. When we’re in unconditional love (the True Self), we don’t tell others what to think, what to say, or who to be. This feminist was nowhere near unconditional love. She was sure that she was right!

The feminist saw her own illusion projected on to Nashima; but what she saw on the big screen was coming entirely from her OWN false mind. If she had known what she was doing, she would have been embarrassed. Nothing she said was true, and it wasn’t even on the screen. That’s what projection does; it takes something wonderful, and it turns it into a fucking mess. The problem is that believers (clones) don’t realize when they’re projecting. It happens when they are locked into the false masculine mindset, and they hold their own beliefs in mind as true. It’s quite funny that all feminists are actually stuck in their masculine minds; I’ll explain more about that in a minute.

It is clones who project. From the clone’s illusory point of view, they see evidence of their undesirable beliefs in the outer world. They are seeing their own shadow; then, they want to fix their shadow outside of themselves. This is very common. In fact, most people are doing that for their profession…doctors, therapists, activists, scientists, etc. We can’t fix our shadow outside of us; the cause of the problem that we see in the other is in our OWN mind. If we can let go of the flaw that we see in the other, the object of our attention appears to change. The problem we see in the other goes away. But clones don’t know how to let go. So they keep repeating the same error every day of their life. They create constant drama. They make everyone around them miserable.

The feminist woman who started this mess was sure that what she saw was on that screen. Now she was demanding support for her illusory point of view from everyone in the theater. Sadly, she got that support. The illusion is all about supporting beliefs and clones, not True Selves. When we are looking at the illusion from the false mind, it looks real and true. It’s actually real and false.

People tend to get very loud and very emotional when they hold their beliefs in mind as true; that’s why it’s so hard to ignore them. But their emotions are proof that what they’re thinking is false. That’s the basic test for letting go…emotions mean false. People like this feminist are severely psychologically reversed. If something outside of our mind bothers us, we are always projecting that out. This is what people do not realize. They spend their lives fixing others, or complaining about others, when they only need to fix their own mental containers.

Let me give you some more FACTS about this film. Nashima’s biggest supporters were the male surfers. The other female surfers took a hike when things got rough. The male surfers were always fighting for Nashima’s right to surf, and they even wanted her to compete with them in tournaments. How did the feminists miss the obvious?  It was loud and clear throughout the entire movie.  We become blinded by our beliefs once we relabel them as true.

The male surfers support of Nashima was so endearing. It was one of the things that I liked most about the movie; and these feminists didn’t see that at all. This is what happens when we have baggage on any topic; it blinds us from seeing anything beautiful, perfect, or true. It keeps us from a free life. Then we can’t see that there is life beyond the illusion. Our world is a mess today because we have elected clones to power. Clones spend every day trying to fix their projected illusion. They never address real problems because they can’t see them.

Did the feminist women in this theater deserve support for their point of view? Noooooooo! But the audience gave them support. Nashima became the victim of sexism with their false projection. How was that going to help her? Instead of supporting her True Self and her love of surfing, many feminist clones in the audience, as well as the producer and director, were now selfishly supporting their own FALSE cause. It made me wonder if the worst thing to have ever happened to Nashima was this film. Did these feminist filmmakers cause Nashima to lose her edge? Fortunately, I saw the film; and now, I’m exposing all of their asses as FALSE. This is the flaw in every social justice warrior and activist alive today. They harm the very people they claim to want to help. They demand our support and our money to fix their OWN false beliefs and illusions. We don’t need to fix illusions; when we let go, they disappear.

I saw Nashima as a true feminist and leader. She was going against the religious and cultural beliefs of her family, friends, and country. That’s huge. She was proving that she could do what she enjoyed regardless of her sex; and because she was so pure in her love of surfing, the men surfers supported her too. Do you realize how big that is in a Muslim culture? Nashima was the demo for these feminist women; but they were too busy fighting their own demons to see that Nashima gave them the answer to their faux problem just by living her life.

These women will never find their inspiration if they don’t stop fueling their false beliefs. The feminist women tried to turn Nashima into a victim, when she never once saw herself as a victim. She saw herself as a leader. She said that several times in the film; and many other young women are now starting to surf again in Bangladesh because of Nashima’s leadership and persistence.

I was shocked by this Q&A.  The clones who were projecting said something that was totally false; but normal people are so used to projection from clones that they don’t notice that whatever the projector said felt horrible. Clones are very psychologically reversed. Clones have zero discrimination. Clones also speak with conviction; so most people tend to doubt themselves when clones speak. Instead of ignoring the clone who was projecting, the normal person thinks that they missed something important. They go looking for whatever the projector saw; and then, they think they saw it too. Now these gullible people start supporting the clone who was lying. This is how the mainstream news or social activism works. It’s clever, but it’s nefarious. It’s why we have so many problems in the world today.

When true leaders do come along, they are labeled racists, sexists, conspiracy theorists, etc. The clones in power want to keep their thrones. So they have to turn everyone against the people who can actually eliminate the problems. A true leader might appear to solve problems; but if you look closely, they are actually eliminating them. The problem was a false manifestation from a clone on a fake throne. In Idyllwild, California, the people elected a dog as mayor after suffering from decades of clone leadership. The dog has done a wonderful job because it doesn’t project out problems; and it’s very cute.

People believe liars and deceivers, i.e., clones; then they spread their disinformation for them. This is what you see with groups like ANTIFA or Black Lives Matter. When someone tries to expose the liars and deceivers as false, the clones all come together to defend their illusion. They are operating from like-mindedness, which is fake oneness. They claim that the exposer is the one with the disinformation.

Why on earth would people support an illusion instead of the truth? It’s crazy, but it’s not their fault; they are all victims of false education, social brainwashing, and minds that were filled with beliefs that have been mislabeled as true. Clones teach others to be like-minded clones. The illusion has gotten too big and too strong; and that’s why I expose it every day in every way that I can. I so appreciate those of you who help me by letting go of whatever you can and supporting my websites. That’s how we’ll rein in this collective illusion; and we’ll bring joy, peace, and freedom back to earth. We do it by exposing one belief at a time. It takes time, persistence, and patience.

With regard to sexism, it simply doesn’t exist. It’s always an illusion. So is racism, bigotry, homophobia, anti-semitism, and all of the other such labels. All labels are lies. When we believe a label to be true, we start to see ILLUSORY evidence of it. That’s just how our minds work. If we let the label go, we will no longer see evidence of that label in our life or in others. That’s why this site is called “No Labels No Lies.” The lies part refers to all beliefs; the word lie is right in the word belief so that we don’t forget.

I worked in the corporate world when women were scarce in such places; and I was never mistreated, never paid less, and never abused. So I don’t see sexism; I never have. Feminists need to let go of their false beliefs; they are seeing an illusion and making that illusion into the truth. They are spreading lies. That’s harmful to themselves as well as others who believe them. I will never believe feminists, and neither should you. They don’t deserve to have anyone’s support for their faux beliefs. But I will always support someone like Nashima, even when Nashima can’t support herself.

Did I see the same movie as these self-proclaimed “woke” women?  Yes I did; but we saw it from two very different points of view.  I was entertained and felt enormous love for all of the characters in the film…men and women.  Even the believers were simply doing what was done to them. They weren’t bad people. They didn’t want Nashima to be punished by their false God. Their intention was good even if their implementation was horrible. Besides, the believers weren’t the star of the show. The star was Nashima and her inspiration. I watched the movie from my True Self, and I got to share in Nashima’s joy when she was surfing. Meanwhile, the feminists spent two hours hating men for no reason at all.  Men aren’t toxic.  Belief systems and labels are toxic! 

There is more to this topic, so let’s dive in a little deeper.  I often talk about roles on my websites.  It’s the masculine role, not men that became toxic.  Then the feminine role followed the fall of the masculine role. This is a very old problem.  I explain the history of this problem in great detail in the Gold Circle and Golden Gateway. In short, the most widely-known masculine leader that stained the masculine role was Moses in the Old Testament of the Bible.  He was just like the globalists today. He’s been gone for a long time, but his legacy of false leaders lives on. 

In addition, Moses had a matriarchal, or feminine, point of view. The feminine role is naturally about receiving. When leaders in the masculine role want to receive rather than give, they lead from a false point of view. That was the problem with Moses, and it is the problem with many leaders today. A leader’s job is to empower the people, not line their pockets.

Many people today, men and women, become tyrants and/or criminals just like Moses as soon as they get a little false power.  We all saw evidence of this during the Corona virus fiasco. The clones on thrones (men and women with roles of authority) had a inner toxic masculine that wanted to receive power from its followers without giving anything of value.  Giving others beliefs, rules, or judging and punishing them is giving nothing of value. They all did such horrible acts in order to get the approval of some clone who had power over them. Sadly, we become like the people we follow; and people still think Moses was a good leader…someone to follow. Oy vey!

I’ve helped a lot of people in my work who were so sweet when they were in the feminine role or mindset.  But when they got the masculine role, they became a beast.  I can assure you that there’s no difference between men and women regarding the issues that we have with the false masculine role. So let’s correct these screaming feminists.

Men are not toxic; the feminists’ own inner masculine mind was toxic. So when they watched this movie, they saw a man that triggered their own inner toxicity. Instead of letting go, they reinforced their false belief, “men are toxic.” I suspect that these women saw their own belief in the false God of the Old Testament, the one who judges and punishes, in the father and husband in the film. These women probably left religion behind and became “spiritual.” They just put ice cream on their manure. They didn’t let go of their old religious beliefs. That is very common today.

These woman need to go within their own minds and let go of their beliefs about the masculine role, which includes authority figures of all types; and then, they won’t see toxic men anymore. In fact, they will encounter men who will treat them the way that they want to be treated. There are lots of those men in the world. They don’t like to be called toxic when they’re not. Can you blame them?

We all have a masculine and feminine aspect to our minds.  What we have within is exactly what we see outside in the world.  Our minds were designed to work inner to outer. But most people today have minds that work outer to inner…that’s backwards. They have learned how to behave from others; and they’ve stored all of their memorized knowledge, rules, and beliefs (i.e., crap) in their false masculine minds. So their false masculine mind is toxic. But that can be cleaned up by letting go.

Likewise, those who see bitchy women everywhere must look within and let go of their own bitchy feminine.  Their feminine is weak; they are not using their emotions to discriminate. If they clean up their own inner feminine, and they use their emotions as designed, they won’t fear or even notice bitchy women anymore. Today, many men see bitchy women everywhere, and many women see toxic men everywhere. They have an inner, not an outer, problem.

If everyone in that theater had let go when they felt emotion during the film, they would have seen the same film that I saw.  Our true support for Nashima would have been a huge gift to her…a gift that she deserves in my opinion. It’s a shame that they missed such a beautiful story about such a sweet, young woman. But sadly, letting go has been hidden, and discrimination has been confused, for thousands of years. So it’s not really anyone’s fault that we are sharing this illusory predicament today. We all do better once we know how to do better.

The feminists were doing to Nashima what they were programmed to do. I’m doing my best to change that programming by exposing it as false. But I tend to run into clones just like Nashima. The support for letting go might be deserved, but it’s not always there. I’m forever wiping the sweat off the people who choose initiation and sending them right back into the ring for another round. Initiation is not an easy path to take. Likewise, I have to keep following my own inspiration in spite of others who think that their belief systems are true; they would prefer that I don’t help people to let go. They fear losing their clone thrones.

The support for the con artists that promote beliefs is still pretty damn strong. People still think they need to be with others of like minds, and they don’t realize that they’re keeping the matrix of false connections alive by doing that. So the problems, diseases, and suffering of the illusion continue. As we let go and become true leaders, like Nashima demonstrated in the film; we prove that life outside of the illusion of beliefs does exist, and that becomes our gift to others. It’s an unconditional gift that they can accept whenever they are ready. Initiation is the key that unlocks the Gateway to Gold, i.e., the entrance to Eden. It’s a perspective, not a place. That’s why there’s room for everyone.

Roles: When the Feminine Pretends to be Masculine

Masculine or Feminine

By Cathy Eck


Confusion of Roles

Roles become very confusing when they’re not played as designed.  I’ve written about the masculine who pretends to be feminine — an authority figure who projects out an enemy, like Bush/Obama projecting Osama Bin Laden and Muslim extremism.  The leader pretends to be a victim of their own evil projection.  They want support/service/sacrifice from followers in order to slay the evil dragon.  If the followers succeed, the leader becomes a hero.  It’s a very old archetype.

This leader needs blindly obedient followers to slay his dragon.  We see such a person in the movie, “American Sniper,”  the true story of Chris Kyle, known as “The Legend” for his large number of kills.  Controversy has erupted over whether Chris Kyle was a hero or a predator.   Both labels are right in the illusion; both put Kyle at the bottom of the triangle.  If there’s a real enemy, then he’s a hero.  If there’s no enemy, then he’s a predator in the illusion.

Soldier is a strange role.  We believe a soldier is highly masculine.  Just try not to think of masculinity while watching Bradley Cooper play Chris Kyle.  It’s difficult!  However, soldier is actually a feminine role; soldiers salute, take orders, and blindly obey authority.  They’re feminine to the higher rank (who are feminine to their superior).  Soldiers only become masculine when they kill.  As observers, we get tricked by this role shift because we’re trained to look with physically-oriented eyes.


Roles Clarified

The original definition of roles made sense.  The masculine role followed the ideal of the sun and unconditionally gave.  The feminine role unconditionally received (like the moon or earth).  A person in a true masculine role would only think or speak the truth.  Their feminine side would be calm and receive original, creative ideas.

But a false masculine projects an illusion based on beliefs, which creates a fantasy, horror, or drama.  Those who are feminine followers to the false masculine leader, and honor their belief system, are no longer creating their OWN life.  Consequently, they’re either highly emotional or highly suppressed.  Only the person at the top of the pyramid — the supreme handler — has the script.  For most people, that supreme leader/handler is the false God — the imaginary leader of the illusion.  His constitution is the Old Testament.


Feminine Pretends to be Masculine

Remember, the false leader is an authority holding a masculine role but pretending to be feminine, a victim of someone or something outer.  This false leader pretends to be innocent; but that’s because we’re trained to ignore the fact that they projected their OWN enemy.

Any follower of a false masculine is playing a feminine role.  Look closely at Chris Kyle.  If you take out his back story, he appears to be a macho man — an expert marksman —  a killer of evil extraordinaire  — a hero.  But the movie, “American Sniper,” doesn’t ignore the back story.  He’s not masculine at all.  He’s feminine pretending to be masculine.  

Kyle’s story starts at birth, not at enlistment.  His dad rewarded him for his shooting skills as a young child.  He wanted dad’s approval and ignored his strong emotional signal screaming that killing wasn’t right.   He lived in Texas and attended a Fundamentalist church.  He quickly became feminine to his dad and religious authorities.  His dad tells him that he’s a protector, like a sheep dog; he buys the label because it sounds good.  By the time 9/11 occurred, he was one angry dude with a feminine, obedient mind.  From the physical perspective, he was masculine.  But from the mental perspective, he was completely feminine.

We fall into this quicksand because we confuse the physical and mental perspectives.  The True Self lives in the mental realm; the false self is physically focused.  From the mental, True Self perspective, we are NEVER an authority over another.  We can lead others for a common purpose, but we can’t be their ultimate authority.

Anyone who believes in the false God, is an expert of knowledge, or teaches information that has been pre-chewed by those in the illusion has a feminine mind.  Their position of authority doesn’t change their mindset.  They aren’t harmful unless we make them our authority.  I might take a class in Photoshop from a Photoshop expert to become a better user.  I’m glad s/he exists because the knowledge is useful; but I don’t let him/her tell me what to do with Photoshop.

Many people notice that the highest leaders appear to be feminine to some hidden hand, which is called God by some and the illuminati or big business by others.  If we could dissect the authority’s mind, however, I think we’d find that they’re actually following mom and dad’s illusion most of the time.


Level Confusion in Roles

When we follow any other human, we enter their fallen perspective because only our false self is outer directed.  A true leader will always point us back inside.  They won’t take our power even if we insist on giving it to them.

The calm demeanor of false leaders is often mistaken for the calmness of the True Self.  But false calmness is actually the result of the leader’s ability to project emotions on to followers.  We see the leader’s true colors when we refuse to serve their cause or fight their enemy.  The false masculine leader blames, guilts, and shames until we accept their beliefs and do their dirty work.  The say they’ll lead us to the promised land, but they actually spin us around in the desert forever.

To unravel this mess, we must clean up our own mind.  We have both of these false masculine characters within our false mind resting at the bottom of the triangle; often they’ve brought us rewards.  Sometimes, we fear the responsibility of leading our OWN life.  We fear making mistakes or not having answers.  But the only authority that is fair, harmless, and doesn’t err is our own True Self.  No one else can offer us better advice.




The False Masculine Trick: The Punishing God

False masculine

By Cathy Eck


Adam and Eve

The key myth that pervades western religious thinking is Adam and Eve.  After their little apple incident, they were punished.  We’re erroneously left with the impression that Eve was completely to blame.  Poor victim Adam got dragged down with her.  We accept that God has the right to reward and punish them forever.  Welcome to the illusion!

The story appears to be about men and women, our ancestors.  After a talk on a cruise ship, a man told me that he traced his entire ancestry back to Adam and Eve.  He gave me a copy.  He was Mormon; he’ll believe anything.  He also told me that his friend was chosen to sacrifice himself for the Mormons; he died shortly after.  He thought his friend was special.  I would’ve labeled him gullible.

Like this man, we get tricked into believing illusions — stories that make God into a supernatural he-man.  He has a man cave extraordinaire in the clouds with a golden throne; he sits around all fucking day judging, punishing, cursing, and envying his crappy little minions.  People became afraid of this God because he told leaders to kill their enemy.  Their emotions should have told them their leader was lying, but we all make the same error when terrorized.  We get psychologically reversed to obey false Gods and false leaders.  We think they’re powerful when in truth they’re very weak; that’s why they’re lying.  Dah!

In time, Adam and Eve’s story became so incredibly powerful and widely accepted that no one questioned it.  We look at the world and see people hating, judging, and punishing in the name of God; we don’t realize that religious beliefs are the cause because we think religion has the truth (at least our religion does).  When people worship a false God of hate, judgment, and reward and punishment, they become that.  Then they cover what they’ve become with a mask.

You might say, “Holy shit, this false God guy actually sounds like my parents.”   We tend to construct our false God in the image and likeness of our parents.  Mom and dad are both masculine roles to children.  Moses did this too.  He projected his false God out on his followers, but his God was really his mom and dad inside of his own mind.  People become the same sort of authority they learned from as children.  Bullies have already been bullied.

If we realize that our parent’s judgments, ridiculous disciplinary measures, and lack of trust in our True Self was false, we let ourselves off the hook.  We don’t say our parents did the best they could.  We recognize that they were tricked; we no longer believe them.  We no longer accept their judgment or punishment.  We’re no longer limited by their false thinking.  Their imaginary role in our life loses its false power.


Masculine and Feminine 

Adam and Eve isn’t about a man and woman.  It’s a story about roles.  This story replaced the original purpose of our false self, which was to hold information and short-term beliefs necessary for creation.  Now our false self holds the template for false roles that support a blindly obedient society where the majority function as slaves in support of few elite.

We now accept that the masculine role has the right to judge, punish, curse, and envy without the natural punishment of feeling emotions.  We feel no emotion when we think, say, or do something false once we hold false beliefs as the truth.

This created the psychological reversal extraordinaire that causes people to believe religion (it isn’t a gene).  A normal person, without this reversal, would feel emotion when they judge, suicidal when they punish or curse, and sad when they envy another.  They’d avoid the false masculine role because it’s too damn emotionally painful.  But avoiding the masculine causes us to get stuck in the feminine role with no way out — the double bind (catch 22).  It sucks.  The illusion offers no exit to freedom.  It doesn’t hold the possibility of the True Self because the True Self is the natural blend of the masculine and feminine (God and Goddess).

As people let go, they no longer believe authority figures.  They view them as false, not powerful.  They realize that feeling emotion (honoring their feminine) when a leader speaks means the leader is speaking false; they don’t obey them.  Eventually, they boot out religion’s false God and Moses; they can’t worship false leadership.

They move naturally into the masculine role.  But, they must catch their own false God within, or they will become the false masculine they hated.  Most people have an inner false masculine who’s very accomplished at projection.  We don’t realize when we’re in the false masculine role because we feel relief from leaving the feminine role.  We think we’re our True Self.  We’re not!

This is why it’s so hard for people to get free.  The false masculine feels a lot better than the oppressed feminine role; but it isn’t freedom.  It’s what creates teachers, preachers, inspirational speakers, and gurus.  They believe that if everyone thought like them, the world would be perfect.  The True Self wants everyone to be themselves.  The True Self doesn’t want followers.  The psychological reversal of the false masculine causes us not to feel emotions when judging, rewarding and punishing, or envying others.  The false masculine thinks it’s right when it’s false.  In fact, the false masculine hates the True Self because truth exposes it.  The truth sets us free of the false masculine!

When we understand this, we understand Jesus words on the cross, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.”  The false masculine has no idea it’s projecting.  On the cross means stuck in the feminine role; some people spend their entire life on the cross as martyrs or victims.  The false God loves a good sacrifice; it’s his entertainment while he smokes his cigar, drinks his brew, and counts his money on his golden throne.

The True Masculine Role (How It Looks)


By Cathy Eck


It’s hard to explain the power of the True Masculine role, mostly because there aren’t many good examples.  The masculine role is the role that has fallen; and it took the feminine right along with it.  Sadly, the fallen masculine leader tries to fix the feminine, its own reflection, instead of looking in and fixing the cause in its own mind.  This keeps everyone stuck.


Know your Role

The first step to owning the True Masculine Role in your own mind and life is to always know your role in any situation.  I’ve written plenty about that.  Sometimes the role is obvious.  But sometimes, it isn’t.

For example, in two people of equal status, the one speaking is the in masculine role; the listener is feminine.  We also have tricky ways of getting into the masculine role.  If we see the world as positive and negative, the most positive person will tend to have the masculine role or higher status.  In a spiritual or religious group, the good person will take the lead.  In the illusion, the one who’s right or wins takes the Grand Puba position.  Conscious of this or not, we’re always looking to get that coveted masculine role.

If we can’t win fairly, we might trick the person into giving up their power; or the relationship might be one long power struggle.  Nothing is off-limits in the illusion.  It’s all about the drama.


True Masculine

The True Masculine is like the sun — unconditional, expressive, and giving.  Giving is key; too many men want the masculine role so they can receive.  That’s not how it works.  In the True Masculine, there’s no hidden agendas — no masks.  We don’t need a mask to give, to express our True Self.  We only need a mask when we want someone to give to us who doesn’t want to.  Then we’re weasels wearing the mask of a good person.

A religious leader is giving a sermon on obeying God.  They’re a false leader.  They’re looking at the congregation and saying, “You need fixing.  You’re all disobedient.”  But wait, he’s in the masculine role; if he’s seeing disobedience, guess where it is — in his OWN mind.

The husband looks at his wife and sees a bitch.  The question he must ask is what beliefs is he holding about her.  She’s the reflection; he’s got the cause in his mind.  Or perhaps he’s not giving her unconditional love; he’s trying to get attention, sex, his way.  In the illusion, the feminine role reflects what you give.  You give shit; you get shit back.  Deal with it.

The mother looks at her child and thinks he’s lazy.  No, he’s not.  She’s holding her hard work ethic as true when it’s just a belief.  The child is showing her what she fears — who she would be if she didn’t put on her show as a hard worker.

The false masculine fixes the effect of their mental projection, and then sends the projection a bill or punishment.  The reflection always has a WTF look on their face.  I write this blog primarily for those in feminine roles with WTF looks.  But they will escape one day; and then I hope they’ll use what they learned to become the True Masculine that they never knew.  Revenge is never sweet.


Hints for Success in the Masculine Role

1)  Shut the fuck UP!  I mean that.  Just let go of what you see in the other that you don’t like or is false.  When we’re in the masculine role, we have the power.  We also love to spew our knowledge all over the place.  But the wisdom is in the feminine role.  We don’t need to train the feminine to follow our rules or think like us, we just need to stop projecting on them.

2)  FEEL!  What you’re thinking about the person in the feminine role does generate emotion in YOU.  You’ll feel it if you stop thinking — get out of your head.

3)  WIN-WIN!  Notice that if they accept your way of thinking, you’ll win or be right, but they’ll lose.  When a True Masculine leads, everybody wins…and I mean everybody, everywhere.

4)  Stop thinking about the other.  Stop giving status reports or reasons.  Stop prophesying what you believe the person will do next.  Just watch your own mind, and let go of what’s false, which is probably everything.  If you have to, lock yourself in a closet.


It’s a Dance…

When I was in my twenties, I went to New York City a lot for business.  I always went dancing after work (and drinking).  One night, Teddy, a really chubby, short guy with super thick glasses and the worst hair, came up and asked me to dance.  Teddy asked a lot of girls to dance, but no one said, “Yes.”  I wasn’t looking for a man; I was married.  So I wasn’t sizing up his looks like the single girls.  When I hit the floor, I had one of those American Idol moments when Simon Cowell would go “Holy Shit.”  This guy was an amazing dancer.  He was smooth and light.  But he was also a very powerful leader.  Under his lead, I didn’t need to think — I could just reflect.  I seriously “had the time of my life.”  For the first time, I realized the awesomeness of being cast in a pure feminine role with a True Masculine in the lead.  Reflecting can be really fun.

Every time I went to New York, I’d go dancing with Teddy.  Eventually, we both changed jobs and lost touch.  But I’ll never forgot what it felt like to dance with someone who not only knew he could dance, but also knew that I could dance.  That’s the best analogy that I’ve ever found for the True Masculine.  S/he not only has self-confidence and self-trust, but they have confidence and trust in those who are feminine to them.  They see everyone else as their reflection; and their reflection is perfect.


How Roles Can Screw Us Up, and How to Escape Them

Think Different

By Cathy Eck


Roles 101

I really enjoyed my ex-husband’s father.  When everyone went off to church on Saturday night or Sunday morning, we would turn off the television, drink an icy cold Iron City, and laugh at our stupid stories.  He was alive, smart, and so much fun.  He was healthy and vibrant.  But the minute the door opened and the family returned, he was an actor who had been signaled to get his ass on stage.  He became a sick, old man who never amounted to anything.  His shoulders dropped.  His back hurt.  His smile turned into a frown, and he would quickly turn on the television.  He had a long-standing role in that family; there was nothing I could do to stop him from playing it or to convince my husband that I knew a different man than he did.

After enough time, I too would fall into a similar dreadful role that I couldn’t escape.  But I was like Andy in “The Shawshank Redemption.”  I was willing to chip away a little each day until I found my way back to freedom.  I learned about roles, and how deadly they can be, from observing my husband’s family.  I’d guess that the leading cause of death is giving up because you can’t escape an unwanted role.

We might have a good white-sheep role like the cute one, funny one, or smart one.  Or we could be a black sheep role like the sick one, negative one, or loser.  Roles are constructed with labels; once people associate us with a particular label, they’re often very slow to let that label go.  They don’t notice when we change; and we often feel like we’re stuck in Shawshank prison with little hope for parole.



Here’s where things get dicey.  People assign roles when they project the unwanted half of their beliefs out through their physical eyes (the bad side of the bottom of the triangle).  We can’t see them do this so we get tricked.  In the illusion, people (in masculine roles) see their own reflection without knowing it.  The masculine projects; the feminine reflects.

They call you the perky one because that’s how they see you, not how you really are.  Suddenly, you’re more perky in their presence; you might like that they bring out that quality in you.  But if they call you lazy or rude because you don’t talk around them (since they bore the living shit out of you),  you’ll find yourself unable to be perky even if you normally are.  Even worse, with a “bad” label, they’ll try to fix you, cementing the label more deeply.

In my experience, the best escape route is to let go from the feminine role until we get into the masculine role.  What we do next is critical.  Most screw up right here.  Once in the masculine role, we must let go of anything we see outside of us that generates emotion until the whole world appears free.  We can’t get free while holding people hostage in roles with our beliefs.

Getting rid of the need for approval is key to getting free of labels.  We must stop measuring our success based upon what others think of us and start measuring our success by the purity of our OWN mind.   Likewise, we stop measuring other people by what they say or do and start measuring them by the quality of their thinking.

For example, we say that people who inspire and motivate others are good people.  But why are they inspiring and motivating?  They see an uninspired and unmotivated world.  They’re fixing their own projection.  When we move into the masculine role, we see our beliefs about others, people, animals, plants, and the world.   It is our job to let go of what we see until we see free choice, true versus false, and a divine sort of justice.  Most people fix their projections and call it a career.


No Roles

The mental perspective is the cure for everything wrong in the world.  From a physically-oriented perspective, medical doctors are helpful; mentally oriented, they’re cursing patients with labels called diagnoses. They focus on sickness, not health.  In a physical orientation, veterans are heroes; mentally oriented, they’re blindly obedient killers.  Physically oriented, caretakers are servants to the needy; mentally oriented, they’re enablers or prison guards.  If we cling to a physically-oriented role, we can’t get free.  It’s impossible!

If you feel like you don’t fit into the world, you probably are more comfortable with the mental perspective.  You might feel judgment from others because people with physically oriented perspectives fit in; they think they’re good and right.  They have a free pass to be completely irresponsible with their mind.  You may have tried to avoid the physically-oriented world, but that isn’t necessary.  I assure you that the illusion won’t affect you once you let go of your beliefs and let your free mind lead your physical body and experience.

Roles disappear once we adopt the mental perspective.  Those who were perceived as good become false; and those who were labeled bad or wrong are revealed to be reflections of false good roles.  It becomes clear that the normal view of life is illusory; whatever was wrong in the illusion will be false in the free world.

When this mental shift happens, shit no longer happens.  A different world is revealed; it was hidden below our beliefs all along.  Roles, authority, and the illusion lose their false power.  We have nothing to fear anymore.  It was all just the boogie man under the bed; he wasn’t real.  The illusion takes over our imagination so we lose our creativity; when we let go of the illusion, our creativity returns.

Fortunately, we don’t have to wait for others to live from this perspective.  It’s there when we let go of our OWN physically-oriented perspective.  It’s there when we live entirely from the mental, True Self, perspective — the world of mental cause producing physical effect.

Sharing The Wisdom of Initiation

Sharing Freedom

By Cathy Eck

Sharing Initiation

After letting go for a while, we naturally want to share what we’re doing with others; and we should.  It’s a very important part of the process.  But often people get too anxious.  They want to become the next Tony Robbins.  They get frustrated when sharing doesn’t catapult them to fame and fortune.  That’s because sharing is really about getting feedback on our own clarity; and if we use the feedback, it will serve us well.

I spent years wondering how to share the initiates’ wisdom in a responsible way.  I didn’t get this information from any organization or teacher so I could actually share it without fear of having my tongue cut out; I took no such oaths.  I had no rules to follow.  The same goes for you.  But I came to realize very quickly that saying that our emotions point to false beliefs in our own mind — beliefs that people hold as absolutely true — was a little different than telling people to get positive and enthusiastic.

I realized that if I just gave people the final answer, they’d put that whipped cream wisdom on top of their existing manure beliefs; they’d never get free.  The self-help movement and New Age did enough of that.  Or, if I exposed beliefs but didn’t provide techniques on how to remove them, like conspiracy theorists do, it would be like cutting someone open on the operating table and telling them to go home.  What others were doing wasn’t helping people to get free.


Exposing Beliefs

I realized that I had to fearlessly expose false beliefs while supporting the process of letting go.  This required letting go of my fear of authority and the fear that I would be misunderstood or judged.   I had to let go of my fear of retribution and hell.  I had to let go of the notion of opposition or competition.  This took time … in fact years.  I was questioning beliefs that nearly everyone was sure were true.  And I still do…

As I’ve done the work on myself, my message has grown slowly and organically.  I write or speak only when inspired to do so.  Most important, blogging pushes me to let go of collective beliefs and beliefs that would not normally enter into my life.  We actually have far more beliefs than we realize.  We have beliefs about ourselves, others, authorities, and even the earth.

I wanted to create a space and a support system whereby people could become free like they did in the ancient world if they wanted to do so.  That meant not making freedom “right” or “good,” even though it was the only thing that felt right to me.


Wisdom Vs. Knowledge

Over time, I learned a few things about sharing this wisdom.  Here are some guidelines that I use:

0)  I don’t do it for money or fame.  As you let go, you move into abundance.  But it probably won’t look like you thought it would.  When you share something responsibly you don’t want to jump into fame.  People bring you beliefs that you’ve not yet let go; and it takes time to clear your mind.  If too many people come at once, you get overwhelmed with your own beliefs.

1)  I don’t share insights right away.  I share once I feel the wisdom has integrated within me — when it’s knowing, not knowledge.  Often our mind gets a glimpse of wisdom before we’ve cleared the contrasting beliefs out of our body.  This is why insights often feel fleeting at first.  They aren’t yet ripe for sharing.

2)  I don’t mix other processes and techniques with letting go EVER.  Very important.  EFT (tapping) isn’t letting go.  Drugs aren’t letting go.  Energy techniques aren’t letting go.  Therapy isn’t letting go.  Traditional motivational coaching isn’t letting go.  Meditation isn’t letting go.  Here’s why.  If we change our energy, raise our vibration, fix our words, or let go of our emotion, but we think/believe the same at the core, we’ll keep creating the same kinds of experiences and meeting the same kinds of people.  Letting go is about using emotions to find our beliefs.  We can’t find our beliefs if we’ve transmuted or tapped away our discriminating emotional system or covered it up with positive thinking or willful action.

3)  I don’t push letting go on anyone.   It’s an option — an opportunity.  However, I do calmly stand up for my True Self if someone tries to impose their beliefs on me.  That took practice!

4)  I constantly watch my own masculine mind to make sure I’m not projecting.  If I’m in a masculine role, and I fear, judge, or hate any other then they’re my reflection.  I’ve divided thought into good and evil or right and wrong.  I let go of what I see in them.  It’s not who they really are in truth.  Then my emotion goes away; and now I’m clear to share.  Most of the world spends their life fixing their own projections (often they bill for it).

5)  Write or speak to share, not to fix.  If I want to fix or change someone, I still see their beliefs as having power.  This is subtle and often overlooked.  When we see the illusion as powerless, which it is, we lose our desire to fix it.  We realize that beliefs harm the believers.  When the believers want out, we lend a hand.

6)  I never make the mistake of considering myself an expert or thinking I’ve arrived.  There are a lot of beliefs in this world.  Often the more we let go, the more beliefs we see.  I can’t let go of the truth or let go of too much.  In this way, my compassion grows.

I continue to let go and then take what I get as feedback.  Then I let go some more.  I expect to have less beliefs each day; and I make sure I achieve that.  That’s what I now consider a successful day.


The Final Battle With Roles Requires Courage

Courage and the Lion

By Cathy Eck


Origin of Roles

The ancient storytellers saw the world through the eyes of archetypes and characters.  While they wrote about Gods having experiences, they were actually talking about aspects of their own mind.  A storyteller cast his masculine and feminine characters based on his interpretation of the sky.  The original archetype cast the sun as the masculine role projecting light, warmth, and unconditional love on to the feminine role moon or earth.  The moon feminine role (not always female) reflected the sun; and the earth feminine role absorbed it.  It was a marriage made in heaven; and this was called the True Self.  As the masculine role (sun) lost its unconditional nature, the moon feminine became a lunatic, and the earth feminine became heavy, serious, polluted with emotion, and depressed.  Today the world is filled with unloving suns, lunatics, and fat, depressed people.  Our earth is in danger.  There’s only one cause.  It’s the fall of the masculine role.

In initiation, we return to the place where the masculine and feminine aspects of our own mind become like our initial state of mind with an unconditional sun.  The feminine becomes calm, creative, and filled with life.  When we create equality inside of our mind, we’ll see equality outside.  When our masculine mind only speaks true, loving thoughts, our feminine will no longer emote.

To try to create equality of sexes or races on the outside without first finding it on the inside, is fixing the effect rather than the cause.  You can’t will your mind to be loving.  You can’t put truth on top of manure.  You have to let the false go to get to your truth.

The false self would be easy to let go, but other people try to keep our false self in tact.  They remind us of our labels, they impose their beliefs on us, and they encourage social protocols that enhance our mask.  People who are winning from the patriarchal world don’t want us becoming our True Selves.  True Selves are powerful.  The false masculine wants his feminine characters to lose so they can live without anyone exposing or defeating them.  Without humans in feminine roles, who would fight their wars?  Who would build their temples and churches?  Who would wipe their royal asses?

Most people live life from two minds — their masculine and feminine are constantly arguing.  When we’re in our True Self, our inner masculine and feminine mind aspects agree.  There are no decisions.  There are no emotions.  We’re calm and peaceful.  We’re creative and productive.  Our discrimination keeps us safe from the illusion.  We easily bring our ideas into the physical world like great inventors, original artists, and powerful win-win oriented leaders.  These people have huge visions, but they also have the ability to bring their ideas into the physical world.  They aren’t just day dreamers, philosophers, or storytellers.

The act of letting go grounds our ideas into the material world.  We begin living our life.  We’ve know we’ve really arrived when we can even be completely ourselves with those who programmed us to have false selves.  Our handlers lose their power when we drop the roles they gave us.  The final test requires that we don’t believe anyone else if it generates even a little emotion.  We can no longer be tricked by a false self.

If we don’t see someone as authority, we won’t submit to them.  If we don’t see someone who asks for help as below us, we won’t dominate or control them.  We do what we’re inspired to do.  Sometimes thats creating with others.  Sometimes we’re creating alone.  Sometimes, we’re supporting another to let go of the illusion they’re struggling with.


The Last Rule

The rule about roles that pulled us deeply into the illusion was simple.  We gave attention and authority to people with the most rigid beliefs or rules — false selves.  We wanted to be good; so we obeyed authority. We were taught to listen to and respect elders, but our elders were already stuck in the illusion.  We gave respect and attention to the least free person in any situation.  If everyone was healthy and one person was sick, the sick person got the attention.  We gave attention to victims, perpetrators, and heroes; we made the independent free-thinking True Self a rebel and a heretic.  The people who had the most beliefs became leaders, teachers, and preachers — the masculine roles.  We rewarded people for honoring beliefs.  Those with the least beliefs were punished until they submitted.

The way out is the opposite.  We flip the rule upside-down.  We don’t make the feminine dominant; that would be a lateral movement.  We follow those with the freest minds in any situation without regard to age, talent, race, sex, or label.  We reward freedom by giving those who operate from win-win our business, attention, and appreciation.  We listen to children rather than dominate them.  We seek our own truth and get whatever support we need to let go.  As we let go, we acquire the natural courage to face those who gave us our false self.  We make things right again.


Permanent/Temporary Roles

As we let go, permanent roles disappear.  There will always be temporary roles.  Roles create a way of interacting and co-creating; but they won’t have a superior/inferior, good/evil, or win/lose tone to them.  Until we’re all free, the natural leader or teacher will be the person with the most expansive point of view (least beliefs) in families, communities, and the world.  Natural leaders or teachers will hold the vision of freedom and help others let go so they can heal their minds and bodies.  

I’ve created a pathway out and identified many of the tricks and traps, but it’s a very narrow path.  Now it’s time for those who desire freedom to clear their own minds and make this pathway clear, safe, and wide.  Since you’re here, reading this blog, you’re probably such a path maker.

Roles: Internal and External

Roles in our mind

By Cathy Eck


False Self

Our mind works like a movie projector to create our view of the world.  We experience what we’re projecting with our body.  If we only had a True Self, we’d live in the Garden of Eden.  But watching fruit grow on trees is boring.  So we create stories.

Reality equals the True Self plus our Beliefs (false self)

A good metaphor for the false self (as designed) is temporary storage.  The True Self is permanent storage.  One person creates a story within their mind.  This person splits up their mind into multiple characters that interact, but all the characters exist within the story writer’s mind, forming an illusory creative whole.  The storyteller brings that inner creation into the outer world via “The Word.”  At this point, the story writer is done.  Now humans co-create to perform the story, and they’re thrilled to do that because it’s fun, and it’s just a role.  They get to walk in someone else’s shoes for a short time.  Each actor is a valuable part of the whole.  If a few actors don’t show up, the story would dissolve.

Hollywood does this perfectly; it’s a haven for creativity.  Business people also create visions then bring others in to play roles within the vision.  No one is chained to these visions for life.  When they finish their role, they delete the story.  Their minds are virgin again.

Religion is different.  Someone creates  a story, and they make it true.  They cast people into roles that never end.  It’s like the “Hotel California.”  “You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave.”  Why?  You forgot that you could let go of the role.

We love story.  We don’t care how wild and crazy the story is.  Actors play horrible roles, but they don’t become the characters permanently.  When the role is done, they drop it because they view it as a temporary role — it’s not who they are.

Roles aren’t the problem.  The problem is the belief that we are our roles or that we can’t let them go.  Roles come with beliefs so they cause us to retain beliefs that we don’t need or want.


The Illusion

In the illusion, the lead masculine role casts the story and then convinces others that they must play the roles they’re cast in for life.  No wonder we want to die.  They give us the shit roles while they get the A-list parts.  Most people are playing roles in a story that they didn’t create and don’t really like — no great actor would do that.

We came here to create stories and play roles — for sure.  But we don’t have the right to make lifetime roles — that is why the Lifetime channel makes crappy movies.


Getting Free of Roles

To get free, we must identify who’s playing the masculine role of the screenplay we’re cast in.  What do they want from us?  What do they define as good or right?  What beliefs have we accepted because of that role?  As we let go of the beliefs around the role, we gradually step back until one day we can see the big picture from the director’s chair.  We see that our role is just a role.  It isn’t our destiny, purpose, or karma.  We don’t have to play it anymore.

Then we’ll see that everyone in the illusory play was an actor, even our worst enemy.  We’ll applaud them, not hate them.  They probably didn’t choose their role either.  Most people today are playing roles cast by their ancestors in a story that was written thousands of years ago.  We’re afraid to quit our roles because we think God gave them to us.  The story writers said their stories were cast by God so we’d accept a role that sucked.  Can you see how fucking stupid that is?

The illusion feels like hell believes everyone identifies with their role.  The think they are a Jew, Christian, or Lightworker.  But they aren’t.  It’s a role.

We don’t let go because we become vested in the story.  Let’s look at the story of Armageddon.  Those who believe that the story was created by God won’t let it go.  They want the story to play out to the end, and they believe that they’ll be the victors in a win-lose drama of epic quality.  They’ve become so absorbed and proud of their role that they don’t feel their own misery.  They have no compassion for those who will lose.

They’ve lost access to their True Self and can’t see beyond the set.  Some people escape but find another role without first becoming free of the old one.  “I’ll take this role where I get to ascend to the stars.  Or I’ll join this religion where I get to live as a monk and not work in a job I hate everyday.”  They’re making a lateral move within the illusion.  They aren’t getting free.  This creates conflicting roles in their mind.



The answer is in Hollywood.  We’re all actors.  We take a part in a marriage, culture, religion, business, or political group; and when we’ve had enough, we should simply let go and drop the role without guilt, shame, or fear of judgment.  We’d return to home base — our True Self.

If we want a different role, we first clear out the old role.  We can’t play Forest Gump if we’re still playing Idi Amin.  Once we’ve broken free of old roles, we’re back to zero again.  We’ll choose new roles and only play characters in stories that we love.  We’ll make sure we trust our director.  Or we’ll write our own story.

But what about those collective dramas that have unhappy endings like Monsanto, Armageddon, or businesses that harm the earth.  This answer is on Broadway.  How many actors does a play have to lose before the show can’t go on?  We’re those actors; we can drop our roles and eventually bring down the production.

Letting Go and Children

Masculine and feminine roles

By Cathy Eck


Masculine Role Teachers

Once we understand the illusion’s roles, letting go becomes easier.  New Age teachers, clergy, gurus, and pop psychologists are well meaning, but they don’t understand roles.  All the techniques taught in expensive workshops and self-help books came from people who managed to somehow get themselves into the masculine role.  The masculine role is funny.  You feel enlightened because suddenly the emotion leaves your body; it gets projected on your shadow — your students, employees, children, or followers.

The masculine role was designed so that the power was in the role.  That way, one could be a wimpy, little man and rule the world (think Wizard of Oz).  The masculine role is blind; they believe the shadow they see is real.  It isn’t.

Now you’ve entered a new chapter of life or you wouldn’t be reading this.  You’re letting go so you can remember your pure thinking.  If you turn your thinking into a system after you remember it, I’ll kick your ass.  I’m joking!  The True Self has no beliefs to impose on others, and they know everyone has the truth inside them.



Why did you look to those false teachers?  You were trained to do so as children.  You were raised by people who thought you’d be perfect if you thought like them.  That’s the blindness of the masculine role.   We learn it; then we do it to others who are feminine to us.

Today’s parents try to self-help their children.  They’re fixing their own projection.  Kids write to me and beg me to write to their parents.  But that’s not my job.  They must learn to let go from the feminine role.


Feminine Role Escape

The last thing to give someone in the feminine role is a masculine technique — like affirmations.  It won’t work for them.  They don’t believe they can change their mind because they’re stuck in a masculine shadow.  If they manage to drag that masculine ass to a self-help workshop, the masculine role will question their sanity.  The masculine mind views itself as positive and shiny already.  They already know this stuff.

The person in the feminine role will emotionally back up like a sewer because they’ll think they must be the problem; they don’t know what they’re doing wrong.  Their mind will run in circles.  They’ll take responsibility for what’s being projected on them, which gets them nowhere.


Religious Parents

Religious parents are masters of the false masculine.  The good parent (masculine role) projects their anger on the bad child (feminine role).  The kid goes to school and bullies (projects).  He gets a taste of the masculine role and does to others what was done to him.

The parents says, “I didn’t cause that.”  Yes, they did!

They caused it because they didn’t realize that their child was their shadow reflection.  As soon as the child can work his way into the masculine role, he becomes the good masculine and projects until he finds a mate — someone who can play his powerless feminine.  Roles aren’t true; but they get passed down from generation to generation as if they’re true.  To play the role of our parents feels satisfying because from the child’s point of view, we’ve made it into the role of authority.

Many children psychologically reverse their minds to be good (people pleasers).  They learn to do the opposite of what the parents and teachers are projecting.  They obey the words, and ignore the projection.  They take the parent’s control dramas and turn them into love.  They take punishment and turn it into discipline.  They often say things like “My parents did the best that they could.”  These people will unconsciously repeat the same drama with their children because they’ve relabeled it as good or right.  Once psychologically reversed, the illusory world doesn’t look up-side down anymore.  

There’s a huge price to pay for psychologically reversing our minds.  We can’t experience unconditional love.  I was married to a people pleaser.  When I finally could unconditionally love him and give him total freedom, he thought I hated him.  He was looking for the emotional connection he felt with his family of origin and the earlier version of me, and it wasn’t there anymore.  Emotions only exist in false-love connections.


The Exit Ramp

In the exit stage, we redefine roles.  We must become a strong and firm masculine leader to those in the illusion (often our parents).  We must support truth and expose falsehood.  This takes courage.

One Easter, we went to visit my in-laws.  One of my children was excited about the candy that was coming since my mother-in-law had been talking it up.  Suddenly I heard my mother-in-law reprimanding my child for jumping around.  She said, “I’m going to tell the Easter Bunny you’re bad — you don’t deserve candy.”  He looked at her so strange.  He didn’t believe in the Easter Bunny since I told my kids the truth — that it was a story.  But she spoke her words with such conviction that, for a moment, he questioned his truth.

I ran interference for him.  I explained to my mother-in-law that she held the Easter Bunny in mind as a lie — a means of control, not a cute story.  My son gave her a chance to correct her thinking, and she damn well better take it.  I wasn’t mean, but I was firm.  I explained to her that kids jump.  He wasn’t doing anything wrong; he was reflecting the contrived excitement that she projected on him.  She didn’t understand; and I didn’t care.  My child felt protected.

People raised in religion are taught that suffering or sacrifice is the way to God.  They often got punished as children for doing things that kids do.  As parents, they do what was done to them.  That’s sad, but it’s still wrong.  The best advice I can give any parent is before you discipline your children, take the mote your parent’s gave you out of your own eye.




Eliminating Roles — A Shortcut to Freedom

Masks we wear

By Cathy Eck


We’re All Actors

One of my greatest ah-ha moments came while listening to an interview of Forest Whitaker after his incredible performance in the “Last King of Scotland.”   Forest played the brutal Ugandan dictator, Idi Amin; and he really owned the character.  My insight came when he said that it took him three months to shed that role and get back to being himself.

Wait a minute, three months?  It took him only three months to shed Idi Amin and get back to himself?  Idi Amin had enough baggage to keep a million people busy letting go for years.

Why do people believe that letting go takes forever?  Shit, people in the east think it takes lifetimes.  They sit in the forest or a cave for decades, and they still don’t come out themselves.  If Whitaker can let go of Idi Amin in only three months, why can’t I let my roles go in three days?  After all, I’m clearly no Idi Amin.

The answer was very clear.  Forest Whitaker knows that he isn’t Idi Amin.  You and I, however, often believe that we’re the roles we play.  We often can’t tell if a belief that we carry in mind is true or false until we let it go.

Often we don’t know that a belief lives in our unconscious until a person or event exposes it.  Most people can’t tell the difference between their pleasant mask and their True Self so they don’t let go.  But we can’t let go of our True Self — letting go never causes a problem.  Freedom requires letting go of our entire false self — to return to a blank slate so we can write and direct the life script that we desire.


Roles that Bind Us

We’ve all believed and accepted many roles throughout life.  Roles can be fun if they’re temporary; ask any actor.  But when a role becomes permanent, it can be hell.  Roles can define us and keep us stuck.  We live as if we have a prominently displayed sign on our chest exposing our label.  People sense that label and treat us accordingly.

In addition, we’ve been trained to believe that we can’t let go of a role that another assigned to us, especially if that person was an authority.  It feels like they need to free us.

Relationships make stepping out of roles difficult because people think we’re insane when we let go of a belief that they still believe to be true.  Their reality proves them right, and people in the illusion confuse reality with truth.  They don’t realize that we’re not excluding them; and they can still believe whatever they want about their life.  No one has the right to tell another what to believe.  But relationships often form around common beliefs.  People think that we’re letting them go when we’re just letting go of a belief.

Some people expect us to show up in our mask; and if their expectation is very strong or if we are a people pleaser, it reinforces our role.

Letting go of a physical or mental diagnosis can be nearly impossible if the people in our life believe our label and treat us as having that label.  Healing is often much easier when you simply remove yourself from those who label you.


Living Without Roles

Imagine if you knew you were acting?  After all, you are.  If you’re being yourself, you wouldn’t play a permanent role, especially one you didn’t like.  You’d play a role and drop it when you had enough.  You’d drop it easily because you’d know you weren’t the role.

Dropping roles means dropping lots of beliefs at one time.  When we accept a label or role, we accept all the beliefs that are part of that acting engagement.   A great actor will study the character and adopt his or her state of mind.  Once the state of mind is accepted, the part flows naturally.  They appear to become the character by wearing the character’s mask.  But they drop the mask when it isn’t useful any longer.  If we’re resisting dropping our mask, it’s wise to see if it has a payoff.  If we let go of the payoff, the mask should come off more easily.

When we drop any label or role, we create a massive amount of space for our True Self to fill.  Ideally, we’d just be our Self and everything would be perfect.  But our world is in transition.  If we’re uncomfortable dropping the entire role, then we can just drop some of the beliefs that make up that role.  We can show up at mom’s, play the daughter or son role she assigns while witnessing our act and maintaining our sense of Self; then we can drop the beliefs that bothered us most.  Each time we visit, we can let go of the beliefs that arise and incorporate a little more of our True Self.  We can also let go of any belief in our mind that she can’t handle the shift and then let the cards fall where they may.

I used to feel guilty dropping roles, as if they were some sort of contract that I agreed to for life.  But they aren’t contracts; we do everyone a favor when we just be ourselves (although it might take them some time to realize that).

Too many people keep playing old outdated roles because they don’t have another way to be with people they love.  They don’t want to lose the person so they accept the role and resent every minute of it.  Conscious role playing is a temporary bridge to a new way of relating.

Letting go of labels and roles is the fast track to freedom.  It takes courage to drop roles completely.  And, as you can see by the example of Forest Whitaker, it takes knowing clearly who you are not and being willing to let that character go.

Eliminating the Masculine and Feminine Roles

masculine and feminine roles

By Cathy Eck


Roles Aren’t True

In the last few posts, I’ve explained the masculine and feminine roles within the illusion.  Remember, roles hold the illusion together.  There’s no such thing as roles to the True Self.  Roles are real; they do exist in the illusory world.  However, they aren’t true.  This is good news; it means that we can let roles go.

The false self depends on roles; it has endless tricks to get people into roles where it can win, dominate, and be good or right.  If we aren’t aware of the purpose of roles, we fall prey to them.  We end up losing without even knowing we were competing; we submit to others who aren’t true leaders, or we look bad or wrong.

Our goal in initiation is to get back to the time before we got stuck in roles.  Of course, we received our first role the moment we were born — daughter or son.  Many people never escape that role.  They’re still submissive to their parents on the day they die.  Thus, they never live their own life.


Breaking Free of Roles

Recognition:  The first step is recognizing that we’re stuck in a role.

Masculine or feminine:  It’s important to determine whether we’re playing a masculine or feminine part.  Sometimes, it’s obvious.  Other times, we aren’t sure and must look for subtle clues.  Our body gives us clues through pain, disease, or symptoms.  Actions also speak louder than words.

Ghosts:  In feminine roles, we often feel oppressed.  But the oppressor or controller isn’t always who we think.  False minds don’t want us to find the real cause.  

My ex-husband believed I was controlling him, but I wasn’t.  I wasn’t willing to accept his beliefs as true, and to some false selves that can seem controlling.  But I wasn’t demanding or needy.  In fact, as I let go, he came to have so much freedom it was like he wasn’t married; but still he insisted that I was controlling him.  Eventually, I could see that it was his mother’s voice that was dominating him, not mine.  He just couldn’t see through his own veil of beliefs.

Roles are Mental:  The roles we see in the world are the effect of the roles we hold in OUR OWN mind.  If we feel controlled by someone, that’s because we still hold controlling authorities from our past in mind.  My ex-husband felt controlled by his own inner feminine (formed by his mother).  Whatever I said or did passed through that filter and tainted his hearing and vision.  He never heard me; he heard his mother’s voice replaying old tapes.

Make roles about roles, not about people who play them:  When we cast someone in a role, we’re holding them hostage.  My experience as a character in my ex-husband’s illusion created the desire to help others who feel stuck in someone else’s illusion to escape.  I never wanted another to go through that pain and confusion.

Step Back:  People playing the masculine role seldom have an incentive to let the role go.  They’re usually winning, looking good, and getting to be right.  Of course, their victories are illusory; but the world believes them.  They get approval, attention, and rewards from their roles and labels.  We can escape their illusion once we understand how to let go of beliefs.

We must realize that the roles that others play in our life exist as potentials in our mental drama.  We appear to be victims in the illusion; but we aren’t.  We’ve simply accepted beliefs that allow the roles to perpetuate.  Most of those beliefs come from religion, cultural traditions, or social conventions.  They’re beliefs that most don’t even question.

For example:  “I should listen to others.  Emotions are bad.  I should be nice to my authorities.  I can’t tell another that their belief is false.  If it happened to them, it could happen to me.  I can’t correct authority.”  In my case, the main belief that kept me stuck was a feminine role — a false perception of wife.  With each belief I let go, the false authorities in my mind lost more power until I could no longer play the false wife role.

Do the Process:  Once we find the belief, we’re only half way there.  Often people stop when they find the belief because of another belief that says, “Now that I found the cause, I’m free of the belief.”  This is common in the new age and creates projection, not release.  Denying a belief, excluding ourself, or choosing a new belief is NOT letting go.

To drop the belief, we must recognize the pain it has caused.  We must witness and release the emotion the belief generated, and we must realize the emotion is saying the belief isn’t true.  It may have been real in our past; but it wasn’t true.  The belief isn’t just false for us.  It’s false for everyone.  This is often hard to do.  If we’ve been pressed underneath an authority’s illusion for decades, we don’t feel like letting them off the hook.  But it’s worth it.

When we’ve completely eliminated a belief from our mind, we don’t experience it in the world anymore.  Now we can help others let go because we can discriminate again.

We must let go of any beliefs that say we need to believe others, especially authority.  False selves will do their very best to convince us that their beliefs are true.  The false self fears death.  Exposure is its kryptonite.  It tries hard to stay hidden beneath an acceptable mask.

Wash, Rinse, and Repeat:  If the stain doesn’t come all the way out,  keep letting go until it’s gone.  In this work, a belief is gone when you no longer see evidence of it.  It’s gone when you don’t fear it.  It’s gone when you know it’s false.  Persistence, honesty, and courage are the qualities that will take you all the way.

Letting Go of Masculine and Feminine Roles

Apple of Tree of Life or Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil

By Cathy Eck


Understanding masculine and feminine roles is key to stripping the illusion from our mind.  Masculine and feminine roles were created through stories that were presented as right or true.  The stories caused our minds to accept the masculine role as authority, deserving of obedience and respect.  Once that was accomplished, the masculine roles in the world could abuse their power.  They still do.

When we don’t understand roles, we can’t and don’t discriminate between true and false.  We also tend to either project on others or absorb or reflect the projection of our authority figures.  Let’s look more closely at roles.


Inner Roles Defined

Our inner mind has a masculine and a feminine aspect.  When we’re thinking from our True Self, those two mental aspects work together seemlessly.  This was called the alchemical marriage.

When we’re thinking from our True Self, we think only productive thoughts.  We hear creative ideas and truthful thoughts that are calm and harmless to ourselves and others.  We get ideas that cause the world to evolve.  We move nicely along our True path. The effects of our thoughts are always good and win-win in nature.


False Mind

Our false mind was created by others who wanted us to think their way.  They wanted to become our false God.  Our minds weren’t designed to hold false beliefs.  In fact, we’re all given a powerful lie detector — emotions.  When we feel emotions, it’s because our OWN mind is thinking false thoughts.  That occurs because:  we’re holding false beliefs in mind and aren’t discriminating; or our authorities are projecting their beliefs on us, and we believe them.

The false self is born whenever we accept our first false thought (belief); the roles in our mind change.  In the false self, the masculine intellect is the inner and outer authority; the emotions become something to eliminate because emotions expose the false self.

In most religious stories and myths, masculine had all the power.  God was male.  That elevated the intellect.  Now an intellect offers a belief, and we do feel emotion at first.  But we can’t do a damn thing about it.  The intellect has authority.  So we accept their thought into our own mind as true.  We just ate the apple from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.  If we do this enough, we’ll start to feel emotion when the True Self speaks and calmness when we hear our beliefs.  We’ve been psychologically reversed.

Someone says to us, “You’re an ass.”  If they’re not our authority, we’ll say, “No, I’m not.”  We’ll let their comment go.  However, if an authority says it, we’ll accept their thought into our mind and hold on to it.  We’ll feel helpless to let it go because we been trained to believe that we can’t change the minds of authority.  Clever huh!

The social norm of respecting elders keeps us from discriminating.  Obedience to authority causes us to ignore emotional signals.  Putting knowledge ahead of our emotions prevents us from questioning the doctor, teacher, parent, or clergy.


Outer Roles Defined

Outer roles aren’t about bodies or sex.  A woman can play a masculine role.  A man also plays many feminine roles.

I’ve explained before that the clergy, policemen, parent, doctor, and teachers are all examples of masculine roles.  The masculine role has authority or is the one that’s asserting or giving.  The feminine role receives.

Roles aren’t inherently bad.  If I give you a gift, I’m playing the masculine role.  You’re in the feminine role.  If I serve you a meal, I’m in the masculine role as giver.  Those are pure transactions.  We call them first-cause ideas.  They don’t trap us in the illusion.

Second-cause thinking, however, contains judgment defined by “the man” (although people can be savvy about saying that God spoke to them).  Second-cause thinking creates inequality through position, pedigree, race, culture, religion, or sex; it traps us in the illusion.

Good and evil are critical to the illusion; we aren’t whole if our mind believes in good and evil because we can’t be both at the same time.  We can’t win and lose at the same time.  We live life like we’re riding waves — we’re up, then we’re down.  We’re always half of a whole.  That’s not balanced  — it’s a disaster.


Escaping Roles

To escape the illusion, we must recognize and understand roles.  If a person plays an authority role, or a more powerful role within the illusion, they must honor the role responsibly.  The husband can’t blame the wife or kids in a traditional marriage.  The teacher can’t blame students.  They’re the authority.  If we play the role of authority, we must accept responsibility.  We get the credit and the blame.

Likewise, if we’re playing a feminine role, we must learn not to blindly accept beliefs or labels from authority.  We must listen to our emotional lie detector.

If we’re with a friend on equal footing, the masculine and feminine roles gently switch back and forth.  The person speaking is masculine; the listener is feminine.  There’s no competition or desire for power.  The notion of authority must go for us to return to the Garden of Eden.  That won’t happen until enough of us have individually eliminated our beliefs about obedience to authority, second-cause thinking, and judgment from our mind.  Normal thinking must return to purely True and False.

To get out of the illusion, we do the opposite.  When we fell, we believed authority without question.  We took in beliefs as if they were true.  Now we look at the beliefs of those authorities from our past and see if their words had an emotional component.   We let go of the beliefs regardless of who gave them to us.

If your mind isn’t too psychologically reversed, you can make the correction on our own.  If not, get someone to help you discriminate.

Eventually, we learn to be in the illusion but not impacted by it.  Authority loses it’s false power.  We’re free.

Masculine and Feminine Roles In Service (Caregiving and Caretaking)

Love comes from within.

By Cathy Eck 


Caregiving and Caretaking

Did you ever notice that we use these two words interchangeably?   It doesn’t make sense because giving and taking are opposites.  So let’s take a deeper look into the original design of the role of care or service.

In the illusion, we focus attention on doing.  People rarely examine their reason, intention, or thinking behind doing — it’s usually to look good or get something in return.  Initiates focused exclusively on thinking.  In the true world, the reason is key; what we do is simply the effect of that reason (or belief).

Our inner emotional system was originally designed to feel peaceful and calm when we followed our True Self; but we were trained to mistake real calmness for the lack of fear that is achieved when we please our false Gods (authorities).


A little history (his story) of Give and Take

The sun was the ancient metaphor for God.  The sun gives light and warmth unconditionally.  Thus giving became associated with the sun.

The sun became associated with the masculine or assertive role in humanity (women play masculine roles too).  There were two widely-used metaphors for the feminine — the earth and moon.  The earth represented the feminine quality of absorbing the sun’s rays to creates new life (like human mating).

However, humans weren’t perfect like the sun; so the person playing the feminine role needed the ability to reflect masculine false love, beliefs, or thinking errors.  You don’t want to be absorbing false thoughts.  The moon was associated with emotions because when masculine thinking was wrongful, the feminine expressed or reflected emotions so the masculine could see his or her error and correct their mind.  This was co-creation at its best in that it created a perfect feedback loop.

In the beginning, none of this was about outer relationships.  Everyone has a masculine and feminine aspect to their own mind; life was about managing our inner relationship.  In that way, outer relationships worked also.

Later, the focus moved to outer relationships, and we lost the rulebook for our minds.  In relationship, one person or group plays the masculine role and the other plays the feminine based on who’s giving or asserting and who’s receiving (absorbing) or reflecting.

We play the masculine role when we sell something and the feminine role when we receive payment.  We play the masculine role when we buy something followed by the feminine role when receiving our goods.  We play the masculine role when we talk, the feminine role when we listen.  Roles change all the time.  Some roles are more permanent.  A rider is masculine to their feminine horse.  A guru is masculine to their feminine disciples.


It Gets All Screwed Up

When the masculine role is giving from pure intention with no beliefs (like the sun), then the feminine is peaceful, calm, and wise.  Like a wife/mother, the feminine has the innate creativity and wisdom to absorb the sperm and grow a baby.

Being born helpless and feminine causes distortion within our minds.  As children we always play the feminine role.  As adults, we must learn to step into giving, masculine roles.  Some adults don’t transition very well.  They give what they received, which is great if they were loved; but usually they give the same beliefs and suffering they received.  Adults often demand, manipulate, or play victim to get the love and attention they think they need or are entitled to.  Few people have a pure masculine mind that matches the unconditional sun.


Undoing the Confusion

We’ve forgotten the original design of masculine and feminine roles, and replaced it with a warped notion of service based on fixing effects.  We focus our attention on doing, and ignore our believing and thinking.  Someone is sick; so we give them medicine, cut out their organs, and hold their hand.  In the initiate’s world this was stupidity.  In the modern illusion, the one giving the service is now a caretaker labeled caregiver.  Doctors mostly function as caretakers that perpetuate disease for financial reward because they only fix effects.  When you give someone beliefs or support their beliefs, you take their power.  Caregiving means letting go of the belief in disease and freeing the person — not good for business.

The ancient people spoke of cursing.  To cure someone, the shaman found the source of the belief that caused the illness — this was always an angry, jealous, or  vengeful authority (words we also use for the false God).  The shaman would threaten the authority until they let go of their illness-causing curse (belief).  With the belief gone, the person healed.

Power struggles erupt between people when they hold beliefs about each other.  In a true relationship, both people focus on letting go of their beliefs.  Caregiving is about letting go and doing only what is inspired; caretaking means holding on to a belief, then doing something that appears to fix that belief for a benefit.  Caretaking steals power from others while appearing to serve them.


True Self Perspective

Like everything else in the illusion, the mess didn’t start out that way.  The True Self,  as the perfect masculine (true leader), was the giver of care (pure thought directed outward); the feminine receiver of care became the care receiver or caretaker.  Both roles were crucial for co-creation.  The caretaker absorbed the caregiving like the earth if it was pure.  They didn’t take the care if it was impure; they reflected it back to the caregiver who corrected their erroneous thinking.

When masculine and feminine roles were understood and applied, you never blamed the person playing the feminine role.  Punishing the feminine was breaking your own mirror, which was why it deserved seven years of bad luck.  Superstitions are just more level confusion.

True service is never about doing; it’s about giving pure thought.  When our thinking is pure, our caregiving is pure.  The caregiver and caretaker become one being — the perfect union where two become one.