How Roles Affect Letting Go (Part II – Feminine Role)

Masculine Role

By Cathy Eck

 

Feminine Role

In the Feminine Role, we let go of the beliefs that our authorities/experts impose on us.

We act as their reflection until we let go. 

 

Read the above words related to the feminine role.  See why no one wants to be feminine?  When roles were created by the patriarchy, they modeled the masculine after the sun.  The feminine role was modeled after the moon, which is nothing without the sun’s reflection.

Positive thinking, affirmations, even logic, etc. don’t work for the feminine role because the feminine role doesn’t appear to have power to change their mind.  Often, as a feminine reflection, we don’t hear any words or beliefs; we only feel the emotion related to the belief.  People often say, “I can’t find the causal beliefs.  I just feel endless emotions.”  That means they’re stuck deep in a feminine role.  They’re the effect of an authority’s beliefs.

Psychology was mostly developed by men.  When therapists view projection, they believe that everyone projects.  But when we’re in the feminine role, we don’t project, we receive.  If you want to drive someone insane, tell them they’re projecting when they’re actually receiving your projection.  It feels like you’re in the movie Gaslight.  We’ll search our mind endlessly to find out how we’re projecting and won’t find the answer.  In a moment of personal desperation, I decided to follow my emotions.  Eventually, I ended up at the causal belief in what felt like the person’s mind who played the masculine role and said I was projecting on them.  Could I let this go?  Did I have the right to let go of what appeared to be his thought?  Damn right, I did, and then I felt relief like I ‘d never felt before.  I’d accidentally discovered the secret to letting go from the feminine role.

 

Confusing Masculine Program

There’s a confusing program that exists in almost every masculine false mind (we all have one).  When the masculine role is projecting, they often blame the feminine role for what they are doing.  For example, I had someone say that I rejected them.  I didn’t think I rejected them, but they were sure I did.  After I understood this false-self pattern and roles, I saw that they were rejecting me while telling me I was rejecting them.  Once you can recognize this pattern, you’ll find your sanity level goes up dramatically.

The means to exit feminine roles was hidden because people in masculine roles need the feminine to be powerless so they have a nice projection screen for their shadow.  They won’t let us off the hook; we must let ourself off the hook.  

At first, this feels strange almost like you’re cheating or doing something devious.  That’s part of the trap; you have every right to delete anything you want from your mind.  It often feels like you’ve gone into another person’s mind.  But you’re actually still within your own masculine mind aspect, which has become the mirror image of the mind of the person in the masculine role.

Freedom from feminine roles requires using your emotions as they were designed.  As long as the feminine role thinks they’re flawed because they have emotions, they’re stuck.  When people in feminine roles realize that their emotions will lead them to the causal belief, and they can let that belief go, they have power.  Real power.  Nothing is incurable or impossible once we realize this.  The feminine regains it’s power over everyone and everything.  The masculine role loses its competitive advantage; it’s exposed.

 

The Process

First, we witness (watch) our emotions (not wallow in them).  The emotion is our feminine mind aspect within the illusion.  It’s the reflection or effect of the masculine false self.  So as we witness the emotion, we’re actually following the emotion to the causal belief.  Eventually, you’ll hear beliefs arise, and those are causal beliefs. Let them go even if they seem absolutely true.  Keep doing this until there’s no more emotion.  Sometimes the causal beliefs feel like they’re in our mind.  Other times, it will feel as if we’ve left our mind and entered the mind of the person in the masculine role.  Clairvoyants see this as cords of energy between the cause and effect.  Remember, we’ve actually never left our own mind.  You’ll see this with practice.

I usually address the beliefs I want to let go in words.  I’d say, “This belief doesn’t feel good (since I feel emotions), it isn’t true, so I’m letting go of my father’s belief that I’m lazy.”  That is how I do it.  There are no magic words.  I’m simply reminding myself of the truth — beliefs that generate emotion are false.  When we realize the belief isn’t true, it goes.  Other people use visualization or other words.  How you remove the belief is up to you.  Be creative; use your strengths.

Letting go from the feminine role doesn’t just improve our life, it improves the world.  But it does take practice, courage, willingness, and time.  As you get proficient, you can remove causal beliefs you accepted from any authority in your past or present.  If you feel like you’ve lived past lives, you can even take the causal belief out of yourself or others in the other life.  I used to do this in hypnotherapy sessions.  Now I teach people to do it themselves consciously.

Be patient!  The first time I did this, it probably took an hour or more before I heard the causal belief.  I decided that I was going to sit my ass down and follow the emotion until it took me to the cause.  I was willing to sit for days if necessary.  Fortunately it didn’t take that long.  When you succeed, you won’t believe the relief you’ll feel.

When we find the cause of our emotions and remove it, the emotions no longer have a purpose.  They disappear.  We become peaceful and calm.  We feel like a small part of us was reborn.

 

 

The Most Powerful Weapon: Guns or Unconditional Love

LGBT Congratulations

By Cathy Eck

 

Guns or Unconditional Love

We live in a crazy time where people who say they love Jesus shout words of hatred to those who are different.  Many of them pack a lot of heat.  It’s hard to know how to handle these types of incongruent people.

The false God of the Old Testament plays loudly in the religious zealot’s mind.  They don’t realize that they’re caught in a bait-and-switch program. They consciously honor Jesus while unconsciously projecting the rules of their false, punishing God on to anyone they feel fits their description of evil.  They don’t seem to notice that Jesus didn’t obey or honor the punishing God, and he didn’t think much of organized religion.

These Christians aren’t Christ-like.  They aren’t “Loving their enemies,” nor are they remembering that Jesus said that what kills us is what comes out of our mouth, not what goes in.  I’m not religious, but I do take the words of Jesus seriously because he speaks the words of initiation.

Fundamentalists might have numbers in their favor, but they have no real power.  We just have to know what to do when we’re in a tough situation with anyone who has a rigid, one-track mind.  Beliefs only have power over us if we believe them; but often, our automatic training causes us to believe people even when what they say feels terrible.  If we can let the belief that is laced with emotion go, we move back into power.

 

The Masculine Side

Let’s examine a conversation between a straight fundamentalist man projecting his beliefs on a gay man.  The fundamentalist says,  “If you keep up your behavior, you’ll go to hell.  The Bible says so.”  We know he’s speaking from beliefs because the words are emotionally charged and not win-win.  They fail both tests of truth.

Forget the words for a moment, and just focus on the emotion.   The speaker does feel the emotion (even if he doesn’t show it), but he believes the emotion is saying he’s right (psychological reversal).  He thinks the gay man is causing his emotion when his own poison words are causing his emotion.  Eventually that emotion will push him to think another thought to elevate his position because he has no concept of letting go.  He’ll think something like, “I’m doing this to help him so he doesn’t go to hell.”   He feels calmer since he now believes that he’s being helpful or kind to the gay man.  But his new statement is still not true — it doesn’t pass the win-win test.

Masculine-oriented minds are pretty accomplished at falsely elevating their position with thought.  They believe that if we’d think like them, everything would be perfect.

 

The Feminine Side

Let’s assume that our gay friend doesn’t consciously have the typical religious good-and-evil world view.  But subconsciously he does, or he wouldn’t have encountered this zealot.  He now has three choices:

In the first choice, he doesn’t discriminate.  He believes what the fundamentalist says because he shares the belief that what feels bad is true.  If our mind has this belief, we’ll be triggered to accept beliefs that are laced with emotion.  That belief shuts off our natural discrimination.  He’ll most likely try to defend himself, but he won’t win because now he’s on the same false playing field as the fundamentalist.  He’s stuck.

In the second choice, he’s a bit wiser.  This time he hears the fundamentalist’s words but realizes that what he just heard isn’t the truth. He recognizes his inner emotional signal to let go.  He doesn’t take on the fundamentalist’s projection or even try to fight him, he just realizes that the fundamentalist is stuck in false thinking.  He’s won the battle, but he hasn’t yet won the war because he remembers the event and the horrible feeling of being judged.  It worries that it could happen again.

He has a third choice if he discovers the power of unconditional love or true forgiving.  True forgiving means to go back to your state of mind before the first giving (the negative incident).  The fundamentalist’s giving was the statement that the gay man was wrong and was going to hell.  To forgive, he must ask himself why he would encounter such a man and get this unwanted gift.  He’s looking for the cause inside of his OWN mind.  Most likely, he believed that if it happened to others, it can happen to him.   Perhaps he also had some religious beliefs of his own that he needs to clean out.  He could have quite a complex of beliefs in his mind that attracted the hater.  If he let’s go of ALL causal beliefs, his power will return.  It’s no longer possible for the fundamentalist to project his beliefs on him.  When authorities can no longer project their evil on others, they’ll all wake up very quickly.

 

Winning With Unconditional Love

The LGBT battle for equality affects us all — it symbolizes the return of the powerful feminine.  The feminine aspect of man and woman became powerless when the patriarchal God was elevated and the Goddess disappeared.  This has caused us all to feel powerless when we are in a feminine role.

A few years ago, I was researching ancient Polynesian stories for a presentation.  I found one story that I really loved.  The story said that humans have long struggled with the problem that the masculine mind gets too power hungry, too righteous, and too war oriented.  At crucial times, large numbers of courageous souls volunteer to come to the planet with feminine minds in male bodies to return peace to earth.  They called them fairies because they thought they were magic.  Their strong feminine mind balances the overly masculine mind of the straight men in power.  Consequently, the birth of gay children was celebrated because they knew that fighting was about to end.  I’m willing to believe that story — it feels really good.

Seeing Events from the True Self Perspective

The True Self Perspective

By Cathy Eck

 

Letting Go

Letting go is so very simple … too simple for our complicated, modern minds.  People analyze their mind, talk about it, and contemplate it.  Those are tools that fuel the false self.  You can’t fix the false mind, you have to let it go.

You can’t get to the True Self perspective by way of the false self.   No belief system will take you to your True Self.  The True Self has no beliefs.  At best, belief systems create a nice clone of the True Self.

If you want complete, permanent freedom, you must let go of the false mind.  To do that you must know this:

All beliefs are lies (the word lie is buried within the word belief for a reason). Beliefs that are judgmental or harmful to yourself or another generate emotion.  That emotion is saying, “Let the belief go.”

 

When you let go of beliefs, only the True Self perspective remains.  All emotional charge is gone because you’ve eliminated the false.  If you are ill, healing can now take place.

 

An Example

It’s rarely the big events in our life that confuse us — those are obviously wrong.  It’s the little events that often trap us in the false world of beliefs.

When I was about four years old, my grandparents were driving on a Sunday afternoon; they stopped by our home unexpected.  My mother had planned a simple dinner; but now that my father’s parents were visiting, she got out the china and made a nice dinner.  However, she didn’t have anything for dessert because we didn’t usually eat dessert.  She whipped up some Jello; and when she served it, my grandmother said, “Jello, that isn’t dessert!”

My dad was dumbfounded, and my mother ran off crying.  I sympathized with my mother — big mistake.  I rubbed her back and talked to her like I was the mother and she the child.

I’d often contemplated that moment with lots of whys.  Why did my grandmother say that?  Why did my grandmother’s comment upset my mother so much?  Why didn’t my father defend my mother?  Why did it still bother me decades later?

The answer to the last question is that I hadn’t yet seen the memory from the True Self perspective.  We hold memories in mind, along with the emotions they generate, until we see them from the True Self perspective — free of beliefs.  If a memory has no beliefs, it has no emotion.  It feels like a dream when we think it.  It has no future attracting power.

 

Slow Motion

I went back to the event and replayed it in very slow motion.  I didn’t try to fix the event or change it…it was what it was.  I saw it this time with the single eye of truth.  My grandmother said, “Jello, that isn’t dessert.”  That felt neutral to me and probably to my dad.  My mother, however, heard the same words and a belief arose in her mind that generated emotion.

My mother was now deep in psychological reversal.  She went into an old pattern of low self-worth, not good enough for my dad, or just plain bad.  What she was thinking clearly felt bad to her, but she took that emotion as a sign that her belief was true.  That error in her thinking was the cause of all her pain.  It’s the primal error that keeps the illusion alive in all of us.

As a four-year old, I believed my mother; so I fell into her illusion with her.  Sympathy does that — that’s why it’s considered good in the illusory world.  My fall into her illusion was the cause of my emotional pain.

At the time, my mind said, “My grandmother hurt my mother.”  I believed it as a child.  But now, it didn’t feel good, so I let it go.  Remember letting go is moving out of right and wrong so this isn’t about whether Jello is or isn’t a dessert or whether my grandmother was socially correct.  In truth, my grandmother spoke words and triggered an old wound in my mother.  In truth, my grandmother didn’t hurt my mother, she exposed a belief in my mother.

Then I thought, “Why didn’t my father defend my mother?”  Now I noticed that under my question was a judgment that he should have defended her; that felt bad too.  All should’s feel bad.  Defending isn’t necessary for a True Self.  If my mother wasn’t lost in her baggage, she probably would have laughed and said, “I’ve got your fat son on a diet.”  Then my dad would have had to deal with his beliefs.  At which point, he’d probably have pointed out that my grandmother already had enough dessert on her fat ass.  Everyone at the table had wounds, and it was only a matter of who’s wound got exposed first.

In most situations, the one who blows the fuse is the one with the most inward-directed beliefs because they’re the most sensitive.  We often call them the black sheep.

If my mother had desired freedom (instead of looking good), she would have used that exposure to find her own emotional pain’s causal belief.  My grandmother exposed her wound; she didn’t cause it.  She did, however, have responsibility for the Jello since she created a chubby son.

The voice that says “You hurt me,” is from the false self.  The True Self knows that if something that someone says feels bad, it just isn’t true.  The person who said it isn’t evil, they’re just stuck in a false belief system.  Thus if you get rid of the false self, you no longer believe other false selves.

This little example shows how we undo our psychological reversals.  Once I let go of my OWN erroneous beliefs, I could see the memory clearly.  Now I saw the simple solution that my wounded family couldn’t see — the Dairy Queen at the top of the hill.

Take Your Foot Off the Brake and Let Go

Foot on Gas, Foot on Brake

By Cathy Eck

 

Just Let Go

Lots of people are exposing lies in the world today.  They’re ripping the mask off of the illusion and exposing reality.  Because of these courageous people, even the most constipated of believers can at least see that “other” people’s beliefs aren’t the truth.  However, they cling to their own beliefs as right.

Consequently, people debate about beliefs, protest beliefs, and kill for their beliefs.  They complain about other people’s beliefs.  And worst of all, they fix the effects of beliefs.  What they don’t do…is let go of the damn beliefs.  Consequently, they’ve got one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake.

Conflict occurs when we talk and act without first letting go.  When we don’t let go first, our mind is fighting another person’s illusory reality within their reality.  They know their reality far better than we do.  It took me a long time to learn this lesson.  Hopefully, I can shortcut it for you.

Our reality is truth plus our beliefs.  If we’re living it, we believe it.  If we’re fighting it, protesting it, or fixing it, we believe it.  So why not let it go?  People hold on because they think their reality is true.  Unless it is perfect, it isn’t.

 

Tolerate or Fight

I grew up thinking that you could tolerate someone’s beliefs, nicely ignore them, or you could go to war with them.  Usually I took the tolerance route until I had children.  Then I couldn’t stand people imposing their beliefs on my children.  I became like a mama tiger.  But that got me into lots of conflict and caused me so much suffering.  I didn’t like fighting.  I wasn’t a great debater either.  I usually lost even if I was technically right.

Eventually, I figured out how to let go.  It was the elixir of life for me.  If someone was sharing a belief that I knew wasn’t true, I noticed the emotion erupting inside of me; instead of using that emotion to go to war, I used the emotion to recognize that what they were saying was false (their reality).  I’d remind myself that it lacked power in my life experience.  I didn’t judge the person; I just didn’t believe them.  Let me tell you, this takes practice.  But it’s worth the effort.

 

An Imaginary Scenario

Believer:  “Guns are my right under the Second Amendment!!! I won’t let anyone take them away!”

Free person notices that what believer said evoked emotion.  They don’t say anything; they just discriminate in their own mind.  Perhaps they think some silent words, “Well that doesn’t feel good.  It isn’t true.”  Notice what happens.  Free person is clearing their own mind (remaining their True Self); there’s no judgment of believer.  If anything, free person sees believer as confused, brainwashed, or afraid — but not bad.

Believer:  “I’m afraid they’ll take my guns.  There will be tyranny.”

Free person again feels emotions reminding them that what believer said was false.  If you could see the energy, you’d see the believer’s comments push his or her emotion toward the listener.  They aren’t feeling their own fear.  They want support for their belief to fuel it.  Free person lets go and returns to True-Self power.  They’re now inspired to speak:  “What are you afraid of?”

Believer:  “The government is evil; it will take my freedom!”

Free person sees their confusion now.  The believer thinks the government is causing his lack of freedom.  In truth, his beliefs are causing his lack of freedom.  The believer now has to feel his own fear.  Free person asks, “Are you sure that the government is evil?”

Believer:  “Yes, my preacher said so.”

Free person sees believer was brainwashed by authority.  The thought arises in free person that they can’t reach believer.  That thought came from their past; it’s a belief and feels bad.  They let go.  Inspired words come to bridge the gap,  “In my experience, people are good to me because I’m good to them.  Aren’t you good to others?”  Free person isn’t believer’s authority; the goal is only to relieve emotional tension.  Free person uses language that will calm the believer.

Believer:  “Yes, I am.”

Free person:  “I’d say you have nothing to worry about.  You’ll never need that gun anyway.”

 

Staying in Power

When we stay in our True-Self power through discrimination and letting go,  others can’t project their emotions on us or confuse us.  Fighting can’t happen when everyone owns their own emotions.  Emotions draw us inward to correct our OWN mind; they’re designed to make us powerless so we self-correct.

Anger and rage are emotions turned outward because we falsely believe that others caused our emotions.  They didn’t.  Our emotions are ALWAYS responding to our OWN thoughts about the other.

When we believe another, we do fall into their illusion; we accept their beliefs as our own.  We might have been conned to accept their beliefs, but we’re the ones holding on to them.

People think they must suppress (tolerate) or express (fight).  They’ve never learned to discriminate (let go).  When we get the warning from our emotions and let go, we stay in power.  Our True Self is nonjudgmental and unconditionally loving.  Unconditional love is the greatest power in the universe.

Sometimes, the believer stops talking or changes the subject.  Other times, they see their own flawed logic and correct their error.  Inspired words often come to the free person to bridge the gap.  People who are board-up-their-ass-rigid believers generally stay away from True Selves.  They think the True Self is evil because they see their own reflection in them.

People have fought over beliefs since history began.  It hasn’t worked.  Others have been tolerating believers and missing out on life.  Neither is acceptable.  When we fight the beliefs of another, we’re driving with one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake.  We get nowhere.  When we see beliefs as false, illusory, we travel full-speed ahead down the superhighway.

 

How to Find a Causal Belief

beliefs are lies

Beliefs are LIES we accept as TRUTH.

By Cathy Eck

The Causal Belief

We eliminate problems by finding the causal belief.  The initiates said that all causes are mental.  We’re all mentally ill.

Finding the causal belief of any problem isn’t difficult.  We’re just trained to look in the wrong places.

The false self is our entire collection of beliefs working together like an army.  The army has a collective identity.  That identity feels a power loss when you let go of a belief.  It behaves as if a soldier has died.  It sees the True Self as it’s enemy because the True Self is more powerful and can destroy the army.  Letting go of beliefs is a lot like fighting a battle.  In fact, that is the meaning of Armageddon — it’s the inner final battle between our True Self and our false self.

 

How to Find the Causal Belief  

Here’s how I did it the very first time.  Since then my methods have become more advanced, but they still rest on this basic technique.

1.  Why do you want to find the causal belief?  Your motive must resonate with the True Self — health, freedom, peace, unconditional love are perfect.  Win-lose intentions don’t work.

2.  Find the observer in your mind.  You can’t let go if you’re wallowing in your emotions or contemplating your thoughts.  Those are false self activities.  The observer (or watcher) is the part of your mind that witnesses your thoughts and emotions.  It’s your True Self.  It is all-powerful and can discriminate and let go.

You activate your observer by imagining that your thoughts are projected on a screen.  The part of your mind that is reading (and hearing) the thoughts is the observer.

3.  Once you’ve found the observer, think of something you fear or a problem.  You should feel emotion in your body.  If you don’t feel emotion, you probably project your emotions on to others.  Ask yourself, who would get emotional about this problem?  There’s your emotions.  Stay in the place of the observer.  Don’t label the emotion.  Just watch it, and feel it.

Everyone’s born with emotions, but we forgot their true purpose.  People treat their emotions as unnecessary, like tonsils.  Authority figures hate emotions because they expose their lies.  Our emotions are our smothered inner Goddess who discriminates and keeps us on our path.  Without her, the nasty ass false God inside our mind wastes our life fighting wars.

Our emotions were designed  to let us know when our thinking was taking us away from the truth.   They also tell us when to believe another person.  To understand this, you have to see your mind as a container of thought.  Our True Selves are collective (one).  The false self was designed to be a separate creative container; we weren’t meant to share beliefs.  But we do.

A free person constantly observes their mind.  They think a thought (cause); then their emotions (effect) give feedback.  If they think a true thought, they feel calm, emotionless.  If they think a false thought or belief, they feel agitated or emotional.  All emotions are the same.  We label them based on circumstances.  You’ll see how perfectly this was designed.

4.  To find the causal thought, we reverse the process.  Our inner observer watches the emotion (effect).  As we watch the emotion, beliefs pop into our mind; all of them are false.  The emotion eventually takes us to a causal belief.

When any belief arises in our mind, it sounds true.  After all, we accepted it as truth from an authority.  It’s tempting to believe it again.  Avoid that temptation.

5.  We  let the belief go by reminding ourself that it’s false.  I usually repeat something in my mind like, “This belief is false because it doesn’t feel good.”  You will find words that work for you.  The key is to stick with it.  You’re trying to kill a soldier in your army of false beliefs.  You want it dead, not hopping around on one leg.  When it’s difficult to let go, you’re battling a seemingly powerful authority figure, like a general.

You’ll notice a shift once your mind accepts that a belief is a lie and lets go.  Then the emotion dissipates or another belief appears to let go.  Continue until all emotion is gone.  The trick is to not believe anything your mind says while watching the emotion.  This process can take five minutes or five hours.  Persistence pays off.

 

It Gets Easier

The process is like riding a bike.  It eventually clicks.  You’ll wonder how in the hell you could have missed something so obvious all your life.  You missed it because you were trained to miss it.  We think our inner (and outer) army is protecting us when it actually causes all of our problems.

Consistent letting go rewires your mind so it naturally discriminates.  You’ll no longer accept beliefs that are false even if spoken by an authority.

When you complete the process, you’ll notice a calm feeling; you might laugh hysterically because the belief was so insane, or sometimes you’ll get an insight into life.

 

Final Warning

You might be shocked at the beliefs that arise.  I’ve had beliefs about curses, karma, evil, sin, and religions I’ve never practiced.  I didn’t think I believed any of them, but I did.  Don’t worry about how you got beliefs.  Just let them go.  You can’t screw up because you can’t let go of truth.

Treat the process like a game.  The false self loves to make things serious.  Every time you let go, your True Self grows in power.  Eventually, you’ll realize that you don’t need an army, and you’ll dismantle the whole damn thing.  You’ll be free.

 

If the process doesn’t work for you, check out Unlocking Heaven’s Gate.   It’s free.  You can also contact me with questions or schedule a mentorship session.  Often when it doesn’t work, psychological reversals are confusing you or someone powerful is imposing their beliefs on you.

How Do You Know What is True?

Truth or lies

By Cathy Eck

 

What is True?

In a world where false selves have become near clones of True Selves, it’s hard to determine what is true.  Often a strongly opinionated false self stands in our way, and we feel that our True Self is powerless.  That’s a moment where letting go pays big dividends.

There are multiple ways to discriminate between true or false.  Did an idea really come from God (as people claimed) or did it simply come from a very convincing human mind a long time ago?  False beliefs tend to look true as time passes.  The initiate’s job is to discriminate clearly and unfailingly.

So here is a summary of four ways to tell what is true.  They aren’t always quick and easy.  Sometimes you have to work a process for a while to see through the illusion.  Those who are winning the illusion are usually masters at manipulating these tests of truth.

 

Truth has no opposite

The triangle process is invaluable in determining what is true.  But what happens when a false self sees us as their enemy?

They’ll lose their steam when you recognize that they’re only seeing their reflection in you.  True Selves are like pure mirrors, which is why we all got pulled into the illusion as children.

So let go by rejecting their projection (beliefs) as false within your own mind.  The KEY is to work on your mind and ignore the other’s.  Too often we waste our energy because we get caught up in convincing or fighting the other.  When your mind is clear, if you need to say something, it will be inspired and true.

 

How Does it Feel?

This is my personal favorite what is true test.  Our emotions always relate to our own thoughts unless someone is speaking at us; then they relate to what we are hearing.  If everyone only said things that they ran through the how-does-it-feel test, the world would change dramatically for the better.  But this test is tricky because some people have twisted emotions due to religious or cultural brainwashing, called psychological reversal.

Recently, I saw a revealing BBC documentary called “The Most Hated Family in America” about the Westboro Baptist Church.  Below is a segment on YouTube displaying psychological reversal on steroids; I’ll warn you it’s very hard to watch.

Notice how these church members are speaking hateful words while smiling.  Their mouths are running automatically as programmed.  Their emotions are projected out to a target; so they’re not feeling them.  They’re thinking about their false God smiling on them, not the pain they’re causing others.  In fact, they believe they’re helping others to see the truth and mend their evil ways.

Most of us have less offensive psychological reversals.  But we have them.  Psychological reversals keep us stuck in right and wrong, good and evil.  They’re the master trick of the false self because they negate our God-given emotional barometer.  Blame is nearly always involved in psychological reversals.

 

Is it Win-Win?

This was my first what is true discovery.  When I had my business, I decided one day, that I would rather go bankrupt than ever do anything again that wasn’t completely win-win.  I started thinking carefully about everything I did, and I realized that I was changing into someone I actually liked.  I slept better, my mind was calmer and quieter, and my body was relaxed.

But it’s a tricky test.  People will say, “I’m win-win.  They’ll win if they do it my way.”  That isn’t how it works.

Imagine that you are the king of the world, and you get to choose the diet of every person on earth; you choose vegan because research shows it is healthy so you assume it must be true.  Now, I want you to go to northern Alaska in winter and be vegan.  You see, regardless of how reasonable it sounds to you, it doesn’t work for everyone.  So it isn’t true; it is merely a personal choice.  But you won’t see that unless you expand your sphere of influence.  The best answer would be something like “I want people in my world to eat what they are inspired to eat and enjoy eating.”  That is win-win.

We lose our win-win perspective when we limit our sphere of influence.  We have to remember that our thoughts contribute or contaminate everyone in the world in some small way.

 

What is True Works for All Time

This will sound funny to people trying desperately to live in the present moment.  But the Truth works in the past, present, and future.

When I was in college, I lived in a co-ed dorm for a year.  I was in my room studying with the door open on a Saturday night.  A gang of about ten young boys came in my room, locked the door, and told me to strip for some gang sex.  I calmly looked at them and said in a very stern voice, “You are thinking about now, the present moment, and you can have fun with me.  But what about tomorrow when you are a criminal?  What about the rest of your life?  Do you want to be a criminal and ruin your life?”  They got up and walked out the door.  Criminals always live in the present fueled by a contaminated past.

The truth works for the past, present, and future.  All three timeframes become perfect when you see them through the authentic eyes of the True Self.  Staying in the present is about enlightenment.  Being in all time is about total freedom, which includes enlightenment.

These are the big four.  True thinking passes all the tests.  When you find the true perspective, the initiates would say that you’re thinking like the creator God.  I promise you that you’ll want more.  It is pure unconditional love, and it is within you.

If something doesn’t test true in any of these, you’re not at the truth yet.  Keep trying.  It’s worth it.

 

 

 

Ending the Fighting, Living from Win-Win

Change our mind Change the World

By Cathy Eck

 

Fighting Versus Win-Win

In the path of initiation, our mind unravels in three levels of reality.  The first level disappears when our personal reality shifts, and we are left with an understanding of who we are and where we fit in the world.  The second level involves our relationship to others, and the third involves our relationship to the world.  This second-level event in my life didn’t make any sense when it happened in the early 90’s, and it was profoundly embarrassing.  Now I look back and just smile.

Until 1997, I owned a technology business.  My company was hired by a nonprofit organization, run by several retired generals, to design and implement a new membership and accounting system.   I partnered with another company owned by my friend Barry, who happened to be Middle Eastern.  Barry and I completed many projects together; this would be easy for us.

Within a few weeks of implementation, Barry and I noticed some things that the generals didn’t consider.  We saw opportunities to improve their system by upgrading things and shifting the paper flow.  So we went to meet with the generals.  Barry explained the situation, but clearly their bias toward his nationality and accent started to kick in.  They got very angry with him.

 

The Feminine Speaks

I had no idea what came over me, but I started to cry.  This was not what a professional did.  I tried to mask the tears by pretending to rub my eyes, only causing mascara to smear on my face and make things worse.  One general looked at me and said, “Something wrong?” in a general-like voice.

I cut loose.  “We came here to tell you how we could make your system better.  We are offering to do more work for the same money, giving you more than you asked for.  All you can hear is that we want an extra week to do it.  You act like you’re fighting a war when we’re on the same fucking team.  I just don’t know if I can work with assholes like you.  Life works better when you don’t perceive everyone as the enemy to be defeated.  But how would you know that?”  I fully expected that they would fire me and ask for their deposit to be returned.  But I didn’t care.  Barry was my friend and partner; and I had his back.

The head general looked at the others and said, “She’s right.  We do approach everything in this stupid organization like we’re at war.  Quite frankly, I’m sick of it too.  We can’t even recognize when someone is doing us a favor.”  He looked at me and said, “I’m so sorry; take as long as you need.”  We proceeded with the job and everything was perfect after that.

The next week, the general took me to lunch.  He said that he didn’t know how to thank me.  I had broken his military mindset; he felt human again.  He winked and said his wife adored the new man he’d become.  We remained friends until I moved away.  He sent me tons of business and became one of my biggest supporters.

 

The Power of Win-Win

What happened that day looked like pure magic.  But it’s boilerplate for how our emotions are designed to work.  When the generals started behaving from win-lose, I showed emotion.  They played the fallen masculine, and I played the feminine reflection.  When the general got the message and moved to win-win, the emotions stopped; and we easily came to a perfect resolution.

I didn’t consciously know what I was doing at the time; but some part of me did.  It is the template for the perfect male-female win-win relationship in the outer world and the perfect male-female mind relationship in the inner world (the alchemical marriage).

 

Emotions Lead to The Causal Belief

Once I accepted win-win as my new way of living, I discovered the power of emotions and how they could lead us to our beliefs.  I eventually learned how to let go of our beliefs and remain in win-win.

Not everyone was like my general friend.  Most people wanted to hold on to the fight and continue to go for the win.  But as I cleared more and more of my own win-lose mindset, they’d usually go fight with someone else.

After that day, giving in to win-lose interactions felt horrible.  The other person wanted win-win too, but they didn’t know it.  So even when they won our win-lose conflict, they fought more.  Win-lose is the root of all addictions and problems.  The more you chip away at the pile of bullshit that forms it, the less you want to play the games.

 

Tragedies are Caused by Win-Lose

People create tragedies just to experience win-win. The initiated said that we lose our power over nature and she screams when we forgot that we were born to cooperate.  As above, so below means that the world works the same way the mind works.  Win-win minds will one day manifest a win-win world.

Terrorism, shootings, bombings are all caused by win-lose belief systems perpetuated by religion and politics.  When something horrible happens, people stop competing and cooperate for the greater good.  But then life goes back to normal and they bring out the gloves.  The cycle perpetuates because the cause (the win-lose mindset) is never fixed.

I’m no longer interested in honoring those who ban together in a tragedy or fight well in a war.  They aren’t heroes; they are looking for relief from their suffering.

I’m interested in the man or woman who chooses win-win to avoid the tragedy, before they have something to gain, just like my general friend.  His medal of honor in Vietnam was worthless in his daily life.  He became a true hero when he quit fighting wars and found the magic of win-win.  He got the highest reward in life; he found his True Self.

 

Is end of war possible?  I think so.