Living Outside the Box: Freedom

Getting outside the box

By Cathy Eck

 

Freedom

Getting freedom is about living life outside the box that others call truth or reality.  Some people just accept the box, and they never give it another thought.  They even seem to enjoy life in the box.  But some of us don’t enjoy the box at all.  We want out.  So we try to physically remove ourselves from the box.  That doesn’t get us to freedom.

Some move to the country and buy lots of land.  They get off the grid, dump their phones and computers, and live with nature.

Others make lots of money.  They believe, “Money buys freedom.”  Their bank balance causes them to feel worthy.  They can go anywhere anytime by boat, plane, or driver.  They can buy drugs and plastic surgery to keep their mind calm and their body looking young.  They can eat expensive foods prepared by world-class chefs and work out with the best trainers and equipment so they can restrict their body from revealing their beliefs without feeling the lack that us normal folks feel.

Then there are the ones that falsely set themselves aside religiously.  They’re part of a group of chosen people.  They’re going to heaven; we won’t be with them.

Others separate themselves from the status quo with education or knowledge.  They become an expert.

We all want freedom from problems and people who want to control us.  We hide from those that drive us crazy.

We try to get free by changing or upgrading things in our physical world or setting boundaries.  But we aren’t really getting freedom that way; we’re only getting a little relief from the effects of our beliefs.  Running away to an island doesn’t free us.  Fixing effects will never get us freedom.  But don’t get me wrong.  Freedom isn’t about smiling from your prison cell either.

Most people want freedom, but they have a physical perspective so they try to get freedom by fixing their physical reality.  Their physical reality is simply the effects of their beliefs.  Until they eliminate their beliefs, freedom is impossible; life will prove that to them.   The reclusive will be annoyed by a bear who becomes a constant nuisance.  The rich person will find his money can’t buy him happiness.  The religious will wait their whole life for their chosen moment, and it will never happen.  The special diet and exercise will stop working one day.  The educated will find that their knowledge is false.  The crazy friends will come back in different bodies.

 

The Mental Perspective

True freedom is a perspective.  Freedom comes from within.  If our mind is free, our body and life will reflect that freedom.  The outer world becomes the effect of our free inner world.  When our mind becomes pure, we have no effects that need fixing anymore.

When we let go of our beliefs (our false self), we naturally move into the mental perspective.  We can see both sides of duality from this perspective.  So we want to have win-win interactions with others.  We become truly enlightened and free as our True Self.  Our false desires fade away.  We become like we were initially, at birth.

What we try to fix in the physical perspective is probably our biggest trap.  The one who runs away and hides in nature has a fear of people.  Relationship beliefs will keep them stuck even if their only relationship is that bear.

The billionaire’s trap is money.  For him or her to get free, they might have to lose it all.  It’s too easy for them to fix effects with money.  That’s why Jesus said that it was pretty damn hard for the rich person to get to heaven.

If we want to fix our body, then that’s our trap.  We have to stop the madness and start letting go.

If knowledge is our trap, we’ll keep seeking more and more knowledge only to find it’s all worthless currency.

The religious and spiritual get impatient waiting for their savior to come or the comet to destroy the earth.  They keep looking outside so they never discover their real savior inside.  They believe prophets when they have the best prophet inside — their True Self.  Shit, they’re the ones they are waiting for.

We can push away the entire world of people, but the crazies will still find us.  We all want to hide from those we perceive as powerful.  Let them come, but let go while you’re with them; you’ll diffuse their power.  They’ll probably leave you alone after that.  We ultimately have to recognize that the people with the most beliefs and emotions are actually powerless.  When we get that, they can’t hurt us anymore.  The one with the least beliefs has the most natural power; that’s why we were forced to submit as small children.  Our parents felt powerless around us when we reflected their beliefs.

 

Perspective Change

Freedom is a perspective change that happens from within once we discriminate using our emotions, let go of beliefs because they have an emotional warning that says they aren’t true, let go of listening to other’s knowledge, and let go of obeying or fearing false authority.  Slowly, we find that our perspective shifts from the physical view of the world to the mental view of the world.  We have the big picture.  We see clearly, and we know what path or direction to go in any moment.  We aren’t avoiding life; we’re really living life.  We’re creative.  We know everything we need to know.  We live where we want to live, and other false selves don’t bother us.  They’re probably afraid of us.  We do what we want to do with whomever we want to do it with.  The world even seems to support us in being who we are.

Oddly, we don’t feel special; we actually feel normal.  We have power, but not power over others.  We simply feel like our Self.  We feel free.

Stuck in the Illusion with You (Part III)

Victim-Perpetrator

By Cathy Eck

 

No Victims/No Perpetrators

If you understand the nature of true and false selves, it’s clear that victims and perpetrators are two sides of the same coin (bottom of the triangle).  I’ve been there.  I totally get that when you’re stuck in someone’s illusion, you feel like a victim.  You think you must convince the perpetrator to free you from their beliefs.  That’s a lie.

The perpetrator is caught in illusion too.  According to their beliefs, they’re doing the right thing.  All human problems are caused by conflicting definitions of what is right.  The only answer is to find what is true.  If either person was at the top of the triangle, the event couldn’t even take place.

I couldn’t see this clearly until I let go of a lot of beliefs. That’s why I write this blog.  I want people who are reaching for freedom to have a life line.  I want my errors and lessons to be their shortcuts.

 

The Backstory

I had little religious training growing up.  When I first married into a Catholic family, I just kindly ignored them for the most part.  As a successful business women, I was pretty confident that my thoughts, beliefs, and choices created my reality.  Then I sold my business and became a stay-at-home mom, a feminine role to my husband.  Suddenly my husband was my bread-winner, my security.  His way of thinking became more dominant, and my mind filled with Catholic beliefs like someone was filling a bathtub with water.

Before this, his beliefs just looked like choices.  But now they were laced with fear, and they felt real and true.  I didn’t like his beliefs, but they were superglued into my mind.  I couldn’t get them out.

I felt like I was in hell.  But I also realized that I had the opportunity to understand how we all get stuck in the illusion of beliefs.

I now understood why my husband and his family looked at me like I was insane when I said, “Just change your mind. Let it go.”  They couldn’t; their minds were like tangled webs.

All drama and insanity is caused by the ridiculous notion that we can’t let go of beliefs.  Any belief system that’s declared to be true and can’t be dropped is absolutely part of the illusion. Beliefs are choices that limit our experience. People with beliefs can’t see beyond their veil; they’re like fish caught in tiny bowls that can’t imagine a big lake.  But their bowl is normal to them so it looks true.

In addition, we’re born with minds that are wired to feel calm when we hear truth and feel emotion when we hear something false.  That keeps the world peaceful.  But most people are at least partly psychologically reversed.  They no longer feel emotion when they accept a belief.  They feel emotion when they disobey the belief. They’ve been mentally and emotionally rewired to be blindly obedient to the false self.  In fact, the True Self often looks evil to them.

 

Freedom Writer

Writing saved me.  When I sat down to write, I connected with my True Self.  My emotional wiring would return to true-false, and I could look see the truth clearly.  It felt so good that I did it nearly all the time.  When I interacted with my husband, I fell into illusion land again because I’d believe him.  But I continued clearing the rubble in my own mind, and I started to recognize the attributes of True thoughts versus the very different qualities of false thoughts or beliefs.  Eventually, I could discriminate even when standing in someone else’s illusion.

I now felt such compassion for people who had been sold beliefs.  My husband didn’t knowingly borrow these ridiculous beliefs; he was handed them on a platter of fear when he was too young to discriminate.  That just wasn’t fair.  I fell into the illusion at an age where I could dig my way out.  Most people can’t get out because they don’t know out exists.

 

The Common Belief

Eventually, I could see that all dysfunctional relationships share common beliefs.  The common belief that triggered my avalanche into hell was stay-at-home mom.  We both had stay-at-home mothers who submitted to their husband’s beliefs and desires.  When I met the circumstances and stepped into this feminine role, I fell into his illusion.  Once inside his world, I saw through his eyes; and my own discrimination seemed wrong and bad.

My husband had beliefs that protected his beliefs.  My old mind was orderly based on true and false.  Now my mind was like a spider’s web of confusion; it told me that if I let the beliefs go, I’d be punished.  I suddenly feared God and hell.  I felt I had to obey authority blindly.  I believed that I was unworthy.  I felt jealous for the first time in my life.  I was an alien in a foreign land swimming in a sea of beliefs.  And the worst belief of all was that I couldn’t let any of them go.

But I did rediscover how to let go.  I got my discrimination back, and I’m much more secure in my life because of the experience.  I learned, however, that I just can’t live in someone else’s illusion.

I don’t judge beliefs anymore if people want them, but I won’t accept them as true.  I remind others that they don’t have to accept beliefs that don’t feel good.  Beliefs are optional; and if someone requires you to accept them, I suggest you run the other way.

In addition, I’m more comfortable letting people experience the natural consequences of their beliefs.  Beliefs have a price; usually a big one.  So I don’t pick people up so quickly or go into their world to save them anymore.  Natural law is the best teacher sometimes.

However, if they want to let those beliefs go, I’ll support them all the way.  Everyone deserves freedom, but we must choose it.