By Cathy Eck
Actions Speak Louder than Words
In the true world, everyone’s congruent. In the false world, people are incongruent; their words and actions cover-up their unspoken words (beliefs, judgments, and insecurities).
False powerful people need others to believe their actions and spoken words. Like a good magician, they keep our eyes looking in the wrong place so we don’t see what lies hidden below their facade (their shadow). We enable false authority figures like bad wives buying Vodka for their alcoholic husbands because we fear exposing the lies. We believe false authority and give them our power, even when our emotions are warning us not to. We’re programmed to do this.
Eliminating The Programs
We must uncover the places within our mind where our own actions speak louder than words (unspoken words). When we clear out our own incongruence, our eyes open so we no longer fall for their magic.
Human minds are really good tape recorders. They memorize information and spit it back out. Just because we memorize something doesn’t mean we live it or even believe it. Bible quoters are famous for this; they’re often breaking the very rule they’re quoting. Their actions speak louder than words if we pay attention. But their incongruence usually goes unchallenged because their spoken words are considered right; exposing their incongruent action feels taboo.
Our mind creates programs out of memorized data just like a computer. The modern computer was made in the image and likeness of the human mind.
Let’s say you wrote a computer program for “looking good” as defined by society. You need the program because you believe you’re bad. The “looking good” program provides spoken words and actions that override the belief that you’re bad. Bear in mind that you could eliminate the belief that you’re bad rendering the “looking good” program obsolete. But often the “you’re bad” and the “looking good” programs are tightly wound together at the bottom of the triangle. Your mental program might be something like this:
If someone enters the room, I must say hello. I must respect people who are older even if they’re wrong. I must believe authority even if they’re wrong. I must not say “No.”
If I’m too happy, I’ll get punished. If I’m not in control, I’ll get punished. If I’m playing a game, I must never win. If I’m successful, I must downplay my success so I look humble and remain below my authority figures. I must go to church every week, and donate….
The “looking good” program sits quietly within your mental computer. If you look closely, your emotions aren’t working properly anymore. They aren’t guiding you to your True Self.
If you follow the “looking good” program, you feel calm, unemotional. If you rebel or ignore the “looking good” program, you feel bad (guilty). This is what I’ve labeled “psychological reversal.” Your emotions aren’t guiding you down your perfect path; they’re forcing you to obey your false God (the composite of your authority figures).
We often see people who are unemotional, and we think they must be their True Selves. But often they’re just blindly following their own inner programs to the letter. They’re highly psychologically reversed with great “looking good” programs. They’re always very rigid and hold their beliefs as right. Anyone who disagrees with them is just plain wrong.
Your authority figures also installed reward and punishment programs within your mental computer. These programs say: “If you don’t follow the rules, you’re bad. People will scold you, tell you you’re bad and wrong, or hurt your body. You deserve it.” So when you break the authority’s rules, even in adulthood when the authority is no longer in your life, you punish yourself.
This is a real important issue for readers of this blog. Most of you are already breaking the rules of your parents, teachers, and clergy. You can’t help it because your True Self is calling you. You know they fed you lies. But you still have the beliefs and programs (rules, rewards, and punishments) inside your mind. So when you move toward the truth or step on your perfect path, you’re simultaneously rebelling against your own false mind (false God), which punishes you accordingly.
Undoing the damage
We undo “actions speak louder than words” programs by questioning our own actions and spoken words. It’s Sunday and you go to church because you fear punishment if you don’t make an appearance. The fear arises, and going to church alleviates the fear; but going to church also feels bad because you’re overriding your True Self with someone else’s beliefs. Jesus called this worshipping two masters.
If you peek under the rug (the action or the proper spoken words), you find the belief (the inner words) that says you must go to church. Beliefs often have “must” or “should” in them. The True Self doesn’t demand. Often you’ll remember the authority who installed the rule in your mental computer. You’ll feel the emotion that you felt when you accepted their belief, as well as more emotion for each time you followed their belief. The emotion you feel is proof that the belief isn’t true. You’ve been following a belief that didn’t feel good because you feared punishment that didn’t exist except in the mind of your authority figures.
Truth always lacks emotion. If you witness (observe) the belief and emotion with the recognition that their false, they’ll go away. Your True Self dissolves beliefs this way. But it can take awhile, so don’t rush it. It’s gone when you clearly see the truth and feel calm.
Before you do any unconscious action, stop yourself and ask, “Why am I doing this?” You’ll find your causal beliefs this way. You unknowingly accepted the beliefs/programs, and you can now take them out. Then, you’ll no longer need the actions. In fact, they’ll look silly. Your actions will match your spoken and unspoken words.