Why You Don’t Want to Do Emotional Release Techniques

Being robotic is not human.

By Cathy Eck 

Beliefs don’t make you human; they make you a fucking robot.  Letting go of them makes you human.  But without emotions, you won’t know what to let go.


Pleeeaaase, Just Solve My Problems

When we are stuck in the illusion, we’re always looking for solutions to problems.  When someone comes along with something that appears to solve the problem at hand, we’ll try it.  We just want relief.

Most people think they want relief from their emotions, pain, or diseases.  They actually want relief from their beliefs.

Emotions are more taboo than ever.  Doctors blame emotions for diseases.  Religion blames emotions for non-believers’ inability to see their ridiculous logic (thank God).  Parents tell their kids not to emote; and husbands call their wives crazy for being emotional.  There is a giant conspiracy to rid the world of emotions.  Many medicate, meditate, or drink to create a facade of calmness while projecting their emotions out into the world.  They tell us that the world they see is real; it isn’t.  It is their illusion — the sum total of their beliefs.

Unless people free their mind of beliefs, they project an illusory world.  When we don’t know this, we think the illusion they see is real.  Then we believe them, and get stuck in their drama.  We all did this as children.  We entered the Land of Make Believe that our ancestors gave us.


Emotions Have a Purpose

People are naturally calm; emotions arise for two reasons.  Either we are thinking a belief that is not true, but we previously accepted as true; or we just believed a lie or belief from another.  Most of our emotions come from listening to people who don’t know their ass from a hole in the wall; but they are convincing, so we believe them.

To get rid of these dreaded emotions, techniques were invented.  You can now tap, clap, speak in tongues, breath, smash a pillow with a baseball bat, or fart three times while whistling Dixie to rid yourself of emotions.  It works more like hypnosis than true healing.  Often you get rid of one fear and a new one arises.  You get rid of the pain in your knee and your elbow hurts.  The cause is always a belief; and these techniques don’t address the belief.  They shoot the messenger.

Emotional release techniques are like covering up your car’s gas gauge so that you discover you’re out of gas when your car stops.  If we get rid of our emotions, we can no longer discriminate between true and false.

The techniques do sometimes work by accident.  Occasionally, while doing the technique, you think, “Now that was stupid, Why did I believe that?”  You see the causal thought, and you let go.  But you don’t need to tap or fart to get that result.


My Confession

For years, I did EFT, various forms of kinesiology, and the granddaddy of them all, the Sedona Method/Abundance Course.  People kept telling me that this would fix my emotions, but no one told me my emotions were fine.  I noticed that people who did these techniques were lifetime students.  They didn’t really get better, they just moved their problems around and projected them on to others.  They got spiritual, but not free.

After years of trying to get rid of my emotions, I went to a retreat where several people said they were free.  They looked like fucking robots.  They had gotten rid of their emotions and completely chased away their Goddess.  They weren’t human anymore.  That was the end of emotional release for me.  I now understood that the goal is not to get rid of our emotions; it is to use them the way God designed them.  That is what gets us free.

I was trying and trying to fix my emotions.  However, my emotions were doing exactly what they were designed to do.  I was married to someone with boatloads of beliefs; he spent his life convincing me to think like him.  When he spoke the beliefs, my emotions simply shouted, “Don’t listen to him.”  They were doing their job perfectly.  His emotions didn’t work because he’d chased away his Goddess decades earlier.  Consequently, he couldn’t discriminate.  I was simply a lie detector that was running constantly.

My hand was resting on a hot stove, and I kept thinking there was something wrong with me.  I could not see that picking up my hand was all I needed to do.  That is when I realized the bigger problem.  I wasn’t the only one with my hand on the stove, and I had to let others know that there is nothing wrong with their emotions either.  Our emotions go off because it is their job to signal beliefs.


Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

We live in a world of lies and believers, they look wrong to a Goddess (or God).  Women would say during the election, I feel so emotional when I listen to Mitt Romney.  He was a belief machine — a robot.  But we were trained to obey authority, to not argue with elders, and never question those in power; we obey and elect people who really don’t deserve to clean our shoes.

We don’t have the right to ask the world to change, and we don’t have to.  We must know ourselves.  If our emotions scream, we listen to our Goddess, follow her, and take out the belief in our mind that caused our reaction.  We can stop believing lies we hear from others.  When we do this consistently, we contribute to a truthful world.  We respect the truthful people, and ignore the rest.  Liars quit lying when it doesn’t serve them.  The world is not in a battle of good and evil; it is in a battle of true and false.  When we honor the truth, it will set us all free.


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12 thoughts on “Why You Don’t Want to Do Emotional Release Techniques

  1. Blaze says:

    I’ve never resonated with any teachings like I do with yours. Recently, I stopped praying, feeling gratitude, ended my EFT sessions, hypnosis, and I even feel like ending the usage of healing stones. I feel as if these don’t work.

    May I ask a question. Is all I need to do is basically watch my emotions mindfully? Acknowledge them as simply a belief and release it? Is it this simple?

    I know the ego and beliefs in us are extremely limited. It makes life so difficult. I see it in me and I am going to dissolve it fully.

    You have no idea how much more important you will become! Thank you!!!

    • Cathy says:

      Hi Blaze,
      I’m glad, but I’m not important. The information I convey is quite cool, however.

      Yes it is that simple kind of. As you witness the emotion, there has to be a realization that the belief is false. Sometimes that takes some persistence on your part. In other words, it’s not the technique but the realization that the technique allows. Old beliefs try to convince you they are true. After all they’ve produced evidence. So that’s why it seems hard or impossible to people. But if it resonates with you, then you know this and it’s burried under beliefs. Just keeping digging toward it. Cathy

  2. Emotions are not bad, it’s the ones that we have held onto at a cellular level for years that we use as our lens to see the world. The Emotional Release Method is just a tool. It doesn’t get rid of our emotions, it just releases the attachments that can be paralyzing. The work can be life changing because it helps release the negativity so that you can be with the real you and honor who you are and your feelings. Not your little wounded child. We are human and will always feel. The purpose of this is not to negate all feelings, it’s to honor your truth.
    I was carrying the need to worry and the need to beat myself up for a life time. When I released those beliefs, I was blank the next day. Couldn’t believe how much those two things had been running my life. Now I can feel my sadness, my pain, my joy, and love from my core. It’s not about being happy all of the time. That is not possible. It’s about being able to access my soul without my ego getting in the way.
    The Emotional Release Method is not the be all end all. That in combination with many other techniques can provide life changing healing.

    • Cathy says:

      Hi Lisa,
      We are talking from two very different perceptions. If this is the only article that you’ve read on my blog, you wouldn’t know that.

      I never said emotions were bad. In fact, what I’ve said throughout my blogs is they take us to the causal technique. They are very necessary and useful. So you don’t want to get rid of something useful by tapping it away. You also don’t want to just accept emotions as normal. They are always a sign that we’re holding on to a belief that takes us away from who we truly are.

      Some people get relief from emotional release techniques just like any belief system, religion, or therapy. That’s fine. But I get letters everyday from people who have spent time and money on such techniques and got nothing. They wonder what is wrong with them and why they can’t find the answer. These people are my typical readers. They don’t just want relief, they want completely freedom.

      It is very possible that it worked for you because you did let go. We are naturally designed to let go, and sometimes a technique will cause that to happen. But it is not the technique that caused that to happen, it is the person who let go. Quite often, they just accept a belief in the technique and the explanation because the explanation sounds somewhat logical. And what these techniques don’t track but I do is how often the problem just resurfaces in another way at a later time. It looks like the EFT worked, but it didn’t. The mind just figured out a work-around. In addition, people who are coaches and practitioners of such things often get greater benefits because they have patients to project their issues on to. Many of my readers have been patients that walked away with the practitioner’s problems. This is part of the deception that pervades that industry as a whole. All of these things must be taken into consideration.

      If you’ve just come to my blog, you might not realize that this blog isn’t about getting emotional relief or fixing problems. It is about a level of freedom that most people don’t know exist. It isn’t about being happy all the time; it about being clear, completely clear, and calm all the time. It is about having a quiet mind without trying. It is about being who you are all the time without any belief systems running in your mind. To get there, my reader must understand and eliminate all the fixing techniques that they’ve used in the past. We are just talking about two completely different end goals. Thank you for writing. Cathy

  3. J says:

    Did you actually understand the purpose behind Emotional Release? You don’t pretend you don’t have emotions, you actually experience the emotions you have been hiding from. It’s not like you wave a magic wand over your body and voila all emotions are released.

    Often people get worse when they do emotional release. And the people who had emotional releases that I’ve experience have looked more alive than they did before that.

    What’s the point of an emotion if you’re not aware of it? Oh, and beliefs are only around because of the emotional charge they hold. Once the emotional charge is released/acknowledged, the belief has no hold.

    • Cathy says:

      Hi J,
      I understand what you are saying, and yes I do understand emotional release techniques and used them before I figured out how to let go. The problem is that freedom requires letting go on the fly, not doing a technique. You are always working after the fact with emotional release techniques. That isn’t good enough in this world. So while they can fix problems, they don’t work for my audience, which is people who want complete freedom. They are a good tool to help people within the illusion.

      I write for people who want freedom. Also people who use emotional release techniques don’t admit that the thinking of the patient was false; and to get to freedom, you have to see that what you were believing was false. Also you can also look more alive after you find a better belief or get some hope; but if the belief still exists or you still hold it as true, someone will get you to believe it again.

      When people practice letting go, they are responsible for their own mind. They clean out beliefs, and see the purpose of their emotions clearly. They become walking discrimination systems, and they don’t get stuck in beliefs. I guarantee you that if you practice letting go for awhile, you’ll never want to use an emotional release technique again. Thank you for your comment. Cathy

  4. Just like the story of Mara…

    One day Mara, the Evil One, was traveling through the villages of India with his attendants. he saw a man doing walking meditation whose face was lit up on wonder. The man had just discovered something on the ground in front of him. Mara’s attendant asked what that was and Mara replied, “A piece of truth.”

    “Doesn’t this bother you when someone finds a piece of truth, O Evil One?” his attendant asked. “No,” Mara replied. “Right after this, they usually make a belief out of it.”

  5. Lauren says:

    I am very interested in this piece about not doing emotional release techniques, but am a bit confused when you say instead of trying to let go of emotions, let go of the beliefs that caused that emotion. Can you expand more there? Also, what about suppressed emotions, or emotional damage that keeps surfacing? How do you clear that?

    • Cathy says:

      The key is that we don’t realize what causes emotions. Emotions are always caused by beliefs that aren’t true. But we have been trained to not see that because it allows us to be controlled. So when we just let go of the emotions, we’ll have them again. The belief is still there, and when it is active it will generate more emotion. We’re stuck.

      If we find the causal belief, and let it go because we recognize it is false, we are actually free. All emotions are the same. But you might want to check out my posts on roles on this site — you can search for masculine or feminine roles. Roles create the confusion. When we are in the feminine role, it is very difficult to let go. Consequently, we feel like we can’t. Also people perpetuate that notion. But we can let go, and that is one of the things that I teach is how to let go from the feminine role. If you look that up in search, you’ll find it described in a recent article. Thank you for writing. Cathy

  6. Helle says:

    You know, the more I think about this the more it really hits home. I have always been very emotional, growing up in a crazy household, and I’ve always been told emotions were bad. I remember my dad telling me I couldn’t go to my room to be sad. I had to “stand right there and smile and be happy, damn it!” Those were his exact words. Wow, he was the ultimate control freak. I was not allowed to be sad, scared, hurt – the only option was to be happy. That was the only emotion that was allowed.
    So, yes, I’ve tried everything I could to get rid of those emotions and I’ve failed miserably. And good god – now I’m even writing it in a public place!!!
    I love this article, Cathy! Really triggering a lot of stuff for me.

  7. Helle says:

    As always, so profound and also so funny! I love it how you mix deep wisdom with outrageous humor, like: “Most of our emotions come from listening to people who don’t know their ass from a hole in the wall”.

    Oh, I’ve been doing the tapping and whistling and everything in between and the rage, the fear, the pain – it’s still there! I’ve spent my entire adult life trying to get rid of those darn emotions and while at times there’s been progress, you are right – my beliefs have never changed! I’m learning to listen for the belief, learning to follow the Goddess let the false beliefs go. One day at a time : )

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