Letting Go of Beliefs Using Emotional Release Techniques

emotional release

By Cathy Eck 


Why Do We Have Emotions?

I was so confused by emotions growing up.  My father seemed to have too few, and my mother seemed to have too many.  My mother’s way of emotional release wasn’t pretty.  I decided at a young age, that I wanted to find the true purpose of emotions.

Most people hate their emotions.  They go to extreme lengths to avoid or suppress them.  If addictions or distractions don’t sooth their emotional body, they make their environment sterile from triggering events and people.  Then their lives start to mimic a fish in a glass bowl.  Every day looks the same — nothing ever changes.  Others develop a hard shell and lose their ability to be intimate or authentic with others.  Avoiding emotions isn’t the answer.


Emotions Turn Us Inward

Emotions are designed to pull us inward so we’ll examine our minds and let go of problematic beliefs (causes).  Ideally, when we feel emotion, we’d remove our attention from what is outside and turn inside.  We’d witness or follow the emotion to the causal belief.  We’d let the causal belief go, and the emotion would go too.

When we release, suppress, or express our emotions without finding the causal belief, we create a temporary fix, not a permanent cure.


If your beliefs are serving you and harmless to others, you won’t feel emotions and you won’t cause emotional outbursts in others.  Emotions were wrongfully blamed because they reveal beliefs; they keep us truthful.  They push us to be ourselves.

Often people in our past didn’t like our True Self.  They forced their beliefs on us in order to make us like them.  We twisted our minds to think that the emotion we felt around their beliefs confirms their rightness, creating psychological reversal.

We have two choices in life.  We can let go of our desire to live in the world authentically as our True Self and follow the path of our beliefs (false self), or we can let go of whatever beliefs pulled us into the illusion and live as our True Selves.


Emotional Release Techniques

Most therapy is about creating an emotional release because emotions are considered evil within the illusion.  If you want complete freedom, you need techniques that free beliefs, not just emotions.  Eliminating emotions provides relief, but it doesn’t eliminate the cause.

If you examine the emotional release technique of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), the practitioner advises the client to rub themselves or tap on certain meridians while saying words like, “Even though I’m very ashamed of myself, I unconditionally love and accept myself.”  Those words still accept the notion of shame as real or possible.  Shame exists only in the illusion so the action is trying to fix the illusory shame rather than let it go.  Shame doesn’t exist in the True Self.

The patient believes they’ve fixed the problem, and so it appears.  But they’ve really put ice cream on top of manure and created a sundae.  They’re left with shame plus a belief that shame was removed.  They don’t get the complete release of knowing that shame isn’t real.

In the illusion, there’s a core principal that the illusion is true.  Therefore, you can’t let it go.  Doctors, therapists, lawyers, government, military, teachers, inventors, and parents are all trying to fix the illusion.  Thus, the illusion stays in tack.  To get free, you have to let go the illusion — not fix it.


Letting Go is True Emotional Release

Before I discovered how to let go, I tried to EFT.  I feared that I was going to put holes in my body because I tapped so much.  I lived in an environment where beliefs were spoken all the time.  It was clear that emotional release techniques didn’t help because my environment triggered beliefs and created new emotions as fast as I could release them.

We could adapt the language of EFT to include letting go so it becomes more than just emotional release. You’d do that by changing the language to include discrimination.  When you rub or tap to say, “Even though…blah, blah,” you could change the words to, “I let go of the belief that I’m a bad person because shame is a false idea.”  However, you can’t fake letting go; it can’t just be about saying the words like a mantra.

You must recognize that your belief in shame is false.  Your True Self never did anything wrong, even if your false self did.  Everything judged bad is false because anything bad or evil is caused by false beliefs like the notion of good and evil, and you didn’t invent that.

Bad or wrong only happens within the illusion.  In the illusion, it ALWAYS takes two to tango.  Victimhood is clearly part of the illusion.  Every event in the illusion is about two opposing charges coming together.  Most people are stuck in the illusion because they’ve been labeled bad or wrong, while the person holding the opposing charge is also stuck in their false goodness and irresponsibility.  If we get that, we can free ourselves completely.

When we let go of a causal belief, we return to our True Self.  Emotional release occurs as a natural biproduct.



If we do emotional release with discrimination, we’ll eventually realize that tapping is silly.  We’ll realize that what caused the letting go was always the fact that we discriminated between true and false.  We somehow got to the truth and realized that there is no bad or evil.  We realized that shame is illusory.  We can now eliminate the middle man and forget the tapping or breathing or any other ritual.

Emotional release is only a temporary fix.  If we don’t let the causal belief go, it will keep creating reality and those related emotions will return.  When we do the complete job of letting go at the cause, we never have the same problem or experience again.  We’re one belief closer to the freedom of a pure virgin mind.


Understanding Embarrassment, Shame, and Humiliation

Gorilla embarrassment smile

By Cathy Eck 


Embarrassment, Shame, and Humiliation 

Embarrassment, shame, and humiliation are the three evil cousins of letting go.  They appear, as we let go, in a very strange and confusing way.  Embarrassment, shame, or humiliation often arise after we’ve let go of lots of related beliefs or a complex belief system.  It feels like we’re embarrassed for being gullible or passing the beliefs we accepted on to others.  But that doesn’t make sense.  What we’re actually feeling is the memorized resistance from the person who imposed the beliefs on us.

When you let go of any belief, you also let go of your projection on anyone that you imposed it upon.  It’s the best gift that you can give to another — more freedom and more love.  No one gets harmed when you stop judging or limiting them.  So you wouldn’t feel embarrassment, shame, or humiliation because you let go.


Battling for Freedom

Embarrassment, humiliation, and shame are imposed upon us to get us to accept false beliefs and ignore our own True Self.  As we let go of another person’s beliefs in our mind, the memory of their authority within us starts unloading reasons to retain the beliefs.  We feel the same emotions that we felt when we first accepted their beliefs.  Sometimes it seems that the beliefs are arising in their mind, and they’re reinforcing them just as they’ve done in the past, bouncing the beliefs back in our direction.  In truth, the entire memory is within our mind, but it rarely feels that way.

I once played the feminine role to someone who saw his false beliefs as absolutely true, good, and right.  He was very nice, but most of it was a show.  He was very obedient to the illusion and status quo.  In short, he was a normal false self.

When I didn’t follow one of his rules, which was pretty much everyday, the rule arose in his conscious mind; and he felt emotion.  But he was psychologically reversed.  He didn’t see his rules as false.  Instead, he took the emotion that he felt as a sign that he was right, and I was wrong.  This might be normal thinking; but it isn’t natural and true thinking.  It’s the way of the false self.

He would then rise above his own false belief (and his related emotion) by reminding himself that he was good, and I was bad.  In other words, he moved to the good side of the bottom of the triangle.  Then he blamed me for his emotions to cement his false rightness — tossing me to the bad side of the bottom of the triangle.

I felt emotion as I received his false words.  I believed him only because I felt helpless to change his mind.  I felt stuck in his world.  I could have turned the embarrassment, shame, and humiliation back on him; but I didn’t want to.  He wasn’t bad or evil for having beliefs; he didn’t deserve punishment.  I had to find another way out of his illusory world of beliefs.


Psychological Reversal

Psychological reversal (believing false instead of truth) goes back to ancient leaders who trained our ancestors to believe that thoughts or beliefs that generate emotion are true.  That way they could lie to us.  Once learned, people passed the same perspective down to their children.  Leaders haven’t changed much.  Most are still psychologically reversed.  This is the cause of all problems, suffering, and disease.

If you’re stuck in a situation like I was, you know that convincing the person in authority (the masculine role) to change their mind is nearly impossible.  Usually they have lots of pride in their beliefs (another false state of mind).

In an ideal situation, the leader would let go of their beliefs when they saw emotions arise in those who believed them.  But most authority figures find it easier to keep convincing their believers to keep their belief than to let the belief go in their own mind and face their own masculine false god.


The Way Out

Eventually, I discovered that emotions tell us what is false within our own mind.  They guide us to the truth when we allow them to show us what to let go.

I’d let the rules/beliefs (and related emotions) go in my mind, and then they’d boomerang back with a memory that would cause me to doubt myself.  I’d see the lie within the memory, and I’d let go again and again.  I had to let go of each memory that came back until nothing remained.  You see, the person who wanted my obedience lived within my mind as a false voice of authority (masculine role) even though he was no longer in my life.  I had to clear out his voice by eliminating all the reasons (most of which involved shame, humiliation, and embarrassment) for believing him.

Each time I let go, it felt like I was battling my infector’s energy — the emotional current was very strong.  I had to witness the emotion, knowing it was false, until it dissipated.  I did this until I let go of enough reasons and memories that it all looked stupid.  Eventually, I was a fish that could no longer be hooked.

To get free, I had to stop looking at his rules through his false lens of good-evil, right-wrong.  I had stay in the natural perspective of true-false.  I assessed the truth of everything that he said based on whether it was win-win and lacked emotion.  If it wasn’t true, I let it go.  The embarrassment, shame, and humiliation disappeared once I realized that his beliefs (and rules) were all false.

As I did this, I grew in power.  I set myself free without any further need for battle.  I slowly became the one with all the power.  I didn’t become right and him wrong, I simply became True and free.


Practical Alchemy

gold coins

By Cathy Eck


The Fall of Alchemy

Years ago, I became very fascinated with alchemy — the notion that something with low value could be transmuted into something with great value.  I loved the stories about turning water into wine or lead into gold, and I studied them intently tearing apart every number and ingredient for symbolic value.  I felt in my heart that it could be done, but how?  Were the stories literal or metaphorical?

I wasn’t interested in getting rich.  I hoped that alchemy was about finding our own human value in the world.  I wondered if there was a practical side to alchemy, something that we could all use to improve our lives.  I’d come to realize that the truth about anything has practical value and works for everyone.


Missing Ingredient

It was said that alchemists were generous with their instructions.  Some published literal recipes and others embedded alchemical secrets in stories.  But it was widely agreed that alchemists left out one ingredient from every recipe or story — keeping the secret from the average Joe.

I spent months in libraries looking for the missing ingredient.  At first, I thought that perhaps different alchemists left out different ingredients, and I could piece together different stories and recipes like a puzzle.  But that didn’t work.

Eventually, I realized that the missing ingredient wasn’t physical.  Like an optical illusion, the True Self perspective was the missing ingredient.  Nothing was missing if I read the story through true eyes.  But if I read it literally through false eyes, it appeared to be incomplete.  Damn, that was cool!

Just like mythology and religious stories, alchemical stories took the same Humpty-Dumpty fall.  People lost their True Self perspective (eyes to see and ears to hear), and you can’t understand ancient stories unless you read them from your True Self.  From the false self perspective, they appear incongruent and disjointed.  They seem to be missing something or to be badly translated.


Gold to God

If you look at the word Gold, it’s God with an L.  The L in Hebrew (Lamed) was the central letter of the alphabet and the tallest letter.  The tallest could be conceived as the most powerful, the king, who in the ancient world was the center and often treated like a God.  Gold relates to a physical God.

In Greek the true King was the Christós or Christ (annointed or initiated one).  But the True King wasn’t just one person or King.  He was the high initiate, the True Self in all of us, an inner King.  When this part of us Leads (is the center), then we live and behave from a completely different perspective than when our false self leads.


Practical Alchemy

In the ancient mystery schools, alchemy was about the transformation of the false self to the True Self.  The final transformation was turning the body from the mortal form into the Temple of Solomon.  (Sol – Om – On were three words for the sun — the triune nature of God).  The initiate’s body was to become a temple for the sun, the True inner King.  But remember, this wasn’t a stupid pagan belief.  The sun was the metaphor for the perfect masculine (yang) energy because it gave light and warmth unconditionally without asking anything in return.  The True King took all of his joy from giving and loving (not taking and spending).  The sun, of course, is golden in color so ancient kings surrounded themselves with gold.

We are all leaders or suns in some way.  If we are leaders of a family, company, or classroom, we can practice being more like the sun.  We can practice unconditional loving and giving.  That’s practical alchemy.


An Alchemical Project

But I love to use practical alchemy to grow while creating material things.  To do this, choose a project, preferably one that involves an idea, as well as a hands-on component  — something you really want to do and don’t yet think you can.  Painting a picture, making a perfect pie, growing a garden, building something, creating a business, or training a pet can all be alchemical projects.

What you must recognize is that you do know or have access to everything necessary to take this project to perfection.  Only beliefs stand in the way of your success.

First get a clear vision of the result you desire.  Follow any inspired actions throughout the process — remember inspired actions have no emotional component.  You aren’t willing the project into submission.  If you are inspired to take a class or read a book that’s fine, but don’t give your power to the teacher or author.  Just get the information that you need to move forward.  You’re putting the pieces of a puzzle together, not submitting to another’s way of thinking.  Notice any fear or self-doubt that arises, and let that go as you move along.  Continue to take any action you feel certain of.  If you keep letting go, the inspiration for the next step will keep you moving forward.  If your results aren’t perfect, you look for what beliefs you have that produced the less-than-perfect result.  Continue following inspiration and letting go.  Then take action again.  Keep repeating this until you get to the perfection you envisioned.

We all do projects all the time; we just don’t do them from the alchemist’s mindset.  The alchemist was comfortable with not knowing everything; he didn’t need a step-by-step recipe or outline.  As you let go of your beliefs and follow inspiration, you find that you know more than you thought.  You grow in True confidence.


The Wisdom of Alchemy

When the ancient alchemist used the process of creating and the results of his efforts as feedback, he purified his own mind — his mind of lead turned into a mind of gold, his True Self.  He became the center, the True King of his world.  He became One that would Lead with unconditional love and the pure spirit of giving.  He became a master of life.

When Our Mind Goes Blank

When our mind goes blank

By Cathy Eck


Mind Goes Blank

Recently, I received a great question.  After letting go of a whole string of beliefs, this person’s mind went completely blank — quiet.  She wondered if this was her True Self, or was it just a false self trick?

On the journey to freedom, we often have moments of peace and calmness where our True Self is in power.  Other times our false triggers beliefs so that our mind goes blank.  If we pay close attention, we can discriminate between a quiet True Self and a mind that is holding on by pretending to be blank.

Our True Self is naturally quiet; it’s also unemotional — it’s congruent.  When our false mind goes blank, there isn’t peace in our body — our body and mind are incongruent.  That’s how you know the difference.

When my mind goes blank, I just turn my attention to my body; and my emotions guide me to the causal belief.  Emotions guarantee that our false self can’t hide for long — that’s a good thing.

If you’re in touch with your emotions, turning to your body will get you back on the freedom train.  If you don’t feel emotions or your emotions are blocked on a particular subject, try any of these tips.


Clone Mind

Most westerners have a True Self clone mind.  It’s a part of our persona that is a highly convincing copy of a True Self.  We fall for cult leaders, politicians, gurus, priests, and salesmen who have convincing clone minds because they appear spiritual, Jesus-like, or really good.  Clone minds come from a strong desire to be seen as good — to be loved and approved of.  The clone mind is distanced from its thoughts — it pays attention only to actions.  It is completely outer directed, and constantly managing perceptions in extreme cases.  Many people with True Self clone mind don’t even think they have beliefs; they’re sure their mind is filled with the truth.

When the false self feels threatened, often triggered by a big letting go spree, clone mind steps in to save the day.  It’s goal is to convince us that we’re already there — no need to let go.  If you’ve been a meditator or were taught that good kids are seen and not heard, your clone mind might be very quiet and behave much like your True Self.  But you can call it on its game.

Here’s the key.  You don’t notice that your True Self is quiet except in hindsight after it gets noisy again.  If you’re thinking, “Great, my mind is quiet. I’m spiritual.”  Then your false self is probably cloning your True Self.


Up the Ante

Our mind goes blank when we’re in apathy, but we believe that we’re in acceptance.  If we set our desires very low, we keep apathy at bay.  If your only desire is to sleep and eat, and you’ve got that down, you won’t feel much emotion.  Your beliefs happily run your show and everything is in your false mind’s control.

Apathy resists change.  Apathy also causes jealousy and envy when others fulfill desires that we pushed aside.  People in apathy tend to say things like, “I accept where I am,” or “I accept what God gives me,” or the Catholic motto, “I’m happy even though I’m suffering.”  Real acceptance doesn’t produce unfulfilled desires or longing.  Apathy is always the product of beliefs that we accepted from a very savvy clone mind.

If you find that your mind goes blank and you suspect apathy, create a desire.  As soon as you launch even a little desire, your false mind (or the voice of the clone mind) will start to send a flurry of reasons why you can’t have what you want.  If you can’t see your limiting beliefs, your friends and family will happily bring up some jealousy or envy.  Now your mind isn’t blank anymore.


You Can’t See Me, Hear Me, or Feel Me

The false mind loves to play Hide ‘n Seek.  The false mind goes blank because there’s a belief that is active, but you don’t identify with it.  The mind pretends that the thought is out there, and you have no power over it.  However, you can recognize that it’s in your mind because you feel emotion when the other person says it.  Our emotions relate to our thoughts, not the thoughts of others regardless of who speaks them.

When your mind goes blank, think about your latest disagreement.  Ask yourself, “What bothered you in the other’s words or actions?”  You’ll feel emotion.  That’s because you believed what they said.  You don’t want to believe them, but you do.  The emotion is saying that what you’re thinking right now isn’t true, so let it go.  If you truly don’t believe another, you won’t be bothered by their beliefs.  But you can’t fake this.  You have to really get that the belief is false and powerless.

Unemotional-looking people often identify all their bad or wrong thoughts with others. They think they’re keeping the thoughts away, but they’re actually keeping themselves trapped in the illusion.  Our beliefs about others are still our beliefs.  Good trick huh!

This usually happens when we feel certain that our Clone Mind is right or good and our opponent’s point of view is bad or evil.  Because we don’t connect the two thoughts as coming from our own mind, we associate the emotion with the other person instead of our own false thinking.  The Triangle Process helps to solve this problem.


What Won’t You Do

The last trick involves challenging your rulebook when your mind goes blank.  Our mind often gets quiet when we won’t break our own rules.  So break a rule — do something you label bad or wrong, like eating candy or watching the Kardashians.  Don’t worry, your True Self won’t murder or harm anyone.  That will get your mind thinking again.  You’ll have plenty of material to let go.



Please, Somebody, Anybody, Tell Me What To Do

Somebody, tell me what to do

By Cathy Eck


This might sound like a strange name for one of my posts.  As you’ve probably guessed, I’m not big on asking others to tell me what to do since I probably won’t obey them anyway.  But there have been moments in my life when I thought that my problem or challenge was too big for me to handle; and I looked up at the sky (which told me I was following a belief) and said, “Please, Somebody, Anybody, Tell me what to do.”  Then I thought, “Why did I do that?”


Here’s Why We Do That

We have many beliefs in our mind that support those moments of feeling that we just don’t have the answers.  Most of us were taught that we don’t have the answers — that’s why they send us to school and church for most of our childhood.  Truth is, we have more answers than those who are teaching us — it’s just that our answers only work in the true world.  Most people believe they’re not an authority on life — and they’re never the “supreme authority.”  We’re also taught to be obedient.  So whether we know it or not, we’re sending out a signal that says, “Tell me what to do,” or “Please control me.”   Then when someone answers that signal, we get mad at them and rebel, or we obey them without thinking.



Let’s resolve this situation once and for all.  It isn’t as hard as you might think.  Like everything else in life, you just have to go in the opposite direction of the status quo.

Try to remember one of those moments of desperation.  If you’re visual, you’ll see the event.  If not, you might hear or feel the memory.  Now go right to that moment where you said, “Somebody, tell me what to do,” and then stop the movie or soundtrack.



You’re standing before a split on your path.  You have two directions to choose from.  But most likely, you only see one option.  The majority of people, listen for a few minutes hoping that God will speak to them or an angel will appear.  Then they go off looking for a human expert.  If they have a health problem, they call doctors.  If they have a relationship problem, they look for books, advisors, or wise friends.  If they have a legal problem, they look for a lawyer or call 911.  They’re looking for someone who fits their acceptable answer for “somebody, anybody, tell me what to do.”

But the experts they find are poor substitutes for their True Self.  Our True Self has the perfect answer for us every time.  Occasionally, people even accidentally find a True Self who provides a perfect answer, and they don’t listen to them because they’re looking for someone who matches their false self’s emotional charge — their other half.

A well-known channel wrote, “The ancient gods were always trying to guess what the Supreme God wanted.”  Really?  Really?  Think about that!  People project their early authority figures on to God.  If we had parents that we couldn’t read, we think that God is unpredictable or tries to trick us.  This channel doesn’t have the truth; she has a problem with her unpredictable father.  This is yet another layer of beliefs:  God won’t tell me the answer or God isn’t answering my prayer.  


Tell Me What To Do

You want to access your True Self, but to do so, you have to go the other direction away from advisors.  We habitually turn toward the voice of “Somebody, anybody, tell me what to do.” But that voice is our false self looking for its opposite.  Since it doesn’t have the answer and knows that it doesn’t have the answer, it attracts someone who doesn’t have the answer and doesn’t know that they don’t have the answer.  Yes, I said that right.  We label people who think they know the answer (but usually don’t because they fix effects, not the cause) experts in the illusion.  We pay them lots of money.

You must find the causal belief.  So instead of chasing your desire to find help, u-turn the other direction.  Let go that you need somebody to help you, that you don’t have the answer, or that you don’t know what God wants from you.  Let go that you’re alone or that the problem is too big. (All of these thoughts will feel terrible with lots of emotion.  You know what that means.  It means you’re mind is giving you lots of lies — beliefs — to let go).

This is a powerful moment when you can take some power back from authorities.  They won’t be fond of your decision.  If you no longer need them, they won’t have yachts, planes, and Swiss bank accounts.

You must remain a witness to your mind; keep reaching back. You’ll probably find a desire to be rescued or saved.  You’ll often find the desire to be controlled.  I know it sounds insane, but we’re programmed that way.  We’re taught these beliefs as children.  Your freedom is dependent on your removal of these beliefs, which contain lots of emotional charge.


Stay With It

Keep letting go of whatever comes up for as long as it takes.  You’re going the right way.  You’re going toward freedom.  You’ll eventually get calm, and you’ll see what your mind was doing to you.  Then you’ll either get an insight, see the cause of the problem and let that go (which means the problem will dissolve on its own), or you’ll just feel peaceful and go about your day only to notice in a few days that you forgot that the problem ever existed.

Now comes the hard part.  Don’t tell the wrong people about this because they’ll call it a miracle.  They’ll make it sound like something extraordinary, and you don’t want that.  You found freedom; it’s how our lives were meant to be lived — it’s not miraculous, it’s normal.



Soothing Yourself: A Great False Self Trick

False Self tricks -- soothing

By Cathy Eck


Soothing is a Sneaky False Self Trap

Recently I was reminded of one of the best false self tricks to keep us stuck in the illusion:  soothing ourselves.  We sooth ourselves when we’re thinking something false (a belief) and we believe that what we’re thinking is actually true.  We don’t want to think it, it feels terrible, and yet, we don’t think we can let it go.  So we think a nice soothing thought.  For many people, this is a drug.  It’s very subtle; and you don’t see what you’re really doing unless you look under the positive, soothing rug.

Lots of parents and teachers do this with children.  They don’t realize that they’re creating a mental pattern that the child will continue through life.  Instead of soothing children, teach them to let go.  Teach them to discriminate and to not accept beliefs into their minds.  Freedom is a better gift than soothing.


An Example:

The love of your life (or so you thought) just left you.  All kinds of thoughts are racing through your mind, and all of them feel bad.  But you’re not trained to let go. (In fact, most of us have never even gotten a hint that we could let thoughts go.  We think we have to endure them.)  These painful thoughts are really getting to you, and emotions are running high.  That’s because when you think something false, you get an emotional response — another thing no one told you.  The emotional response is telling you that the thoughts you’re thinking are false, but you’re on automatic.  You’re accepting all the thoughts as true.  So eventually, when you can’t take anymore, you calm yourself with a soothing thought like:  When one door closes, another opens.

If you pay attention to what happened when you spoke the soothing thought, you can gain real insight into the inner workings of your mind.  When you think the soothing thought, your emotions stop.  That’s because this thought is positive.

Our True Self is naturally positive so this thought sounds like the True Self and doesn’t generate emotions.  Most people accept the thought and calm down.  You’ve stopped the train wreck of thoughts that you were riding.  But those beliefs and thoughts that you were wallowing in are still there, hiding below the surface; and they’ll be back when the soothing wears off.  Then you’ll be soothing again.  Soothing, like a drug, is only a temporary fix.


How Do You Let Go?

You don’t wallow in your thinking; you witness your thinking.  That’s a huge difference.  When we wallow in our thinking, we’re automatically accepting every false thought as true.  Depressed people tend to be wallowers.  If instead you witness or observe your thinking, you can actively discriminate.  The True Self is the observer.

The first thought arises.  “I’ll never have love again.”  You notice that thought doesn’t feel good; so it isn’t true.  If there’s a lot of emotion, you just witness it while reminding yourself that the emotion is telling you the thought is false.  You notice that the emotion and the thought leave, but another thought arises:  “S/he never really loved me.”  Again, you notice that the thought feels bad so it isn’t true.  Your mind is just dishing up all the beliefs that it has accepted from others — friends, family, movies, books, teachers.  Their beliefs are arising in your mind.  The thoughts feel bad because they are false.

It’s sad, but most of what people think is false.  People rarely have a true thought.  In fact, these probably were the beliefs that caused your lover to run for the hills.

You’ve got a great opportunity to do some serious house cleaning.  And if you really want a perfect relationship in the future, you can have it if you do your deep cleaning.  Hoarding beliefs creates all our problems.


Some Other Popular Soothing Thoughts:

It’s always darkest just before dawn.

God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.

That which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.

Look for the silver lining.

New Age terms : Reframe or Cancel, Cancel.

Count your blessings in the face of adversity.

Something better is coming along.

It’s all good.

They did the best they could.


These are the ones that people gave me when I recently asked for suggestions.  Add any you know to the list by writing them in a comment below.


Soothing Calms Emotions

Most people won’t let go because letting go requires feeling emotions.  People are so damn scared to feel their emotions that they would rather have a shitty life than face them.  Drugs, food, entertainment, alcohol, smoking — addictions exists because they’re soothing — at least in the beginning.

We’re trained to hate the feminine; and whether we’re man or woman, our feminine aspect is emotional when we’re in our false self.  The only real way to become completely calm is to let go of the false self belief-by-belief.  The True Self is as calm as still waters because emotions only occur when we let the false self do the thinking.

The original meaning of facing our fear is what I’ve described above.  Later people changed it to mean leaping over fear with a single bound.  That way they didn’t have to let go to achieve goals.  When you learn to face emotions head on, realize they’re exposing the causal belief, and recognize that the causal belief is false, you’re on the fast track to freedom.  But it does take practice and persistence.

The key is to realize that soothing is another false self trick.  If you want freedom, you have to stop believing the false self.  It’s very crafty; and it has endless survival tricks up its sleeve.  Life begins when the false self starts losing power; that’s our second birth.  But to undo the false self, you have to get rid of the causal beliefs, not just cover them up with soothing, cool ice cream.


Here’s a related post on positive thinking.



Your Unique and Valuable Story

Unique and perfect
By Cathy Eck
“Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.”
-Margaret Mead



I love the above quote.  About a month ago, I pulled my “Freedom Astrology” work off the shelf.  It’s really got me thinking about uniqueness.

Freedom astrology is nothing like traditional astrology.  It evolved from my understanding of ancient storytelling and wanting to understand how one gets their unique perspective on life.  I realized that I could look at someone’s astrology chart and craft a unique story.  Each person’s story was completely unique like our fingerprints.  In addition, the stories transcended time, offering an eagle’s eye view of their life.


We’re All Storytellers

We’ve shared stories for thousands of years.  That’s why we love stories so much; we’re all telling a story with our life whether we know it or not.  But the stories people tell in social circles about their trip to the doctor or their fight with their spouse aren’t real stories.  Here’s why.

The first stories came from the stars — nomads lying on the desert sand with nothing to do at night invented characters and stories.  As time went on, the stories became more and more evolved.  The major characters became patterns for normal ways of being and interacting.

These star stories provided a framework for people’s lives.  Like a house blueprint, the story provides the overall structure.  A house blueprint is changeable, and it doesn’t describe the colors, decorations, or furniture.  In the same way, one’s unique star story is malleable.

Our story is part of our false self, and we can let it go completely — that’s complete freedom.  But we accept our star story with the desire to complete it.  And when we let go of all the beliefs we’ve borrowed from others, the story does make sense; we usually want to live it to completion.  It’s our reason for being.


Stories Aren’t Cast in Stone

Religions cast stories in stone structures to make them last beyond their normal lifespan.  Stories were designed to be flexible and temporary so we store them in our false self.

Once people became power-hungry, they decided that the leader’s story should dominate the lives the entire kingdom forever.  The notion of the personal story was replaced by the group story.  No one can live a story like the writer, so this way of viewing life made sure that the leader would be the most successful and powerful person.  Christianity did this with Jesus’ story — no one can be Jesus like Jesus.  But Jesus would also have a really hard time being you.


The Fall

The original stories had a beginning that was perfect and Eden-like (Act I).  Then there was a fall (Act II), and last they resurrected themselves and came full circle (Act III).  You might recognize this as Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey or the three-act play.

Western religion falsely started our lives with the fall (Act II).  They told us that Adam and Eve were in Eden, but we weren’t.  When a story starts at the wrong place, it keeps us stuck.  It erases our memory of perfection causing us to think our desires are ridiculous or imaginary.  Religion also made the resurrection part of the story (Act III) unachievable for us mortals.  If we were never in Eden and we can’t resurrect ourselves from the illusion, guess where we stay stuck forever?

When people read their star story, they’re struck by the fact that Act I and III are there.  This creates a huge perspective change.  Everyone can do the same thing by accepting Eden as their original starting place (Home) and realizing that we’re meant to return Home in this life.  Doing so expands your perspective like nothing else can.  It exposes your false beliefs.

All three acts of one’s star story come from the natal astrology chart based on birth time and location.  I see the different acts or perspectives by changing my point of view.  As I go into the fall part of the story, I see the beliefs that pulled the character into the illusion and feel emotions arise in my body to the point of huge discomfort, then as I move into the resurrection or return to Eden, the beliefs and emotions go.

In the end, I feel unconditional love for the person.  That’s proof that I’ve completed the cycle.  I see them as free and perfect.  It reminds me that what we don’t like in another is only the result of viewing them from a fallen perspective.


Don’t Accept What Is

Religion and the New Age have sold the notion of accepting what is.  Absolute bullshit!  There is no one that can’t get Home in one life based on what I’ve seen in these stories.  Religion blocks that by making beliefs the truth and convincing us that we were never in Eden and won’t be returning.

The number one criteria for returning to Heaven on Earth is being unwilling to accept less than perfection in your life, to constantly challenge the status quo.


Boring Reality Stories

People make events into their stories, which is why their stories are so boring.  The star stories have characters and events that represents patterns of thought.  We’re all taking mental journeys that produce physical effects.  Likewise each person we encounter in life is an aspect of our mind.

The point of life on earth is to complete our story and get back Home.  It doesn’t matter if you’re the poorest person on earth or homeless.  It doesn’t matter if you never went to school.  It doesn’t matter if you’ve gotten completely off track.  Everyone has the same chance of success when we’re playing the right game.  There’s no competition.

Everyone can play and win.  The notion that everyone is equal and unique with a unique story-driven experience is powerful.  It opens up the possibility that everything can become right again for everybody.  That  just makes me smile.


Here’s more on the Power of Story.