Working with Our Dreams and Nightmares

Dreams tell us where we are going

By Cathy Eck

 

Dreams

Dreams can be a powerful tool; they help us find causal beliefs.  But we must use our dreams in a productive way.  People generally view dreams as symbolic.  They interpret them and look for meaning in the activities, events, or items in the dream.  That can be fun; but it doesn’t help us move toward freedom.

Dreams are an unthreatening bridge that can show us what to let go from our false physically oriented interpretation of reality in order to get to our True mentally oriented perspective.  Dreams are powerful because we know we created them.  Dreams come out of our OWN mind.  We can’t blame anyone else for our dreams.  That’s key.  If we have dreams about killing, we still have an aspect of our false self that wants to kill someone or fears being killed.  If we have a demon in our dream, guess what we hold in our mind?

People make the mistake of only identifying with the main character in their dreams.  We created our dreams; so we’re the writer, the direction, and all the characters.  There’s enormous power in realizing that we invented all those characters whether we like them or not.  It’s hard to get to that level of honesty in the waking state.

If we wrote a screenplay or novel, we’d know what each character was going to say and do.  That’s how we write our dreams without effort.  For a person to write a story about stealing, they have to hold stealing in mind.  They can’t write about a bank robbery while thinking about pansies.  If we let our beliefs around such criminal behavior go after discovering them in our dreams, we don’t have to experience such things in real life.

 

How to Let Go Using Dreams?

Let’s say that you dream that you’re a student in school.  First work on yourself by asking questions.  Why am I in school?  Do I like being a student?  How do I feel about learning?  What am I learning?  Do I like it?  Get honest and speak your mind as that character.  If something you believe as that character feels bad (has emotion as you think it) let it go.  It’s a false belief.  Our false self adds drama, opposition, and bad tasting spices to our dreams and experiences.  It usually turns them from perfect, heavenly experiences into hellish nightmares.

Let’s say that you and another student got in trouble in the dream.  You’re also the other student.  Step into their character and ask yourself questions about you, the teacher, and school.  How do each of you feel about getting caught?  Why did you get caught?  What outcome do you fear as a result?  What were you thinking before and after you got caught?  These are thoughts that should have emotion — beliefs to let go as false.

Caution!  Don’t allow the answers to your questions to become reasons for why your life is the way it is.  We aren’t looking for interpretation; we’re looking for causal beliefs to let go.

You’re also the teacher in the dream.  Are you angry that students weren’t listening to you?  Do you dislike these students, judge them?  Do you like your job, hate your job?  Why?  Use your answers to find beliefs to let go.

Each character plays a role.  The teacher represents the masculine role; the students are in feminine roles.  You’ll see beliefs from both aspects of your mind in these characters.  As you step into each character, behave as if you want to let go and know how to let go.  Clean up the entire scene.

What you should discover is that without the beliefs that you held in mind before the dream, you couldn’t have had that exact dream.  That’s a valuable lesson.  The same is true of life.

Some therapists go batshit crazy and advise people to pretend they’re the desk or chair.  That’s generally not worth our time.  You might have beliefs about furniture, but furniture doesn’t have beliefs about you.

 

What you Learn

Ideally, we want to live our own True story as the writer, director, and main character.  Everyone else in our life plays a supporting character; we’re also supporting characters for them.  We want to have symbiotic, not codependent, competitive, or opposing relationships with others.

If we perceive that a story character is dominating us or has an intention to harm us in our dream, we’ll feel as if they’re writing our dream (or nightmare).  We’ve given them or someone like them the masculine leadership role for our life.  We probably feel we have to please this character so they’ll let us have what we want.  Their rules for life represent the rules we believe we must live by; they’re our false God who rewards and punishes us.

This was the original end goal of selling religious stories as the truth.  They were originally someone’s personal story.  But they wanted their story to be the story.  They wanted to rule the world instead of just being the king of their life.  Even today, you see new religions and new spiritual teachings being born; they always have a story that makes those teachings or that teacher the ONE.  People often claim to be called or special so that they can mute your story and replace it with their story.  If you follow their practices or their protocol, you’ll get to be a minion in their kingdom — a walk on character that fulfills their dreams.  You’ll NEVER get to live your life.

As you let go of beliefs, you do become the main character in your story living the script that you’ve written.  You’re day and night dreams will improve.  If you want to be completely free, your story must be win-win for everyone.  No one would be your minion, prisoner, or slave.  They’ll simply be other creators who stopped by to temporarily co-create with you and play a character in your story because it’s fun.

Intention: Win-Win (Compassion) or Win-Lose

Compassion

By Cathy Eck

 

Win-Win

As an entrepreneur, I read lots of business books.  When I finished one, I’d go to Barnes & Noble to get another.  One night, I stopped at B&N to get my latest fix.  I noticed a book on the display that said “Win-Win” on the cover.  I didn’t buy the book or even look inside it.  But I loved the sound of those words — win-win.

I bought another book and left the store.  But I couldn’t get win-win out of my mind.  I thought, “I’m going to start living my life that way.  If something isn’t win-win, I won’t do it.”  I didn’t realize that I’d just opened a gateway to compassion…one of the most important keys to initiation.

The next day, during a restroom break at work, I was washing my hands; and I dripped soap on the sink counter.  Those soap droplets caught my attention.  I wondered if just leaving them on the sink was win-win.  After all, we had a maid.  But then the soap would stay there looking messy until the maid came.  I also sensed an attitude of superiority in me as if I was too important to clean.  That didn’t feel win-win.  How could I possibly be more important than the woman who cleaned this restroom?  It really wasn’t win-win to pass the responsibility for my mess on to the maid even if it was technically her job.

Eventually, I pulled down some paper towel and cleaned up my mess.  But I hadn’t just cleaned the counter.  I’d also cleaned something in my mind.  I realized that when I reached that win-win place of thinking over this stupid little thing, I felt a deep calmness that I’d not felt since childhood.  It was way beyond anything I’d felt with meditation.  Meditating quieted my mind; but I was letting go of my shallow false masculine perspective, which freed my mind.

Back at my desk, I picked up a sales contract.  Suddenly it didn’t look win-win.  I called the potential customer and offered to make changes in his favor.  I wasn’t playing games anymore; I treated him the way I would want to be treated.  Again, I felt that peace.

This experiment started with a physical focus — doing that which was win-win.  But it shifted into something much bigger — letting go of any thought that wasn’t win-win.  That, I’d learn, is the meaning of compassion.  Compassion is what tames the false masculine.

 

Intention

About ten years later, people started to write books on the power of intention.  But there was no compassion in their intention setting.  They were thinking an intention before they did something like “Send me that which is for the highest good.”  It sounded nice, but they were washing their hands of responsibility — letting the universe decide what’s good for them.  Unfortunately, the universe doesn’t act as our fair and just concierge; we get what we believe.  This allowed the person to look compassionate without being compassionate.  Compassion doesn’t happen until we let go of beliefs.  It purifies our mind when we let go of the false masculine’s judgmental win-lose, good-evil, or right-wrong thoughts.

Others set intentions like, “I intend to win this race,”  or “I intend to lose twenty pounds this month.”  They were willing the future into submission for their benefit — another talent of the false masculine.

My intention to live from win-win caused me to go deep into my mind and to question my own thinking.  I was letting go before I even understood letting go.  To really get to win-win on any subject, I had to consider everyone that might be affected by the situation — the true application of the Golden Rule.  Letting go of the false masculine beliefs and judgments transformed my false physically-oriented perspective into the true, pure mental perspective of life.  Of course, when my mind was right, top of the triangle with no opposite thoughts, my behavior followed.  I couldn’t imagine harming another.

 

Compassion

Later, I decided to do my Ph.D. Dissertation on the initiation story of Jesus, and I used this same technique.  Unlike Christians, I didn’t want to copy Jesus’ actions; I wanted to understand, and find in myself, the mind of Jesus.  I’d take a Bible quote that didn’t make sense such as, “The meek shall inherit the earth.”  I started with the win-lose interpretations that I’d been taught:  “You have to be submissive to get to heaven.  You get rewarded for giving others what they want.”  None of the thoughts that popped into my mind felt win-win.  They didn’t produce that calmness or compassion.  So I kept dropping every belief that arose and kept digging for the truth.  You see, the truth wasn’t in some guru or in the ethers for channels to pick up; it was in my mind resting quietly below all of my false knowledge.

After letting go of many thoughts about this quote, I dropped into that now familiar place of win-win.  Jesus was talking about the mental, not the physical.  He was already in that compassionate place when he spoke.  When we let go of our beliefs and knowledge, our mind becomes meek, quiet, and pure.  We can’t imagine fighting or willing in order to get what we want.  And yet, our meek mind is extraordinarily powerful because our mind is so clear and creative.  We easily get whatever we focus our mind on — we inherit the earth.

I repeated this process for thousands of hours until I decoded the path of initiation from the story of Jesus.  He was a compassionate dude; and it wasn’t because of what he did but because of how he thought.  Then I saw it everywhere — initiation was embedded in many ancient myths and legends.  You can’t see it until you get the right perspective.  Real freedom, real peace, and real power are revealed when we exercise compassion and let go until our thinking becomes completely win-win for everyone.  That’s how we bring heaven back to earth.

The Body (The Effect of the Mind)

Banyon tree as metaphor for initiation

By Cathy Eck

 

Physical is the Effect

My perspective of the body changed dramatically the day I read one of Edgar Cayce’s most famous quotes.  “Spirit is the life, mind is the builder, and physical is the result.”

Edgar Cayce was affectionately known as the “sleeping prophet.” For forty-three years (early 1900’s), Cayce put himself into an hypnotic state after lying on a couch, closing his eyes, and folding his hands over his stomach.  He would respond to questions as diverse as, “What are the secrets of the universe?” or “How can I remove a wart?” His responses came to be called “readings.”  As you know, I’m not a big fan of psychics or prophets.  Cayce interested me because I’d worked as a hypnotherapist and discovered that people were insanely honest under hypnosis.  With the conscious mind out of the way, they also got wiser.

Cayce spoke in the style of the Bible writers; I often found the same deep meaning in his words.  This eventually caused me to realize that we all have the truth inside; but we’re brain washed, so we look for the truth outside.

Prior to reading Cayce’s quote about the body/physical, I’d tried like hell to understand the body; but quite frankly, the perceptions and knowledge of experts sounded small, limited, and completely disempowering to me.  They spoke with conviction; and seemed far too comfortable with memorized knowledge.

 

Beliefs and the Body

Applying this quote wasn’t just about looking at my body and telling it that it looked beautiful or healthy.  It wasn’t about just numbing or releasing my stress or emotions.  It wasn’t about changing my outer world either.  I came to realize that my body knew if I was speaking from beliefs (lying); and it knew if I was believing other people instead of my Self.  My body simply wanted me to trust my True Self.  And that felt impossible at the time.

Believing lies and holding on to them, weakened my immune system; but I was scared not to believe experts in the beginning.  I feared that they were right because I’d not yet come to understand that beliefs generate emotion.  The doctor had no emotion when he spoke a diagnosis; but I felt overwhelmed with emotion when I heard it.  That’s the power of projection.  In the true world, the doctor would feel the overwhelm of emotion; s/he’s the source.  They wouldn’t be able to speak a belief or knowledge.  This is just one example of how the illusion puts us on the train to hell while telling us that we’re heaven bound.

Eventually, I realized that every belief that I held in mind was stored somewhere in my body.  If I could find the causal belief, the emotions left and the problem disappeared without any treatment.

 

The Way Out

In talking about Jesus, Cayce said, “He hath shown the way; not by some mysterious fluid, not by some unusual vibration, but by the simple method of living that which is life itself.  Think no evil; speak no evil; hear no evil.  And as the truth flows as a stream of life through the mind in all its phases or aspects, and purifies same, so will it purify, revivify and rejuvenate the body (294-183).”  Reading that was like, “Dah.”  Notice that he didn’t say to change our diet, meditate ourself into oblivion, raise our vibration, or twist our body into strange positions.  He said purify the mind.  Cayce’s words were often in sync with the initiation teachings.  But oddly, his readings that gave personal medical advice was just like any doctor or healer; he clearly didn’t believe that an ordinary Jill or Joe could do what initiates did.  That’s where we parted ways.  I did know that initiation was for anyone who wanted it.  I was an ordinary Jill.

In a Search for God group, Cayce was asked, “Is it possible for our bodies to be rejuvenated in this incarnation?”  He responded, “Possible.  The body is an atomic structure, the units of energy around which there are the movements of atomic forces that are ever the pattern of a universe.  Then, when these atoms are made to conform or rely upon or to be one with the spiritual import, the spiritual activity, then they revivify, then they make for constructive forces.  (262-85).”  But he then went on to say that rejuvenation wasn’t probable for anyone; most people weren’t inclined to do the intense work necessary to achieve the required mental state.  They’re too easily distracted by outer occurrences, i.e., the benefits of the illusion or fixing effects.

Most teachers today say that we can’t let go of our beliefs, at least not big ones, so we have to will our body or rise above it.  I disagree.  However, initiation isn’t a weekend workshop.  It’s a way of life.  It was said that Pythagoras spent decades in schools of initiation.  Cayce said that Jesus was initiated during his missing eighteen years.  People don’t realize how strong of a commitment they need for this path.  We hold beliefs about everything and everyone.

 

In the Beginning…

Years ago, I was sitting in my office and heard a loud voice in my mind speak, “Do you want to be beautiful on the inside or outside?”  I quickly answered “inside.”  I meant that answer; I wasn’t being proper.  This question was a bit of a trick to pull me inside.  My willingness to give up something that I held very dearly put me on this path.  I had to see my body free of fixing effects; that wasn’t easy.  But it was necessary for me.

Imagine how easy life would be if everyone’s physical body mirrored their mind.  No one could trick us.  Pure-minded people would be beautiful; those who hold beliefs would be ugly.  Fixing effects would be proof that you were an ugly person.  A lot of businesses would die a quick death.  And letting go would be the most popular game in town.

The False Masculine Trick: The Punishing God

False masculine

By Cathy Eck

 

Adam and Eve

The key myth that pervades western religious thinking is Adam and Eve.  After their little apple incident, they were punished.  We’re erroneously left with the impression that Eve was completely to blame.  Poor victim Adam got dragged down with her.  We accept that God has the right to reward and punish them forever.  Welcome to the illusion!

The story appears to be about men and women, our ancestors.  After a talk on a cruise ship, a man told me that he traced his entire ancestry back to Adam and Eve.  He gave me a copy.  He was Mormon; he’ll believe anything.  He also told me that his friend was chosen to sacrifice himself for the Mormons; he died shortly after.  He thought his friend was special.  I would’ve labeled him gullible.

Like this man, we get tricked into believing illusions — stories that make God into a supernatural he-man.  He has a man cave extraordinaire in the clouds with a golden throne; he sits around all fucking day judging, punishing, cursing, and envying his crappy little minions.  People became afraid of this God because he told leaders to kill their enemy.  Their emotions should have told them their leader was lying, but we all make the same error when terrorized.  We get psychologically reversed to obey false Gods and false leaders.  We think they’re powerful when in truth they’re very weak; that’s why they’re lying.  Dah!

In time, Adam and Eve’s story became so incredibly powerful and widely accepted that no one questioned it.  We look at the world and see people hating, judging, and punishing in the name of God; we don’t realize that religious beliefs are the cause because we think religion has the truth (at least our religion does).  When people worship a false God of hate, judgment, and reward and punishment, they become that.  Then they cover what they’ve become with a mask.

You might say, “Holy shit, this false God guy actually sounds like my parents.”   We tend to construct our false God in the image and likeness of our parents.  Mom and dad are both masculine roles to children.  Moses did this too.  He projected his false God out on his followers, but his God was really his mom and dad inside of his own mind.  People become the same sort of authority they learned from as children.  Bullies have already been bullied.

If we realize that our parent’s judgments, ridiculous disciplinary measures, and lack of trust in our True Self was false, we let ourselves off the hook.  We don’t say our parents did the best they could.  We recognize that they were tricked; we no longer believe them.  We no longer accept their judgment or punishment.  We’re no longer limited by their false thinking.  Their imaginary role in our life loses its false power.

 

Masculine and Feminine 

Adam and Eve isn’t about a man and woman.  It’s a story about roles.  This story replaced the original purpose of our false self, which was to hold information and short-term beliefs necessary for creation.  Now our false self holds the template for false roles that support a blindly obedient society where the majority function as slaves in support of few elite.

We now accept that the masculine role has the right to judge, punish, curse, and envy without the natural punishment of feeling emotions.  We feel no emotion when we think, say, or do something false once we hold false beliefs as the truth.

This created the psychological reversal extraordinaire that causes people to believe religion (it isn’t a gene).  A normal person, without this reversal, would feel emotion when they judge, suicidal when they punish or curse, and sad when they envy another.  They’d avoid the false masculine role because it’s too damn emotionally painful.  But avoiding the masculine causes us to get stuck in the feminine role with no way out — the double bind (catch 22).  It sucks.  The illusion offers no exit to freedom.  It doesn’t hold the possibility of the True Self because the True Self is the natural blend of the masculine and feminine (God and Goddess).

As people let go, they no longer believe authority figures.  They view them as false, not powerful.  They realize that feeling emotion (honoring their feminine) when a leader speaks means the leader is speaking false; they don’t obey them.  Eventually, they boot out religion’s false God and Moses; they can’t worship false leadership.

They move naturally into the masculine role.  But, they must catch their own false God within, or they will become the false masculine they hated.  Most people have an inner false masculine who’s very accomplished at projection.  We don’t realize when we’re in the false masculine role because we feel relief from leaving the feminine role.  We think we’re our True Self.  We’re not!

This is why it’s so hard for people to get free.  The false masculine feels a lot better than the oppressed feminine role; but it isn’t freedom.  It’s what creates teachers, preachers, inspirational speakers, and gurus.  They believe that if everyone thought like them, the world would be perfect.  The True Self wants everyone to be themselves.  The True Self doesn’t want followers.  The psychological reversal of the false masculine causes us not to feel emotions when judging, rewarding and punishing, or envying others.  The false masculine thinks it’s right when it’s false.  In fact, the false masculine hates the True Self because truth exposes it.  The truth sets us free of the false masculine!

When we understand this, we understand Jesus words on the cross, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.”  The false masculine has no idea it’s projecting.  On the cross means stuck in the feminine role; some people spend their entire life on the cross as martyrs or victims.  The false God loves a good sacrifice; it’s his entertainment while he smokes his cigar, drinks his brew, and counts his money on his golden throne.

The Final Battle With Roles Requires Courage

Courage and the Lion

By Cathy Eck

 

Origin of Roles

The ancient storytellers saw the world through the eyes of archetypes and characters.  While they wrote about Gods having experiences, they were actually talking about aspects of their own mind.  A storyteller cast his masculine and feminine characters based on his interpretation of the sky.  The original archetype cast the sun as the masculine role projecting light, warmth, and unconditional love on to the feminine role moon or earth.  The moon feminine role (not always female) reflected the sun; and the earth feminine role absorbed it.  It was a marriage made in heaven; and this was called the True Self.  As the masculine role (sun) lost its unconditional nature, the moon feminine became a lunatic, and the earth feminine became heavy, serious, polluted with emotion, and depressed.  Today the world is filled with unloving suns, lunatics, and fat, depressed people.  Our earth is in danger.  There’s only one cause.  It’s the fall of the masculine role.

In initiation, we return to the place where the masculine and feminine aspects of our own mind become like our initial state of mind with an unconditional sun.  The feminine becomes calm, creative, and filled with life.  When we create equality inside of our mind, we’ll see equality outside.  When our masculine mind only speaks true, loving thoughts, our feminine will no longer emote.

To try to create equality of sexes or races on the outside without first finding it on the inside, is fixing the effect rather than the cause.  You can’t will your mind to be loving.  You can’t put truth on top of manure.  You have to let the false go to get to your truth.

The false self would be easy to let go, but other people try to keep our false self in tact.  They remind us of our labels, they impose their beliefs on us, and they encourage social protocols that enhance our mask.  People who are winning from the patriarchal world don’t want us becoming our True Selves.  True Selves are powerful.  The false masculine wants his feminine characters to lose so they can live without anyone exposing or defeating them.  Without humans in feminine roles, who would fight their wars?  Who would build their temples and churches?  Who would wipe their royal asses?

Most people live life from two minds — their masculine and feminine are constantly arguing.  When we’re in our True Self, our inner masculine and feminine mind aspects agree.  There are no decisions.  There are no emotions.  We’re calm and peaceful.  We’re creative and productive.  Our discrimination keeps us safe from the illusion.  We easily bring our ideas into the physical world like great inventors, original artists, and powerful win-win oriented leaders.  These people have huge visions, but they also have the ability to bring their ideas into the physical world.  They aren’t just day dreamers, philosophers, or storytellers.

The act of letting go grounds our ideas into the material world.  We begin living our life.  We’ve know we’ve really arrived when we can even be completely ourselves with those who programmed us to have false selves.  Our handlers lose their power when we drop the roles they gave us.  The final test requires that we don’t believe anyone else if it generates even a little emotion.  We can no longer be tricked by a false self.

If we don’t see someone as authority, we won’t submit to them.  If we don’t see someone who asks for help as below us, we won’t dominate or control them.  We do what we’re inspired to do.  Sometimes thats creating with others.  Sometimes we’re creating alone.  Sometimes, we’re supporting another to let go of the illusion they’re struggling with.

 

The Last Rule

The rule about roles that pulled us deeply into the illusion was simple.  We gave attention and authority to people with the most rigid beliefs or rules — false selves.  We wanted to be good; so we obeyed authority. We were taught to listen to and respect elders, but our elders were already stuck in the illusion.  We gave respect and attention to the least free person in any situation.  If everyone was healthy and one person was sick, the sick person got the attention.  We gave attention to victims, perpetrators, and heroes; we made the independent free-thinking True Self a rebel and a heretic.  The people who had the most beliefs became leaders, teachers, and preachers — the masculine roles.  We rewarded people for honoring beliefs.  Those with the least beliefs were punished until they submitted.

The way out is the opposite.  We flip the rule upside-down.  We don’t make the feminine dominant; that would be a lateral movement.  We follow those with the freest minds in any situation without regard to age, talent, race, sex, or label.  We reward freedom by giving those who operate from win-win our business, attention, and appreciation.  We listen to children rather than dominate them.  We seek our own truth and get whatever support we need to let go.  As we let go, we acquire the natural courage to face those who gave us our false self.  We make things right again.

 

Permanent/Temporary Roles

As we let go, permanent roles disappear.  There will always be temporary roles.  Roles create a way of interacting and co-creating; but they won’t have a superior/inferior, good/evil, or win/lose tone to them.  Until we’re all free, the natural leader or teacher will be the person with the most expansive point of view (least beliefs) in families, communities, and the world.  Natural leaders or teachers will hold the vision of freedom and help others let go so they can heal their minds and bodies.  

I’ve created a pathway out and identified many of the tricks and traps, but it’s a very narrow path.  Now it’s time for those who desire freedom to clear their own minds and make this pathway clear, safe, and wide.  Since you’re here, reading this blog, you’re probably such a path maker.

Eliminating Right and Wrong Through Win-Win

Jesus and food

By Cathy Eck

 

Win-Win Thinking Instead of Right and Wrong

Win-win thinking isn’t easy to apply.  Most humans believe that if everyone thought like them, the world would be perfect.  Win-win thinking is about letting go of our beliefs, even if we aren’t really wrong by appearances, social protocol, or religious standards.  It’s about resisting the temptation to force others to accept or support our perspective of right and wrong.  When we force others to think like us, even if we speak the truth, we get a false self connection with them.  When we let go, we move into a True Self connection; that’s what we really want with everyone.  A True Self connection is our natural state of unity; a false self connection is possession.

A few days ago, I was out taking a walk.  Two of my housemates apparently got into a discussion while I was gone over the right and wrong of drinking wine.  Both of them are Evangelical Christians so you wouldn’t expect them to disagree.  The woman said that drinking is wrong because her pastor says so; Jesus drank only grape juice.  The man said that Jesus drank wine and even made water into wine.  The woman then countered that if Jesus made it, it was special wine, not like the wine we buy at the store.  By the time I returned, they were no longer fighting.  I didn’t know anything about the disagreement.

Soon I learned what transpired while I was gone because each side made comments that showed the argument was still bothering them. My perspective wasn’t even within the scope of the argument so I didn’t get involved.  However, comments about the argument kept arising in conversation; I realized that it was time for me to step back and look at the situation from win-win.  There was clearly something for me to learn.  I couldn’t just ignore the argument even if I wasn’t a participant; I had to make sure my mind was clear of right and wrong.  In that way, I could be a clear influence that might help them resolve their conflict more easily.

 

Grape Juice Argument

The grape juice argument is clearly win-lose.  She was saying that if you drink wine, you’re a sinner.  She was wielding her superiority position over the other by saying she was the right one; and he was wrong.  Naturally, this didn’t bring out the best in her opponent.

This was a familiar situation for me.  I’d often been viewed as wrong by others who had strong beliefs.  Their rightness depended on my wrongness.  They wanted me to submit to their point of view and admit they’re rightness.  I could see that people with beliefs assume you are opposing them if you just don’t share their belief.

 

Wine Argument

The man who voted for drinking wine had the natural win-win position.  The woman could choose juice and not be wrong in his perspective.  However, I learned later that he was trying to coax the woman to have a glass of wine.  So he compromised his naturally more expansive and win-win position by trying to get her to let go of her position and join him.

I’d been here too — often with loved ones.  I’d try to push them to let go, and I got caught in their illusionary battle over right and wrong.  Now there were two drowning minds in the sea of limitation.  I remembered that win-win means allowing the other to have their beliefs and suffer the consequences of them.

 

Expansion is the Goal

The goal of initiation was to let go of all beliefs.  Initiates didn’t care if others had beliefs because they didn’t believe anything that wasn’t true.  They didn’t accept limitation or the notion of right and wrong.  They suggested letting go, but never forced others to do so.

When people have a strong belief, they go looking for support.  They often want to force the other to support their point of view.  If we want support for the truth, we are holding truth as a belief.  When we downgrade the truth to a belief, it has no power.  We stop feeling the need for support.  

 

Eliminating Right and Wrong

When we get down to the basics, people have a right to do whatever they want to themselves.  Neither the man or the woman’s beliefs were harmful for the other if they each followed their own beliefs.  In a world where beliefs still exist, this is often the best possible outcome.

Ideally, if the people with the most limiting beliefs always let go and joined the more expansive perspective, we’d soon find ourselves all living in paradise. But not everyone wants to let go at this time.  So we must let go of our belief that other people’s beliefs can harm us or limit our life experience.  We tend to fear people with stronger or more limiting beliefs because we’ve all had people impose their beliefs on us in the past.  We’ve felt our world get smaller when others forced their beliefs on us.

If we recognize the beliefs of others as false, they won’t affect our life.  We don’t have to accept the beliefs of even one other; and we can let go of those we’ve already accepted.  Eventually, those with the least beliefs will lead the best lives.  When that happens, we won’t have to encourage anyone to let go.  They will see the obvious benefit and motivate themselves.

Bottom line…my housemate’s argument was absurd.  The very person they fought over said, “Listen and understand! It is not what goes into your mouth that makes you ritually unclean; rather, what comes out of it makes you unclean.”  Jesus didn’t care what people drank.  He cared what people said or believed.

Sadly, my housemates’ disagreement created separation; in truth, they were two friends who loved each other enough to expose beliefs that kept each of them from freedom.  They just don’t realize that yet.

 

Initiation: You Can’t Worship Two Masters

Find the kingdom of heaven

By Cathy Eck

 

Initiation was All About the Mind

People are surprised to learn that one of the best patterns of initiation is the story of Jesus.  No one knows for sure if Jesus was real or if he was simply the initiation poster child.  He’s not a big character in history books of his time.  No one has found his body and DNA tested it.  It’s highly possible that his story was just a model for those who wanted to find their way back to perfection.  It’s the perfect story for that purpose if you can see Jesus as an initiate — a man who is letting go of the illusions that he sees within the world.  This enables him to become a Son of God.

Real or not, Jesus said a lot of cool things because his words were truthful.  As an initiate, he understood the difference between true and false.  He didn’t waste words because he knew that words had creative power.

Sadly, Christianity has really distorted his message.  Christians are extremely disrespectful of his teachings.  They did to Jesus what has been done to everything else that fell out of Eden on this planet.  They made his life about physical events and what to do to be labeled good; they took his words out of context to prove themselves right.

Jesus never asked people to become clones of him or to worship him; he asked them to follow him on the path to truth.  When he said, “Follow me,” an initiate would know that he meant to follow his True Self.  He wouldn’t be so stupid as to ask you to follow his false self or play Simon Says.  He hated the religions of his time because they were about beliefs.  He simply wanted people to be their unconditionally loving and powerful True Selves.

He spoke as the True Self so that people would get comfortable listening to the truth.  Hopefully they’d recognize the same voice in themselves and others.  But people took his way of speaking to mean that he was the one and only Son of God.  He clearly told people that God was inside of them, and they could do what he could do.

 

You Can’t Worship Two Masters

When he said, “You can’t worship two masters,” he meant that you can’t be in two minds at the same time.  He could see that part of their mind knew the truth.  While another very strong part was fearfully (and blindly) obedient to the illusion.  They were mixing the two voices (or minds) together instead of seeing them as two different paths with two completely different destinations.  You’ll recognize this as level confusion.

Level confusion is our Achilles’ Heal on the initiate’s path.  The familiar false voices can be very loud.  The collective mind looks powerful.   The illusion survives by mixing true words with false beliefs creating massive inner and outer confusion.

To get out of the false illusion, we have to discriminate and drop our own false beliefs so that we’re left with the pure truth.  Since, you can’t accidentally let go of the truth, you can’t screw up by letting go.  But the false mind won’t tell you that.  It causes people to be afraid of letting beliefs go as if they might accidentally drop a kidney or an ear.

 

Letting the Old Master Go

People start reading my blog or come to me for support because they see the cracks in the illusion.  But they don’t know what to do about what they see.  If they share their observations, they appear to be crazy or anti-social.  The new master (their True Self) is calling them; but the old master is still screaming orders.  Jesus had this issue when he couldn’t do miracles in his hometown.  He had to let go of his own beliefs that his family could hold him back.  He had to move forward toward the truth and ignore the voices in his head from the past.

As we move forward in initiation, our old voices of fear interrogate us.  If I don’t honor the beliefs of my friends, they won’t like me.  If I don’t honor my family’s beliefs, they’ll banish me.  If I don’t honor the beliefs of the political system, I’ll look like a traitor.  If I really behave from my True Self, I won’t look humble.  If I don’t pretend that we have enemies and support the troops, I’ll look like I don’t care about my country.  If I don’t look sorry for those who have created a mess of their life, I’ll look rude or uncaring.  Most of what comes up is some form of, “I’ll look bad.”  The fear of looking bad can be very powerful.  We must remember that the True Self is good (with no opposite).

Jesus looked bad to those vested in the false self of his day; he didn’t fit in.  He sounded strange to the religious and political people.  He found it more comfortable to be with children than adults.  He was angry at the system, the status quo.  Nothing has changed.  If he appeared today, the very religion that was modeled after him would treat him like crap, if they even recognized him.

Often when we see the truth, we get scared and go right back to fitting in.  It’s too much to handle; it’s too scary to be different in this crazy world.  Welcome to the world of initiation.  It looks terrifying.

The false self (which includes religion) tells us that is it protecting us, when it’s really causing all of our problems and destroying our life.  The truth is that every time I’ve let go, I’ve found less fear and less risk in my life.  The false self becomes less powerful as you keep letting go.  Eventually, we crucify the whole thing.  Then we are truly reborn.

 

The deeper meaning of the Golden Rule is found in The Huna Golden Rule.