By Cathy Eck
Just Let Go
Lots of people are exposing lies in the world today. They’re ripping the mask off of the illusion and exposing reality. Because of these courageous people, even the most constipated of believers can at least see that “other” people’s beliefs aren’t the truth. However, they cling to their own beliefs as right.
Consequently, people debate about beliefs, protest beliefs, and kill for their beliefs. They complain about other people’s beliefs. And worst of all, they fix the effects of beliefs. What they don’t do…is let go of the damn beliefs. Consequently, they’ve got one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake.
Conflict occurs when we talk and act without first letting go. When we don’t let go first, our mind is fighting another person’s illusory reality within their reality. They know their reality far better than we do. It took me a long time to learn this lesson. Hopefully, I can shortcut it for you.
Our reality is truth plus our beliefs. If we’re living it, we believe it. If we’re fighting it, protesting it, or fixing it, we believe it. So why not let it go? People hold on because they think their reality is true. Unless it is perfect, it isn’t.
Tolerate or Fight
I grew up thinking that you could tolerate someone’s beliefs, nicely ignore them, or you could go to war with them. Usually I took the tolerance route until I had children. Then I couldn’t stand people imposing their beliefs on my children. I became like a mama tiger. But that got me into lots of conflict and caused me so much suffering. I didn’t like fighting. I wasn’t a great debater either. I usually lost even if I was technically right.
Eventually, I figured out how to let go. It was the elixir of life for me. If someone was sharing a belief that I knew wasn’t true, I noticed the emotion erupting inside of me; instead of using that emotion to go to war, I used the emotion to recognize that what they were saying was false (their reality). I’d remind myself that it lacked power in my life experience. I didn’t judge the person; I just didn’t believe them. Let me tell you, this takes practice. But it’s worth the effort.
An Imaginary Scenario
Believer: “Guns are my right under the Second Amendment!!! I won’t let anyone take them away!”
Free person notices that what believer said evoked emotion. They don’t say anything; they just discriminate in their own mind. Perhaps they think some silent words, “Well that doesn’t feel good. It isn’t true.” Notice what happens. Free person is clearing their own mind (remaining their True Self); there’s no judgment of believer. If anything, free person sees believer as confused, brainwashed, or afraid — but not bad.
Believer: “I’m afraid they’ll take my guns. There will be tyranny.”
Free person again feels emotions reminding them that what believer said was false. If you could see the energy, you’d see the believer’s comments push his or her emotion toward the listener. They aren’t feeling their own fear. They want support for their belief to fuel it. Free person lets go and returns to True-Self power. They’re now inspired to speak: “What are you afraid of?”
Believer: “The government is evil; it will take my freedom!”
Free person sees their confusion now. The believer thinks the government is causing his lack of freedom. In truth, his beliefs are causing his lack of freedom. The believer now has to feel his own fear. Free person asks, “Are you sure that the government is evil?”
Believer: “Yes, my preacher said so.”
Free person sees believer was brainwashed by authority. The thought arises in free person that they can’t reach believer. That thought came from their past; it’s a belief and feels bad. They let go. Inspired words come to bridge the gap, “In my experience, people are good to me because I’m good to them. Aren’t you good to others?” Free person isn’t believer’s authority; the goal is only to relieve emotional tension. Free person uses language that will calm the believer.
Believer: “Yes, I am.”
Free person: “I’d say you have nothing to worry about. You’ll never need that gun anyway.”
Staying in Power
When we stay in our True-Self power through discrimination and letting go, others can’t project their emotions on us or confuse us. Fighting can’t happen when everyone owns their own emotions. Emotions draw us inward to correct our OWN mind; they’re designed to make us powerless so we self-correct.
Anger and rage are emotions turned outward because we falsely believe that others caused our emotions. They didn’t. Our emotions are ALWAYS responding to our OWN thoughts about the other.
When we believe another, we do fall into their illusion; we accept their beliefs as our own. We might have been conned to accept their beliefs, but we’re the ones holding on to them.
People think they must suppress (tolerate) or express (fight). They’ve never learned to discriminate (let go). When we get the warning from our emotions and let go, we stay in power. Our True Self is nonjudgmental and unconditionally loving. Unconditional love is the greatest power in the universe.
Sometimes, the believer stops talking or changes the subject. Other times, they see their own flawed logic and correct their error. Inspired words often come to the free person to bridge the gap. People who are board-up-their-ass-rigid believers generally stay away from True Selves. They think the True Self is evil because they see their own reflection in them.
People have fought over beliefs since history began. It hasn’t worked. Others have been tolerating believers and missing out on life. Neither is acceptable. When we fight the beliefs of another, we’re driving with one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake. We get nowhere. When we see beliefs as false, illusory, we travel full-speed ahead down the superhighway.