Who Am I? I’m A Creator, A Free Thinker…

 Who am I?

By Cathy Eck


Who Am I?

This is my last post for awhile.  I assure you that everything you need to get freedom is on this site and Gateway to Gold.  Reread old posts; what you perceive changes as you let go.  Challenge your thoughts/beliefs, even if your mind is telling you with absolute certainty that what you’re experiencing or thinking is true.  As you let go, you’ll answer life’s biggest question, “Who Am I?”

You didn’t arrive on earth wondering who you were.  You were curious and alive…a True Self.  You saw someone walking, you watched them, you took the risk, and you walked.  You heard people talk, and you learned to speak and matched words to objects, people, and experiences.  Learning and life were fun.

Recently, I heard on television that children’s brains are completely fired up until they start answering the question “I am…?”  They start creating a false identity, labeling themselves; and their brain appears to shut down.  Of course, we’re reversing that.



People taught you to see what they saw.  You learned there was danger, suffering, problems, and disease.  You could get hurt, or you could hurt someone.  You learned to judge and compare.  This didn’t make sense, but you figured that those who came before you must know the truth.

You were given the knowledge of good and evil (the shit that caused us to fall).  Good now had an opposite…EVIL.  You learned to hate and fear other humans.

We see what we hold in mind…what we believe.  How do we get back to who we once were?   It seems impossible.  Their beliefs appeared to get stuck in our minds.  How did that happen?  We asked, and they answered.

“You were born sinful.  Your memories of perfection are imaginary…visions of heaven.  Go to church to make sure you get to heaven when you die.”  What a crock of shit!

Your character was slowly constructed.  You learned to be good and worthy so you could get a good-paying role in society and work hard.  “Life isn’t meant to be easy,” they say.

Knowledge consumed your mind.  Those who memorized the most knowledge got the best roles.  They’re called experts.  Creative thinkers sound strange.  Philosophers look lazy.  Artists starve.  Inventors can’t afford to create their inventions unless they please “The Man.”

Your pure thinking and true goodness was replaced by an illusion built of beliefs in which you were judged on your ability to blindly follow.  When you got to the point where you feared judgment enough, you turned away from your True Self.

A True Self is labeled evil by false selves.  The false self believes that creativity is for people with nothing else to do.  No one can see your thoughts anyway; it’s what you do that counts.  You conformed, but then you wondered, “Who Am I?”


Had Enough?

Maybe you attended workshops, saw therapists, and did processes and practices; yet you didn’t find the answer.  One day, you learned how to let go.  You let go of your beliefs regarding social protocol, religion, disease, problems, culture, and sin.  You released society’s rules from your mind.  You realized that others, even experts, had nothing to offer.  Slowly…you started to remember,  “I’m a creator.  What I think is what I become.”  

Your problems came from accepting beliefs and then fixing the effects of those beliefs.  You finally knew which way to go.



The illusion runs on good/evil, right/wrong, or win/lose.  The illusion is false…powerless.  It’s believed by nearly everyone…but it isn’t real.  It’s projected from our collective beliefs.  You arrived with the truth, and you didn’t lose it.  You can’t screw up letting go.  You can’t let go of truth.



Any thought/belief that has an emotional component is false, even if the whole world believes it’s true.  Your mind desperately wants you to believe that thoughts that feel bad are true, but you fight that temptation.  You let those thoughts go.



Holy Shit!  You aren’t a fucking sinner.  The more you let go, the more you despise competition, oppression, and domination.  You’d never harm another.  You won’t even judge another anymore.  You realize that a true thought is win-win for everyone.  No belief system can be true.  Belief systems separate us.



You realize that those who have masculine (authority) roles make the rules.  The judging God was actually a human being…a false, power-tripping leader who imposed his illusion, where he wins and we lose, on everyone else in the name of God.  You don’t want to even play good roles in the illusion — they always harm someone.



Leaders in false masculine roles often look like True Selves because they project their judgments and the unwanted half of their beliefs on to people in feminine roles.  You now see and hear the false masculine’s incongruence.  The leaders see enemies, evil, suffering, poverty, and disease because it’s inside of them.  It’s not true; it’s their illusion…their reality.  Underneath their mask is a powerless human who’s lost.  They’re pawns of the illusion fixing their own projections.  We should ignore them, not follow them.



We were programmed to see a physically-focused perspective of reality which blinds and confuses us. We look at the quality of people’s doing and ignore their thinking.  Sadly, false thinking looks normal.  True good comes from a pure mind.  When our mind is impure, we can look good by doing the right things; but we aren’t truly good.



The illusion told us that it could give us what we already were.  The illusion only lies.

When we can no longer stand the illusion, we let it go.  As we let go of the judgments, labels, beliefs, and knowledge/expertise, we’re left with the truth.  We remember who we are.  We’re creators who bring our ideas to life for the benefit of everyone.  Keep letting go; don’t stop until you get to freedom.  It’s your birthright.

Validation That You Are Going Toward Freedom

Going the right way?

 By Cathy Eck


New Thought

The New Thought movement made it much more difficult to follow the path of initiation.  It made thinking our way to success, wealth, and a hot, sexy body spiritual.  Jet planes and mansions now proved mastery.  Many teachers made whatever their false self liked a sign of spiritual mastery, and other false selves grabbed on for that ride.  Spirituality is big business.

New Thought teachers/preachers speak truthful ideas and thoughts to false selves who memorize them creating a spiritual-looking false clone of their True Self.  These leaders promote their beliefs as the truth; people throw their True Self under the bus to follow these charismatic leaders.

People have more beliefs than ever.  They view their beliefs as right and true.  They impose them on others without questioning themselves.  People have adopted spiritual practices only to become more judgmental and more inclined to fix the effects of their thinking.  Finding the cause often seems like too damn much work when a little internet research and a swipe of the credit card can appear to solve anything.  We forget that science has limitations.  We will eventually run into a dead-end that we can’t fix.

There are moments in my own inner work that I think, “I could just fix that effect and people would find me much more believable.”  They wouldn’t notice my inauthenticity.

But I’d notice my inauthenticity.  Those who stick with this work often feel their progress doesn’t seem to matter.  People can’t see our True Self if their own illusory veil is too thick.


Signs or Validation

Most people look for signs to determine where to go.  As we purify our mind, we stop looking for signs.  Instead we receive validation that we’re going the right way.  It’s often a small insight, but it keeps us going.  If you’re serious about this path, forget about others and what they think of you.  Keep score of the improvement within your own mind.

In time, material things do come to initiates.  This isn’t a path of abstinence or lack.  Our health will improve; diseases will disappear.  We’ll have more energy and even look younger.  We’ll have the abundance we need and want if we just keep our eye on our own mind and let go.  Our desires will be fulfilled naturally when we have no beliefs that block them.

When we put the purity of our mind first, everything works organically.  We become truly good and right, but we don’t use that for power over others.  This was the secret of the true initiates.  But religions and the occult put the physical reward first; they created the entrance to hell by falsely defining good and right and attaching rewards to their false rules.


Validation:  You’re Going the Right Way If:

1)  Using your will to fix or get anything seems like too much work.  You only want to use your will to let go of your thoughts and beliefs.

2)  False desires are falling away.

3)  You don’t want to judge people or gossip.  It feels bad to judge anyone.

4)  People who others look up to don’t impress you.  Talent or beauty that’s used by the false self is no longer attractive.

5)  You notice when you’re projecting on others.  You feel when others are projecting on you; you do a better job of rejecting their projection.

6)  You find yourself courageously standing up for your True Self or standing up for the True Selves of others.

7)  You don’t label emotions.  When you hear a thought that generates emotion, you know it’s false.

8)  You don’t look for inspiration or motivation outside of yourself.  You feel more internally creative.

9)  You aren’t looking for approval from others; you want to please your True Self. You’re no longer a fake nice person or a people pleaser.

10)  You can’t lie.  It’s physically painful.

11)  You aren’t paying experts (doctors, lawyers, therapists, psychics, trainers) anymore.  You were only wanting them to tell you what you already knew.

12)  You avoid self-help workshops and no longer read voraciously to find answers.  Validation comes to you naturally now.  Insights come when you let go.

13)  You’re starting to see the illusion as false.  Roles become obvious, authority looks impotent, and the notion of good and evil looks silly.  False just looks false.

14) You no longer feel guilt, grief, or shame.  You don’t take responsibility for other people’s emotions.

15)  You let go of beliefs; you don’t want to impose them on others anymore.

16)  You find yourself calm and happy for no apparent reason.  You don’t hold others responsible for your joy.

17)  Competition isn’t attractive…win-win is.

18) False self connections don’t look like love anymore.

19) You can create things with a single thought or a vision in your mind.  You don’t have to hammer at a thought with affirmations or visualize what you want for years to force your desires to manifest.

20)  You’re more loving, more compassionate, and more genuine.  You realize that anyone trying to be positive, spiritual, healthy, or good has an impure mind that they’re trying to cover up with physical actions.  You have nothing to hide so you hide nothing.

21)  You realize that your purpose was to find your Self not to be somebody in the illusion.

22)  You love your inner world.  You use your imagination to create beauty and joy, not disease and suffering.

When we let go, we gently and organically move into our perfect life; the painful things of the past now seem like an illusion…a dream.  We don’t long for things or people anymore; we know that our True desires will come to us.  We become calm, accepting, and courageous.  Letting go becomes a way of life; and our True Self/God is no longer up in the sky.  It’s within.

We realize that the truth has all the power and the false has none.  If we live and speak the truth, we break up the illusion for ourselves and others.  We eventually see a different, more perfect, world.  We’re going the right way.





I Don’t Know What I (They) Believe?


By Cathy Eck


What Do I Believe?

People often say to me, “I don’t know what I believe.”  They also say, “I don’t have any beliefs.”  These two comments are the main reason the illusion thrives.

The fact that our thoughts and beliefs create our reality was hidden for a very long time.  During that time, people accepted all kinds of beliefs as explanations for how life worked.  In more recent times, it became known that our thoughts do create our reality; but we simply put that truth on top of our already accepted beliefs.  People try to consciously control their mind to get what they want.  Sometimes they think one thing and say another; that causes projection, which causes relationship hell.  Or they say something they don’t like, and then say, “I don’t believe that,” or “Cancel.”  

If we really don’t believe something, we won’t think it or say it.  We don’t have to cancel our words.  In fact, as we move toward freedom, we find it impossible to be incongruent.  Our thoughts, words, and actions will all line up.  Then we often realize that we still have beliefs that people don’t like when we speak truthfully.  We have to let those beliefs go too.


Who’s Creating Our Life?

People of all religions say,  “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade,”  Even atheists say it.  But no one asks a very important question, “Who in the hell is life?”  “Who gave us those fucking lemons?”  A religious person might say, “God tempted us;” a New Ager might say, “The universe taught us a lesson.”  But the comment implies that we didn’t create our life.  We aren’t free if we don’t create our life.  We’re Life’s slaves.

If we’ve accepted complete responsibility for our lemons, we’d say, “I gave myself lemons, so I made lemonade.”  But no one says that.  One of the best ways to find beliefs about anything is to find out why we say what we say.

When someone dies, we say: “Now they’re in a better place.”  Really!  We don’t know that.  What we know is that their body is in the ground or an urn.  We don’t have a clue where their mind/spirit went.  If we think/speak that belief, we believe something like earth ain’t so great.  We can’t get beyond suffering unless we die.

Now people will say to me, “I don’t really believe that shit.  I just said that because I wanted them to feel better.”  You’re trapped.  First of all, you’re taking responsibility for their emotions; their emotions are caused by their thinking.  If you say what another wants to hear, you’re putting them in the masculine role.  You’re giving them power to create in your life because what they want to hear is more important than what you want to say.

Our social protocol is carefully designed to make sure that we have no power over Life.  Listen to what you say, and you’ll uncover hidden beliefs.  Listen to what others say, and you’ll discover what they believe.  The mystery drains from Life real quick.


Why Did I Say That?

If we’ve had religious or self-help training, we often train our mind to be quiet or to say the right things.  But trained quiet isn’t real quiet.   Being trained to say the right things might be automatic, but it’s not authentic.  It’s the effect of being highly socialized.  The highly socialized no longer speak what they believe or think; they speak what they believe others want to hear.  Some people have told me that they actually put their attention so completely in other people’s minds that they know what that person wants to hear.  They’re proud of this when they should feel horrible.  I suspect that it’s what most psychics do, but they don’t realize they’re doing it.  Quite honestly, we don’t have any business in another person’s mind.

Letting go of our fake social beliefs is very important.  We’re then admitting that our True Self is what belongs in society.  What doesn’t belong are social customs designed to make everyone alike and predictable.

The highly socialized do what is politically correct even if they resent it.  Their Universe or God or Life isn’t some supernatural being although they’ll say they’re trying to please God.  Their false God is actually everyone they’re trying to please — a whole shitload of human beings.  They live life as if everyone is God and they’re no one…a slave trying to please humanity.

Waking up requires us to realize that what humans want from us is not what God wants from us.  We don’t know what God wants from us unless we’re living from our True Self; we only know what others have said God wants from us.  They say that God rewards and punishes…nope, people do that.  They say God judges; no, people do.  The biggest trap is created by people who tell us that God wants what actually fulfills their needs and desires while simultaneously keeping us small and submissive.  This doesn’t just happen in big business, big religions, or government, it happens in families.


Fake Gratitude

When I was an entrepreneur, I felt thankful for the business that came my way.  I told my clients, not God, what they meant to me.  My words came from within; they were authentic.  Today, I bank at Wells Fargo; they train their employees to pretend gratitude.  It never feels good.  My son and I will do anything to avoid having to talk to a teller.  But most people don’t feel so they think the person means what they say.  Robots applaud other robots.

The reason that our false self says or does anything is because it was taught to do it.  It’s a robot.  When we take the memory out of a robot, we get nothing.  When we take the robotic memory out of a person, we get the truth…an authentic human being.






Dealing with Fragile Egos as Characters

fragile ego

By Cathy Eck


Fragile Egos

When someone holds their beliefs as absolutely true, they become a “fragile ego.” Fragile egos exist at all levels of society.  We have to let them break to get free.

Fragile egos send a clear message:  “If you obey me, I’ll reward you.  If you disobey, I’ll punish.”  They’re clones of the Old Testament false God (imaginary leader of the illusion) who believe they’re good people with the right to judge and punish.

Whoever disagrees with them is evil or bad.  Their biggest fear is exposure.  They lie and impose their beliefs on others in order to look powerful while hiding their belief that they’re weak.

The most dangerous fragile egos wear a nice mask causing them to look like a True Self.  They say and do what the illusion considers good; they generally look happy and calm.  They believe that what you do, not how you think, makes you good.  Good, by their definition gets rewarded.  That’s how the illusion works.

But the true world doesn’t work that way.  Rules and projection don’t exist outside the illusion, we manifest what we believe.

Underneath the fragile ego’s mask is an emotional storm; their actions aren’t congruent with their thinking.  They’re filled with rules and beliefs.  When we disobey or say, “No,” to their demands, their emotions roar.  They don’t see their OWN thinking as the cause of their emotions.  They blame the feminine role because their Adam-and-Eve based mythology gave them the right to.

The fragile ego projects their responsibility and emotions outward.  In fact, when we’re conditioned by fragile egos, we often become overly responsible.  We take responsibility for their emotions because they claim we’re the cause.  We aren’t.


The Wall

In mentoring, I call the eruption of the fragile ego, “hitting the wall.”  Letting go looks impossible.  Strong religious, scientific, or political views look absolutely true.  Arguing with the fragile ego does no good.  The fragile ego repeats its knowledge, rules, and beliefs like a robot.  It sees evidence that supports its thinking; it’s sure it’s right.

We only see evidence because we believe the cause.  We hold a really strong belief, but it’s still false.  If we let go of the causal belief, we’ll see different evidence.  When we try to challenge fragile ego beliefs in ourselves or others, psychological reversals kick in.  The thoughts clearly generate emotion, they’re not win-win, and they’re taking us away from freedom; but we can’t remember that the emotion means false.  Until we routinely catch this in ourselves, we won’t catch it in others.


They’re Characters

Our OWN fragile ego consists of voice recordings acquired from others who forced their beliefs into our mind.  We did feel emotions when we first heard their words; but we were afraid to challenge them.  Their words are NOW constantly squatting in our mind.

After letting go for awhile, we do come to know that the recordings are false.  And yet, people tell me that the fragile ego is still running their life.   They still behave as the fragile ego would want them to behave or say what the fragile ego would consider socially or politically correct.  They still can’t be themselves.


An Exercise

Imagine yourself in the center of your mind; see the fragile egos who have limited your life with beliefs, rules, and knowledge in the periphery of a giant circle looking at you.  They’re keeping you from leaving the circle.

Review old memories in your mind. Bring up fragile ego encounters from the past. Let the fragile ego characters slowly replay the scene.  Discriminate and let go as they talk.  Also let go of any judgments or reasoning that arises in your mind about these characters. Judgment on your part keeps you stuck to them.  You might never see them again; but when you clean up their character in your own mind, you won’t meet that same sort of person again.  Of if you do, you’ll stay powerful.

You can take this even further.  We tend to think that we must change the real life fragile ego characters or get them to stop judging us.  But many of them will never change or stop judging.  Are you going to wait until they change to live your life?  I hope not.

Step into their character within your own mind.  Speak their beliefs, and feel their emotions arise when they speak something false or judgmental.  Assume they can discriminate and let go, and do so.  It’s your mind!  These are your characters! You have the power to clean up their words in your mind.  In this way, we change the past.

See if this fragile ego still has power over you.  If so, ask yourself, “Why?”  Let go of the reasons that your mind gives you.  Clean up more memories.

You aren’t affecting the real life person in any way — good or bad.  When your mind is clear, they won’t bother you.  Their beliefs will only affect them.

Our false minds were meant to be creative containers, separate and distinct from others people’s minds, so we could all create independently.  We’ve never had the right to impose our beliefs on others.  We only do it because others did it to us.

When you realize that you don’t deserve their judgment, they don’t have power over you anymore.  When you understand that their rules are false, they don’t apply to you.  If they say that you’re hurting them, you don’t take it in.  In fact, I’ll often say to fragile egos, “You’re telling me what I should believe; how can I be hurting you?”

Fragile egos can be difficult.  But we can get through that wall if we take our rock hammer and chip away one belief or memory at a time.  Eventually, we’ll break through their highly tinted glass.  We’ll escape their influence without fighting them.  When we clean our OWN mind, they lose their false power.  They can’t harm us anymore.


Letting Go of Dreams, Visions, Nightmares, and Even Memories

Using Dreams to Let Go

By Cathy Eck


I’d recommend reading my earlier article on Dreams and Nightmares first.


Dreams, Visions, Nightmares, and Memories

In this post, I’ll walk you through a short example of finding the causal beliefs within your dreams, visions, nightmares, and memories.  The example I’m using was a clear vision that I had about twenty years ago during a reflexology session.  During that time, I was lost, depressed, my body ached all the time, and I was always exhausted — common symptoms for being trapped in another person’s illusion.  I feared going to a doctor, so I went to healers.  I needed and wanted someone to tell me how to let go.  But I wasn’t finding anyone.

As the reflexologist pushed on my feet, I suddenly smelled something like sulfur.  It was so strong that my eyes watered.  I mentioned this to the reflexologist, and she said, “It must be a message for you.  I don’t smell anything.”  Then she said, “I’m pushing on your heart area now…might be something about love.”  She told me to relax and see what popped into my mind, which was good advice.

I saw a young girl standing before a Nazi guard.  The girl was wearing a cute, ruffled blue dress and patent leather shoes.  Since my mom dressed me that way, I immediately identified with that character.

She was being led to the gas chamber.  That was the smell.   The little girl looked at the guard.  She smiled at him and said, “I still love you.”  I felt such peace and softness in my body; I felt unconditional love for this guard.  The guard pushed her into the gas chamber, and she died.  I was crying at this point — kind of wallowing in my sadness and victimhood.

She said I was releasing a past life, but I knew that I wasn’t letting go; I could see that my mind had already started to make conclusions about this vision like love isn’t enough.  I could see that we both wanted to turn my vision into a reason why I was powerless to change my life.  I was trying so hard to not allow that to happen.  I kept searching for a way to free myself from the vision.  But I didn’t know how to do that for many years.


The Cure

This vision was produced from my mind based on where I was at that time.  I eventually realized that the causal belief was that unconditional love was worthless currency on earth — it was not enough to make things right.  That was truly how I felt about my life.

Looking from the eyes of the guard, I could see another huge causal belief.  We have to obey authority — to do as we’re told.  Then I flipped back to the character of the girl.  I truly believed that authority was much more powerful than love.  Of course, these are common beliefs in the illusion — beliefs we all need to let go to be free.

After I discovered how to let go of beliefs, I could see that the belief, “Love is not enough” isn’t true.  I could see that the belief, authority has more power than love” was also a lie.  I could see that the whole damn vision was the product of my beliefs.  Do you see why it’s not helpful to call it a past life?  We don’t need to make it true.  Our past experiences are just the effect of the beliefs we held in mind at that time; they might be real, but they aren’t true.  When we live from truth, we won’t need to let go of beliefs anymore.

The vision showed me where my mind was at that time.  It showed me the beliefs that kept me trapped in an illusion.  To get free, I didn’t need to analyze the details or interpret symbols; it was all very straight forward.

Was I once this child killed in a Nazi concentration camp?  Who knows?  What’s key in that vision are the beliefs that would have caused me to be in such a situation.  After clearing those beliefs, I allowed the vision to replay from my current mental state.  I saw the girl look at the guard and say her words of love.  I felt the same purity.  He looked at her with a scowl and told her to go to the side of the gas chamber and wait for him.  He was still an obedient authority, but it didn’t matter.  I didn’t need to morph him into a saint.  She had the power because she had the real love.  I’d finally seen this vision from the perspective of the True Self.

Let me emphasize…I didn’t put love or positive thinking on top of my erroneous beliefs.  I simply let the beliefs go… they’re false.  The vision no longer bothered me; it existed like a dream…the illusion that it was.



The reflexologist helped me focus on my body; she triggered the place where the belief was stored.   But her helpfulness ended when she saw the vision as a reason for the way things were.  People often feel satisfied when they find the reason.  Sadly, most people don’t realize they can let go.  They sing “Let It Go” but don’t know how.  We can’t help another let go of their beliefs until we let go ourselves.

When we take any memory, vision, nightmare, or dream and see the causal beliefs that created it, notice our emotional feedback, and let those beliefs go completely, we experience something amazing — freedom.  The scene changes; we learn that without those beliefs, we could never have had those dreams, nor could we experience such a reality.  I find that amazing.  As we clean up our memories and nightmares in this way, we start to see a different world.  We feel safe without needing everyone else to behave or let go.  We realize that other people’s illusions would only affect their life if we didn’t believe them.

Working with Our Dreams and Nightmares

Dreams tell us where we are going

By Cathy Eck



Dreams can be a powerful tool; they help us find causal beliefs.  But we must use our dreams in a productive way.  People generally view dreams as symbolic.  They interpret them and look for meaning in the activities, events, or items in the dream.  That can be fun; but it doesn’t help us move toward freedom.

Dreams are an unthreatening bridge that can show us what to let go from our false physically oriented interpretation of reality in order to get to our True mentally oriented perspective.  Dreams are powerful because we know we created them.  Dreams come out of our OWN mind.  We can’t blame anyone else for our dreams.  That’s key.  If we have dreams about killing, we still have an aspect of our false self that wants to kill someone or fears being killed.  If we have a demon in our dream, guess what we hold in our mind?

People make the mistake of only identifying with the main character in their dreams.  We created our dreams; so we’re the writer, the direction, and all the characters.  There’s enormous power in realizing that we invented all those characters whether we like them or not.  It’s hard to get to that level of honesty in the waking state.

If we wrote a screenplay or novel, we’d know what each character was going to say and do.  That’s how we write our dreams without effort.  For a person to write a story about stealing, they have to hold stealing in mind.  They can’t write about a bank robbery while thinking about pansies.  If we let our beliefs around such criminal behavior go after discovering them in our dreams, we don’t have to experience such things in real life.


How to Let Go Using Dreams?

Let’s say that you dream that you’re a student in school.  First work on yourself by asking questions.  Why am I in school?  Do I like being a student?  How do I feel about learning?  What am I learning?  Do I like it?  Get honest and speak your mind as that character.  If something you believe as that character feels bad (has emotion as you think it) let it go.  It’s a false belief.  Our false self adds drama, opposition, and bad tasting spices to our dreams and experiences.  It usually turns them from perfect, heavenly experiences into hellish nightmares.

Let’s say that you and another student got in trouble in the dream.  You’re also the other student.  Step into their character and ask yourself questions about you, the teacher, and school.  How do each of you feel about getting caught?  Why did you get caught?  What outcome do you fear as a result?  What were you thinking before and after you got caught?  These are thoughts that should have emotion — beliefs to let go as false.

Caution!  Don’t allow the answers to your questions to become reasons for why your life is the way it is.  We aren’t looking for interpretation; we’re looking for causal beliefs to let go.

You’re also the teacher in the dream.  Are you angry that students weren’t listening to you?  Do you dislike these students, judge them?  Do you like your job, hate your job?  Why?  Use your answers to find beliefs to let go.

Each character plays a role.  The teacher represents the masculine role; the students are in feminine roles.  You’ll see beliefs from both aspects of your mind in these characters.  As you step into each character, behave as if you want to let go and know how to let go.  Clean up the entire scene.

What you should discover is that without the beliefs that you held in mind before the dream, you couldn’t have had that exact dream.  That’s a valuable lesson.  The same is true of life.

Some therapists go batshit crazy and advise people to pretend they’re the desk or chair.  That’s generally not worth our time.  You might have beliefs about furniture, but furniture doesn’t have beliefs about you.


What you Learn

Ideally, we want to live our own True story as the writer, director, and main character.  Everyone else in our life plays a supporting character; we’re also supporting characters for them.  We want to have symbiotic, not codependent, competitive, or opposing relationships with others.

If we perceive that a story character is dominating us or has an intention to harm us in our dream, we’ll feel as if they’re writing our dream (or nightmare).  We’ve given them or someone like them the masculine leadership role for our life.  We probably feel we have to please this character so they’ll let us have what we want.  Their rules for life represent the rules we believe we must live by; they’re our false God who rewards and punishes us.

This was the original end goal of selling religious stories as the truth.  They were originally someone’s personal story.  But they wanted their story to be the story.  They wanted to rule the world instead of just being the king of their life.  Even today, you see new religions and new spiritual teachings being born; they always have a story that makes those teachings or that teacher the ONE.  People often claim to be called or special so that they can mute your story and replace it with their story.  If you follow their practices or their protocol, you’ll get to be a minion in their kingdom — a walk on character that fulfills their dreams.  You’ll NEVER get to live your life.

As you let go of beliefs, you do become the main character in your story living the script that you’ve written.  You’re day and night dreams will improve.  If you want to be completely free, your story must be win-win for everyone.  No one would be your minion, prisoner, or slave.  They’ll simply be other creators who stopped by to temporarily co-create with you and play a character in your story because it’s fun.

Taking Your Power Back By Playing a Game

Breaking through the wall

By Cathy Eck


FYI:  This is an advanced post that might not make sense if you’re new to letting go.

Stuck in Someone’s Beliefs

My blog readers aren’t heads of government, religions, or corporations.  They’re creative people who feel stuck in belief systems that were imposed upon them by others.  They often feel locked in a feminine role.

The majority of leaders and authority figures (even family leaders) see enemies and problems to be fixed in the people who play feminine roles beneath them.  They don’t realize that the problems and enemies they see actually exist ONLY in their own mind.  They speak as if the illusion that their mind created is real and true; it is for them.  We all see what we believe.  The false masculine thinks that its beliefs are God’s laws.  It rewards and punishes accordingly.

Our problems began when we believed our first false masculine leader or parent.  We began to see what they said we should see.  Life on earth has been this way for thousands of years.  It will change when we stop believing what others claim to see or know — when everyone admits that the Emperor is buck naked.

Here’s a game to help you escape the feminine role.  It’s challenging, and it’s designed to show you what to let go, to improve your discrimination, and to flip your mind back into the mental, True Self perspective.  Ultimately, we want letting go to become like driving — it’s mostly automatic.


The Game

See yourself in front of an audience consisting of difficult people from your life — people who judge you or want to control or fix you.  They can be people you know, authority figures, or imaginary people.  You can even invite God.  Let them speak one at a time.  Allow them to say what’s wrong with you or what you need to believe or be to please them.

I want you to see that what they say is their projection and their own level confusion.  Often they are looking only at what you are doing and judging their own beliefs about it.  Sometimes they don’t even see you.  Here’s an example:  One audience member looks at you and says, “You’re lazy.  You haven’t done anything lately.”  From the physical perspective, they’re right.  You’ve been doing lots of inner work.  But you aren’t allowed to tell them off, defend yourself, or react in this game.

First, you must recognize that they’re speaking from their physical perspective — the beliefs that form their illusion.   Notice how their comment feels to you.  You probably feel emotion; remember, the emotion means that what they said was FALSE.  If you take that emotion in and defend it, you enter their illusion.  You’re powerless because their illusion is a foreign land for you.  If you simply let go of their comment because it’s FALSE, your mind stays clear and free.

Take it slow.  You might feel lots of emotion regarding their comment.  You want to drain it all by witnessing it and remembering why you felt the emotion.  Don’t label the emotion anger, fear, or rage.  That just makes it real.  The emotion is simply saying that what they said was false.  That’s all!

You’ve been letting go a lot lately; and it’s true that you’re not doing much physical work.  But are you lazy?  Mentally, no.  In fact, mentally speaking, they’re lazy.  They haven’t let go of anything.  This is what frees you.  You see that they’re judging you from their physically oriented illusion.  They’re projecting their unwanted defect of mental laziness on you by confusing levels.  A person living from the mental perspective looks like an enemy to someone in the physically oriented illusion.  In the illusion, it’s all about what they see!

We all start life at the mental perspective; and as we accept physical perspective projections from others, we fall into their illusion.  By recognizing the error of the people who cast their stones upon us, we reverse our OWN fall.  Their fall is their problem.  Once you’re clear, you’ll have the words to explain yourself to them.  Or you’ll feel comfortable not responding at all.


Explain Yourself!

When we’re living from the mental point of view, we’re often asked by people in the illusion to explain ourselves.  People in the physical perspective don’t understand the mental perspective.  Often the only answer we have is that we did what felt right.  By untangling these two perspectives in your mind, you move out of right-wrong.  You no longer accept their projected judgment.  Their more limited physical perspective will only affect them if you let their beliefs go from your mind.

The trick to winning this game is to remember that what they say is what’s on their mind.  You must realize that neither their conviction, emotional projection, nor authority make their words true in the mental perspective.

Don’t go into their mind.   Keep watching your mind.  See what arises next.  In some instances, you’ll notice judgments toward them in your mind; and ideally, you’ll let them go even if they deserve the judgment.  If you let your judgments toward them go, you might just get to the True Self perspective and feel unconditional love for them.  You just see life from different perspective than they do.  Understanding cleans up that gap.  You’ll see them as powerless and lost — they’re in the fallen world.  You might want to help them, but you won’t want to fix them.  People fix others because they are afraid of them.  We help others because we care.

Your audience members can leave for two reasons:  1) They admit that they don’t want to let go; that’s fine but they must leave your mind (not necessarily your life).   2) They get it, and they let go.  They no longer belong in your audience of difficult people.  Your job is to clean out the entire audience.  That’s how you win the game.