Who Am I? I’m A Creator, A Free Thinker…

 Who am I?

By Cathy Eck

 

Who Am I?

This is my last post for a while.  I assure you that everything you need to get mentally and emotionally free is on this site and Gateway to Gold.  But you have to work at it.  You have to want freedom more than you want air to get it.  Reread old posts; what you understand will change as you let go.  You’ll often think that I changed the material, but I probably didn’t.  You changed.  Letting go happens in layers.

Challenge your thoughts/beliefs, even if your mind is telling you with absolute certainty that what you’re experiencing or thinking is true.  Let go of positive beliefs, not just negative ones.  I talk about this in my article on the Triangle Process.  As you let go, you’ll answer life’s biggest question, “Who Am I?”   But don’t confuse what I’m saying with the eastern practice of asking that question over and over again.  My work has nothing to do with eastern teachings and practices.  People often get confused by that.  I didn’t understand this eastern confusion for a long time.  I had to mentor people who had it.  Then I put what I learned from working with them into the Gold Circle material.  They had what I call a True Self clone, and this was keeping them from letting go.  They learned the truth from some teacher or guru, or even studying someone’s writing intensely; and they put the learned truth into their false mind.  That blocked them from connecting with their real True Self.  Then they read and learned what I was saying like that would get them free.  They weren’t actually letting go.  They told themselves that learning was letting go.  It isn’t. You can’t learn your way to your True Self. 

I didn’t have that issue; I had never been a follower.  I didn’t even have much of a persona.  I could never lie very well.  So I didn’t understand what was going on with these people.  But I did want to help them get free; I felt that their desire for freedom was sincere.  I had to go into their illusion to understand why they were so stuck.  That period of research and mentoring others became the Gold Circle.  The clone is the masculine part of our false mind that can pretend to be our True Self.  It learns how to sound like a True Self, but it isn’t the True Self.  Clones confuse a lot of people these days.  Most of those popular spiritual teachers and gurus are very strong clones and that means that they project a lot.  Religious leaders are also clones who project sin on their followers.  Also progressive politicians are very strong clones that project a whole lot on their followers.  Their followers don’t realize what is happening.  It’s cruelty masked as caring.

Thus people who follow them come to believe that they don’t know who they are when they actually do completely know who they are.  They simply took a projection from a so-called spiritual teacher or charismatic leader.  In the Gold Circle, I help people let go of the clone voices that they put in their minds, and they start to realize that they do know who they are.  I can’t stop these clones from doing what they do.  They have the right to do what they want.  But I can tell you how to get free of them; then you return to your True Self.  You don’t need their truth; you had it within you all along.

You didn’t arrive on earth wondering who you were.  You were curious and alive…a True Self.  You saw someone walking, you watched them, you took the risk, and you walked.  You heard people talk, and you learned to speak and matched words to objects, people, and experiences.  Learning and life were fun.  But you were never supposed to learn beliefs or get a belief system of any kind.

Recently, I heard on television that children’s brains are completely fired up until they start answering the question “I am…?”  They start creating a false identity, labeling themselves; and their brain appears to shut down.  As people get older they identify with their beliefs and their belief systems; they really start to shut down.  That is the start of what I refer to as the clone mind.  But I don’t talk about it much in the free material because it is very confusing.  Explaining the clone, and exposing popular clones, required that I put together a systematic way of approaching the subject.  It requires people to really want to do get free and not just be casual about letting go.  So the Gold Circle was born.

If you don’t have much of a clone, the free work will probably be all you need.  Either way, I require that people do my free work first, so do that and see if you are still stuck when you are done.  You need to already be letting go when you enter the Gold Circle.  I don’t teach the basics of letting go in that program.

That being said, I want to give you one big caution as you read my free work.  You were trained to learn and memorize what you read.  Stop IT!  Don’t learn what I’m saying.  I write to expose what is false.  I teach you how to let go by using your emotions and win-win logic.  Practice what I’m saying, and do it as you read.  Read slowly, and stop when you feel emotions; take the time to let go.  The more you practice, the easier it gets.  It’s a new way of using your mind and emotions.  It goes against what you have been trained to do.  Witness the emotions until you are free of that belief.  If you don’t know what I mean by witnessing, check out https://gatewaytogold.com/meditation-for-the-western-mind/.  Letting go can take minutes or days.  It depends on how much you’ve believed your beliefs in the past.  It depends how feminine you are to others.  It depends on how much you believe the clone voices in your mind.

Letting go is easy; the illusion is very complex.  Those who are winning in the illusion don’t want us to escape.  This project for me has taken a lot longer than I thought it would.  I had no idea that I would run into so many tricks and traps, but I did.  So I had to deal with what came up; and that is why Gateway to Gold has developed into my main site with different paid programs.  However, don’t disregard what I’ve published here.  No Labels No Lies is the meat and potatoes of letting go.  Keep working at it until you completely understand what I’m saying.

 

WTF?

People taught you to see what they saw.  You learned there was danger, suffering, problems, and disease.  You came to believe that you could get hurt, or you could hurt someone.  You learned to judge and compare.  This didn’t make sense, but you figured that those who came before you must know the truth.  They didn’t know the truth, they knew their beliefs; and they believed that their beliefs were the truth.

You were given the knowledge of good and evil (the shit that caused us to fall).  Good now had an opposite…EVIL.  You learned to hate and fear other humans.

We see what we hold in mind…what we believe.  How do we get back to who we once were?   It seems impossible.  Their beliefs appeared to get stuck in our minds.  How did that happen?  We asked, and they answered.  They gave us reasons for why we were stuck; and those reasons were all lies.

“You were born sinful.  Your memories of perfection are imaginary…visions of heaven.  Go to church to make sure you get to heaven when you die.”  What a crock of shit!  The east wasn’t any better…they gave you karma and a caste system.

Your character was slowly constructed.  You learned to be good and worthy so you could get a good-paying role in society and work hard.  “Life isn’t meant to be easy,” they say.

Knowledge consumed your mind.  Those who memorized the most knowledge got the best roles.  They’re called experts.  I call them clones.  Clones are great in the illusion; they are worthless once we want freedom.  Creative thinkers sound strange in the illusion.  Philosophers look lazy.  Artists starve.  Inventors can’t afford to create their inventions unless the inventions please “The Man.

Your pure thinking and true goodness was replaced by an illusion built of beliefs in which you were judged on your ability to blindly follow.  When you got to the point where you feared judgment enough, you turned away from your True Self.

A True Self is labeled evil by false selves.  The false self believes that creativity is for people with nothing else to do.  No one can see your thoughts anyway; it’s what you do that counts.  You conformed, but then you wondered, “Who Am I?”

 

Had Enough?

Maybe you attended workshops, saw therapists, and did processes and practices; yet you didn’t find the answer.  One day, you learned how to let go.  You let go of your beliefs regarding social protocol, religion, disease, problems, culture, and sin.  You released society’s rules from your mind.  You realized that others, even experts, had nothing to offer you anymore.  Slowly…you started to remember,  “I’m a creator.  What I think is what I become.”  

Your problems came from accepting beliefs and then fixing the effects of those beliefs.  You finally knew which way to go.  You just had to keep letting go more and more until your mind was free.  But it is hard to trust such an insight.  No one is letting go.  Nearly everyone is learning…putting more crap in their mind.

 

TRUE and FALSE

The illusion runs on good/evil, right/wrong, or win/lose.  The illusion is false…powerless.  It’s believed by nearly everyone…but it isn’t real.  It’s projected from our collective beliefs.  You arrived with the truth, and you didn’t lose it.  You can’t screw up letting go.  You can’t let go of truth.  So you have nothing to lose by letting go, ever.

 

EMOTIONS MEAN FALSE

Any thought/belief that has an emotional component is false, even if the whole world believes it’s true.  Your mind desperately wants you to believe that thoughts that feel bad are true, but you fight that temptation.  You let those thoughts go.

 

WIN-WIN

Holy Shit!  You aren’t a fucking sinner.  The more you let go, the more you despise competition, oppression, and domination.  You’d never harm another.  You won’t even judge another anymore.  You realize that a true thought is win-win for everyone.  No belief system can be true.  Belief systems separate us.

 

MASCULINE AND FEMININE ROLES

You realize that those who have masculine (authority) roles make the rules.  The judging God was actually a human being…a false, power-tripping leader who imposed his illusion, where he wins and we lose, on everyone else in the name of God.  You don’t want to even play good roles in the illusion — they always harm someone.

 

PROJECTION

Leaders in false masculine roles often look like True Selves because they project their judgments and the unwanted half of their beliefs on to people in feminine roles.  You now see and hear the false masculine’s incongruence.  The leaders see enemies, evil, suffering, poverty, and disease because it’s inside of them.  It’s not true; it’s their illusion…their reality.  Underneath their mask is a powerless human who’s lost.  They’re pawns of the illusion fixing their own projections.  We should ignore them, not follow them.

 

PHYSICAL VS. MENTAL PERSPECTIVE

We were programmed to see a physically-focused perspective of reality which blinds and confuses us. We look at the quality of people’s doing and ignore their thinking.  Sadly, false thinking looks normal.  True good comes from a pure mind.  When our mind is impure, we can look good by doing the right things; but we aren’t truly good.

 

LET IT GO

The illusion told us that it could give us what we already were.  The illusion only lies.

When we can no longer stand the illusion, we let it go.  As we let go of the judgments, labels, beliefs, and knowledge/expertise, we’re left with the truth.  We remember who we are.  We’re creators who bring our ideas to life for the benefit of everyone.  Keep letting go; don’t stop until you get to freedom.  It’s your birthright.

Validation That You Are Going Toward Freedom

Going the right way?

 By Cathy Eck

 

New Thought

The New Thought movement made it much more difficult to follow the path of initiation.  It made thinking our way to success, wealth, and a hot, sexy body spiritual.  Jet planes and mansions now proved mastery.  Many teachers made whatever their false self liked a sign of spiritual mastery, and other false selves grabbed on for that ride.  Spirituality is big business.

New Thought teachers/preachers speak truthful ideas and thoughts to false selves who memorize them creating a spiritual-looking false clone of their True Self.  These leaders promote their beliefs as the truth; people throw their True Self under the bus to follow these charismatic leaders.

People have more beliefs than ever.  They view their beliefs as right and true.  They impose them on others without questioning themselves.  People have adopted spiritual practices only to become more judgmental and more inclined to fix the effects of their thinking.  Finding the cause often seems like too damn much work when a little internet research and a swipe of the credit card can appear to solve anything.  We forget that science has limitations.  We will eventually run into a dead-end that we can’t fix.

There are moments in my own inner work that I think, “I could just fix that effect and people would find me much more believable.”  They wouldn’t notice my inauthenticity.

But I’d notice my inauthenticity.  Those who stick with this work often feel their progress doesn’t seem to matter.  People can’t see our True Self if their own illusory veil is too thick.

 

Signs or Validation

Most people look for signs to determine where to go.  As we purify our mind, we stop looking for signs.  Instead we receive validation that we’re going the right way.  It’s often a small insight, but it keeps us going.  If you’re serious about this path, forget about others and what they think of you.  Keep score of the improvement within your own mind.

In time, material things do come to initiates.  This isn’t a path of abstinence or lack.  Our health will improve; diseases will disappear.  We’ll have more energy and even look younger.  We’ll have the abundance we need and want if we just keep our eye on our own mind and let go.  Our desires will be fulfilled naturally when we have no beliefs that block them.

When we put the purity of our mind first, everything works organically.  We become truly good and right, but we don’t use that for power over others.  This was the secret of the true initiates.  But religions and the occult put the physical reward first; they created the entrance to hell by falsely defining good and right and attaching rewards to their false rules.

 

Validation:  You’re Going the Right Way If:

1)  Using your will to fix or get anything seems like too much work.  You only want to use your will to let go of your thoughts and beliefs.

2)  False desires are falling away.

3)  You don’t want to judge people or gossip.  It feels bad to judge anyone.

4)  People who others look up to don’t impress you.  Talent or beauty that’s used by the false self is no longer attractive.

5)  You notice when you’re projecting on others.  You feel when others are projecting on you; you do a better job of rejecting their projection.

6)  You find yourself courageously standing up for your True Self or standing up for the True Selves of others.

7)  You don’t label emotions.  When you hear a thought that generates emotion, you know it’s false.

8)  You don’t look for inspiration or motivation outside of yourself.  You feel more internally creative.

9)  You aren’t looking for approval from others; you want to please your True Self. You’re no longer a fake nice person or a people pleaser.

10)  You can’t lie.  It’s physically painful.

11)  You aren’t paying experts (doctors, lawyers, therapists, psychics, trainers) anymore.  You were only wanting them to tell you what you already knew.

12)  You avoid self-help workshops and no longer read voraciously to find answers.  Validation comes to you naturally now.  Insights come when you let go.

13)  You’re starting to see the illusion as false.  Roles become obvious, authority looks impotent, and the notion of good and evil looks silly.  False just looks false.

14) You no longer feel guilt, grief, or shame.  You don’t take responsibility for other people’s emotions.

15)  You let go of beliefs; you don’t want to impose them on others anymore.

16)  You find yourself calm and happy for no apparent reason.  You don’t hold others responsible for your joy.

17)  Competition isn’t attractive…win-win is.

18) False self connections don’t look like love anymore.

19) You can create things with a single thought or a vision in your mind.  You don’t have to hammer at a thought with affirmations or visualize what you want for years to force your desires to manifest.

20)  You’re more loving, more compassionate, and more genuine.  You realize that anyone trying to be positive, spiritual, healthy, or good has an impure mind that they’re trying to cover up with physical actions.  You have nothing to hide so you hide nothing.

21)  You realize that your purpose was to find your Self not to be somebody in the illusion.

22)  You love your inner world.  You use your imagination to create beauty and joy, not disease and suffering.

When we let go, we gently and organically move into our perfect life; the painful things of the past now seem like an illusion…a dream.  We don’t long for things or people anymore; we know that our True desires will come to us.  We become calm, accepting, and courageous.  Letting go becomes a way of life; and our True Self/God is no longer up in the sky.  It’s within.

We realize that the truth has all the power and the false has none.  If we live and speak the truth, we break up the illusion for ourselves and others.  We eventually see a different, more perfect, world.  We’re going the right way.

 

 

 

 

I Don’t Know What I (They) Believe?

BELIEFS

By Cathy Eck

 

What Do I Believe?

People often say to me, “I don’t know what I believe.”  They also say, “I don’t have any beliefs.”  These two comments are the main reason the illusion thrives.

The fact that our thoughts and beliefs create our reality was hidden for a very long time.  During that time, people accepted all kinds of beliefs as explanations for how life worked.  In more recent times, it became known that our thoughts do create our reality; but we simply put that truth on top of our already accepted beliefs.  People try to consciously control their mind to get what they want.  Sometimes they think one thing and say another; that causes projection, which causes relationship hell.  Or they say something they don’t like, and then say, “I don’t believe that,” or “Cancel.”  

If we really don’t believe something, we won’t think it or say it.  We don’t have to cancel our words.  In fact, as we move toward freedom, we find it impossible to be incongruent.  Our thoughts, words, and actions will all line up.  Then we often realize that we still have beliefs that people don’t like when we speak truthfully.  We have to let those beliefs go too.

 

Who’s Creating Our Life?

People of all religions say,  “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade,”  Even atheists say it.  But no one asks a very important question, “Who in the hell is life?”  “Who gave us those fucking lemons?”  A religious person might say, “God tempted us;” a New Ager might say, “The universe taught us a lesson.”  But the comment implies that we didn’t create our life.  We aren’t free if we don’t create our life.  We’re Life’s slaves.

If we’ve accepted complete responsibility for our lemons, we’d say, “I gave myself lemons, so I made lemonade.”  But no one says that.  One of the best ways to find beliefs about anything is to find out why we say what we say.

When someone dies, we say: “Now they’re in a better place.”  Really!  We don’t know that.  What we know is that their body is in the ground or an urn.  We don’t have a clue where their mind/spirit went.  If we think/speak that belief, we believe something like earth ain’t so great.  We can’t get beyond suffering unless we die.

Now people will say to me, “I don’t really believe that shit.  I just said that because I wanted them to feel better.”  You’re trapped.  First of all, you’re taking responsibility for their emotions; their emotions are caused by their thinking.  If you say what another wants to hear, you’re putting them in the masculine role.  You’re giving them power to create in your life because what they want to hear is more important than what you want to say.

Our social protocol is carefully designed to make sure that we have no power over Life.  Listen to what you say, and you’ll uncover hidden beliefs.  Listen to what others say, and you’ll discover what they believe.  The mystery drains from Life real quick.

 

Why Did I Say That?

If we’ve had religious or self-help training, we often train our mind to be quiet or to say the right things.  But trained quiet isn’t real quiet.   Being trained to say the right things might be automatic, but it’s not authentic.  It’s the effect of being highly socialized.  The highly socialized no longer speak what they believe or think; they speak what they believe others want to hear.  Some people have told me that they actually put their attention so completely in other people’s minds that they know what that person wants to hear.  They’re proud of this when they should feel horrible.  I suspect that it’s what most psychics do, but they don’t realize they’re doing it.  Quite honestly, we don’t have any business in another person’s mind.

Letting go of our fake social beliefs is very important.  We’re then admitting that our True Self is what belongs in society.  What doesn’t belong are social customs designed to make everyone alike and predictable.

The highly socialized do what is politically correct even if they resent it.  Their Universe or God or Life isn’t some supernatural being although they’ll say they’re trying to please God.  Their false God is actually everyone they’re trying to please — a whole shitload of human beings.  They live life as if everyone is God and they’re no one…a slave trying to please humanity.

Waking up requires us to realize that what humans want from us is not what God wants from us.  We don’t know what God wants from us unless we’re living from our True Self; we only know what others have said God wants from us.  They say that God rewards and punishes…nope, people do that.  They say God judges; no, people do.  The biggest trap is created by people who tell us that God wants what actually fulfills their needs and desires while simultaneously keeping us small and submissive.  This doesn’t just happen in big business, big religions, or government, it happens in families.

 

Fake Gratitude

When I was an entrepreneur, I felt thankful for the business that came my way.  I told my clients, not God, what they meant to me.  My words came from within; they were authentic.  Today, I bank at Wells Fargo; they train their employees to pretend gratitude.  It never feels good.  My son and I will do anything to avoid having to talk to a teller.  But most people don’t feel so they think the person means what they say.  Robots applaud other robots.

The reason that our false self says or does anything is because it was taught to do it.  It’s a robot.  When we take the memory out of a robot, we get nothing.  When we take the robotic memory out of a person, we get the truth…an authentic human being.

 

 

 

 

 

Dealing with Fragile Egos as Characters

fragile ego

By Cathy Eck

 

Fragile Egos

When someone holds their beliefs as absolutely true, they become a “fragile ego.” Fragile egos exist at all levels of society.  We have to let them break to get free.

Fragile egos send a clear message:  “If you obey me, I’ll reward you.  If you disobey, I’ll punish.”  They’re clones of the Old Testament false God (imaginary leader of the illusion) who believe they’re good people with the right to judge and punish.

Whoever disagrees with them is evil or bad.  Their biggest fear is exposure.  They lie and impose their beliefs on others in order to look powerful while hiding their belief that they’re weak.

The most dangerous fragile egos wear a nice mask causing them to look like a True Self.  They say and do what the illusion considers good; they generally look happy and calm.  They believe that what you do, not how you think, makes you good.  Good, by their definition gets rewarded.  That’s how the illusion works.

But the true world doesn’t work that way.  Rules and projection don’t exist outside the illusion, we manifest what we believe.

Underneath the fragile ego’s mask is an emotional storm; their actions aren’t congruent with their thinking.  They’re filled with rules and beliefs.  When we disobey or say, “No,” to their demands, their emotions roar.  They don’t see their OWN thinking as the cause of their emotions.  They blame the feminine role because their Adam-and-Eve based mythology gave them the right to.

The fragile ego projects their responsibility and emotions outward.  In fact, when we’re conditioned by fragile egos, we often become overly responsible.  We take responsibility for their emotions because they claim we’re the cause.  We aren’t.

 

The Wall

In mentoring, I call the eruption of the fragile ego, “hitting the wall.”  Letting go looks impossible.  Strong religious, scientific, or political views look absolutely true.  Arguing with the fragile ego does no good.  The fragile ego repeats its knowledge, rules, and beliefs like a robot.  It sees evidence that supports its thinking; it’s sure it’s right.

We only see evidence because we believe the cause.  We hold a really strong belief, but it’s still false.  If we let go of the causal belief, we’ll see different evidence.  When we try to challenge fragile ego beliefs in ourselves or others, psychological reversals kick in.  The thoughts clearly generate emotion, they’re not win-win, and they’re taking us away from freedom; but we can’t remember that the emotion means false.  Until we routinely catch this in ourselves, we won’t catch it in others.

 

They’re Characters

Our OWN fragile ego consists of voice recordings acquired from others who forced their beliefs into our mind.  We did feel emotions when we first heard their words; but we were afraid to challenge them.  Their words are NOW constantly squatting in our mind.

After letting go for awhile, we do come to know that the recordings are false.  And yet, people tell me that the fragile ego is still running their life.   They still behave as the fragile ego would want them to behave or say what the fragile ego would consider socially or politically correct.  They still can’t be themselves.

 

An Exercise

Imagine yourself in the center of your mind; see the fragile egos who have limited your life with beliefs, rules, and knowledge in the periphery of a giant circle looking at you.  They’re keeping you from leaving the circle.

Review old memories in your mind. Bring up fragile ego encounters from the past. Let the fragile ego characters slowly replay the scene.  Discriminate and let go as they talk.  Also let go of any judgments or reasoning that arises in your mind about these characters. Judgment on your part keeps you stuck to them.  You might never see them again; but when you clean up their character in your own mind, you won’t meet that same sort of person again.  Of if you do, you’ll stay powerful.

You can take this even further.  We tend to think that we must change the real life fragile ego characters or get them to stop judging us.  But many of them will never change or stop judging.  Are you going to wait until they change to live your life?  I hope not.

Step into their character within your own mind.  Speak their beliefs, and feel their emotions arise when they speak something false or judgmental.  Assume they can discriminate and let go, and do so.  It’s your mind!  These are your characters! You have the power to clean up their words in your mind.  In this way, we change the past.

See if this fragile ego still has power over you.  If so, ask yourself, “Why?”  Let go of the reasons that your mind gives you.  Clean up more memories.

You aren’t affecting the real life person in any way — good or bad.  When your mind is clear, they won’t bother you.  Their beliefs will only affect them.

Our false minds were meant to be creative containers, separate and distinct from others people’s minds, so we could all create independently.  We’ve never had the right to impose our beliefs on others.  We only do it because others did it to us.

When you realize that you don’t deserve their judgment, they don’t have power over you anymore.  When you understand that their rules are false, they don’t apply to you.  If they say that you’re hurting them, you don’t take it in.  In fact, I’ll often say to fragile egos, “You’re telling me what I should believe; how can I be hurting you?”

Fragile egos can be difficult.  But we can get through that wall if we take our rock hammer and chip away one belief or memory at a time.  Eventually, we’ll break through their highly tinted glass.  We’ll escape their influence without fighting them.  When we clean our OWN mind, they lose their false power.  They can’t harm us anymore.

 

Letting Go of Dreams, Visions, Nightmares, and Even Memories

Using Dreams to Let Go

By Cathy Eck

 

I’d recommend reading my earlier article on Dreams and Nightmares first.

 

Dreams, Visions, Nightmares, and Memories

In this post, I’ll walk you through a short example of finding the causal beliefs within your dreams, visions, nightmares, and memories.  The example I’m using was a clear vision that I had about twenty years ago during a reflexology session.  During that time, I was lost, depressed, my body ached all the time, and I was always exhausted — common symptoms for being trapped in another person’s illusion.  I feared going to a doctor, so I went to healers.  I needed and wanted someone to tell me how to let go.  But I wasn’t finding anyone.

As the reflexologist pushed on my feet, I suddenly smelled something like sulfur.  It was so strong that my eyes watered.  I mentioned this to the reflexologist, and she said, “It must be a message for you.  I don’t smell anything.”  Then she said, “I’m pushing on your heart area now…might be something about love.”  She told me to relax and see what popped into my mind, which was good advice.

I saw a young girl standing before a Nazi guard.  The girl was wearing a cute, ruffled blue dress and patent leather shoes.  Since my mom dressed me that way, I immediately identified with that character.

She was being led to the gas chamber.  That was the smell.   The little girl looked at the guard.  She smiled at him and said, “I still love you.”  I felt such peace and softness in my body; I felt unconditional love for this guard.  The guard pushed her into the gas chamber, and she died.  I was crying at this point — kind of wallowing in my sadness and victimhood.

She said I was releasing a past life, but I knew that I wasn’t letting go; I could see that my mind had already started to make conclusions about this vision like love isn’t enough.  I could see that we both wanted to turn my vision into a reason why I was powerless to change my life.  I was trying so hard to not allow that to happen.  I kept searching for a way to free myself from the vision.  But I didn’t know how to do that for many years.

 

The Cure

This vision was produced from my mind based on where I was at that time.  I eventually realized that the causal belief was that unconditional love was worthless currency on earth — it was not enough to make things right.  That was truly how I felt about my life.

Looking from the eyes of the guard, I could see another huge causal belief.  We have to obey authority — to do as we’re told.  Then I flipped back to the character of the girl.  I truly believed that authority was much more powerful than love.  Of course, these are common beliefs in the illusion — beliefs we all need to let go to be free.

After I discovered how to let go of beliefs, I could see that the belief, “Love is not enough” isn’t true.  I could see that the belief, authority has more power than love” was also a lie.  I could see that the whole damn vision was the product of my beliefs.  Do you see why it’s not helpful to call it a past life?  We don’t need to make it true.  Our past experiences are just the effect of the beliefs we held in mind at that time; they might be real, but they aren’t true.  When we live from truth, we won’t need to let go of beliefs anymore.

The vision showed me where my mind was at that time.  It showed me the beliefs that kept me trapped in an illusion.  To get free, I didn’t need to analyze the details or interpret symbols; it was all very straight forward.

Was I once this child killed in a Nazi concentration camp?  Who knows?  What’s key in that vision are the beliefs that would have caused me to be in such a situation.  After clearing those beliefs, I allowed the vision to replay from my current mental state.  I saw the girl look at the guard and say her words of love.  I felt the same purity.  He looked at her with a scowl and told her to go to the side of the gas chamber and wait for him.  He was still an obedient authority, but it didn’t matter.  I didn’t need to morph him into a saint.  She had the power because she had the real love.  I’d finally seen this vision from the perspective of the True Self.

Let me emphasize…I didn’t put love or positive thinking on top of my erroneous beliefs.  I simply let the beliefs go… they’re false.  The vision no longer bothered me; it existed like a dream…the illusion that it was.

 

Reasons

The reflexologist helped me focus on my body; she triggered the place where the belief was stored.   But her helpfulness ended when she saw the vision as a reason for the way things were.  People often feel satisfied when they find the reason.  Sadly, most people don’t realize they can let go.  They sing “Let It Go” but don’t know how.  We can’t help another let go of their beliefs until we let go ourselves.

When we take any memory, vision, nightmare, or dream and see the causal beliefs that created it, notice our emotional feedback, and let those beliefs go completely, we experience something amazing — freedom.  The scene changes; we learn that without those beliefs, we could never have had those dreams, nor could we experience such a reality.  I find that amazing.  As we clean up our memories and nightmares in this way, we start to see a different world.  We feel safe without needing everyone else to behave or let go.  We realize that other people’s illusions would only affect their life if we didn’t believe them.

Intuition or Inspiration: What’s the Difference?

Imagination vs. intuition

By Cathy Eck

 

Inspiration

I tell people to let go and follow their inspiration.  However, there’s often confusion around my words because most people think that inspiration and intuition are the same.

I never heard the word intuition growing up.  I did hear another word a lot — imagination.  “Cathy, get out of your imagination.”  No one understood imagination either.  We all have imaginary capacity.  But most people use it the wrong way.  They use it to fuel their fear by imagining problems, pain, and suffering.

 

We’re Creators

I can’t say enough that we’re born to be creators.  But I’m using the word creator in the truest sense, where we would only create things that were win-win for everyone.  All creating starts in our imagination.  We can use our imagination to create our unique heaven on earth, or we can use it to create hell.

I remember the first time I realized that.  My husband and I were visiting his parents, who took pride in their ability to worry about everything.  Often the very thing they worried about would end up happening to someone.  One day, I couldn’t take it anymore; I told them to stop it.  You see, when I or someone else reflected their worry, they didn’t take responsibility.  They’d say, “Oh, I just knew it.”   They acted like they were prophets; and that wasn’t the case.  Their worry was misused creative power, and they were projecting it out with a very strong force.

My in-law’s worry confused me because it was wrapped in nice intention.  It kind of looked like love or even compassion; my husband was sure it was love.  I could see that they thought my inability to worry was a major character defect.  My telling them to stop was rude.

When lost in the illusion, we forget that we have an imagination that creates our life.  We should all be quick to tell people to let go of their beliefs that cause fear and worry; but often, we feel that we must accept their beliefs.

This problem is caused by level confusion.  At their physical level of reality, my in-laws were caring.  But at the mental level of reality, they were creating shit in other people’s lives.  I was attempting to free their victims although it would be years before I’d understand how to explain letting go.  Letting go of our fearful thoughts is truly compassionate; when we see this, we’re on the fast track to freedom.

 

Intuition Versus Inspiration

So many people think that their fearful thoughts and dreams are premonitions.  They don’t let them go; they spread them like viruses.  All fearful thoughts are false!

But let’s say a thought pops into your mind, and it feels calm and good.  Is it inspiration or intuition?  Inspiration happens when you’re exiting the illusion.  Inspiration moves you toward your spirit or True Self.  To get inspired thoughts, you need to have your navigational destination set on freedom.  You want your mind to be looking for exits.

Most people have set the direction of their mind on getting rich, getting approval, or winning; they want to do well inside the illusion.  They use intuition.  Tuition, you might notice, is a word associated with money and knowledge; in-tuition would be within knowledge or beliefs.

I once took a class on intuition, “Intuition for Business People.”  They told us to ask questions and then take what we got as the answer.

What they didn’t teach was discrimination because they didn’t have any.  They just assumed that if our mind said it, it was right.  Psychics say they do readings this way.  They trust what their mind gives them.  Kanye West said this is why he runs on stage at the Grammies; his mind tells him too.  People do dumb fucking things when they trust their mind blindly.  Many even think that God is guiding them — that’s how religions were invented.

 

Letting Go

I do tell people to do exactly what the psychics and intuitives do.  “Ask a question.  Don’t put answers in your mind, and just see what arises.”  The difference is that I tell them to let go of what arises.  Intuitives believe everything they get.  My “intuitive” friends never give good advice.  Their answers are only useful for those in the illusion.  This confused me.  I often felt bad for constantly rejecting their advice.

Intuition is the ability to maneuver among your beliefs and knowledge.  Intuitives have a good mental database manager that can find the best solution within their limited world view.  They do not get original information; nor do they get information that’s going to free anyone — that’s what inspiration does.

If you want to live from beliefs, follow your mind completely; and life kind of works. You keep putting more knowledge into your mind so you appear to have more options for the intuition to pick from. That’s why people become addicted to learning.

All knowledge was once someone else’s inspiration.  But knowledge is memorized.  When our mind is trained to look to memory for answers, it ignores inspiration completely.  We can’t find our creativity.

If you want to find your True Self, you allow your mind to speak; then you let go of whatever it says as untrue. You reduce the beliefs and knowledge in your mind until you’re completely clear.  Once you let go of all that false data, you discover concepts and ideas that are original, unique, and powerful.  You stop fearing and worrying.

Intuition is like a car with a decent, not great, navigator.  Inspiration, however, is like having the bird’s eye view of the entire world.  You can see everything; so you make choices from the knowing that you’re creating the perfect route and the perfect destination.  It’s only inspiration that will show you the exits to the illusion.  Intuition will just keep circling you round and round the desert in a nice, comfortable car.  And that car will run out of gas one day.

Roles: When the Feminine Pretends to be Masculine

Masculine or Feminine

By Cathy Eck

 

Confusion of Roles

Roles become very confusing when they’re not played as designed.  I’ve written about the masculine who pretends to be feminine — an authority figure who projects out an enemy, like Bush/Obama projecting Osama Bin Laden and Muslim extremism.  The leader pretends to be a victim of their own evil projection.  They want support/service/sacrifice from followers in order to slay the evil dragon.  If the followers succeed, the leader becomes a hero.  It’s a very old archetype.

This leader needs blindly obedient followers to slay his dragon.  We see such a person in the movie, “American Sniper,”  the true story of Chris Kyle, known as “The Legend” for his large number of kills.  Controversy has erupted over whether Chris Kyle was a hero or a predator.   Both labels are right in the illusion; both put Kyle at the bottom of the triangle.  If there’s a real enemy, then he’s a hero.  If there’s no enemy, then he’s a predator in the illusion.

Soldier is a strange role.  We believe a soldier is highly masculine.  Just try not to think of masculinity while watching Bradley Cooper play Chris Kyle.  It’s difficult!  However, soldier is actually a feminine role; soldiers salute, take orders, and blindly obey authority.  They’re feminine to the higher rank (who are feminine to their superior).  Soldiers only become masculine when they kill.  As observers, we get tricked by this role shift because we’re trained to look with physically-oriented eyes.

 

Roles Clarified

The original definition of roles made sense.  The masculine role followed the ideal of the sun and unconditionally gave.  The feminine role unconditionally received (like the moon or earth).  A person in a true masculine role would only think or speak the truth.  Their feminine side would be calm and receive original, creative ideas.

But a false masculine projects an illusion based on beliefs, which creates a fantasy, horror, or drama.  Those who are feminine followers to the false masculine leader, and honor their belief system, are no longer creating their OWN life.  Consequently, they’re either highly emotional or highly suppressed.  Only the person at the top of the pyramid — the supreme handler — has the script.  For most people, that supreme leader/handler is the false God — the imaginary leader of the illusion.  His constitution is the Old Testament.

 

Feminine Pretends to be Masculine

Remember, the false leader is an authority holding a masculine role but pretending to be feminine, a victim of someone or something outer.  This false leader pretends to be innocent; but that’s because we’re trained to ignore the fact that they projected their OWN enemy.

Any follower of a false masculine is playing a feminine role.  Look closely at Chris Kyle.  If you take out his back story, he appears to be a macho man — an expert marksman —  a killer of evil extraordinaire  — a hero.  But the movie, “American Sniper,” doesn’t ignore the back story.  He’s not masculine at all.  He’s feminine pretending to be masculine.  

Kyle’s story starts at birth, not at enlistment.  His dad rewarded him for his shooting skills as a young child.  He wanted dad’s approval and ignored his strong emotional signal screaming that killing wasn’t right.   He lived in Texas and attended a Fundamentalist church.  He quickly became feminine to his dad and religious authorities.  His dad tells him that he’s a protector, like a sheep dog; he buys the label because it sounds good.  By the time 9/11 occurred, he was one angry dude with a feminine, obedient mind.  From the physical perspective, he was masculine.  But from the mental perspective, he was completely feminine.

We fall into this quicksand because we confuse the physical and mental perspectives.  The True Self lives in the mental realm; the false self is physically focused.  From the mental, True Self perspective, we are NEVER an authority over another.  We can lead others for a common purpose, but we can’t be their ultimate authority.

Anyone who believes in the false God, is an expert of knowledge, or teaches information that has been pre-chewed by those in the illusion has a feminine mind.  Their position of authority doesn’t change their mindset.  They aren’t harmful unless we make them our authority.  I might take a class in Photoshop from a Photoshop expert to become a better user.  I’m glad s/he exists because the knowledge is useful; but I don’t let him/her tell me what to do with Photoshop.

Many people notice that the highest leaders appear to be feminine to some hidden hand, which is called God by some and the illuminati or big business by others.  If we could dissect the authority’s mind, however, I think we’d find that they’re actually following mom and dad’s illusion most of the time.

 

Level Confusion in Roles

When we follow any other human, we enter their fallen perspective because only our false self is outer directed.  A true leader will always point us back inside.  They won’t take our power even if we insist on giving it to them.

The calm demeanor of false leaders is often mistaken for the calmness of the True Self.  But false calmness is actually the result of the leader’s ability to project emotions on to followers.  We see the leader’s true colors when we refuse to serve their cause or fight their enemy.  The false masculine leader blames, guilts, and shames until we accept their beliefs and do their dirty work.  The say they’ll lead us to the promised land, but they actually spin us around in the desert forever.

To unravel this mess, we must clean up our own mind.  We have both of these false masculine characters within our false mind resting at the bottom of the triangle; often they’ve brought us rewards.  Sometimes, we fear the responsibility of leading our OWN life.  We fear making mistakes or not having answers.  But the only authority that is fair, harmless, and doesn’t err is our own True Self.  No one else can offer us better advice.

 

 

 

Motivation…Creation…It’s Not All About Doing

Nuts turn into giant oak trees.

By Cathy Eck

 

What’s Motivation?

I hear it every day from someone. I have no desires..no motivation…I’m lazy…bored with life. I don’t know what to do.

The curse of the illusion is hard work.  Some do hard physical work.  Others do hard mental work in order to figure out how to avoid doing hard physical work.  People who seek freedom are sick of hard work.  We discover letting go; then we turn it into hard work.

The freedom we desire is freedom from the physically oriented, fallen perspective.  When we fell into the illusion, we accepted lots of beliefs that made creating very hard and slow.  We became feminine to a false God (a slave driver).  We became slaves of his system.  Doing became boring, routine, and uncreative.

The popularity of motivational speakers, prosperity preachers, and life coaches is proof that people aren’t in touch with their natural inner motivation.  They pump people up and generate lots of emotion by telling them what they want to hear.

However, what we want to hear is usually the opposite of what we believe.  So their motivation wears off quickly; our established beliefs usually win in the end.

 

Reward and Punishment

As we let go, we’re all a lot like my oldest child, who was imprisoned in the educational system for six years before I set him free with unschooling.  He’d already become institutionalized.  He was accustomed to outer direction and rewards.  I asked him to look inside for his true desires. He had no fucking clue how to do that.  He begged me to tell him what to do, but I didn’t.  Eventually, his desires for outer motivation, direction, reward, and punishment died since he stopped feeding them.  He was left with inner motivation after about two years of tears.

Inner motivation is different from outer motivation.  The True Self knows the future, without going to psychics.  It’s not going to learn cursive writing unless it plans to be a calligrapher or old fashioned letter writer, but it will learn texting or typing.

The True Self hates spoon-feeding and memorization.  It wants to understand and experience everything.  But most schools ruin that innate desire.  Children learn to walk with very little assistance. They absorb the understanding from someone who already knows how to walk; then they figure it out.  They don’t read “Walking for Dummies.”

When my children wanted to learn something new, I’d point them toward the inventors and innovators in their field of interest — people who found their own wisdom.  I wanted them to trust their own ideas and to see that true desires always seem crazy to others because they’re not their desires.

Most people memorize and copy what others have discovered.  There’s no life force in that.  Beliefs, traditions, stories, knowledge, and rituals get passed down from generation to generation.  It’s old and dull.  In the beginning, such information was minimal and useful — like how to make fire.  Now we pass down useless knowledge, political persuasions, and antiquated religious ideas.

It’s habitual.  In ancient times, dead ancestors were labeled Gods.  Few people in the past have questioned their ancestral teachings.  People got used to being told things that felt bad or sounded illogical.   Sacrificing our desires for the sake of keeping the family and collective illusions alive became normal.  We stopped discriminating when we heard something from an elder, teacher, or expert.  After awhile, we’d believe anything.

 

Creation

To understand true motivation, we must understand the creation process. Creation starts in our mind as an original idea.  We think about the idea, and it grows.  Eventually, we desire to share our idea because sharing gives it life.  Then we’re inspired to action. The whole process is organic and enjoyable if no beliefs get in the way.  But invariably beliefs do get in the way, and we lose our motivation unless we let those beliefs go.

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If our desire is true, we’ll be inspired toward the next step and the next step; but we might not know the final destination.  We might not have support from our mother or friends, but we’ll find support in the form of validation, clarity, or insight.

Roles disappear.  No one can impose their beliefs on us if we know the difference between the truth and a belief.  The world is a mess because people think their beliefs are true.  Then they spew their beliefs on others because they think everyone needs their truth.  We already share the truth; we’re born with it.  Beliefs must remain temporary and personal.  They support, rather than dominate, creativity.

 

Action

The false self is action driven toward rigidly-defined goals. It seeks rewards and avoids punishment.  It avoids the creative process because it’s focused on end results and approval. The True Self’s ideas often look risky to the false self.  Beliefs about insecurity arise along with a lot of emotion.  If we don’t let those beliefs go, we’ll find our inspiration too difficult to follow.

The key to living from our True Self is to focus on our own mind.  The false mind is always  in other people’s business.  It believes that it gains status by mentally or physically pushing others down below it with it’s knowledge and conviction.  It fears others stealing it’s ideas; it’s competitive.  The false self judges, debates, and takes sides.  I know these things look normal; but normal people are deep in the illusion.

We must get to the place where we’re always watching our mind, discriminating, and letting go.  Eventually, it becomes automatic.  Our false self is blindly obedient.  It will be obedient to others unless we retrain it to be obedient to our True Self.

Yea, when we live this way, we’ll look lazy, unmotivated, or too happy.  Others will think we’re playing too much.  That’s their problem.  Finding our True Self and expressing it is what we all really want.  It’s finding the kingdom of heaven and eating from the Tree of Life again.

The False Masculine Trick: The Punishing God

False masculine

By Cathy Eck

 

Adam and Eve

The key myth that pervades western religious thinking is Adam and Eve.  After their little apple incident, they were punished.  We’re erroneously left with the impression that Eve was completely to blame.  Poor victim Adam got dragged down with her.  We accept that God has the right to reward and punish them forever.  Welcome to the illusion!

The story appears to be about men and women, our ancestors.  After a talk on a cruise ship, a man told me that he traced his entire ancestry back to Adam and Eve.  He gave me a copy.  He was Mormon; he’ll believe anything.  He also told me that his friend was chosen to sacrifice himself for the Mormons; he died shortly after.  He thought his friend was special.  I would’ve labeled him gullible.

Like this man, we get tricked into believing illusions — stories that make God into a supernatural he-man.  He has a man cave extraordinaire in the clouds with a golden throne; he sits around all fucking day judging, punishing, cursing, and envying his crappy little minions.  People became afraid of this God because he told leaders to kill their enemy.  Their emotions should have told them their leader was lying, but we all make the same error when terrorized.  We get psychologically reversed to obey false Gods and false leaders.  We think they’re powerful when in truth they’re very weak; that’s why they’re lying.  Dah!

In time, Adam and Eve’s story became so incredibly powerful and widely accepted that no one questioned it.  We look at the world and see people hating, judging, and punishing in the name of God; we don’t realize that religious beliefs are the cause because we think religion has the truth (at least our religion does).  When people worship a false God of hate, judgment, and reward and punishment, they become that.  Then they cover what they’ve become with a mask.

You might say, “Holy shit, this false God guy actually sounds like my parents.”   We tend to construct our false God in the image and likeness of our parents.  Mom and dad are both masculine roles to children.  Moses did this too.  He projected his false God out on his followers, but his God was really his mom and dad inside of his own mind.  People become the same sort of authority they learned from as children.  Bullies have already been bullied.

If we realize that our parent’s judgments, ridiculous disciplinary measures, and lack of trust in our True Self was false, we let ourselves off the hook.  We don’t say our parents did the best they could.  We recognize that they were tricked; we no longer believe them.  We no longer accept their judgment or punishment.  We’re no longer limited by their false thinking.  Their imaginary role in our life loses its false power.

 

Masculine and Feminine 

Adam and Eve isn’t about a man and woman.  It’s a story about roles.  This story replaced the original purpose of our false self, which was to hold information and short-term beliefs necessary for creation.  Now our false self holds the template for false roles that support a blindly obedient society where the majority function as slaves in support of few elite.

We now accept that the masculine role has the right to judge, punish, curse, and envy without the natural punishment of feeling emotions.  We feel no emotion when we think, say, or do something false once we hold false beliefs as the truth.

This created the psychological reversal extraordinaire that causes people to believe religion (it isn’t a gene).  A normal person, without this reversal, would feel emotion when they judge, suicidal when they punish or curse, and sad when they envy another.  They’d avoid the false masculine role because it’s too damn emotionally painful.  But avoiding the masculine causes us to get stuck in the feminine role with no way out — the double bind (catch 22).  It sucks.  The illusion offers no exit to freedom.  It doesn’t hold the possibility of the True Self because the True Self is the natural blend of the masculine and feminine (God and Goddess).

As people let go, they no longer believe authority figures.  They view them as false, not powerful.  They realize that feeling emotion (honoring their feminine) when a leader speaks means the leader is speaking false; they don’t obey them.  Eventually, they boot out religion’s false God and Moses; they can’t worship false leadership.

They move naturally into the masculine role.  But, they must catch their own false God within, or they will become the false masculine they hated.  Most people have an inner false masculine who’s very accomplished at projection.  We don’t realize when we’re in the false masculine role because we feel relief from leaving the feminine role.  We think we’re our True Self.  We’re not!

This is why it’s so hard for people to get free.  The false masculine feels a lot better than the oppressed feminine role; but it isn’t freedom.  It’s what creates teachers, preachers, inspirational speakers, and gurus.  They believe that if everyone thought like them, the world would be perfect.  The True Self wants everyone to be themselves.  The True Self doesn’t want followers.  The psychological reversal of the false masculine causes us not to feel emotions when judging, rewarding and punishing, or envying others.  The false masculine thinks it’s right when it’s false.  In fact, the false masculine hates the True Self because truth exposes it.  The truth sets us free of the false masculine!

When we understand this, we understand Jesus words on the cross, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.”  The false masculine has no idea it’s projecting.  On the cross means stuck in the feminine role; some people spend their entire life on the cross as martyrs or victims.  The false God loves a good sacrifice; it’s his entertainment while he smokes his cigar, drinks his brew, and counts his money on his golden throne.

Living Outside the Box: Freedom

Getting outside the box

By Cathy Eck

 

Freedom

Getting freedom is about living life outside the box that others call truth or reality.  Some people just accept the box, and they never give it another thought.  They even seem to enjoy life in the box.  But some of us don’t enjoy the box at all.  We want out.  So we try to physically remove ourselves from the box.  That doesn’t get us to freedom.

Some move to the country and buy lots of land.  They get off the grid, dump their phones and computers, and live with nature.

Others make lots of money.  They believe, “Money buys freedom.”  Their bank balance causes them to feel worthy.  They can go anywhere anytime by boat, plane, or driver.  They can buy drugs and plastic surgery to keep their mind calm and their body looking young.  They can eat expensive foods prepared by world-class chefs and work out with the best trainers and equipment so they can restrict their body from revealing their beliefs without feeling the lack that us normal folks feel.

Then there are the ones that falsely set themselves aside religiously.  They’re part of a group of chosen people.  They’re going to heaven; we won’t be with them.

Others separate themselves from the status quo with education or knowledge.  They become an expert.

We all want freedom from problems and people who want to control us.  We hide from those that drive us crazy.

We try to get free by changing or upgrading things in our physical world or setting boundaries.  But we aren’t really getting freedom that way; we’re only getting a little relief from the effects of our beliefs.  Running away to an island doesn’t free us.  Fixing effects will never get us freedom.  But don’t get me wrong.  Freedom isn’t about smiling from your prison cell either.

Most people want freedom, but they have a physical perspective so they try to get freedom by fixing their physical reality.  Their physical reality is simply the effects of their beliefs.  Until they eliminate their beliefs, freedom is impossible; life will prove that to them.   The reclusive will be annoyed by a bear who becomes a constant nuisance.  The rich person will find his money can’t buy him happiness.  The religious will wait their whole life for their chosen moment, and it will never happen.  The special diet and exercise will stop working one day.  The educated will find that their knowledge is false.  The crazy friends will come back in different bodies.

 

The Mental Perspective

True freedom is a perspective.  Freedom comes from within.  If our mind is free, our body and life will reflect that freedom.  The outer world becomes the effect of our free inner world.  When our mind becomes pure, we have no effects that need fixing anymore.

When we let go of our beliefs (our false self), we naturally move into the mental perspective.  We can see both sides of duality from this perspective.  So we want to have win-win interactions with others.  We become truly enlightened and free as our True Self.  Our false desires fade away.  We become like we were initially, at birth.

What we try to fix in the physical perspective is probably our biggest trap.  The one who runs away and hides in nature has a fear of people.  Relationship beliefs will keep them stuck even if their only relationship is that bear.

The billionaire’s trap is money.  For him or her to get free, they might have to lose it all.  It’s too easy for them to fix effects with money.  That’s why Jesus said that it was pretty damn hard for the rich person to get to heaven.

If we want to fix our body, then that’s our trap.  We have to stop the madness and start letting go.

If knowledge is our trap, we’ll keep seeking more and more knowledge only to find it’s all worthless currency.

The religious and spiritual get impatient waiting for their savior to come or the comet to destroy the earth.  They keep looking outside so they never discover their real savior inside.  They believe prophets when they have the best prophet inside — their True Self.  Shit, they’re the ones they are waiting for.

We can push away the entire world of people, but the crazies will still find us.  We all want to hide from those we perceive as powerful.  Let them come, but let go while you’re with them; you’ll diffuse their power.  They’ll probably leave you alone after that.  We ultimately have to recognize that the people with the most beliefs and emotions are actually powerless.  When we get that, they can’t hurt us anymore.  The one with the least beliefs has the most natural power; that’s why we were forced to submit as small children.  Our parents felt powerless around us when we reflected their beliefs.

 

Perspective Change

Freedom is a perspective change that happens from within once we discriminate using our emotions, let go of beliefs because they have an emotional warning that says they aren’t true, let go of listening to other’s knowledge, and let go of obeying or fearing false authority.  Slowly, we find that our perspective shifts from the physical view of the world to the mental view of the world.  We have the big picture.  We see clearly, and we know what path or direction to go in any moment.  We aren’t avoiding life; we’re really living life.  We’re creative.  We know everything we need to know.  We live where we want to live, and other false selves don’t bother us.  They’re probably afraid of us.  We do what we want to do with whomever we want to do it with.  The world even seems to support us in being who we are.

Oddly, we don’t feel special; we actually feel normal.  We have power, but not power over others.  We simply feel like our Self.  We feel free.

The Game: Falling In and Digging Ourselves Back Out

Game

By Cathy Eck

 

Tricks and Traps in The Game

You just dug yourself out of a big false self trap after feeling emotions and listening to your false repeat crappy beliefs and criticism for days.  Now you’re sailing again.  You feel like your True SELF.

Then suddenly, you feel that all too familiar confusion.  You feel emotion in your body again, maybe even panic or pain.  Your mind is looking for reasons.  Ah shit!  You thought you’d finally made it out, and now you’re right back in the poop soup again.

I know it sucks.  But in this moment, it won’t do any good to get frustrated, impatient, or angry.  You just fell in to the illusion again, and you have to dig yourself out.  There are seemingly endless tricks and traps on the way out of the illusion.  You will meet and defeat them all.  That’s initiation!

The True Self is patient.  It’s immortal.  Today, tomorrow, next year, next life…it’s all the same.

But try as I do to get people to just let go and get back to their True Self, they always want reasons for the big question: “Why did this happened to me?”  Reasons take us outward; freedom requires going inward.  However, giving our mind a logical reason can sometimes help forward movement.  Letting go of the reasons you hear in your mind (like God is punishing you) always helps.  Here are a few useful reasons that will keep you in the game.

 

Reasons The False Trapped Your Ass Again

1) You just accepted a feminine role to a false masculine, and that person caused you to accept their beliefs.

2) You heard someone say something that sounded good, true, or positive (like a teacher, guru, preacher), and you accepted their positive statement without noticing the emotion that came with it.  We’re trained to be in our mind, to be good students that take in what the teacher says without discriminating, and so we miss the invaluable signals our body senses give us.  Besides, when we get truth from another, it’s no longer truth; it’s knowledge.  Let other people’s truth go and find your own truth.

3) Your false self felt sympathy for another instead of compassion.

4) You just got competitive and choose sides or needed to win.  Freedom is an individual game.

5)  You presumed another couldn’t meet you at the True Self level, and so you became something acceptable to them.  You united with the lowest common denominator — the one with the most rigid beliefs.

6)  You feared the judgment or punishment of another.  So you did what they told you to do.

7)  You looked for a reward or looked to see if a problem went away yet.  If you have to look for results or rewards, you aren’t trusting your True Self yet.  Keep letting go.

8)  You didn’t trust your quiet inspiration.  Instead you followed expertise, social norms, or knowledge.

9)  Your mind is saying, “Who are you to do this?”  “This is too hard.”  “Cathy is a dumb fuck with a big imagination.” “Cathy wants you to accept her belief system.”  or “Emotions are bad; I don’t want to feel them.”  I offer you one belief that you need to get free:  “You can let all beliefs go.  You don’t need them.”  Everything I write supports that one belief because you need it to get free.  When you’re free, you’ll drop that ONE belief because you won’t need it, and I won’t look like a dumb fuck with a big imagination anymore.

10)  You saw someone else’s reality and thought, “This could happen to me.”  You must remain an impartial voyeur of other people’s lives.  If what they’re living brings up emotion, let go of your belief in that potential.  Their beliefs are creating their reality.  This is easier after you take responsibility for your own mind; you see that everything has a mental cause.

11)  Someone said you hurt them or didn’t support them; and you believed them.  Only the false self can be hurt; and only the false self needs support.  If you need others to support you, you’re listening to your false self.  Enjoy supporters if they come, but don’t need them.  Let them go.

12)  You have direction confusion.  You read this blog because you want freedom — you want to be your True Self and live from win-win.  It feels good when you think toward freedom and bad when you imprison yourself with beliefs.  But a religious person wants to be good according to dogma.  They feel good when obedient and bad when they disobey.  Someone who wants to win will feel great when they win and like shit when they lose.  We set the direction for our mind.  We don’t have the right to set the direction for other’s minds.  And they don’t have the right to set the direction for our mind.

13)  You followed excitement or emotions outward instead of inward — such as following romance, hope, or lust!

14)  You’re trying to figure out someone else’s mind instead of discriminating in your own.  Their mind is their problem.  Your mind is your problem.

 

It’s a Game

The collective illusion has gotten very tricky, especially since the addition of self-help and the New Age.  Knowing the tricks makes it easier to win the game.

See your quest for freedom as a giant video game.  You beat one level, and then you have to confront a more difficult level.  At some point, you win the game; or you die.  So what, you just start a new game.  If you watch people play video games, this is their attitude.  They feel good playing because that’s the attitude of our True Self.  Life is a game — an individual sport.  We enter into this big dangerous arena filled with beliefs (lies), and some of us figure out how to discriminate and beat the game. The prize is freedom, living as our True Self, and fulfillment of our desires (without anyone else having to lose).  It’s a great game — worth playing.

Stay Out of Other’s Minds (We Aren’t Meant to be Psychic)

Psychic

By Cathy Eck

 

Psychic Studies 101

When I was in graduate school, I took a class in psychic studies.  I’d just read the book, “Psychic Discoveries Behind the Iron Curtain,” and I fantasized about being able to make better business decisions or being able to detect people’s hidden motivations.  In class, we did these creepy exercises where you extended your energy into the other person’s energy field.  Then you said whatever you heard in your mind.  I felt like I was sticking my hands in raw sewage.  When they connected with me, I was even more creeped out.   Fortunately, my grade was dependent on how well I wrote about my experiences and not my success rate.

Although, one day we had to guess where our teacher was.  He was hiding somewhere in the city.  Someone came into class and said to draw whatever we thought.  I thought of a giant dick so I drew that.   Turns out he was standing by the water tower above.  So everyone thought I got it right.

Another time, we had to do a reading about someone based on name only.  I decided to go ice skating and write whatever I thought about while skating.  I wrote about rats.  Turned out my person was kind of a rat, a shrewd business wheeler-dealer.  He also had rats in his NYC apartment.  But quite honestly, his last name sounded like a mafia name.  It was a great metaphor.

Was I psychic, or was I just fucking around and happened to get some things sort of right?  I vote for fucking around.

 

Battered Minds

As part of the class, we had to attend a “Battered Minds” group meeting — professional psychics who were stuck in victimhood because they saw a vision of something bad, like 9/11.  I got up and walked out after a few minutes.  They were all compulsive whiners.  They believed every emotionally wrapped thought that entered their minds; they had absolutely NO discrimination.  They thought everything was about them.

Clearly they tapped into the collective illusion and saw 9/11 or some other tragic event.  But was that helpful?  To me, it only proved that they believed the illusion to be true and unchangeable.  I didn’t want to marinate in their world view.  The illusion won’t disappear until we stop believing it.

The purpose of a prophet is not to tell us the future so we can sit in fear and wait until the dreaded prophecy passes, declaring said prophet right or wrong.  It’s to recognize where we’re headed and to drop the thoughts that are causing that unwanted future from the collective conversation.

Psychic Studies 101 was many years ago, and I’ve done a lot of discriminating and letting go since.  The ancient ones were right.  Everything is mind.  The best place for our mind to be focused is on itself.  If everyone let go of their own unwanted thoughts, the world would be amazing in no time at all.

Most people are highly focused on other people’s minds.  In fact, I’ve mentored people pleasers who admitted that they often get in other people’s minds so they know what to say to please them.  False minds analyze and hold onto other people’s thoughts in order to look good, stay safe, keep them in their life, or say the right thing.  Our false minds have gotten erroneously connected and intertwined; and that’s why we’re all so damn confused.

Our job is our OWN mind.  If someone else’s experience generates emotion when we hear them talk, then it isn’t true for us.  If they want to make it true for them, that’s their prerogative.  But freedom is about being a master of our own mind; and that requires minding our own damn business.

 

The Lesson

We were required to experience a bunch of personal readings during that class.  I taped them all.  A few years ago, I listened to the tapes one last time before I trashed my tape recorder and tapes.  More than a decade had passed, nothing in them came true.  Nothing!  These were professional psychics, not students.

The future that they saw had been wiped off my mental hard drive.  They were reading my false mind, and I’d let much of that go.  Most of them tapped into my false desires and told me what I wanted to hear.  They picked up on my false fears and told me that they wouldn’t happen.  They said what I longed to hear to sooth my crappy beliefs.  They also gave me reasons for things that were happening in my life — spirit attachments, angels, karma, or past lives.  That was all bullshit too.  False minds love reasons.  But reasons are worthless.  The false mind has got 99 problems, and it’s causing all of them.

Intuition is also a false self skill that allows us to work around our beliefs.  It’s very helpful in the illusion, but it’s worthless if our goal is freedom.  Inspiration is what we want.  Inspiration comes from our True Self.  It’s usually silent.  We just find ourself doing something without much thinking at all.

Quite frankly, I wanted psychic or intuitive power because I was afraid of my future.  I’d become accustomed to being blindsided.  I wanted advance warning to avert problems.  I no longer trusted my True Self to keep me safe.  I’d become afraid of surprises because they were usually bad.

What I really wanted was to purify my false mind and take what I got, knowing that it would be what I wanted, needed, and earned.   I didn’t want to have a concrete and perfect plan; I wanted to be constantly pleasantly surprised.  I didn’t want to see the crappy illusion and grab only the good stuff.  I didn’t want to will the world into submission.  I didn’t want to know people’s beliefs and say the right thing to please them.  Psychic Studies 101 was very interesting but truly worthless.  So I closed that door and got back on the path to freedom.

 

Love! The Most Confusing Word in the English Language

True Love

My daughter’s rescued dogs.

By Cathy Eck

 

Words are Crazy

I love the word fuck.  It’s so clear and versatile.  If I say, “What the fuck?”  You know what I mean.  If I say, “You look fucking gorgeous!”  We’re in harmony.  If I say, “Fuck you.”  You get my drift without any further explanation.

However, if I say “I love you,” now you’re confused.  Does she mean she like… really loves me?  Does she want to have sex with me?  An exclusive relationship?  To marry me?  Three little words, “I love you,” create more relationship confusion in one day than fuck has ever created — and people claim fuck is the bad word.  But don’t worry; fuck comes to the rescue.  If you say, “I fucking love you man.”  Now you are safe.  Confusion gone.

 

Love is Enough

Nothing feels worse than hearing someone say, “My love is not enough to….. (fill in the blank)”  The statement isn’t true.  But in desperate moments, those words often come out of people’s mouths.  They wonder if they’re being punished when they love something so much and can’t make it right or save it.  That’s love in the illusion.  If you choose to believe in it, you get the consequences.

Unconditional love is the most powerful force in the universe.  I’m certain that it’s enough.  But love has been so watered down and so misused that it’s lost its incredible power.

Let’s start with romantic love.  We use the term “fall in love” for a good reason.  We take our whole True Self and cast it aside so we can be half of another person.  We define a good relationship as becoming more concerned over whether they like us then whether we like us.  Therefore, it’s also common to say, “I lost myself in that relationship.

We believe that strong emotions mean love.  But since you read my blog, you aren’t falling for that trick, are you?  The emotion is saying that what we’re thinking right now is false.  That’s all.  Emotional chemistry means that this person gets us to think a lot of false thoughts. True love is calm.  And sex should be the effect of love, not a synonym for it.

 

That’s Not Love

Some of you were raised by parents who told you that discipline was love.  My mom would smack us with her big wooden paddle and then tell us she did it because she loved us.  WTF?  That wasn’t true then and never will be true.  She was getting an emotional release because her thinking about us sucked.  That’s not love.

Then there are the people who think worry is love.  When we worry about someone, we’re projecting our fear on them.  That’s not love.

There’s the notion that sympathy as love.  When we sympathize with another, we’re believing the same lies that they believe making it harder for them to fix their situation.  Compassion, where we know they’ve just accepted a belief that isn’t true, and we know they can let it go, is equal to love.  Compassion comes from the True Self.

Controlling or fixing another isn’t love.  Someone who says, “I want you to read this self-help book because I love you.”  That’s not love.  While I freely express my ideas on my blog, I don’t even make my own kids read it.  It’s there for people who want it.  True love doesn’t need support or validation.

People equate love with doing shit.  That’s not love.  I’ve been told that love is thank you cards, cleaning, various activities, offering to buy dinner, hugs, visiting, calling, squeezing the toothpaste from the bottom, handing over the remote, etc.  I’ve been told that love is gifts, surprises, and the right words.  And I don’t believe any of it.  Fuck you Hallmark and 1-800-FLOWERS.

It’s all an issue of good old level confusion.  At the mental level, love is simply making sure that what we think of another when we think of them is loving and true.  When it’s not, we let go.  That’s it.  The mental level is what’s true.

People who feel inclined to follow the socially acceptable laws of love, as described above, view life from the physical orientation.  They often do nice things while talking about you behind your back or secretly hating you in the privacy of their mind.  They can look loving without really being loving.  If we’re honest and honor our emotions, we’ve known it all along; but usually, we didn’t want to admit it.

Humans spend their lives trying to get love when all we can control is our ability to give it.  In my experience, that’s enough.  When we get our mind clear enough that another’s false self has no power over us anymore, they’re really easy to love.  Our love power returns.

 

Unconditional love

Unconditional love is a nice word pairing — kind of like steak and Merlot; but most people don’t really know what it means.  We can’t do unconditional love.  We can’t figure it out.  We can’t pretend it.  Love doesn’t have power until it’s unconditional, and it isn’t unconditional until we let go of our false definitions of love.  Sometimes, that’s a long list.

False love is power over another — possession, fear-driven, and controlling.  It only has the power that we believe it has.  True unconditional love is a creative, healing, and unlimited power.  But we can’t fake it until we make it.  The way out is awkward, emotional, and often scary.

Often we wake up one day and realize that all the things we thought we loved about others aren’t real; their masks are covering something we don’t want to see.  But True love doesn’t turn away because when we remember another’s True Self by letting go of the false we see in them, we meet them at the True Self level.  Then we see our own reflection and it’s fucking awesome.   And I know that you know exactly what I mean.

The True Masculine Role (How It Looks)

Leading

By Cathy Eck

 

It’s hard to explain the power of the True Masculine role, mostly because there aren’t many good examples.  The masculine role is the role that has fallen; and it took the feminine right along with it.  Sadly, the fallen masculine leader tries to fix the feminine, its own reflection, instead of looking in and fixing the cause in its own mind.  This keeps everyone stuck.

 

Know your Role

The first step to owning the True Masculine Role in your own mind and life is to always know your role in any situation.  I’ve written plenty about that.  Sometimes the role is obvious.  But sometimes, it isn’t.

For example, in two people of equal status, the one speaking is the in masculine role; the listener is feminine.  We also have tricky ways of getting into the masculine role.  If we see the world as positive and negative, the most positive person will tend to have the masculine role or higher status.  In a spiritual or religious group, the good person will take the lead.  In the illusion, the one who’s right or wins takes the Grand Puba position.  Conscious of this or not, we’re always looking to get that coveted masculine role.

If we can’t win fairly, we might trick the person into giving up their power; or the relationship might be one long power struggle.  Nothing is off-limits in the illusion.  It’s all about the drama.

 

True Masculine

The True Masculine is like the sun — unconditional, expressive, and giving.  Giving is key; too many men want the masculine role so they can receive.  That’s not how it works.  In the True Masculine, there’s no hidden agendas — no masks.  We don’t need a mask to give, to express our True Self.  We only need a mask when we want someone to give to us who doesn’t want to.  Then we’re weasels wearing the mask of a good person.

A religious leader is giving a sermon on obeying God.  They’re a false leader.  They’re looking at the congregation and saying, “You need fixing.  You’re all disobedient.”  But wait, he’s in the masculine role; if he’s seeing disobedience, guess where it is — in his OWN mind.

The husband looks at his wife and sees a bitch.  The question he must ask is what beliefs is he holding about her.  She’s the reflection; he’s got the cause in his mind.  Or perhaps he’s not giving her unconditional love; he’s trying to get attention, sex, his way.  In the illusion, the feminine role reflects what you give.  You give shit; you get shit back.  Deal with it.

The mother looks at her child and thinks he’s lazy.  No, he’s not.  She’s holding her hard work ethic as true when it’s just a belief.  The child is showing her what she fears — who she would be if she didn’t put on her show as a hard worker.

The false masculine fixes the effect of their mental projection, and then sends the projection a bill or punishment.  The reflection always has a WTF look on their face.  I write this blog primarily for those in feminine roles with WTF looks.  But they will escape one day; and then I hope they’ll use what they learned to become the True Masculine that they never knew.  Revenge is never sweet.

 

Hints for Success in the Masculine Role

1)  Shut the fuck UP!  I mean that.  Just let go of what you see in the other that you don’t like or is false.  When we’re in the masculine role, we have the power.  We also love to spew our knowledge all over the place.  But the wisdom is in the feminine role.  We don’t need to train the feminine to follow our rules or think like us, we just need to stop projecting on them.

2)  FEEL!  What you’re thinking about the person in the feminine role does generate emotion in YOU.  You’ll feel it if you stop thinking — get out of your head.

3)  WIN-WIN!  Notice that if they accept your way of thinking, you’ll win or be right, but they’ll lose.  When a True Masculine leads, everybody wins…and I mean everybody, everywhere.

4)  Stop thinking about the other.  Stop giving status reports or reasons.  Stop prophesying what you believe the person will do next.  Just watch your own mind, and let go of what’s false, which is probably everything.  If you have to, lock yourself in a closet.

 

It’s a Dance…

When I was in my twenties, I went to New York City a lot for business.  I always went dancing after work (and drinking).  One night, Teddy, a really chubby, short guy with super thick glasses and the worst hair, came up and asked me to dance.  Teddy asked a lot of girls to dance, but no one said, “Yes.”  I wasn’t looking for a man; I was married.  So I wasn’t sizing up his looks like the single girls.  When I hit the floor, I had one of those American Idol moments when Simon Cowell would go “Holy Shit.”  This guy was an amazing dancer.  He was smooth and light.  But he was also a very powerful leader.  Under his lead, I didn’t need to think — I could just reflect.  I seriously “had the time of my life.”  For the first time, I realized the awesomeness of being cast in a pure feminine role with a True Masculine in the lead.  Reflecting can be really fun.

Every time I went to New York, I’d go dancing with Teddy.  Eventually, we both changed jobs and lost touch.  But I’ll never forgot what it felt like to dance with someone who not only knew he could dance, but also knew that I could dance.  That’s the best analogy that I’ve ever found for the True Masculine.  S/he not only has self-confidence and self-trust, but they have confidence and trust in those who are feminine to them.  They see everyone else as their reflection; and their reflection is perfect.

 

How to Make It Our Own — Find Our Place in the World

Nicola Steffanina

By Cathy Eck

 

People often ask me, “If we want to do what you do, how can we make it our own?”  That’s tricky to answer because you can’t make what I do your own; that’s not how life works.

In the illusion, we think that becoming a practitioner or teacher of information/knowledge is the purpose of life.  But that’s a false-self purpose.  It never provides the freedom, joy, or harmony with others that we want.

 

UNIQUE POINT OF VIEW

Like so many other topics, we must blame level confusion.  Everyone’s purpose is to first find their True Self.  Then we have our own answers to everything we need or want to know.  We aren’t interested in other people’s knowledge anymore; we sure as hell don’t want to teach or practice it.  What I do is original for me; however, it becomes knowledge for anyone else because it isn’t their own.  We must first remember our own unique point of view by letting go of our false self.  Then ironically, we won’t want to make what someone else does “our own” anymore.

I mentor people who want to write.  I recommend they write whatever they’re thinking.  If it isn’t original, then they take a sentence/paragraph, let go of the beliefs around what they wrote, they rewrite, and let go again.  If they keep doing that over and over, they’ll eventually find their OWN voice.  When our writing, art, music, inventions, decorating, etc. come from our True Self, they’ll carry the stamp of our unique point of view.

 

MAKE IT OUR OWN — MENTAL LEVEL

Sometimes, people try to find their own expression by taking a little from this teacher and a little from that teacher.  That isn’t their own.  We aren’t compilations of other people’s minds; that’s a false self.  We can’t learn to be our True Self.

Often people ask about combining what I do with Reiki, therapy, religion, or something else.  That will never work — never — never.  Those are all belief systems.  If we completely let go, we’ll let those belief systems go too.  Letting go takes us in the opposite direction of almost everything else because we’re going for the cause; that can be confusing.

 

BRIDGE CAREER

Sometimes we need what I call bridge careers.  My blogging/mentoring is my bridge career for now.  It pushes me to keep letting go and pays the bills.

Let’s say you’re a hands-on healer.  You could continue your work while letting go of the disease labels that people bring you to heal.  Eventually, you’ll find that you want to mentor people because you don’t want them to think the hands-on stuff is doing the work.  Then one day, you might drop mentoring too.  Our careers naturally evolve as we let go.

 

MAKE IT OUR OWN — PHYSICAL LEVEL

At the mental level, to “make it our own” means to be our True Self.  Done!

At the physical level, our True Self uses our knowledge and talents.  What we do provides the channel for our unique True Self perspective to flow into the material world.  For example, there’s a San Diego physicist turned comedian who does humorous Powerpoint presentations.  He has a unique perspective of physics; the audience gets a hilarious class in physics.

My mentoring is almost never about the words or techniques that I use; it’s about reaching others where they are and finding a way to convince them that what they’re thinking is false so they’ll let go.  Another person could do the same techniques and speak my words and wouldn’t get results because they still believe the illusion is true.  It’s the True Self perspective that makes it work.

My oldest son (below) DOES hip-hop dance, choreography, and videography.  His True Self bleeds through his doing; he sees a world with everybody dancing so he has a free dance channel on YouTube so people of any age or any place can learn to dance.  Everybody wins.

My daughter (above) is a horse trainer; since she was a young child she’s rescued animals, but never with a victim mentality.  They come to her to find their true home.  Now she takes in horses that no one wants, rejuvenates them, finds and embellishes their gifts, then sells them for a profit to good homes.  Everybody wins.

Matt Steffanina

There’s no shortage of hip-hop dancers or horse trainers.  They do something quite ordinary in a unique way to fill a gap in the world that only they seem to see.  That gap created their desire; and following that desire got them into their perfect place in the world.

 

WHAT ABOUT THE MONEY?

The next question is usually,  “What about the money?”  I researched for fifteen years and blogged for over a year without making money from it.  I was inspired to do it.  I took what I call dumb jobs.  Then someone said, “Would you mentor me?”  I said, “Yes;” and mentoring was born.  Then another person said, “I’d like to give you a donation.”  So I learned how to add a PayPal button to my blog.  I do retreats when people ask for a way to meet others of like mind.  I listen to requests and questions; and I attempt to fill the requests in a win-win way.  My son’s and daughter’s businesses grew exactly the same way.  I call it organic growth.  You become yourself and express who you are; then you find the place where you’re wanted or needed.

Here’s where things get interesting.  I would write if no one read my writing.  It what I love to do.  My children would do what they do.  When we do things from our True Self, it’s life giving in the being and doing.   Belief systems, on the other hand, die without lots of believers and constant attention and support.  They need people to feed the dragon because the dragon is very hungry–that’s not win-win.  We’re switching an old paradigm; that’s not easy.  But, one day, people will only pay True Selves.  I promise it.