Becoming a True Leader by Mastering the Masculine Role

Masculine Role

By Cathy Eck

 

Masculine Role

A true leader is someone who carries out the masculine role perfectly.  The masculine role in our modern world has fallen to a very low level.  Most leaders in masculine roles are power-hungry, competitive, and need to be right.  They project their shadows on to others; then they blame the shadow.  Consequently, the people they lead in feminine roles feel confused, emotional, and powerless.

The master of the masculine role leads from the inside out.  They have a pure mind and only believe thoughts that take them to a win-win vision (they actually know what a win-win vision is).  They let go of the thoughts that aren’t moving their community or business forward.  They don’t hide their false self under a nice or smart persona or say one thing and do another.  They have few beliefs; all of them are from first-cause (non-judgmental) thinking.

Years ago, I discovered the true masculine as a business owner.  At first, I followed other leaders.  I tried to motivate my employees, create an inspiring vision, and treat everyone fairly.  I tried to hide or deny my fear.  But something was off, and I knew it because I could feel it in my body.  I still competed for work.  I still honored beliefs about business and my industry because everyone else did.

In short, my masculine mind was split into win and lose.  I was always battling for the win.  When I won, I felt good.  When I lost, I felt bad.  The outcome of any competition determined how I felt, and that was no longer acceptable.  So I made a simple decision that I would no longer do anything that wasn’t win-win for everyone involved.

Slowly, I realized that if I let go of my own beliefs, I was left with the truth around any situation.  My employees no longer needed motivating, and I didn’t have to compete and market.  I got the business that was right for me.

I wasn’t just changing my thoughts superficially; I let go of the thoughts that weren’t true.  My mind now sorted information based on true and false, not win and lose.  When something went wrong, I found the cause in my mind and let it go.  The cause was always a belief that I’d learned from another.  Slowly the outer world came to match my inner vision.

But this all worked because I played the masculine role.  I was in charge.  I used the people in the feminine role as my mirror; I was serious about not breaking that mirror.

 

Why Leaders Fail?

Leaders fail because they aren’t leading.  They might hold the position, title, or authority; but they aren’t a true leader if they lead from win-lose.  They hold beliefs or rules in mind that they want others to follow.  They see enemies to defeat.

Most leaders try to impose or force their beliefs on others.  They try to convince everyone that their beliefs are right and their enemies are real.

When a leader simply wants to win their projected battles, they aren’t a leader.  They’re a dictator.  Dictators tend to use force, shame, guilt, blame, manipulation, or fear to get their way.   Sadly, most parents, teachers, clergy, and leaders of all sorts are either dictators or complete push-overs.  A true leader is neither of these.

 

Getting to True

To get to true leadership, we must find the cause of problems in our own mind.  The cause is always thought, a belief.  The person playing the masculine role is always at cause in the illusion because it’s the masculine role that has authority, makes rules, and gives rewards or punishment. The illusion was created that way.

What we really want are leaders without beliefs that take us all to peace, abundance, and freedom.  But our false self tends to choose leaders that validate our beliefs.  We feel supported when people think like us.  So we exacerbate the problem.

 

Letting Go in the Masculine Role

Letting go in the masculine role is different from the feminine.  In the feminine role, it feels like beliefs are coming at us.  We didn’t make the rules or create the beliefs, but we feel we must follow them.  Letting go in the feminine role is difficult.

In the masculine role, we’re always facing our own projection.  If our projection isn’t free, joyous, and basking in abundance, our false self wants to either fix or battle its shadow, when it should just let it go.  Some people do this their entire life.  Shit we label people heroes for fixing their own faulty projections.  We’re really blind on this issue.

If a leader of a country sees poverty, they have poverty inside their mind.  If they see terrorists, they’re the cause of the terrorism.  When we accept the masculine role, we accept the responsibility for everything that goes wrong.

The person in the masculine role cannot be a victim because they’re the cause.  Problems can only be fixed at the cause.  When the leader takes responsibility for their thinking, problems get fixed easily.  When they take action to fix the effects of their thinking, problems last forever.

Our world is a mess now because our leaders project their beliefs outside of them and act innocent when they come back to bite their ass.  This is why I teach people in feminine roles to no longer accept projections or beliefs.  Leaders stop blaming the feminine when it no longer works.

The true masculine recognizes that their job is to watch and listen to their feminine projection and self correct.  A true leader rarely gets the credit because they made the correction inside their mind, rather than outside with effort.  It looks like things just went back to normal or a miracle occurred.

Lao Tzu said, “A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.”  Lao Tzu understood true leadership.

Understanding Soft Labels and Hard Labels

Story explains our perception of the sun-moon-earth

By Cathy Eck

 

Soft Labels

In a previous post, I wrote about labels that I call soft labels.  I spoke of a dream where a mother labeled one twin happy and another twin sad.  The labels limited the twins’ life experience, but the mother wasn’t being malicious.

The mother probably didn’t realize that she was seeing two opposing aspects of her own personality reflected in her twins.  Our children take on labels and roles that often, as parents, we don’t recognize as our own projections.

Our True Self doesn’t have labels or roles.  However, our false self always sees children in a feminine role.  The masculine role asserts or gives; the feminine (or passive) role receives.   Since children have little or no power, they always play a feminine role.

Our mental programming and design came about through story; early stories related the feminine to the moon or the earth.  The sun was always the masculine God role giving light and warmth.  The feminine might be moon-like and reflect the sun’s light.  Or it could be earth-like and absorb the sun’s light.  These symbols were mental metaphors, not physical.  It is heavenly to be feminine and reflect the sun’s light and love.  But if a human sun asserts its beliefs or labels instead of love and light, its feminine will be like the moon and reflect those beliefs or be like the earth and absorb them.  She won’t be in heaven anymore.

The masculine isn’t pleased when his crap shows up in his feminine; so he blames her for dragging their asses out of heaven.  But it was the sun’s fall from love and light that caused the problem.  Beliefs are like fluorescent light compared to the sun.  They aren’t the real thing and produce minimal growth; but they can do the job of lighting the room.

As adults, we step into bigger roles.  A wife is still usually feminine to her husband.  An employee is feminine to the boss.  A slave is feminine to the master; and a patient is feminine to the doctor.  When we are in the feminine role, we hope that our sun is shining with pure white light.  But often they’re just a fluorescent bulb.

 

Hard Labels

Hard labels come from authorities with a desire for dominance.  They know the sun has power over the moon/earth; they use that power to project the negative part of the illusion on to the feminine.  This allows them to float above the illusion’s manure pile.

The person in the feminine role doesn’t detect the projection if they treat fluorescent light as if it’s sunlight.  They trust the authority (person in the masculine role) as if they are being directed by God.

As long as the feminine takes the projection and submits like a good slave, the authority is content.  But when the feminine tries to take back her power or reflects the projection, the masculine often slaps a hard label on them.

Imagine a slave who decides he deserves more food.  When he makes his case, the master says, “You’re selfish.  You think you deserve to eat like me.”  The master is the selfish one, but he projects selfishness on his feminine slave with conviction.  The slave believes the authority and backs off.  He’s been trained to do so.  This is one of the most sinister tricks of the false self.

 

The false self masculine uses labels to cause the person in the feminine position to believe that they are doing to them (masculine person) what the masculine person is actually doing to the feminine person.

Complex, confusing — welcome to the false self”s world.  So let’s look at another example.  The wife says she’s going for a walk alone.  The husband feels left out.  So he throws his baggage on her back.  He says, “You’re so demanding.”  Her feminine training kicks in and she starts to wonder, “Am I too demanding?”  In that moment of doubt, the aggressor has won; he’s created acceptance of his projected belief on his feminine target.

Another great example of label slamming was seen in the 2012 Presidential election.  The marketing pieces and debates were full of label slamming the opposition.  It’s a strategic power move to trick the opponent into accepting the slammed label and losing his power.

Once we believe a label, we become feminine to the labeler.  When we see the game, we don’t fall so easily.  When we learn to let go, the game no longer works.  This is how the feminine regains her freedom — ending slavery forever.

 

The New Leader

We need new leaders who don’t project labels into people’s minds, who help people let their labels go.  Imagine going to a doctor/healer who listens to your problem then helps you see the labels and beliefs that caused the problem.  I’ve done this many times; when a client is willing to let go of the cause, natural healing kicks in.  Imagine a lawyer that helps both parties let go of their causal beliefs resulting in true love and true justice.  Imagine a leader that sees problems in his company or nation and realizes that the problems are his own projection.  Big problems would disappear very quickly.  The problems on this planet only look big because leaders want power, and they have no power without problems.

This type of leader existed long ago.  I hope to bring this old way of leading back.  But we don’t have to wait for the big guys to step up to the plate.  We can start wherever we are.  Everyone has leadership roles even if they are very small, and we can transform our own sphere of influence — set an example.  We can share this information with others so that one day all leaders must lead the true way because the people will no longer take their projections.  The feminine will finally be free.

 

For leaders who want to learn how to step into these giant shoes…click here.