The True Self is Simple; Complexity is False but Interesting

Truth versus Lies (Beliefs)

By Cathy Eck

You Don’t Need to Learn the Truth,

You Only Need to Let Go of What Hides It

When I was in business nearly every day someone yelled, “KISS” (keep it simple stupid).  People in intellect-driven fields, like accounting and technology, often make something really simple into something very complex.  Complexity costs money.  Often it’s born from someone trying to prove their personal superiority at the expense of the team or company.

Those who could keep it simple were valuable.  They could move a team of diverse people though a project and get it done without problems.

 

Preachers and Teachers

I’m often reminded of this when I listen to intellectuals explain their view of consciousness.  They see sacred geometry, worm holes, and parallel universes.  It’s cool, and I love to read about their perspective.  I enjoy their lectures and love that they shared them with me.  But I see it as their perspective.

At one time, I’d accept other’s perspectives as THE truth, often because they were convinced that their perspective was the absolute truth.  I’d stuff their perspective into my already cluttered mind.  Later, I realized that their perspective wasn’t completely true.  Often cognitive dissonance traversed their broad canyons.  Most perspectives are a blend of true and false — that’s human perception.

Right-brained people see divine images of Gods and Goddesses or the cosmos; they hear channeled beings.  That’s all cool too; and it produces amazing art and stories.  But once again, if we turn it into THE truth versus their truth, we create confusion.  The truth that we all share, uniquely expressed, plus our beliefs create our life perspective (our reality).  I don’t dislike beliefs.  But, I abhor when someone makes their beliefs the truth.  That causes every problem in the world; it keeps people in prisons of misery.

 

KISS Equals Freedom

I learned from my business years.  I keep my ideals for this website lean and simple.  When our intellect isn’t engaged, letting go is easier.

First, I want everyone to have the ability to find their truth, their wisdom, and their creative genius inside.  That’s a human right.

Second, I want to expose beliefs that people have sold as the truth so that they no longer hurt people.

Third, I want to empower people to “JUST SAY NO” to other people’s beliefs if they don’t enhance their life.  I want people to know they can let go and how to do it.  That way, if they want to, they can clean up their mind and live their perfect life.

 

Simple Works

I offer simple analogies and techniques because when you tear open the mind, you find that it’s simple.  Learning and memorizing made our minds so damn complex.  If we feel emotion when we think something, it’s false.  How can anything be more simple than that?  It’s the false mind that added masculine/feminine, projection, and psychological reversal so that we’d get confused about what is true and what is false.  It’s the false mind that said that beliefs are true even though they feel bad.  When we add complexity to our mind by filling it with beliefs, we make ourselves rigid and ordinary.  We cover up our True Self.  Complexity breeds problems and then solves those same problems.

The processes that I suggest are simple, but don’t discount them.   We’re often afraid to let go of our knowledge because we think we’ll become grunting cavemen.  But that hasn’t been my experience at all.  Our false mind tells us that it’s giving us what can only come from our True Self.  Our false mind lies because it’s afraid of dying or being exposed.

 

Which is more beautiful?

Looking at a rose or reading the biological description of one.

Which is more loving?

Holding the person you love or studying their biological anatomy.

Which is more real?

The Army’s beliefs and emotions or the number of people and date that he killed them.

When we intellectualize something, we move away from the essence of it.  We become incapable of true love or being our authentic Selves.  Hurting others becomes easy.

That’s what society has done.  It’s tried to explain everything with logic.  In doing so, it has lost the simplicity, the beauty, and the love that’s natural.  We don’t need to know every line in a play; we just need to know our part.  But we’ll think we need to know and control everything if we can’t trust the other people on the stage.  We’ve become more knowledgeable and less trusting because knowledge can’t be trusted; it isn’t wisdom.

Knowledge is becoming worthless as it should be.  We’re living at a time when we can let computers store the facts and data, while we focus on being ourselves, being creators and innovators, or being true lovers.  People go to workshop after workshop to learn what’s true when they have a perfect discrimination system inside that they don’t use.  There are classes on how to hook our soul mate, but why?  If the soul has a mate, can’t it find the damn thing?   We see our True Self as weak.  Thanks religion.  We must realize how stupid we’ve become since we’ve accepted knowledge and let it go.

The intellect isn’t bad.  I’m still an intellectual person, but I know when to pull on the reigns and stop the horse from going the wrong way.  When a belief is hurting myself or another, I let it go.  When a belief has to be held together with duct tape to work, I let it go.  When a belief keeps me from a dream that feels peaceful and calm and right, I let it go.  When another demands me to think like them, I let them go.  It really is simple.

Beliefs can be fun and creative so long as we never forget that no matter how cool beliefs might be, they aren’t true.  And if they no longer serve our needs, we can let them go.

Letting Go of Beliefs Using Emotional Release Techniques

emotional release

By Cathy Eck 

 

Why Do We Have Emotions?

I was so confused by emotions growing up.  My father seemed to have too few, and my mother seemed to have too many.  My mother’s way of emotional release wasn’t pretty.  I decided at a young age, that I wanted to find the true purpose of emotions.

Most people hate their emotions.  They go to extreme lengths to avoid or suppress them.  If addictions or distractions don’t sooth their emotional body, they make their environment sterile from triggering events and people.  Then their lives start to mimic a fish in a glass bowl.  Every day looks the same — nothing ever changes.  Others develop a hard shell and lose their ability to be intimate or authentic with others.  Avoiding emotions isn’t the answer.

 

Emotions Turn Us Inward

Emotions are designed to pull us inward so we’ll examine our minds and let go of problematic beliefs (causes).  Ideally, when we feel emotion, we’d remove our attention from what is outside and turn inside.  We’d witness or follow the emotion to the causal belief.  We’d let the causal belief go, and the emotion would go too.

When we release, suppress, or express our emotions without finding the causal belief, we create a temporary fix, not a permanent cure.

 

If your beliefs are serving you and harmless to others, you won’t feel emotions and you won’t cause emotional outbursts in others.  Emotions were wrongfully blamed because they reveal beliefs; they keep us truthful.  They push us to be ourselves.

Often people in our past didn’t like our True Self.  They forced their beliefs on us in order to make us like them.  We twisted our minds to think that the emotion we felt around their beliefs confirms their rightness, creating psychological reversal.

We have two choices in life.  We can let go of our desire to live in the world authentically as our True Self and follow the path of our beliefs (false self), or we can let go of whatever beliefs pulled us into the illusion and live as our True Selves.

 

Emotional Release Techniques

Most therapy is about creating an emotional release because emotions are considered evil within the illusion.  If you want complete freedom, you need techniques that free beliefs, not just emotions.  Eliminating emotions provides relief, but it doesn’t eliminate the cause.

If you examine the emotional release technique of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), the practitioner advises the client to rub themselves or tap on certain meridians while saying words like, “Even though I’m very ashamed of myself, I unconditionally love and accept myself.”  Those words still accept the notion of shame as real or possible.  Shame exists only in the illusion so the action is trying to fix the illusory shame rather than let it go.  Shame doesn’t exist in the True Self.

The patient believes they’ve fixed the problem, and so it appears.  But they’ve really put ice cream on top of manure and created a sundae.  They’re left with shame plus a belief that shame was removed.  They don’t get the complete release of knowing that shame isn’t real.

In the illusion, there’s a core principal that the illusion is true.  Therefore, you can’t let it go.  Doctors, therapists, lawyers, government, military, teachers, inventors, and parents are all trying to fix the illusion.  Thus, the illusion stays in tack.  To get free, you have to let go the illusion — not fix it.

 

Letting Go is True Emotional Release

Before I discovered how to let go, I tried to EFT.  I feared that I was going to put holes in my body because I tapped so much.  I lived in an environment where beliefs were spoken all the time.  It was clear that emotional release techniques didn’t help because my environment triggered beliefs and created new emotions as fast as I could release them.

We could adapt the language of EFT to include letting go so it becomes more than just emotional release. You’d do that by changing the language to include discrimination.  When you rub or tap to say, “Even though…blah, blah,” you could change the words to, “I let go of the belief that I’m a bad person because shame is a false idea.”  However, you can’t fake letting go; it can’t just be about saying the words like a mantra.

You must recognize that your belief in shame is false.  Your True Self never did anything wrong, even if your false self did.  Everything judged bad is false because anything bad or evil is caused by false beliefs like the notion of good and evil, and you didn’t invent that.

Bad or wrong only happens within the illusion.  In the illusion, it ALWAYS takes two to tango.  Victimhood is clearly part of the illusion.  Every event in the illusion is about two opposing charges coming together.  Most people are stuck in the illusion because they’ve been labeled bad or wrong, while the person holding the opposing charge is also stuck in their false goodness and irresponsibility.  If we get that, we can free ourselves completely.

When we let go of a causal belief, we return to our True Self.  Emotional release occurs as a natural biproduct.

 

Discrimination

If we do emotional release with discrimination, we’ll eventually realize that tapping is silly.  We’ll realize that what caused the letting go was always the fact that we discriminated between true and false.  We somehow got to the truth and realized that there is no bad or evil.  We realized that shame is illusory.  We can now eliminate the middle man and forget the tapping or breathing or any other ritual.

Emotional release is only a temporary fix.  If we don’t let the causal belief go, it will keep creating reality and those related emotions will return.  When we do the complete job of letting go at the cause, we never have the same problem or experience again.  We’re one belief closer to the freedom of a pure virgin mind.

 

The Awkward Phase On the Path To Freedom

Awkward Phase

 By Cathy Eck

 

Awkward Phase

When I was little, I’d often find myself caught in some stupid habit or pattern of thought.  My mother would say, “Ah, don’t worry about it.  It’s just an awkward phase.”  What might have become an obstruction to my freedom, like OCD or a serious addiction, left about as easily as it came.

Those are great words to remember on the quest for freedom because it often seems like one big awkward phase.  The reason for this is that when you start to choose freedom (the True Self), the remnants of your false self show up so that you can let them go.  But often they look very real, important, and true.  Usually they involve others.  Let’s look at some areas where awkwardness shows up on freedom road.

 

Traditions

Let’s pretend that your family had a tradition of Uncle Joe dressing up like Santa and bringing gifts to the children every year.  Now you’re an adult; you’ve not believed in Santa for a long time.  All the kids are gone, but Uncle Joe still dresses up.  It no longer makes sense. It’s awkward.

But even worse, now that you’ve decided to live from your True Self, you find that you can’t lie anymore.  Lying obstructs our freedom; it feels bad — yes, even so-called white lies.  Uncle Joe isn’t Santa.  The tradition that once looked fun now looks abominable.

In time, every tradition looks wrong from the eyes of the True Self.  Traditions are just beliefs on a schedule.  Traditions serve the false self.

So you’re in a quandary.  You don’t want to ruin what others think is fun; but to pretend Uncle Joe is Santa, you have to honor beliefs that now look ridiculous.  Awkward!

 

Love, Heroes, and Care Takers

People who live with both feet planted in the illusion love heroes and often shine way too brightly in a crisis.  For twelve years, I lived in a rural Virginia town and never saw an auto accident; my friend saw them all the time.  She loved getting in there to help.  I started to wonder if she was helping or causing the accidents.

Love is defined in the illusion as rescuing people from their problems, honoring that they’re victims with no responsibility, and care taking or serving without whining.  Now do a 180 and head for freedom, and you realize that all suffering is the product of the beliefs we’ve borrowed.  You can’t bear to watch someone suffer, victimhood looks like a jail cell, and you abhor problems.  But what do you do with the problem lovers and victims in your life?  Awkward!

Then there is the flip side where you mess up and create some crap in your life.  You know you’re responsible, and you just want time alone to work it out and clear your mind.  But friends and family all want to help you.  They start to feel sorry for you, and you want to kill them.  Very awkward!

 

Intentions

The illusion is all about what you do and what is right and wrong according to the illusory rulebook you’ve chosen to follow.  Now you board the freedom train, and you recognize that intention is what really matters.  Your friend is whining about her bad child for the tenth time this week.  But you can see the truth.  Her story is contributing to her child’s behavior.  Social conventions say a friend is a good listener.  But you want your friend to have a great relationship with her child so you suggest that she drop her story.  Your friend gets very mad and says you’re rude.

Now who is really the rude one?  Is it more rude to bombard your friends with all your problems and victim stories; or is it more rude to say, “I think  you’d be better off if you dropped that story?”  Awkward!

Then there is the flip side where your friends are all talking about American heroes, war, their beloved political party, and pride in America.  They’re funneling tons of fuel into the illusion, and you say nothing.  They call you unpatriotic and say you don’t care about your country.  But you understand that they’re contributing to more war and problems for the country.  You don’t want to contribute to that.  So you look bad again.  Awkward!

 

Emotions

You work very hard on your mind and more and more you realize that if you are thinking something that generates emotion, it isn’t true.  So when your family or friends piss you off, you go to work on yourself.  They start to think they’re perfect.  They never cause a problem anymore.

But then you do something that causes them emotion, and they blame it on you.  They still think that others cause their emotions, and they have no intention of letting what they see in you go.   Even worse, most of the time you didn’t do what they thought you did.  They just caught a glimpse of their own reflection.  Now just try to explain that you didn’t do what they’re sure you did.  Super awkward!

 

The Cause

None of these situations are fun.  In fact, they often make you feel like moving to a remote deserted island.  You feel like the world is just too crazy to live in.

What causes these awkward moments is that in the illusion, we’re trained to see though the eyes of other people or other beings like the old-man-in-the-sky God.  When we move toward freedom, we start to see the world through clear eyes.  However, we still remember how others saw us before.  We’re meeting the past moments that caused us to adopt someone else’s rulebook and abandon our True Self.  Old fear arises that we’ll be judged, humiliated, or punished.  But that can’t happen if we just remember to let go.

What looks like an awkward moment really is one more opportunity to gain freedom.  As long as we remember to let go, it really is just a phase.

 

 

 

When It Feels Like Our Love is Not Enough

Path of Venus and the apple

By Cathy Eck

 

 

When Love Is Not Enough

Years ago, I met a sweet woman who was going through a tragic situation with her son.  At the time, I didn’t know how to let go of beliefs, but I could see that she had a very big belief.  She said it over and over again.  “How can I save my son if my love is not enough?”  I doubt that there’s a person alive who has not thought those words at some point in their life.  We all long to save the people we hold dear, and often we suspect that we just don’t have enough love.

I couldn’t get her story out of my mind for years even though I lost touch with her.  It felt completely wrong to me that we would be living in a world where our love is not enough.  Yet, I too had that belief.  I had memories to prove it.

Then I came to understand beliefs.  When we believe words, they become our truth.  We see proof of our belief/truth in the world, then we believe it even more.  We get caught in an infinite loop with no exit.

 

Conditional Love

Love is not enough because most love in this world is conditional or romantic.  Half people who complete each other or caretakers who simply do what others say is right or proper are operating at the level of the false self; and in the illusion, love is not enough.  If love was enough, the illusion would end.

You see, love is the most powerful force in the universe because it supports the truth while simultaneously dissolving the false. Thus if you can unconditionally love any situation, disease, or enemy, the false disappears.  But we can’t fake unconditional love, and beliefs mask it.  So most people can’t express it.  Their cure, their joy, their freedom is right inside of them; and they cover it up with beliefs that they have borrowed from others.

 

The Fall

I came to realize the meaning of the fall, and why our love is not enough, one day while eating an apple.  I don’t like apples and rarely eat them; but I’d wondered why they used the apple in the story of Adam and Eve.  I thought eating one might help.  I cut the apple in half and saw the picture above.  The symbolism immediately fell into place.  Thankfully, I didn’t have to eat it to get the answer.

The photo above shows the inside of my apple; it has a five-pointed star in the arrangement of the seeds.  The five-pointed star is also drawn by tracing the movement of Venus over eight years and five days.  Venus (Greek Aphrodite) was associated with love.  However, she’s associated with human love, not unconditional love.  Thus her love is dual in nature.

 

moving the points in the pentagram

So when Adam and Eve ate the apple, they ate the apple of the illusion (duality), where the knowledge of good and evil reigns supreme.  If you look at the five-pointed star with one point on top, it looks like the Vitruvian Man.

Just like the triangle process, one point is on top and duality is on the bottom meaning that we’re living within duality, but we put our True Self first.  Ideally, we lead with unconditional love and simply use the illusion or duality for its creative potential (called first-cause creation).  People who do this often capture our hearts; they put the wisdom of the heart (True Self) in front of their head (false self).

On the other hand, if we turn the five-pointed star upside down, we get something with horns, which is where Satan came from.  Satan, or the horned devil, often is depicted as a goat. The goat was associated with Old Capricorn on the Zodiac.  He wasn’t the Creator God (Genesis I); he was an earthly God with lots of baggage like the Roman Saturn or the Greek Zeus.

When duality comes first, good-evil, win-lose, dominance-submission, or right-wrong are the foundation (second-cause creation).  Competition is normal and accepted.  The devilish part of humans (false self) says it loves us or cares for us while it’s actually limiting us.  It says it loves us as it requires us to believe its lies and obey its rules.  It says it’s caring for us while projecting its beliefs on us.  It loves us when it beats us in competition and makes us the enemy when it loses.

 

Unconditional Love or Old Capricorn?

It is our choice, which way we use our mind.  Which Venus do we honor?  Pay attention when you see the five-pointed star because those who use it usually know the difference between the one point up and the reverse.  It is an old, old symbol.  It speaks volumes.

Sadly, the God of the Old Testament was modeled after Saturn, Old Capricorn.  When we put that God before us, we live from conditional love and reward and punishment; then our love is not enough.  But when we let him go, our spark of the Creator God comes alive.

 

Isis

The answer can be found in another loving goddess, Isis (Egyptian).  Isis was the wife and sister of Osiris, the Sun God.  When her lover/brother was tricked and cut into pieces, Isis brought him back to life (she re-membered him) because she had a pure virgin mind and unconditional love.  She remembered who he really was.  The virgin mind was a mind with no beliefs.  It creates anew with ease.  (A virgin body doesn’t mean a damn thing so have all the sex you want.)

When we let go of conditional love, we’re left with the heavenly man.  The Vitruvian Man stands within the squared circle, the symbol for the union of heaven (circle) and earth (square); he’s perfect.  He’s free.  This man was the ancient high initiate, who used his body as a temple for his True Self (his God within).  For this man or woman, love is enough.

 

Living Life from the Eye of the Hurricane

Life became calm when we live from the eye of the hurricane

While the rest of the world is blowing around in the wind, our True Self always lives from the eye of the hurricane where life is calm and quiet.

By Cathy Eck

 

Hurricane as a Metaphor

In the ancient world, everything had meaning.  Every event had a lesson.  Every person and every experience was a mirror into our inner world, our thoughts and our beliefs.  The ancient ones understood that nothing could happen to us unless we had a belief that allowed it into our experience.

This was a very powerful way to live.  It isn’t easy to take responsibility for the problems that come into our life, especially when they are as big as a hurricane.  I’ve known this for years and still struggle with it every day.  But it is how we were born to live;  if we have the responsibility, then we have the power.

The trick to life in the ancient world was to stay in the eye of the hurricane where everything was calm.  Since our beliefs created our reality, our job was to make sure that we didn’t accept beliefs into our mind that allowed problems to enter our life experience.

Our True Self has no beliefs.  The True Self doesn’t know of problems.  Very few people live from the True Self.  Often it takes a crisis for people to drop their beliefs and live from the truth.  People who have been polarized by the 2012 election will help another out in a crisis regardless of party if their lives or homes are in danger.  It is sad, but often reality.

 

Our True Self Lives in the Eye of the Hurricane

Our True Self doesn’t know of problems.  The True Self is always calm, always clear, always empowered.  While the rest of the world is flying around in the winds of their false self, the True Self sits calmly and quietly in the eye of the hurricane.

While many people live through an event like a hurricane, each person has a unique experience.  According to the ancients, each gets their own personal message.  Each one gets the challenge that they need the most.  The reason for the challenge is only to push them to let go, to move to the eye of the hurricane, to stop fighting life by rigidly holding on to beliefs that just aren’t true (especially the beliefs they have about their fellow human beings).

The Eye of the Hurricane is simply a symbol.  But every challenge that comes us has an eye.  It is that place in our minds where we can see the beliefs that allowed the experience to unfold for us as it did.  The more we let go, the easier it is to stay in the eye.

The ancients taught us that nothing bad could happen if we didn’t have a belief that let it in.  So bad events and people expose the beliefs we hold in mind.  Sadly that information was lost, and losing that secret stripped us of our power.  We won’t let go of beliefs if we don’t know they are false or don’t know we can let them go.

 

Authority Moved to the Center

Kings don’t have slaves if people are empowered.  Religion isn’t necessary if people recognize their power.  You don’t need prophets or oracles to talk to God for you if you can do it yourself.  So early religious and political leaders made God responsible and humans powerless.  Kings and priests could talk to God, and God said what the kings and priests decided they would say.  Humans became mortal and flawed.  The Goddess was silenced; and the link between the normal human being and God was cut.  People no longer understood why bad things happened to them when they tried so damn hard to be good.

When the leaders are sitting in the eye of the hurricane, and we are flying around in the wind, it does no good to take personal responsibility because we’ve given them our power.  We have to recognize that leaders are not our authorities, we are.  We have to let go of the beliefs that keep us inferior to our leaders.  We have to take back our power.  We have to know that we control our destiny.  We have to know that our own thoughts and beliefs affect the quality of our life.

 

Taking Back Our Power

It is time that we all take back our power.  We need to look at our beliefs and if they don’t increase our personal power, help to keep us safe and secure, or reconnect us to God, then we need to let them go.  We were meant to live in a diverse and crazy world from the eye of the hurricane.  We were meant to live from certainty and clarity.  We were meant to be able to discriminate between truth and falsehood.  We were meant to be responsible for our life, and that is very good news.

People can play a leader role in religion and in politics if they can inspire us and make win-win decisions that support our personal power.  They can help us to stand in the eye of the hurricane along side of them.  They don’t get to tell us what to think or who we are.  They don’t get to stand in the way of our safety or our connection to God.  They don’t get to tell us how to live.  They don’t get to control our destiny.  And if they do throw us out in the wind, we have the right to ignore them because they are false.  We have the right to live in the center, in the eye of the hurricane.

 

Staying in the eye of the hurricane requires eliminating level confusion.

 

Just Laugh At It: The Healing Power of Laughter

 

Rabid Dog

It was my dream of the big black dog that taught me the true power of laughter.

By Cathy Eck

 

Just Laugh At It

Many years ago, I had a dream with an important lesson that I’ve never forgotten.  In this dream, I was standing in the barn where my daughter kept her horse.  A big black dog with huge white teeth came toward me.  He was even frothing at the mouth.  I was terrified.  The dog was ready to bite me when I heard a voice in my head that said, “Just laugh at it.”  I started laughing at the dog.  At first, it was kind of like faking it until I made it.  But then I found the true humor, and I really cut loose.  The dog turned and walked away.

I thought that I understood the dream until I tried to apply it in other aspects of my life.  It was so much easier to laugh at the dog in my dream, where I didn’t take things so damn serious.

People in my life had trained me not to laugh because they said it hurt their feelings.  They thought I was laughing at them.  But I wasn’t laughing at them; I was laughing at their baggage.  I knew they were not their baggage; but they didn’t.  Sadly, many people think they are their beliefs, their baggage, and their memories.  I believed them when they said I was hurtful, not realizing that their misery was wanting my company.

 

Finding Our Inner Comedian

My dream caused me to take a closer look at comedy, and to challenge those who felt I should not laugh at people’s false selves.  Really good comedians take the edge off of reality.  In fact, the best jokes are born from reality.  Our world is filled with false authorities who think they are right and intelligent.  But they are actually giant collections of stupid beliefs, most of which are highly outdated or overrated.  Comedians expose the beliefs that just aren’t true.  And often the authority is not very happy that they are the brunt of their joke — remember Sarah Palin and Saturday Night Live — it was funny because it was so real.

Comedians also give us permission to find our own point of view.  Great comedians help us remove the curtain from the Wizard; they take the authority out of authority.  Often, they expose the naked truth.

We can learn from comedy where our own wounds exist.  Wounds show up in jokes that we just can’t laugh at because we find them too offensive or too personal.  When we can’t laugh, we are taking the situation too seriously.  Sometimes, we can’t laugh because the person is showing us a reality that we thought we were doing a damn good job of hiding.  Either way, comedy is still doing us a favor if we take in the lesson.

When we can’t joke about something, we aren’t being authentic.  Something is hiding; and that is never good.  I remember when Obama was first elected.  The comedians didn’t joke about him for awhile, and I wondered if we were in big trouble as a nation.  If you can’t laugh at an authority, you blindly obey them.  Laughter and freedom go hand in hand.

 

Laughter Dissolves False Authority

Our outer authorities take up residence in our mind when we believe them; they become our inner authorities, our beliefs.  Laughter dissolves our inner authorities.  The critical voice can’t mock us when we laugh at it.  The voice that tells us that “we can’t have or do what we want” shuts up when we laugh at it.  The voice of “shoulds” disappears when we see it as lacking in power through laughter.

When we can’t laugh at something, we’ve given our power away to it.  And that was the message of the big black dog.  Through laughter, I reclaimed my authority, my power.  And once I was back in power, the dog did what I wanted it to do.  I was not controlling the dog or willing the dog.  The laughter restored my true Self, my true inner authority, which made everything right.

When I was a little girl, I was much wiser than I am now.  I laughed at everything.  I remember being called midget and four eyes in school and laughing so hard that I could hardly stand it.  It was just funny for someone to make up a name for you; you get to laugh together.  But somewhere along the way, the lightness of laughter turned in to the gravity of seriousness.

I started to believe others who couldn’t laugh at themselves.  I started to be timid about making jokes because I didn’t want to be mean.  But the little girl in me knew that you can only insult a false self, and quite frankly they need to be insulted.  The true Self simply uses the situation as an excuse to laugh or grow or find intimacy in a new place.  I’m slowly digging that little girl out of her grave one laugh at a time and remembering the real joy and freedom in laughter.

Want to read more about the black dog and humor, click here to read Our Seventh Sense:  Humor.