By Cathy Eck
Understanding masculine and feminine roles is key to stripping the illusion from our mind. Masculine and feminine roles were created through stories that were presented as right or true. The stories caused our minds to accept the masculine role as authority, deserving of obedience and respect. Once that was accomplished, the masculine roles in the world could abuse their power. They still do.
When we don’t understand roles, we can’t and don’t discriminate between true and false. We also tend to either project on others or absorb or reflect the projection of our authority figures. Let’s look more closely at roles.
Inner Roles Defined
Our inner mind has a masculine and a feminine aspect. When we’re thinking from our True Self, those two mental aspects work together seemlessly. This was called the alchemical marriage.
When we’re thinking from our True Self, we think only productive thoughts. We hear creative ideas and truthful thoughts that are calm and harmless to ourselves and others. We get ideas that cause the world to evolve. We move nicely along our True path. The effects of our thoughts are always good and win-win in nature.
Our false mind was created by others who wanted us to think their way. They wanted to become our false God. Our minds weren’t designed to hold false beliefs. In fact, we’re all given a powerful lie detector — emotions. When we feel emotions, it’s because our OWN mind is thinking false thoughts. That occurs because: we’re holding false beliefs in mind and aren’t discriminating; or our authorities are projecting their beliefs on us, and we believe them.
The false self is born whenever we accept our first false thought (belief); the roles in our mind change. In the false self, the masculine intellect is the inner and outer authority; the emotions become something to eliminate because emotions expose the false self.
In most religious stories and myths, masculine had all the power. God was male. That elevated the intellect. Now an intellect offers a belief, and we do feel emotion at first. But we can’t do a damn thing about it. The intellect has authority. So we accept their thought into our own mind as true. We just ate the apple from the tree of knowledge of good and evil. If we do this enough, we’ll start to feel emotion when the True Self speaks and calmness when we hear our beliefs. We’ve been psychologically reversed.
Someone says to us, “You’re an ass.” If they’re not our authority, we’ll say, “No, I’m not.” We’ll let their comment go. However, if an authority says it, we’ll accept their thought into our mind and hold on to it. We’ll feel helpless to let it go because we been trained to believe that we can’t change the minds of authority. Clever huh!
The social norm of respecting elders keeps us from discriminating. Obedience to authority causes us to ignore emotional signals. Putting knowledge ahead of our emotions prevents us from questioning the doctor, teacher, parent, or clergy.
Outer Roles Defined
Outer roles aren’t about bodies or sex. A woman can play a masculine role. A man also plays many feminine roles.
I’ve explained before that the clergy, policemen, parent, doctor, and teachers are all examples of masculine roles. The masculine role has authority or is the one that’s asserting or giving. The feminine role receives.
Roles aren’t inherently bad. If I give you a gift, I’m playing the masculine role. You’re in the feminine role. If I serve you a meal, I’m in the masculine role as giver. Those are pure transactions. We call them first-cause ideas. They don’t trap us in the illusion.
Second-cause thinking, however, contains judgment defined by “the man” (although people can be savvy about saying that God spoke to them). Second-cause thinking creates inequality through position, pedigree, race, culture, religion, or sex; it traps us in the illusion.
Good and evil are critical to the illusion; we aren’t whole if our mind believes in good and evil because we can’t be both at the same time. We can’t win and lose at the same time. We live life like we’re riding waves — we’re up, then we’re down. We’re always half of a whole. That’s not balanced — it’s a disaster.
To escape the illusion, we must recognize and understand roles. If a person plays an authority role, or a more powerful role within the illusion, they must honor the role responsibly. The husband can’t blame the wife or kids in a traditional marriage. The teacher can’t blame students. They’re the authority. If we play the role of authority, we must accept responsibility. We get the credit and the blame.
Likewise, if we’re playing a feminine role, we must learn not to blindly accept beliefs or labels from authority. We must listen to our emotional lie detector.
If we’re with a friend on equal footing, the masculine and feminine roles gently switch back and forth. The person speaking is masculine; the listener is feminine. There’s no competition or desire for power. The notion of authority must go for us to return to the Garden of Eden. That won’t happen until enough of us have individually eliminated our beliefs about obedience to authority, second-cause thinking, and judgment from our mind. Normal thinking must return to purely True and False.
To get out of the illusion, we do the opposite. When we fell, we believed authority without question. We took in beliefs as if they were true. Now we look at the beliefs of those authorities from our past and see if their words had an emotional component. We let go of the beliefs regardless of who gave them to us.
If your mind isn’t too psychologically reversed, you can make the correction on our own. If not, get someone to help you discriminate.
Eventually, we learn to be in the illusion but not impacted by it. Authority loses it’s false power. We’re free.