Validation That You Are Going Toward Freedom

Going the right way?

 By Cathy Eck

 

New Thought

The New Thought movement made it much more difficult to follow the path of initiation.  It made thinking our way to success, wealth, and a hot, sexy body spiritual.  Jet planes and mansions now proved mastery.  Many teachers made whatever their false self liked a sign of spiritual mastery, and other false selves grabbed on for that ride.  Spirituality is big business.

New Thought teachers/preachers speak truthful ideas and thoughts to false selves who memorize them creating a spiritual-looking false clone of their True Self.  These leaders promote their beliefs as the truth; people throw their True Self under the bus to follow these charismatic leaders.

People have more beliefs than ever.  They view their beliefs as right and true.  They impose them on others without questioning themselves.  People have adopted spiritual practices only to become more judgmental and more inclined to fix the effects of their thinking.  Finding the cause often seems like too damn much work when a little internet research and a swipe of the credit card can appear to solve anything.  We forget that science has limitations.  We will eventually run into a dead-end that we can’t fix.

There are moments in my own inner work that I think, “I could just fix that effect and people would find me much more believable.”  They wouldn’t notice my inauthenticity.

But I’d notice my inauthenticity.  Those who stick with this work often feel their progress doesn’t seem to matter.  People can’t see our True Self if their own illusory veil is too thick.

 

Signs or Validation

Most people look for signs to determine where to go.  As we purify our mind, we stop looking for signs.  Instead we receive validation that we’re going the right way.  It’s often a small insight, but it keeps us going.  If you’re serious about this path, forget about others and what they think of you.  Keep score of the improvement within your own mind.

In time, material things do come to initiates.  This isn’t a path of abstinence or lack.  Our health will improve; diseases will disappear.  We’ll have more energy and even look younger.  We’ll have the abundance we need and want if we just keep our eye on our own mind and let go.  Our desires will be fulfilled naturally when we have no beliefs that block them.

When we put the purity of our mind first, everything works organically.  We become truly good and right, but we don’t use that for power over others.  This was the secret of the true initiates.  But religions and the occult put the physical reward first; they created the entrance to hell by falsely defining good and right and attaching rewards to their false rules.

 

Validation:  You’re Going the Right Way If:

1)  Using your will to fix or get anything seems like too much work.  You only want to use your will to let go of your thoughts and beliefs.

2)  False desires are falling away.

3)  You don’t want to judge people or gossip.  It feels bad to judge anyone.

4)  People who others look up to don’t impress you.  Talent or beauty that’s used by the false self is no longer attractive.

5)  You notice when you’re projecting on others.  You feel when others are projecting on you; you do a better job of rejecting their projection.

6)  You find yourself courageously standing up for your True Self or standing up for the True Selves of others.

7)  You don’t label emotions.  When you hear a thought that generates emotion, you know it’s false.

8)  You don’t look for inspiration or motivation outside of yourself.  You feel more internally creative.

9)  You aren’t looking for approval from others; you want to please your True Self. You’re no longer a fake nice person or a people pleaser.

10)  You can’t lie.  It’s physically painful.

11)  You aren’t paying experts (doctors, lawyers, therapists, psychics, trainers) anymore.  You were only wanting them to tell you what you already knew.

12)  You avoid self-help workshops and no longer read voraciously to find answers.  Validation comes to you naturally now.  Insights come when you let go.

13)  You’re starting to see the illusion as false.  Roles become obvious, authority looks impotent, and the notion of good and evil looks silly.  False just looks false.

14) You no longer feel guilt, grief, or shame.  You don’t take responsibility for other people’s emotions.

15)  You let go of beliefs; you don’t want to impose them on others anymore.

16)  You find yourself calm and happy for no apparent reason.  You don’t hold others responsible for your joy.

17)  Competition isn’t attractive…win-win is.

18) False self connections don’t look like love anymore.

19) You can create things with a single thought or a vision in your mind.  You don’t have to hammer at a thought with affirmations or visualize what you want for years to force your desires to manifest.

20)  You’re more loving, more compassionate, and more genuine.  You realize that anyone trying to be positive, spiritual, healthy, or good has an impure mind that they’re trying to cover up with physical actions.  You have nothing to hide so you hide nothing.

21)  You realize that your purpose was to find your Self not to be somebody in the illusion.

22)  You love your inner world.  You use your imagination to create beauty and joy, not disease and suffering.

When we let go, we gently and organically move into our perfect life; the painful things of the past now seem like an illusion…a dream.  We don’t long for things or people anymore; we know that our True desires will come to us.  We become calm, accepting, and courageous.  Letting go becomes a way of life; and our True Self/God is no longer up in the sky.  It’s within.

We realize that the truth has all the power and the false has none.  If we live and speak the truth, we break up the illusion for ourselves and others.  We eventually see a different, more perfect, world.  We’re going the right way.

 

 

 

 

Synchronicity or Validation? That is the Answer

Synchronicity or validation

By Cathy Eck

 

Holy Shit… My Life is on Stage

Last weekend, I bought some cheap tickets to a play at the La Jolla Playhouse.  I didn’t have a clue what the play was about.

It was called “The Who & The What.”  Obviously, the title didn’t offer any clues.  Turned out, the play was about a Muslim woman who was writing a novel about Mohammed as an ordinary seeker with a charismatic personality, rather than a prophet.  Her Mohammed had doubts about Christianity, got some answers via automatic writing, and even wondered himself if his answers were true.  He battled his own shortcomings; and like any seeker, he didn’t know truth from falsehood.

I suddenly felt as if I were watching my life on stage.  She spent four years writing her book… it was nearly twenty years ago that I first opened a word document for a book that I’ve not published.  Her family was horrified with what she was doing… been there too.  She argued that she loved to write and this was what she cared about… so did I.  Her family told her to use her writing ability on something else.  So did mine.  Quite frankly, the actress even looked like me with shorter hair.  It was easy for me to over-identify with her character.  It looked like pure synchronicity.

 

Synchronicity

I couldn’t wait to find out what happened to her as if she held my future in her hands.  I promise, I’ll tell you the ending later.  But first let’s talk about synchronicity.

I was very much into synchronicity in my old life.  I used divination tools to make choices. I even doused to find the well location for my previous country home.  I often looked for signs and symbols to show me the way, and I was delighted when I saw those interesting number patterns.  It happened frequently.  But one day, the magic stopped; I couldn’t understand why.

It took awhile to realize that synchronicity had morphed into something new.  For most people, synchronicity is about following outer signs and clues as if they’re looking for a lost treasure.  That makes good movies, but it doesn’t lead us to freedom.  It also generates excitement (which is an emotion); the illusion counts on us following our emotions.  Following emotion pulls us right to false desires.  False desires always come with hidden problems.  In addition, we’re never satiated because our true desires go unfulfilled.  We must give up the false to get the true; and hardly anyone is willing to do that.

 

Freedom

I wanted freedom.  I wanted to be my True Self.  I now understood that the world was the reflection of my OWN mind.  The True Self plus beliefs equals our reality.  Therefore, if I corrected my mind on any subject, by letting go, results or validation showed up in my life, my body, or my world.  After the internal change, came the external change.  It made sense.  It was exactly how life should be because it is inherently fair to everyone.   True synchronicity is a validation system, not a guidance system.

I now knew how to live the way cause and effect was designed.  To find the truth about anything, I’d let go; then I’d find the validation that proved I’d slain the false dragon.

After this discovery, I wasn’t interested in psychic readings, divination tools, or manifestation courses anymore.  I didn’t need more beliefs.  I had all the answers I needed inside of me.  Sadly, I looked arrogant and wrong to others.  How dare I to know my own answers?  They had no way to “serve” me.  Holy shit, I realized that all those people that appeared to be helping me actually thrived on fixing me.

Causes aren’t outside; they’re always inside our minds.  So why in hell would we think that our answers are outside of us?  Probably because we’re taught that God is outside — the false God is outside in the form of authority figures.  As we move to freedom, we know we’re the creators of our life.  We don’t listen to other people’s false advice — sometimes that pisses them off.

 

The Not-So-Happy Ending

In the play, the protagonist tried to ignore the hatred (disguised as caring) from her family, but she couldn’t; she didn’t know how to let go.  She musters up enough willpower to find a publisher, but her book doesn’t sell.  I was still watching my story.  Most garden club blogs have more readers than I do today.

As the play ended, I felt angry because the main character listened to her family’s worthless advice.  She decided that they knew best.  She gave up.  One should not expose Mohammed as normal.

I started walking home.  As I let my thoughts go, I realized that woman was me when I started writing this blog.  But she’s also me every time I expose a little more of the status quo as impotent and false.  Fear always arises to tell me that the illusory dragon is just too fierce.  It doesn’t get easier because I’m tackling different subjects.  Each time, I must let go, write what I’m inspired to write, and then the validation comes.  Writing isn’t my purpose; writing creates a reason to find courage and to test my ability to let go.

The growth of this freedom-loving community has been organic.  I don’t market, so the people who read my blog and participate in my mentorship program are truly the cream of the crop.  They’re here to receive validation for what they already know to be true.  When we stop looking for synchronicity as guidance, we become synchronicity as validation for others on their way out.  I’m grateful for the life that has unfolded as I’ve continued to write about what makes life worthwhile for me — initiation and freedom.  I wish I could tell that Muslim woman what she’s missing.  I wish I could help her let go so she could see that she was right.