Believing Others Who Cry Wolf or are Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing

Stories that Got Us In the Illusion

 By Cathy Eck

 

Believing Others

When I was fresh out of college, I went to work for Peat, Marwick, & Mitchell, the largest accounting firm in the world.  I chose accounting because my parents thought I should be a secretary or teacher (female jobs); I didn’t like either.  So I choose my major based on my husband’s advice, which was what his brothers thought he should do, which was what his dad thought his brothers should do.  So you see, my choice was based on a long line of people believing others knew best.  I thought they knew what was best for me when they didn’t even know what was best for themselves.

I worked as an auditor looking for fraud.  I didn’t love my job, but I worked with really smart people; and I was damn good.  I was rewarded because thinking out of the box was what brought in clients, uncovered fraud, and earned big fees.  But I wasn’t an auditor at heart because auditors expose problems.  Their business can’t exist without problems and fraud.  So they have no motivation to support a better world where accountants are competent and trustworthy.

I left that job after four years to start a business that fixed the causes of the problems I saw.  Eventually, studying causes led to beliefs…

 

Extreme Believing Others

Yesterday, I watched a television show about apocalyptic beliefs.  The show focused on a popular Christian author, who has written over fifteen fiction books on the apocalypse.  He said he writes to inform people that the end is coming soon, and they need to get saved pronto.

He truly believes he’s doing God’s work.  I felt so much emotion listening to him because everything he said was false.  My emotions were telling me “Don’t believe him,” and I didn’t.  The truth is that he writes from his own beliefs — a fantasy involving compete ruin of the earth and everyone on it except for him and his minions.  Is he the boy who cries wolf or a wolf in sheep’s clothing?   That depends on where we stand as readers.  I think he’s just a guy who believes the voices in his head are God talking.  As they shared the story of his life, it was clear where the voices came from — not God.

I love books because I enjoy reading and learning about people.  I hate them because people read them and believe them without discriminating.  Many authors, like apocalypse man, use the written word to hypnotize others into accepting or supporting beliefs.

In the illusion, humans take beliefs that should simply be entertaining or creative and relabel them truth.  People who read “Harry Potter” don’t usually become magicians.  J.K. Rowling simply wanted to entertain.  But some people have a way of making us believe that their fiction is the truth — often they use fear to do that.  They create stories that get us stuck in the illusion; to get unstuck, we have to see their stories as false.  We must break the hypnosis.

 

Letting Go of My Past

Last night, after watching the apocalypse show, I dreamed that I was back at Peat Marwick, working with the same bright people except we were running a publishing company.  My job was to read books submitted by authors and determine whether they supported the truth or beliefs (false).  I was once again looking for the lies (or fraud) in books.  My career had come full circle.  Of course, I rejected the apocalypse guy’s dream of him being saved while I burned in hell.  But once again, my heart’s desire was to fix the cause and avoid the problem.

At times these believers look mighty powerful; millions of minions believe them completely.  I ain’t got no minions.  But he’s simply a character within my mind; if I see him as powerful, he is.  I can’t change all the books and eliminate the apocalyptic believers, nor do I have to.

On the surface, we look like opponents.  But we both want the same thing — peace on earth.  In his vision, some win and most lose.  In my vision, everybody can let go of their apocalyptic beliefs.  All can win.

It looks like I need him to change his mind.  It appears that I need minions to live my vision, but I don’t.  I only need to let go of his apocalyptic belief within my mind.  I need to discriminate to set myself free — to find my peace on earth.

The ancient masters explained that our minds were not meant to be interconnected.  We all create our lives through the beliefs we hold within our mind; and we can change our fate by simply letting go of the beliefs that are not useful.  Nothing is predetermined in the true world.

 

Discrimination

As a young adult, I believed those who were older and wiser.  They were older, but they weren’t wiser.  They simply gave me their best answer based on the sum total of their beliefs (their illusion).  I can’t fault them for what they gave me; I can only fault myself for believing them.  I fell into their beliefs because I thought that others knew the truth when they only knew their beliefs.  The first beliefs that most of us install as children come from our parents:

“If it happened to them, it can happen to me.”  

“I don’t have the answer.”  

These are good beliefs to let go; they don’t serve us.  The apocalypse guy simply writes from his beliefs, his illusion.  If we recognize that, we can enjoy a good read.  Drama was created thousands of years ago to entertain.  But if we hold it as the truth, then we might get to live it — like it or not.

 

Have opinions or ideas, not beliefs!

 

2 thoughts on “Believing Others Who Cry Wolf or are Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing

  1. Thea says:

    “I can’t fault them for what they gave me; I can only fault myself for believing them.”

    This is a subject that I have been struggling with since my featured post from “insights from a wise teenager”. I keep battling back and forth with resentment and trying to understand it from their point of view. I feel like I’m just going in circles. Just when I attempt to have an ounce of understanding towards my parents, resentment and anger come flooding back in to sabotage it.
    I know my parents were only following the “golden rule”, they were doing to me what was done to them and their parents, and their parent’s parents. But when I try to tell myself that I hold responsibility too, I start getting upset all over again.

    Thoughts start to surface:

    ” How the hell is it my fault when they were the ones who told me they would never steer me wrong!?”

    “What was I suppose to do!? Disobey them!? I would have been punished for it! I didn’t feel like I had a choice!”

    “They’re the adults, they’re suppose to know better!”

    “They abused their authority over me and gave me all of this unnecessary mental baggage to deal with on my own, while they go about their daily lives like they did nothing wrong!”

    “How is it my fault for being born into a feminine role!? I didn’t ask to be! I had no control as a child!”

    “If mom had left dad earlier, I’d have way less problems! That cynical, short-tempered bastard ruined my childhood and every ounce of my true self!”

    “Where the hell does she keep finding these guys!?, didn’t she learn anything from the first jerk she dated!?”

    “First she ruins my sister’s childhood by tolerating a crappy father figure and then she does it again with me!”

    “How stupid can one woman be to fall for the same trick twice!? What mother would put her children through hell like that!?”

    Ha! I have daddy issues too!? How cliché.

    • Cathy says:

      Hi Thea,
      I wish I could adopt you. You are so insightful for such a young girl. You’re question is brilliant. It was the thing that stumped me for years. There is understanding that we have for others — compassion — and then there is the painful reality we are living. They were born into the illusion too in a feminine role just like us. We’re all victims of the illusion even if we play the perpetrator role. “How can I be angry at them?” we think. “They don’t know what they are doing. They might even think they are building my character.” Well, that is one side of the issue.

      There is the truth of being a child in a feminine role. We don’t know how to discriminate, and we’re told we can’t disobey. So could we have done something different, NO, we could not. So we did the best we could in that situation. But given that you are reading my blog, you did something quite amazing. Even though you had to obey on the surface, you still kept your True Self in the game. You still remained creative, and you did know that something was wrong. So now you want to let all this go. But there is anger. Remember that anger is a label for emotion; and all emotion means that what you are thinking is false. But you say, “No it is true, it really happened.” It really happened in the illusion. Once we accept beliefs, we move into the illusion. When we let go of the beliefs or thoughts, we move out. Then it doesn’t feel real anymore.

      So there is the reality, and this is what you have to recognize that it is reality. No one was being their True Self in these situations so they appear real, but they aren’t the truth. The truth is perfect; and that is not what was happening. So in letting go, we are moving from false to true. This is so tricky because the world is looking at good and evil or right and wrong within the illusion. Now we are doing something strange — looking at true and false. So the emotions are related to what you were thinking in your mind at the time this happened. It seems that the emotions have been caused by the incident and what they did. But it is really because you still feel that you have to hold on to their words, their beliefs. Sometimes you have to ask yourself, “What did I believe when this happened?” “What did I believe about them?” Questions like that.

      So you have to realize that the statements that are popping into your mind are talking about reality; and that is a reality that you want to let go of. So you take one statement and recognize that it only occurred inside of the illusion. And if you recognize it was false, not meant to be part of your life, so you let it go as if it was an error. Think of writing something wrong on a paper and then you erase it because it is false. It is strange to do this, but after you let go, it is like a dream. When we wake up from a night dream, we recognize that it was just a dream. Then it fades from our memory. This is the same way. What happened in the illusion wasn’t real although I know it felt that way. I won’t say this isn’t tricky. Took me a long time to figure out.

      What you are letting go is what your mind is saying because it is not speaking from your True Self. Try it and let me know if you get stuck. Love, Cathy

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