Stay Out of Other’s Minds (We Aren’t Meant to be Psychic)

Psychic

By Cathy Eck

 

Psychic Studies 101

When I was in graduate school, I took a class in psychic studies.  I’d just read the book, “Psychic Discoveries Behind the Iron Curtain,” and I fantasized about being able to make better business decisions or being able to detect people’s hidden motivations.  In class, we did these creepy exercises where you extended your energy into the other person’s energy field.  Then you said whatever you heard in your mind.  I felt like I was sticking my hands in raw sewage.  When they connected with me, I was even more creeped out.   Fortunately, my grade was dependent on how well I wrote about my experiences and not my success rate.

Although, one day we had to guess where our teacher was.  He was hiding somewhere in the city.  Someone came into class and said to draw whatever we thought.  I thought of a giant dick so I drew that.   Turns out he was standing by the water tower above.  So everyone thought I got it right.

Another time, we had to do a reading about someone based on name only.  I decided to go ice skating and write whatever I thought about while skating.  I wrote about rats.  Turned out my person was kind of a rat, a shrewd business wheeler-dealer.  He also had rats in his NYC apartment.  But quite honestly, his last name sounded like a mafia name.  It was a great metaphor.

Was I psychic, or was I just fucking around and happened to get some things sort of right?  I vote for fucking around.

 

Battered Minds

As part of the class, we had to attend a “Battered Minds” group meeting — professional psychics who were stuck in victimhood because they saw a vision of something bad, like 9/11.  I got up and walked out after a few minutes.  They were all compulsive whiners.  They believed every emotionally wrapped thought that entered their minds; they had absolutely NO discrimination.  They thought everything was about them.

Clearly they tapped into the collective illusion and saw 9/11 or some other tragic event.  But was that helpful?  To me, it only proved that they believed the illusion to be true and unchangeable.  I didn’t want to marinate in their world view.  The illusion won’t disappear until we stop believing it.

The purpose of a prophet is not to tell us the future so we can sit in fear and wait until the dreaded prophecy passes, declaring said prophet right or wrong.  It’s to recognize where we’re headed and to drop the thoughts that are causing that unwanted future from the collective conversation.

Psychic Studies 101 was many years ago, and I’ve done a lot of discriminating and letting go since.  The ancient ones were right.  Everything is mind.  The best place for our mind to be focused is on itself.  If everyone let go of their own unwanted thoughts, the world would be amazing in no time at all.

Most people are highly focused on other people’s minds.  In fact, I’ve mentored people pleasers who admitted that they often get in other people’s minds so they know what to say to please them.  False minds analyze and hold onto other people’s thoughts in order to look good, stay safe, keep them in their life, or say the right thing.  Our false minds have gotten erroneously connected and intertwined; and that’s why we’re all so damn confused.

Our job is our OWN mind.  If someone else’s experience generates emotion when we hear them talk, then it isn’t true for us.  If they want to make it true for them, that’s their prerogative.  But freedom is about being a master of our own mind; and that requires minding our own damn business.

 

The Lesson

We were required to experience a bunch of personal readings during that class.  I taped them all.  A few years ago, I listened to the tapes one last time before I trashed my tape recorder and tapes.  More than a decade had passed, nothing in them came true.  Nothing!  These were professional psychics, not students.

The future that they saw had been wiped off my mental hard drive.  They were reading my false mind, and I’d let much of that go.  Most of them tapped into my false desires and told me what I wanted to hear.  They picked up on my false fears and told me that they wouldn’t happen.  They said what I longed to hear to sooth my crappy beliefs.  They also gave me reasons for things that were happening in my life — spirit attachments, angels, karma, or past lives.  That was all bullshit too.  False minds love reasons.  But reasons are worthless.  The false mind has got 99 problems, and it’s causing all of them.

Intuition is also a false self skill that allows us to work around our beliefs.  It’s very helpful in the illusion, but it’s worthless if our goal is freedom.  Inspiration is what we want.  Inspiration comes from our True Self.  It’s usually silent.  We just find ourself doing something without much thinking at all.

Quite frankly, I wanted psychic or intuitive power because I was afraid of my future.  I’d become accustomed to being blindsided.  I wanted advance warning to avert problems.  I no longer trusted my True Self to keep me safe.  I’d become afraid of surprises because they were usually bad.

What I really wanted was to purify my false mind and take what I got, knowing that it would be what I wanted, needed, and earned.   I didn’t want to have a concrete and perfect plan; I wanted to be constantly pleasantly surprised.  I didn’t want to see the crappy illusion and grab only the good stuff.  I didn’t want to will the world into submission.  I didn’t want to know people’s beliefs and say the right thing to please them.  Psychic Studies 101 was very interesting but truly worthless.  So I closed that door and got back on the path to freedom.

 

Honesty, Reality, and the True Self

Honesty and looking in the mirror

By Cathy Eck

 

Honesty Used Ineffectively

One of the biggest problems that arises in people who want to be themselves and free their mind is they’re usually really honest people.  Often their honesty gets them in trouble when trying to let go.  This was a mind trick that nailed my ass to the wall for a long time.

Let’s say you want to lose weight.  When you look in the mirror, you see reality.  You don’t like what you see, and your false mind honestly comments on what it sees.  Positive thinkers would say to look in the mirror and say, “I’m a skinny person,” 5000 times.  But you’re an honest person; that just doesn’t work for you.  It feels like lying.  In fact, it just makes things worse.  Since you can’t lie, and your reality is in your face, you feel hopelessly screwed by your own honesty.

The problem is that your beliefs have already created too much weight.  So how do you get behind the reality to let go of the beliefs?  What you must realize is that the beliefs you currently hold in mind in this very moment are the beliefs that got you to this point.  The good news is that as you look in the mirror, you’re probably feeling emotion.  That means that the beliefs are close to the surface of your mind.  The emotion will take you to the causal belief if you follow it.

The key is to change your mental focus from what you see to what you are thinking and feeling.  In that way, you can find the cause and let it go.

Our goal is to let go of any belief about weight that isn’t true.  If we can let go of all of the beliefs that we have about food, exercise, genetics, body type, or weight in general, then we won’t be able to create too much weight anymore.

Now I realize that I’ve picked a loaded topic.  Most of us can let go of food and exercise beliefs for a long time without running out of them.  We’ve accepted a hell of a lot of them; and if we’re honest, they all feel bad.  They can also be tricky to let go because we got most of them from experts.  But if we want freedom, we have to strip the power from the experts.  Our True Self is much wiser.

 

The Process

As we look in the mirror and see too much weight, we can feel the emotion arising.  Our honesty is dying to express itself.  If we’ve hung out in the new thought movement, we’ll want to put whipped cream on our honesty.  But don’t do it.  Whatever our mind is saying is just a belief; we don’t have to hide it or fear it because we can let it go.  This is really facing our fears.  Instead of decorating them, stuffing ourselves with some cake, turning on the television, or whining to a friend, we feel the emotion, witness the causal thoughts as they arise, and let them all go.

Let’s say that when you looked in the mirror you said, “I’m so fat.”  That comment clearly doesn’t feel good.  But you say, “That isn’t a belief.  It’s true.  I am fat.”  And therein lies the problem. Focusing on reality or labeling it solidifies the belief even more.  It makes it even harder to create change.

 

Honesty is Your Ally

Most people say, “You must deny what you see.  Cancel, cancel.”  That’s just fixing the illusion, and the illusion will come back later on.  We must remove the illusion to eliminate the problem completely.

We succeed if we turn our honesty on our mind.  This is what allows the situation to change.  Our biggest mental downfall, that perpetuates all problems, is that we’re all far too focused on reality.  We talk about reality; we warn people about reality.  But reality is caused by our beliefs.  Reality isn’t the truth.  Remember reality is our True Self, plus our beliefs.

We must stop commenting on what we SEE in the mirror; instead, we turn our ally of honesty on our mind.  Our mind says, “You look terrible.”  That comment clearly doesn’t feel good; so it isn’t true (meaning it isn’t who we really are).  Go into mind clean up mode.  Stay focused on the job at hand.  Our mind can continue to comment all it wants; but as it comments, we let go of every thought that doesn’t feel good.  In this way, we’ve begun the process of clearing our mind of all the beliefs that caused the excess weight.

As the beliefs go, we might spontaneously choose different food, find ourself taking up a sport, or just losing the weight without any action at all.  Our True Self will inspire us if any action is necessary for us.

 

The Goal of Life

The goal of life is not to prove reality right.  Anyone can do that.  The goal of life is to return to our True Self.  To do that, we must let reality know that we know it’s false.

This is the hardest switch for people to make in freeing their minds.  Almost no one does it.  It’s especially difficult when it comes to our body, our finances, or world events.  It drives us insane in relationships where we let go, and the other person keeps reminding us of reality.  But that’s why initiation isn’t for wimps.

Our false self thinks that we have to fix reality.  But reality is an illusion.  It makes no sense to fix a false illusion.  Eventually, one incredibly wonderful day, we no longer hold any beliefs in our mind.  Then reality and the truth are the same thing.

So be honest about what you are thinking, not what you see.  Be hard core in forcing your mind to drop whatever thoughts contain emotion.  Then you can turn anything around.

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Why are Human’s So Gullible?

By Cathy Eck

What follows is a clip from The Tonight Show with Jay Leno.  Trevor Moore, a comedian, made up fake and useless inventions.  Watch the innocent people who are asked to test his products.  Would you have fallen for his trick?

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Marketing, Politics, Religion…Lies, Lies, Lies

Every day we are bombarded by marketing.  We buy things that we don’t really want.  We hope that the claims that the advertisers make are true.

We listen to politicians and hope they are telling the truth.  But do they ever tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

Recent studies claim that people don’t just lie daily, they lie hourly.  People lie about everything.  People no longer feel guilty or shameful when they lie; they only feel bad when they get caught.  Some people even feel bad when they don’t lie.

 

White Lies are Still Lies

This is a subject near and dear to me.  Growing up, I was unable to tell a lie of any color; then I married a man who was normal in the lying department.  I remember hoping that he would teach me how to communicate.  He did; over time, he convinced me that lying was socially correct.

In his eyes, I was rude and uncaring.  He saw lies as charm and kindness.  He told people what they wanted to hear even if it was complete crap. You might recognize him as a people pleaser.  People pleasers are damn good liars.  I went along with his beliefs for many years, but then I realized that I didn’t like myself anymore.

My relationships had become superficial, including my relationship with him.   When I didn’t tell the truth, I couldn’t tell if others told me the truth.  I accepted compliments that I knew were white lies.  Trying to figure out what others wanted to hear was too much work for me.

One day, I decided that I was returning to complete honesty even if it had a price.  I revamped my business around telling the truth, and my business thrived because it was my business.  But the rest of my life didn’t thrive.  I felt as if I had broken some sort of nonverbal agreement that said, “I won’t expose your lies if you don’t expose mine.”  But that isn’t relationship, at least not in my world.

 

Why Do We Lie?

I didn’t belong in that world, and I left it.  I don’t miss it at all.  Exiting from that world required me to face the reasons that I’d accepted lying as right, spiritual, or nice.  Here are a few:

1)  The truth hurts; people don’t want to hear the truth

2)  People don’t want your opinion; they want support for their opinions

3)  If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all

4)  Everybody lies

5)  Life is competitive — winner takes all

6)  You get punished if you tell the truth

7)  I hurt people if I tell them the truth

Lying has a price that people deny.  My husband believed that God wanted him to be nice, and truthful wasn’t nice.  Since everyone in his life was such a hot mess, then lying was being nice, I guess.  But lying perpetuates their mess.  Agreeing that someone is incurable doesn’t help them find a cure.  Lying keeps people stuck.

 

The Truth Does Set Us FREE

God wants us to live from truth and unconditional love.  When we lie to another or to ourself, we cut ourselves off from God.  Then we have to get from others what we would normally get from God.  We are people pleasers because we need people to like us — we are lonely because we are cut off from God.  It  is a giant circular mess.

 

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Beliefs Are an Acceptable  Form of Lying

My biggest challenge since I reverted to telling the truth is that most people don’t believe me.  The truth often sounds stranger than fiction.  The truth feels odd when we are used to hearing beliefs, which are half-truths, and lies.

On some level, people want to be lied to.  Our false self doesn’t like when our beliefs are challenged.  We were programmed to be that way.  People would rather believe for a moment that their face will lose the wrinkles from an air machine or their junk will stay in place than face the facts and fix the true cause, which is always a belief.  People are suckers for beliefs that feel good in the moment because they hope that the new seemingly positive belief will counteract all the negative ones.

You can’t cure a belief with another belief.  At best, you get some temporary relief.  If these innocent people in the video knew they were beautiful or had junk that stayed in place, they wouldn’t even be pulled into the salesman’s world.  We don’t need hope when we live from the truth.

 

Letting Go Brings Us Back to Our True Self

The biggest lies we were ever sold are: we can’t let go of beliefs, we must believe authority, and we can’t tell the truth from a lie.  Those beliefs cause us to be gullible.

When we let go of the lies in our own mind, we see the lies clearly in others.  We don’t fall for other people’s beliefs, and sometimes they don’t like that.  Like this video, their thoughts, beliefs, and even their lies become funny to us.  We feel comfortable exposing them, and sometimes they even laugh along with us.  Sometimes they find someone else to lie to.  Either way, we don’t end up as the proud owner of  a Junk Jumbler.

 

While we are on the subject of lying, “Here are my Top Ten Biggest Lies Ever Told.