By Cathy Eck
No one is a victim of another — that’s the illusion. We’re all victims of the illusion, until we escape.
Remember that any benefits you get from living a victim role are so small compared to what you’ll receive from freedom. The escape isn’t easy, but it’s so worth it.
Judgment Vs. Discrimination
A victim confuses judgment and discrimination. (I’ve written about that here). We must get to the place where our feminine side doesn’t believe others that judge us because their words feel bad — so they aren’t true. We also have to get to the place where we stop judging others (masculine side). We must realize that if we have an untrue belief about another, we’re generating emotions in our body and feeding our false self.
Even Hitler had a pure True Self; unconditional love means that we let go of what we see in him so we can remember who he really is. What you then realize is that when you only see unconditional love in another, they can’t hurt you. But you can’t fake it until you make it. You must get to the place of unconditional love by honest letting go, not mental gymnastics.
The victim has been trained to be sympathetic rather than compassionate (more here). Sympathy causes us to take on the unwanted beliefs of others when we choose to entrain with their emotions. The victim is emotional because they hold beliefs in mind instead of truth. When we entrain with their emotions, we get their beliefs in our mind as a bonus. We’re told sympathy is good by the illusion because it perpetuates our false selves. Once we’ve sympathized with others, and destroyed our life, we expect others to join us in misery. But someone has to say “NO MORE.” We have to move to compassion.
Compassion has the balls to say, “Let go. The Emperor is naked.” Compassion tells the truth fearlessly. Compassion helps everyone. Sympathy helps NO ONE.
A Victim Looks for Reasons, Not Causes
If I had a dime for every time I heard reasons why someone was a victim… oh Lordy I’d be a rich woman. Victims have minds that make up reasons, and they believe their own ridiculous reasons. This is how we get pissed off fairies, evil aliens, judgmental Gods, Satan, curses, rituals to fix the curses, evil illuminati, and much more. The victim is never the cause. The reason is always someone or something else. The reasoning enables them to project their emotional pain outside of them, and projection keeps people very stuck. Most people are victims of their own projections. If we look inward and find the real cause, the projected evil reasons disappear.
Victims often ask questions like, “Why did this happen to me?” Their mind answers and gives them utter bullshit, and that utter bullshit has strong emotions attached to it. They’ve already been psychologically reversed to believe that something that feels bad is true, so they believe their own lying mind. They even think it’s God talking or some spirit guide or dead avatar. The mind is like a tape recorder. It simply repeats what was recorded earlier in their mind, in other’s minds, or the collective mind.
The True Self’s advice is always perfect for us. We get to the True Self advice by letting go of the false advice until we get the perfect answer that feels calm, clear, and right. It’s win-win for everyone.
The Victim Thinks Success Is Ego
When people are successful at something, it’s because they don’t have an ego, not because they do. Now, don’t get me wrong. Often they succeed with their True Self, and then the false self takes the credit in time. But ego or false self is what keeps us from fulfilling or dropping our desires. Thus religion and new age are filled with EGO while telling us they’re getting rid of it. You can’t fix the false self, you can only let it go. Most teachers today are either projecting their false self on their followers or floating above it. They are clone minds, not True Selves.
When we’ve been judged for our success, we often start to resist the fulfillment of desires. I made this mistake for years. Not achieving desires felt better than the judgment I got for succeeding from my religious family and friends. We must learn that what someone says in judgment feels bad because it’s false. I eventually realized (after much letting go work) that they were just showing me their false self.
The entire Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil is the Ego or false self — not just the evil part. THIS IS KEY! Knowledge is getting truth or lies from the outside instead of from within us. We learn good and evil from other people (authorities). When we listen to anyone who says something that doesn’t harmonize with our True Self, we’re stuck in false self, eating from the wrong fucking tree.
“The meek shall inherit the earth” doesn’t mean the poor will get God’s blessing. I was terrified of this belief when I was stuck in the illusion. Now it’s very clear. It means when you let go of the competitive, fighting, win-lose, good-evil false self, you don’t have to fight with anyone anymore. You get the whole earth without removing your ass from your chair — unless inspired to do so.
So being a victim doesn’t make you meek and heaven bound. It makes you false self bound in hell. It makes you a pawn of the illusion, not God’s beloved child. When you see that, you won’t want to be a victim anymore. And when you no longer want your inner victim, you kick its royal ass out of your mind forever.