Problems: The Gift that Keeps on Taking in the Illusion

It's not what we do, it's why we do it.

By Cathy Eck

 

Problems?

My dad was an engineer.  He loved to take things apart and put them back together.  He loved fixing things.  When we would break something, he was thrilled.  He got a chance to fix something.  He often said, “There isn’t anything that can’t be fixed.”  I loved those words, but I didn’t like problems.  In fact, I hated them.

While he was clearly talking about the material world and stuff, I heard his words on a completely different level.  His words fueled my quest to fix my mind and my body, even when others said it wasn’t possible.  His words provided a valuable reminder as I took my own mind apart that it could be fixed.  I thought I’d have to put my mind back together once I got all the pieces spread all over the floor.  But most of the pieces were unnecessary.  They weren’t keeping my body running or making my life better. They were just causing problems.  These unnecessary mental components weren’t true or necessary for joyful expression; they were simply someone else’s worthless beliefs that were like parasites.  They sucked the life out of me while giving nothing in return.

My dad was passionate about fixing things; he used his passion to help us out when needed.  But, he didn’t break things just to fix them.  If he couldn’t find anything to fix, he used his talents creatively by finding things to build.  He enjoyed the bottom of the triangle illusory state of fixing and breaking if the opportunity arose to play there, but he used it in a way that didn’t harm others.  He showed me that the illusion can be a sort of playground if we don’t take it seriously or force it on others.

 

Fixing and Breaking

The bottom of the triangle isn’t bad if used in a win-win way (directed by the True Self).  Old buildings must be destroyed before a new one can be erected.  Likewise, we destroy our false mind so we can rebuild it.  If we know the difference between True and false and creating from First (win-win) and Second (win-lose, good-evil) Cause, we can live outside the suffering that most people consider normal.  We avoid creating problems, and we can help others leave their problems behind if they ask for help.

As long as people break things, we’ll need people who fix them.  Nevertheless, we must understand how to use our talents properly on the way out of the illusion.  On the way into the illusion, we project our beliefs on to others and then fix the effect of our projection in the others.  We retain unwanted beliefs, often for financial gain.

I first noticed the power of win-win when I worked in technology. Someone would call me for tech support, and I’d just talk with them.  Often I had no clue what their problem was, and I sure as hell didn’t know the answer.  But they did.  If I talked in the correct general direction, they solved the problem themselves.  My clients were all becoming computer experts. They became confident that they could fix their own problems.  That made my job really easy.  I could focus on creating new ideas and products instead of fixing other people’s problems.  We were both happier.

This only works if we can see our creative potential, and if we don’t believe that we need customers for life.  I think dentistry is the worst example of second-cause creation.  They tell their patients to come in every six months so they can look for the problems that they expect to find so they can fill, drill, and bill.  I recently read a study that said people with the best teeth often don’t go to the dentist much.  Made sense to me.

Dentists, and other service people, don’t have to walk away from their professions; there’s a proper transition toward freedom.  First, they become a dentist that expects to find perfect teeth.  They do that by letting go of their knowledge and labels for problems; they recognize that problems come from beliefs and many of those beliefs are perpetuated by them.  In accounting, they’d call their expensive dental schooling a sunk cost.  It has no future value so you just write it off and move on.  They slowly wean their clients off of them and follow their creative inspiration to a better life.

 

The Lesson

With my dad, we were willing supporters in something that brought him fun.  Fixing stuff is clearly part of the illusion, but it was a fun, first-cause part of the illusion for him.  We didn’t need to break things to please him.  Often he involved us in the fixing process, contributing to our self-sufficiency and confidence that “Anything could be fixed if it happened to break.”   His knowledge wasn’t bad because it was directed by his True Self.  He still fixes things in his community for a cookie or beer, but only if asked to do so.

The dentist (and most fixers) make knowledge (expertise) more powerful than wisdom (truth).  He or she projects problems by believing that they’re true.  When I was little, I screamed when taken to the dentist.  I noticed they often had ugly or highly repaired teeth.  I felt their convoluted energy as they projected their flawed point of view on me.  Their beliefs got them bad teeth, and now they wanted me to have them too.  That’s second-cause creation; it’s how we perpetuate the illusion.

As we move through the path of initiation, we’re letting go of second-cause creations, beliefs, and memories.  They weren’t necessary parts of our mind or our life so we won’t miss them.  They were problems that only existed in the illusion — they appeared real but weren’t true.  After we trash these unwanted and unneeded components of our mind, we see that they created unnecessary detours and problems in our life.  We won’t ever make that mistake again.

Sharing The Wisdom of Initiation

Sharing Freedom

By Cathy Eck

Sharing Initiation

After letting go for a while, we naturally want to share what we’re doing with others; and we should.  It’s a very important part of the process.  But often people get too anxious.  They want to become the next Tony Robbins.  They get frustrated when sharing doesn’t catapult them to fame and fortune.  That’s because sharing is really about getting feedback on our own clarity; and if we use the feedback, it will serve us well.

I spent years wondering how to share the initiates’ wisdom in a responsible way.  I didn’t get this information from any organization or teacher so I could actually share it without fear of having my tongue cut out; I took no such oaths.  I had no rules to follow.  The same goes for you.  But I came to realize very quickly that saying that our emotions point to false beliefs in our own mind — beliefs that people hold as absolutely true — was a little different than telling people to get positive and enthusiastic.

I realized that if I just gave people the final answer, they’d put that whipped cream wisdom on top of their existing manure beliefs; they’d never get free.  The self-help movement and New Age did enough of that.  Or, if I exposed beliefs but didn’t provide techniques on how to remove them, like conspiracy theorists do, it would be like cutting someone open on the operating table and telling them to go home.  What others were doing wasn’t helping people to get free.

 

Exposing Beliefs

I realized that I had to fearlessly expose false beliefs while supporting the process of letting go.  This required letting go of my fear of authority and the fear that I would be misunderstood or judged.   I had to let go of my fear of retribution and hell.  I had to let go of the notion of opposition or competition.  This took time … in fact years.  I was questioning beliefs that nearly everyone was sure were true.  And I still do…

As I’ve done the work on myself, my message has grown slowly and organically.  I write or speak only when inspired to do so.  Most important, blogging pushes me to let go of collective beliefs and beliefs that would not normally enter into my life.  We actually have far more beliefs than we realize.  We have beliefs about ourselves, others, authorities, and even the earth.

I wanted to create a space and a support system whereby people could become free like they did in the ancient world if they wanted to do so.  That meant not making freedom “right” or “good,” even though it was the only thing that felt right to me.

 

Wisdom Vs. Knowledge

Over time, I learned a few things about sharing this wisdom.  Here are some guidelines that I use:

0)  I don’t do it for money or fame.  As you let go, you move into abundance.  But it probably won’t look like you thought it would.  When you share something responsibly you don’t want to jump into fame.  People bring you beliefs that you’ve not yet let go; and it takes time to clear your mind.  If too many people come at once, you get overwhelmed with your own beliefs.

1)  I don’t share insights right away.  I share once I feel the wisdom has integrated within me — when it’s knowing, not knowledge.  Often our mind gets a glimpse of wisdom before we’ve cleared the contrasting beliefs out of our body.  This is why insights often feel fleeting at first.  They aren’t yet ripe for sharing.

2)  I don’t mix other processes and techniques with letting go EVER.  Very important.  EFT (tapping) isn’t letting go.  Drugs aren’t letting go.  Energy techniques aren’t letting go.  Therapy isn’t letting go.  Traditional motivational coaching isn’t letting go.  Meditation isn’t letting go.  Here’s why.  If we change our energy, raise our vibration, fix our words, or let go of our emotion, but we think/believe the same at the core, we’ll keep creating the same kinds of experiences and meeting the same kinds of people.  Letting go is about using emotions to find our beliefs.  We can’t find our beliefs if we’ve transmuted or tapped away our discriminating emotional system or covered it up with positive thinking or willful action.

3)  I don’t push letting go on anyone.   It’s an option — an opportunity.  However, I do calmly stand up for my True Self if someone tries to impose their beliefs on me.  That took practice!

4)  I constantly watch my own masculine mind to make sure I’m not projecting.  If I’m in a masculine role, and I fear, judge, or hate any other then they’re my reflection.  I’ve divided thought into good and evil or right and wrong.  I let go of what I see in them.  It’s not who they really are in truth.  Then my emotion goes away; and now I’m clear to share.  Most of the world spends their life fixing their own projections (often they bill for it).

5)  Write or speak to share, not to fix.  If I want to fix or change someone, I still see their beliefs as having power.  This is subtle and often overlooked.  When we see the illusion as powerless, which it is, we lose our desire to fix it.  We realize that beliefs harm the believers.  When the believers want out, we lend a hand.

6)  I never make the mistake of considering myself an expert or thinking I’ve arrived.  There are a lot of beliefs in this world.  Often the more we let go, the more beliefs we see.  I can’t let go of the truth or let go of too much.  In this way, my compassion grows.

I continue to let go and then take what I get as feedback.  Then I let go some more.  I expect to have less beliefs each day; and I make sure I achieve that.  That’s what I now consider a successful day.

 

Excitement and Tears of Joy

Excitement, Tears of Joy

By Cathy Eck

I’m often asked about excitement and tears of joy.  In both cases, an emotion appears to be positive until we take a closer look.

 

The Gift of Emotions

Our emotions were designed to let us know when we’re thinking something false.  We think; then we get feedback.  If that feedback is emotion, then what we just thought was false.  That thought won’t take us to our true desires.  It will take us deeper into the illusion of pain, suffering, and problems.

This gets confusing in relationships.  Often, we’re listening to another; and we feel emotion when we take their false thought or belief into our body-mind.  If we don’t let their belief go, it sits there accumulating power; and it keeps us from getting what we want in life.  We don’t realize we have this belief; and often it’s revealed in excitement or tears of joy.  But we don’t catch the opportunity to let it go because society tells us these are positive emotions.

For most of us, we don’t realize how many beliefs we’ve accepted into our body-mind until we start letting go; it’s the supreme, “Oh fuck,” moment in life.  We focus on letting go of beliefs that generate “negative” emotion, but emotion isn’t positive or negative.  It always means the same thing; what we’re thinking right now is false.  Excitement and tears of joy aren’t positive emotions; but they’re emotions.  They’re a form of psychological reversal that looks positive; consequently, they can be difficult to decode once labeled.  We don’t want to let them go if we label them positive.

 

Excitement

Excitement is a label that we give to emotion when we associate it with something we want.  The guy or girl we like smiles at us.  We get an interview for the job we desire.  We think the emotion is related to the good news.  But the emotion is coming from what lies beneath the good news.  The event triggered our beliefs which generated the emotion.  We need to turn inward and watch our mind to see what’s actually causing the emotion.  The belief might be something like, “I never believed this would happen.”  “This is too good to be true.”  “I don’t deserve this.”  We don’t want those beliefs in our mind.  They’re false.  The beliefs could be triggering what appears to be guilt or shame if we’re conditioned to gravitate toward pain or martyrdom.  Some might fear it’s a temptation by Satan.  We want to let go of whatever we discover.

Maybe something already happened that’s generating excitement.  Let’s say we won the lottery.  That excitement might mean that we just got a false desire, or we have beliefs about lottery winners becoming selfish.  Our True Self is giving us fair warning.  We could be headed for trouble if we don’t let go.  In the moment, we focus on the outer event; we don’t hear what our mind is saying.  We don’t recognize the cause of the emotional response.  If we find the cause of the emotion, we just might avoid something bad in the future.

The most dangerous false interpretation of excitement is when it’s really fear.  If we fear something, it’s wise to let go of the cause of that fear, not head straight into the fear and call it excitement.  That’s just asking for trouble.

 

True Desire

When we fulfill a true desire, the normal reaction is more like, “That makes sense.”  If we have no beliefs, it’s obvious that the desire will come to us.  We won’t be all nervous and jumpy about it.  When we’ve been letting go, we notice the improvement in our mind; and by the time that we get our desire, it just seems logical that it would happen that way.

Many people believe and teach that emotions are creative.  This came from ancient occult teachings.  But think about that.  If emotions create our life, and we aren’t in a position where we can project the potential unwanted manifestations on to others (because we aren’t an authority figure), then it’s just a matter of time before our fears manifest.  When we use our emotions backwards; our life is like riding ocean waves.  We’ll get excited and happy when we get what we want and depressed and fearful when we don’t.  We’ll always be in a state of emotion; we’ll just label our emotional state different based on what just happened.

People often challenge me on this.  They say, “I don’t want to give up excitement.”  But they don’t realize that keeping excitement means keeping the other half of the triangle bottom, disappointment.

 

Tears of Joy

Tears of Joy are the product of very strong emotional reaction.  But it’s not the joy that’s producing the tears.  Perhaps we’re watching a movie and lovers find each other after years of being apart.  We say we’re joyful in their reunion.  So why do we cry?  Emotion always means our thoughts are false.  We have to turn inward again and watch our mind to know why.  Maybe we’re thinking, “I wish I had love like that.”  “I wish I could find my lost love.”

We’re happy that they got what they desired; but we’re sad that we aren’t getting what we want.   They’re tears of sadness or disappointment about our life, not joy for them.  We don’t see this because we’re not watching our mind when we have tears of joy.  We’re looking outside of us at something we see or hear.  Our attention is on something good or wanted; but our mind is thinking something false.  It’s a trick.

 

In my experience, watching my mind during the tears of joy or excitement often reveals causal beliefs that explains why I’ve not fulfilled my desires.  They’re liking finding a diamond.  If I turn my focus inward, and let go of the false thought or belief, the tears of joy or excitement go quickly.   And I’m one step closer to freedom and fulfilling my own true desires.

 

If it is Held in Secret, It’s Only a Half Truth

Truth isn't hidden

By Cathy Eck

 

Secret Truth?

It was said that initiates were sworn to secrecy with strict penalties for breaking their vows.  But I question that.  Keeping the truth secret goes against the very idea of initiation, which was to remember the truth and live it.  You can’t hide something if you’re living it.

Initiates realized that everyone was born with the truth inside.  To hide the truth, you must cover it with beliefs or knowledge; and initiates had no need for beliefs or knowledge.

 

Where Did the Truth Go?

The truth didn’t go anywhere; it got covered up.  People who wanted power often entered secret brotherhoods and learned an occult view of life, which has become the normal view of life (or the illusion).  These brotherhoods were NOT creating initiates, but they called themselves initiates.  Hence, the confusion.  Initiation literally means to take one back to who they were in the beginning, their True Self.  The occult teachings created a facade that looked much like a True Self.  The occult thought they had the truth, and still do; but they were and still are jealous and fearful of the true initiates’ real power.

The occult memorized the initiates’ unified words of truth (and their stories) without letting go of the false beliefs in sin, suffering, and problems that they already held in mind.  This turned pure wisdom into useless knowledge (or manure into an iced cream sundae).  To the innocent, the occult looked like initiates.  But the occult cast a long shadow because of their split minds.

This is how level confusion was created.  Level confusion is where we put truth into the illusion, or where we muddy the clear waters of truth by giving it an opposite.  The triangle process demonstrates that truth and the false illusion are two distinct levels of reality.  Confusion occurs when we mix these levels.  This is being done today by most teachers of spirituality and religion; and many innocent people are being fooled.  When we follow someone with level confusion, we get level confusion.

The occult version of the truth was made secret; and of course, people want secrets.  The occult taught things like thinking positive thoughts, the use of magic, visualization, and controlling or willing the mind.  But they didn’t know how to purify the mind — only true initiates knew and taught that.

The occult only had power because of the use of roles.  The good, positive, unemotional side of the occult secret information was  identified with the powerful masculine roles, which were played by those in the occult brotherhoods and religions.  The bad, emotional, negative, or lesser desired side of the illusion, was projected on those playing feminine roles, or everyone else.  The occult also used a lot of power words and symbols, which they claimed had magical power.   Their symbols and beliefs were charged by the innocent believers.  Without believers, symbols and beliefs are empty and worthless.  Initiates didn’t use symbols, nor did they have beliefs, but they often used metaphor in their stories.

 

Finding the Truth Within

To write my first blog article years ago, I had to confront what seemed like an unending fear of the illusion, the occult, and those with power; it took a lot of letting go.  I felt as if I held the entire history of people being tortured, humiliated, or killed for exposing the occult with in my own mind and body.  Today conspiracy theorists and comedians are exposing the occult.  They tend to be people who feel the incongruence of the false leaders; they know something is off.

Of course, I also expose the occult; but I add letting go, which is the way back to the pure view of the initiates.  In order to succeed at initiation, we must become stronger than our minds, expose our own false beliefs, and let them go.  The occult simply use techniques to change their minds.  When we expose and let go of our own false beliefs, we gain in true strength and power; only then can we see through the illusion to freedom.

At one point, I believed that I needed to find the truth in a secret organization.  But my True Self fortunately thought ahead.  I realized that if I got the truth from such an organization, assuming they even had it, I’d be sworn to secrecy.  I also didn’t see (or I should say feel) the type of people I was looking for coming out of those organizations.  Besides, I didn’t just want the secrets for me;  I wanted them for everyone.  In hindsight, I made a very good decision.

The reason I can be so blunt and confident is because I earned what I write about by letting go.  I found the truth inside of me as was done in the true temples of initiation through mentorship.  I write to provide others with validation and techniques for letting go, not to provide information to memorize or use to look knowledgeable.  I can’t emphasize this enough.  If you’re still seeing an opposite to your truth, let go of that which you think is the truth because it isn’t.  It’s a occult clone voice.

 

No Secrets

After years of letting go,  I know that true initiates didn’t keep secrets.  Therefore, all secret information is occult; and you don’t need it or want it.  It’s worthless knowledge.  Knowledge is good for unimportant stuff like learning to type or how to make a chair.  But even the best knowledge can’t be magically turned into wisdom and truth.

The initiates didn’t have to keep anything secret; I’ve followed in their footsteps.  You get more of whatever you live and give.   When you give occult bullshit or half truths, you get more bullshit.  When I give away what I’ve come to know, more comes — just like a steady paycheck.  Much as I try, I can’t give it away as fast as it comes.  But I keep trying because the reward is so damn sweet!

 

Labels: The Seeming True Self Destroyer (Part II)

Pride humility judgment tolerance

By Cathy Eck

 

Victimhood and Victories

Labels create invisible prisons.  Sometimes the cell walls are imposed by others (discussed in Part I).  But often, people hold on to labels even though they’re destroying or imprisoning themselves.

Individuals and cultures hold on to victories and victimhood affecting their perspectives.  We’re all victims of the illusion — perpetrators and victims are just roles relabeled victor upon winning and victim upon losing.  Both hold on to their labels; therefore, history repeats itself.  Battles on all levels are simply the meeting of opposing beliefs.  The one who is least emotional will win.  The True Self can’t lose because at that state of mind, we have no beliefs or emotions.

The victorious hold on to their superior label because they perceive it gives them power.  Too often, the perks of victimhood are just too delicious.  The victim often becomes the perpetrator when they won’t let go because they perpetually punish the victor in their mind.

 

Heroism

True heroism is beyond labels.  Fighting a war or doing what most believe impossible is heroism in the illusion.  In truth, letting go takes far more courage and compassion, but you’ll never be labeled a hero for letting go.  A hero requires an enemy.  There are no enemies outside the illusion.  Batman isn’t needed without the Joker.

The illusion rewards and disempowers us at the same time.  We applaud someone who says: “I’m a recovering drug addict.”  At the same time, they’re told they’ll fight that battle for life.  Habits exist because the cause persists.  We didn’t create the cause; we simply believed the illusion just like everyone else.

Positive labels, like hero or survivor, feel good until we realize that good labels are false and have no lasting power to protect us.  Positive emotions keep us trapped just like those we label negative.  We love rags-to-riches and hero stories.  But to maintain the hero label, we must keep the poverty or opposition in our mind as a potential. One day the opponent or problem we thought we defeated could gain enough strength to return.  Letting go provides the safety that we think we can only get from heroism and winning.

 

Pride

Pride creates seductive labels that are often hard to let go.  A good example is the American bumper stickers that say, “My kid’s an honor student.”  Parents love them; most kids hate them.  Next grading period the kid doesn’t make honor roll.  Now they have to look at that fucking bumper sticker everyday and remember how they were special because of something they did, not who they are.

Titles are another form of label.  Doctor, General, Queen, or Pope are professions, but people use the titles to define superiority and inferiority based on knowledge, position, or pedigree.  The titles don’t belong outside the office.  We aren’t our jobs.

One who fears pride tends to avoid saying anything good about themselves.  They develop false humility that keeps them artificially small.  There’s nothing wrong with saying, “I got the Nobel Peace Prize.”  Everyone will be happy for us unless they have jealousy issues.  But if years later, we introduce ourself by saying, “I’m John, Nobel prize winner,” at a cocktail party where it’s out of context, then pride has come to stay.  Pride causes us to hold on to labels instead of letting them go and discovering who we really are.  When we make our career, college, team, nationality, or children’s accomplishments matter more than who we are, we’re screwed.

 

Judgments

Judgments are permanent labels.  Judging another creates false superiority by placing us in the masculine role.  But superiority is illusory.  The judge is just as locked in the illusion as the person they’re judging.  The pair now have an unhealthy false-self connection.  Judges are certain they’re right; some hold the other on the hook forever.  They choose false-self rightness over being their True Self.  The True Self views opposition as false and powerless.  There’s no need to punish or forgive; letting go is all that’s necessary.

It’s never too late to let go of judgment.  People have freed me of judgments without saying a word.  I could feel it.  When we hold another on the hook, we hold ourselves on the hook.  When another won’t free us, we feel that they’re in our mind or body.  The emotions feel endless.

Those emotions will leave if we recognize the judgement against us was false.  But we won’t do that if we fear the judge might be right.  We might need the judge.  Or we maybe we think our emotional connection with the judge is love.

Someone who constantly labels us with, “You are…” doesn’t love us.  Judging isn’t love.  We’re simply a good projection screen for them so they don’t have to own, fix, or suffer the consequences of their beliefs.  We’re an enabler if we allow them to continue to project on us.

When we let go of our feminine role in their life, we see that.  This took me so long to learn this lesson.  If the judge wants the truth, they’ll hear us.  If not, we’ll join the ecstatically joyous divorcees’ community.  We’ll realize we’d rather be happy and homeless than spend another day working for an authoritarian ass.  We’ll leave our religion for a breath of fresh air.  When we escape our handlers, we catch a whiff of the heaven on earth that the handler promised but never delivered.

“The false masculine role always tells us that we’re doing to them what they’re actually doing to us.”  Most people are on the receiving end of that giant illusory error because they’re stuck in false feminine roles.  The false masculine role has become far too proficient at the projection of labels.  Don’t wait for them to change.  Step out of the role as their mirror by letting go.  When there’s no one left to project on, the game will end.

 

 

 

Labels: The Seeming True Self Destroyer (Part I)

Ambigram NO Labels NO Lies

By Cathy Eck

 

NO LABELS, NO LIES

If you’ve been reading this blog, you know that beliefs are disruptive lies that come disguised as the truth.  That’s why we accept them into our mind without discriminating.  We give others our beliefs with the intention of controlling or helping them because we can’t see beyond the belief to recognize that it’s false.  Labels are simply a collection of beliefs that we either hate or love.  Like beliefs, we often accept them without discrimination.

To escape the illusion, we must have precision in our words.  That precision supports us in seeing the difference between something illusory and something true.  The triangle process is a good way to develop word precision.  It helps us get real and identify what’s truly happening when words are exchanged.

The meaning of words is often reversed or confused in the illusion.  Beliefs are treated as if they’re true.  The false God is treated as the Creator; occult is confused with initiation.  Goodness, in the illusion, becomes obedience to authority.  Winning morphs into success when another loses.  The illusion is all about level confusion.

Labels beg for word precision.  If you don’t have word precision, you confuse and harm others.  We do to others what was done to us until we recognize that what was done to us was false.  People in the illusion label people for eternity.  They say, “You’re incurable.”  You’re a victim of wackadoodle disease.”  “You’re an idiot.”  “You’re ugly.”  “You’re fat.”  “You’re a Smith and will always be a Smith.”  “You’re an Asian, gay, or Hispanic.”  The one label that would not harm us, we rarely use, “You’re a human being.”

Labels also go the other direction, which is just as bad and more seductive.  “You’re a genius.”  “You’re beautiful.”  “You’re the Dali Lama.”  “You’re a saint.” or “You’re an old soul.”

Then there are the labels that we give ourselves.  After I sold my technology business, I decided I wanted to go naked — not without clothes — without labels.  People would, of course, ask me what I did.  I’d say, “Nothing.”  No one could accept that.  “Are you a housewife?  A mother?  A retiree?  A homeless person?  A fucking antisocial idiot?”  They wanted me to own a label dammit.

Eventually, we figure that if we’re going to get labeled anyway, we’d better label ourself.  “I’m an artist.”  “I’m a Muslim.”  “I’m a sufferer of wackadoodle disease.”  You watch, someone labeled hypochondriac will think they have that disease!  “I’m a fighter for truth.”  “I’m an engineer.”  “I’m shy.”  The very way we speak labels by saying “I am” or “You are” gives them permanence, making change difficult or impossible.

 

Labels Can Feel Like Murder

We must choose our wording carefully when discussing labels.  When someone asks what I do?  I answer in a temporary way.  Currently I mentor people and write.  In that way, I’m not defined by my current activity.  But our friends and family are often unkind and more permanent in choosing their labels.  They say,  “You’re so…..  You’re a ……  You always …..  You never…..”  They believe that what they see in us is true; it’s not.

I learned to watch my language carefully in business.  If I defined someone by their errors, I’d destroy a very good employee.  With my children, I learned the same lesson.   I didn’t want to ruin my perfect child.  In the masculine role, I had to discriminate between true and false constantly.  It took lots of practice.  We all behave as false selves at times.  We live in a fucking false world.  That’s reality.  But that isn’t who we are.

I learned that the truth looked like this, “You’re acting irresponsible today.”  The person was acting in a false way.  If it was my projection, the situation went away.  I avoided breaking my precious mirror.  If they were asking for help without knowing it, I offered help.  Often people do shitty things to us or behave in ridiculous ways because they’re asking for help without knowing it.  Letting go and then speaking in this way healed 80% of the situations.  The others were not correctable by me because they showed me something that they were reflecting for someone else in their life.  They wanted me to fix their handler; and I couldn’t do that.  But I could help them let go from the feminine role.

But one caution, this isn’t about saying the prettier words.  It’s about knowing the person isn’t inherently what they’re doing in this moment.

 

You Are vs. You Are Acting

You are acting… is a statement that opens the door to discover causal beliefs.  We can’t fix or find the cause of a problem if we think the problem is true — truth is immortal.  We don’t make friends or love someone by labeling them in a permanent way with “You are…”  We put them up against a wall when we do that.  No one can fix or change the truth.  We must admit something is false to let it go.  That is the secret of letting go.  Knowing that the words we thought or heard weren’t true.

If a doctor says, “You’re incurable,” find a new doctor.  If a teacher labels you ADD, get a new teacher.  If your preacher projects his sin on you, for God’s sake run like hell and find your True Self.  Sadly, people marinate in the soupy projection  of false masculine roles until they believe that the stone cast upon them was deserved.  It changes them forever and locks them into the illusion without an exit.  The only way to escape the label is to realize that it’s false.   We were just not acting like ourselves.  Or the person who said it was seeing their own reflection.

Once we realize that we’re just an actor, we can release the role we’ve played.  We can return to our own life path and find the happy ending to OUR own story.  We don’t have to live with our labels anymore.

What If I Like My Beliefs? What Do I do With Annoying Believers? Etc.

apple a day

By Cathy Eck

 

Beliefs and Believers

Beliefs aren’t really a problem if we truly understand that they’re all false. Believers of all sorts fear other peoples’ beliefs; they think the others’ beliefs can affect them.  Beliefs can’t affect us unless we believe them.  Really!  Likewise, prophecy only affects people who accept it as true.

This wisdom makes life inherently fair.  But believers do need opposition to take their imaginary punishments.  For a long time, I feared believers; that fear cast me into unwanted roles within their illusions.  Once I no longer believed them, they lost their false power over me.

People with strong beliefs challenge us during initiation.   They show us what we still believe.  That’s a valuable service.  We also get to practice not judging them for having beliefs.  They’re living a false illusion; but they aren’t bad.

Beliefs die a natural death without human fuel.  Consequently, believers hate when we ignore them; but too often we argue with them.  Arguing puts us on their false level.  We lose when they say we offend them.  We’ll lose if they trigger doubt in us by pulling out an out-of-context Bible verse.  Many Food Police would reel me in with their charisma as they talked about their bullshit belief of the day.  Believers are always armed and ready to defend their beliefs.

Resist their pull to battle; it only gives them power.  Just realize that their beliefs are false and let them go.  In this way, you stay in power.  You see, us nonbelievers aren’t psychologically reversed like them, we feel the emotions that they should feel since they just lied.  But they believe they spoke the one-and-only truth — they feel nothing.  In most any battle, the emotional person loses.  Chances are, that will be us.

However, if we discriminate and let go, the emotions we feel leave us and return to their source — the believer.  If we stay in our True Self, said believer must deal with their own emotions.  If we’re wise, we give them what they fear most — unconditional love.  Pure love dissolves anything false.  It’s the most powerful weapon in the universe.  I never attack a believer; but if they attack me, I shoot them with love.  They hate it.

 

What if We Can’t Let Go?

There’s no belief you can’t let go.  However, letting go often takes time.  What if you’re in an urgent situation, like a health crisis?  You can feel lost between two worlds.  The best and safest thing to do is to honestly admit that you don’t believe you can let go right now; follow your beliefs to the letter.  Do whatever you believe will result in healing the effects.  After the crisis is over, let go around that subject until you release the causal belief.  Regardless of what you’re told by experts, the problem will disappear and not return when you no longer hold the causal belief in mind.

My biggest surprise around letting go, and what comes as a shock to people I mentor, is that any situation that we didn’t fix at the cause earlier in life will come up again in initiation.  If we had a physical problem earlier in life, it’s wise to look at the beliefs that caused that problem while our health is still good and our mind clear.  If we had relationship problems that we fixed with therapy or boundaries, get ready!  People often get upset when they regain the weight they once lost through dieting and exercise.  They fixed the effect, not the cause.  We’ll probably meet these problems again, but now we’ll know how to let go.  This time, we’ll remove the cause.

 

Can I keep my religion?

Of course. You won’t be completely free, but you can keep it.  I recommend that anyone with a tradition, practice, or religion, which they believe they want to keep, should live it fully, honestly, and completely.  Do it exactly as prescribed.  Don’t cheat.  In that way, you’ll see it for what it is.

When you practice a tradition, practice, or religion selectively, you’re not really following the tradition.  You pick up all of the beliefs of that tradition, yet don’t follow the protocol — that’s dangerous.  Many people make up their own rebellious rules or beliefs — not realizing that their modifications have no power against the fundamentalists’ beliefs.

If you live any belief system fully without cheating and still like it, then keep it.  But don’t become a zealot.  Even if it works for you, it’s still a belief system; it’s unfair to force others to accept your beliefs.

 

Challenging Beliefs

Many of us were taught to never challenge another person’s beliefs.  It’s certainly not good to argue over beliefs since we get the cooties of the person we argue with.  But we must challenge the beliefs within our own minds.

If another person has beliefs, and they’re happy with them, then I just make sure that I don’t believe them and infect my mind.  However, if they ask me to listen to their problems, to help them fix their problems, or to take care of them in some way, then that’s a request for help.  I give them support by helping them find their causal belief and let that belief go.  I’m not a caretaker.  If they don’t want their belief challenged, then they can fix their own problem.  I won’t fix their effects.  Jesus demonstrated this by “letting the dead bury the dead.”  In other words, those in the illusion can take care of the illusion’s problems.

Generally, I’ll only help another clean up their mess if they let go since I know the problem won’t happen again.  When people are forced to take responsibility for the effects of their beliefs, they often choose to let go.  My methods sound cruel to some, but they’re not.  In my experience, when I hold people to the truth, they often rise to the occasion.  When I rescue someone who’s drowning, I usually drown with them.

Simple Lessons On Unity, Wisdom, and Unconditional Love

Cruise Ship

By Cathy Eck

 

Several years ago, I was deep into researching the roots of all religion.  I had my nose in books most of the time, I’d gathered lots of knowledge and unveiled much wisdom on a range of topics.  I wanted to travel to places that I had studied but was low on funds.  I got the idea that perhaps I could speak on cruise ships after hearing a cruise ship speaker talking about the Mayan calendar; he recited the facts well but didn’t understand the calendar.  So I worked out a way to spend three months a year at sea speaking on cruise ships.  (FYI:  I will help anyone get free, but I don’t help people get jobs on cruise ships.)

I loved being at sea and visiting places I’d studied.  My talks covered mythology, ancient cultures and religions, ancient sacred places.  Sometimes I told interesting backstories about famous people like Columbus or Michelangelo.  I talked about the Knights Templar, native traditions, and even Atlantis.  I didn’t hold back on the wisdom.  If it was right for the talk, I said it.  People of all religions seemed to enjoy and accept what I said, which surprised me.  I started to understand how the truth on any subject does cut through the bullshit like a knife.  It unites us.  It seemed as if people forgot their beliefs for the hour that we hung out together each day.

 

Lesson 1

I stayed around after my talks for private conversations or questions; people usually lined up to talk to me.  Lots of them wanted to recruit me into their religion.  They would wine and dine me, give me a great sales pitch about how their path was “The One,” then they’d confess that they loved their religion, but it could use a little tweaking.  If I would come on board perhaps I could help them make it right.  I realized that people often believe that they can’t leave their religion, but they aren’t blind to its flaws.  They deeply want to improve it.  Of course, as a reader of this blog, you know that you can’t fix anything in the illusion.  The True Self lives outside the illusion.  To get to the truth, we must let go of the false, including false religion.  While I did say “No” to those offers, I learned a lot about religions.

 

Lesson 2

While on a repositioning cruise from Barcelona to Dubai, I gave nine talks, about Greece, Egypt, and Dubai, which were very popular.  The talks were early in the morning, but they were well attended; no one fell asleep.  I had an audience that speakers dream about.

One elderly woman came in early every day.  She always sat in the back.  The last day, she introduced herself to me.  She told me that she was 92 years old.  She snuck out of her room each morning while her husband was still asleep to attend my talks.  She attended every one.  She smiled at me, took my hand, and said, “All my life people told me that I was stupid.  I believed them.  But you talked about some very complex topics, and I followed every minute of them.  I’ve never been so happy.  I think about these presentations all day long.  Today while listening, I realized that I’m not stupid.”  We hugged and cried.  I explained to her that by some miracle, she had retained access to her truth even when no one else saw it.  What she couldn’t learn was knowledge, which was worthless anyway.  She told me that if she died tomorrow, she’d die knowing she was a wise woman.  She inspired me and still does.  When I feel that I just can’t do this work anymore, I think of her.

 

Lesson 3

One day, I was explaining the astrological symbolism behind the Sun God.  The sun was the metaphor for God because it was perceived as eternal, gave light and warmth, and was unconditional in its giving.  It didn’t care what race, culture, or tribe you were from.  It didn’t judge you as good or evil.  Everyone received it’s gifts.  It’s an amazing metaphor, and shows that the ancient people were wise.  They simply weren’t civilized or learned.  But wisdom trumps knowledge every time.

Civilization replaced the Garden of Eden, created a new God with laws, and made earlier people into barbarians.  The illusion was born.

In my talk, I explained how meaningful the Sun metaphor is today.  It’s a reminder of the power of unconditional love.  After the talk, a woman came up to me.  She said, “Could you please explain to me what unconditional love feels like?  I don’t think I’ve ever felt it.”  I tried different metaphors that often work — children, pets — she got that right away.  But then she looked down, paused, and qualified her statement.  In a soft voice, she said, “I mean what does it feel like when you receive it from another?”  I had to confess, I too didn’t really know.  I’d never felt it from another either.  But I’d felt it inside myself.  She brought up a sad reality.  Most of us haven’t received unconditional love.  Society has replaced it with romance, care taking, and lust.  In fact, to most people unconditional love feels bad because it threatens that which is false inside of them.  Unconditional love dissolves that which isn’t true.  And for those who want to hold on to their beliefs, it’s the enemy.

 

These wonderful people planted seeds in my mind giving birth to many of the techniques I offer today.  Everything I write about and share is designed to get us back to our True Self — the place of unconditional love, wisdom, and unity.  Regardless of our religion or culture, if we’re honest, we all seek the True Self.  We think we lost it; we’re told we left it in Eden.  That’s a lie.  Our True Self still shines just like the sun; it’s immortal, universal, light, warm, and completely unconditional.

We Are the Body — Western Meditation

God in the stars

By Cathy Eck

 

Nobody or Body?

A popular saying among spiritual teachers is “You’re Not the Body.”  Since authoritative gurus/teachers say those words, people believe them.  If we aren’t our body, then we’re “nobody.”  Why do we even have a body?  Same thing goes for our senses.  The body and senses are the effect of our mind.  A True Self in a body with sharp, clear senses is as good as it gets.

Many people send their True Selves floating high above their body trying to get to the God in the sky.    Others long for the OBE (out-of-body experience).  People desire relief from the heaviness of the emotions they feel in their body.  When they exit their body, they no longer notice their emotions.  So they feel lighter.  Often they encounter the thought forms that constructed the illusion or words of truth that have been spoken within the context of the illusion.  They bring these beliefs back with them and create the next expensive workshop to success or enlightenment.  They think they’ve found the exit to truth, but they’ve been fooled.

Our truth is resting quietly below the illusion; the illusion is a construct made by human minds that veils our True Self.  We find our True Self by letting go of our false mind.  We find it in our mind — not out there somewhere.  But we have to know what is true and what is false — discrimination is key.

Floaters, as I like to call them, are highly suggestible.  As a former hypnotherapist, they make great hypnotic subjects.  When we’re hypnotized, we’ll accept anything authorities tell us.

Can you see the trick?  Magicians in powerful masculine roles of Lords and Priests have used hypnosis for thousands of years.  They got people to chase the light to a God in the sky, ignoring the True Self (discrimination system) within the body, so people didn’t notice they were being lied to.  It’s so amazingly clever that I almost have to admire them.

 

Who’s Speaking in my Mind?

Gurus keep disciples in a hypnotic state.  The disciple hears the guru’s beliefs as if they’re true.  Soon the disciples start thinking exactly like the guru.  

When my son was six, he took a martial arts class in something called Hwar Do.  The Korean teacher had an athletic, young AMERICAN woman for an assistant; she spoke with exactly the same Korean accent as her teacher.  It was like he was her mind.  It was creepy.

In my business life, I took the popular Landmark Education/EST training.  The seminar leaders spoke just like Werner Erhard.  Again, it was creepy.  They allowed their teacher to possess their mind.

Partners, lovers, and parents can also take over our mind.  Some wedding vows say “One mind, one heart.”  “Holy Marital Crap, Batman,” said Robin.

Lately, I’ve seen creepy kids on TV that speak or perform like little adults.  That’s not genius; it’s mind control.  They’re Mini-Me’s of their parents.  I love the ones that talk politics, like they were born knowing the American political system.

Religion produces the same result.  The preacher, wearing a costume that shouts authority, bores the living shit out of the congregation in a big room (that echoes) using routine, rituals, and repetition.  We stop discriminating, and our unmanned body absorbs their every word like a giant sponge.  Later when their words arise in our conscious mind, it’s our chance to let them go; but most people think the words are true and believe them again.  They hold on to those words.

Native practices use movement, chanting, or ceremony.  Vision quests and traditional meditation get us to float above our body.  Drugs do the same thing.  Letting go happens when we are in our body — feeling our emotions.

The false mind’s job is to remember.  It remembers anything until we tell it not to.  Words like, “That’s false.”  Or, “Wow, I don’t need to remember that anymore,” or my personal fav, “What the fuck was I thinking?” help us let go.  We’ve all had the experience of studying for a test and forgetting everything by the next day.  Our mind holds on to information that we need or that we consider true, but only as long as we think we need it.  Letting go is a declaration of falseness.

 

Western Meditation

One antidote for floating is what I call western meditation.  You can find the western meditation process link here.  There’s a PDF below.

In western meditation, you aren’t trying to relax or get specific results.  You’re doing what the Greeks called “Knowing Yourself” — knowing your mind.  You’re simply asking your mind to give you all its got right now.

When you tell your mind that your thoughts are false, you’ve given it permission to drop the answers to yesterday’s exam.  If emotion does arise as you do this, witness the emotion until it goes.  Beliefs and emotion go together.  If you’ve had a belief for a long time, there’s often lots of emotion attached.  Emotions always means the belief is false.

Initiation is about turning our body into a Temple for the Living God, a home for your own True Self — not a church.  When beliefs float us above our body or hypnotize us, no one is home.  We might get ideas, but we often can’t manifest those ideas in the world without lots of willpower.  Like a filmmaker, we want to bring our story to life.  If we can’t live our story, then “We don’t get no satisfaction,” (says Mick).

For most of the world, it takes too much willpower to create — people become apathetic.  They have too many beliefs to leap over.  They don’t even have the willpower to use their willpower.  In truth, the purpose of willpower is to will our mind to discriminate and let go.  Eventually, we won’t need willpower anymore.  Then our dreams are no longer in the clouds; they’re our normal reality.  We’re creators again.

Meditation for the Western Mind pdf

Getting Real About Your Life: The Secret to Creativity

Creativity

By Cathy Eck

 

Creativity

Creativity occurs in the gap between our vision and our reality.  Ideally, that gap is constantly diminishing.  That’s when we enjoy our journey.

In business, I loved creating an insane challenge and then fulfilling it.  In technology, the value of a computer system was measured in years.  A three-to-five year payback on investment was normal at that time.  I promised a one-year payback.  My normal system, which was more expensive than the competition, paid for itself in three-to-six months.

Bringing down the payback period taught me a valuable lesson.  Much of my success was the vision I set for each project.  What I must share, however, is that no one believed my vision was possible.  Even the companies that hired me would say, “Yea right.  You can’t do that.”  They couldn’t do it, but I knew I could.  Only in hindsight, do I understand why.

 

Fantasy

People tend to fall into two groups.  The first group lives in the fantasy world.  They say their affirmations and focus on the positive.  They daydream of better days while ignoring the reality that they don’t believe they can achieve those days.  The extreme metaphor for these people are lottery players.  Their life is so dismal that they believe that the only way out is to win something that has one chance in a million.  These people usually have right-brain oriented views of life.  They tend to visualize, talk all the time, and philosophize, but don’t get much done.  They use cognitive dissonance to bridge gaps in their belief systems.  When their reasoning breaks down, they usually insert an angel, a miracle, or fate.  They manufacture religions.

 

Realism

The other group is so grounded in reality that their face is stuck in the mud.  They tend to be left brainers.  They get shit done, but often make a mess of things when they do it.  They have good memories, which they use on others to bring up things they did thirty years ago.  If science doesn’t have the answer, there’s no answer.  Nothing exists beyond reality.  Incurable is their death sentence.  They create lots of problems and want rewarded when they fix their own problems.  They get a small reprieve after they fix something — a brief moment of satisfaction.  Then something else breaks.  They argue for political, religious, or any one-sided point of view until they make everyone around them want to vomit.  These are the scientists that waste time and money proving their reality is the truth.

The place of creativity isn’t in either extreme.  Remember the old triangle process (above).  Creativity, and all the other joys of life, are at the top of the triangle.  Fantasy and Harsh Reality live at the bottom.

 

Enjoying The Journey to the Top

Creativity lives at the top of the triangle.  To get there, we must get honest about our current reality.  That’s our starting place.  It isn’t what we deserve, it sure as hell isn’t something we need to accept, and it isn’t something we need to face for very long.  It’s an honest assessment of our current situation.  Fantasy, the other side of the triangle, is where we want to be.  It might look possible or impossible.  That doesn’t matter.  When we bring together the right recipe of these two ingredients, and we let go, we ride the creative wave to the top.

Anyone who appears to have natural talent rides that wave every day, but often only in one aspect of their life.  I could thrive among the best in my field because I knew I could.  I didn’t “know” because I thumped my chest every morning while looking in the mirror and mimicking Tony Robbins.  I didn’t believe I could.  In fact, I actually had no beliefs that I couldn’t.  (Although after watching “The Wolf of Wall Street,” I tried out the chant-chest thump technique; I gotta admit, it was kind of fun. It made me feel like a he-man.)

 

Letting Go

I left the business and technology world because I wanted to learn why that worked for me and why others couldn’t do it.  I also wondered why I couldn’t do that in every aspect of my life.

It was clearly something in people’s minds that veiled their natural gifts.  I only had to find out how to reverse that man-made error.

First, I got painfully real.  Most of the world believes they have no talent.  Most people feel like pawns with no chance of fulfilling their dreams.  Most people have strong religious and family-cultural beliefs that they view as the truth.  Most of the world accepts their reality as God ordered.  There’s more, but you get the idea.  That was my “Get Real.”  Now I was done with getting real — just needed my accurate and honest starting point.

Now what’s my vision?  This was the question I wanted to solve.  How can every person unveil their unique expression, gifts and talents, and true perspective?  But I also had other conditions that clarified an acceptable answer.  I wanted the answer to be something anyone could do — not just MENSA members, not just those belonging to certain religions or clubs, and not just rich people.  It had to be win-win and possible for everyone on the planet.  It had to be simple, able to be done alone, and easy to remember.  Pretty high stakes.

Fifteen years later, I had the technique.  It met all of those conditions.  But I had to let go of a zillion beliefs to get there.  What appears to be a God-given gift or talent is actually a black holes in our mind where we have few or no beliefs.  That’s all.  Letting go, not cognitive dissonance, removes the gap between our vision and our reality.

Our beliefs rest between our get real and our vision like a big block of granite.  We keep chipping away at those beliefs with our little chisel.  One day, there’s nothing left.  We’re free.

 

 

 

Manifesting Desires: An Alternative To New Year Goals and Resolutions

New Year's Resolutions

By Cathy Eck

 

It’s that time of year when people talk about their desires, resolutions, goals, and intentions for the next year.  Most of those goals will be abandoned before the leftovers from New Year’s Day dinner are gone. People tend to do what they’ve done before — even if it didn’t work.  They don’t know what else to do.  Their beliefs limit their mind so they can’t see what lies outside of their little box.

 

Desires

The process of manifesting desires is very different from the initiate’s perspective.  Initiates consider all desires to be worthwhile. Their goal is never the fulfillment of those desires, although that often happens, because our True Self can fulfill all desires with ease.  The initiate knows that desires create a catalyst for letting go.  Having desires exposes the beliefs that we need to let go by bringing them into our conscious awareness.   As we shed those beliefs, we either get our desires or we forget about them.  But either way, desires served our quest for freedom.

Most people use mental (affirmations, visualization, etc.) or physical actions to achieve desires.  Beliefs rise to the surface, and people obey them even if they don’t want to.  If they don’t obey their beliefs, they don’t fulfill their desires.  We admire people who can beat their beliefs into submission with willpower and hard work or leap over their beliefs with a single bound — usually they’re also good at projecting their unwanted beliefs on to others.  Getting desires is considered success; not getting them is failure.  The journey isn’t very pleasant.

As the New Year approaches, we view life as if we’re starting over.  We’re often more aware of our desires.  But the beliefs we had last year that caused us to fail are still there unless we’ve been letting go.  The initiate focuses on finding the beliefs in their mind that keep their desires from manifesting.  They don’t jump into action or use their will to fulfill desires.  They take action only if it’s inspired, joyous, and fun.  Otherwise, they keep letting go.

 

Beliefs

We find our beliefs by watching our mind as we lightly think about our desires; or we ask questions to expose beliefs.  Of course, when the answers (beliefs) arise, we must discriminate.  Often the answers we hear in our mind are widely believed, socially correct, or traditional.  They might sound like guidance or God talking.  They’re going to look true and real because we believed them before.  If our desires are long standing, we’re probably highly psychological reversed (meaning that we accept beliefs that feel bad as true).

Let’s look at a common example — dropping weight.  We have a desire to change our body weight.  We can even see ourselves at the perfect weight.  That’s all we have to do with our desire.  It’s recorded.

Now we have to find the beliefs that keep the weight from just falling off effortlessly doing activities or eating food we enjoy.  Let’s assume that the first belief to arise is, “I have to join a gym and work out.”  Let’s assume that thought arises with lots of emotion.  We don’t like working out.  The emotion is saying, “That thought isn’t the truth.”  A battle with our mind has begun.  We live in a reality where lots of people lose weight by working out for long hours.  There are zillions of programs and trainers.  Dr. Oz will tell you that you need to do this.  But none of that matters.  We’re looking for our truth. If a thought is accompanied by emotion, it’s not true for us.

Our false mind will try to force us to accept the widely-accepted status quo.  When we follow another person’s beliefs on any subject, we’re believing that we don’t have the answer to fulfilling our desires.   We need to let that belief go; it isn’t true.  But we usually don’t.  Instead, we accept more beliefs that we’re told are the right beliefs.  Eventually, we’ll get tired of this solution, usually after paying lots of money to borrow the expert’s beliefs.  We’ll see the stupidity of it.  In addition, their solution will lack staying power.  Their enthusiasm might be real; their solution might have been the right solution for them.  But that doesn’t mean it’s right for us.  What’s right for us will feel good.  We won’t have to will ourselves to do it.

People look outside to others for answers.  But the only answer that works permanently is the answer that lives in our True Self.  We find that by letting go of the beliefs that veil it.

So the gym thought feels horrible, and we let it go.  Now we think, “I have to find a diet.”  The normal person will go buying books, making diet food, and enrolling in programs.  But we’re an initiate; we notice the diet thought generates emotions.  So we let the thought and emotions go.

If we keep following our chain of beliefs, we’ll start to find the hidden causes.  We’ll find more and more beliefs about food, exercise, and body that have supported our weight.  We might find relationship beliefs or beliefs about career.  If weight has been an issue for much of our life, this won’t be a weekend job.  It’s a new way of life.  We’ll find more  beliefs arise every time we eat.  We’ll find beliefs arise if we sit down and do nothing.  We’ll find beliefs when we visit family and friends.  But now we’re on the right path.  We’ve become aware of the complex system of beliefs that exists within our mind.  And we’ll keep letting go for days, months, or years until we’re free.  Our desires have served their purpose.   Then one day, we’ll forget our desires ever existed because they’re manifesting.  We don’t need desires when we easily get everything we want and need.  And all that struggle in the past will be nothing but a waking dream that really was just an illusion.

 

Mentoring Others to Let Go

Letting Go

By Cathy Eck

 

Mentoring

As you travel along the path to freedom, you’re going to want to start mentoring others.  Here are a few things that I’ve learned about mentoring.  Freedom mentoring is unique; it works from the inside out.  Normal coaching, teaching, or healing work creates change within the illusion; it fixes the effect of the illusion.  That doesn’t mean that those services don’t have a place.  As long as the illusion exists, people will seek comfort within it.  But if your desire is to achieve and give freedom, you have to get truthful about what freedom mentoring looks like.  Even when someone says they’re removing bad energy, they aren’t moving the person to freedom.  Providing a better or more positive point of view isn’t movement toward freedom.

Freedom mentoring at its best is about letting go.  That’s it.  Unless people know how to remove their own causal false thoughts, they’ll simply recreate their problems in the same or different form.  Or, they’ll project them on to others.  Freedom mentoring is about eliminating the potential for all problems forever.  To be blunt, those who seriously seek freedom mentoring have generally had enough of fucking problems.  So there’s nothing and no one they won’t let go.  If the person hasn’t gotten to that point, they won’t go all the way to freedom.

Ultimately when we’ve received the complete gift of freedom, we no longer need healers, teachers, gurus, or therapists.  Thus, freedom mentoring is a temporary job.

 

Make Sure They Want To Let Go

Some people are thrilled with the notion of letting go.  Others are resistant to the idea.  False fear of loss is the biggest restriction to letting go.  If someone doesn’t want to let go, don’t force them.  We don’t need to recruit True Selves.  Everyone already has one.  Whether another lives from their True Self or covers it up is their free will.

If someone resists letting go but wants to be mentored, help them look for a payoff of their problem.  Often they’re getting attention for it, or even money.

I take responsibility for any fears, judgments, or beliefs I have about their resistance.  Often their will can be quite convincing that they’re a victim, their problem is normal, or there’s no cure.  They might tell you letting go doesn’t work.  They’ll often become highly defensive or angry.  They can look possessed — they are, by their own false self.  At this point, I let them know they can keep their belief, but they’re giving up freedom.  We don’t have the right to dominate another or force them to let go.  If we battle them, we drop into our false self.  Then two people are drowning in the illusion.

We can be of enormous assistance by simply remove any beliefs or fears about them from our own mind.  At the very least, they have one person in the world who sees them problem free.  Once you let go, speak whatever your inspired to speak, and trust in their own True Self to handle the rest of the process.

Our True Selves always do the work of letting go.  In mentoring, we’re remembering their True Self’s knowing and unconditional love.  The false self can’t survive such purity.

 

The Truth Will Set Them Free

Some people want to vent or tell their story.  They believe that will get it off their chest.  They don’t realize that each time they tell their story, they’re giving it more power.  They’re getting less free.  The false self always says that it’s giving us what it’s actually taking.  It lies.  It tells you that telling your story will free you when it actually takes your freedom from you.

Often people tell their story looking for attention or approval.  Sadly, we’re socially trained to offer support for such behavior.

If they’re open to your mentoring, ask them to tell the story one line at a time.  Then after each line of the story, ask them if that felt good.  Remind them that if it didn’t feel good, it wasn’t true.

This is where things get tricky.  The story looks true to them because it was their reality.  But it isn’t true, the truth always feels calm and unemotional.  Their reality was the effect of their past beliefs.  So by telling the story and recognizing that it all feels bad and it all occurred in the illusion, they often find the causal beliefs that they need to let go.

 

Traditional Bridgework

What if you work as a traditional healer, teacher, or coach?  In the beginning, you don’t have to do anything different with your clients except make sure you don’t believe them.  This feels odd at first.  It feels like you aren’t connecting with them.  But any treatment that you offer will work much better if you actually realize that nothing is wrong with them.

Edgar Cayce, the sleeping prophet, gave thousands of readings on health problems.  In his sleeping state, he was able to determine what the person in need of healing believed and recommend a solution that matched their beliefs.  In addition, to the salve, herb, drug, or physical treatment, he often recommended that they look to their mind and emotions for the cause.  At one point, he started a group geared toward connection with God.  The group asked him if they would achieve connection in this life, and he pretty much said no.  I suspect he determined in his sleeping state that they weren’t letting go; they were soothing their wounds and memorizing the truth.

As a mentor, truthfulness is key.  We must avoid telling people what they want to hear.  That requires letting go of our fear of rejection.  We must let go first and then follow our inspiration.  We must care about their freedom more than looking good or smart.  Mentoring others in this way rewards the mentor and the person being mentored — both grow closer to freedom.  It’s always win-win.

The False Self as a Container and Level Confusion

beliefs separate

By Cathy Eck

 

We Are One

One of the most dangerous beliefs to come out of the New Age Movement is, “We are One.”  It’s hard to understand why this statement is dangerous because it’s true.  However, it’s only true at the True Self level.  When we put True Self thinking on top of false self beliefs, we create serious level confusion.  Our false self usually projects an opponent that we abhor, and we can’t escape them because our false mind thinks we’re one with them.

The last thing we want is oneness with other false selves.  If our false self believes in oneness, it will also become one with other people’s confusion, pain, or suffering; or it will take responsibility for things that we didn’t create.

Once we understand that our false selves weren’t designed to be one with other false selves, the process of letting go gets much easier and faster.  The false self is like a creative container.  In order to create anything, we do need some beliefs.  We hold the beliefs we need in our false self container while we create or co-create; then when we’re done with that creative act, we erase the container and start over.  This was called remaining a mental virgin in the ancient world.

Beliefs were never meant to be permanent.  The True Self holds that which is permanent or immortal; it can’t be erased.  Therefore, letting go of the belief in oneness is totally safe; and it can be life changing.

 

Mind As Computer

The computer is a near perfect analogy for our minds.  When we buy a computer, it comes with an operating system.  Everyone gets an  operating system.  You could say that computers are the same at birth.  But the operating system doesn’t do much; it only provides creative potential.  Likewise, our True Self is our mind’s operating system.  It provides the potential, but we need beliefs or programs to create.

Once we take over creative responsibility for our computer, we load programs, many of which we share with other users.  These popular programs could be likened to cultural or religious beliefs.  If we enjoy a particular program, we’ll want to study it or talk about it with others.  We might take classes in that program or join a user’s group.  We might not want to ever delete that program, but we can.  And, most important, we don’t have the right to sneak into another person’s office and install our program on their computer.  We must honor the privacy of  others and leave their hard drive alone.  Our passion is meant to fuel our own creativity — not to become an evangelist for our programs.

After loading programs, we add data, sound, and images that are uniquely our own.  In a short period of time, we won’t find another computer exactly like ours in all the world.  We can’t let go of the operating system or True Self because that would destroy our creative capacity.  But we have complete control over our hard drive (our false self).  We can add or delete programs and data as necessary depending on what we want to create and who we want to co-create with.

 

Back to The Mind

The data or programs we load into our false mind create uniqueness.  If we chose our programs carefully for creative purposes, we’ll love the focus and potential that our false mind provides.  We won’t feel separate from others because our True Self has oneness handled.  In addition, we’ll easily erase the beliefs when our creative focus changes.

But if we didn’t choose our programs, we’ll lack creative uniqueness.  We’ll only be able to copy others.  We’ll find it difficult or impossible to erase our hard drive.   We’ll fear that erasing the shared programs or data will produce loneliness (when the exact opposite is true).  Our perfect creative tool has now become a high security prison where the prisoners make sure that no one escapes.

If we’ve had controlling people in our life who thought they owned our hard drive, we’ll fear the programs (beliefs) of others.  We’ll fear that everyone wants to take over our hard drive.  When we fear that another can do such a thing, they do.  This is a huge problem in the world today.  Everyone is afraid of everyone else’s beliefs.  They keep trying to strengthen their firewall (boundaries) with more beliefs and programs.  They don’t realize that in order to fear another’s belief system, they have to hold it in mind.  If we let their beliefs go from our mind, we lose our fear of them.  Our immortal True Self provides far better protection than even the best program.

 

False Self Example

If my friend and I share a belief in hard work, and I delete my belief, her mental container remains unaffected.  I can’t delete beliefs from her mind.  But now I’m leading an easy life while she’s still working herself to death.  She could let go of her belief and join me, but she’s proud of her hard work ethic.  She gets approval for her martyrdom.  From her veiled perspective, I might look lazy or like I’m cheating at life.  I’m now her enemy.

The false self bonds or creates the illusion of oneness using beliefs.  It looks for like-minded people for comfort and security.  It wants other prisoners around it to validate its false rightness.  It feels lonely without like-minded support.

After letting go, we’re often tempted to turn back because those we care about believe we’ve abandoned, rejected or hurt them.  But we must keep letting go until we clear our mind completely and rediscover the place where WE REALLY ARE ALL ONE  — the place of no borders.  We didn’t abandon or reject them; they’re creating their own painful separation by holding on.  Once our own mind is free and our judgment gone, we can hold out our hand.  And often they reach up, grab on, and let go.  Now, WE ARE ONE.

 

Blinded by Our Culture

Cuenca on a dark rainy night

By Cathy Eck

 

Exposing Beliefs

Once we embark on the journey of initiation, our True Self exposes our beliefs.  If we follow our inspiration and commit to let go (not learn or escape), we’ll reach the destination.  Until we let go, however, places and situations can feel like impossible tests.  Ecuador continues to deliver exactly what I need.

I stay in a small B&B.  Since I’ve arrived, the hostess has been pleasant; but she constantly leaves out important details.  For example, a couple of weeks ago, she took me and two other guests to the mall, which is far from our home.  When we arrived, I asked her where and when we should meet her for the drive back.  She said, “Oh I can’t take you home.”  Fortunately, one member of our group knew the bus back to town.

When she picked me up at the airport, she was late.  This was disturbing because I no longer had phone service.  Then we went to get in her car — I thought.  Instead we got in a cab.  We stayed at a hotel, took a few more cabs, had a meal, and then took a transportation service that was right next to the airport.  I felt like my wallet was being raped.  What could have been a fourteen dollar ride to her house cost me about $80 in cabs, food, transport services, and hotel rooms.

Everyone in the house has had the same experience.  It would be easy to believe that we’re all just victims of her chaotic world.  As guests, we’re playing a feminine role in HER home.  This triggers our feelings of powerlessness.  It nearly always feels impossible to let go when we’re in a feminine role, but it isn’t.

 

No Victims

I’m never one to accept victimhood so I first let go of memories of lying by omission.  I’d often felt confused when people didn’t tell me the whole story, and I could only resolve my confusion when they finally told the truth.  That wasn’t good enough anymore.  I wanted letting go to take me to the place where people would always tell me everything I needed to know.

In every case, they didn’t think lying by omission was wrong.  In fact, they often felt they were sparing me pain.  There’s no “Thou shalt not lie or omit details,” in the Ten Commandments.

My mind kept telling me that I was stuck.  Lying or omission is a way to claim the false masculine role; the person lied too can’t get the upper hand because they’re fighting a ghost.

One morning, when my hostess once again forgot to mention a very important detail, I decided to speak with her.  Perhaps I could learn to understand her.  There was so much pain in the conversation that I had tears running down my eyes the whole time.

She was certain that she’d done nothing wrong.  “You chose to live in a typical Ecuadorian household; now you want to change me.”  I assured her that I didn’t.  “I’m a Christian woman; I don’t hurt people.”  I assured her that I understood her religion and realized she had good intentions.  This went on and on….

 

Culture

For some reason, my old business mind kicked in to save me.  “Let’s pull up your ad on the internet.  Let’s rewrite your ad as your guests see it.  This isn’t about your intention, your culture, or you; it’s about truthful marketing,” I said.  I spontaneously rewrote her ad giving her our painfully honest view of reality in her home.  Then, I said to her, “Is that ad really the ad of a Christian, typical Ecuadorian woman?”  I’d removed her mind from her cultural and religious beliefs; now she could see.

Her omission was the effect, not the cause.  She was constantly living from beliefs that she considered to be normal, cultural, or religious.  It is the old, “If everyone does it, it must be okay.”  Pride in her culture and religion kept her destructive beliefs in tact and even labeled her good for holding on to them.  Pride is one of the deadliest of tricks to keep us trapped in the illusion.

I reflected back to an earlier time when I confronted another person who lied by omission.  I also asked him why?  He said, “Everyone lies.  If you don’t, you won’t get what you want.”  Lying wasn’t bad to him either; it was necessary.  What he didn’t realize was that he was the only person I’d ever lied to.  I couldn’t help myself around him, but I hated myself for doing it.

My hostess saw herself as handling normal problems and circumstances that were typical for her religion and culture.  She knew nothing else.  For thousands of years, these traditions haven’t worked — they’ve only managed to veil our True Self.  The deeper the religion and culture in a family, organization, or country, the greater the chaos.  There are simply more beliefs to work around — think Middle East.

People will either live in apathy regarding their prison cell or decorate it and call it home.  It’s a rare one that escapes.

 

The Gift

Suddenly, I realized the gift of this experience.  My Spanish is poor.  When I talk to her, I’m thinking and listening very hard.  I’m focused on her words so I’m not feeling.  Being in a country where you can’t understand the language is a lot like being a child.  It takes us back to those moments when we didn’t know what people were saying or the rules of the world; but we did want the approval and love or our parents or other authorities.

So we innocently listened, trusted, and obeyed.  Sadly, some of those we trusted didn’t tell us the whole truth about life.  We fell into their world.  We accepted their beliefs as true, and we felt that we could not change their mind.  We believed that their religion or culture was true because we didn’t realize that they were blinded by it.

 

 

Why Reading About the Truth Doesn’t Get You To Freedom

Finding the truth by reading with discrimination

By Cathy Eck

 

Stuffed Full of Knowledge

From the time we’re born, we’re trained to learn from others — to stuff knowledge and information in to our mind.  So it seems logical that learning or reading about truth or freedom would cause us to find freedom.  But when we stuff more knowledge into our already crowded minds, we get a memorized version of the truth.  Reading about how to get free doesn’t make us free.  Talking about freedom doesn’t get us there.  Taking purposeful actions or rituals that demonstrate our knowledge of freedom doesn’t free us.

That’s why Jesus said to pray in private.  Initiation is a private thing that we all essentially do alone.  If we don’t find freedom through the mind by discriminating and letting go of our false beliefs, we’ll just believe the illusion again and again.

Telling you that reading doesn’t do the job when I’m a writer isn’t good for business.  But it happens to be the truth.  I write to make the journey to freedom faster, easier, and less lonely; I want to prompt you to let go.  Ultimately, I want to lose you as a reader or client because you’ve arrived.

The process of letting go perfects our discrimination so we can’t ever fall again.  The knowing and freedom that come from the process of letting go is pure.  We get our own insights.  We find our own unique perspective of truth.  Once we find freedom in this way, we won’t ever lose it.  Thus, free ones were considered immortal because death to the initiate was believing the illusion.

 

Freedom 

Ideally, we’d hear the truth, wake up to freedom, and live happily after.  However, our false minds have controlled our life and our bodies for a long time.  Our false self is a worthy opponent.  And, let me tell you, false selves love when we layer truth on top of it’s bullshit because it knows we won’t be letting go anytime soon.  Our mask will be shining too brightly.  When we layer truth on top of falsehood, we project the falsehood on to others so that we have a strong air of superiority and confidence.  We’re positive and their negative; we’re good and their bad.  We’re right and their wrong.

One must remember that the term con man came from the notion of the confidence man.  He looks like a True Self, speaks like a True Self, acts like a True Self, but he isn’t a True Self.  All of our problems in the world come from our inability to discriminate between the con man or woman and the True Self; this is especially true when we read.  We’re trained as young children to believe what we read, to hold on to it by memorizing it, and to be able to spit it back on command.  We’re trained to become con artists ourselves as we come to think our knowledge and expertise is who we really are.  Once we recognize this, we start to see through the trap of reading and learning.

Since we’ve been trained to believe we can’t let go, new information we read or learn goes on top of old information.   The old beliefs go into a mental storage vault that psychologists label the unconscious.  If we don’t like the info in our vault, we’ll often see it in others as projection.  We’ll think our job is to fix them.  But our real job is to empty our own vault.

In truth, there’s NO such thing as an unconscious mind.  We see the world that we hold within our mind.  If we’re bothered by something we see, hear, or read, our emotions remind us to let go.  Our emotions let us know that we’re contributing to the problem that we see in another or in the world with our beliefs.  When we let go, we either won’t notice the problem anymore or we’ll comfortably expose it and drain it of its power.  We won’t be inclined to fix it or treat it as real or true.

 

Reading and Learning

For a long time, reading was my escape.  I felt good when I read things that validated how I wanted the world to be.  But at some point, I realized that the reading wasn’t changing me at the core.  It was changing my facade.  It changed my conscious mind but didn’t clear out my unconscious.   I had to find out how to let go of my false mind, my unconscious.  That was the answer for me because I didn’t just want the truth, I wanted to eliminate my inner falsehood.  I wanted freedom.

People often ask me for recommended books to read, and I rarely answer their question.  Reading on the path to freedom isn’t about learning or putting more facts or truth in our mind.  It’s about provoking us to let go.  It’s about exposing beliefs that hold us away from freedom.  I can’t say what book will do that for you; but you’re True Self knows.

Treat reading as anything else.  Trust your inner initiator and read what you’re inspired to read.  But always read with your body, not your intellect.  Feel as you read so that you can notice when memories, beliefs, or emotions arise.  When they do, stop and follow them to the cause.  Let go of whatever arises in your mind.  In this way, reading helps expose our beliefs.  Reading decreases the size of our false mind.  Reading provokes letting go.

If you find yourself feeling validated or inspired by what you’re reading, ask yourself what belief was validated.  If you find yourself sad, angry, or depressed, look for the causal belief.  Once people start reading this way, they all say the same thing.  “All that stuff I used to think was so amazing and inspiring, now looks empty.”  Likewise, they’ll often find insights and truth in strange places.  They’ve stopped hoarding beliefs and knowledge and have begun to find their own true wisdom.