How to Make It Our Own — Find Our Place in the World

Nicola Steffanina

By Cathy Eck

 

People often ask me, “If we want to do what you do, how can we make it our own?”  That’s tricky to answer because you can’t make what I do your own; that’s not how life works.

In the illusion, we think that becoming a practitioner or teacher of information/knowledge is the purpose of life.  But that’s a false-self purpose.  It never provides the freedom, joy, or harmony with others that we want.

 

UNIQUE POINT OF VIEW

Like so many other topics, we must blame level confusion.  Everyone’s purpose is to first find their True Self.  Then we have our own answers to everything we need or want to know.  We aren’t interested in other people’s knowledge anymore; we sure as hell don’t want to teach or practice it.  What I do is original for me; however, it becomes knowledge for anyone else because it isn’t their own.  We must first remember our own unique point of view by letting go of our false self.  Then ironically, we won’t want to make what someone else does “our own” anymore.

I mentor people who want to write.  I recommend they write whatever they’re thinking.  If it isn’t original, then they take a sentence/paragraph, let go of the beliefs around what they wrote, they rewrite, and let go again.  If they keep doing that over and over, they’ll eventually find their OWN voice.  When our writing, art, music, inventions, decorating, etc. come from our True Self, they’ll carry the stamp of our unique point of view.

 

MAKE IT OUR OWN — MENTAL LEVEL

Sometimes, people try to find their own expression by taking a little from this teacher and a little from that teacher.  That isn’t their own.  We aren’t compilations of other people’s minds; that’s a false self.  We can’t learn to be our True Self.

Often people ask about combining what I do with Reiki, therapy, religion, or something else.  That will never work — never — never.  Those are all belief systems.  If we completely let go, we’ll let those belief systems go too.  Letting go takes us in the opposite direction of almost everything else because we’re going for the cause; that can be confusing.

 

BRIDGE CAREER

Sometimes we need what I call bridge careers.  My blogging/mentoring is my bridge career for now.  It pushes me to keep letting go and pays the bills.

Let’s say you’re a hands-on healer.  You could continue your work while letting go of the disease labels that people bring you to heal.  Eventually, you’ll find that you want to mentor people because you don’t want them to think the hands-on stuff is doing the work.  Then one day, you might drop mentoring too.  Our careers naturally evolve as we let go.

 

MAKE IT OUR OWN — PHYSICAL LEVEL

At the mental level, to “make it our own” means to be our True Self.  Done!

At the physical level, our True Self uses our knowledge and talents.  What we do provides the channel for our unique True Self perspective to flow into the material world.  For example, there’s a San Diego physicist turned comedian who does humorous Powerpoint presentations.  He has a unique perspective of physics; the audience gets a hilarious class in physics.

My mentoring is almost never about the words or techniques that I use; it’s about reaching others where they are and finding a way to convince them that what they’re thinking is false so they’ll let go.  Another person could do the same techniques and speak my words and wouldn’t get results because they still believe the illusion is true.  It’s the True Self perspective that makes it work.

My oldest son (below) DOES hip-hop dance, choreography, and videography.  His True Self bleeds through his doing; he sees a world with everybody dancing so he has a free dance channel on YouTube so people of any age or any place can learn to dance.  Everybody wins.

My daughter (above) is a horse trainer; since she was a young child she’s rescued animals, but never with a victim mentality.  They come to her to find their true home.  Now she takes in horses that no one wants, rejuvenates them, finds and embellishes their gifts, then sells them for a profit to good homes.  Everybody wins.

Matt Steffanina

There’s no shortage of hip-hop dancers or horse trainers.  They do something quite ordinary in a unique way to fill a gap in the world that only they seem to see.  That gap created their desire; and following that desire got them into their perfect place in the world.

 

WHAT ABOUT THE MONEY?

The next question is usually,  “What about the money?”  I researched for fifteen years and blogged for over a year without making money from it.  I was inspired to do it.  I took what I call dumb jobs.  Then someone said, “Would you mentor me?”  I said, “Yes;” and mentoring was born.  Then another person said, “I’d like to give you a donation.”  So I learned how to add a PayPal button to my blog.  I do retreats when people ask for a way to meet others of like mind.  I listen to requests and questions; and I attempt to fill the requests in a win-win way.  My son’s and daughter’s businesses grew exactly the same way.  I call it organic growth.  You become yourself and express who you are; then you find the place where you’re wanted or needed.

Here’s where things get interesting.  I would write if no one read my writing.  It what I love to do.  My children would do what they do.  When we do things from our True Self, it’s life giving in the being and doing.   Belief systems, on the other hand, die without lots of believers and constant attention and support.  They need people to feed the dragon because the dragon is very hungry–that’s not win-win.  We’re switching an old paradigm; that’s not easy.  But, one day, people will only pay True Selves.  I promise it.

You Can’t Buy True Freedom with Money

Abundance and freedom

By Cathy Eck

 

“True freedom is doing what you want, when you want and with whom you want to do it with.” 

 

I didn’t write the above quote.  Tony Robbins wrote it, who is all about money and following excitement.  He isn’t living or offering true freedom.  But he uses that quote as if he is.

This is level confusion at it’s best.  Level confusion happens when people make statements from within the illusion that are true only at the True Self level (outside the illusion).  If people did whatever they wanted within the illusion, things could get really bad.  Beliefs dramatically distort what we want.  That’s why the illusion has rules.  Only beliefs can create a rapist, serial killer, or thief.  They would all agree that’s a damn good quote.

If our minds are pure, we’ll live as he described.  Our doing flows naturally from our pure mind, not beliefs.  We won’t do anything that isn’t win-win.  Abundance is a bi-product of such thinking.  We get what truly belongs to us.  We charge what feels right, not what the market will bear.

I watched Tony Robbins on the Oprah channel about a year ago.  He was a ball of over-the-top excitement.  Following excitement is always bad news.  Even Oprah was jumping up and down screaming his affirmations, and she’s a fucking billionaire.

 

Level Confusion and God

Oprah, award show winners, and mega-preachers all say , “I’ve gotten all of this from God.”  More level confusion.  Oprah, for example, is gifted in her ability to interview people.  But her billions came from advertisers, marketing, and the “O” brand.  Viewers paid her with their time watching tons of ads instead of programming.  Her billions came from keeping more for herself than those who worked for her.  It came from taking risks and winning.  She plays the illusory game very well.  And I have no problem with the illusion as a game.  But don’t call winning the illusory game God’s plan or God’s will.  That’s lying.

The same thing happens when people say “God told me this or I channeled this from spirit.”  We fall for the trap thinking that their words are better than the words that we think.  I know that when people listen to their OWN True Self all the time, every problem on this planet will disappear.  I can’t wait.

 

The Reality

The reality is that we get money (even donations) from other people, not God.  So we have to really look for the highest level of equality and fairness.  We all want to get paid for offering our True Self expressed in products and services.  We don’t want a handout.  It looks like the illusion’s winners are doing this until you put freedom as the goal.  Then you see that most products and services hold people hostage or offer comfort for the zoo animals so they won’t try to escape.

An economy is part of an illusion that has a certain amount of money within it.  It’s not unlimited.  Abundance is thrown around by leveled-confused teachers, but it doesn’t exist within the illusion.  The illusion is all about limitation; those who get more than their share of that limitation win at the expense of others who lose.

Like the koala above, we lose our abundance when we get caged in the illusory zoo.  When others seem to take care of our needs, we give up abundance, freedom, and life itself.  The best example is the monastery.  We think monks are holy people, but they’re just cared for people.  They give up freedom of thought for a room and a couple of meals a day.  Most of the world takes jobs they don’t love; the zoo looks attractive because they fear they won’t find any eucalyptus leaves on their own.  That’s just not true; but if we believe it, it becomes our reality.

 

The Teachers

Speaking the truth at the false self level of reality is false.  It has no power at the wrong level of reality.  That’s why I expose the false and let you figure out your truth.

Let’s get real!  If you need to keep your gratitude journal, what are you?  Ungrateful.  If you need to focus on the positive, what are you?  Negative.  If you need to preach about abundance, you’re poverty in a great wrapper (or rapper if you are Yeezus!)  The True Self is already positive, grateful, and abundantly wired.  False masculine leaders teach us how to fix our false self to make it a True Self clone like them.  A True Self clone has a God complex and is admired in the illusion; but it’s unlikely to ever get free.  They’re trapped too; they just live in a nicer habitat.

These super false selves are so psychologically reversed that we can’t see their error.   We believe they’re True Selves.  That’s the problem.

They should feel emotion when speaking beliefs, but they don’t.  They think their beliefs are golden truth.  When we receive their projected words, we feel emotion like that excited Tony Robbins audience; but we don’t let go or walk away because we also get their psychological reversal.  We come to believe that they spoke the truth; after all, they’re successful.  We accept their projection and send them a check.

When we encounter beliefs that have been given to us by someone we once labeled good, nice, or enlightened, we generally feel emotions that we might label guilt, shame, or rebelliousness for letting go.  Our mind can think that we’re letting go of the truth.  That keeps us stuck.  We feel like we must hold on to the beliefs in case we need them later on.  And this brings us back to one of the biggest tricks of the illusion.  It tells us that it will give us what we can only get by letting go.  So just let go of these teachers, preachers, and leaders and their inspiring quotes; and you’ll find your own natural inspiration much more quickly.

Getting Through the Tunnel of Lack to Find Real Abundance

Light at the end of the tunnel

By Cathy Eck

 

We all realize that abundance is true.  Even televangelists talk of our right to abundance these days.  Yet often the path to freedom takes us through periods of lack.  We wonder what we’re doing wrong.  We’re actually doing something right.

Once we U-turn and accept the path of initiation, the seeming problems in our life are there to push us to let go.  To get to abundance, we must let go of the normal perspective of rich and poor (triangle process).  We’re taught that rich people are free.  Money buys happiness.  Not true!

Abundance isn’t the same as wealth or riches.  Abundance has no opposite.  It’s the normal state of having everything that we want and desire.  But abundance doesn’t include excess.  It doesn’t include saving for a rainy day because the True Self doesn’t have rainy days.  Abundance is simple.

 

Fixing Causes

Initiation is about fixing causes, not effects. To understand this, watch an episode of, “Keeping Up With the Kardashians.” If they argue, they fix the relationship with gifts. Wreck their car, a new one is in the driveway before the sun sets. Need to lose weight, they hire a personal trainer, chef, and therapist. When we fix problems with money and experts, we’re living from wealth, not abundance.  We think the money buys freedom; but the rich are usually the furthest from true freedom.  The more we fix our problems with money, the more we veil our causal beliefs.  Lack pushes us to let go.

When we fix a problem’s effect, the problem still exists as a potential in our mind.  Often we project that problem on to others because our mind says it no longer applies to us.  We fixed it.  It’s hard for me to convince people to let go of problems that they believe they’ve fixed because the remedies of the illusion have gotten so quick and so good.  People say to me, “Shit Cathy I already fixed this with medication, surgery, or positive thinking.”  “I just want to keep taking the drugs, doing the exercises, or going to the healer.”  If we fear the problem coming back, or have to take or do something to manage it, we haven’t removed the cause.  The false self will do anything to avoid exposure; it doesn’t believe in letting go because it wants to stay alive and in control of our body and life.

If we let go of the cause of any problem, we’ll  never experience it again; we’ll be able to help others let it go until eventually that problem doesn’t exist for anyone anymore.  That’s true service of the highest level.

Our True Self, once we allow it back into our life, knows that our beliefs must be exposed and battled for us to live a free life. We won’t have incentive to let go of causal beliefs if we fix our problems with money.  So lack enters our life to keep us from being tempted.

We’re often overwhelmed with fear and powerlessness when lack enters our reality.  That’s good.  If we follow our emotions with our attention, we’ll find the causal beliefs.  Then we just have to remember to let go.  Our mind might tells us that we need help from others. It will fear that we’ll be homeless.  It embarrasses us.  We might fear that we’re being punished by God.  Thoughts of unfairness or injustice often arise. We might blame others for our situation. These thoughts are all false, but they look and feel true because we’re psychologically reversed on the subject of money — we think the emotion we feel is proving our beliefs true when it’s actually reminding us that our beliefs are false.

If we battle our mind and defeat those psychological reversals, the lack will disappear. But this time we’ve fixed the cause not the effect.  We won’t experience lack again.  We won’t even fear it coming back.  That’s abundance.

 

Losing Motivation

Initiates lose their external motivation. We used to be able to drag our asses out of bed every day to work for the man. Now, we can’t.  We can’t find the willpower to obey the rules of society — work hard, suffer with a smile, and pay your debts.  We often feel worthless or start to wonder who we really are because our mind tries to figure out why we’re in this situation.  Most people lose their outer motivation before their inner motivation kicks in.

Quitting the job we detest gives us the time to sit quietly and let go.  Ideally, we let go until action is inspired.  Freedom, not wealth, has become our new north star.  But often we go through a long dark tunnel of lack before we see the light of abundance.  Our mind makes letting go difficult as it reminds us of our dangerous reality.  We must remember that our reality is the effect of our beliefs — not the truth.  We have to keep letting go if we want to get through that tunnel.

 

Losing Approval

Often our old way of making a living earned us approval or avoided disapproval.  We may have felt virtuous for working hard. We might have improved lives in an illusory service role based on fixing effects.  Now we feel lazy, worthless, and selfish.  The false self is working overtime to win back control.

Our friends and family will usually offer false-self support.  Misery does love company in the illusion.  It might appear that the world doesn’t want our gifts or talents.  This phase can feel incredibly lonely.

 

When we step on the path to freedom, we meet all the beliefs we accepted in the past.  The road to hell is paved with beliefs — lack is a hot topic for the false self.  But we don’t get to return to heaven on earth without retracing all of our false steps.  We must refrain from trying to detour.  We keep letting go; and one day, our mind is free.  Abundance is the only possible reality.

Making Our Dreams (Desires) Come True

Rich and Poor, Apathy and Longing

By Cathy Eck

 

There’s no shortage of advice on the subject of manifesting desires.  I’ve probably heard and tried it all at some point in my life.  But often, after hanging out in those conversations, I’d find that I wasn’t manifesting my desires as promised.

Disillusioned, I’d think I just couldn’t get it.  Sometimes I’d feel post-manifest guilt if I willed people or things into my life with visualization or affirmation.  Often I was physically and mentally exhausted from my need to be spiritually worthy or keep my vibration tuned.  Mental hard work had replaced physical hard work.

 

What Do You Really Want?

By the time people come to me, they’re often in pretty deep apathy.  “I don’t want anything; I just want to be myself,” they say.  I get it; I felt like that once.  But apathy isn’t even close to freedom.  They’re further from their True Self than they were before their first workshop.  If you look at the our old  triangle process, apathy and longing sit at the bottom of the triangle.  We’ll hang out in longing until we give up, then we’ll laterally move over to apathy.  People often mistake apathy for  acceptance.

Rich and poor are another bottom of the triangle dynamic duo related to abundance.  Jesus said that the rich can’t get to heaven because he knew that the rich have the poor hidden within their unconscious mind.  They project their poor mindset on to others who take it because they’ve been taught to see money as evil.  The rich would have to unveil their own poverty mindset and let their poor projection off the hook to get to abundance (heaven).  He didn’t see them doing that.

Abundance got stretched out of form by new thought movements.  Abundance to the initiates was a state of mind where you knew that whatever you needed or truly desired could be manifested with a single powerful thought.  People often use the term abundance when they really mean rich or longing.  This creates level confusion.

 

True Versus False Desires

Desires that feel calm and peaceful are true.  When we can calmly enjoy something in our mind, it’s a true desire.  If our desires comes laced with emotions, like excitement or jealousy, then either the false self is blocking them or they aren’t true desires.  If desires remains after we let go of the false thoughts that are causing the emotion, they’re true desires; and they’re on their way to us.  If our desires are false, they’ll disappear.

Here’s a technique that I give to people (and myself) a lot.  Think of something you’ve wanted for a long time; picture it in your mind if you want.  Noticed if any emotion arises in your body.  Avoid labeling the emotion.  Focus your attention on the emotion until a thought arises.  Remember, don’t wallow in the emotion or analyze it, just witness it.  Thoughts that arise out of the emotion will generally be contrary to your desire.  It will appear to be true, but it’s not true.  It could be a past reality because it happened to you before or you saw it in others, but we’re not trying to prove reality.  We’re trying to get to the truth.

If you realize that the contrary thought isn’t true, you’ll be able to let it go.  If you think it is true, you’re screwed.  Your mind is blocking your desire.  Until you can get rid of that contrary thought or thoughts, your only option to get the desire is to will it — to force it to manifest.  That can work, but you’ll probably have post-manifest guilt.

Reality is the effect of the beliefs we’ve believed in the past.  Until we let them go, they create in our life.  You’re seeing the belief that caused the state you’re currently in.  Beliefs always look true when they rise up from our unconscious mind.  We suppressed them because they felt bad when we first heard them.  They rise up wearing the same mask they wore when we suppressed them.

Always remember that you can’t let go of the true self.  You can’t hurt anyone or anything by letting go.  If you stay with this exercise until all the emotion is gone, you’ll see things clearly.  Don’t get discouraged; this can take some work.  Ideally, you don’t take any action until it’s inspired — in other words, it’s joyous and obvious.

 

Guilt or Shame

Let’s say that you go shopping and buy a new suit.  It’s gorgeous, and you feel great.  After driving home, emotion erupts.  That means that a belief has been triggered by your action.  If you put your “observer” attention on the emotion and listen, usually a belief will rear its ugly little fat head like,  “I spent too much money.”  If you accept that belief, you’re screwed.  Your mind will go into reasoning, guilting, shaming, worrying, blaming, justifying, etc.  But if you notice that the belief, “I spent too much money,” doesn’t feel good, so it isn’t the truth; and if you let it go, you’ll go right back to enjoying your suit.

People have to drug and sooth themselves because they don’t catch that first belief that arises after an action, and they go right down the toilet into the illusion’s sewage dump.  That single, seemingly innocent, belief is the entry point into the illusion.  Once the illusion has your ass, you’ll be stuck in its trap.  If you don’t correct your thinking, you’ll eventually feel emotion with any purchase until you can barely buy a loaf of bread.  People over time move from cautious, to thrifty, to cheap, to greed.  The illusion is seductive.  That’s why it’s rare that people get free.

Desires aren’t bad.  But desires do piss off the illusion.  Beliefs come out of hiding to fight for their life when we honor or raise our desires.  If we are watchful and catch the false thoughts as they arise, we’ll not only get our desires, we’ll get freedom.

 

 

Money Isn’t the Root of All Evil, but It Sure Supports It

Abundance, Rich, Poor

Both Rich and Poor are Conditions of the False World.

By Cathy Eck

 

Is Money the Root of All Evil?

One of the biggest stumbling blocks for people walking the path of initiation is how to make money and pay their bills while continuing to clear their mind.  Money is a big source of level confusion because the rules for abundance (our natural state of being) are 180 degrees from the rules for making money in the illusion.

If we apply the triangle process, we easily see that abundance is the truth.  Rich and poor are both at the bottom of the triangle — so both are false.  Jesus said the rich have a hard time getting into heaven.  He was saying that it’s easier to give up a poverty mentality since you have nothing to lose than a rich mentality where you think you have everything to lose.  But in truth, both rich and poor mindsets keep us from Heaven on Earth.

Religion made poverty virtuous by emphasizing that money is evil and the rich can’t get to heaven while downplaying the fact that poverty doesn’t get one to heaven either.  You get to heaven by being your abundant True Self.

 

Bridge Careers

As we make our way out of the illusion, we need a bridge career. Any job can be a bridge career.  It’s the perspective we hold — not what we do.  I work as a bridge mentor or coach.  I don’t give people action steps to success or have them set goals to achieve.  I don’t motivate them.  I support them in letting go of the beliefs that stand in their way.

If I were a healer or doctor, I’d stop medicating people and chopping them up without first helping them look into their minds and let go.  If I were a lawyer, I’d mediate issues and help people see the truth of their situation.  If I was a barista, I’d let go of every judgment I felt for customers, bosses, or fellow employees. If I were a laborer, I’d challenge my arising thoughts while I worked.  Entertainment, the arts, or feel-good services like massage make great bridge careers.

 

How To Charge Others?

Charging for services varies by individuals and changes as we let go, but there are certain beneficial guidelines.  In the illusion, people try to get more than they give.  In initiation, we reverse that.  In the illusion, people speak in level confusion.  They tell someone they’re healing them when they’re merely removing their latest symptoms.  We must be honest about what we’re providing.  In the illusion, we market; in initiation, we express our True Selves and allow people to choose what we offer.

We must stop charging to fix effects in people and start letting go of causes.  (Obviously, plumbers can’t ask the toilet to let go).  It’s very fair to charge for our services as we assist others to freedom.  After all, those who keep them stuck are charging mega-bucks.

 

Tithing

The original notion of tithing made sense.  People gave money to the truly wise ones because they wanted to be like them.  Money was like casting a vote — it set your direction in life.  You certainly didn’t tithe to someone selling beliefs.

People still vote with their money. However, few people realize that there’s another option beyond the illusion.  So they continue to feed the illusion with their spending choices.  As people stop funding the false institutions, they’ll come down quickly.  Money will go to those who live from the truth making the truth more valuable than beliefs.

Initiates don’t usually need much money.  Most initiates live elegantly (because they appreciate beauty and fine workmanship) and comfortably (because they aren’t martyrs), but simply (because they don’t have false desires).

 

Charity

Charity doesn’t exist outside the illusion.  It’s an insult to give to someone out of lack; you give only out of love or appreciation. The best gift we can give to another is to let go of the belief in our mind that they need charity.  Let go of the belief that another can suffer or can’t find their way.  Help them to see their beliefs and let go if they ask for help, but don’t feed their addictions to entitlement, false thinking, or poverty.  We want to help them fish for a lifetime, not feed them for a day.

When people can no longer solve their problems with money, they start letting go.  They have incentive to change their minds.

 

Abundance

Abundance is our natural state.  Many new thought teachers have preached about abundance creating a new breed of rich people suffering from extreme level confusion. Abundance became ice cream piled high on a dish of smelly manure. People talked about abundance while hiding or ignoring their beliefs in lack.  When we hide beliefs, we project them.

Rich people perpetuate poverty while looking philanthropic.  They give money to fix the effects of their own projections.  The sleaziest ones ask for donations so we’ll pay to fix their projections.  If they took responsibility for their projections and let go, poverty would end.

People who live in true abundance don’t wish for it, don’t affirm it into being, and don’t market it.  They just live it and enjoy it.

 

Money Isn’t the Root of All Evil

The root of all evil is the belief in good and evil.  The root of all evil is thinking or behaving in a way that supports good-evil, win-lose, rich-poor, dominance-submission, or right-wrong.  Blaming money takes our eyes off our beliefs and puts them on something that we currently use and need in our society.

In my vision of Heaven on Earth, I see a world of creative expression, where everyone is freely giving and receiving.  People give their gifts and talents and get what they need from others who are also freely giving their gifts and talents. That’s perfection.  But until we get there, money (as a medium of exchange) will do just fine.