Why You Don’t Want to Do Emotional Release Techniques

Being robotic is not human.

By Cathy Eck 

Beliefs don’t make you human; they make you a fucking robot.  Letting go of them makes you human.  But without emotions, you won’t know what to let go.


Pleeeaaase, Just Solve My Problems

When we are stuck in the illusion, we’re always looking for solutions to problems.  When someone comes along with something that appears to solve the problem at hand, we’ll try it.  We just want relief.

Most people think they want relief from their emotions, pain, or diseases.  They actually want relief from their beliefs.

Emotions are more taboo than ever.  Doctors blame emotions for diseases.  Religion blames emotions for non-believers’ inability to see their ridiculous logic (thank God).  Parents tell their kids not to emote; and husbands call their wives crazy for being emotional.  There is a giant conspiracy to rid the world of emotions.  Many medicate, meditate, or drink to create a facade of calmness while projecting their emotions out into the world.  They tell us that the world they see is real; it isn’t.  It is their illusion — the sum total of their beliefs.

Unless people free their mind of beliefs, they project an illusory world.  When we don’t know this, we think the illusion they see is real.  Then we believe them, and get stuck in their drama.  We all did this as children.  We entered the Land of Make Believe that our ancestors gave us.


Emotions Have a Purpose

People are naturally calm; emotions arise for two reasons.  Either we are thinking a belief that is not true, but we previously accepted as true; or we just believed a lie or belief from another.  Most of our emotions come from listening to people who don’t know their ass from a hole in the wall; but they are convincing, so we believe them.

To get rid of these dreaded emotions, techniques were invented.  You can now tap, clap, speak in tongues, breath, smash a pillow with a baseball bat, or fart three times while whistling Dixie to rid yourself of emotions.  It works more like hypnosis than true healing.  Often you get rid of one fear and a new one arises.  You get rid of the pain in your knee and your elbow hurts.  The cause is always a belief; and these techniques don’t address the belief.  They shoot the messenger.

Emotional release techniques are like covering up your car’s gas gauge so that you discover you’re out of gas when your car stops.  If we get rid of our emotions, we can no longer discriminate between true and false.

The techniques do sometimes work by accident.  Occasionally, while doing the technique, you think, “Now that was stupid, Why did I believe that?”  You see the causal thought, and you let go.  But you don’t need to tap or fart to get that result.


My Confession

For years, I did EFT, various forms of kinesiology, and the granddaddy of them all, the Sedona Method/Abundance Course.  People kept telling me that this would fix my emotions, but no one told me my emotions were fine.  I noticed that people who did these techniques were lifetime students.  They didn’t really get better, they just moved their problems around and projected them on to others.  They got spiritual, but not free.

After years of trying to get rid of my emotions, I went to a retreat where several people said they were free.  They looked like fucking robots.  They had gotten rid of their emotions and completely chased away their Goddess.  They weren’t human anymore.  That was the end of emotional release for me.  I now understood that the goal is not to get rid of our emotions; it is to use them the way God designed them.  That is what gets us free.

I was trying and trying to fix my emotions.  However, my emotions were doing exactly what they were designed to do.  I was married to someone with boatloads of beliefs; he spent his life convincing me to think like him.  When he spoke the beliefs, my emotions simply shouted, “Don’t listen to him.”  They were doing their job perfectly.  His emotions didn’t work because he’d chased away his Goddess decades earlier.  Consequently, he couldn’t discriminate.  I was simply a lie detector that was running constantly.

My hand was resting on a hot stove, and I kept thinking there was something wrong with me.  I could not see that picking up my hand was all I needed to do.  That is when I realized the bigger problem.  I wasn’t the only one with my hand on the stove, and I had to let others know that there is nothing wrong with their emotions either.  Our emotions go off because it is their job to signal beliefs.


Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

We live in a world of lies and believers, they look wrong to a Goddess (or God).  Women would say during the election, I feel so emotional when I listen to Mitt Romney.  He was a belief machine — a robot.  But we were trained to obey authority, to not argue with elders, and never question those in power; we obey and elect people who really don’t deserve to clean our shoes.

We don’t have the right to ask the world to change, and we don’t have to.  We must know ourselves.  If our emotions scream, we listen to our Goddess, follow her, and take out the belief in our mind that caused our reaction.  We can stop believing lies we hear from others.  When we do this consistently, we contribute to a truthful world.  We respect the truthful people, and ignore the rest.  Liars quit lying when it doesn’t serve them.  The world is not in a battle of good and evil; it is in a battle of true and false.  When we honor the truth, it will set us all free.


Click here for the Esoteric Wisdom Behind Why People Lie.
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Thanksgiving Upside Down — A Heartfelt Dedication to Native Americans

Upside down Thanksgiving

Sometimes Upside Down is Really Right Side Up


A Heartfelt Dedication

By Cathy Eck

The ancient masters said,  “The beliefs of the masses are always 180 degrees from the truth.”  In other words, if everyone is doing it or believing it, it probably isn’t true.  When I read that, it hit a cord for two reasons.

As a teenager, I often went to church with friends because we were going out and church was on the way, or I’d just spent the night at their house and church was the next thing up on their family’s schedule.  It was clear to me that people became conditioned by the church experience.  It reminded me of magic.  If you know the secret behind the trick, you see exactly what the magician is doing.  If you aren’t privy to the secret, you fall into the mystic of the illusion; and it all looks quite amazing.

Since I wasn’t caught up in the magic and mystic of the church experience, I could always see the short little, funny looking wizard behind the robe.  I’d ask my friends, why they did certain rituals or ceremonies or said certain prayers, and their answer was consistent.  They said,

“I don’t know.”

Today, I would say “You don’t fucking know?  Really!!!!  You do something every week and you don’t fucking know what you are doing?”  

I have learned that when we are not told the reason for something, and it is odd or weird or ceremonial, it is because someone doesn’t want us to know the reason.  If we did know, we’d probably not do it.  But back then, I was polite and would say, “Oh, I’m sure there is a good reason.”  They’d smile and nod.  “You know God has his ways (giggle, giggle).”

So think about Thanksgiving.  Here is a little clip from the internet, and it pretty much matches what I learned in “his story” class in school.

The Pilgrims had a rough time when they first landed on Plymouth Rock. Finally, the friendly native Americans taught the European plunderers how to fish and plant corn. The harvest feast held by William Bradford and the gang was a way for the Pilgrims to thank the Indians for saving their lives. Thus, Thanksgiving.

It sounds so chipper and full of bullshit to me today.  Back in grade school, Thanksgiving was a day off, and I wasn’t going to knock a good thing.  But today, I love my work.  Today I don’t take classes that aren’t amazingly fun.  Today, I find myself walking around with the thought floating in my head, “I love my life.”  Somehow Thanksgiving now looks trite and superficial.  Thank you hardly seems enough.

What we don’t acknowledge in that little politically correct history-class story is the real ending.  Those Pilgrims and their buddies seemed to think that once they gave the natives a turkey and a quick prayer that they were complete and no longer had to remember their kindness and generosity.  So now it was totally acceptable to stuff them into reservations with land that had little water and grew great cactuses or turn them into casino owners.  Yes, Thanksgiving has really become a day of conditional love if you tell the whole story.

“Thanks,” as long as you are nice to me, but if you don’t do what I want or have something I need, then “No thanks.”  So we say our superficial thank you’s, make a turkey, watch some football, plan for Black Friday, and put up with our relatives or not.  And that is Thanksgiving.  It is smothered in conditional behavior.

So I feel obliged to offer a heartfelt thank you to the Native Americans.  When I was a little girl, I watched the crying Indian commercial, and I bet you did too.  I cried along with that Indian.  Growing up in Pittsburgh, the rivers were so polluted that the fish were dead.  The air left your white shirt black.  People were happy because they had work, and they could buy, buy, buy; but they didn’t seem to notice that breathing was becoming an obstacle.  As you drove along in cars, people opened their windows and dumped their trash on the side of the road.  Cigarette butts dropped wherever the smoker stood.  But the Indian just cried and prayed to Great Spirit for help.  They also were part of one very powerful television commercial.

I have to be honest.  I had no respect for my parent’s generation.  I remember thinking the native people respect their elders because their elders deserve respect.  We respect elders because they are elders.

As I got older, I started researching Native Americans; and I found something else that was remarkable about them.  They know why they do everything.  You might not agree with their logic, but they have logic.  They don’t celebrate something just because they were told to do it or because everyone does it.  They value their minds; and we can learn from them.  I do every day, and I thank them for that.

So I hope these beautiful Native American quotes turn your ordinary, conditional Thanksgiving upside down.

“ I have heard you intend to settle us on a reservation near the mountains. I don’t want to settle. I love to roam over the prairies. There I feel free and happy, but when we settle down we grow pale and die. ”

— Satanta

“ We are going by you without fighting if you will let us, but we are going by you anyhow! ”

— —Chief Joseph

“ People only think of Native Americans as “back in the day.” Every other culture is in the present. ”

— —Shakohwin Black Cloud, Lakota Muscokgee

“ Our true enemies, as well as our true sources of strength, lie within. ”

— —Willaru Huayta, Quecha

“ There is no greater honor than being under the guidance of the Great Spirit. ”

— —Nakota LaRance, Hopi/Assiniboine


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Which One of Us is the Idiot? Resolving Right and Wrong

The best books are those with no beliefs.  The empty book

The Bible is like an empty book. What we see inside is a reflection of our own mind.  If our mind is fixed on right and wrong, that is what we see within its pages.

By Cathy Eck 


How Do We Know If We Are the Idiot?

A Facebook post inspired this article.  It points to a mind trap that kept me stuck for years and still trips me up from time to time.  It is easily resolvable once you see the trick.

The post had a photo of a Bible; underneath it were the words:

“I believe everything this book says, and I don’t care if you call me an idiot.”  

Right and Wrong?

Another Face of Good and Evil

This Facebook post reflects the current stance of the Fundamentalist movements today.  They feel that their faith is being challenged by nonbelievers.  They are sure they are right; and everyone who doesn’t think as they do is wrong and abusive.  So many people are realizing that religion has simply not worked.  They are eliminating the middle man and doing their best to live from a place of love.  They label themselves spiritual rather than religious.

When we make that shift, the old status quo comes out spitting.  It is like the bully on the playground who hides the fact that he feels powerless.  The bully’s power rests in getting you to accept his powerlessness by convincing you that you are the bad guy, the misfit, the outcast.  The bully projects their imaginary opponent on to you and hopes you’ll accept their projection.

This is where we get tricked if we aren’t wise to their game.  You see, what this Facebook post really says is, “If you don’t believe as I believe, then you think I’m an idiot.”  She is talking to herself explaining her view of the world to us.

We won’t get sucked in to her perspective if we can see that this is all in her mind.  It has nothing to do with us.  She’s stuck in two minds, but she only identifies with one of those minds, the believer.  She is fighting an imaginary battle of right and wrong with an enemy that she has projected.  Her enemy thinks she’s an idiot.  It also keeps her stuck in her own illusion.

We clearly don’t want to enter her world.  So we have to avoid the temptation to give her what she wants, which is to label her an idiot or get angry at her projection.   If she gets us to go there, she’s got the power.  We prove her illusion right, and we won’t do very well in her world.


The Right and Wrong Power Game

This is a frequent power strategy in the illusion.  The winners of the illusion do this masterfully, and they rule the world.  The goal of the false self is to exalt itself within the illusion.  It believes that it is right, and you are wrong.  It is good and you’re evil.  If it can get you into the illusion in this way, it wins and you lose.  Guaranteed!

The first time I saw this was in a Catholic church.  The priest gave a sermon on judgment.  Since I didn’t perceive him as an authority, I could see that he was talking to himself.  The congregation that he pretended to talk to were just his own projection; the people he judged.  But everyone else saw him as an authority so they all believed what he said.  They saw themselves as judgmental and felt bad about themselves after the sermon.  He was reinforcing the belief that the church planted in them long ago, which was that they were sinners.  I didn’t have that planted belief; so he looked like the fraud that he was to me.

I wish I could say that I didn’t fall into the same trap in my life, but my own authorities did the same number on me.  This is how we all fall into the illusion.  But we can dig our way out when we resolve right and wrong within our own minds.


Resolving Right and Wrong

Last week I watched a PBS special on Abraham Lincoln.  They said that during the Civil War, Lincoln faced a deep dilemma.  He saw two opposing sides, and both thought that God wanted them to win.  Both saw the other as the evil enemy.  Who was right in God’s eyes?  He struggled and struggled with this moral issue.

This is the dilemma of the world right now.  We all seeing opposing forces everywhere and don’t know which is right and which is wrong.  When everyone looks good, who is telling the truth; who is lying?  Who is good and who is evil?  Who can we trust?  These are questions that have the potential to push us to freedom.

When I heard about this moment in Lincoln’s life, I resonated completely; and I knew how powerful that experience must have been for him.  When we have a moment where two opposing sides both sound plausible, we have our moment where the truth can shine through.  But we must recognize that both sides are false opponents fighting their own inner battles.  The truth has no opponent; you can’t find it in duality.

Lincoln had to step out of religion and politics and get to what mattered, which was freeing the slaves.  For me, freedom is always the key.  Every time this sort of situation comes in my life, my mind, I have to recognize that if I oppose their belief, I’m an idiot in equal measure.  I’m stuck in their right and wrong world.

But if I allow both sides to be wrong (including my side if I’m involved in the conflict), the truth rises right out of the darkness.  It is just like parting the Red Sea.  The conflict disappears and only the truth remains.


The triangle process is very helpful in deciphering the truth hidden under right and wrong.

There Are No Rules — Dropping Your Rulebook Part II

Empty Rulebook

The goal of initiation is an empty rulebook.  Unconditional love and the truth is all we need.

By Cathy Eck 

This is a continuation of Part I so you might want to read that first by clicking here.  

You now understand that rules and beliefs work together.  You recognize that anyone who either promotes a rule, makes a rule, or obeys a rule is not being their True Self.   Like me, you probably recognize that you have a pretty big rulebook to let go.


Getting Stuck Versus Gaining Freedom

We are born with no rules; as True Selves we would do nothing that was not win-win.  To get stuck in the illusion, we accept the concept of good and evil, right and wrong, or win and lose.  We accept that humans are imperfect or even bad.  Then we borrow beliefs and rules that support those premises and build our rulebook.

Our rulebook is a unique blend of our religion, our parental influence, our community, and our culture.  Our role and birth order in our family will make a difference in our book of rules.  Our choice of activities, dreams, and personality will all go into making our custom rulebook for life.  Since the rules often came loaded with fear, promises of punishment, or threats of hell, we keep that rulebook firmly in our mind like we are guarding a treasure chest.

The True Self operates based on true and false.  It accepts only the truth, and it lets go of that which is false.  Since all rules and beliefs are false, the goal of initiation is to get back to our True Self and drop our entire rulebook.  But you don’t have to drop them all right away.  Start with the ones that cause you the most problems.


Hard Working Sally’s Rulebook

Sally dreamed of being a fashion designer.  As a child, she and her best friend, Rachel, were constantly creating new fashions and playing dress-up.  Sally’s parents gave her some well-meaning advice.  They taught her that she would get her dream if she went to church every week, got perfect grades in school, went to college, and was deserving in God’s eyes.  They told her it would require very hard work.

Sally did her very best to follow the rulebook she was given, but all doors seemed to be closed; her dream was fast becoming impossible.  She decided that she must not be deserving.  She tried so hard to be good, she worked very hard, and she constantly wondered what she did wrong.

To add insult to injury, Rachel got a job with the top design firm in New York.  Rachel didn’t go to college, never went to church, was an average student, and slept around.  To Sally, this looked incredibly unfair.  She wanted to be happy for Rachel, but she just couldn’t.  Rachel didn’t fit Sally’s rulebook; and yet, she got what Sally wanted.

It is these seemingly unfair moments that cause us to examine our rulebook.  The purpose of these experiences is to show us that our rulebook isn’t true.  But often we can’t the obvious.  What Sally didn’t consider was that Rachel’s parents didn’t give her a rulebook.  They gave her unconditional love and told her she could have whatever she wanted from life.  Without a rulebook, Rachel’s True Self easily led her to success.


Dropping Sally’s Rulebook

If Sally wants to have her dream, she has to start chipping away at her own rulebook.  First she must recognize that her rulebook isn’t true.  It is just the rulebook that her parents gave her.

If a rule is true, it works for everyone; and it feels good.  Sally must also recognize that she wouldn’t have a dream that she can’t achieve.  She just has to remove enough rules so that the dream can be fulfilled.  The rules that got her deep into the illusory world limited her too much for her dream to manifest.

Rachel exposed Sally’s beliefs.  But often, a Sally will make a Rachel wrong instead of fixing their own mind.  Sally might decide that Rachel must have slept with someone to get the job.  That way, Sally can keep her rulebook intact; she can justify her own failure.  This rationalization would keep Sally stuck and continue to push her dream away.

To get free, Sally must recognize that going to church, working hard, and getting perfect grades are not requirements for success — they were false rules in her parent’s rulebook.  She will have to look at what she believes makes someone deserving.  She must look at success from new eyes.  As she lets go of more and more beliefs or rules, she will create an opening for her dream to come true.  When the opening is large enough, she’ll be a fashion designer.


You Didn’t Write the Rules;

But You Sure as Hell Believed Them

We’ve all been stuck in someone’s rulebook.  Often people feel overwhelming panic or fear at the thought that they have followed a book of lies; I sure did. It seriously rocks your world.  But acknowledgement is the first step toward freedom.  You can’t drop a rule that you believe to be true, good, or right.

The only reason you know another’s rulebook so well is that you were taught it, believed it, and then saw the proof.  We see what we believe.  The physical proof that you observed was the manifestation of the rulebook.  You accepted your authority’s rules because you were innocent and didn’t know how to discriminate between true and false; you trusted others.  Sadly, the others we trusted didn’t know they had a flawed rulebook.  You didn’t do anything wrong, you’re not being punished, and you are deserving.

Initiation reverses our rulebook and opens the gateway to fulfillment of our dreams.  When our rulebook is gone, the illusion disappears.  All that remains is the truth, which is an empty rulebook.


That was the appetizer, now here is the meal.

Love is Love and Sex is Sex

Stormy, the sex therapist

I realized the truth about sex from watching Stormy (above). When she didn’t want sex, she kicked the living shit out of the stallion; and she didn’t feel guilty after she did it.

By Cathy Eck


Love is Love and Sex is Sex

Many years ago, my friend Susan called me and said, “Hey Cathy.  Got some business for you.”

“What is it?” I asked.  One never knew what Susan was thinking.

“My friend wants a reading from you.”

“Reading?  Susan have you lost your mind?  Since when do I give readings?”

“When someone asks you to,”  she answered confidently.

“I can’t do readings.  Tell her no.”

“She’s willing to pay $300.”

“Okay, tell her yes.”

We talked for a bit, and Susan explained that her friend Bonnie found the friendly advice I gave to Susan helpful.  She wanted some for herself; but since we weren’t friends, she assumed she had to pay me.  So we renamed our interaction a consulting session and moved forward.

Bonnie came to my condo and plopped three Benjamins on the table.  Then she said, “I have one question.”

“Okay, lay it on me.”

“I’m in love with my farrier, but I’m married.  My farrier comes to do my horses’ shoes and I do him instead.  I don’t want to divorce my husband, and I don’t want to quit having sex with the farrier because it is sooooo good.”

I spoke what came to mind without judgment; after a short pause to check my emotions.  I answered:

Love is Love and Sex is Sex.  Don’t confuse them.


Bonnie looked at me with the most curious look.  Then she slapped a twenty dollar tip on the table, said “Thank you so much.”  She hugged me, and left.  Later Susan said that Bonnie told everyone about the amazing advice I gave her.

I was kind of dumbfounded by my own advice.  It took me awhile to really get it.  We usually link love and sex together.  Sex is often considered proof or a consequence of love.

But sex is only the effect of two possible desires:  Pleasure, in which case sex is no different from playing tennis or watching movies, and creation, which we don’t want very often.  Just ask Stormy the pony.

We make a huge mess of sex when we label it making love.  Sex is not love unless you bring love to it.  Sex is not spiritual unless you bring spirituality to it.  Contrary to the belief of many men, if you don’t get sex, you don’t die.  It’s not a need.  We don’t even need it very often to perpetuate the species.  If it became necessary, I’m sure our True Self would create a desire for it.


Rape and Adultery

Sex is mostly a want, an activity that can be fun.  It can also be horrible if the desire isn’t  mutual.  If rape is defined as nonconsensual sex, then rape is very normal; except we relabel it guilt or makeup sex.  In homes all over the world, one partner is manipulating the other to get them into the mood and fulfill their desire.  The moments when sex and love coexist are probably quite rare.

Then there are the religious zealots who judge gay sex when clergy themselves have been doing it for centuries.  If it sends you to hell, than hell is already full of Catholic priests.  Sex is just sex; and if we took all the baggage out of it, and only did it when it was win-win for everyone involved, life would be so simple.

What about adultery?  The Bible says adultery is bad, and people assume that it refers to sex outside of marriage.  But the Bible is a text for the mind, not the body.  Even Jesus said that adultery happens in the mind.

In the ancient world, the only real marriage was the alchemical marriage in our mind.  The alchemical marriage meant that your male mind and your female mind were in harmony.  If the male mind aspect didn’t listen to his feminine, and instead listened to someone outside of his own mind, he committed mental adultery.  In short, accepting another’s beliefs was adultery.  The very act of following religion is actually adultery according to the ancient masters because you’re not following your own True Self, your own inner God.

So while many consider sex outside of marriage taboo, others actually consider it normal especially if their True Self coaxes them into the experience.  Jealousy and possessiveness create relationship problems, not sex.  When sex leads to love, we fall in love; and falling is never pretty.  When unconditional love leads to sex; we don’t make much fuss about it.


Take the Taboo Out, and the Urge Disappears

One day, a young Hasidic Jew called me for mentoring.  He was the coolest kid; I just loved him.  He said, “I’m supposed to be so religious, and all I can think about is pornography.”  I didn’t judge him, I told him that he should look at it as art and enjoy it.

“That’s it?” he said.

“Yep that’s it.”  I knew that when something taboo becomes acceptable, it looses its attraction.  In his case, the results were very quick.  He called me back an hour later and said, “I don’t want to do it anymore.  It’s no longer fun.”  We both cracked up.  I simply tricked him into letting go of his judgment.

When Adam and Eve’s fall became about sex; and sex became evil and sinful, we all wanted more of it.  But when sex falls off its pedestal and just becomes sex, all the problems, compulsions, and suffering vanish.  Like everything else in life, it becomes what you make of it.  It becomes a creative tool in your life toolbox.

When this mental transformation occurs, our true unconditional love shines through.  Then we realize that all that sex stuff was a whole bunch of nothing.


On a related topic, learn about mental virginity here.


There Are No Rules Except Those You Believe

The Eagle Landing

The eagle has no rules to follow. It lives from its True Self, doing what it was meant to do.  It is perfect.

 By Cathy Eck


How to Succeed at Anything

Within the hypnotic win-lose illusion that most people think is reality, success happens in one of two ways.  Either we make our own rules and convince others to accept them or follow them, or we follow someone else’s rules.  Often our parents choose our rulebook for us.

The false mind is the keeper of rules.  It rewards us when we follow its rules,  and it punishes us when we don’t.  God (the True Self) has no rules.

Our false self punishes us when we disobey rules, not God.  If you are like most people, you do a damn good job of punishing yourself and anyone else that breaks the rules you believe to be right.

For most of my life, I looked for someone’s rules to follow.  I looked to every religion, every philosopher, and anyone with even a little authority.  Their rules were just not acceptable for me.  I wanted to live from my True Self, the place of no rules.


We Can Make Our Own Rules

We have the right to make our own rules, but we usually don’t because we’ve been convinced by authority that we must obey their rules.  The world began with no rules.  The illusion was created when leaders made up rules and wrapped them in fear of a false God that would curse, punish, and smite the disobedient.

These leaders were privileged people who knew the secrets of life; and they used those secrets to gain power over others, rather than empower others.  They knew that we make our own rules; and they also knew that if you instill fear, guilt, or shame in someone, they will follow your rules.

It is easy to follow your own rules — especially when they exalt you and diminish others.  Leaders still convince us that their rules are THE rules, and they benefit from that.  When someone sees through their selfish game, they label the wise seer a heretic, traitor, or evil because with no rules, they have no power over others.


Doesn’t “No Rules” Lead to Chaos?

People believe that without rules, the world would be chaos.  The opposite is true.  All rules come from a core belief that people are bad.  If we are bad, we need morals and rules to keep us in check.  So the false illusion is based on the premise that people are born bad.  Once you think you are bad, you either follow the rules to be good or you rebel against the rules and prove the authorities right.  Both contribute to sustaining the illusion.

If you follow someone’s rules or promote another’s rules, you’re living in their false illusion.  You’ve kicked out your True Self (and God) and put someone else in charge of your life.  Without our True Self connection, we feel unsafe and alone.


Rules are Beliefs

Rules are simply beliefs.  Beliefs are divided thoughts.  We need divided thought to create.  You can’t see these black words on a black page.  But beliefs are meant to be temporary.

Parents make ridiculous rules.  Many teachers should be in prison for their rules.  And don’t even get me started with clergy.  Business people start out with great visions, and pretty soon they have a bunch of rules.  The false mind loves rules; obedience is its modus operandi.  Obedience runs the military, causing millions to ignore their True Self and kill others.  The True Self, however, is like the eagle.  It follows a win-win vision.

I used to buy lots of diet books.  They all have the same format.  For the first two chapters, they convince you that their rules are right.  Eat bananas and coconut oil for two weeks and get a svelte figure.  So why don’t diets work?  We know that most people will gain the weight they lose back plus a few extra pounds as a bonus.  Diets don’t work because they are a commitment to follow someone else’s rules.  Your body is not fond of doing that because your body is hard-wired to your True Self.  Besides, the first three letters of diet are DIE.

I bought my last diet book when I realized that calories are a measure of heat.  If I eat too many calories I should get hot, not fat.  Since that day, I’ve let go of thousands of beliefs about food.  One day, I’ll just be my perfect weight.  I won’t have to DIE to get there.


A Life of No Rules

We have to realize that other people’s rules are for them to follow.  Most people don’t even follow their own rules.  They just want you to follow them.  If someone’s rules don’t bring you pleasure, let them go.

I will follow a win-win rule, like stopping at a traffic light.  It doesn’t play favorites.  Its purpose is organization.  I won’t follow win-lose rules that support elitism.  No one has the right to make rules for another that restrict their freedom and joy.

The most important rules to let go are those that cause us to feel shame, guilt, or fear when we disobey them.  When you let go of all the rules you’ve been following, you will find a wonderful secret.

Spoiler Alert!  When you become your True Self, you have the power to create win-lose rules and even get people to follow them.  But you won’t do it.  Only a false self makes and follows win-lose rules.  A false self wants power because it is powerless.  The True Self has unlimited power so it doesn’t need power.  The True Self is like the eagle. It does what it was designed to do, which is always perfect and always free because the eagle has no rules.


For Part II of this article, click here.

Why Some People Have a Right to Hate Columbus Day

Templar Cross

By Cathy Eck


The Eurocentric Story of Columbus

I really disliked history class when I was in school.  I didn’t understand why back then, but now it is obvious.  History is always one-side.  Usually the people who won, or at least perceived that they won, wrote history (or as I like to call it, his story).

In 1492, Columbus sailed the ocean blue….. (I don’t remember the rest)


I remember when my teacher told me about Columbus and how brave he was that he was willing to risk his life to see if he’d sail off the end of the world.  I was impressed because I wouldn’t do something so risky or perhaps so stupid.  And the truth is neither would Columbus.  Turns out he wasn’t the first person to come this way.  Pretty substantial proof now exists that a group of Jews came at least a couple hundred years earlier and some Scottish Knights Templar also beat Columbus to America.  Of course, renderings of Columbus’ own ships often show the Templar Cross on the sails.  Templars were known for being highly trained navigators due to their friend, Portuguese Prince Henry the Navigator.

My favorite story about the nameless people who discovered America first was told by the Hopi.  They said that when the first people came, they were really nice and kind.  They taught them things and found they shared many spiritual ideas in common.  These nice men taught them a secret handshake (which makes us think it was the Templars).

So when the Spaniards later came to America, the Hopi thought they were the same nice men since they had similar costumes.  The Hopi chiefs held out their hands waiting for the cool secret handshake, and the Spaniards put trinkets in their hands instead.  The Hopi knew these were not the same men, and they were in very big trouble.


You Can’t Discover Something You Never Saw

But of course, those Spaniards weren’t Columbus’ men.  Truth is that most people don’t realize that Columbus didn’t even put his big toe on the US of A.  He went to the Caribbean.  There he was greeted by some sweet kind, innocent people who thought that their God had returned.  We’ll talk more about that in a moment.

But Columbus wasn’t their God.  If you read Columbus’s journal it says something like:  “Boy these are some handsome, strong, youthful people.  They will make nice slaves.”  What a dick!  And he proceeded to make these beautiful innocent people into slaves killing millions of them and a whole bunch of imported African slaves while he was at it.

To ask the Caribbean people to celebrate Columbus Day is equivalent to asking the Jews to celebrate Hitler’s birthday.  And yet, American’s think there is something wrong with their attitude.


What Can We Learn from Columbus?

There are some things we can learn from the Columbus fiasco.  First, Columbus did this for his own benefit.  He got kudos from the queen, and he got to do what he wanted to do, which was explore the world on her bank account.  I can’t fault him for that.  But he wasn’t a brave little hero that proved the world was round.  Thousands of years earlier that issue had already been settled, and it is found in ancient writings.

Second, you can’t discover something that other people know exists.  The native Americans and Caribbean natives clearly knew this part of the world existed.  They were…um… living here.  You can say, I didn’t know these people existed and then I found them so I guess I was wrong, but you can’t say they didn’t exist.

But the real food for thought when it comes to Columbus is that all over the world, we hear of nasty ass people discovering innocent natives, and the natives thought that it was the return of their God.  This was the cause of the demise of the Aztecs.  Aborigines and native Hawaiians all fell to the same horrible fate; and of course, our native Americans tell the same story.  It seems the return of God idea is not an original Christian notion.

There are many who believe this widely told story is proof that aliens existed and left like the Terminator saying, “I’ll be back.”  Of course, Christians see their God as ascending into heaven with a promise to return.  But what if it is much simpler, and the return of God theme is metaphorical?  What if we are waiting for our own True Self to drop out of heaven?

Long ago, someone convinced us that God lives up in the clouds sitting on a golden throne.  We basically projected our True Self up and outside of us.  Jesus, in the role of Son of God said, “God ain’t up in them there clouds, guys.  He is inside of you.  The father is within.”   But people said, “Oh, Jesus is special because he’s got God in him.”  Even when Jesus said that we could do everything he could do, people still ignored him and kept looking up in the clouds.  So of course, they are waiting for something to drop down.  The only logical, sane conclusion is that their own True Self is what needs to drop down.

The reason we innocently fall for the antics of people with bad intentions is that we were convinced to project our own God up into the clouds.  Without our True Self (God within) to help us discriminate and keep us safe on our path, we will believe anything we are told, including brave little Columbus discovered America and was trying to prove the world wasn’t flat.


Here is another cute little shout out to my Caribbean friends from my cruising days.