By Cathy Eck
Most of us have been taught to take the blame for things that we didn’t cause when we were stuck in feminine roles. We’ve been guilted or shamed; and we’ve been taught to please others, especially authority, even if their demands are ridiculous.
Blame, shame, and guilt are the Superglue of the illusion. They don’t exist in the true world. Therefore, with some discrimination and wisdom, we can free ourselves from them.
In the true world, there are no roles. But roles dominate our social structure (the illusion), and that isn’t a problem as long as we honor the natural flow of the energy in the illusory roles we play. Blame involves a reversal of the natural flow of masculine and feminine roles.
Normally, the masculine energy (intellect) holds the beliefs, and the feminine energy reflects those beliefs. In blame, the masculine energy says that the cause of the problem lies with the person or people playing the feminine role. Or sometimes, the person in the masculine role blames another masculine role (like Obama and Bush/Romney).
If we are in a feminine role in the illusion, we cannot be blamed unless the leader wasn’t really leading. If the masculine role is leading from truth as it should, nothing bad can go wrong. When things go wrong, it’s the leader’s belief that’s the cause, not the follower’s reflection of the belief.
Only the person in the masculine role can drop the causal belief. The emotions and wild behavior, that often occurs in the people in the feminine role, are the effect of the false beliefs of the masculine. When the mind of the authority changes, their feminine reflection changes. To fix the feminine is to fix the effect. To blame the feminine is to blame the effect. It doesn’t make any sense. But we accept this reversed way of thinking because we’ve been trained to. Everyone in the illusion is breaking their own mirror.
If you blame the feminine, you can’t solve the problem. The feminine doesn’t have the responsibility; it’s not the cause. The child can’t fix their parent’s belief. The employee can’t fix their CEO’s vision. Church members can’t fix their preacher’s mind. Citizens can’t fix their leader’s flawed perspective. The feminine can leave when they’ve had enough, or they can let go and become the masculine. Fighting (or war) happens when the feminine has had enough and tries to take the power back from the masculine. Crimes are often committed against someone who reminds the criminal of their hated masculine authority. To fix problems, the authority, masculine role, must take responsibility, fix their own mental cause, and everything will go back to perfection. But that almost never happens in the illusion.
Early Bible stories trained our western mind to reverse our natural cause and effect thinking. Eve (feminine) got blamed for the fall. Moses (masculine) blames his people (feminine). When you understand the masculine-feminine relationship in the illusion, you can’t be fooled into taking the blame any longer.
This is also true within ourselves. When something goes wrong in our life, the cause is in our intellectual masculine mind. Our emotions are only the messenger — we should never shoot the messenger. If we let go of our own causal beliefs, our emotions will calm down immediately. But often our own inner mental masculine, just like outer physical masculine authorities, wants to be right at all cost.
Guilt and Shame
Guilt and shame are given to us by authority figures (masculine roles). No one is born with guilt or shame.
These two emotional states can be difficult to let go because someone else imposed them on us. Our mind says that we can’t let guilt or shame go; the authority must free us. Since we’re lower in power (feminine) than the authority (masculine), we think that we don’t have the right or ability to remove the causal belief. This is a disgusting trick of the false mind. It can keep us stuck for a whole lifetime.
The True Self is not capable of doing anything wrong because right and wrong comes from the false self. If we did make mistakes (sins), we did so because we were caught in the illusion, a false self. We didn’t want a false self; our authorities gave it to us when they taught us their beliefs and said they were true. Our false self was created in the image and likeness of our false authority figures.
I’ve followed many people’s guilt and shame back to the source; they all lead to a really powerful, but rigid, authority figure (usually religious). Crime is not caused by evil people. Crime is caused by the religious-perpetuation of the belief in good and evil and right and wrong. We see it because we believe in it.
Freeing Our Mind
In my experience, and I’ve done this hundreds of times, the person who is blaming, shaming, or guilting was projecting their responsibility, negative character trait, or belief on to the person in the feminine role. Once we take the blame, shame, or guilt, they have no reason to ever fix their problem. Their mind feels a sort of fake freedom. That’s why when we let their projection go, they often react with lots of emotion. That’s their problem. When you drop blame, shame, or guilt from your mind, your True Self can breath again.
If you are someone who thinks others should be blamed or shamed or guilted, you probably aren’t reading this blog. But just in case you are, remember that when you point the finger at another, three fingers are pointing back at you. The cause is within your mind; and if you let go, they won’t reflect you anymore. Letting go is always win-win for everyone.