I Don’t Know What I (They) Believe?


By Cathy Eck


What Do I Believe?

People often say to me, “I don’t know what I believe.”  They also say, “I don’t have any beliefs.”  These two comments are the main reason the illusion thrives.

The fact that our thoughts and beliefs create our reality was hidden for a very long time.  During that time, people accepted all kinds of beliefs as explanations for how life worked.  In more recent times, it became known that our thoughts do create our reality; but we simply put that truth on top of our already accepted beliefs.  People try to consciously control their mind to get what they want.  Sometimes they think one thing and say another; that causes projection, which causes relationship hell.  Or they say something they don’t like, and then say, “I don’t believe that,” or “Cancel.”  

If we really don’t believe something, we won’t think it or say it.  We don’t have to cancel our words.  In fact, as we move toward freedom, we find it impossible to be incongruent.  Our thoughts, words, and actions will all line up.  Then we often realize that we still have beliefs that people don’t like when we speak truthfully.  We have to let those beliefs go too.


Who’s Creating Our Life?

People of all religions say,  “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade,”  Even atheists say it.  But no one asks a very important question, “Who in the hell is life?”  “Who gave us those fucking lemons?”  A religious person might say, “God tempted us;” a New Ager might say, “The universe taught us a lesson.”  But the comment implies that we didn’t create our life.  We aren’t free if we don’t create our life.  We’re Life’s slaves.

If we’ve accepted complete responsibility for our lemons, we’d say, “I gave myself lemons, so I made lemonade.”  But no one says that.  One of the best ways to find beliefs about anything is to find out why we say what we say.

When someone dies, we say: “Now they’re in a better place.”  Really!  We don’t know that.  What we know is that their body is in the ground or an urn.  We don’t have a clue where their mind/spirit went.  If we think/speak that belief, we believe something like earth ain’t so great.  We can’t get beyond suffering unless we die.

Now people will say to me, “I don’t really believe that shit.  I just said that because I wanted them to feel better.”  You’re trapped.  First of all, you’re taking responsibility for their emotions; their emotions are caused by their thinking.  If you say what another wants to hear, you’re putting them in the masculine role.  You’re giving them power to create in your life because what they want to hear is more important than what you want to say.

Our social protocol is carefully designed to make sure that we have no power over Life.  Listen to what you say, and you’ll uncover hidden beliefs.  Listen to what others say, and you’ll discover what they believe.  The mystery drains from Life real quick.


Why Did I Say That?

If we’ve had religious or self-help training, we often train our mind to be quiet or to say the right things.  But trained quiet isn’t real quiet.   Being trained to say the right things might be automatic, but it’s not authentic.  It’s the effect of being highly socialized.  The highly socialized no longer speak what they believe or think; they speak what they believe others want to hear.  Some people have told me that they actually put their attention so completely in other people’s minds that they know what that person wants to hear.  They’re proud of this when they should feel horrible.  I suspect that it’s what most psychics do, but they don’t realize they’re doing it.  Quite honestly, we don’t have any business in another person’s mind.

Letting go of our fake social beliefs is very important.  We’re then admitting that our True Self is what belongs in society.  What doesn’t belong are social customs designed to make everyone alike and predictable.

The highly socialized do what is politically correct even if they resent it.  Their Universe or God or Life isn’t some supernatural being although they’ll say they’re trying to please God.  Their false God is actually everyone they’re trying to please — a whole shitload of human beings.  They live life as if everyone is God and they’re no one…a slave trying to please humanity.

Waking up requires us to realize that what humans want from us is not what God wants from us.  We don’t know what God wants from us unless we’re living from our True Self; we only know what others have said God wants from us.  They say that God rewards and punishes…nope, people do that.  They say God judges; no, people do.  The biggest trap is created by people who tell us that God wants what actually fulfills their needs and desires while simultaneously keeping us small and submissive.  This doesn’t just happen in big business, big religions, or government, it happens in families.


Fake Gratitude

When I was an entrepreneur, I felt thankful for the business that came my way.  I told my clients, not God, what they meant to me.  My words came from within; they were authentic.  Today, I bank at Wells Fargo; they train their employees to pretend gratitude.  It never feels good.  My son and I will do anything to avoid having to talk to a teller.  But most people don’t feel so they think the person means what they say.  Robots applaud other robots.

The reason that our false self says or does anything is because it was taught to do it.  It’s a robot.  When we take the memory out of a robot, we get nothing.  When we take the robotic memory out of a person, we get the truth…an authentic human being.






Help! I Can’t Find the F***ing Causal Belief

Beliefs can't find the cause

By Cathy Eck


Not a day goes by that I don’t hear, “Help Cathy, I can’t find my fucking belief.  I know it’s there because my life sucks or my body is screaming in pain.  But I can’t find the belief.”  There are many reasons why this happens.  Shit, I sometimes say it to myself.  Here are some of the most obvious and common reasons and fixes:


1)  The belief is hiding under what I call a “protector” belief.  Our false mind wants to live forever; it fears death and exposure.  When the protector is on duty, our mind is generating thoughts like:  “I can’t find the belief.”  “This is too hard.”  “I can’t do this.”  Those are protector beliefs that guard the causal belief.  Our false mind is trying to get us to stop letting go.  If we let go of these distracting protective beliefs, the causal belief often can be seen.

2)  The belief looks like it’s absolutely true.  It could be a belief that we’ve had forever.  It might be a collective belief that we know nearly everyone else believes.  It might be a belief that has created in our reality many times.  Remember, our reality up until this second was created by that causal belief.  If we let it go completely, our reality will change.  It has to.  An example of such a belief is, “Dad will never change.” Yes, that has been true until now, but it’s a belief.  Dad does have a True Self; and if we connect with that True Self, he can change.  These beliefs tend to feel like walls that we can’t get around until we go through them.

3)  We can’t bear to feel anymore emotion, so we keep distracting ourself.   Beliefs generate emotion.  Long standing beliefs are laced with lots of emotion.  Our false mind will try to tell us that the emotion means the belief is true; it’s lying.  That’s its job.  Sometimes, we just have to face the belief and all that emotion with courage.  We have to outlast it.  We’re becoming masters of our minds.  It isn’t the easiest thing we’ve ever done.   It can be like a war; and we need to win every battle.

4)  We’re still feminine to the person who inserted the belief into our mind.  We have physical symptoms, and we can hear the doctor’s voice saying the diagnosis.  We feel emotion when we hear his/her words, but we still view the doctor as powerful and knowing.  We fear going to hell, and we know it’s false; but we still view our mother or the priest as our authority.  To be free, we must have no masters other than our True Self.  This is about letting go of false gods.  Our True Self always has an answer and always knows what’s right for us.  But if we’re listening to others, we won’t hear it.  Often we hear religious voices saying listen to God.  Our True Self is God.  The voices we hear in our mind that sound like mom, dad, and the priest/preacher are false gods.

5)  We’ve got a conditioned response that masks the belief.  For example, we have a saying that we use to sooth ourself like, “Everything happens for a reason.”  “God has a plan.”  Or we do something conditioned like go for a run or kneel and pray.  Our conditioned responses show us what we believe.  We do them to ease the emotion (fix the effect) that the active belief is spewing.  Get rid of the belief, and we no longer need to fix the effect.

6)  We want to keep the belief.  Often our belief has a payoff.  We want to get rid of the pain, but we get a lot of attention for it.  We don’t like drama, but it’s how we relate to our friends; and we want to star on a reality television show.  I’ve worked with actors who believe they need their past emotions to act; they don’t, but try to tell them that.  We can’t hold on and let go at the same time.  Sometimes freedom is simply a choice.

7)  We feel no emotion when thinking an unwanted thought.  We’ve hit a psychological reversal.  So switch directions.  Think the opposite.  For example, you keep thinking, “I don’t make enough money.”  There’s no emotion.  It just feels like harsh reality.  So switch to the positive side of it.  “I make all the money I need.”  Ah, the emotion comes pouring out saying, “Good try.  That was a false line if I ever heard one.”  Many of us are painfully honest people.  We speak about reality too much.  My advice on that is to talk less, let go more.  The reality will shift; then you can talk again.

8)  We’re in other people’s minds.  We’re looking at what another said or did and wondering about their thinking when what matters is our thinking.  A man cuts us off in traffic.  We wonder why he did that?  That keeps us from watching our own mind.  We don’t notice that we have fear of bad drivers or judge angry people because our energy and attention is devoted to the driver’s mind.  Bring your attention back to your thinking.  Western meditation is great for this.  Their thinking is their own problem.

9)  We’re reasoning.  We don’t need a reason for why something happened.  What we need is the causal belief.  If  we’re reasoning, we’re too much in our logical false masculine mind.  If we drop into feeling, and just witness our emotions while listening to our thoughts, we’ll find the causal belief in our mind, which is the only reason we need.


The biggest trap is looking at what normal people do and thinking we can do that too and get free.  Most people, regardless of what they say they want, are on the express train to hell.  We have to remember that fitting in means riding the hell-bound train.  Freedom means getting off at the next stop.



Discriminating Between a Belief and the Truth

Truth or Beliefs

By Cathy Eck


The Lie in Belief

Somewhere around the 14th century, the word belief, as we spell it today, became part of the English language.  Prior to that time, the word “lie” wasn’t within it.  I guess we’ll never know if it was intentional or just an accident.  But I like to imagine some rebellious genius saw through the illusion and somehow caused that change in spelling.  I like to imagine him with his buddies laughing over a beer at what he’d managed to do without the powerful church ever noticing his little trick.

You don’t need to learn the truth.  You came to earth hard-wired with it.  What you need to do is let go of the beliefs that veil the truth.  


The distinction between the truth and a belief is so important.  People use the terms incorrectly all the time.  They aren’t interchangeable.  For example, people will say, “I believe everyone is born good.”  No, that is the truth.  But then that same person will say, “Sin sends you to hell.”  Now that is a belief; but if you question them, they’ll say, “It’s the truth.”

People also confuse reality with truth.  What happens in our lives, i.e, reality, is the effect of the truth plus our beliefs.  Reality isn’t the same as truth.  Our reality is a mess because of our beliefs.  Remove the beliefs, and reality will reflect the truth.

Now I’m not talking about changing our language to simply say the word that we need to make our point.  That’s deception; and too many people have mastered the deceptive arts.


What is Truth?

What people find if they completely let go or if they have a near-death experience is always unconditional love.  So truth includes love.  Freedom fits nicely into truth since unconditionally loving people always give others their freedom.  Peace and joy also coexist with truth.  Words like unity, omnipotence, or eternal refer to the unchangeable element of truth.

At some point, thought, or logos according to the Greeks, became divided.  Opposites like black and white or male and female, or concepts like color and musical tones are examples of division of thought. Division was originally for creative purposes.  This sort of division, called first-cause creation, was considered true and good.  Genesis I describes this creative act and attributes it to God.


Judgment Arrives

But look at what happens when judgment is added in Genesis II (also attributed to God).  The Creator God rests, and a new God emerges.  In human terms this happens to all of us when our false self becomes more powerful than our True Self.  Thought is now divided into good and evil, creating the potential to harm.  Judgment isn’t God-like; it’s a human false-self quality.  Thus, the word belief (with the word lie included) fits perfectly.  Beliefs are technically divided thought plus judgment.

The Bible is filled with judgment; thus it can’t be completely the word of the Genesis I God or of truth.  It’s a collection of stories about humans who mixed truth and beliefs as we still do today.  However, if it’s properly interpreted, Bible stories can show us what to let go and how to discriminate in order to return to our God-like pure mental state.

Our minds are hard-wired to hold on to the truth so our minds will hold on to a lie if it’s relabeled as truth.  However, if you recognize that a belief is just a lie, you can let it go.  The True Self sorts thought based on the criteria of true and false; the false self sorts thought based on good and evil.  It’s actually very simple.  This realization removes the false power from religion and politics.  Can you see why this was kept secret?



The hot topic of today’s believers is that being gay is a sin.  They say that it’s in the Bible so it’s true.  But they’re judging another so they’re completely in belief.   Their error is in believing the Bible contains only truth.

False selves want to keep beliefs alive, and they do that by getting others to agree or disagree.  Fighting over beliefs keeps them alive; ignoring them allows them to die a natural death.

We’d have no problem if people simply realized that minds were meant to be individual creative containers of thought.  Our beliefs were meant to affect only our life.  But people control others by forcing their beliefs on them.  They do this to make their beliefs more powerful.

Priests devote their entire lives to religious study; yet they don’t fear being gay.  They don’t fear going to hell.  When they’re caught, they’re not even punished.  Sin was a human-made belief.  What constitutes a sin was human crafted to suit the needs of the leaders.  Eating meat on Friday used to be a sin; then it wasn’t.  People change their minds, not God.

Beliefs take us away from our True Self and place us in the religion-made illusion.  The illusion in the extreme is the only hell.   Once we let go of good and evil, we can clearly see the religious perspective as a limitation.


The Way Out

Here’s the good news.  If you don’t believe something, it doesn’t affect you.  When you remove any belief from your mental container, you’re free of it.  Since you can’t let go of the truth, you cannot possibly screw this up.

Ultimately that is how I found out what was true.  For many years, I simply let go of all the beliefs that I learned from religion, education, medicine, food and nutrition, disease, education, etc. and then I noticed what was left — love, freedom, peace, joy, harmony, creativeness.

The path to heaven is paved with discrimination.  It’s the most important skill we can acquire on earth.  When we understand what is true, and we reject that which is false, then the distance between heaven and earth decreases until one day they are the same place.


To Believe or Not to Believe: When Do we Let Go of Beliefs

Eagle landing on water

The eagle doesn’t believe he can fly; he knows he can.

By Cathy Eck


To Believe or Not To Believe

I’ve been writing at Panera Bread and eavesdropping on the conversation at the next table.  Three elderly friends have very different beliefs.  One is a spiritual seeker.  She believes in the positive power of her mind to change her life.  She recommends that her friends become more positive.  Their gentleman friend is skeptical; he says she’s talking woo woo.  He doesn’t really feel he has much control over what happens to him.  The other woman says she believes in the power of prayer and is a devout Christian.  Each offered clear reasons for their beliefs, largely based on their own experiences and authority figures.  They’ve all had proof that their beliefs are right.

Each of them is surprised that the other two don’t jump on their bandwagon; after all they’ve proven that their beliefs are right.  Didn’t they?  You can see their sadness as they realize that their friends aren’t interested in sharing their beliefs.  Not even a little.  To each of them, they’re not just sharing beliefs; they are sharing their sacred truth.

This is how it is with beliefs.  They aren’t ever true so they lack the infinite power of the truth.  Consequently, when we have beliefs, we need the support of others to keep them alive and working; and if they become too important, we will resent those who don’t support our beliefs.  When we let our beliefs go and get to the truth, we aren’t bothered by the beliefs of others.  We recognize other people’s beliefs are powerless to harm us if we don’t believe them, so we let them believe as they wish.


Our Fondest Beliefs Appear True

If you really believe something, it appears to be true.  We all see proof for our strong beliefs.  Or sometimes we don’t see proof but hope we will if we get more people to support our beliefs.  Religions have aggressively recruited for this reason.

Regardless of how much faith we have in a belief, it is still a just a belief.  It is a choice like white bread or wheat.  We make way to big of a deal out of beliefs.

To believe or not to believe is really a matter of what we desire from life.  A belief becomes obsolete, and even harmful, the minute it gets in the way of our desires or the desires of others. When we hit the limit of our beliefs, it is like hitting a brick wall.  We can’t go any further unless we let the beliefs go.  But often our pride gets in the way of letting go, or we fear the judgment of others who shared our beliefs in the past.

The friends in Panera Bread displayed a fragile look when the others disagreed with their beliefs because they felt that their friend’s doubt could potentially dilute their own faith in their belief.  For many years, I experimented with lots of different systems of belief, and I always felt that fragile feeling.  I always looked for agreement or proof to strengthen my case.  I did that because I had doubt.  Once I realized what I was doing mentally, it seemed stupid.

It was very clear that others weren’t jumping up and down to support my beliefs, and I could see why.  They wanted support for their own beliefs.  This is why people with strong beliefs seem to be at war with everyone.  I had to finally admit that I didn’t like carrying around a toolbox of beliefs or trading one belief for another.  I didn’t want to believe; I wanted to not believe so that I could learn what I really knew.  I was glad I discovered how to let go.  For the first time since childhood, I began to feel free.


What About Jesus and prayer?

The one friend who was Christian pleaded that she had the most support for her way of thinking, and Jesus was her proof.  But if you actually look closely at the Bible, Jesus’ prayers were not prayers as we know them.  They weren’t pleading requests for help.  He even suggested that those who prayed in public didn’t get the point of prayer.

Jesus just knew that whatever he spoke would occur.  He said his request once, often in the spirit of gratitude.  Jesus could do this because Jesus didn’t have beliefs; he simply had a clear, empty mind that was void of beliefs.  This was the mind of the high initiate.  It was called a virgin mind, which only required one focused thought to create anything.  To get to that level of creating required letting go of every belief.  It is about knowing, not believing.  We absolutely cannot reach that level of power by faking it until we make it.

Usually people who have faith in prayer had parents who prayed and got results.  Those who have faith in affirmations or visualization find it natural to be positive or have vivid imaginations.  Beliefs work when they play to our strengths.  Beliefs aren’t bad; they just aren’t our greatest point of power.

In the end, beliefs are a choice.  What we believe should be the main focus of our life.  If we choose beliefs, we should follow them to the letter.  We should accept responsibility when our beliefs create problems or limitatiosn.  Once we see the limits of our beliefs, we find them much easier to release.

When I lived from beliefs, I thought freedom was about money or time.  Now I realized that I held the key to freedom in my own mind.  Letting go of my beliefs was my key to freedom.  I just had to use it.


Nothing breaks my heart more than seeing someone who is going the right way and the world is telling them they are going the wrong way.  This article on Signs of Spiritual Awakening speaks to that problem.