How Roles Can Screw Us Up, and How to Escape Them

Think Different

By Cathy Eck

 

Roles 101

I really enjoyed my ex-husband’s father.  When everyone went off to church on Saturday night or Sunday morning, we would turn off the television, drink an icy cold Iron City, and laugh at our stupid stories.  He was alive, smart, and so much fun.  He was healthy and vibrant.  But the minute the door opened and the family returned, he was an actor who had been signaled to get his ass on stage.  He became a sick, old man who never amounted to anything.  His shoulders dropped.  His back hurt.  His smile turned into a frown, and he would quickly turn on the television.  He had a long-standing role in that family; there was nothing I could do to stop him from playing it or to convince my husband that I knew a different man than he did.

After enough time, I too would fall into a similar dreadful role that I couldn’t escape.  But I was like Andy in “The Shawshank Redemption.”  I was willing to chip away a little each day until I found my way back to freedom.  I learned about roles, and how deadly they can be, from observing my husband’s family.  I’d guess that the leading cause of death is giving up because you can’t escape an unwanted role.

We might have a good white-sheep role like the cute one, funny one, or smart one.  Or we could be a black sheep role like the sick one, negative one, or loser.  Roles are constructed with labels; once people associate us with a particular label, they’re often very slow to let that label go.  They don’t notice when we change; and we often feel like we’re stuck in Shawshank prison with little hope for parole.

 

Projection

Here’s where things get dicey.  People assign roles when they project the unwanted half of their beliefs out through their physical eyes (the bad side of the bottom of the triangle).  We can’t see them do this so we get tricked.  In the illusion, people (in masculine roles) see their own reflection without knowing it.  The masculine projects; the feminine reflects.

They call you the perky one because that’s how they see you, not how you really are.  Suddenly, you’re more perky in their presence; you might like that they bring out that quality in you.  But if they call you lazy or rude because you don’t talk around them (since they bore the living shit out of you),  you’ll find yourself unable to be perky even if you normally are.  Even worse, with a “bad” label, they’ll try to fix you, cementing the label more deeply.

In my experience, the best escape route is to let go from the feminine role until we get into the masculine role.  What we do next is critical.  Most screw up right here.  Once in the masculine role, we must let go of anything we see outside of us that generates emotion until the whole world appears free.  We can’t get free while holding people hostage in roles with our beliefs.

Getting rid of the need for approval is key to getting free of labels.  We must stop measuring our success based upon what others think of us and start measuring our success by the purity of our OWN mind.   Likewise, we stop measuring other people by what they say or do and start measuring them by the quality of their thinking.

For example, we say that people who inspire and motivate others are good people.  But why are they inspiring and motivating?  They see an uninspired and unmotivated world.  They’re fixing their own projection.  When we move into the masculine role, we see our beliefs about others, people, animals, plants, and the world.   It is our job to let go of what we see until we see free choice, true versus false, and a divine sort of justice.  Most people fix their projections and call it a career.

 

No Roles

The mental perspective is the cure for everything wrong in the world.  From a physically-oriented perspective, medical doctors are helpful; mentally oriented, they’re cursing patients with labels called diagnoses. They focus on sickness, not health.  In a physical orientation, veterans are heroes; mentally oriented, they’re blindly obedient killers.  Physically oriented, caretakers are servants to the needy; mentally oriented, they’re enablers or prison guards.  If we cling to a physically-oriented role, we can’t get free.  It’s impossible!

If you feel like you don’t fit into the world, you probably are more comfortable with the mental perspective.  You might feel judgment from others because people with physically oriented perspectives fit in; they think they’re good and right.  They have a free pass to be completely irresponsible with their mind.  You may have tried to avoid the physically-oriented world, but that isn’t necessary.  I assure you that the illusion won’t affect you once you let go of your beliefs and let your free mind lead your physical body and experience.

Roles disappear once we adopt the mental perspective.  Those who were perceived as good become false; and those who were labeled bad or wrong are revealed to be reflections of false good roles.  It becomes clear that the normal view of life is illusory; whatever was wrong in the illusion will be false in the free world.

When this mental shift happens, shit no longer happens.  A different world is revealed; it was hidden below our beliefs all along.  Roles, authority, and the illusion lose their false power.  We have nothing to fear anymore.  It was all just the boogie man under the bed; he wasn’t real.  The illusion takes over our imagination so we lose our creativity; when we let go of the illusion, our creativity returns.

Fortunately, we don’t have to wait for others to live from this perspective.  It’s there when we let go of our OWN physically-oriented perspective.  It’s there when we live entirely from the mental, True Self, perspective — the world of mental cause producing physical effect.

If it is Held in Secret, It’s Only a Half Truth

Truth isn't hidden

By Cathy Eck

 

Secret Truth?

It was said that initiates were sworn to secrecy with strict penalties for breaking their vows.  But I question that.  Keeping the truth secret goes against the very idea of initiation, which was to remember the truth and live it.  You can’t hide something if you’re living it.

Initiates realized that everyone was born with the truth inside.  To hide the truth, you must cover it with beliefs or knowledge; and initiates had no need for beliefs or knowledge.

 

Where Did the Truth Go?

The truth didn’t go anywhere; it got covered up.  People who wanted power often entered secret brotherhoods and learned an occult view of life, which has become the normal view of life (or the illusion).  These brotherhoods were NOT creating initiates, but they called themselves initiates.  Hence, the confusion.  Initiation literally means to take one back to who they were in the beginning, their True Self.  The occult teachings created a facade that looked much like a True Self.  The occult thought they had the truth, and still do; but they were and still are jealous and fearful of the true initiates’ real power.

The occult memorized the initiates’ unified words of truth (and their stories) without letting go of the false beliefs in sin, suffering, and problems that they already held in mind.  This turned pure wisdom into useless knowledge (or manure into an iced cream sundae).  To the innocent, the occult looked like initiates.  But the occult cast a long shadow because of their split minds.

This is how level confusion was created.  Level confusion is where we put truth into the illusion, or where we muddy the clear waters of truth by giving it an opposite.  The triangle process demonstrates that truth and the false illusion are two distinct levels of reality.  Confusion occurs when we mix these levels.  This is being done today by most teachers of spirituality and religion; and many innocent people are being fooled.  When we follow someone with level confusion, we get level confusion.

The occult version of the truth was made secret; and of course, people want secrets.  The occult taught things like thinking positive thoughts, the use of magic, visualization, and controlling or willing the mind.  But they didn’t know how to purify the mind — only true initiates knew and taught that.

The occult only had power because of the use of roles.  The good, positive, unemotional side of the occult secret information was  identified with the powerful masculine roles, which were played by those in the occult brotherhoods and religions.  The bad, emotional, negative, or lesser desired side of the illusion, was projected on those playing feminine roles, or everyone else.  The occult also used a lot of power words and symbols, which they claimed had magical power.   Their symbols and beliefs were charged by the innocent believers.  Without believers, symbols and beliefs are empty and worthless.  Initiates didn’t use symbols, nor did they have beliefs, but they often used metaphor in their stories.

 

Finding the Truth Within

To write my first blog article years ago, I had to confront what seemed like an unending fear of the illusion, the occult, and those with power; it took a lot of letting go.  I felt as if I held the entire history of people being tortured, humiliated, or killed for exposing the occult with in my own mind and body.  Today conspiracy theorists and comedians are exposing the occult.  They tend to be people who feel the incongruence of the false leaders; they know something is off.

Of course, I also expose the occult; but I add letting go, which is the way back to the pure view of the initiates.  In order to succeed at initiation, we must become stronger than our minds, expose our own false beliefs, and let them go.  The occult simply use techniques to change their minds.  When we expose and let go of our own false beliefs, we gain in true strength and power; only then can we see through the illusion to freedom.

At one point, I believed that I needed to find the truth in a secret organization.  But my True Self fortunately thought ahead.  I realized that if I got the truth from such an organization, assuming they even had it, I’d be sworn to secrecy.  I also didn’t see (or I should say feel) the type of people I was looking for coming out of those organizations.  Besides, I didn’t just want the secrets for me;  I wanted them for everyone.  In hindsight, I made a very good decision.

The reason I can be so blunt and confident is because I earned what I write about by letting go.  I found the truth inside of me as was done in the true temples of initiation through mentorship.  I write to provide others with validation and techniques for letting go, not to provide information to memorize or use to look knowledgeable.  I can’t emphasize this enough.  If you’re still seeing an opposite to your truth, let go of that which you think is the truth because it isn’t.  It’s a occult clone voice.

 

No Secrets

After years of letting go,  I know that true initiates didn’t keep secrets.  Therefore, all secret information is occult; and you don’t need it or want it.  It’s worthless knowledge.  Knowledge is good for unimportant stuff like learning to type or how to make a chair.  But even the best knowledge can’t be magically turned into wisdom and truth.

The initiates didn’t have to keep anything secret; I’ve followed in their footsteps.  You get more of whatever you live and give.   When you give occult bullshit or half truths, you get more bullshit.  When I give away what I’ve come to know, more comes — just like a steady paycheck.  Much as I try, I can’t give it away as fast as it comes.  But I keep trying because the reward is so damn sweet!

 

Buying Freedom or Earning Freedom

Freedom is earned, not bought

By Cathy Eck

 

Most people associate freedom with wealth or power.  There’s good reason for that.  The most joked about interpretation of the Golden Rule in the illusion is:  “Those with the gold make the rules.”

 

Buying Freedom

Recently, I saw a show on the History Channel about Billionaires.  They briefly addressed their mindset.  They said they have serious God complexes, and they believe they’re doing God’s work even if they’re robbing others blind or killing them.  They have a particular view of the world that they believe is true; and that view has them winning and most of us losing.

The show described this condition in several comical ways:  “Billionaires see themselves as the anointed landlords of the earth.  They see themselves as divinely appointed.  The world would stop spinning on its axis if they failed to exist.”

The show explained that billionaires look philanthropic and generous, but they have a motive with every dollar they spend.  Their charity is fixing what is wrong in their perspective of reality.  In other words, they’re fixing their own projection to perfect their OWN illusion.

The show even admitted that billionaires don’t want us vermin around; they’re now looking into a plan to build an exclusive floating island so they won’t belong to any country, won’t pay taxes, and will (in their mind) have achieved ultimate freedom.  But they’re living a lie; that’s not freedom.

 

Gaining Followers

Another illusory way to gain power and rule the world is to gain permanent followers for your perspective.  Religions, cults, and gurus create power for their beliefs through followers.   Luke Rhinehart wrote a book in the 70’s called “the Book of est.”  It described the mindset of est founder and leader, Werner Erhard.  Erhard borrowed ideas from eastern gurus and the infamous cult leader, L. Ron Hubbard.

“The est organization is not democratic (most American business organizations are not) but rather is authoritarian in the way that baffles many and antagonizes others. Warner Erhard expects staff members to be dedicated to serving est–which, because he and est are one and the same, mean serving him. Late in the fourth day of the training, the trainer explains that Werner is in essence a power source serving masses of people, and individual staff members supply Warner with additional power. The power flows up from graduates and staff, through Warner, out into the world. This is a perfectly reasonable way to explain the essentially Eastern phenomenon of a powerful being (usually a guru or spiritual teacher) attracting other powerful beings who nevertheless choose to channel their power through the leader” (Rhinehart, pg. 264-65).  

 

This is the way of the false god.  We’re so used to our reality being this way that we fall for the trick again and again.

Government authority uses a similar trick.  We send our power up to them believing they’ll take care of us.  People today are noticing that they aren’t doing a very good job of taking care of anyone but themselves.

Notice the flow of energy goes from the followers to the leaders.  This screams false leader; he will assure you that he has your back.  But the true leader operates from unconditional love; his/her energy flows like the sun to those below them in feminine roles.  True leaders constantly examine their projections and correct their own minds.  Lao Tzu said it best, A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.”

 

Earned Freedom

The freedom that we gain from letting go is earned freedom; it’s real and indestructible.  Just as it takes time and effort to become a billionaire or grow millions of followers, letting go takes time and effort.  But here’s the difference.  The billionaire and the cult leader must retain their superior masculine position.  They must constantly lobby for top dog if they want their beliefs and rules to control everyone’s experience.  They consciously or unconsciously realize that they have no power in the feminine role.  They’ll do whatever it takes to stay in the masculine role — steal, kill, torture, silence.  They’re doing the “false god’s” work.

Letting go moves us into the realm of the True Self, beyond roles, which is ultimately more powerful than any religious leader, guru, government official, or billionaire.  We really do control our life because their beliefs aren’t in our mind anymore.   We can’t experience what we don’t believe.  The false gods aren’t our enemies; they’re powerless.  They’re own false self is the vermin they want to eliminate.

If we don’t let go of their rules and beliefs in our mind, we’ll fall under their control.  This is why we’ve had great men and women who took risks, but ended up in prison or dead.  They believed they were fighting a real enemy instead of a cartoon.  The movie, “Divergent,” has some great visuals of the power of knowing something isn’t true.  Readers of my blog tend to recognize their “divergent” True Self,  which the movie defines as a mind beyond control.  Divergence requires persistent letting go.  As we conquer this aspect of our false mind, we won’t fear stepping out and speaking the truth anymore.

When we understand true freedom, we understand why it’s worth pursuing, and why it’s completely fair.  The wealthy person and the religious leader or guru are also bound by their own version of the false God.  By letting go, we move beyond their false illusion into real freedom, a place with no boundaries — the realm of our True Selves.

The best indicator of true freedom is that people work together and harmonize.  They don’t play status games.  Everyone is unique, valuable, and worthy.  In true freedom, people aren’t afraid of each other; they don’t harm others.  They’re too busy creating.  And while the billionaire and the guru do get to do what they want, they still fear the vermin outside the commune or mansion (their projections).  Their freedom is an illusion.

We’re Not Followers or Seekers; But Leaders Don’t Want Us To Know

Leaders and followers

By Cathy Eck

 

The “One”

Followers and seekers of truth often write to me to ask me to confirm that their guru, teacher, preacher, or motivational speaker is the “One.”  I get lots of videos and book suggestions.  You only have to watch five minutes or read the first chapter to find the beliefs.  False leaders usually have good intentions.  They truly believe they’re helping others, but they create confusion in their followers because they don’t understand the True and false self (the term soul combined the two), they’re confused by masculine and feminine roles, or they’re still stuck in some version of good and evil.  They’re trying to fix the illusion (false self), not let it go.

I don’t like receiving those emails because I can’t give the writer the answer that they want to hear.  Invariably their guru/teacher/preacher is a very strong voice in their mind.  Often they fear letting that voice go.

I suspect they hope that I can resolve the dissonance in their mind.  I can’t, and I know that.  In fact, I can only make their dissonance worse.   If they want freedom, I’ll point them in the right direction.  If they want to prove their false leader is right, they’ll try to get me to follow him or her.

The unacknowledged desire of all false selves is to be more powerful than the True Self so it will submit.  As we listen to our past leaders’ voices within, we’ll find that motive; if we let that false-self motive go, our True Self can discriminate again.  Every false leader gives beliefs to their followers; beliefs are only knowledge, not wisdom.

The journey of initiation requires only one belief — you can let all beliefs go by knowing they’re false.  You’ll then discover everything else in your own perfect way.

 

Leaders and Followers

Following is natural only because we’re born helpless.  We have no choice but to assume the feminine role as a child.

Followers are playing a false feminine role; the other side of the bottom of the triangle is the leader.  Our false mind tricks us by taking the false leader and putting them at the top of the triangle, replacing our True Self.  Followers only need one core belief to keep them stuck in their role — that they don’t have the answers they need — the answer is outside of them; someone else has it.  This causes them to run to experts of all kinds, but the most insidious is the spiritual expert.  We’re born spiritual.  We don’t need to learn spirituality or the truth.  We only need to learn practical knowledge for an earthly skill — like how to type or read.

Followers’ or seekers’ lives turn into mysteries that can’t be solved.   The True Self, what they’re searching for, doesn’t have a role in the illusion.  At best, they can find a clone of a True Self.  People do project their True Self on leaders and teachers; false ones take it and run with it.  They don’t like to give it back; this can make letting go hard.  I don’t like when someone attempts to project their True Self on me; I feel like they’re trying to get me to validate their false self.  Once projected, the True Self becomes false — it’s actually annoying.  I’m only serving a small leadership role in the illusion as the tour guide.  I know the holes and dangerous beasts lurking in the bushes.  Nothing I offer is spiritual — but it’s really practical.

What we’re looking for in another (guru/teacher) or an object (Holy Grail/Ark of the Covenant) or a place (Shambala/ Atlantis) is our seemingly lost True Self.   We come to think this mystery is our life purpose — we all love a good story.  But our True Self gets anxious; it came here to create, not play “Hide and Go Seek.”

Leaders and teachers who tell followers what to think are everywhere.  We project our healing power on to healers and doctors.  Some people talk to aliens, angels, or ancestors to get what sounds like truth.  Some go to psychics or astrologers.   Some go on vision quests or long journeys.  Some join cults or brotherhoods.  And some use the old standby, religion.  A huge New Age business has developed around the sale of crystals and other “spiritual” paraphenalia.  Drugs are the gateway for many that appear to provide a glimpse of the True Self.  Sex addictions exist because the human orgasm stops the mind temporarily.  Practices are said to get us to God.  We’re looking for anything that rings true; and when we hear even a few true words or feel a moment of peace, we hold on to that person or thing.  This only makes it more difficult for us to find the real truth we so desperately desire.  We fear letting the false teacher or thing go because we believe it’s all we have.  But, it’s just our false self bullshitting us again.

 

Atlantis

Jesus warned people of false teachers, but the words that really spoke to me were Plato’s words from “Critias” about the destruction of Atlantis. My clarifications are in brackets. “…But when the divine portion [of man’s mind] began to fade away, and became diluted too often and too much with the mortal admixture [the ingredients of the false self], and the human nature got the upper hand, they then [leaders], being unable to bear their fortune [too big for their own britches], behaved unseemly; and to him who had an eye to see grew visibly debased, for they were losing the fairest of their precious gifts; but to those who had no eye to see the true happiness [those fucking believers again], they [false leaders] appeared glorious and blessed at the very time when they were full of avarice and unrighteous power.”  His words still apply today; nothing much has changed.  As you let go, you can see the false power — the ice cream coating melts.  All that’s left is a big pile of manure.

 

Synchronicity or Validation? That is the Answer

Synchronicity or validation

By Cathy Eck

 

Holy Shit… My Life is on Stage

Last weekend, I bought some cheap tickets to a play at the La Jolla Playhouse.  I didn’t have a clue what the play was about.

It was called “The Who & The What.”  Obviously, the title didn’t offer any clues.  Turned out, the play was about a Muslim woman who was writing a novel about Mohammed as an ordinary seeker with a charismatic personality, rather than a prophet.  Her Mohammed had doubts about Christianity, got some answers via automatic writing, and even wondered himself if his answers were true.  He battled his own shortcomings; and like any seeker, he didn’t know truth from falsehood.

I suddenly felt as if I were watching my life on stage.  She spent four years writing her book… it was nearly twenty years ago that I first opened a word document for a book that I’ve not published.  Her family was horrified with what she was doing… been there too.  She argued that she loved to write and this was what she cared about… so did I.  Her family told her to use her writing ability on something else.  So did mine.  Quite frankly, the actress even looked like me with shorter hair.  It was easy for me to over-identify with her character.  It looked like pure synchronicity.

 

Synchronicity

I couldn’t wait to find out what happened to her as if she held my future in her hands.  I promise, I’ll tell you the ending later.  But first let’s talk about synchronicity.

I was very much into synchronicity in my old life.  I used divination tools to make choices. I even doused to find the well location for my previous country home.  I often looked for signs and symbols to show me the way, and I was delighted when I saw those interesting number patterns.  It happened frequently.  But one day, the magic stopped; I couldn’t understand why.

It took awhile to realize that synchronicity had morphed into something new.  For most people, synchronicity is about following outer signs and clues as if they’re looking for a lost treasure.  That makes good movies, but it doesn’t lead us to freedom.  It also generates excitement (which is an emotion); the illusion counts on us following our emotions.  Following emotion pulls us right to false desires.  False desires always come with hidden problems.  In addition, we’re never satiated because our true desires go unfulfilled.  We must give up the false to get the true; and hardly anyone is willing to do that.

 

Freedom

I wanted freedom.  I wanted to be my True Self.  I now understood that the world was the reflection of my OWN mind.  The True Self plus beliefs equals our reality.  Therefore, if I corrected my mind on any subject, by letting go, results or validation showed up in my life, my body, or my world.  After the internal change, came the external change.  It made sense.  It was exactly how life should be because it is inherently fair to everyone.   True synchronicity is a validation system, not a guidance system.

I now knew how to live the way cause and effect was designed.  To find the truth about anything, I’d let go; then I’d find the validation that proved I’d slain the false dragon.

After this discovery, I wasn’t interested in psychic readings, divination tools, or manifestation courses anymore.  I didn’t need more beliefs.  I had all the answers I needed inside of me.  Sadly, I looked arrogant and wrong to others.  How dare I to know my own answers?  They had no way to “serve” me.  Holy shit, I realized that all those people that appeared to be helping me actually thrived on fixing me.

Causes aren’t outside; they’re always inside our minds.  So why in hell would we think that our answers are outside of us?  Probably because we’re taught that God is outside — the false God is outside in the form of authority figures.  As we move to freedom, we know we’re the creators of our life.  We don’t listen to other people’s false advice — sometimes that pisses them off.

 

The Not-So-Happy Ending

In the play, the protagonist tried to ignore the hatred (disguised as caring) from her family, but she couldn’t; she didn’t know how to let go.  She musters up enough willpower to find a publisher, but her book doesn’t sell.  I was still watching my story.  Most garden club blogs have more readers than I do today.

As the play ended, I felt angry because the main character listened to her family’s worthless advice.  She decided that they knew best.  She gave up.  One should not expose Mohammed as normal.

I started walking home.  As I let my thoughts go, I realized that woman was me when I started writing this blog.  But she’s also me every time I expose a little more of the status quo as impotent and false.  Fear always arises to tell me that the illusory dragon is just too fierce.  It doesn’t get easier because I’m tackling different subjects.  Each time, I must let go, write what I’m inspired to write, and then the validation comes.  Writing isn’t my purpose; writing creates a reason to find courage and to test my ability to let go.

The growth of this freedom-loving community has been organic.  I don’t market, so the people who read my blog and participate in my mentorship program are truly the cream of the crop.  They’re here to receive validation for what they already know to be true.  When we stop looking for synchronicity as guidance, we become synchronicity as validation for others on their way out.  I’m grateful for the life that has unfolded as I’ve continued to write about what makes life worthwhile for me — initiation and freedom.  I wish I could tell that Muslim woman what she’s missing.  I wish I could help her let go so she could see that she was right.

 

Trusting Ourselves: Letting Go of Authority

Freedom and WTF

By Cathy Eck

 

What’s Freedom?

When we’re a child, freedom is turning twenty-one.  If we don’t love our work, freedom is retirement.  When we’re unhappily married, freedom is divorce.  If things get really bad, we’ll even think freedom is death.  But freedom isn’t any of that.

In initiation, freedom was about the return to the True Self.  It was called the second birth because we’re born a True Self, we fall, and then we strive to get back to the place we were initially.  Initiation wasn’t a ceremony where a false authority labeled you SAVED!  That’s actually a good joke because initiation was actually freedom from false authority.

The initiated one felt and honored their emotional warnings.  They never fell into feminine roles below a false authority.  In other words, they had the Holy Grail.  Their mind represented the alchemical marriage because they’d united their masculine and feminine mind aspects.  They’d passed through the Gateway to Gold.  And Heaven had returned to earth for them.

People have spoken the truth in many ways.  Once we understand one of them, we’ll eventually understand all of them.  But they’ll all look mysterious until we get the right point-of-view.  Illusions stay alive by making sure that we never get the true perspective of life.  Finding our True Self requires constant letting go of the false contents of our mind until only our unique perspective of the truth remains.

 

The Mistake

How do we get off course?  We follow another’s path instead of walking our own.  Initiation is simple in theory, but so hard to do.  We must let go of other people’s perspectives and expertise until all that’s left is our own.

It’s hard because since we were born, we were told to respect…never challenge…just follow other people’s beliefs, especially if they’re an authority or expert.  If they’re a spiritual leader, we often find they have a tight hold on our mind.  There are many paths to the truth, but there’s only one that works for each of us.  No one else’s path will work for us.

Our path is marked with the things that we find most interesting.  In this way, we’re self-motivated.  Others can support us along our path, but they don’t define it.

People often want me to say that their teacher/guru is the ONE.  But I won’t sell out on them.  They have a path that’s far more perfect for them.  It’s my job to support them in letting go of all the wrong paths from their past.  I know that in the end, only one will remain.  They won’t have to choose anymore.  It will be perfect.

 

False Authority

The false authority uses ancient, proven techniques to retain followers.  But in their defense, they don’t realize they’re harming us.  They’re also victims of the illusion.

  • They speak some truth and some beliefs.  When we find our truth, we will spice it up with some beliefs.  But those beliefs are spice, not the meal.  The spice is only right for us.
  • They assume the masculine role, and we feel completely feminine to them.  When we’re in a false feminine role, we feel like a powerless child who doesn’t have the right to go against whatever their authority says.
  • They fix effects not causes.
  • They focus on physical results instead of mental purity.  They often tell us we need willpower.
  • They think money, fame, or power give you freedom.  In truth, freedom often brings us money, fame, and power, but freedom (truth) must come first.
  • They tell us to “accept what is” when “what is” isn’t appealing because “what is” came from their beliefs.
  • They tell us God gave them success, which implies that if we haven’t yet succeeded we’ve been overlooked by God.
  • They say, “You can’t change the past.”  Bullshit!  When we let go of the causal belief in our mind, we change our memory of any past reality.
  • They say, “Life is suffering.”  Does that really feel good?  It only feels good if you’re heartless and think you can rise above suffering (like the gurus/teachers/preachers that say it) while watching others swim in the the sewage of beliefs.
  • They’re focused on looking good, not being truly good.
  • They generate emotions in us like hope, excitement, pride, or tears of joy.  All emotions mean that there’s false in our mind or in the speaker’s words.  Often the false is implied.  We must look under the words if we feel emotion.  When we mislabel emotion as good, we’re toast.  I had someone in my life that labeled lying good.  He said he did so because “the truth hurts.”  In his presence, my truthfulness was evil or hurtful.  I’d feel bad because I wasn’t lying.  WTF?
  • They demand R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
  • They abuse and take advantage of the feminine role instead of protecting it and lifting it up.  Usually, they don’t understand roles or honor the role’s true purpose of giving and receiving.
  • They deny that emotions have value so we’ll be embarrassed if we expose the fact that what they said doesn’t feel good.
  • They believe their minds are right and don’t discriminate between true and false.  They don’t go for win-win for all.
  • They support and make money from beliefs that never feel good — false spiritual teachings, disease, injustice, borders, war, who’s right, who’s good, who’s superior, what happens after you die, or what will happen in the future.  They take advantage of our insecurities.
  • They believe the feminine role exists to serve the masculine role.

I could add to this list for days.  These are some of the big ones.

Freedom doesn’t come in a weekend workshop.  It mostly comes in small steps.  We’re slowly changing our past every time we let go of even a small belief.  We’re building true power — accepting our True Self back into our own true masculine role.  Letting go of authorities by seeing the errors in their teachings creates big leaps.  It’s the fastest way to the Gateway To Gold.

 

 

The Final Battle With Roles Requires Courage

Courage and the Lion

By Cathy Eck

 

Origin of Roles

The ancient storytellers saw the world through the eyes of archetypes and characters.  While they wrote about Gods having experiences, they were actually talking about aspects of their own mind.  A storyteller cast his masculine and feminine characters based on his interpretation of the sky.  The original archetype cast the sun as the masculine role projecting light, warmth, and unconditional love on to the feminine role moon or earth.  The moon feminine role (not always female) reflected the sun; and the earth feminine role absorbed it.  It was a marriage made in heaven; and this was called the True Self.  As the masculine role (sun) lost its unconditional nature, the moon feminine became a lunatic, and the earth feminine became heavy, serious, polluted with emotion, and depressed.  Today the world is filled with unloving suns, lunatics, and fat, depressed people.  Our earth is in danger.  There’s only one cause.  It’s the fall of the masculine role.

In initiation, we return to the place where the masculine and feminine aspects of our own mind become like our initial state of mind with an unconditional sun.  The feminine becomes calm, creative, and filled with life.  When we create equality inside of our mind, we’ll see equality outside.  When our masculine mind only speaks true, loving thoughts, our feminine will no longer emote.

To try to create equality of sexes or races on the outside without first finding it on the inside, is fixing the effect rather than the cause.  You can’t will your mind to be loving.  You can’t put truth on top of manure.  You have to let the false go to get to your truth.

The false self would be easy to let go, but other people try to keep our false self in tact.  They remind us of our labels, they impose their beliefs on us, and they encourage social protocols that enhance our mask.  People who are winning from the patriarchal world don’t want us becoming our True Selves.  True Selves are powerful.  The false masculine wants his feminine characters to lose so they can live without anyone exposing or defeating them.  Without humans in feminine roles, who would fight their wars?  Who would build their temples and churches?  Who would wipe their royal asses?

Most people live life from two minds — their masculine and feminine are constantly arguing.  When we’re in our True Self, our inner masculine and feminine mind aspects agree.  There are no decisions.  There are no emotions.  We’re calm and peaceful.  We’re creative and productive.  Our discrimination keeps us safe from the illusion.  We easily bring our ideas into the physical world like great inventors, original artists, and powerful win-win oriented leaders.  These people have huge visions, but they also have the ability to bring their ideas into the physical world.  They aren’t just day dreamers, philosophers, or storytellers.

The act of letting go grounds our ideas into the material world.  We begin living our life.  We’ve know we’ve really arrived when we can even be completely ourselves with those who programmed us to have false selves.  Our handlers lose their power when we drop the roles they gave us.  The final test requires that we don’t believe anyone else if it generates even a little emotion.  We can no longer be tricked by a false self.

If we don’t see someone as authority, we won’t submit to them.  If we don’t see someone who asks for help as below us, we won’t dominate or control them.  We do what we’re inspired to do.  Sometimes thats creating with others.  Sometimes we’re creating alone.  Sometimes, we’re supporting another to let go of the illusion they’re struggling with.

 

The Last Rule

The rule about roles that pulled us deeply into the illusion was simple.  We gave attention and authority to people with the most rigid beliefs or rules — false selves.  We wanted to be good; so we obeyed authority. We were taught to listen to and respect elders, but our elders were already stuck in the illusion.  We gave respect and attention to the least free person in any situation.  If everyone was healthy and one person was sick, the sick person got the attention.  We gave attention to victims, perpetrators, and heroes; we made the independent free-thinking True Self a rebel and a heretic.  The people who had the most beliefs became leaders, teachers, and preachers — the masculine roles.  We rewarded people for honoring beliefs.  Those with the least beliefs were punished until they submitted.

The way out is the opposite.  We flip the rule upside-down.  We don’t make the feminine dominant; that would be a lateral movement.  We follow those with the freest minds in any situation without regard to age, talent, race, sex, or label.  We reward freedom by giving those who operate from win-win our business, attention, and appreciation.  We listen to children rather than dominate them.  We seek our own truth and get whatever support we need to let go.  As we let go, we acquire the natural courage to face those who gave us our false self.  We make things right again.

 

Permanent/Temporary Roles

As we let go, permanent roles disappear.  There will always be temporary roles.  Roles create a way of interacting and co-creating; but they won’t have a superior/inferior, good/evil, or win/lose tone to them.  Until we’re all free, the natural leader or teacher will be the person with the most expansive point of view (least beliefs) in families, communities, and the world.  Natural leaders or teachers will hold the vision of freedom and help others let go so they can heal their minds and bodies.  

I’ve created a pathway out and identified many of the tricks and traps, but it’s a very narrow path.  Now it’s time for those who desire freedom to clear their own minds and make this pathway clear, safe, and wide.  Since you’re here, reading this blog, you’re probably such a path maker.