Motivation — Inner or Outer?

By Cathy Eck


How to Motivate Others

Until 1997, I owned a technology business.  I learned so many lessons from running that business — I’m incredibly grateful for the experience.  But one of the problems that really dumbfounded me was motivation.  I had employees and clients that were clearly internally motivated.  I only had to give them a little direction, and they were off and running.  On the other hand, I had employees and clients that didn’t make a move without external motivation.  Then I had to figure out what it was that motivated them  — money, time off, approval, or fear.

Wanting to understand motivation led me to enroll in a Master’s Degree Program in Transpersonal Psychology.  I thought perhaps more education would answer my burning question.  It didn’t.  But that school got me to the amazing library that was crucial for the research that I would do in the future.

I loved that school so much.  I realized that school could be a place of freedom and joy.  There were no tests; our teachers graded our speeches, papers, and projects.  There was no memorization; our grades were based on our ability to dig into something and see it with fresh eyes.  I was a duck in water and completely inner motivated.  That prepared me for what would happen next.


Free At Last

In 1999, my children decided that they wanted to unschool.  Unschool means learning outside of a school — it isn’t anti-education.  We’d moved to the country and visited all the available schools.  They didn’t like any of them.  A book had come to our attention called “Free at Last,” by Daniel Greenberg, a man who inspires me to this day.  He realized that children have internal motivation until we teach them external motivation.  In his school, “The Sudbury Valley School,” the children aren’t taught anything until they ask to learn it.  Sometimes they go for years without asking; but when they do finally ask, they learn at incredible speed because they’re motivated — one student learned six years of math in six weeks.  Obviously, these children also have enormous time to ponder life, explore passions, and just get to know who they are.

We decided to model Sudbury Valley at home.  My two younger children dove right in.  I could see what Daniel was saying.  When they didn’t want to learn something, it was impossible to teach them without force.  I realized why schools need so much discipline, rules, shame, and fear of disapproval to get kids to learn outside of their natural learning cycle.

My oldest son had been in a private school until the sixth grade.  He was already institutionalized.  He begged me to please tell him what to learn.  He couldn’t think for himself.  He couldn’t find his inner motivation.  It took about two years to decondition him, then he remembered his natural desire to learn.


My Real Lesson

I thought I wanted to learn how to motivate others.  What I really wanted to learn was how to support people in finding their inner motivation, their True Self.  I wanted to understand how I could nurture inner motivation in my children and myself.

To get to inner motivation, one must strip away all the external motivation.  We have to stop wanting what others have; and look at what really lights our fire.  Our True Self is the source of internal motivation, and it rarely pleases other people’s agendas.  It can look quite unsocial and rude when it simply doesn’t buy the beliefs of other people or join popular groups.  It knows what it needs, and it’s bored or uninterested in anything that it doesn’t need.


A few differences

The True Self is motivated by win-win; the false self is motivated by win-lose.

The True Self is what it is; the false self wants to fit in and be accepted.

The True Self is self-reliant; the false self wants support from others because beliefs have no power without attention.

The True Self is unique; the false self is a good clone.

The True Self leads; the false self follows and obeys.

The True Self enjoys the journey; the false self enjoys only the result.

The True Self loves to give its gifts; the false self loves to get rewarded.

The True Self has no fear and doesn’t see risk; the false self is fueled by beliefs and their related emotions.

The True Self does what feels calm and good; the false self does what relieves its emotions and satisfies its beliefs.

The True Self thinks about creating; the false self thinks about profits or marketing.

The True Self learns for fun and expansion; the false self memorizes and repeats.

The True Self loves when another succeeds; the false self is jealous or envious of others.

The True Self is motivated from the heart; the false self is motivated from the head.

The True Self is motivated from within; the false self is motivated from without.

The True Self is Daniel Greenberg; the false self is Bill O’Reilly.


Living From Inner Motivation

Most teachers simply offer more beliefs to stuff into our already clogged minds.  There are only a few Daniel Greenberg’s in the world that offer a space for the True Self to expand, explore, and invent.

My favorite Daniel story was about a kid who only wanted to fish.  He fished every day for years — no motivation for anything else.  His father wanted to take him out of the school.  He wasn’t learning anything.  Daniel calmed the father and said, “That child knows everything about fishing.  When he finds something else that motivates him that completely, he’ll excel at it.”  Eventually that child found computers.  After graduation, he founded a technology company.  Two years later, he had twenty employees.  He learned the thing that almost no one learns in school.  He learned how to learn, effortlessly and on his own.  And, most important, he learned how to follow his heart and live from inner motivation.



The Evolution of Projection and How We Escape Its Grip

alchemical marriage

By Cathy Eck 


Understanding Projection

Many people today feel as though they’re stuck in someone’s illusory projection.  They’re more aware of their thoughts, and their life doesn’t seem congruent with their thinking.  This was what set me on this path two decades ago.  We recognize that someone or something else is producing our reality — but who or what?

People attribute this phenomenon to God, aliens, or evil spirits.  But they’re wrong; you discover this as you let go.  The beliefs that keep our lives small and powerless come from other humans — our past and current authority figures — our trusted family and friends.

While a strong masculine mind can change intentions and beliefs and get results quickly.  One with a more receptive, feminine mind attempts the same change of mind without results.    This is why so many people needlessly suffer in the world today.  They’ve given their minds to gurus, friends, doctors, parents, and political, religious, or social leaders in exchange for false beliefs.  They don’t know how to escape.


The Mind’s Original Design

The first humans lived in paradise because the masculine and feminine within their own mind worked together as one unit.  The masculine aspect set intentions, created logical organization, and held memories or beliefs.  The feminine part received wisdom, ideas, and inspiration.  Each person’s mind was a separate container that worked like a well-oiled creation machine.

But then, life got more complex as humans became aware of others and wanted to co-create.  They formed tribes and groups; they chose leaders.  Roles were invented.  Men stepped into the masculine roles and women into the feminine.  Men set intentions, rules (or beliefs), and provided leadership.  Women received the wisdom and inspiration to fulfill those intentions.  Together they were a dynamic pair.

But later on, men started setting intentions that weren’t from their True Self (not win-win).  Men wanted power, which required other men to submit to them.  Men now played feminine roles, like slave or warrior.

The divine feminine couldn’t offer wisdom to the false masculine for the purpose of enslaving another or fighting a war.  Thus the wise, creative Goddess within became silent and was replaced by the emotional bitch or witch who wanted the masculine authorities to let go of their false desires, beliefs, and intentions.

Belief systems were created by false authorities to serve their selfish intentions.  When people in feminine roles rebelled or emoted their disapproval, they were branded heretics, traitors, or just plain evil.  In time, people came to see the illusion as the truth and paradise was sent into the clouds.

Emotions got in the way of false authority; so they became socially unacceptable.  People learned to suppress their emotions in order to survive.  The masculine got further and further out of control without the feminine to tame it.


Projection From the False Masculine

We’re designed to project our minds into the world for creative purposes.  But projection creates hell on earth when it comes from a false masculine.  The false masculine projects beliefs onto others and calls them right or true.  Fear, deception, reward and punishment, and manipulation are all ways of tricking people into submission so they will ignore the truth and obey a false ruler’s illusion.

Our innocent feminine mind is naturally trusting and receptive — it doesn’t expect someone to lie.  Humans trusted false authority out of innocence, goodness, and fear.  We started accepting beliefs that our inner Goddess never would have accepted.  These beliefs weren’t win-win, generated emotion, and didn’t inspire feminine creativity and wisdom.  Once accepted the beliefs got stuck in our minds since we didn’t know how to let them go.  We were trapped in someone else’s projected illusion.  Our thoughts became worthless.

We internalized false authority.  It often appears as a kindly good voice, our conscious, or a guardian spirit.  It can appear to be a calling.  But it’s the false masculine or Satan of the apocalypse; he exists in our mind until we let him go.  He’s the composite false voice of all the authority figures that we’ve believed in the past.  He tells us what to do, how to behave, and what is true.  Everything he says is a lie.  We know deep inside that he’s lying because when he speaks we feel the Goddess emote.  But we’re afraid to challenge him because we believe he has the power to harm us.  We fear he might be right.

He guards the gateway to our freedom.  It feels like we have no power over him, but that is the biggest lie of all.  He’s just a mental illusion that we project into our world.


Resurrecting the Goddess

The good-evil illusion has gone on for thousands of years because we silenced our inner Goddess.  When our Goddess emoted showing us that our God was false, we silenced her to please authorities.  Now we must resurrect her and allow her to lead us to freedom.  We must feel her emotional energy again.

We must get honest and take responsibility for the thoughts and beliefs in our minds — we did borrow them from others.  When the Goddess says that a belief is false, we must trust her and let the belief go.  We must let go of authorities and experts that we follow blindly.  We must stop making others superior to us and start trusting our own inspiration.

Eventually, we reclaim our minds, our power, and our lives — no one can project their beliefs on us ever again because our Goddess sees, hears, and feels right through them.  She signals us when we need to let go.

We return to living from our True Self.  We now have a God-like masculine mind that thinks only thoughts that work for everyone; our Goddess is wise and creative once again.  We have come full circle and are born again.  This was called the alchemical marriage.  It is the key to paradise — the gateway to gold.



The True Self Versus the False Self

Rainbow roses

By Cathy Eck


Lost on a desert island, I’d want my Apple computer (with a solar battery) and my Adobe Creative Suite.  They’re more than just fun; these products offer wonderful simulations for understanding our creative minds.


Raster or Vector Graphics

Vector vs. raster images

The above photo demonstrates the difference between a raster and a vector image.   The raster image (bitmap) is made up of dots or pixels.  You can make a raster image smaller without losing quality, but you can’t make it bigger.  The number of dots in the raster image are finite.

Vector graphics are made with geometric shapes, lines, and curves, which coincidentally were said to be “God’s tools.”  When you change the size of a vector image, the quality remains perfect.


True and False Selves

The raster image made of finite dots is like the false mind (self) because it’s composed of beliefs.  You can make beliefs smaller and more limited, but you can’t expand them.

Take the belief in disease.  Once you believe in disease, you can limit your mind further with more diseases.  But you can’t expand the notion of disease beyond itself.  The only way to expand life in a world that includes disease is to create compensating beliefs such as medicine, life support, surgery, etc.  Let disease go, and health is what remains.

Let’s do the same thing with religion.  Once you accept a limiting perspective, such as “man was created 6000 years ago with a sinful nature,” you can’t expand it.  In fact, you must throw out evidence to the contrary.  You find fossils of dinosaurs that are older than 6000 years, but you can’t expand your finite raster perspective to include them.  Religion fabricates compensating beliefs for its own beliefs of hell, a punishing God, and sin.  But let religion go, and there is simply heaven.

Find any group who devises compensating beliefs, and you’re real close to the source limiting belief.  You can expand a finite raster image by inserting more dots, but it’s an imperfect solution just like fixing the effects of beliefs with more beliefs.

The vector image, however, is like the True Self.  Its geometric foundation can be expanded and contracted, and it remains perfect. It is a metaphor for the True God, Heaven, and our True Self.  Our True Self is unlimited, and it can thrive in any situation.  You can’t compromise or destroy it.


Black and White Vs. Color

Another graphic metaphor can be seen with color.  The false self is color blind; it thinks in black and white.  Everything is win-lose, right-wrong, and good-evil.

The True Self includes every color; colors are split in billions of different ways, making everyone a product of the same color palette but slightly unique and different.  True Selves are NOT opposites attracting and repulsing each other; they’re a perfect symphony of colors constantly being mixed and remixed for creative purposes.


The Answer

The number of people expressing themselves as colorful vector graphics appears small compared to the number of finite raster, color-blind minds (often in positions of authority).  When people get in touch with their True Self, they feel outnumbered.  But they aren’t.  Whether we can see it or not, everyone has a colorful True Self.  Our True Selves are all connected; our color doesn’t dull by lack of use.  When we let go of raster image beliefs within our own mind, we shrink the false black-and-white world.  We start to see the colorful True Vector World that was always there.

Our false raster minds were meant to be individual containers for creation.  Beliefs weren’t meant to be shared except in co-creation.  Beliefs were designed to be dropped when a creation was complete.  As we let go of beliefs that no longer serve us, our mental containers become pure and clear again.  We become virgin creators who create, then let go, always returning to a pure mind before creating again.

 Colorful True Selves constantly changing.


Lead the Way

I write this blog for leaders everywhere who do see life as a colorful, geometric vector graphic; and they have explained themselves to the boring raster images until they can’t explain anymore.  They shrink to make black and white people comfortable. They feel embarrassed that they dream of a full-color world with no war, suffering, or poverty.  They try not to piss off the black-and-white raster God and his worthless minions while shutting out the All-Colorful Vector God within.  They limit their beauty, abundance, and freedom because they don’t feel welcome in a black-and white raster holographic illusion, and they fear judgment from the cartoon characters that call it home.  It’s definitely time for this mental distortion to end.

Our colorful True Self will never be happy in the colorless raster world.  War will never be acceptable to our vector Self, which sees no borders.  Diets and food limitations will never change the weight or health of a vector True Self.  Abundance can’t shrink small enough to get a raster image to not feel jealous.

At the same time, we don’t have to eliminate the raster images; we just have to recognize their limitations.  They make good followers and can do small-minded jobs.  They just aren’t meant to leaders regardless of their education or pedigree.

Always remember two things.  The black-and-white raster beliefs generate emotions (feel bad) and are win-lose.  That means they’re false; false has no power except what we give it.  False doesn’t serve the world; it serves the winners.  Let false go from your mind, and the illusion will slowly lose power.  You’ll finally see it as simple raster images — entertaining to look at for a moment or useful for a single purpose.  When we’re done with them, we send them to the trash bin.  We don’t let them take up space on our hard drive.

It’s time to allow yourself to be the colorful vector image that you are — constantly changing shape and size without ever being diminished or compromised.  That’s your True Self — that’s freedom.


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Are You Experiencing Joy, Happiness, or Just Excited?


By Cathy Eck



Last night I watched an interview of a popular author and speaker, who said, “People’s greatest fear is joy.”   Fear and joy aren’t connected; so I wondered why she would say such a thing.  She said that when people feel joy, they immediately think the other shoe is going to drop or sadness is coming.  She was suffering from level confusion — confusing happiness and excitement with joy.

Remember, we’re using words here to describe something intangible that can only be felt.  It ain’t perfect.  But words can point to the truth, and they’re all we’ve got.

Also, please don’t think that all we need to do is change our language and use the word joy instead of happiness.  We’ve got enough inspirational speakers and preachers doing that and creating massive level confusion between the True and false selves.

When I use the term joy, I’m using one facet of its definition that fits the True Self.  Any True Self quality is win-win — everyone would want to experience it.  It has no opposite.

Happy and sad, on the other hand, are bottom of the triangle opposites.  So when we feel happy, we could also say that we’re not sad.  The two potentials arise together as a unit. Most people are happy when they get what they want and sad when they don’t.


Happiness and Excitement 

Excitement comes with happiness; and grief with sadness.  Both conditions have an emotional component.  Emotion is the nervous agitation that warns us that we’re in the illusion — we’re thinking a belief.  We’re not moving toward our True Self.  Usually, happiness comes from fulfilling a false desire or getting something we think we lack, such as approval, love, or winning over another.

That’s not the same joy we get from unconditionally loving another, resolving a problem in a win-win way, or creating something unique. Joy is independent of others; it’s simply who we are at our core — our True Self.

When we’re happy, it’s natural for us to feel emotion because it is only a matter of time before sadness will rear its ugly head.  The emotion is saying that our mind is split in a win-lose way.  The other shoe does drop in happiness because the sadness will work its way into our experience.

The only way to avoid the inevitable sadness is to stay in a male authoritarian role and consistently project the sadness on to those who submit to you.  Some people are real good at this; they appear to remain happy, positive, and unemotional all the time.  But they are not.


The Other Shoe and Joy?

But what this author described is level confusion at its best.  She said that joy brings up the fear of the other shoe dropping — not possible.  Joy is a True Self quality.  The True Self has no opposite; but those who invented the illusion created an opposite to the True Self by creating Satan to oppose God.  The True God is creative energy; only the false Old-Man-In-The-Sky God has an opposite.  This is where the confusion began — two distinct versions of God were combined into one holy shit unit.

If people recognized that a thought that carried emotion wasn’t true, no one would believe in the false God or Satan.  Religion would collapse.  That is why this information was kept secret. Confusing the false God with the True God creates what is known as psychological reversal.  We honor the false self (false God) and then actually resist our True Self creating a life of suffering, disease, and hard work.  This is the engine of the illusion.  When we get this right, our escape is assured.  We just have to keep letting go.

The emotion we feel in a moment of joy is not related at all to the joy.  It’s always completely related to the belief that is arising that wants to pull us back into the illusion.  The false God in our mind is losing a minion, and it wants us back.  If we can see that the belief causing the emotion is false, we let it go and keep going toward the joy.

People are so afraid of the false God, but I’ve been calling him a liar for years.  He’s an illusion — a story character.  He doesn’t exist except in our false mind.  He’s actually like the hologram of the Wizard of Oz; in real life he’s a little wimpy man.

See the joy for what it is — notice that it’s win-win for everyone in the world if you are joyful.  Watch your mind and you’ll see that what’s causing the emotion is the belief that’s trying to pull you back into the false world.  The belief is unrelated to the joy.  It says someone will get hurt, someone will die, we’ll lose what we’ve acquired, we don’t deserve this, it won’t last, or we’ll get punished.  The belief is what is causing the emotion.  There as many stupid beliefs that stop us from our joy as there are people on this planet.  We have to get damn good at discriminating if we truly want freedom.

The author mentioned above presented this situation as a fact of life as if joy and fear are conjoined twins.  She’s very wrong about that.  She said that this condition stops people and felt we needed to learn to feel the emotion, and do it anyway.  Her advice pushes away the illusion for awhile.  It won’t win today, but it will win.  We still believed it’s lie.  Letting go of the belief is the only answer that ends the emotion forever.

So don’t fall for the trap of thinking that joy causes fear. Recognize that your beliefs cause your emotions — your fear.  Let the beliefs go, and your joy will last much longer — at least until the next belief arises.  Sadly, every exit has a trap; but when we let them all go, we’re truly free.  Nobody can trick us ever again.


Facing Our Fears the Initiate’s Way

Facing our fears

By Cathy Eck


Facing Our Fears 

There’s a popular book called, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.”  I’ve never read it, but I’ve heard plenty of people quote it.  The title says it all.

The underlying premise of “doing it anyway” is that our fears (or any emotions) have no purpose except to annoy the hell out of us. We need to get rid of them; and if we want to achieve anything in life, we need to will our fears into submission.  Personally, I think that’s an arrogant assumption.  We were all born with emotions; they obviously have a purpose.

So what should we do with fear or any other emotion?  How were we designed?


Initiate’s View of Facing Our Fears

The initiates saw facing our fears in a very different way.  When you understand their point of view, life gets much easier. Initiates didn’t differentiate between emotions.

Try this experiment.  Think of a situation that scared you, and feel the emotion in your body.  Now think of something that made you angry, and feel the emotion in your body.  Now think of something that excited you, and you’ll find the same emotion in your body. You might feel the emotions in a different place or with different intensity, but the feeling of all emotions is virtually the same.

The label that we place on our emotions is an intellectual decision based on the circumstances.  Our emotions don’t have labels.  So taking off the label is the first step to using our emotions correctly.  Emotions aren’t fear, anger, grief, or shame.  They are a signal that our mind needs correcting.

As you know from my other articles, emotions were considered a signal to the initiate that they were thinking wrongly (falsely).  The mind was seen as a container of thought. While we’re all connected as one at the level of the truth (True Self), our false selves were designed to be individual and separate. This was so we could all create uniquely.  Each of us could have different ideas and beliefs and experience different lives.  But as you know, people started to control what others believed.  Humans started to fear and believe authority and accept other people’s beliefs as their own.  We also accepted the belief, “If it’s true for them, it’s true for me.”  Consequently, people became connected (or one) at the false self level.  Big mistake!!!

Emotions were simply a sign from our True Self to let go of the belief that was causing the emotion.  So, from the initiates’ perspective, keeping a belief, ignoring or facing our fears, and doing it anyway was a prescription for suicide.  The initiates understood that beliefs are the cause of our life experience.  The effect is the emotional warning that such cause (belief) is leading us down the wrong path; and if we ignore that emotional warning signal, we may not like the outcome.

To complicate things more, we often think that our emotions are caused by others.  Often they are, but it’s because we believe what they’re saying.  So our emotions are still caused by us.  But retraining our mind takes effort because we were trained to believe others and obey them, especially authority figures.


What Do We Do With Emotions?

This sounds incredibly strange at first.  Only your True Self can understand it.  Facing our fears makes sense to our false self; it equates letting go with dying or disappearing.

It took me a long time to figure this out because my own false mind kept replaying its faulty tapes.  But I realized it didn’t hurt to try.  And when I tried it, I liked it.

Our emotions tell us when a causal thought is false.  Most of what normal people think is false.  They’d be emotional all the time so they reverse their internal system creating psychological reversal, causing them to appear unemotional.  They are mentally wired to win in the illusion, not live authentically.

If you let a causal thought go, the related emotions disappear. Imagine that you’re talking with someone who makes you very angry. The anger is caused by the fact that you believe what they said; they were simply spouting off their beliefs.  If another person tells a complete lie, you won’t get emotional unless you believe their lie.  Our bodies are designed to be magnificent lie detectors. People in power messed with our signaling systems so they could lie, and we wouldn’t know it.  Other times we’re feeling emotion as an effect of what we thought or judged about the other person.  Most people think that the emotion confirms that their judgment of the other is correct.  It’s actually proof that their judgment is false. It doesn’t matter what the person has said or done in the past, our minds are wired to help us let go of judgments and see the True Self in everyone.


Thoughts Matter

Most people are other directed.  To heal our minds, we must become inner directed.  The ancient Greeks said, “Know Thyself.”  They meant know your thinking — your mind.  Jesus said, “It’s not what goes into the mouth that defiles a man, but what comes out of the mouth.” He wasn’t talking about food choices or vomit.  He was talking about words.  Our words come from our mind, our thoughts, our beliefs.  Using our emotions as our guide frees our minds from beliefs and purifies our words.

Our beliefs create our reality.  When we listen to our emotions and let our beliefs go, our minds becomes free and our bodies become calm.  We have returned to the mental state from which we were born. The initiates called this being reborn of a virgin.  We begin life again, but this time we know how to stay free.


People also believe that life is a struggle, but that’s wrong too. If we do the right struggle by becoming mentally free, we don’t have to do the physical struggle.  Read more here.

Bridging the True and False Worlds by Letting Go

The Bridge

By Cathy Eck


The Bridge

To get from one side of the river to the other, we need a bridge. Likewise, to get from one side of perception to the other side, we need a bridge.  In any aspect of our lives, we can see the true world in the distance — no rules, no problems, no disease, creativity, joy, and freedom.  Then we have our current reality that was created by our beliefs.  When we get honest about where we are and where we know we belong, a bridge of pure thought appears.

Most people believe that crossing a bridge requires thinking of the destination or creating a plan.  They visualize, affirm, and effort hoping to drag their asses across the bridge.  They fight their current reality, created by their long-standing beliefs. Letting go of our beliefs seems counterintuitive because we think we have to create a thought bridge when we only have to reveal the bridge that already exists.

People step on bridges all the time.  Someone gets a great idea for the design of a new house. They step on the bridge.  Then they look at their bank account. They think about all the stuff they’d have to move.  They realize it will be difficult to find the beautiful piece of land that they saw in their vision.  So they step back down off the bridge and tell themselves to be happy with what they’ve got.

Normal thinking causes us to either turn away from true desires or to will them into submission with great effort.  If we want to get across the bridge effortlessly, we must learn the art of letting go.


Don’t Look Back

A great story about crossing the bridge to our True Self is Lot’s Wife leaving Sodom and Gomorrah.  She’s told by God to not look back.  This is good advice if you understand it.  She’s supposedly leaving her sin behind.  We usually associate sin with bad deeds; but in the ancient world sin meant wrong thinking or missing the mark.  Sinful or wrongful thinking causes you to miss your target destination.

Let’s return to our dream home example.  The dreamer sees the image of the home vividly in mind.  If it’s a True Self vision, it will feel great.  But they won’t be thinking about looking good or throwing wild parties to impress their friends.  They won’t feel excited; the vision will feel peaceful and right.

They step on the bridge to their new home.  Crossing the bridge isn’t about doing; the bridge is made of pure thought.  As they step on the bridge, thoughts arise from their false self that tempt them to look back or run back.  When those thoughts arise, they should feel very bad.  The emotions are telling them that their thoughts (or sin) are keeping them from crossing the bridge.  So they must let them go.

Our false self doesn’t want us letting go.  It tries to hold us back.  So it projects our beliefs on to others to confuse us and cause us to hold on.

So friends tell our dreamer that their home idea is too expensive.  The dreamer reads a special report on why people should never build a home exactly like the one they envisioned.  They think, “Oh my God, that is a sign,” and start to look back.  Fortunately they remember the art of letting go.  The next day the special report is exposed as fraudulent.  Their children hate the idea.  Do they turn back?  Their mother says the dream is a waste of money.  Do they turn back?

Trolls are appearing under their bridge and building a toll booth. Their false self is working overtime to pull them back.  They get a physical disease.  They lose their job.  This is what a true desire does; it forces us to let go of our beliefs because you enter the kingdom of the True Self naked — meaning no beliefs.

A true desire can’t be fulfilled with a vision board or a shit load of affirmations.  It requires a very sturdy pure thought bridge that is crossed by continuously letting go of the anchors (beliefs) that hold us in the false self’s illusory world.

This is why no one crosses the bridge to the True Self.  It’s the loneliest bridge on earth.  The minute we start that walk, the illusion within our own mind keeps trying to get us to look or turn back.  If we do, we turn to stone, meaning that we can’t reach our destination.  We stay stuck in the illusion.


The Game

A healthy way to stay on course is to see crossing the bridge as a game.  First, most games are not a matter of life and death so it lightens our perception.  Second, children love to play games.  Many childhood games are metaphors for getting lost and then finding our way — think “Hide and Seek” or “Pin the Tail on the Donkey.”  When we take crossing the bridge too seriously, it’s painful.  When we make it a matter of life or death, it’s horrific.

The people who want us to stay in the illusion appear to be our dreaded evil enemies.  In the ordinary human mind, difficult or angry people are seen as enemies or pains in the ass.  We fight them and oppose them.  We ignore them and manipulate them.  And we stay stuck in the illusion with them eternally — that is hell.  Remember good and evil are two sides of the same illusion.

If we see them as allies exposing our beliefs, we get across the bridge much faster.  In fact, they’re exactly what we need for success in crossing the bridge because they show we exactly what needs letting go.  They show us our sins, our beliefs.  When we see them as our reflection and refuse to break the mirror by letting go of what we see, our seeming enemies actually push us right across the bridge to freedom.


Money Isn’t the Root of All Evil, but It Sure Supports It

Abundance, Rich, Poor

Both Rich and Poor are Conditions of the False World.

By Cathy Eck


Is Money the Root of All Evil?

One of the biggest stumbling blocks for people walking the path of initiation is how to make money and pay their bills while continuing to clear their mind.  Money is a big source of level confusion because the rules for abundance (our natural state of being) are 180 degrees from the rules for making money in the illusion.

If we apply the triangle process, we easily see that abundance is the truth.  Rich and poor are both at the bottom of the triangle — so both are false.  Jesus said the rich have a hard time getting into heaven.  He was saying that it’s easier to give up a poverty mentality since you have nothing to lose than a rich mentality where you think you have everything to lose.  But in truth, both rich and poor mindsets keep us from Heaven on Earth.

Religion made poverty virtuous by emphasizing that money is evil and the rich can’t get to heaven while downplaying the fact that poverty doesn’t get one to heaven either.  You get to heaven by being your abundant True Self.


Bridge Careers

As we make our way out of the illusion, we need a bridge career. Any job can be a bridge career.  It’s the perspective we hold — not what we do.  I work as a bridge mentor or coach.  I don’t give people action steps to success or have them set goals to achieve.  I don’t motivate them.  I support them in letting go of the beliefs that stand in their way.

If I were a healer or doctor, I’d stop medicating people and chopping them up without first helping them look into their minds and let go.  If I were a lawyer, I’d mediate issues and help people see the truth of their situation.  If I was a barista, I’d let go of every judgment I felt for customers, bosses, or fellow employees. If I were a laborer, I’d challenge my arising thoughts while I worked.  Entertainment, the arts, or feel-good services like massage make great bridge careers.


How To Charge Others?

Charging for services varies by individuals and changes as we let go, but there are certain beneficial guidelines.  In the illusion, people try to get more than they give.  In initiation, we reverse that.  In the illusion, people speak in level confusion.  They tell someone they’re healing them when they’re merely removing their latest symptoms.  We must be honest about what we’re providing.  In the illusion, we market; in initiation, we express our True Selves and allow people to choose what we offer.

We must stop charging to fix effects in people and start letting go of causes.  (Obviously, plumbers can’t ask the toilet to let go).  It’s very fair to charge for our services as we assist others to freedom.  After all, those who keep them stuck are charging mega-bucks.



The original notion of tithing made sense.  People gave money to the truly wise ones because they wanted to be like them.  Money was like casting a vote — it set your direction in life.  You certainly didn’t tithe to someone selling beliefs.

People still vote with their money. However, few people realize that there’s another option beyond the illusion.  So they continue to feed the illusion with their spending choices.  As people stop funding the false institutions, they’ll come down quickly.  Money will go to those who live from the truth making the truth more valuable than beliefs.

Initiates don’t usually need much money.  Most initiates live elegantly (because they appreciate beauty and fine workmanship) and comfortably (because they aren’t martyrs), but simply (because they don’t have false desires).



Charity doesn’t exist outside the illusion.  It’s an insult to give to someone out of lack; you give only out of love or appreciation. The best gift we can give to another is to let go of the belief in our mind that they need charity.  Let go of the belief that another can suffer or can’t find their way.  Help them to see their beliefs and let go if they ask for help, but don’t feed their addictions to entitlement, false thinking, or poverty.  We want to help them fish for a lifetime, not feed them for a day.

When people can no longer solve their problems with money, they start letting go.  They have incentive to change their minds.



Abundance is our natural state.  Many new thought teachers have preached about abundance creating a new breed of rich people suffering from extreme level confusion. Abundance became ice cream piled high on a dish of smelly manure. People talked about abundance while hiding or ignoring their beliefs in lack.  When we hide beliefs, we project them.

Rich people perpetuate poverty while looking philanthropic.  They give money to fix the effects of their own projections.  The sleaziest ones ask for donations so we’ll pay to fix their projections.  If they took responsibility for their projections and let go, poverty would end.

People who live in true abundance don’t wish for it, don’t affirm it into being, and don’t market it.  They just live it and enjoy it.


Money Isn’t the Root of All Evil

The root of all evil is the belief in good and evil.  The root of all evil is thinking or behaving in a way that supports good-evil, win-lose, rich-poor, dominance-submission, or right-wrong.  Blaming money takes our eyes off our beliefs and puts them on something that we currently use and need in our society.

In my vision of Heaven on Earth, I see a world of creative expression, where everyone is freely giving and receiving.  People give their gifts and talents and get what they need from others who are also freely giving their gifts and talents. That’s perfection.  But until we get there, money (as a medium of exchange) will do just fine.



God, Superhero, or Initiation

Comic Con 2012

Comic-Con Fans Respond to Evangelical Protesters


By Cathy Eck


Superhero or God

Last year at Comic-Con, the fundamentalists were protesting with vengeance.  One person had a sign protesting the protesters that said, “People in denial that their superhero is imaginary have no business making fun of people who know their superhero is imaginary.”

Fundamentalist religion maintains the notion of a supernatural God with the power to rescue humanity.  Brainwashed people wait for the rapture with absolute conviction that it will happen, but it doesn’t.  Saviors and superheroes were born of the belief that mankind fell into a world of good and evil.  But we didn’t.

When humans accepted the belief in the fall, they imagined a superhero or savior coming to the rescue.  When we wait for someone to do for us what we’re meant to do ourselves, we never take the responsibility necessary to change our minds.  Consequently, we never save, ascend, or resurrect ourselves — we just wait for “The One” to come.


The Chosen Ones

Prophecies of rapture involve groups of chosen people who believe they’ll be spared from an imminent disaster.  This group takes great pride in being special in God’s eyes and attacks outsiders who disagree with them.

Group bonding is an old trick based on pride and the power of a common enemy.  Ancient leaders routinely told their followers they were chosen by God.  Chosen people want to keep their insider status.

Initiation, on the other hand, was chosen by the initiate.  God was the pattern of perfection, the blueprint for Heaven on Earth, pure thought, and unconditional love.  Initiates called this pattern their True Self.  Jesus called it the Father within.  Storytellers called it the superhero.  It was all good.

Conversely, evil was a mental projection of our false self.  The initiate saw the false self as something to let go; the chosen ones saw the false self as the common enemy to battle until the end times.


The God Complex

If you’ve got a giant-sized false self (God complex), then you’ll think you need minions to help you win your illusory battle over evil.  The good and evil illusions of rulers became collective battles.  They recruited “proud” military and religious followers to fight their imaginary wars and uphold their rules.

Pride is always a sign that we’re playing a role in someone else’s drama.  It’s a negative emotion that pretends to be positive.

If we’re fighting another person’s imagined enemy, we can’t see where we’re going or the cause of our problems.  We living in their illusion.  We’re not the director of our life; they are.  When we accept another person’s beliefs and rules, we believe that we must follow them.  Eventually, we’re no longer the custodian of our own minds.  But when we complain, the leader just tells us that we’ve sinned and are living our destiny or karma.

If we could just remembered that we didn’t fall, and there is no evil or enemy to fight, we’d drop out of the game.  We certainly wouldn’t fight another person’s imaginary evil opponent.

So those who benefitted by the illusion (the wealthy, powerful winners) created the notion that we couldn’t go back into the Garden of Eden — God locked the gate.  That forced us to stay in the game.  It was a lie, but it kept us minions from seeking initiation.

While the masses obeyed the imaginary punishing God, the privileged inner circle knew there was no punishing God and no hell.  They had no fear, guilt, or shame for their addiction to war, money, and power.  Their most obedient chosen followers would even regulate the rebels; the illusion sustained itself with very little effort.  It still continues today.  The masses fulfill every need and insane desire of those in power while giving up their own desires.  They patiently wait for their savior or superhero to arrive and save them.

It’s a lie.  No one is coming.


Return to Eden

Initiates wanted out of the illusion game.  They wanted to get back to life on earth as a cooperative and creative playland.  They put their True Self back in power and slowly let go of all false beliefs in the illusory world until the final lie was gone — the lie that humans fell out of Eden into a world of good and evil.  Once their false self was completely eliminated, the initiates looked like superheroes.  But, they were just humans with free minds.  The initiates told us that we could do it too.

Needing another lie to keep the illusion going, the false leaders said the savior/superhero healed our sins so we were good to go.  Once again, no one sought initiation.

The false God and his legion of rulers often looked like True Selves, but they weren’t.  They were simply good impersonators living off the power of their followers.  People were so brainwashed that they trusted and followed the false leaders while ignoring the true ones.  People who reached the state of freedom couldn’t help those who wouldn’t listen to them.  So the true leaders often lived reclusive lives only providing assistance when they were asked to do so.

When we let go of our beliefs, we find ourselves living more and more in Heaven on Earth.  We recognize that there was no fall; there was no evil to battle.  It exists only in the minds of those who believe it, fear it, and expect it.  The only hell that exists is the hell of living in another person’s sick illusion.  No one deserves to live that way.

When we finally realize that no savior or superhero is going to sweep down and rescue us, we take responsibility for our mind and remove the beliefs that covered up Heaven on Earth.  We choose initiation.  We realize that their wasn’t a heaven to rapture or ascend to — our destination was only a perspective away — a perspective we had inside of us all along.  We’re the one we’ve been waiting for.


Judgment: The Guru, The Fighter, and the Crazy Woman

Mike Tyson:  Undisputed Truth

Mike Tyson: Undisputed Truth

 By Cathy Eck


A few months ago, I felt inspired to buy a ticket to Mike Tyson:  Undisputed Truth.  While it seemed like a strange thing for me to do, I knew it was going to be a good experience.  More on that in a moment…


The Guru

Last week, I watched a television interview with a popular American guru; I noticed that I felt strong emotion brewing within me as he spoke. What the guru said was very positive and loving.  His message was basically that God loves everyone unconditionally and everything is perfect.  Certainly, nothing he said was untrue at the Heaven on Earth level; however, he clearly was ignoring reality.  The interviewer even pointed that out; his level confusion was obvious to everyone but his followers.

I closed my eyes and focused my attention on my emotions while listening for the beliefs he silently projected on to his audience.  Nothing that entered my mind was true.  In fact, I was now utterly bored with him.  He said the same thing over and over; he was trying to convince himself that the world was perfect.  His words didn’t match his beliefs — in fact, they were exactly the opposite.

The positive thinking movement created the ice-cream-on-manure guru syndrome.  People learned to sound like their True Self by using repetitious patterns of positive thought and switching their thinking 180 degrees from reality.  They trained their minds to suppress negative thoughts.  It was a new twist on the good religious person suppressing thoughts of evil.  But anything suppressed (which means we believe it but don’t personally identify with it) gets projected out on to the world.  Most people don’t feel emotion related to their projections because they view themselves as separate from others.


The Fighter

It was one week later that I went to hear Mike Tyson.  He told his story with a photo presentation in full Mike Tyson color and graphic language.  He talked the way one talks on the streets and in the ring.  He shared how he felt when a neighborhood kid killed his beloved pet pigeon.  He shared his feelings about prison and the law; solitary confinement was often the place where he connected with his Self.  He told how sad he was that he had to bury his mother in a cardboard box; and how he later exhumed her body and placed her in the best casket with the biggest monument.  He told about his messy relationships with women and how Don King was his worst relationship nightmare of all.  He told it all; it was an insane life created by beliefs.  But he told it from the place of feeling and emotion; he let us into his inner world.  He never sounded like a victim; in fact, he accepted responsibility for it all.

He didn’t ask for our acceptance, forgiveness, or agreement; he didn’t tell us what to believe.  He simply told us what was true for him and how he felt about his life; he thanked us for listening.

I felt moved to shut my eyes and feel what was beneath Mike Tyson’s words; I felt nothing but quiet.  I simply heard his words.  Mike Tyson was speaking a congruent and whole message (no projection); he shared it from the place of raw feeling, not intellect.  It was his undisputed truth.  Even though it was a messy illusion filled with beliefs, he owned it fully as his illusion, his mistakes, and his own self-imposed suffering.


The Crazy Woman

Then Tyson spoke of his infamous biting of Evander Holyfield’s ear.  He said, “I don’t know why I did that. It seemed like a good idea at the time.”  The ear incident landed him in a psychiatric hospital.  He said there were people juggling boogers and pulling out their hair.  There was a woman with bowl-cut hair, big bifocals, and a cowl-neck sweater even though it was summer.  She twisted her head and looked at him in an odd way and asked him how he got there.  He explained what he had done.

Then he said something profound.  The woman looked at him without any judgment and said without emotion, “I see; you were in a fight.”  I don’t remember his words after that because the clarity that I felt in my body was so pure.  This woman completely understood him.  She saw him as a person who was in a fight without judging the act of fighting.  She simply heard him and connected with him as a fellow human being.  She wasn’t concerned about what he did in the past; she was concerned about how he felt now.

The purity he conveyed as he told that story was so far beyond the feeling I had listening to the guru.  Mike Tyson didn’t speak holy words, but he also didn’t project anything on his audience.  He fully owned his crazy mind and life.  He understood the perfection of the crazy woman in the cowl-neck sweater who didn’t judge him.


The Lesson

Based on what I knew of the guru and Tyson before they spoke, it’s natural that I would have trusted the guru and ignored my emotions while listening to him.  If I hadn’t gone inside and discriminated, I would have spent the rest of my day wondering why I felt unworthy and unloved.  I would have found myself judging others and wondering why.  I would have accepted the guru’s nonverbal beliefs without discrimination because of his authority.  This is what keeps us all stuck.  We listen to people’s words without engaging our emotions.

With Mike Tyson, I might have judged his past and missed the clarity and congruence of his message.  With the crazy woman with the cowl-neck sweater, I, like those who put her in the psychiatric hospital, might have judged her strange appearance and mannerisms and missed her authenticity and lack of judgment.  Without my emotions guiding me, I would have missed the undisputed truth.


Masculine and Feminine Roles In Service (Caregiving and Caretaking)

Love comes from within.

By Cathy Eck 


Caregiving and Caretaking

Did you ever notice that we use these two words interchangeably?   It doesn’t make sense because giving and taking are opposites.  So let’s take a deeper look into the original design of the role of care or service.

In the illusion, we focus attention on doing.  People rarely examine their reason, intention, or thinking behind doing — it’s usually to look good or get something in return.  Initiates focused exclusively on thinking.  In the true world, the reason is key; what we do is simply the effect of that reason (or belief).

Our inner emotional system was originally designed to feel peaceful and calm when we followed our True Self; but we were trained to mistake real calmness for the lack of fear that is achieved when we please our false Gods (authorities).


A little history (his story) of Give and Take

The sun was the ancient metaphor for God.  The sun gives light and warmth unconditionally.  Thus giving became associated with the sun.

The sun became associated with the masculine or assertive role in humanity (women play masculine roles too).  There were two widely-used metaphors for the feminine — the earth and moon.  The earth represented the feminine quality of absorbing the sun’s rays to creates new life (like human mating).

However, humans weren’t perfect like the sun; so the person playing the feminine role needed the ability to reflect masculine false love, beliefs, or thinking errors.  You don’t want to be absorbing false thoughts.  The moon was associated with emotions because when masculine thinking was wrongful, the feminine expressed or reflected emotions so the masculine could see his or her error and correct their mind.  This was co-creation at its best in that it created a perfect feedback loop.

In the beginning, none of this was about outer relationships.  Everyone has a masculine and feminine aspect to their own mind; life was about managing our inner relationship.  In that way, outer relationships worked also.

Later, the focus moved to outer relationships, and we lost the rulebook for our minds.  In relationship, one person or group plays the masculine role and the other plays the feminine based on who’s giving or asserting and who’s receiving (absorbing) or reflecting.

We play the masculine role when we sell something and the feminine role when we receive payment.  We play the masculine role when we buy something followed by the feminine role when receiving our goods.  We play the masculine role when we talk, the feminine role when we listen.  Roles change all the time.  Some roles are more permanent.  A rider is masculine to their feminine horse.  A guru is masculine to their feminine disciples.


It Gets All Screwed Up

When the masculine role is giving from pure intention with no beliefs (like the sun), then the feminine is peaceful, calm, and wise.  Like a wife/mother, the feminine has the innate creativity and wisdom to absorb the sperm and grow a baby.

Being born helpless and feminine causes distortion within our minds.  As children we always play the feminine role.  As adults, we must learn to step into giving, masculine roles.  Some adults don’t transition very well.  They give what they received, which is great if they were loved; but usually they give the same beliefs and suffering they received.  Adults often demand, manipulate, or play victim to get the love and attention they think they need or are entitled to.  Few people have a pure masculine mind that matches the unconditional sun.


Undoing the Confusion

We’ve forgotten the original design of masculine and feminine roles, and replaced it with a warped notion of service based on fixing effects.  We focus our attention on doing, and ignore our believing and thinking.  Someone is sick; so we give them medicine, cut out their organs, and hold their hand.  In the initiate’s world this was stupidity.  In the modern illusion, the one giving the service is now a caretaker labeled caregiver.  Doctors mostly function as caretakers that perpetuate disease for financial reward because they only fix effects.  When you give someone beliefs or support their beliefs, you take their power.  Caregiving means letting go of the belief in disease and freeing the person — not good for business.

The ancient people spoke of cursing.  To cure someone, the shaman found the source of the belief that caused the illness — this was always an angry, jealous, or  vengeful authority (words we also use for the false God).  The shaman would threaten the authority until they let go of their illness-causing curse (belief).  With the belief gone, the person healed.

Power struggles erupt between people when they hold beliefs about each other.  In a true relationship, both people focus on letting go of their beliefs.  Caregiving is about letting go and doing only what is inspired; caretaking means holding on to a belief, then doing something that appears to fix that belief for a benefit.  Caretaking steals power from others while appearing to serve them.


True Self Perspective

Like everything else in the illusion, the mess didn’t start out that way.  The True Self,  as the perfect masculine (true leader), was the giver of care (pure thought directed outward); the feminine receiver of care became the care receiver or caretaker.  Both roles were crucial for co-creation.  The caretaker absorbed the caregiving like the earth if it was pure.  They didn’t take the care if it was impure; they reflected it back to the caregiver who corrected their erroneous thinking.

When masculine and feminine roles were understood and applied, you never blamed the person playing the feminine role.  Punishing the feminine was breaking your own mirror, which was why it deserved seven years of bad luck.  Superstitions are just more level confusion.

True service is never about doing; it’s about giving pure thought.  When our thinking is pure, our caregiving is pure.  The caregiver and caretaker become one being — the perfect union where two become one.