The Final Battle With Roles Requires Courage

Courage and the Lion

By Cathy Eck

 

Origin of Roles

The ancient storytellers saw the world through the eyes of archetypes and characters.  While they wrote about Gods having experiences, they were actually talking about aspects of their own mind.  A storyteller cast his masculine and feminine characters based on his interpretation of the sky.  The original archetype cast the sun as the masculine role projecting light, warmth, and unconditional love on to the feminine role moon or earth.  The moon feminine role (not always female) reflected the sun; and the earth feminine role absorbed it.  It was a marriage made in heaven; and this was called the True Self.  As the masculine role (sun) lost its unconditional nature, the moon feminine became a lunatic, and the earth feminine became heavy, serious, polluted with emotion, and depressed.  Today the world is filled with unloving suns, lunatics, and fat, depressed people.  Our earth is in danger.  There’s only one cause.  It’s the fall of the masculine role.

In initiation, we return to the place where the masculine and feminine aspects of our own mind become like our initial state of mind with an unconditional sun.  The feminine becomes calm, creative, and filled with life.  When we create equality inside of our mind, we’ll see equality outside.  When our masculine mind only speaks true, loving thoughts, our feminine will no longer emote.

To try to create equality of sexes or races on the outside without first finding it on the inside, is fixing the effect rather than the cause.  You can’t will your mind to be loving.  You can’t put truth on top of manure.  You have to let the false go to get to your truth.

The false self would be easy to let go, but other people try to keep our false self in tact.  They remind us of our labels, they impose their beliefs on us, and they encourage social protocols that enhance our mask.  People who are winning from the patriarchal world don’t want us becoming our True Selves.  True Selves are powerful.  The false masculine wants his feminine characters to lose so they can live without anyone exposing or defeating them.  Without humans in feminine roles, who would fight their wars?  Who would build their temples and churches?  Who would wipe their royal asses?

Most people live life from two minds — their masculine and feminine are constantly arguing.  When we’re in our True Self, our inner masculine and feminine mind aspects agree.  There are no decisions.  There are no emotions.  We’re calm and peaceful.  We’re creative and productive.  Our discrimination keeps us safe from the illusion.  We easily bring our ideas into the physical world like great inventors, original artists, and powerful win-win oriented leaders.  These people have huge visions, but they also have the ability to bring their ideas into the physical world.  They aren’t just day dreamers, philosophers, or storytellers.

The act of letting go grounds our ideas into the material world.  We begin living our life.  We’ve know we’ve really arrived when we can even be completely ourselves with those who programmed us to have false selves.  Our handlers lose their power when we drop the roles they gave us.  The final test requires that we don’t believe anyone else if it generates even a little emotion.  We can no longer be tricked by a false self.

If we don’t see someone as authority, we won’t submit to them.  If we don’t see someone who asks for help as below us, we won’t dominate or control them.  We do what we’re inspired to do.  Sometimes thats creating with others.  Sometimes we’re creating alone.  Sometimes, we’re supporting another to let go of the illusion they’re struggling with.

 

The Last Rule

The rule about roles that pulled us deeply into the illusion was simple.  We gave attention and authority to people with the most rigid beliefs or rules — false selves.  We wanted to be good; so we obeyed authority. We were taught to listen to and respect elders, but our elders were already stuck in the illusion.  We gave respect and attention to the least free person in any situation.  If everyone was healthy and one person was sick, the sick person got the attention.  We gave attention to victims, perpetrators, and heroes; we made the independent free-thinking True Self a rebel and a heretic.  The people who had the most beliefs became leaders, teachers, and preachers — the masculine roles.  We rewarded people for honoring beliefs.  Those with the least beliefs were punished until they submitted.

The way out is the opposite.  We flip the rule upside-down.  We don’t make the feminine dominant; that would be a lateral movement.  We follow those with the freest minds in any situation without regard to age, talent, race, sex, or label.  We reward freedom by giving those who operate from win-win our business, attention, and appreciation.  We listen to children rather than dominate them.  We seek our own truth and get whatever support we need to let go.  As we let go, we acquire the natural courage to face those who gave us our false self.  We make things right again.

 

Permanent/Temporary Roles

As we let go, permanent roles disappear.  There will always be temporary roles.  Roles create a way of interacting and co-creating; but they won’t have a superior/inferior, good/evil, or win/lose tone to them.  Until we’re all free, the natural leader or teacher will be the person with the most expansive point of view (least beliefs) in families, communities, and the world.  Natural leaders or teachers will hold the vision of freedom and help others let go so they can heal their minds and bodies.  

I’ve created a pathway out and identified many of the tricks and traps, but it’s a very narrow path.  Now it’s time for those who desire freedom to clear their own minds and make this pathway clear, safe, and wide.  Since you’re here, reading this blog, you’re probably such a path maker.

No Longer a Victim: Escaping Victimhood Forever (Part IV)

We aren't victims

By Cathy Eck

 

Here are a few more tips on escaping the role of victim forever.  You might want to read Part I, Part II, and Part III first.

No one is a victim of another — that’s the illusion.  We’re all victims of the illusion, until we escape.  

Remember that any benefits you get from living a victim role are so small compared to what you’ll receive from freedom.  The escape isn’t easy, but it’s so worth it.

 

Judgment Vs. Discrimination

A victim confuses judgment and discrimination.  (I’ve written about that here).  We must get to the place where our feminine side doesn’t believe others that judge us because their words feel bad — so they aren’t true.  We also have to get to the place where we stop judging others (masculine side).  We must realize that if we have an untrue belief about another, we’re generating emotions in our body and feeding our false self.

Even Hitler had a pure True Self; unconditional love means that we let go of what we see in him so we can remember who he really is.  What you then realize is that when you only see unconditional love in another, they can’t hurt you.  But you can’t fake it until you make it.  You must get to the place of unconditional love by honest letting go, not mental gymnastics.

 

Sympathy

The victim has been trained to be sympathetic rather than compassionate (more here).  Sympathy causes us to take on the unwanted beliefs of others when we choose to entrain with their emotions.  The victim is emotional because they hold beliefs in mind instead of truth.  When we entrain with their emotions, we get their beliefs in our mind as a bonus.  We’re told sympathy is good by the illusion because it perpetuates our false selves.  Once we’ve sympathized with others, and destroyed our life, we expect others to join us in misery.  But someone has to say “NO MORE.”  We have to move to compassion.

Compassion has the balls to say, “Let go. The Emperor is naked.”  Compassion tells the truth fearlessly.  Compassion helps everyone.  Sympathy helps NO ONE.

 

A Victim Looks for Reasons, Not Causes

If I had a dime for every time I heard reasons why someone was a victim… oh Lordy I’d be a rich woman. Victims have minds that make up reasons, and they believe their own ridiculous reasons.  This is how we get pissed off fairies, evil aliens, judgmental Gods, Satan, curses, rituals to fix the curses, evil illuminati, and much more.  The victim is never the cause.  The reason is always someone or something else.  The reasoning enables them to project their emotional pain outside of them, and projection keeps people very stuck.  Most people are victims of their own projections.  If we look inward and find the real cause, the projected evil reasons disappear.

Victims often ask questions like, “Why did this happen to me?”  Their mind answers and gives them utter bullshit, and that utter bullshit has strong emotions attached to it.  They’ve already been psychologically reversed to believe that something that feels bad is true, so they believe their own lying mind.  They even think it’s God talking or some spirit guide or dead avatar.  The mind is like a tape recorder.  It simply repeats what was recorded earlier in their mind, in other’s minds, or the collective mind.

The True Self’s advice is always perfect for us.  We get to the True Self advice by letting go of the false advice until we get the perfect answer that feels calm, clear, and right.  It’s win-win for everyone.

 

The Victim Thinks Success Is Ego

When people are successful at something, it’s because they don’t have an ego, not because they do.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  Often they succeed with their True Self, and then the false self takes the credit in time.  But ego or false self is what keeps us from fulfilling or dropping our desires.  Thus religion and new age are filled with EGO while telling us they’re getting rid of it.  You can’t fix the false self, you can only let it go.  Most teachers today are either projecting their false self on their followers or floating above it.  They are clone minds, not True Selves.

When we’ve been judged for our success, we often start to resist the fulfillment of desires.  I made this mistake for years.  Not achieving desires felt better than the judgment I got for succeeding from my religious family and friends.  We must learn that what someone says in judgment feels bad because it’s false.  I eventually realized (after much letting go work) that they were just showing me their false self.

The entire Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil is the Ego or false self — not just the evil part.  THIS IS KEY! Knowledge is getting truth or lies from the outside instead of from within us.  We learn good and evil from other people (authorities).  When we listen to anyone who says something that doesn’t harmonize with our True Self, we’re stuck in false self, eating from the wrong fucking tree.

 

Meekness

“The meek shall inherit the earth” doesn’t mean the poor will get God’s blessing.  I was terrified of this belief when I was stuck in the illusion.  Now it’s very clear.  It means when you let go of the competitive, fighting, win-lose, good-evil false self, you don’t have to fight with anyone anymore.  You get the whole earth without removing your ass from your chair — unless inspired to do so. 

So being a victim doesn’t make you meek and heaven bound.  It makes you false self bound in hell.  It makes you a pawn of the illusion, not God’s beloved child.  When you see that, you won’t want to be a victim anymore.  And when you no longer want your inner victim, you kick its royal ass out of your mind forever.

No Longer a Victim: Escaping Victimhood Forever (Part III)

victim, perpetrator, hero in prison

By Cathy Eck

 

This post is a continuation of Part I and Part II.

 

The False Mind Can’t See the True Perpetrator

The master isn’t the slave’s enemy — although it looks that way within the illusion.  Religion and cultural beliefs are our real enemies because those beliefs pull us into the illusion, usually when we’re too young to discriminate.  Once we’re enslaved, there are no exits because the illusion isn’t a place; it’s a perspective.  We can’t exit the illusion with physical action.  Physical actions only change the illusion.  

When were enslaved, we’re trained to focus on action.  If we can’t think of an appropriate action, we see ourselves as victims of situations we believe are beyond control.  But there’s NO victim that can’t go mentally within, see the causal belief, and let it go — if only they knew how.  That’s the action that’s needed.  This information was hidden from the masses.  If it became popular, the illusion would die very quickly;  everyone would be free.

Slavery or bondage of any form is a mental trap that causes the physical trap.  If our mind has been brainwashed to follow false leaders (authority figures), we’ll feel compelled to follow them all.  If we’re taught that life is suffering, we won’t try to escape.  Why bother?  Better the suffering we know than the suffering we don’t.  If we think that our problems are karmic, we’ll accept them blindly.  Fear of God’s judgment is huge.  I found the belief in my false mind that if I obeyed others, I’d look innocent to the judging God.  If I obeyed my True Self, and I was wrong, I wouldn’t have anyone to blame.  WTF?  Blame is another trap.

Belief in cursing (Voodoo) was probably a major belief that enslaved African people.  The Puritan ethic (hard work as virtuous) keeps people stuck in dead end jobs working for billionaires.  Hitler and the Jews both BELIEVED they were chosen.  It’s not that simple of course.  But there’s always a strong common belief between the good and the evil.

 

The Mechanics

When I was in college, about ten big high school football players came into my dorm room one Saturday night when everyone else was out partying.  They shut the door and told me it was time for gang rape.  I stood up, sat their asses on my bed like a school teacher, and proceeded to lecture them.  Looking back, I stepped into the masculine role; and I won the war when I calmly said something like, “You’re gonna make your mamas cry.  Your mamas will be so ashamed of you boys when they put you in jail.”  It worked.  They got up and walked out.  

You see, I took away what they wanted.  They didn’t want sex; they wanted to remove their emotions (their inner feminine) that reminded them of their belief that they were powerless.  We hate our emotions if we fear they’ll never go away.  They would if we used them properly.

Those boys were trying to project their powerlessness on to me.  I didn’t accept their projection.  I gave it right back to them.  Without my acceptance of their projection; they went back to being powerless victims of whoever had victimized them.  I wasn’t the cause of their problem; and I sure as hell wasn’t going to be the effect of it.  And yet, I didn’t understand what really happened at that time.  After years of letting go of beliefs, I again remembered the experience, and it was now obvious why it worked.

 

The Excitement Trap

Perpetrator and victim both tend to follow their emotions, especially excitement, hope, romance.  They imagine false desires that will eliminate their emotions, pain, and suffering.  We label excitement a good emotion, but there’s no such thing.  Emotion always means that what we’re thinking right now is false — it’s not right for us — it’s not true.  It’s probably not even our own thought.   Victim and perpetrator both tend to follow excitement into addictions of sex, drugs, alcohol, gambling, or food.  Often they are drawn to traditions, memorializing, and ceremony to keep their victimhood alive and kicking.

Since I didn’t yet feel responsible for other people’s emotions, the boys couldn’t project that on me.  In time, however, I’d lose my clarity thanks to the New Age movement, a husband who was a people pleaser and took pride in being responsible for making others happy, and a few zingers from my false mind that I didn’t see coming.

Ancient occult teachings said that emotion has attracting power.  That’s correct in the illusion.  Emotions are magnetic.  Sex, drugs, rituals, and even song and dance created an emotional high attracting whatever the occultists wanted, much like charismatic religions today.  But this is improper use of emotion.  The occult message was reborn with psychics, inspired speakers and preachers, and channels of the New Age; people believe these channels just like people believed the prophets in the Old Testament.  It seems that they want to share the truth, but don’t feel anyone will listen to them or fear punishment.  They declare a special purpose or calling.  They do speak mostly the truth, but when we hear the truth from another who’s fearful of being their True Self, it’s worthless knowledge.  Someone who fears being themselves, can’t help us be ourselves.

The illusion is like a battery; it needs recharging.  Old tricks are reused; and we falsely believe that history repeats itself.  In order to confuse us, this occult world was also often labeled initiation.  It produced powerful people who win in the illusion, but aren’t free of it.

True Initiation was a long process of bringing back the initiate’s discrimination by pushing them to let go of any thought that had “good” or “bad” emotional magnetism.  In time, the person had eyes to see and ears to hear.  They healed the curse of religion and were no longer a slave or victim.  They were called free, saved, or born again.

 

 

 

Desires … How Do You Know If They Are Real?

True SElf Desires

By Cathy Eck

 

False Desires

I used to have a fear of desires.  I often got something I thought I wanted or needed only to find that what I got wasn’t right for me.  I felt stuck with my manifestations.  That became exacerbated when I took a life detour into the positive thinking movement.  Later, I dropped that mind game when I realized that I was actually creating a very powerful, destructive belief.  Eventually, I would have to say positive affirmations before I took a breath.  I tried a few more techniques like gratitude and visualization before realizing that techniques look good in the short run, but they make a mess of your life and your mind in the long run.  I was cured.

But I was confused between true desires and false desires.  I decided not to desire anything for awhile.  Then my life drifted aimlessly down a path of boredom.  Having no desires wasn’t the answer either.  Looking back, I hit a place where I didn’t want false self desires anymore, and I didn’t yet have access to my True Self.

When I stepped on this quest for freedom, a vision mysteriously appeared in my mind.  It actually seemed too good to be true, and it felt unemotional and calm.  At that time, I was afraid it was a false self temptation.  I thought the lack of emotion meant it was bad.  I tried and tried to let it go.  We can’t let go of True Self desires.  Twenty years later, it’s still there; and I haven’t completely fulfilled it.  But it’s getting closer.

That desire was crucial on my journey to freedom.  It caused my beliefs to arise.  It caused me to take risks in letting go.  For the fun of it, I’ve since put some false self desires in my mind.  I let go of my beliefs regarding those desires, and they always disappear.

When we’re letting go to manifest, we don’t need to know if a desire is True or false.  I can’t say too often that the best thing about living life this way is that you CAN’T screw it up.  On the other hand, fulfulling desires with willpower, rituals, and forced action is the cause of every problem on this planet — every one.

We don’t need to analyze our desires if we’re letting go.  But here are some observations from my experience.

The fastest way to vet a desire is to ask ourself some questions like:  Why do I want the desire?  What does the fulfillment of this desire mean?  What does it mean if I don’t fulfill the desire?

 

Emotions

If a desire is false, we’re often trying to get rid of our emotions.  It appears that the fulfilled desire will relieve them.  It doesn’t.  The emotions were caused by our beliefs, not the unfulfilled desires.  If we have emotions and desire money, it’s the belief that we don’t have enough money that generates the emotions.  This is why rich people have the disease of “never enough.”  They never get rid of the belief in lack.  They just keep fixing the effect.

Emotions are a red flag of false desires.  Our false self feeds off of emotions.  If it can label an emotion good, we’ll generate unlimited emotional food.

Positive emotions are a major illusion trap.  Emotions are a “warning signal” to tell us when our thinking is off.  They aren’t positive or negative; it’s the labels that make them so.   Emotions like hope, excitement, romance, even passion and conditional love are all signs that we’re chasing a false dream.  Our True Self is like still waters — it’s calm.

 

True Desires

The only way to know if a desire is true is to keep letting go until you get the desire or it disappears.  True desires match the characteristics of the True Self; we alone have the talent and wisdom to achieve them.

Usually our True Self desires seem too obvious.  People try to turn them into a mission or purpose.  The True Self just wants to enjoy life and create in its own unique way.  Take someone like Oprah.  Her True Self loves to ask questions, and she’s damn good at it.  But when she takes her True Self gift and tries to fix the world, she jumps around and screams a lot.  She becomes over the top with excitement.  That’s her false self hijacking her True Self.

True Self desires are win-win.  They’re harmless to others.  Being the Wolf of Wall Street can’t be a True Self desire.  Co-creating abundance with others in a  win-win manner could very well be a True Self desire.  Often people are expressing their True Self in their current work or hobbies, but they don’t know it.  This happened to me with my technology business.  I cleaned out every belief that was win-lose about that business.  Suddenly, my mundane company was unique, successful, and fun.  My True Self was happy but not for life.  It eventually got another desire.  It’s the false self that likes to put us in a box for life.

False selves will label our True Self things like selfish, arrogant, or a lazy.  They’ll say they aren’t serving humanity.  They’ll say we’re wasting time because we’re not in action.  The judgement of false selves can hurt a lot unless you realize the emotion you feel when they say what they say proves that their words aren’t true.   You let their words go, and they don’t trap you or hold you back.  The illusion is 180 degrees from the truth.  People in the illusion won’t understand you.  It’s normal.

True Self desires are often difficult to unveil.  But once we do, we’ve got the ticket that will take us all the way to freedom.  We just keep chipping away at every belief about the desire.  Eventually we’ll find that our True Self, freedom, the fulfillment of our desires, and Heaven on Earth are simply different ways of saying the exact same thing.

Oh Where Oh Where Have My Desires Gone?

What are your desires

By Cathy Eck

 

Heaven on Earth

In my mentoring program in the past, about half of the people couldn’t do the “Heaven on Earth” exercise where I asked them to write down their desires.  I wouldn’t push them.  People must find their own inner motivation.  But, I really wanted to push them.  Those who did the exercise moved more quickly and easily toward freedom.  They didn’t get stuck as often.

Mentoring initiation isn’t like regular coaching.  I’m guiding the person on a journey through their own personal Armageddon.  Like any tour guide, my value is in knowing the traps along the way.  I keep you safe until we get to the destination of freedom.  But when people seek my mentorship, their false self doesn’t submit because I’m not an authority figure.  It tries hard to hijack the operation by triggering my false self into believing their illusion.  I have to stay awake.

The people who lacked desire all had  some past relationship with the New Age or eastern disciplines.  The New Age is a rapidly growing illusion in the western world.  When someone gives us the truth, they look enlightened and good; but they entrap us in their illusion.  Many people today believe they don’t have the truth — they’re seekers.   When someone seems to give them the truth, their false mind connects to the teacher’s false mind.  Their mind sees the teacher as the source of truth; the teacher becomes their new false God.  That’s how all religions and false Gods were created.  It’s how cult leaders work.  They don’t want us to see outside of their illusion because we’ll realize they’re a frightened little man  — not a giant wizard.

When we discover our own truth, these wizards look like con artists.  We see that their truth is really just a bunch of beliefs.  There’s a show in America called “Breaking the Magician’s Code.”  First they do an illusion the normal way, and it looks so cool.  The magician looks almighty and powerful.  Then they show us how it’s done; and the magician suddenly loses his cool.  You can see that he’s actually very sloppy, kind of an ass.  Discrimination breaks the magician’s code in any kind of illusion.

One popular eastern belief is:  Desire causes suffering.   Gurus wear the same crap every day. They look like they’ve never taken a bath.  They love their begging bowls.  They follow rituals, practices, and dogma to the letter and impose them on their followers.  There’s no room for the True Self, which thrives on creativity, beauty, and unique expression, in the east. 

Eastern masters look desire free.  No one notices that they desire quiet minds, food for their begging bowls, blind obedience to their dogma, and monetary contributions.  It’s a magical slight of mind trick that causes followers to become critical of their own desires, which they’re told are the result of spiritual deficiencies.  If they follow the master and do the disciplines, they’ll float above the illusion into nirvana.  If they stop the disciplines, however, they fall back into the illusion.  That feels horrible so they go back to the disciplines.  It’s a closed loop system with no escape.  The disciplines are for life unlike letting go which ends when our minds are free of beliefs.

 

The Emperor IS Naked

When people can’t see that their emperor is naked, they let go of their desire for freedom and “Heaven on Earth” instead of their beliefs.  I’d feel their false self take the wheel in my heart and chest.  Their false God had promised them something —  72 virgins, life after death, less karma, enlightenment, approval.  Freedom has no promise — you manifest your desires.  If you have no desires, freedom has no appeal.  That’s what keeps religions, cults, and spiritual groups alive.

I’ve been working on this issue for months, and it shifted in Ecuador, which is one giant Catholic illusion — my past nemesis.  I’d tell my cab driver my address.  Several times, I got confused and stopped him too early.  My false mind said that I was at my destination when I wasn’t.  But I did know my destination.  I had to walk in the dark alone; it took more effort and had more risk, but I arrived.

Our True Self will keep pushing to be let out of the closet and take us all the rest of the way if we just remember that enlightenment and acceptance live within the illusion.  Our desires will keep us going until the end if just admit that we have them.

 

Desire Unwrapped

The True Self thinks a thought and immediately manifests that thought.  That’s it.  It has desires, but they don’t last long.  We could say the True Self has faith, except faith isn’t necessary for the True Self.  It knows it can manifest anything.  Our false self holds our beliefs — lots of beliefs sit on top of one master belief that says we can’t have what we desire (west) or desires are suffering (east).

Desires morph into longing and suffering when we can’t fulfill them, but the desire isn’t to blame.  If the longing and pain get too great, we tend to let the desire go, which appears to end our suffering.  But the beliefs that keep us from the desire are the real enemy.   Religions, cults, New Age, are all belief systems.  They lose their power if we don’t believe them.

 

Initiation

In initiation, we honor our desires, and we also admit our reality.  The gap between our desires and our reality is filled with beliefs.  As we let those beliefs go, the gap shrinks until it disappears.  Our work is done.  We’ve reached our “Heaven on Earth.”  Religions make our desires wrong and our beliefs right.  Initiation does the opposite.

Initiation was designed as the pathway to Heaven on Earth.  When the beliefs that separate Heaven and Earth disappear, we’ve arrived; and we’re truly free.  The promises of the illusion have no appeal; we’re too busy creating what we desire.

Slavery and Freeing Our Minds

Statue in Cuenca, Ecuador

By Cathy Eck

 

Traveling in the Feminine Role

I’m back home reflecting on my nearly three months in Ecuador.  When most people travel, they either go as tourists, which means they see the sites and stay in places that are sanitized from reality; or, they go in a service, ministry, or business capacity.  Tourist and service are both masculine roles.  In masculine roles, we have choices and power (even influence) over others and our situation.  In traditional feminine roles, we have little or no influence.  We must observe and let go of whatever comes at us.  Traveling in the feminine role is useful for freeing the darkest parts of our mind — especially our inner slavery.  It’s an inner, rather than outer, adventure.

In a country like Ecuador, everyone shares the same point of view.  They practice the same religion, and their culture has been molded into one common perspective.  They have no reason to question their perspective.  You’re either an insider or an outsider.

I accepted my feminine role as an outsider.  No one there even knew what I did.  I wasn’t trying to change minds; I was simply trying to free my own mind.   We tend to blindly accept beliefs when we’re in the feminine role because of our training as young children.  By willingly taking on a feminine role, we can see, discriminate, and let go of the automatic mental programs that accepted the beliefs of others without discriminating first.

 

Slavery

When I got home, this quote by Ezra Pound was on my Facebook wall.  “A slave is one who waits for someone to come and free him.”  Powerful quote!  

Physically everyone in Ecuador was free; yet mentally, no one was free.  We can’t see mental chains; most people train themselves to no longer feel them.  They don’t notice the smallness of their prison cell because others have the same cell.   They label their chains a fact of life — the truth.  

When acceptance lacks the desire for change, it’s not acceptance; it’s apathy.  Apathy keeps us stuck in slavery; apathy places hope in a savior.  

I grew up in a town with conformity of beliefs, much like Ecuador.  It was filled with apathy masking as acceptance.  Things usually came easier to me because my desires didn’t have to travel through a huge labyrinth of beliefs.  Then I married one of the insiders; over time, his cultural and religious beliefs infected my mind.  Everything became more difficult for me as his beliefs took root in my mind.  I kept weeding — attempting to remove his beliefs.  I just couldn’t find the causal root.  There was something in my mind that caused me to blindly believe him over and over again.  I looked everywhere for someone that could erase his beliefs — kissed a lot of frogs that weren’t princes during that time in my life.  I was stuck in slavery, looking for someone to rescue me.  No one did because they were slaves too.  Their techniques could provide relief from the effects; but they couldn’t eliminate the beliefs — the cause.

When I discovered letting go of beliefs, I was overjoyed.  I could now free my husband from his mental slavery too.  But he was looking for a physical savior.  My truth sounded crazy; he thought his beliefs were the truth.  “What, my problems aren’t real?  You think I created my problems?  You think my beliefs aren’t true?” he said again and again.  Over time, problems tend to have payoffs.  People bond around problems.  To expose their illusion feels unloving.  His family believed they were given a burden by God to carry together; and I was unwilling to share that burden so I was bad and unloving.

I hated their judgment of me.  I wasn’t bad or unloving; I was trying to free them.  I constantly tried to defend myself.  But proving their beliefs wrong meant holding on to their beliefs.  My freedom required letting go of their beliefs, not proving them wrong.  Right-wrong, win-lose, good-evil all keep us stuck in mental slavery.  Only by realizing that a belief is powerless and false, and letting it go, do we achieve real freedom.  We don’t have to correct beliefs; we only have to stop fueling them.  Let them go.  Without fuel, they die a natural death.

Ecuador tested me to stay free of beliefs that were very familiar.  Even with beliefs as thick as mud, I usually managed to let go.  Whenever I fell for a belief, I could feel my emotions closing in on me; I’d immediately go to work on my own mind.  I didn’t try to defend myself.  I didn’t try to prove them wrong.  I simply  took responsibility for my error and dug myself back out of the mental quicksand.  This time, I didn’t become a slave in their illusion.  I passed my own initiation test.

I observed the causal patterns within my mind that caused me to believe others in the past.  In almost every case, I didn’t want to be judged, I tried to defend myself, or I didn’t want to follow their rules.  In order to prove them wrong, I needed to accept their belief as real.  Now I was at war — the inner battle of good and evil that never ends.  The more I tried to fight their belief in my mind, the more real it became.  I was keeping myself enslaved in their world.  Only I could free myself.

Freedom is about knowing your OWN mind so well that others can’t tarnish it.  Freedom is about discriminating with such mastery that no one can trap us in their illusion.  Freedom is being our True Self anywhere and anytime.  Escaping the illusion requires thinking from true and false and micromanaging our own mind while allowing others to think whatever they want.  The other’s perspective was real for me only because I believed them.  They didn’t enslave me: I enslaved myself.  Therefore, I could also FREE myself and so can everyone else.

 

The Watcher (Watching Our Mind) and the Body

Initiation as blend of east and west

By Cathy Eck

 

The Watcher

We let go by first accessing our watcher or observer within — the place where our True Self is watching our thoughts.  Our True Self knows true from false because it listens to our emotions for guidance.  It grants us free will to accept false thoughts, and it releases the false thoughts when we decide they aren’t true.

In the east, seekers of enlightenment watch their minds until they can remain above them.  But often they talk harshly about the body because the false thoughts they rise above remain suppressed in their bodies.  The false self lives like a parasite in our body generating unwanted thoughts and conditions.  If we rise above those thoughts, they continue to grow in power; the parasite eventually destroys the host.

In the west, we adore the body to the extreme and ignore our false minds.  Westerners are experts at projecting unwanted thoughts on to others.  Modern technology calms our minds by fixing our bodies and life experiences (effects) until the effects become too great to fix.

Initiation blended these two perspectives together into one perfect whole.  Initiates watched their mind constantly.  Their body was the effect of their thoughts.  They found their false causal thoughts by following their emotions and letting go.  If they achieved freedom, they were said to have transcended death with resurrected bodies — Temples of the Living God.

They now lived largely outside the illusion (outside beliefs) creating whatever they wanted.  They’d dip into the illusion to assist people who wanted out.  They were in the business of saving people, but not in the way that religion saves people.  They saved people from religion.

 

Losing the Watcher

When I was young, I watched my mind full time.   That changed as I started to accept the ideas of authority figures.  I knew they were wrong because I felt it, but I wanted to avoid punishment.  By the time I was twenty, I rarely watched my mind; the skill had no benefit.  I started to believe that I must manage my way within the illusion; escape seemed impossible.

Later on, I discovered meditation.  It was very easy for me, but it wasn’t enough.  I didn’t want bliss twice a day for short periods of time.  I wanted it all the time.  I wanted to be in the world without it affecting me adversely.  I had no desire to live in an ashram, and I looked hideous in orange.  So I went back to what I loved to do as a child.  I watched my mind.  I was rusty and had to work my way back to my earlier level of skill.  I had to remember how to discriminate and let go.

 

Loneliness

Living in Ecuador, for the last two months, took me back to my early twenties when I abandoned the art of watching.  I remember feeling very lonely after I married.  This was strange since I never felt lonely as a child even though I lived in the country with no children around.  The culture and religion in Ecuador matched my husband’s family culture and religion.   Loneliness isn’t about missing others; it’s about missing our True Self.

I watched my mind deliver the same thoughts I heard and believed earlier in life.  My mind said no one cared about me, and I was out of place.  They felt bad then; and they really felt bad now.  But now I understood the role of emotions in discrimination, and I knew how to let go.  The emotions I felt in my body were saying those thoughts were false.  If I had been floating above my body in meditation, I wouldn’t have felt those emotions.  I wouldn’t have been able to discriminate.  Being connected to my body was painful since the emotions were very powerful.  But it allowed me to discriminate and let go.

Once I let go, I could see the cause of the thoughts.  Everyone here shares the same false self; they belong superficially — identical to my husband’s family.  But their True Self feels left out — out-of-place.  They fix their undercurrent of loneliness with festivals, dancing, sex, family, and traditions.  They fix the effect, not the cause.  I faced a trap that I’d fallen into earlier in life as my True Self also had no place in my marriage.  I sacrificed it to fit in to my new family.

Loneliness is like a giant fog here in Ecuador since nearly everyone has abandoned their True Self to fit in.  It wasn’t going to go away.  Eventually, I let go of all the false thoughts as untrue, and loneliness became impossible because my True Self was unveiled; the emotions stopped.

Part of me wanted to fix my friends’ loneliness; I’ve come to care about them very much.  This also matched my mind earlier in life because I wanted to relieve my husband’s loneliness.  That caring made letting go hard; but it wasn’t true caring.  The True Self doesn’t fix other people’s emotions.  The suffering is meant to force us to let go.  Sadly, most people don’t know they can let go.

Throughout history, initiation was an elite privilege.  Lower classes were slaves — too busy wiping the asses of the elite to escape.  Royalty, like most gurus of the east, learned to rise above their unwanted false thoughts by projecting them out on to inferior others.  This became The Big Secret.  But it’s a false-self technique.  Identifying with the spiritual, positive, superior, winning, and good thoughts can trick others into playing the role they don’t want to play for awhile.  But eventually, they won’t be able to hide their negative aspects under a nice-looking mask if we stop believing them and taking on their projection.

In initiation, anyone can watch their mind, anyone can feel emotions and discriminate, and anyone can let go.  Initiation is true divine justice because anyone can gain eternal FREEDOM.  And when we let it all go, we simply are the watcher.

A Seductive Trap: The Superior False Self

Getting off the cross

By Cathy Eck

 

Seductive Trap

The false self is the opposite of the True Self.  But the reverse doesn’t apply.  The True Self isn’t the opposite of the false self.  Sounds illogical, I know.  But when you understand this, you’ll no longer fall into a very seductive trap.

Look at the most popular self-help programs today, and you’ll notice that they take something that is unwanted (false belief) and flip to the opposite thinking.  It now sounds like they’re teaching the truth.  But they aren’t.  They’re expressing the opposite of something false.  True words inserted into the false self are still false, not true.

Truth is accessed by the elimination of all that’s false, not the opposition of it.  I’ve often labeled this false superiority clone mind; it’s a huge trap for seekers.

 

Truth Has No Opposite

If we’re caught in this trap, we’ll feel like we’re good or right; and there’s an enemy out there that’s wrong or evil.  We’ll often feel proud of our superior position or expertise.  We might feel angry or fearful when we think of the opposition.  The best technique for getting rid of this mental trap is the triangle process.  When we eliminate both the right and the wrong, the good and the evil, from our OWN mind, we naturally end up resting in the truth, without opposite.  Now the beliefs of others show up as meaningless, false, and powerless.  They aren’t opposing us anymore.

People spend fortunes on programs that prey on our susceptibility to this trap.  If our undesirable state is poverty, they teach us how to get rich.  If we’ve been taught that we’re sinners, they’ll teach us how to be good.  We don’t want to be fat; so they teach us how to be thin.

Initiates called this being stuck on the cross.  It’s a great metaphor.  It means you’re stuck on the horizontal arms of the cross moving between opposites.  You can’t move in the vertical direction toward truth.

 

An Example

One day you’re feeling unloved.  You’re very aware of your beliefs and emotions.  Underneath your emotion is a belief like, “Nobody loves me or I don’t matter.”  If you dive down into your emotions, you’ll discover the exact causal belief.  You’ll realize that your belief isn’t true because it feels horrible, and you’ll let it go.  You’ll never believe that thinking and the corresponding emotional signal again.  If you happen to think it, it will look silly and false.

But let’s say that instead of letting go of the causal belief, a friend or family member comes along and says “I love you.  Don’t feel bad.”  It feels like they fixed your problem.  But they just put sprinkles on your bullshit.  For now, the emotion appears to be gone because your mind temporarily focuses on their nice words.  But that fix will wear off; you’ll need them to tell you those words again and again and again.  If they don’t say the words when you feel unloved, you might manipulate them into telling you they love you.  You might work tirelessly to get approval and love from any outsider, you could take drugs to numb yourself, or you might even pay someone else to give  you love.

People look for gurus and priests to tell them that they’re spiritual and good, teachers to tell them they can become prosperous, and doctors to tell them they’re healthy, etc.  We’ll accept belief after belief to patch our holes.  But the holes don’t stay patched.  The causal belief is still there, and it will reopen the hole in time.  Our holes need constant maintenance.

 

We Can Let Go

Occasionally, someone realizes that the answer isn’t outside.  They’ve looked everywhere, but they still have holes.  They realize that they’ve been trying to fix an imperfection that wasn’t even true.  The imperfection was a false, causal belief.  Now they’re ripe for initiation.  They’ll let go of anything.

Until the false self looks painfully stupid and wrong, most people won’t let it go.  The false self is very resistant to letting go of anything that it believes makes it superior.  People fear that if they let go of their positive bubbly self, they’ll become negative.  They fear that if they let go of their good girl or boy, they’ll become evil.  That isn’t true as long as we let go of both of the opposing sides of duality (triangle process).

If they’re an expert, their false mind will try to hold on to knowledge.  That’s how they make money.  They don’t realize that letting go of knowledge reveals true wisdom.  Wisdom is the only thing that’s true.  It can fulfill our desires much better than knowledge.

If we’re in a religion that says we’ve been chosen and everyone else is going to die in the apocalypse, we’re in a false superior trap.  We don’t want to lose our spot on the train to heaven so we hold on to our beliefs.

This is where the win-win test is invaluable.  We must look at our thoughts to see if they work for everyone in the universe.  If they don’t, they’re false beliefs with an opposite.  We’re in a false superior place.  It’s often hard to see the opposite within without the win-win test.  We’ve all become so good at projecting our unwanted beliefs on to others.  We’re sure the other is evil or wrong.  We don’t believe that our letting go can strip their false power, but it can.  Because they’re simply reflecting the other half of our dual thinking.  They complete us.  Yikes!!!

The goal of initiation was no beliefs — none, nada.  It allowed one to return to a pure, creative and unified state of mind.  After purification, the initiates inserted beliefs in their minds for creative purposes only; they let the beliefs go when their creative usefulness was done.  All creation was beneficial for everyone.  They never saw themselves as special or superior.  They didn’t have enemies.  They only saw themselves as free.

 

Mentoring Others to Let Go

Letting Go

By Cathy Eck

 

Mentoring

As you travel along the path to freedom, you’re going to want to start mentoring others.  Here are a few things that I’ve learned about mentoring.  Freedom mentoring is unique; it works from the inside out.  Normal coaching, teaching, or healing work creates change within the illusion; it fixes the effect of the illusion.  That doesn’t mean that those services don’t have a place.  As long as the illusion exists, people will seek comfort within it.  But if your desire is to achieve and give freedom, you have to get truthful about what freedom mentoring looks like.  Even when someone says they’re removing bad energy, they aren’t moving the person to freedom.  Providing a better or more positive point of view isn’t movement toward freedom.

Freedom mentoring at its best is about letting go.  That’s it.  Unless people know how to remove their own causal false thoughts, they’ll simply recreate their problems in the same or different form.  Or, they’ll project them on to others.  Freedom mentoring is about eliminating the potential for all problems forever.  To be blunt, those who seriously seek freedom mentoring have generally had enough of fucking problems.  So there’s nothing and no one they won’t let go.  If the person hasn’t gotten to that point, they won’t go all the way to freedom.

Ultimately when we’ve received the complete gift of freedom, we no longer need healers, teachers, gurus, or therapists.  Thus, freedom mentoring is a temporary job.

 

Make Sure They Want To Let Go

Some people are thrilled with the notion of letting go.  Others are resistant to the idea.  False fear of loss is the biggest restriction to letting go.  If someone doesn’t want to let go, don’t force them.  We don’t need to recruit True Selves.  Everyone already has one.  Whether another lives from their True Self or covers it up is their free will.

If someone resists letting go but wants to be mentored, help them look for a payoff of their problem.  Often they’re getting attention for it, or even money.

I take responsibility for any fears, judgments, or beliefs I have about their resistance.  Often their will can be quite convincing that they’re a victim, their problem is normal, or there’s no cure.  They might tell you letting go doesn’t work.  They’ll often become highly defensive or angry.  They can look possessed — they are, by their own false self.  At this point, I let them know they can keep their belief, but they’re giving up freedom.  We don’t have the right to dominate another or force them to let go.  If we battle them, we drop into our false self.  Then two people are drowning in the illusion.

We can be of enormous assistance by simply remove any beliefs or fears about them from our own mind.  At the very least, they have one person in the world who sees them problem free.  Once you let go, speak whatever your inspired to speak, and trust in their own True Self to handle the rest of the process.

Our True Selves always do the work of letting go.  In mentoring, we’re remembering their True Self’s knowing and unconditional love.  The false self can’t survive such purity.

 

The Truth Will Set Them Free

Some people want to vent or tell their story.  They believe that will get it off their chest.  They don’t realize that each time they tell their story, they’re giving it more power.  They’re getting less free.  The false self always says that it’s giving us what it’s actually taking.  It lies.  It tells you that telling your story will free you when it actually takes your freedom from you.

Often people tell their story looking for attention or approval.  Sadly, we’re socially trained to offer support for such behavior.

If they’re open to your mentoring, ask them to tell the story one line at a time.  Then after each line of the story, ask them if that felt good.  Remind them that if it didn’t feel good, it wasn’t true.

This is where things get tricky.  The story looks true to them because it was their reality.  But it isn’t true, the truth always feels calm and unemotional.  Their reality was the effect of their past beliefs.  So by telling the story and recognizing that it all feels bad and it all occurred in the illusion, they often find the causal beliefs that they need to let go.

 

Traditional Bridgework

What if you work as a traditional healer, teacher, or coach?  In the beginning, you don’t have to do anything different with your clients except make sure you don’t believe them.  This feels odd at first.  It feels like you aren’t connecting with them.  But any treatment that you offer will work much better if you actually realize that nothing is wrong with them.

Edgar Cayce, the sleeping prophet, gave thousands of readings on health problems.  In his sleeping state, he was able to determine what the person in need of healing believed and recommend a solution that matched their beliefs.  In addition, to the salve, herb, drug, or physical treatment, he often recommended that they look to their mind and emotions for the cause.  At one point, he started a group geared toward connection with God.  The group asked him if they would achieve connection in this life, and he pretty much said no.  I suspect he determined in his sleeping state that they weren’t letting go; they were soothing their wounds and memorizing the truth.

As a mentor, truthfulness is key.  We must avoid telling people what they want to hear.  That requires letting go of our fear of rejection.  We must let go first and then follow our inspiration.  We must care about their freedom more than looking good or smart.  Mentoring others in this way rewards the mentor and the person being mentored — both grow closer to freedom.  It’s always win-win.

The False Self as a Container and Level Confusion

beliefs separate

By Cathy Eck

 

We Are One

One of the most dangerous beliefs to come out of the New Age Movement is, “We are One.”  It’s hard to understand why this statement is dangerous because it’s true.  However, it’s only true at the True Self level.  When we put True Self thinking on top of false self beliefs, we create serious level confusion.  Our false self usually projects an opponent that we abhor, and we can’t escape them because our false mind thinks we’re one with them.

The last thing we want is oneness with other false selves.  If our false self believes in oneness, it will also become one with other people’s confusion, pain, or suffering; or it will take responsibility for things that we didn’t create.

Once we understand that our false selves weren’t designed to be one with other false selves, the process of letting go gets much easier and faster.  The false self is like a creative container.  In order to create anything, we do need some beliefs.  We hold the beliefs we need in our false self container while we create or co-create; then when we’re done with that creative act, we erase the container and start over.  This was called remaining a mental virgin in the ancient world.

Beliefs were never meant to be permanent.  The True Self holds that which is permanent or immortal; it can’t be erased.  Therefore, letting go of the belief in oneness is totally safe; and it can be life changing.

 

Mind As Computer

The computer is a near perfect analogy for our minds.  When we buy a computer, it comes with an operating system.  Everyone gets an  operating system.  You could say that computers are the same at birth.  But the operating system doesn’t do much; it only provides creative potential.  Likewise, our True Self is our mind’s operating system.  It provides the potential, but we need beliefs or programs to create.

Once we take over creative responsibility for our computer, we load programs, many of which we share with other users.  These popular programs could be likened to cultural or religious beliefs.  If we enjoy a particular program, we’ll want to study it or talk about it with others.  We might take classes in that program or join a user’s group.  We might not want to ever delete that program, but we can.  And, most important, we don’t have the right to sneak into another person’s office and install our program on their computer.  We must honor the privacy of  others and leave their hard drive alone.  Our passion is meant to fuel our own creativity — not to become an evangelist for our programs.

After loading programs, we add data, sound, and images that are uniquely our own.  In a short period of time, we won’t find another computer exactly like ours in all the world.  We can’t let go of the operating system or True Self because that would destroy our creative capacity.  But we have complete control over our hard drive (our false self).  We can add or delete programs and data as necessary depending on what we want to create and who we want to co-create with.

 

Back to The Mind

The data or programs we load into our false mind create uniqueness.  If we chose our programs carefully for creative purposes, we’ll love the focus and potential that our false mind provides.  We won’t feel separate from others because our True Self has oneness handled.  In addition, we’ll easily erase the beliefs when our creative focus changes.

But if we didn’t choose our programs, we’ll lack creative uniqueness.  We’ll only be able to copy others.  We’ll find it difficult or impossible to erase our hard drive.   We’ll fear that erasing the shared programs or data will produce loneliness (when the exact opposite is true).  Our perfect creative tool has now become a high security prison where the prisoners make sure that no one escapes.

If we’ve had controlling people in our life who thought they owned our hard drive, we’ll fear the programs (beliefs) of others.  We’ll fear that everyone wants to take over our hard drive.  When we fear that another can do such a thing, they do.  This is a huge problem in the world today.  Everyone is afraid of everyone else’s beliefs.  They keep trying to strengthen their firewall (boundaries) with more beliefs and programs.  They don’t realize that in order to fear another’s belief system, they have to hold it in mind.  If we let their beliefs go from our mind, we lose our fear of them.  Our immortal True Self provides far better protection than even the best program.

 

False Self Example

If my friend and I share a belief in hard work, and I delete my belief, her mental container remains unaffected.  I can’t delete beliefs from her mind.  But now I’m leading an easy life while she’s still working herself to death.  She could let go of her belief and join me, but she’s proud of her hard work ethic.  She gets approval for her martyrdom.  From her veiled perspective, I might look lazy or like I’m cheating at life.  I’m now her enemy.

The false self bonds or creates the illusion of oneness using beliefs.  It looks for like-minded people for comfort and security.  It wants other prisoners around it to validate its false rightness.  It feels lonely without like-minded support.

After letting go, we’re often tempted to turn back because those we care about believe we’ve abandoned, rejected or hurt them.  But we must keep letting go until we clear our mind completely and rediscover the place where WE REALLY ARE ALL ONE  — the place of no borders.  We didn’t abandon or reject them; they’re creating their own painful separation by holding on.  Once our own mind is free and our judgment gone, we can hold out our hand.  And often they reach up, grab on, and let go.  Now, WE ARE ONE.

 

The Art of Being Ordinary

Ordinary or Extraordinary?

By Cathy Eck

SCORPIO: What if you had the power to enchant and even bewitch people with your charisma? Would you wield your allure without mercy? Would you feel wicked delight in their attraction to you,even if you didn’t plan to give them what they want? I suspect these questions aren’t entirely rhetorical right now. You may have more mojo at your disposal than you realize. Speaking for your conscience, I will ask you not to desecrate your privilege. If you must manipulate people, do it for their benefit as well as yours. Use your raw magic responsibly. Halloween costume suggestion: a mesmerizing guru; an irresistible diva; a stage magician.  (Rob Brezsny’s Free Will Astrology:  http://FreeWillAstrology.com)

 

Astrology

Each year, in celebration of my Scorpio birthday, I save a copy of Rob Brezsny’s Free Will Astrology column.  I’m not fond of traditional astrology.  What spews from the mouth of most astrologers is a great description of our prison cell within the illusion disguised as the truth.  Many astrologers use their masculine position to keep people in their cells fearing retrograde planets and scary transits if they escape.

Our natural desire to be good provides incentive to will our way to the positive side of each sign, planet, and house while avoiding, and therefore projecting, the shadow side on to the world.  Rob presents both sides of the illusion and cracks open the gate to allow us to see our way out.  He’s an initiate at heart; it comes through in his unusual view of astrology.

My birthday horoscope brought me back to a time when I was faced with a difficult life choice.  During my business years, I had quite the reputation.  I was an expert — a valued authority.  People treated me with respect and admiration.  It was actually hard not to think highly of myself.  Nearly everyday, I received glowing compliments from people in high places.  I could pick up the phone and make things happen.

One day, while sitting in my office, I looked at a sign pasted on my computer.  “Be anything; just don’t be ordinary.”  It was one of those quotes you pick up from inspirational speakers and hear when you attend pump-you-up business conventions.  I’d read that quote a million times, but this time I had a moment of sanity.  I thought “What’s wrong with being ordinary?  Why do I fear it so?”  I realized that ordinary was like a demon that stood behind me constantly trying to pull me down.  Saying my magic affirmation was what kept that demon behind me.

 

The Choice

During my time in business, I came to know the ins and outs of the illusion.  I knew that with force of will, I could reign like a king over others.  I could win at the illusion game.  But I realized that little demon would always be there looking for an opening.

What if this strange pull to ordinary wasn’t really a demon?  Forcing my will never brought me the peace or freedom I truly desired.  Oh, I’d leave trails of losers along the way — the Scorpio in me thought that was a divine idea.  But I didn’t want to live from win-lose anymore.

I decided that I would choose ordinary and strip the power from this seeming demon. I’d no longer avoid ordinary; I’d dive in.  At first, I changed my business approach to win-win.  Eventually, I sold my business and dropped all my prestigious labels.  It was then that I came to realize why ordinary isn’t a happy state.

Ordinary (in the illusion) means assuming a feminine role to win-lose powermongers who need losers to win.  Ordinary means suppressing our God-given value and talents so that others can live an inflated life where their talents or knowledge are perceived as extraordinary.  In the illusion, ordinary people are valued for their ability to obediently worship the elite and to suffer with a smile.

 

Truth

In truth, being ordinary means being our True Self — as we’re designed.  The illusory extraordinary is actually a charismatic mask of power that keeps unconscious people spellbound in false beliefs.  While that mask appears to be more powerful than our True Self, it isn’t.

The notions of better or worse, superior or inferior, or extraordinary and ordinary aren’t real.  Only in the illusion are some talents valued more than others, are experts with knowledge considered greater than non-experts with wisdom, and are those with pedigrees naturally extraordinary.

After I made the tough decision to no longer use my ability to play an OSCAR-worthy guru, wizard, or magician, I felt a great loss.  I missed the accolades and the money.  I missed having people listen to me and trust me.

When I wielded my allure, bewitched people with my charm, and gave them knowledge which served the illusion, they adored me.  Now that I dropped the facade, spoke the truth, and wanted only win-win experiences, those same people found me odd, wrong, and even evil at times.

The illusion also made me outer directed.  The art of being ordinary demanded inner direction.  I had to let go of all the rewards of the illusion, including my false power and value.  That’s why Jesus said the rich won’t get to heaven.  Heaven is freedom, our True Self; but when we’re winning in the illusion, it’s hard to leave.

As Rob suggests, if I must manipulate, I should do it for the other’s benefit.  I do use what looks like Scorpio power to convince people to let go, to be themselves, and to choose love over judgment or hate.  I use it to push the seeming extraordinary off their pedestals and to provide some wings for the seeming ordinary until they can fly on their own.  I could still dip into the illusion and produce some raw magic, mojo, or charisma at will; but why would I when being ordinary means being my True nature, and being my True Self means being free.

Storytelling or History: What’s the Difference?

Footprints in the Sand

By Cathy Eck

 

Storytelling Versus History

I enjoy stories very much.  I love to read them, to write them, and to watch them on the big screen.  But I don’t like history at all.  History is usually presented by the winners; it’s masculine-dominant (his story, not her story) and fact driven, not character driven.  In short, it’s food for the intellect, the false self.

The difference between storytelling and history has become blurred in people’s minds because our educational systems emphasize history over storytelling.  We can learn a lot by studying the difference between storytelling and history.

If we want to write a story, we first develop characters and maybe a plot or a story idea.  We give the characters a false-self perspective, including a back story, preferences, and beliefs.  Then we turn the characters loose and let them interact.  If the characters don’t like the results they’re getting, they’ll hopefully have a change of mind.  If the characters don’t change their mind, the story eventually becomes predictable and boring.  If the characters don’t grow, viewers will stop feeling sympathy for their troubles.

We see these things clearly on the big screen, but often ignore them in our own lives.  Suffering isn’t natural; it’s the consequence of being unwilling to expand our perspective and grow.  Suffering comes from holding on to what we no longer need.  Mental hoarding, just like physical hoarding, is destructive.

 

Life is Storytelling

We’re all living a potentially great story whether we know it or not.  Two decades ago, the Story of “The Legend spontaneously popped out of my unconscious.  That began my exploration into the nature of storytelling.  I could see that “The Legend” was like an undercurrent in my life.  Fairy tales, myths, and religious stories sit in our unconscious as causal forces in our life.  This is why religions and cultures are built on a foundation of storytelling.  We’re controlled by the stories we hold in mind as true.  If we share a common foundation of story with another, we’ll have similar beliefs and see the world through homogeneous eyes.

Modern video games take storytelling to a new level.  I used to watch my children play them, moving from level to level.  If their character screwed up, they’d say, “Oh, I died.”  They’d restart the game.  I felt as though I was watching a miniature version of life.  You either make it to the next level in your storyline, or you die.  The difference is that the gamer realizes he’s responsible for his fate.

 

His Story

History is literal.  There’s no room for individuality or interpretation.  It’s simply the reporting of facts — names, dates, and physical events.  History is always one-sided; usually the winners write history.  As we’ve become more left-brained or intellectual, we’ve forgotten the cause and effect relationship in life.  We fail to consider that every event has a belief-related cause behind it.  We accept the winner’s false-self projection that their enemy is evil and deserving of punishment.

Today, people share their personal stories in historical form.  They think they’re storytelling, but they aren’t.  Great stories allow for change; and great storytellers allow their characters to transform.  People have labeled the oldest stories mythology because they find so many versions of the old stories.  Old stories changed as the characters changed.  History put an end to that; history keeps us stuck within a false, collective mindset.

 

The Key

The true storyteller knew that he created every single character, even the evil ones.  The historian only identifies with one character — the one they label good or right.  

The historian acts as if he or she is either a hero or victim.  They’re telling the story to get sympathy, attention, or approval.  If they get such rewards, they’ll continue to tell the story to keep it alive.

Often we get stuck in another person’s story; we feel like we can’t get free.  We feel bad if we expose another as cause in their drama because we’ve been trained to feel guilty for revealing the cause of history.  We aren’t supposed to point out that the Emperor is naked.

 

Freedom

Freedom requires owning all the characters in our story and seeing that they fit together like a puzzle.  The victim and perpetrator/hero are opposites who have divided thought in the same way (see the triangle process); and the evil that the hero fights is simply his or her shadow.

The psychologist Fritz Perls popularized Gestalt therapy.  Perls studied people’s dreams.  He required them to see themselves as every character and even every essential item in the dream.  In this way, they could step back and see their whole mind; they could see themselves as cause.  When we see our whole mind, we see the mental cause of our problems.  Then we can change our mind more easily.

 

We’re All Storytelling

Many have said that we’re all storytelling.  We invent a story; then ideally we direct, produce, and star in it.  But when we don’t own our mind, we just play a walk-on part in someone else’s drama.  When we follow the false mind (which we acquired from others) over our heart (True Self), our own story remains unlived and untold.  We don’t grow or change.  Life becomes boring, and we feel without purpose.

This happens when we accept masculine and feminine roles; and we place ourselves in a feminine role to another.  Dropping roles that don’t bring us joy is key to returning to our own original story.

Screenwriters say that the audience wants an inciting incident (usually a fall of sorts) in the first ten minutes.  From the perspective of story, we plan our fall into the illusion.  You probably lived that part of your story.  But what happened after that.  Did you learn?  Did you grow?  Did you change?  Did you let go of your “evil” shadow?  Did you love?  That’s what makes a story great.  And most important, did you get that precious and rare happily ever after?

Honesty, Reality, and the True Self

Honesty and looking in the mirror

By Cathy Eck

 

Honesty Used Ineffectively

One of the biggest problems that arises in people who want to be themselves and free their mind is they’re usually really honest people.  Often their honesty gets them in trouble when trying to let go.  This was a mind trick that nailed my ass to the wall for a long time.

Let’s say you want to lose weight.  When you look in the mirror, you see reality.  You don’t like what you see, and your false mind honestly comments on what it sees.  Positive thinkers would say to look in the mirror and say, “I’m a skinny person,” 5000 times.  But you’re an honest person; that just doesn’t work for you.  It feels like lying.  In fact, it just makes things worse.  Since you can’t lie, and your reality is in your face, you feel hopelessly screwed by your own honesty.

The problem is that your beliefs have already created too much weight.  So how do you get behind the reality to let go of the beliefs?  What you must realize is that the beliefs you currently hold in mind in this very moment are the beliefs that got you to this point.  The good news is that as you look in the mirror, you’re probably feeling emotion.  That means that the beliefs are close to the surface of your mind.  The emotion will take you to the causal belief if you follow it.

The key is to change your mental focus from what you see to what you are thinking and feeling.  In that way, you can find the cause and let it go.

Our goal is to let go of any belief about weight that isn’t true.  If we can let go of all of the beliefs that we have about food, exercise, genetics, body type, or weight in general, then we won’t be able to create too much weight anymore.

Now I realize that I’ve picked a loaded topic.  Most of us can let go of food and exercise beliefs for a long time without running out of them.  We’ve accepted a hell of a lot of them; and if we’re honest, they all feel bad.  They can also be tricky to let go because we got most of them from experts.  But if we want freedom, we have to strip the power from the experts.  Our True Self is much wiser.

 

The Process

As we look in the mirror and see too much weight, we can feel the emotion arising.  Our honesty is dying to express itself.  If we’ve hung out in the new thought movement, we’ll want to put whipped cream on our honesty.  But don’t do it.  Whatever our mind is saying is just a belief; we don’t have to hide it or fear it because we can let it go.  This is really facing our fears.  Instead of decorating them, stuffing ourselves with some cake, turning on the television, or whining to a friend, we feel the emotion, witness the causal thoughts as they arise, and let them all go.

Let’s say that when you looked in the mirror you said, “I’m so fat.”  That comment clearly doesn’t feel good.  But you say, “That isn’t a belief.  It’s true.  I am fat.”  And therein lies the problem. Focusing on reality or labeling it solidifies the belief even more.  It makes it even harder to create change.

 

Honesty is Your Ally

Most people say, “You must deny what you see.  Cancel, cancel.”  That’s just fixing the illusion, and the illusion will come back later on.  We must remove the illusion to eliminate the problem completely.

We succeed if we turn our honesty on our mind.  This is what allows the situation to change.  Our biggest mental downfall, that perpetuates all problems, is that we’re all far too focused on reality.  We talk about reality; we warn people about reality.  But reality is caused by our beliefs.  Reality isn’t the truth.  Remember reality is our True Self, plus our beliefs.

We must stop commenting on what we SEE in the mirror; instead, we turn our ally of honesty on our mind.  Our mind says, “You look terrible.”  That comment clearly doesn’t feel good; so it isn’t true (meaning it isn’t who we really are).  Go into mind clean up mode.  Stay focused on the job at hand.  Our mind can continue to comment all it wants; but as it comments, we let go of every thought that doesn’t feel good.  In this way, we’ve begun the process of clearing our mind of all the beliefs that caused the excess weight.

As the beliefs go, we might spontaneously choose different food, find ourself taking up a sport, or just losing the weight without any action at all.  Our True Self will inspire us if any action is necessary for us.

 

The Goal of Life

The goal of life is not to prove reality right.  Anyone can do that.  The goal of life is to return to our True Self.  To do that, we must let reality know that we know it’s false.

This is the hardest switch for people to make in freeing their minds.  Almost no one does it.  It’s especially difficult when it comes to our body, our finances, or world events.  It drives us insane in relationships where we let go, and the other person keeps reminding us of reality.  But that’s why initiation isn’t for wimps.

Our false self thinks that we have to fix reality.  But reality is an illusion.  It makes no sense to fix a false illusion.  Eventually, one incredibly wonderful day, we no longer hold any beliefs in our mind.  Then reality and the truth are the same thing.

So be honest about what you are thinking, not what you see.  Be hard core in forcing your mind to drop whatever thoughts contain emotion.  Then you can turn anything around.

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Escaping the Feminine Role

Feminine role

By Cathy Eck

 

The Feminine Role

In the illusion, the masculine role is the authority or assertive role.  Consequently, the masculine role is easy to drop.  But no one wants to play the powerless, feminine role, so people hold on to masculine roles.  When we need to be in control, we fear the feminine role.  If we’re addicted to victimhood, we’re stuck and apathetic in the feminine role.

Life in the illusion has a way of pulling us into the feminine.  Eventually, we retire from our expert or authority job.  Our body gives out; we can no longer be the sports star.  Our kids grow up.  It looks like we’ve lost our mojo; it feels terrible unless we understand what’s occurring.  Our feminine self needs healing.

 

Feeling Powerless

Traditionally, the feminine role was the child, wife, slave, employee, or prisoner.  These roles had no power in the illusion; good meant obedient.  Then came a new kind of feminine role that appeared to be masculine but wasn’t.  The soldier believes he has power over the enemy; but he’s just following orders.  Conspiracy theorists notice when leaders in power aren’t being rational; they seem to be following orders of a hidden authority.  If we’re obeying another person, we’re in a feminine role.

If you saw the movie “Jobs” about Steve Jobs, you saw him change when Apple became a public company.  He became feminine to his board of directors.  He had to obey orders even if it wasn’t good for the company.   There’s nothing more horrific then submitting to a false leader.  Yet, we do it all the time; we continue to perpetuate blind obedience and respect for authority because we think it’s true and an unavoidable part of life.

One would think that leaders would be more conscious of this.  After all, we all start out in the feminine role as children.  We all feel the sting of having to take orders from another who doesn’t lead from unconditional love.  Sadly, when people get into the masculine role, they seem to think they’re always right.  They follow the unspoken Golden Role, which is “I do to others what was done to me.”

 

The Escape

We know we’re in a feminine role when we feel stuck in someone’s illusion.  It can be as serious as being in a prison camp or as insignificant as listening to our friend whine.  Either way, we feel stuck in a feminine role and can’t escape.

We must first recognize that our own beliefs got us in the role.  Usually we feel the need to be obedient or nice.

When we let go of the beliefs that caused us to assume the feminine role, we begin to match our True Self’s perspective.  Letting go of the false is what gets us to true.  This appears to be impossible because we’ve submitted to the other person; and both of us believe that they’re in the masculine power role.  But it is very possible.

We also submit willingly to false selves.  We hire a trainer to get fit.  The trainer is only giving us knowledge — their version of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil.  If we believe them, their beliefs will override our old beliefs about fitness.  Seekers are looking for a better spiritual belief system.  In sickness, we look for someone who believes in a cure.   In the illusion, we spend our life trying to trade up beliefs causing us to form codependent relationships around beliefs.  Letting go breaks these false ties to experts and authority figures.  Our own True Self has the wisdom of life we seek; it has no problems to fix.

 

Stuck in the Feminine Role 

The key to escaping a feminine role is to witness our emotions and discriminate continuously.  Wallowing in our emotions keeps us stuck.  We must let go of any belief that enters our mind or arises that has an emotional component.  Here’s an example of what I teach people to do who feel stuck in the feminine by racism.

Racist:  You’re lazy and good for nothing.

Feminine:  Doesn’t speak.  They go inward and feel the emotion inside of their body as they receive the words of the racist.  They recognize that their own emotional navigator is saying, “Don’t believe them; what they say isn’t true.”  So they let go of the words they hear because they aren’t true.  Now those words don’t take hold in their body-mind.  In fact, the emotional energy goes back to the racist.

Racists or bulles don’t fall over easy.  It’s likely that they’ll receive their emotion back and try again.  After all, they’re psychologically reversed.  They think their false belief is true because it has emotion.  Psychologically reversed leaders create very confused followers.  So you have to stay in true and false discrimination until they go away.  They will.  True trumps authority; it pulls us outside of the illusion where false authorities can’t harm us.

The goal of most people in a masculine role is to eliminate their own emotions by projecting them on another.  They don’t realize their emotions are related to their own stinking thinking.  When people say that a role (like healer, preacher, performer, or teacher) is life giving, they’re usually projecting their beliefs on those in the feminine role, which gives their beliefs (false self) more power.  A role or purpose is not life giving.  Being our True Selves is life giving.  True roles are for cocreation only.

Finally, we must look at our own beliefs to see what caused us to accept a false feminine role.  Most beliefs came from ancestors.  We’re taught to believe we must obey authority or respect elders.  We’re taught that what happens to others can happen to us.  We’re taught that if our beliefs generate emotion, they’re true.  We stop discriminating.  We believe what we’re told.  Eventually, if we let all those beliefs go, no one can put us in an illusory feminine role again.  We’re one step closer to freedom.

 

Letting Go of Masculine and Feminine Roles

Apple of Tree of Life or Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil

By Cathy Eck

 

Understanding masculine and feminine roles is key to stripping the illusion from our mind.  Masculine and feminine roles were created through stories that were presented as right or true.  The stories caused our minds to accept the masculine role as authority, deserving of obedience and respect.  Once that was accomplished, the masculine roles in the world could abuse their power.  They still do.

When we don’t understand roles, we can’t and don’t discriminate between true and false.  We also tend to either project on others or absorb or reflect the projection of our authority figures.  Let’s look more closely at roles.

 

Inner Roles Defined

Our inner mind has a masculine and a feminine aspect.  When we’re thinking from our True Self, those two mental aspects work together seemlessly.  This was called the alchemical marriage.

When we’re thinking from our True Self, we think only productive thoughts.  We hear creative ideas and truthful thoughts that are calm and harmless to ourselves and others.  We get ideas that cause the world to evolve.  We move nicely along our True path. The effects of our thoughts are always good and win-win in nature.

 

False Mind

Our false mind was created by others who wanted us to think their way.  They wanted to become our false God.  Our minds weren’t designed to hold false beliefs.  In fact, we’re all given a powerful lie detector — emotions.  When we feel emotions, it’s because our OWN mind is thinking false thoughts.  That occurs because:  we’re holding false beliefs in mind and aren’t discriminating; or our authorities are projecting their beliefs on us, and we believe them.

The false self is born whenever we accept our first false thought (belief); the roles in our mind change.  In the false self, the masculine intellect is the inner and outer authority; the emotions become something to eliminate because emotions expose the false self.

In most religious stories and myths, masculine had all the power.  God was male.  That elevated the intellect.  Now an intellect offers a belief, and we do feel emotion at first.  But we can’t do a damn thing about it.  The intellect has authority.  So we accept their thought into our own mind as true.  We just ate the apple from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.  If we do this enough, we’ll start to feel emotion when the True Self speaks and calmness when we hear our beliefs.  We’ve been psychologically reversed.

Someone says to us, “You’re an ass.”  If they’re not our authority, we’ll say, “No, I’m not.”  We’ll let their comment go.  However, if an authority says it, we’ll accept their thought into our mind and hold on to it.  We’ll feel helpless to let it go because we been trained to believe that we can’t change the minds of authority.  Clever huh!

The social norm of respecting elders keeps us from discriminating.  Obedience to authority causes us to ignore emotional signals.  Putting knowledge ahead of our emotions prevents us from questioning the doctor, teacher, parent, or clergy.

 

Outer Roles Defined

Outer roles aren’t about bodies or sex.  A woman can play a masculine role.  A man also plays many feminine roles.

I’ve explained before that the clergy, policemen, parent, doctor, and teachers are all examples of masculine roles.  The masculine role has authority or is the one that’s asserting or giving.  The feminine role receives.

Roles aren’t inherently bad.  If I give you a gift, I’m playing the masculine role.  You’re in the feminine role.  If I serve you a meal, I’m in the masculine role as giver.  Those are pure transactions.  We call them first-cause ideas.  They don’t trap us in the illusion.

Second-cause thinking, however, contains judgment defined by “the man” (although people can be savvy about saying that God spoke to them).  Second-cause thinking creates inequality through position, pedigree, race, culture, religion, or sex; it traps us in the illusion.

Good and evil are critical to the illusion; we aren’t whole if our mind believes in good and evil because we can’t be both at the same time.  We can’t win and lose at the same time.  We live life like we’re riding waves — we’re up, then we’re down.  We’re always half of a whole.  That’s not balanced  — it’s a disaster.

 

Escaping Roles

To escape the illusion, we must recognize and understand roles.  If a person plays an authority role, or a more powerful role within the illusion, they must honor the role responsibly.  The husband can’t blame the wife or kids in a traditional marriage.  The teacher can’t blame students.  They’re the authority.  If we play the role of authority, we must accept responsibility.  We get the credit and the blame.

Likewise, if we’re playing a feminine role, we must learn not to blindly accept beliefs or labels from authority.  We must listen to our emotional lie detector.

If we’re with a friend on equal footing, the masculine and feminine roles gently switch back and forth.  The person speaking is masculine; the listener is feminine.  There’s no competition or desire for power.  The notion of authority must go for us to return to the Garden of Eden.  That won’t happen until enough of us have individually eliminated our beliefs about obedience to authority, second-cause thinking, and judgment from our mind.  Normal thinking must return to purely True and False.

To get out of the illusion, we do the opposite.  When we fell, we believed authority without question.  We took in beliefs as if they were true.  Now we look at the beliefs of those authorities from our past and see if their words had an emotional component.   We let go of the beliefs regardless of who gave them to us.

If your mind isn’t too psychologically reversed, you can make the correction on our own.  If not, get someone to help you discriminate.

Eventually, we learn to be in the illusion but not impacted by it.  Authority loses it’s false power.  We’re free.