By Cathy Eck
Why Do We Have Emotions?
I was so confused by emotions growing up. My father seemed to have too few, and my mother seemed to have too many. My mother’s way of emotional release wasn’t pretty. I decided at a young age, that I wanted to find the true purpose of emotions.
Most people hate their emotions. They go to extreme lengths to avoid or suppress them. If addictions or distractions don’t sooth their emotional body, they make their environment sterile from triggering events and people. Then their lives start to mimic a fish in a glass bowl. Every day looks the same — nothing ever changes. Others develop a hard shell and lose their ability to be intimate or authentic with others. Avoiding emotions isn’t the answer.
Emotions Turn Us Inward
Emotions are designed to pull us inward so we’ll examine our minds and let go of problematic beliefs (causes). Ideally, when we feel emotion, we’d remove our attention from what is outside and turn inside. We’d witness or follow the emotion to the causal belief. We’d let the causal belief go, and the emotion would go too.
When we release, suppress, or express our emotions without finding the causal belief, we create a temporary fix, not a permanent cure.
If your beliefs are serving you and harmless to others, you won’t feel emotions and you won’t cause emotional outbursts in others. Emotions were wrongfully blamed because they reveal beliefs; they keep us truthful. They push us to be ourselves.
Often people in our past didn’t like our True Self. They forced their beliefs on us in order to make us like them. We twisted our minds to think that the emotion we felt around their beliefs confirms their rightness, creating psychological reversal.
We have two choices in life. We can let go of our desire to live in the world authentically as our True Self and follow the path of our beliefs (false self), or we can let go of whatever beliefs pulled us into the illusion and live as our True Selves.
Emotional Release Techniques
Most therapy is about creating an emotional release because emotions are considered evil within the illusion. If you want complete freedom, you need techniques that free beliefs, not just emotions. Eliminating emotions provides relief, but it doesn’t eliminate the cause.
If you examine the emotional release technique of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), the practitioner advises the client to rub themselves or tap on certain meridians while saying words like, “Even though I’m very ashamed of myself, I unconditionally love and accept myself.” Those words still accept the notion of shame as real or possible. Shame exists only in the illusion so the action is trying to fix the illusory shame rather than let it go. Shame doesn’t exist in the True Self.
The patient believes they’ve fixed the problem, and so it appears. But they’ve really put ice cream on top of manure and created a sundae. They’re left with shame plus a belief that shame was removed. They don’t get the complete release of knowing that shame isn’t real.
In the illusion, there’s a core principal that the illusion is true. Therefore, you can’t let it go. Doctors, therapists, lawyers, government, military, teachers, inventors, and parents are all trying to fix the illusion. Thus, the illusion stays in tack. To get free, you have to let go the illusion — not fix it.
Letting Go is True Emotional Release
Before I discovered how to let go, I tried to EFT. I feared that I was going to put holes in my body because I tapped so much. I lived in an environment where beliefs were spoken all the time. It was clear that emotional release techniques didn’t help because my environment triggered beliefs and created new emotions as fast as I could release them.
We could adapt the language of EFT to include letting go so it becomes more than just emotional release. You’d do that by changing the language to include discrimination. When you rub or tap to say, “Even though…blah, blah,” you could change the words to, “I let go of the belief that I’m a bad person because shame is a false idea.” However, you can’t fake letting go; it can’t just be about saying the words like a mantra.
You must recognize that your belief in shame is false. Your True Self never did anything wrong, even if your false self did. Everything judged bad is false because anything bad or evil is caused by false beliefs like the notion of good and evil, and you didn’t invent that.
Bad or wrong only happens within the illusion. In the illusion, it ALWAYS takes two to tango. Victimhood is clearly part of the illusion. Every event in the illusion is about two opposing charges coming together. Most people are stuck in the illusion because they’ve been labeled bad or wrong, while the person holding the opposing charge is also stuck in their false goodness and irresponsibility. If we get that, we can free ourselves completely.
When we let go of a causal belief, we return to our True Self. Emotional release occurs as a natural biproduct.
If we do emotional release with discrimination, we’ll eventually realize that tapping is silly. We’ll realize that what caused the letting go was always the fact that we discriminated between true and false. We somehow got to the truth and realized that there is no bad or evil. We realized that shame is illusory. We can now eliminate the middle man and forget the tapping or breathing or any other ritual.
Emotional release is only a temporary fix. If we don’t let the causal belief go, it will keep creating reality and those related emotions will return. When we do the complete job of letting go at the cause, we never have the same problem or experience again. We’re one belief closer to the freedom of a pure virgin mind.