I Don’t Know What I (They) Believe?


By Cathy Eck


What Do I Believe?

People often say to me, “I don’t know what I believe.”  They also say, “I don’t have any beliefs.”  These two comments are the main reason the illusion thrives.

The fact that our thoughts and beliefs create our reality was hidden for a very long time.  During that time, people accepted all kinds of beliefs as explanations for how life worked.  In more recent times, it became known that our thoughts do create our reality; but we simply put that truth on top of our already accepted beliefs.  People try to consciously control their mind to get what they want.  Sometimes they think one thing and say another; that causes projection, which causes relationship hell.  Or they say something they don’t like, and then say, “I don’t believe that,” or “Cancel.”  

If we really don’t believe something, we won’t think it or say it.  We don’t have to cancel our words.  In fact, as we move toward freedom, we find it impossible to be incongruent.  Our thoughts, words, and actions will all line up.  Then we often realize that we still have beliefs that people don’t like when we speak truthfully.  We have to let those beliefs go too.


Who’s Creating Our Life?

People of all religions say,  “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade,”  Even atheists say it.  But no one asks a very important question, “Who in the hell is life?”  “Who gave us those fucking lemons?”  A religious person might say, “God tempted us;” a New Ager might say, “The universe taught us a lesson.”  But the comment implies that we didn’t create our life.  We aren’t free if we don’t create our life.  We’re Life’s slaves.

If we’ve accepted complete responsibility for our lemons, we’d say, “I gave myself lemons, so I made lemonade.”  But no one says that.  One of the best ways to find beliefs about anything is to find out why we say what we say.

When someone dies, we say: “Now they’re in a better place.”  Really!  We don’t know that.  What we know is that their body is in the ground or an urn.  We don’t have a clue where their mind/spirit went.  If we think/speak that belief, we believe something like earth ain’t so great.  We can’t get beyond suffering unless we die.

Now people will say to me, “I don’t really believe that shit.  I just said that because I wanted them to feel better.”  You’re trapped.  First of all, you’re taking responsibility for their emotions; their emotions are caused by their thinking.  If you say what another wants to hear, you’re putting them in the masculine role.  You’re giving them power to create in your life because what they want to hear is more important than what you want to say.

Our social protocol is carefully designed to make sure that we have no power over Life.  Listen to what you say, and you’ll uncover hidden beliefs.  Listen to what others say, and you’ll discover what they believe.  The mystery drains from Life real quick.


Why Did I Say That?

If we’ve had religious or self-help training, we often train our mind to be quiet or to say the right things.  But trained quiet isn’t real quiet.   Being trained to say the right things might be automatic, but it’s not authentic.  It’s the effect of being highly socialized.  The highly socialized no longer speak what they believe or think; they speak what they believe others want to hear.  Some people have told me that they actually put their attention so completely in other people’s minds that they know what that person wants to hear.  They’re proud of this when they should feel horrible.  I suspect that it’s what most psychics do, but they don’t realize they’re doing it.  Quite honestly, we don’t have any business in another person’s mind.

Letting go of our fake social beliefs is very important.  We’re then admitting that our True Self is what belongs in society.  What doesn’t belong are social customs designed to make everyone alike and predictable.

The highly socialized do what is politically correct even if they resent it.  Their Universe or God or Life isn’t some supernatural being although they’ll say they’re trying to please God.  Their false God is actually everyone they’re trying to please — a whole shitload of human beings.  They live life as if everyone is God and they’re no one…a slave trying to please humanity.

Waking up requires us to realize that what humans want from us is not what God wants from us.  We don’t know what God wants from us unless we’re living from our True Self; we only know what others have said God wants from us.  They say that God rewards and punishes…nope, people do that.  They say God judges; no, people do.  The biggest trap is created by people who tell us that God wants what actually fulfills their needs and desires while simultaneously keeping us small and submissive.  This doesn’t just happen in big business, big religions, or government, it happens in families.


Fake Gratitude

When I was an entrepreneur, I felt thankful for the business that came my way.  I told my clients, not God, what they meant to me.  My words came from within; they were authentic.  Today, I bank at Wells Fargo; they train their employees to pretend gratitude.  It never feels good.  My son and I will do anything to avoid having to talk to a teller.  But most people don’t feel so they think the person means what they say.  Robots applaud other robots.

The reason that our false self says or does anything is because it was taught to do it.  It’s a robot.  When we take the memory out of a robot, we get nothing.  When we take the robotic memory out of a person, we get the truth…an authentic human being.






To Believe or Not to Believe: When Do we Let Go of Beliefs

Eagle landing on water

The eagle doesn’t believe he can fly; he knows he can.

By Cathy Eck


To Believe or Not To Believe

I’ve been writing at Panera Bread and eavesdropping on the conversation at the next table.  Three elderly friends have very different beliefs.  One is a spiritual seeker.  She believes in the positive power of her mind to change her life.  She recommends that her friends become more positive.  Their gentleman friend is skeptical; he says she’s talking woo woo.  He doesn’t really feel he has much control over what happens to him.  The other woman says she believes in the power of prayer and is a devout Christian.  Each offered clear reasons for their beliefs, largely based on their own experiences and authority figures.  They’ve all had proof that their beliefs are right.

Each of them is surprised that the other two don’t jump on their bandwagon; after all they’ve proven that their beliefs are right.  Didn’t they?  You can see their sadness as they realize that their friends aren’t interested in sharing their beliefs.  Not even a little.  To each of them, they’re not just sharing beliefs; they are sharing their sacred truth.

This is how it is with beliefs.  They aren’t ever true so they lack the infinite power of the truth.  Consequently, when we have beliefs, we need the support of others to keep them alive and working; and if they become too important, we will resent those who don’t support our beliefs.  When we let our beliefs go and get to the truth, we aren’t bothered by the beliefs of others.  We recognize other people’s beliefs are powerless to harm us if we don’t believe them, so we let them believe as they wish.


Our Fondest Beliefs Appear True

If you really believe something, it appears to be true.  We all see proof for our strong beliefs.  Or sometimes we don’t see proof but hope we will if we get more people to support our beliefs.  Religions have aggressively recruited for this reason.

Regardless of how much faith we have in a belief, it is still a just a belief.  It is a choice like white bread or wheat.  We make way to big of a deal out of beliefs.

To believe or not to believe is really a matter of what we desire from life.  A belief becomes obsolete, and even harmful, the minute it gets in the way of our desires or the desires of others. When we hit the limit of our beliefs, it is like hitting a brick wall.  We can’t go any further unless we let the beliefs go.  But often our pride gets in the way of letting go, or we fear the judgment of others who shared our beliefs in the past.

The friends in Panera Bread displayed a fragile look when the others disagreed with their beliefs because they felt that their friend’s doubt could potentially dilute their own faith in their belief.  For many years, I experimented with lots of different systems of belief, and I always felt that fragile feeling.  I always looked for agreement or proof to strengthen my case.  I did that because I had doubt.  Once I realized what I was doing mentally, it seemed stupid.

It was very clear that others weren’t jumping up and down to support my beliefs, and I could see why.  They wanted support for their own beliefs.  This is why people with strong beliefs seem to be at war with everyone.  I had to finally admit that I didn’t like carrying around a toolbox of beliefs or trading one belief for another.  I didn’t want to believe; I wanted to not believe so that I could learn what I really knew.  I was glad I discovered how to let go.  For the first time since childhood, I began to feel free.


What About Jesus and prayer?

The one friend who was Christian pleaded that she had the most support for her way of thinking, and Jesus was her proof.  But if you actually look closely at the Bible, Jesus’ prayers were not prayers as we know them.  They weren’t pleading requests for help.  He even suggested that those who prayed in public didn’t get the point of prayer.

Jesus just knew that whatever he spoke would occur.  He said his request once, often in the spirit of gratitude.  Jesus could do this because Jesus didn’t have beliefs; he simply had a clear, empty mind that was void of beliefs.  This was the mind of the high initiate.  It was called a virgin mind, which only required one focused thought to create anything.  To get to that level of creating required letting go of every belief.  It is about knowing, not believing.  We absolutely cannot reach that level of power by faking it until we make it.

Usually people who have faith in prayer had parents who prayed and got results.  Those who have faith in affirmations or visualization find it natural to be positive or have vivid imaginations.  Beliefs work when they play to our strengths.  Beliefs aren’t bad; they just aren’t our greatest point of power.

In the end, beliefs are a choice.  What we believe should be the main focus of our life.  If we choose beliefs, we should follow them to the letter.  We should accept responsibility when our beliefs create problems or limitatiosn.  Once we see the limits of our beliefs, we find them much easier to release.

When I lived from beliefs, I thought freedom was about money or time.  Now I realized that I held the key to freedom in my own mind.  Letting go of my beliefs was my key to freedom.  I just had to use it.


Nothing breaks my heart more than seeing someone who is going the right way and the world is telling them they are going the wrong way.  This article on Signs of Spiritual Awakening speaks to that problem.