Letting Go of Dreams, Visions, Nightmares, and Even Memories

Using Dreams to Let Go

By Cathy Eck


I’d recommend reading my earlier article on Dreams and Nightmares first.


Dreams, Visions, Nightmares, and Memories

In this post, I’ll walk you through a short example of finding the causal beliefs within your dreams, visions, nightmares, and memories.  The example I’m using was a clear vision that I had about twenty years ago during a reflexology session.  During that time, I was lost, depressed, my body ached all the time, and I was always exhausted — common symptoms for being trapped in another person’s illusion.  I feared going to a doctor, so I went to healers.  I needed and wanted someone to tell me how to let go.  But I wasn’t finding anyone.

As the reflexologist pushed on my feet, I suddenly smelled something like sulfur.  It was so strong that my eyes watered.  I mentioned this to the reflexologist, and she said, “It must be a message for you.  I don’t smell anything.”  Then she said, “I’m pushing on your heart area now…might be something about love.”  She told me to relax and see what popped into my mind, which was good advice.

I saw a young girl standing before a Nazi guard.  The girl was wearing a cute, ruffled blue dress and patent leather shoes.  Since my mom dressed me that way, I immediately identified with that character.

She was being led to the gas chamber.  That was the smell.   The little girl looked at the guard.  She smiled at him and said, “I still love you.”  I felt such peace and softness in my body; I felt unconditional love for this guard.  The guard pushed her into the gas chamber, and she died.  I was crying at this point — kind of wallowing in my sadness and victimhood.

She said I was releasing a past life, but I knew that I wasn’t letting go; I could see that my mind had already started to make conclusions about this vision like love isn’t enough.  I could see that we both wanted to turn my vision into a reason why I was powerless to change my life.  I was trying so hard to not allow that to happen.  I kept searching for a way to free myself from the vision.  But I didn’t know how to do that for many years.


The Cure

This vision was produced from my mind based on where I was at that time.  I eventually realized that the causal belief was that unconditional love was worthless currency on earth — it was not enough to make things right.  That was truly how I felt about my life.

Looking from the eyes of the guard, I could see another huge causal belief.  We have to obey authority — to do as we’re told.  Then I flipped back to the character of the girl.  I truly believed that authority was much more powerful than love.  Of course, these are common beliefs in the illusion — beliefs we all need to let go to be free.

After I discovered how to let go of beliefs, I could see that the belief, “Love is not enough” isn’t true.  I could see that the belief, authority has more power than love” was also a lie.  I could see that the whole damn vision was the product of my beliefs.  Do you see why it’s not helpful to call it a past life?  We don’t need to make it true.  Our past experiences are just the effect of the beliefs we held in mind at that time; they might be real, but they aren’t true.  When we live from truth, we won’t need to let go of beliefs anymore.

The vision showed me where my mind was at that time.  It showed me the beliefs that kept me trapped in an illusion.  To get free, I didn’t need to analyze the details or interpret symbols; it was all very straight forward.

Was I once this child killed in a Nazi concentration camp?  Who knows?  What’s key in that vision are the beliefs that would have caused me to be in such a situation.  After clearing those beliefs, I allowed the vision to replay from my current mental state.  I saw the girl look at the guard and say her words of love.  I felt the same purity.  He looked at her with a scowl and told her to go to the side of the gas chamber and wait for him.  He was still an obedient authority, but it didn’t matter.  I didn’t need to morph him into a saint.  She had the power because she had the real love.  I’d finally seen this vision from the perspective of the True Self.

Let me emphasize…I didn’t put love or positive thinking on top of my erroneous beliefs.  I simply let the beliefs go… they’re false.  The vision no longer bothered me; it existed like a dream…the illusion that it was.



The reflexologist helped me focus on my body; she triggered the place where the belief was stored.   But her helpfulness ended when she saw the vision as a reason for the way things were.  People often feel satisfied when they find the reason.  Sadly, most people don’t realize they can let go.  They sing “Let It Go” but don’t know how.  We can’t help another let go of their beliefs until we let go ourselves.

When we take any memory, vision, nightmare, or dream and see the causal beliefs that created it, notice our emotional feedback, and let those beliefs go completely, we experience something amazing — freedom.  The scene changes; we learn that without those beliefs, we could never have had those dreams, nor could we experience such a reality.  I find that amazing.  As we clean up our memories and nightmares in this way, we start to see a different world.  We feel safe without needing everyone else to behave or let go.  We realize that other people’s illusions would only affect their life if we didn’t believe them.

Getting Real About Your Life: The Secret to Creativity


By Cathy Eck



Creativity occurs in the gap between our vision and our reality.  Ideally, that gap is constantly diminishing.  That’s when we enjoy our journey.

In business, I loved creating an insane challenge and then fulfilling it.  In technology, the value of a computer system was measured in years.  A three-to-five year payback on investment was normal at that time.  I promised a one-year payback.  My normal system, which was more expensive than the competition, paid for itself in three-to-six months.

Bringing down the payback period taught me a valuable lesson.  Much of my success was the vision I set for each project.  What I must share, however, is that no one believed my vision was possible.  Even the companies that hired me would say, “Yea right.  You can’t do that.”  They couldn’t do it, but I knew I could.  Only in hindsight, do I understand why.



People tend to fall into two groups.  The first group lives in the fantasy world.  They say their affirmations and focus on the positive.  They daydream of better days while ignoring the reality that they don’t believe they can achieve those days.  The extreme metaphor for these people are lottery players.  Their life is so dismal that they believe that the only way out is to win something that has one chance in a million.  These people usually have right-brain oriented views of life.  They tend to visualize, talk all the time, and philosophize, but don’t get much done.  They use cognitive dissonance to bridge gaps in their belief systems.  When their reasoning breaks down, they usually insert an angel, a miracle, or fate.  They manufacture religions.



The other group is so grounded in reality that their face is stuck in the mud.  They tend to be left brainers.  They get shit done, but often make a mess of things when they do it.  They have good memories, which they use on others to bring up things they did thirty years ago.  If science doesn’t have the answer, there’s no answer.  Nothing exists beyond reality.  Incurable is their death sentence.  They create lots of problems and want rewarded when they fix their own problems.  They get a small reprieve after they fix something — a brief moment of satisfaction.  Then something else breaks.  They argue for political, religious, or any one-sided point of view until they make everyone around them want to vomit.  These are the scientists that waste time and money proving their reality is the truth.

The place of creativity isn’t in either extreme.  Remember the old triangle process (above).  Creativity, and all the other joys of life, are at the top of the triangle.  Fantasy and Harsh Reality live at the bottom.


Enjoying The Journey to the Top

Creativity lives at the top of the triangle.  To get there, we must get honest about our current reality.  That’s our starting place.  It isn’t what we deserve, it sure as hell isn’t something we need to accept, and it isn’t something we need to face for very long.  It’s an honest assessment of our current situation.  Fantasy, the other side of the triangle, is where we want to be.  It might look possible or impossible.  That doesn’t matter.  When we bring together the right recipe of these two ingredients, and we let go, we ride the creative wave to the top.

Anyone who appears to have natural talent rides that wave every day, but often only in one aspect of their life.  I could thrive among the best in my field because I knew I could.  I didn’t “know” because I thumped my chest every morning while looking in the mirror and mimicking Tony Robbins.  I didn’t believe I could.  In fact, I actually had no beliefs that I couldn’t.  (Although after watching “The Wolf of Wall Street,” I tried out the chant-chest thump technique; I gotta admit, it was kind of fun. It made me feel like a he-man.)


Letting Go

I left the business and technology world because I wanted to learn why that worked for me and why others couldn’t do it.  I also wondered why I couldn’t do that in every aspect of my life.

It was clearly something in people’s minds that veiled their natural gifts.  I only had to find out how to reverse that man-made error.

First, I got painfully real.  Most of the world believes they have no talent.  Most people feel like pawns with no chance of fulfilling their dreams.  Most people have strong religious and family-cultural beliefs that they view as the truth.  Most of the world accepts their reality as God ordered.  There’s more, but you get the idea.  That was my “Get Real.”  Now I was done with getting real — just needed my accurate and honest starting point.

Now what’s my vision?  This was the question I wanted to solve.  How can every person unveil their unique expression, gifts and talents, and true perspective?  But I also had other conditions that clarified an acceptable answer.  I wanted the answer to be something anyone could do — not just MENSA members, not just those belonging to certain religions or clubs, and not just rich people.  It had to be win-win and possible for everyone on the planet.  It had to be simple, able to be done alone, and easy to remember.  Pretty high stakes.

Fifteen years later, I had the technique.  It met all of those conditions.  But I had to let go of a zillion beliefs to get there.  What appears to be a God-given gift or talent is actually a black holes in our mind where we have few or no beliefs.  That’s all.  Letting go, not cognitive dissonance, removes the gap between our vision and our reality.

Our beliefs rest between our get real and our vision like a big block of granite.  We keep chipping away at those beliefs with our little chisel.  One day, there’s nothing left.  We’re free.




Why Create a Vision for Your Life? The Answer Might Surprise You

Creative Mind Like a Blackboard

By Cathy Eck


The hardest concept to understand when initiates choose the path of freedom is that all the tools that worked in the illusion are worthless to the True Self.  It isn’t that they are wrong or bad, it’s just that you ain’t in Kansas anymore.


The Vision Board

In some circles, the vision board is king.  Experts say the vision board fuels the law of attraction, and it does.  However, the law of attraction is a law within the illusion.  Everything you create in the illusion has two sides — what you want and the opposite.

One time, I was inspired to spend a whole day appreciating, and something big did change in my life.  Some part of me wanted to start an appreciation movement.  But, I didn’t.  Around that time, someone else did.  She created a gratitude movement.  But a few years later, she crashed and burned.  Appreciation is who we are; it is not a technique.  But when I didn’t understand that, I too thought it was a magic formula for success.

This is the most sophisticated trap in the illusion.  Every religion, movement, and spiritual community has fallen into it.  They take something that is natural and true and turn it into a technique.  The technique can bring success, rewards, and even enlightenment within the illusion, but it can never bring you freedom.


You Were Born a Grateful, Positive Visionary

It isn’t that gratitude isn’t amazing or positive thinking is bad.  It is that you were born grateful and positive.  Likewise, visualization is a natural skill.  If you are forcing it, you’re trying to leap over your beliefs when you could just let them go.  When you take something natural for the True Self and do it as a false-self activity, you get a beautiful whipped cream topping for your manure.  It’s delicious in the beginning, but eventually, it tastes like shit.

Our true desires are within, underneath the manure.  They come effortlessly if we remove everything that covers them.  The visionary movement promoted the “God as concierge” notion.  It focused on receiving whatever was missing from life.  If you believed in the power of vision enough, the universe submitted to your belief.  It is an updated version of the genie in the bottle.  But now your mind has another belief to follow and a pain-in-the-ass genie to tote around.  None of us need more beliefs.

Those of us who followed the power of thought movements acquired extra manure to scoop (and a genie that is more trouble than he’s worth).  We got lots of new and improved ways of doing hard work.  The mind starts out visualizing the car or the house.  But eventually, to get up in the morning, you need  a vision the night before.  The mind takes any technique and makes it into a rule just like a computer program.  At first the technique is fun and game-like, but soon it becomes a fucking chore.

Our minds have no compassion.  They don’t give a damn if you try hard.  They don’t even care if you just lost your job and your husband left you for a man.  Minds only do what they are programmed to do.


Using a Vision Powerfully

But let’s not throw the baby out with the bath water.  A vision is a very important tool in the quest for freedom.  You just have to recognize that your mind is the ultimate grantor of wishes — not the universe, not God in the clouds, and not other people.  When all the beliefs and rules that block a vision are gone, the object or career or people you desire will be there wondering where in the hell you’ve been.

This is hard to see because we have so many beliefs in the way.  We’ve accepted social rules, religious rules, and beliefs.  We’ve got other people’s opinions and criticisms in the way.  We’ve got memories of times we didn’t get what we desired.  The positive thinking movement was built on the belief that we’ll never dig out all that shit so they invented ways to spread it out and plant some new seeds.  It works better in the garden than in the mind.

The reason for a vision is to tease our beliefs out of hiding.  If you get the object of the vision, it’s a bonus.  The real goal is freedom.  If we want a nicer house, we must learn which beliefs move us toward the house and which ones don’t.  Then we let the blocking beliefs go.  Discrimination and letting go are easier if we set a direction.  Success is never about getting the vision.  In fact, looking for evidence of the reward is like shooting yourself in the head to remove a belief; it doesn’t work.

Very often, I’ve worked incredibly hard toward a vision only to realize that the vision wasn’t that great.  It served its purpose because it motivated me to let go. Now a new and improved vision moved into my mind.


A Vision Focused on Giving

The biggest flaw in the vision board activity is that it is focused on receiving; our True Self loves to express or give its gifts.  In “Culinary Artistry,” the author describes three types of chefs.  The first is the burger-flipper, the second is the accomplished chef, and the last is the culinary artist.  He says that the burger-flipper wants survival, the accomplished chef wants enjoyment, but the third wants to entertain.  The artist, he points out, uses his talent to give, not receive.  And yet, what we receive in return says it all.  He says that the burger-flipper produces people who say,”I’m full.” The accomplished chef produces customers who say, “That was delicious.”  But the culinary artist transcends cooking altogether and people leave saying, “Life is wonderful.”  That’s the true power of vision.


The lost art of mentorship talks about giving our talents.