By Cathy Eck
After letting go for a while, we naturally want to share what we’re doing with others; and we should. It’s a very important part of the process. But often people get too anxious. They want to become the next Tony Robbins. They get frustrated when sharing doesn’t catapult them to fame and fortune. That’s because sharing is really about getting feedback on our own clarity; and if we use the feedback, it will serve us well.
I spent years wondering how to share the initiates’ wisdom in a responsible way. I didn’t get this information from any organization or teacher so I could actually share it without fear of having my tongue cut out; I took no such oaths. I had no rules to follow. The same goes for you. But I came to realize very quickly that saying that our emotions point to false beliefs in our own mind — beliefs that people hold as absolutely true — was a little different than telling people to get positive and enthusiastic.
I realized that if I just gave people the final answer, they’d put that whipped cream wisdom on top of their existing manure beliefs; they’d never get free. The self-help movement and New Age did enough of that. Or, if I exposed beliefs but didn’t provide techniques on how to remove them, like conspiracy theorists do, it would be like cutting someone open on the operating table and telling them to go home. What others were doing wasn’t helping people to get free.
I realized that I had to fearlessly expose false beliefs while supporting the process of letting go. This required letting go of my fear of authority and the fear that I would be misunderstood or judged. I had to let go of my fear of retribution and hell. I had to let go of the notion of opposition or competition. This took time … in fact years. I was questioning beliefs that nearly everyone was sure were true. And I still do…
As I’ve done the work on myself, my message has grown slowly and organically. I write or speak only when inspired to do so. Most important, blogging pushes me to let go of collective beliefs and beliefs that would not normally enter into my life. We actually have far more beliefs than we realize. We have beliefs about ourselves, others, authorities, and even the earth.
I wanted to create a space and a support system whereby people could become free like they did in the ancient world if they wanted to do so. That meant not making freedom “right” or “good,” even though it was the only thing that felt right to me.
Wisdom Vs. Knowledge
Over time, I learned a few things about sharing this wisdom. Here are some guidelines that I use:
0) I don’t do it for money or fame. As you let go, you move into abundance. But it probably won’t look like you thought it would. When you share something responsibly you don’t want to jump into fame. People bring you beliefs that you’ve not yet let go; and it takes time to clear your mind. If too many people come at once, you get overwhelmed with your own beliefs.
1) I don’t share insights right away. I share once I feel the wisdom has integrated within me — when it’s knowing, not knowledge. Often our mind gets a glimpse of wisdom before we’ve cleared the contrasting beliefs out of our body. This is why insights often feel fleeting at first. They aren’t yet ripe for sharing.
2) I don’t mix other processes and techniques with letting go EVER. Very important. EFT (tapping) isn’t letting go. Drugs aren’t letting go. Energy techniques aren’t letting go. Therapy isn’t letting go. Traditional motivational coaching isn’t letting go. Meditation isn’t letting go. Here’s why. If we change our energy, raise our vibration, fix our words, or let go of our emotion, but we think/believe the same at the core, we’ll keep creating the same kinds of experiences and meeting the same kinds of people. Letting go is about using emotions to find our beliefs. We can’t find our beliefs if we’ve transmuted or tapped away our discriminating emotional system or covered it up with positive thinking or willful action.
4) I constantly watch my own masculine mind to make sure I’m not projecting. If I’m in a masculine role, and I fear, judge, or hate any other then they’re my reflection. I’ve divided thought into good and evil or right and wrong. I let go of what I see in them. It’s not who they really are in truth. Then my emotion goes away; and now I’m clear to share. Most of the world spends their life fixing their own projections (often they bill for it).
5) Write or speak to share, not to fix. If I want to fix or change someone, I still see their beliefs as having power. This is subtle and often overlooked. When we see the illusion as powerless, which it is, we lose our desire to fix it. We realize that beliefs harm the believers. When the believers want out, we lend a hand.
6) I never make the mistake of considering myself an expert or thinking I’ve arrived. There are a lot of beliefs in this world. Often the more we let go, the more beliefs we see. I can’t let go of the truth or let go of too much. In this way, my compassion grows.
I continue to let go and then take what I get as feedback. Then I let go some more. I expect to have less beliefs each day; and I make sure I achieve that. That’s what I now consider a successful day.