The Final Battle With Roles Requires Courage

Courage and the Lion

By Cathy Eck

 

Origin of Roles

The ancient storytellers saw the world through the eyes of archetypes and characters.  While they wrote about Gods having experiences, they were actually talking about aspects of their own mind.  A storyteller cast his masculine and feminine characters based on his interpretation of the sky.  The original archetype cast the sun as the masculine role projecting light, warmth, and unconditional love on to the feminine role moon or earth.  The moon feminine role (not always female) reflected the sun; and the earth feminine role absorbed it.  It was a marriage made in heaven; and this was called the True Self.  As the masculine role (sun) lost its unconditional nature, the moon feminine became a lunatic, and the earth feminine became heavy, serious, polluted with emotion, and depressed.  Today the world is filled with unloving suns, lunatics, and fat, depressed people.  Our earth is in danger.  There’s only one cause.  It’s the fall of the masculine role.

In initiation, we return to the place where the masculine and feminine aspects of our own mind become like our initial state of mind with an unconditional sun.  The feminine becomes calm, creative, and filled with life.  When we create equality inside of our mind, we’ll see equality outside.  When our masculine mind only speaks true, loving thoughts, our feminine will no longer emote.

To try to create equality of sexes or races on the outside without first finding it on the inside, is fixing the effect rather than the cause.  You can’t will your mind to be loving.  You can’t put truth on top of manure.  You have to let the false go to get to your truth.

The false self would be easy to let go, but other people try to keep our false self in tact.  They remind us of our labels, they impose their beliefs on us, and they encourage social protocols that enhance our mask.  People who are winning from the patriarchal world don’t want us becoming our True Selves.  True Selves are powerful.  The false masculine wants his feminine characters to lose so they can live without anyone exposing or defeating them.  Without humans in feminine roles, who would fight their wars?  Who would build their temples and churches?  Who would wipe their royal asses?

Most people live life from two minds — their masculine and feminine are constantly arguing.  When we’re in our True Self, our inner masculine and feminine mind aspects agree.  There are no decisions.  There are no emotions.  We’re calm and peaceful.  We’re creative and productive.  Our discrimination keeps us safe from the illusion.  We easily bring our ideas into the physical world like great inventors, original artists, and powerful win-win oriented leaders.  These people have huge visions, but they also have the ability to bring their ideas into the physical world.  They aren’t just day dreamers, philosophers, or storytellers.

The act of letting go grounds our ideas into the material world.  We begin living our life.  We’ve know we’ve really arrived when we can even be completely ourselves with those who programmed us to have false selves.  Our handlers lose their power when we drop the roles they gave us.  The final test requires that we don’t believe anyone else if it generates even a little emotion.  We can no longer be tricked by a false self.

If we don’t see someone as authority, we won’t submit to them.  If we don’t see someone who asks for help as below us, we won’t dominate or control them.  We do what we’re inspired to do.  Sometimes thats creating with others.  Sometimes we’re creating alone.  Sometimes, we’re supporting another to let go of the illusion they’re struggling with.

 

The Last Rule

The rule about roles that pulled us deeply into the illusion was simple.  We gave attention and authority to people with the most rigid beliefs or rules — false selves.  We wanted to be good; so we obeyed authority. We were taught to listen to and respect elders, but our elders were already stuck in the illusion.  We gave respect and attention to the least free person in any situation.  If everyone was healthy and one person was sick, the sick person got the attention.  We gave attention to victims, perpetrators, and heroes; we made the independent free-thinking True Self a rebel and a heretic.  The people who had the most beliefs became leaders, teachers, and preachers — the masculine roles.  We rewarded people for honoring beliefs.  Those with the least beliefs were punished until they submitted.

The way out is the opposite.  We flip the rule upside-down.  We don’t make the feminine dominant; that would be a lateral movement.  We follow those with the freest minds in any situation without regard to age, talent, race, sex, or label.  We reward freedom by giving those who operate from win-win our business, attention, and appreciation.  We listen to children rather than dominate them.  We seek our own truth and get whatever support we need to let go.  As we let go, we acquire the natural courage to face those who gave us our false self.  We make things right again.

 

Permanent/Temporary Roles

As we let go, permanent roles disappear.  There will always be temporary roles.  Roles create a way of interacting and co-creating; but they won’t have a superior/inferior, good/evil, or win/lose tone to them.  Until we’re all free, the natural leader or teacher will be the person with the most expansive point of view (least beliefs) in families, communities, and the world.  Natural leaders or teachers will hold the vision of freedom and help others let go so they can heal their minds and bodies.  

I’ve created a pathway out and identified many of the tricks and traps, but it’s a very narrow path.  Now it’s time for those who desire freedom to clear their own minds and make this pathway clear, safe, and wide.  Since you’re here, reading this blog, you’re probably such a path maker.

Blame, Shame, and Guilt: The Illusion’s Superglue

Blame, Shame, Guilt

By Cathy Eck

 

Most of us have been taught to take the blame for things that we didn’t cause when we were stuck in feminine roles.  We’ve been guilted or shamed; and we’ve been taught to please others, especially authority, even if their demands are ridiculous.

Blame, shame, and guilt are the Superglue of the illusion.  They don’t exist in the true world.  Therefore, with some discrimination and wisdom, we can free ourselves from them.

 

Blame

In the true world, there are no roles.  But roles dominate our social structure (the illusion), and that isn’t a problem as long as we honor the natural flow of the energy in the illusory roles we play.  Blame involves a reversal of the natural flow of masculine and feminine roles.

Normally, the masculine energy (intellect) holds the beliefs, and the feminine energy reflects those beliefs.  In blame, the masculine energy says that the cause of the problem lies with the person or people playing the feminine role.  Or sometimes, the person in the masculine role blames another masculine role (like Obama and Bush/Romney).

If we are in a feminine role in the illusion, we cannot be blamed unless the leader wasn’t really leading.  If the masculine role is leading from truth as it should, nothing bad can go wrong.  When things go wrong, it’s the leader’s belief that’s the cause, not the follower’s reflection of the belief.

Only the person in the masculine role can drop the causal belief.  The emotions and wild behavior, that often occurs in the people in the feminine role, are the effect of the false beliefs of the masculine.  When the mind of the authority changes, their feminine reflection changes.  To fix the feminine is to fix the effect.  To blame the feminine is to blame the effect.  It doesn’t make any sense.  But we accept this reversed way of thinking because we’ve been trained to.  Everyone in the illusion is breaking their own mirror.

If you blame the feminine, you can’t solve the problem.  The feminine doesn’t have the responsibility; it’s not the cause.  The child can’t fix their parent’s belief.  The employee can’t fix their CEO’s vision.  Church members can’t fix their preacher’s mind.  Citizens can’t fix their leader’s flawed perspective.  The feminine can leave when they’ve had enough, or they can let go and become the masculine.   Fighting (or war) happens when the feminine has had enough and tries to take the power back from the masculine. Crimes are often committed against someone who reminds the criminal of their hated masculine authority.  To fix problems, the authority, masculine role, must take responsibility, fix their own mental cause, and everything will go back to perfection.  But that almost never happens in the illusion.

Early Bible stories trained our western mind to reverse our natural cause and effect thinking.  Eve (feminine) got blamed for the fall.  Moses (masculine) blames his people (feminine).  When you understand the masculine-feminine relationship in the illusion, you can’t be fooled into taking the blame any longer.

This is also true within ourselves.  When something goes wrong in our life, the cause is in our intellectual masculine mind.  Our emotions are only the messenger — we should never shoot the messenger.  If we let go of our own causal beliefs, our emotions will calm down immediately.  But often our own inner mental masculine, just like outer physical masculine authorities, wants to be right at all cost.

 

Guilt and Shame

Guilt and shame are given to us by authority figures (masculine roles).  No one is born with guilt or shame.

These two emotional states can be difficult to let go because someone else imposed them on us.  Our mind says that we can’t let guilt or shame go; the authority must free us.  Since we’re lower in power (feminine) than the authority (masculine), we think that we don’t have the right or ability to remove the causal belief.  This is a disgusting trick of the false mind.  It can keep us stuck for a whole lifetime.

The True Self is not capable of doing anything wrong because right and wrong comes from the false self.  If we did make mistakes (sins), we did so because we were caught in the illusion, a false self.  We didn’t want a false self; our authorities gave it to us when they taught us their beliefs and said they were true.  Our false self was created in the image and likeness of our false authority figures.

I’ve followed many people’s guilt and shame back to the source; they all lead to a really powerful, but rigid, authority figure (usually religious).  Crime is not caused by evil people.  Crime is caused by the religious-perpetuation of the belief in good and evil and right and wrong. We see it because we believe in it.

 

Freeing Our Mind

In my experience, and I’ve done this hundreds of times, the person who is blaming, shaming, or guilting was projecting their responsibility, negative character trait, or belief on to the person in the feminine role.  Once we take the blame, shame, or guilt, they have no reason to ever fix their problem.  Their mind feels a sort of fake freedom.  That’s why when we let their projection go, they often react with lots of emotion.  That’s their problem. When you drop blame, shame, or guilt from your mind, your True Self can breath again.

If you are someone who thinks others should be blamed or shamed or guilted, you probably aren’t reading this blog.  But just in case you are, remember that when you point the finger at another, three fingers are pointing back at you.  The cause is within your mind; and if you let go, they won’t reflect you anymore.  Letting go is always win-win for everyone.

The Agony of Psychological Reversal

Psychological reversal

By Cathy Eck

 

Understanding psychological reversal is key to freeing our mind.  We’re all psychologically reversed in the areas of our life that don’t work perfectly.

 

What’s Psychological Reversal?

Years ago, I took a muscle testing class.  There was one woman in the class that creeped me out.  Lucky me; the instructor paired me with this creepy woman.  I was going to discover why she felt creepy.

When I asked her to think of a happy time, her arm went limp; she looked sad.  Then I asked her to think of a negative event in her life; she smiled brightly and got as strong as a bull.  I was sure I was doing something wrong; so I called over the instructor.  He said, “No you’re doing everything right.  This woman has extreme psychological reversal.  She gets strong in painful situations and weak when things are going well.”

Well I’ll be damned.  I never thought such a thing existed.  Then I realized that I’d seen mild cases of this all my life.  People who “shine in a crisis” or “smile while they suffer” are common.  Often, we label them heroes.

 

Psychological Reversal Begins…

My son was scared as hell on his first roller coaster ride.  At the time, I didn’t know about letting go.  I remember watching his mind work.  He was feeling strong fear, and he was trying to sooth the emotion with words like, “This roller coaster is reliable.  Others have ridden on it and lived.”  In that moment, I saw this normal thought pattern as backwards, false, and ineffective.

In hindsight, I should have asked him to dive into the fear and find the causal belief.  He would have let the cause go.  Then he would have ridden on the roller coaster with a calm joyousness.

We’re all highly trained to sooth, suppress, or numb emotions, and we resist going back and releasing the causal belief.  Our training keeps our false self in tact.  To end psychological reversal, we must break the normal pattern of thought.  The psychologically reversed mind views emotions as proof that their thinking is true.  It’s masterful at soothing the emotions with more thought.

Soothing fixes the problem for now.  Shining in a crisis fixes the problem in the moment.  But it doesn’t fix the causal belief.  Eventually, we’ll be soothing and shining again.  If we have deep psychological reversal and feel pride in our ability to shine in a crisis, we’ll never remove the causal thought.  We’ll fear losing our false purpose and superiority.

When we are not psychologically reversed, we notice that a thought doesn’t feel good, and we drop it.  Healthy, successful people do this naturally all the time.  Usually, they don’t even notice that they do it.

 

The Illusion Needs Psychological Reversal

Psychological reversal is key to making good soldiers, good slaves, and good subordinates.  Feminine roles in the illusion are about obedience and following.  The True Self can’t obey or follow someone who isn’t authentic, truthful, and loving (the true masculine).  The true feminine is about creativity, inspiration, and wisdom.  

When we make followers the good children or decorate soldiers for following orders, we create psychological reversals that are nearly impossible to break.  We create people who ignore their True Self and obey authority because they’re proud of being false selves.  We create people who willingly accept feminine roles that lead to their demise, destruction, or death.  

The false self of psychologically reversed people will fight to the death to make sure the True Self isn’t exposed because it fears annihilation.  The True Self is the enemy in psychological reversal because it won’t follow that which is false — it won’t obey false authority.  It questions them!

If we’re stuck and emotion isn’t moving or our body isn’t healing, the cause is often found in the emotions that we label positive.  Pride, excitement, romance, and hope are all emotions that are labeled positive.  However, emotions are neither positive or negative.  They’re just a signal that we’re thinking something false.  The emotions are a warning that we need to let go.

 

An Example 

Client:   My mother was abusive to me; I can’t forgive her.

Coach:  How does that feel when you think it?

Client:  Terrible

Coach:  So is it true?

Client:  Yes, it’s true. She beat me.

Coach:  It was your reality in the past.  But you aren’t being beaten now.  Your emotion right now is caused by labeling your mother abusive.  Labels aren’t true so they feel bad when we think them.

Client:  But it’s true.  She abused me.

Coach:  Her false self abused you.  In the past, you met her at her false self because you believed something that allowed her to abuse you.  She probably told you that you were bad and deserved punishment, and you believed her because she was your authority.  Then she delivered punishment.

Client:  Yes, she said I was a wise ass; I needed it beaten out of me.

Coach:  Are you a wise ass?

Client:  She thought I was.  I was speaking what I saw; she didn’t like what I said.

Coach:  So you were exposing reality that she wanted to hide.

Client:  Yes, that’s it.

Coach:  Does it feel good to keep the label wise ass?

Client:  Kind of.

Coach:  You’re proud of wise ass, but it isn’t the truth of who you are.  It didn’t feel good when she labeled you wise ass.  So let it go.

 

Client let’s go, and she realizes that her mother is no longer abusive so she’s not a victim anymore.  She’s no longer holding on to her label of wise ass.  Her pride  in being a victim and being a wise ass has disappeared.  Her psychological reversal is gone.

Her mind is now seeing the whole picture clearly, and she is calm.  She realizes that she was only abused because she fell out of her True Self when she believed her mother.  Now she is truly wise; and it couldn’t ever happen again.

 

Following Your North Star by Aligning the Masculine and Feminine Roles

Following North Star

By Cathy Eck

 

When I first got involved in this work, I realized that the ancient people saw masculine and feminine as mental concepts.  This felt peculiar at first.  In modern society, we associate masculine and feminine with physical bodies. But I felt there was something very important to discover in accepting the ancient point of view.

I now see that understanding the masculine-feminine connection is key to following our North Star.  It keeps us on our path and helps us discriminate in a world where everything is upside down.

 

Masculine and Feminine Review

In the beginning, the world was Eden-like. People were in touch with their True Selves.  Our True Self is androgynous, unified, and doesn’t have beliefs. We could live eternally from the True Self, and enjoy pure, calm feelings all the time.  But we wanted to create; so we invented the mind.

While the True Self (God Self) is shared by all, the false self (which lives in our mind) isn’t shared.  This is purposeful.  Our minds are our creative palettes.  Each artist has a different palette, and each individual creator has a separate mind.  (See the post about minds as individual containers.)

Masculine energy was naturally giving, assertive, yang, and outward (just like the male sexual organ).  Ideally male energy was like the sun; it unconditionally gave without expecting anything in return.  It gave us what we needed — light and warmth.  It supported growth.  That was our True Self masculine role model.

Feminine energy was absorbing, yin, and inward, like the earth; the earth absorbed the sun’s rays to produce vegetation.  Receiving/absorbing became associated with the True Self feminine role model.

The roles that we play mirror these macrocosmic concepts.  The masculine role was designed as the giving role, such as teacher, doctor, clergy, employer, or parent.  The feminine role was the receiving role, such as student, patient, employee, or child.  The role doesn’t always match the person’s sex.

If the person in the masculine role is like the sun and gives truth, unconditional love, and joy, the people in the feminine roles are creative.  Things grow perfectly.  If the masculine leader believes in good-evil, dominance-submission, right-wrong, or win-lose, then the feminine becomes emotional or what is often labeled bitchy.  The false masculine causes the feminine to move from absorbing like the earth to reflecting like the moon; absorbing the false masculine’s beliefs would destroy her.

A good leader corrects his mind when he sees his nasty reflection; he’ll let go of his false beliefs.  Everything returns to perfection.  If the leader needs to be right or defends his beliefs, then the people in the feminine role will become more and more emotional.  They must; they’re simply the leader’s bad reflection.

 

The North Star

Many people are now seeking an authentic life.  Their North Star is set on truth, unconditional love, peace, or freedom.  They end up an emotional wreck when they look at the world today.  I was one of those people, and I was very confused.  By resetting my North Star on truth and freedom, all the beliefs that I’d accepted from the illusion were exposed as false.  The beliefs were arising constantly so I could let them go; but I didn’t know how.  I was dying under an emotional tsunami of beliefs.

The seemingly calm people in the illusion have their North Star set on something false like getting approval, making money, or looking good.  Some set their North Star on romance, obedience, or power.  They aren’t trying to escape the illusion.  In fact, they contribute to it.

Our emotional navigation system was originally set to true and false.  If our masculine aspect thought truth, we felt good.  Emotions (feminine) signaled us only if we thought something false.

In the illusion, we set our North Star in a different direction.  We become psychologically reversed from our original setting.  We go deeper into the illusion.  But the system still works.  Once, we set our direction, our mind takes us where we want to go.  It doesn’t judge our choice of North Star.

If you’re born into a house and punished if you don’t obey, you’ll switch your North Star to match your parents’.  If you’re born into a house where making money was valued, you’ll set wealth as your North Star.  Most of us have altered the original setting of our North Star to some extent.

Let’s say you make wealth your North Star.  You’ll feel calm when you have thoughts that lead to making money; you’ll feel nervous agitation (emotion) when you fear losing money.  Someone who speaks the truth will generate emotion in you if the truth isn’t aligned with making money.  You’ll think the truth is bad.  The masculine-feminine connection works the same regardless of the direction you point it.

It isn’t bad to set your North Star toward a false desire, but you’ll accept more beliefs.  You’ll eventually pay a price for your choice because it will get you stuck in the illusion.  You’ll probably reject your True Self most of the time.  The path of the True Self is always much greener.  But no one tells us that when we’re stuck in the illusion, and we forget that we can let go.  Also, too many people make their destination the right destination, which negatively impacts others.

 

Following Your North Star

Decide the direction you want to go, and choose your North Star wisely.  Then start to think; watch your thinking and beliefs.  If your masculine intellect is thinking in alignment with your North Star, your feminine will be insightful, calm, and wise.  Your destination is assured.

You might recognize this concept as the three Wise Men following the star to Jesus, the True Self.  The false leader (Herod) couldn’t find the True Self; he had a false self North Star; his star was in the illusion.  Therefore, he wanted to kill anyone under two, meaning anyone who was still ONE.  It’s a system that’s as old as time.

All One or Alone: The Creative Mind as an Individual Container

 

Minds are individual containers.

By Cathy Eck

 

All ONE

One of the biggest areas of level confusion to become popular with the New Age movement was the idea that we’re all ONE.  At the level of the True Self (or God), we’re absolutely all ONE.  That oneness can’t be broken or destroyed.  It’s a bond of unconditional love, peace, joy, and freedom.   It is eternal and lives beyond the boundaries of space and time.

But our minds were designed to also separate us from others so that we could individually create.  Imagine if we couldn’t hold individual thoughts.  We wouldn’t be able to focus on an individual creative project or be separate unique beings.  We’d become constantly confused by the thoughts of others.  Sadly, this is exactly what happens when we accept the idea that were all ONE at the level of false selves.

The way we’re designed, our True Self develops an idea.  As creators, we have to make that idea physical.  In order to do that, we create beliefs to bridge the nonphysical idea with the physical manifestation.  These beliefs are false, but they aren’t harmful if guided by our True Self (also called first-cause creation).  Time, colors, shapes, space, and tones are all beliefs that were created by our True Self for creative purposes; they bring us great joy.

 

Left and Right Brain

The structure of our brain mirrors our false mind.  Our left brain is masculine in nature.  It’s intellectual and allows us to hold ideas, intentions, memories, and beliefs.  Our right brain is feminine and receptive.  It receives inspiration and wisdom to bring our vision to life.

Ideally, our masculine mind sets a pure creative intention.  Then our right brain (feminine) receives wisdom and creative inspiration to move toward the vision.  The left brain holds the wisdom (now beliefs) received by the feminine mind, and the process continues until we reach our destination.  Then we let go of the whole false mind so we can create again.

If we get off the path and start missing the mark of our vision (sinning in the ancient world), we get an emotional signal from our feminine, which gently guides us back on to our path.

When we use our individual mental containers (false minds) in the way they’re designed, we move toward our vision without stress or problems.  We effortlessly travel the delightful journey from idea to fruition.  But as you can see, we must listen to our emotions and self-correct as needed.

 

What Went Wrong

We all came to the earth experience with a unique perspective.  In a perfect life experience, we’d naturally accept the creative projects that are right for us.  We’d choose only beliefs that are necessary to fulfill those desires.  We wouldn’t hold on to anything that’s unnecessary.  We wouldn’t get caught up in other people’s beliefs or desires.

When my children chose to unschool, I noticed that they innately understood what they needed to learn.  If a subject wasn’t part of their future, they didn’t want to learn it.  I could not motivate them.  They even knew that things like cursive writing would become obsolete as we moved toward mobile devices and email.  It became obvious that I was a very poor substitute for their True Self, which clearly had the big picture.

However, in the illusion, we think teachers know what we need to learn.  We think preachers know what we should believe.  And we think authorities are needed to keep us in line.  We think doctors, dietitians, and trainers know what’s best for our bodies.  We act as if we have no clue what’s right for us.  We put everyone’s beliefs and knowledge in our containers, filling them with worthless crap.

We assume that what’s right for another, especially if they’re an expert or authority, is right for us.  We wonder why we’re so unhappy with our lives.  We’re constantly faced with decisions and problems.

 

Cleaning Out the Container

If we want to live from our True Self and create as designed, we have to clean out our mental containers (false selves).  We have to take responsibility for what we put in them.  What isn’t true or necessary for our perfect life needs to go.  If others don’t like us letting go of their precious beliefs or judgments, that’s their problem.

We must let go of the beliefs that don’t serve our own creative desires.  We must let go of allowing others to tell us what to believe and how to live our lives.  We must trust that letting go never hurt anyone, and we can’t let go of what is True.  We must use our emotions to show us what to let go when we’re confused or indecisive.

As we clean, our mental containers become virgin.  They only have within them what we need for our own divine creative experience.  We live fully in the present without trying to be in the present.  Our past supports our present and our future.  Our mind is quiet except for what we actually need to think or believe.  We have no decisions to make, no confusion to unravel.

When we achieve this level of clarity, we’re still all ONE at the level of the True Self. However, our minds are now well-stocked, but neatly organized, individual containers at the level of the false self.

When we erroneously combine our false selves, we sadly end up ALONE.  Loneliness occurs when we are hoarders of the beliefs and desires of others.  Our containers become so full of worthless information that we can’t find our True Self.  We spend our life looking for who we are.

Other people’s beliefs belong to them, and they don’t just jump into our mind.  We allow them to come in, and we hold them hostage.  If we use our mind as designed, we live as creators in the image and likeness of God.  We’re loving True Selves that are ALL ONE and perfect creators with virgin false selves that are ALONE.