Eliminating the Masculine and Feminine Roles

masculine and feminine roles

By Cathy Eck

 

Roles Aren’t True

In the last few posts, I’ve explained the masculine and feminine roles within the illusion.  Remember, roles hold the illusion together.  There’s no such thing as roles to the True Self.  Roles are real; they do exist in the illusory world.  However, they aren’t true.  This is good news; it means that we can let roles go.

The false self depends on roles; it has endless tricks to get people into roles where it can win, dominate, and be good or right.  If we aren’t aware of the purpose of roles, we fall prey to them.  We end up losing without even knowing we were competing; we submit to others who aren’t true leaders, or we look bad or wrong.

Our goal in initiation is to get back to the time before we got stuck in roles.  Of course, we received our first role the moment we were born — daughter or son.  Many people never escape that role.  They’re still submissive to their parents on the day they die.  Thus, they never live their own life.

 

Breaking Free of Roles

Recognition:  The first step is recognizing that we’re stuck in a role.

Masculine or feminine:  It’s important to determine whether we’re playing a masculine or feminine part.  Sometimes, it’s obvious.  Other times, we aren’t sure and must look for subtle clues.  Our body gives us clues through pain, disease, or symptoms.  Actions also speak louder than words.

Ghosts:  In feminine roles, we often feel oppressed.  But the oppressor or controller isn’t always who we think.  False minds don’t want us to find the real cause.  

My ex-husband believed I was controlling him, but I wasn’t.  I wasn’t willing to accept his beliefs as true, and to some false selves that can seem controlling.  But I wasn’t demanding or needy.  In fact, as I let go, he came to have so much freedom it was like he wasn’t married; but still he insisted that I was controlling him.  Eventually, I could see that it was his mother’s voice that was dominating him, not mine.  He just couldn’t see through his own veil of beliefs.

Roles are Mental:  The roles we see in the world are the effect of the roles we hold in OUR OWN mind.  If we feel controlled by someone, that’s because we still hold controlling authorities from our past in mind.  My ex-husband felt controlled by his own inner feminine (formed by his mother).  Whatever I said or did passed through that filter and tainted his hearing and vision.  He never heard me; he heard his mother’s voice replaying old tapes.

Make roles about roles, not about people who play them:  When we cast someone in a role, we’re holding them hostage.  My experience as a character in my ex-husband’s illusion created the desire to help others who feel stuck in someone else’s illusion to escape.  I never wanted another to go through that pain and confusion.

Step Back:  People playing the masculine role seldom have an incentive to let the role go.  They’re usually winning, looking good, and getting to be right.  Of course, their victories are illusory; but the world believes them.  They get approval, attention, and rewards from their roles and labels.  We can escape their illusion once we understand how to let go of beliefs.

We must realize that the roles that others play in our life exist as potentials in our mental drama.  We appear to be victims in the illusion; but we aren’t.  We’ve simply accepted beliefs that allow the roles to perpetuate.  Most of those beliefs come from religion, cultural traditions, or social conventions.  They’re beliefs that most don’t even question.

For example:  “I should listen to others.  Emotions are bad.  I should be nice to my authorities.  I can’t tell another that their belief is false.  If it happened to them, it could happen to me.  I can’t correct authority.”  In my case, the main belief that kept me stuck was a feminine role — a false perception of wife.  With each belief I let go, the false authorities in my mind lost more power until I could no longer play the false wife role.

Do the Process:  Once we find the belief, we’re only half way there.  Often people stop when they find the belief because of another belief that says, “Now that I found the cause, I’m free of the belief.”  This is common in the new age and creates projection, not release.  Denying a belief, excluding ourself, or choosing a new belief is NOT letting go.

To drop the belief, we must recognize the pain it has caused.  We must witness and release the emotion the belief generated, and we must realize the emotion is saying the belief isn’t true.  It may have been real in our past; but it wasn’t true.  The belief isn’t just false for us.  It’s false for everyone.  This is often hard to do.  If we’ve been pressed underneath an authority’s illusion for decades, we don’t feel like letting them off the hook.  But it’s worth it.

When we’ve completely eliminated a belief from our mind, we don’t experience it in the world anymore.  Now we can help others let go because we can discriminate again.

We must let go of any beliefs that say we need to believe others, especially authority.  False selves will do their very best to convince us that their beliefs are true.  The false self fears death.  Exposure is its kryptonite.  It tries hard to stay hidden beneath an acceptable mask.

Wash, Rinse, and Repeat:  If the stain doesn’t come all the way out,  keep letting go until it’s gone.  In this work, a belief is gone when you no longer see evidence of it.  It’s gone when you don’t fear it.  It’s gone when you know it’s false.  Persistence, honesty, and courage are the qualities that will take you all the way.

Becoming a True Leader by Mastering the Masculine Role

Masculine Role

By Cathy Eck

 

Masculine Role

A true leader is someone who carries out the masculine role perfectly.  The masculine role in our modern world has fallen to a very low level.  Most leaders in masculine roles are power-hungry, competitive, and need to be right.  They project their shadows on to others; then they blame the shadow.  Consequently, the people they lead in feminine roles feel confused, emotional, and powerless.

The master of the masculine role leads from the inside out.  They have a pure mind and only believe thoughts that take them to a win-win vision (they actually know what a win-win vision is).  They let go of the thoughts that aren’t moving their community or business forward.  They don’t hide their false self under a nice or smart persona or say one thing and do another.  They have few beliefs; all of them are from first-cause (non-judgmental) thinking.

Years ago, I discovered the true masculine as a business owner.  At first, I followed other leaders.  I tried to motivate my employees, create an inspiring vision, and treat everyone fairly.  I tried to hide or deny my fear.  But something was off, and I knew it because I could feel it in my body.  I still competed for work.  I still honored beliefs about business and my industry because everyone else did.

In short, my masculine mind was split into win and lose.  I was always battling for the win.  When I won, I felt good.  When I lost, I felt bad.  The outcome of any competition determined how I felt, and that was no longer acceptable.  So I made a simple decision that I would no longer do anything that wasn’t win-win for everyone involved.

Slowly, I realized that if I let go of my own beliefs, I was left with the truth around any situation.  My employees no longer needed motivating, and I didn’t have to compete and market.  I got the business that was right for me.

I wasn’t just changing my thoughts superficially; I let go of the thoughts that weren’t true.  My mind now sorted information based on true and false, not win and lose.  When something went wrong, I found the cause in my mind and let it go.  The cause was always a belief that I’d learned from another.  Slowly the outer world came to match my inner vision.

But this all worked because I played the masculine role.  I was in charge.  I used the people in the feminine role as my mirror; I was serious about not breaking that mirror.

 

Why Leaders Fail?

Leaders fail because they aren’t leading.  They might hold the position, title, or authority; but they aren’t a true leader if they lead from win-lose.  They hold beliefs or rules in mind that they want others to follow.  They see enemies to defeat.

Most leaders try to impose or force their beliefs on others.  They try to convince everyone that their beliefs are right and their enemies are real.

When a leader simply wants to win their projected battles, they aren’t a leader.  They’re a dictator.  Dictators tend to use force, shame, guilt, blame, manipulation, or fear to get their way.   Sadly, most parents, teachers, clergy, and leaders of all sorts are either dictators or complete push-overs.  A true leader is neither of these.

 

Getting to True

To get to true leadership, we must find the cause of problems in our own mind.  The cause is always thought, a belief.  The person playing the masculine role is always at cause in the illusion because it’s the masculine role that has authority, makes rules, and gives rewards or punishment. The illusion was created that way.

What we really want are leaders without beliefs that take us all to peace, abundance, and freedom.  But our false self tends to choose leaders that validate our beliefs.  We feel supported when people think like us.  So we exacerbate the problem.

 

Letting Go in the Masculine Role

Letting go in the masculine role is different from the feminine.  In the feminine role, it feels like beliefs are coming at us.  We didn’t make the rules or create the beliefs, but we feel we must follow them.  Letting go in the feminine role is difficult.

In the masculine role, we’re always facing our own projection.  If our projection isn’t free, joyous, and basking in abundance, our false self wants to either fix or battle its shadow, when it should just let it go.  Some people do this their entire life.  Shit we label people heroes for fixing their own faulty projections.  We’re really blind on this issue.

If a leader of a country sees poverty, they have poverty inside their mind.  If they see terrorists, they’re the cause of the terrorism.  When we accept the masculine role, we accept the responsibility for everything that goes wrong.

The person in the masculine role cannot be a victim because they’re the cause.  Problems can only be fixed at the cause.  When the leader takes responsibility for their thinking, problems get fixed easily.  When they take action to fix the effects of their thinking, problems last forever.

Our world is a mess now because our leaders project their beliefs outside of them and act innocent when they come back to bite their ass.  This is why I teach people in feminine roles to no longer accept projections or beliefs.  Leaders stop blaming the feminine when it no longer works.

The true masculine recognizes that their job is to watch and listen to their feminine projection and self correct.  A true leader rarely gets the credit because they made the correction inside their mind, rather than outside with effort.  It looks like things just went back to normal or a miracle occurred.

Lao Tzu said, “A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.”  Lao Tzu understood true leadership.

Escaping the Feminine Role

Feminine role

By Cathy Eck

 

The Feminine Role

In the illusion, the masculine role is the authority or assertive role.  Consequently, the masculine role is easy to drop.  But no one wants to play the powerless, feminine role, so people hold on to masculine roles.  When we need to be in control, we fear the feminine role.  If we’re addicted to victimhood, we’re stuck and apathetic in the feminine role.

Life in the illusion has a way of pulling us into the feminine.  Eventually, we retire from our expert or authority job.  Our body gives out; we can no longer be the sports star.  Our kids grow up.  It looks like we’ve lost our mojo; it feels terrible unless we understand what’s occurring.  Our feminine self needs healing.

 

Feeling Powerless

Traditionally, the feminine role was the child, wife, slave, employee, or prisoner.  These roles had no power in the illusion; good meant obedient.  Then came a new kind of feminine role that appeared to be masculine but wasn’t.  The soldier believes he has power over the enemy; but he’s just following orders.  Conspiracy theorists notice when leaders in power aren’t being rational; they seem to be following orders of a hidden authority.  If we’re obeying another person, we’re in a feminine role.

If you saw the movie “Jobs” about Steve Jobs, you saw him change when Apple became a public company.  He became feminine to his board of directors.  He had to obey orders even if it wasn’t good for the company.   There’s nothing more horrific then submitting to a false leader.  Yet, we do it all the time; we continue to perpetuate blind obedience and respect for authority because we think it’s true and an unavoidable part of life.

One would think that leaders would be more conscious of this.  After all, we all start out in the feminine role as children.  We all feel the sting of having to take orders from another who doesn’t lead from unconditional love.  Sadly, when people get into the masculine role, they seem to think they’re always right.  They follow the unspoken Golden Role, which is “I do to others what was done to me.”

 

The Escape

We know we’re in a feminine role when we feel stuck in someone’s illusion.  It can be as serious as being in a prison camp or as insignificant as listening to our friend whine.  Either way, we feel stuck in a feminine role and can’t escape.

We must first recognize that our own beliefs got us in the role.  Usually we feel the need to be obedient or nice.

When we let go of the beliefs that caused us to assume the feminine role, we begin to match our True Self’s perspective.  Letting go of the false is what gets us to true.  This appears to be impossible because we’ve submitted to the other person; and both of us believe that they’re in the masculine power role.  But it is very possible.

We also submit willingly to false selves.  We hire a trainer to get fit.  The trainer is only giving us knowledge — their version of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil.  If we believe them, their beliefs will override our old beliefs about fitness.  Seekers are looking for a better spiritual belief system.  In sickness, we look for someone who believes in a cure.   In the illusion, we spend our life trying to trade up beliefs causing us to form codependent relationships around beliefs.  Letting go breaks these false ties to experts and authority figures.  Our own True Self has the wisdom of life we seek; it has no problems to fix.

 

Stuck in the Feminine Role 

The key to escaping a feminine role is to witness our emotions and discriminate continuously.  Wallowing in our emotions keeps us stuck.  We must let go of any belief that enters our mind or arises that has an emotional component.  Here’s an example of what I teach people to do who feel stuck in the feminine by racism.

Racist:  You’re lazy and good for nothing.

Feminine:  Doesn’t speak.  They go inward and feel the emotion inside of their body as they receive the words of the racist.  They recognize that their own emotional navigator is saying, “Don’t believe them; what they say isn’t true.”  So they let go of the words they hear because they aren’t true.  Now those words don’t take hold in their body-mind.  In fact, the emotional energy goes back to the racist.

Racists or bulles don’t fall over easy.  It’s likely that they’ll receive their emotion back and try again.  After all, they’re psychologically reversed.  They think their false belief is true because it has emotion.  Psychologically reversed leaders create very confused followers.  So you have to stay in true and false discrimination until they go away.  They will.  True trumps authority; it pulls us outside of the illusion where false authorities can’t harm us.

The goal of most people in a masculine role is to eliminate their own emotions by projecting them on another.  They don’t realize their emotions are related to their own stinking thinking.  When people say that a role (like healer, preacher, performer, or teacher) is life giving, they’re usually projecting their beliefs on those in the feminine role, which gives their beliefs (false self) more power.  A role or purpose is not life giving.  Being our True Selves is life giving.  True roles are for cocreation only.

Finally, we must look at our own beliefs to see what caused us to accept a false feminine role.  Most beliefs came from ancestors.  We’re taught to believe we must obey authority or respect elders.  We’re taught that what happens to others can happen to us.  We’re taught that if our beliefs generate emotion, they’re true.  We stop discriminating.  We believe what we’re told.  Eventually, if we let all those beliefs go, no one can put us in an illusory feminine role again.  We’re one step closer to freedom.

 

Using Our Animals to Let Go of Beliefs

Best horse trainer ever

By Cathy Eck

Animals and Initiation

My daughter got her first horse when she was ten.  While she was riding, I’d sit in the barn and observe the interaction between the horses and their owners.  In short order, I came to adore the horses and hate the owners.

I started to understand pets from the eyes of the animal.  When they rebelled, I could see why.  Their obedience was only submission — fear of punishment.  I’d try to explain what I saw to the owners, and they wouldn’t listen.  So I tucked the information away in a book that I wrote about a very special horse.  I never published the book.  I only showed it to a few close friends.  I accepted the belief that I couldn’t make a difference.

 

It’s Back

Those memories came pouring back into my mind recently as several of the people I mentor acquired new animals.  I needed to let go of my belief that I couldn’t make a difference.

When I sat in the barn, I could see that the horses understood everything their owners said and thought.  EVERYTHING!  Most of the time, the owner was thinking about what was wrong with the horse (also true for parents and children).  They were thinking about how to train the horse to fix the defects that they saw and believed to be real.

What they didn’t realize was the horse had none of those defects.  I could see that so clearly.  The defects were imposed on the horse by their owner or another human from their past.  The horse was simply reflecting those beliefs.  The cause was in the owner’s mind — not the horse’s.

Once a human labeled the horse, the horse would consistently produce the defect — it was real, but not true.  Then the owner would train the horse, which was actually the application of more beliefs, to remedy what they projected on the horse.  Many of the beliefs were collective — shared by most horse owners.  But they were all beliefs — false.

I saw intense confusion and sadness in the horses.  Why did their owners see flaws that weren’t there?  Why did they focus on the flaws and not see their True Self?  When I’d try to speak up for the horses, no one listened to me.  In their view, I didn’t know anything about horses.  I’m quite sure that’s why I saw it so clearly — I hadn’t bitten the apple from the tree of knowledge of good and evil around the subject of animals.

Animals are pure True Selves until we impose beliefs on them.  Then we treat the false animals that we’ve created as real and broken.  Most people break their animal’s spirits in the same way their own spirits were broken.

 

The Vision

The owner plays the masculine role; the animal plays the feminine role.  When we acquire an animal; we have a vision for it.  It’s important to examine our vision and see if it’s truly win-win.  In earlier times, training was clearly about submission.  Some modern trainers have moved toward cooperation, but most aren’t completely there.

The win-win vision becomes our north star for the relationship.  We don’t have to will it into fruition.  We just use it to see what to let go.

 

Letting go

After the vision is set, we must become a true leader.  We must let go of anything we believe about the animal that’s not aligned with our vision even if it looks real.  We must let go of our training and health beliefs.  Inspiration will get us where we need to go.  Inspiration will bring in the right people to help us.  Any training will be playful and necessary so it will happen quickly.  Horses, like children, don’t respond to education that isn’t aligned with a win-win vision.  They can’t unless they’re broken.

Any thought or action that isn’t aligned with the mutual vision will have an emotional component.  That emotional component tells us that we’re thinking something false about the animal or about our relationship to the animal.

When I stepped into the shoes of the horses, I saw the essence of what it means to be feminine in our world.  I was horrified by how poorly we all play the masculine role.  We try to control others; we want them to submit to us as if we’re their God.

 

Animals in our Lives

Some people jump to the other extreme and try to set the animals completely free; they also miss the point.  The animals do want to be in our lives, but they don’t want to be broken.  They’ll submit willingly to a True Self, but not to a false one.  In that regard, they aren’t different than humans.

My friend, Patty, had the most amazing horse.  Patton was trained in the sense that they had a communication scheme.  Patty trusted Patton completely.  Often she’d go riding on him late at night in the woods alone.  She trusted Patton to keep her safe, and he always did.  He wasn’t her pet; Patton was Patty’s equal partner.

Patty would tell me about her night-time rides, and I just knew I’d heard something right and true.  They transcended the normal masculine-feminine roles; they each led when they were the right one to lead.  It was perfect co-creation at its best.

In the ancient schools of initiation, it was said that they had lions for pets.  The lions kept the uninitiated away and were beloved pets for the initiated.  But there was no training.  In short, the lions demonstrated the pure feminine reflective role.  The feminine simply exposes whatever the masculine tries to hide.  Initiates had nothing to hide.

The love and truth of the initiated caused the lion to reflect only pure love — creating a perfect partner.  The beliefs and hatred in the minds of the uninitiated caused the lions to attack them.  They just reflected what came into their presence.  This is what the ancient ones called divine justice.  It’s perfect.

 

Letting Go of Masculine and Feminine Roles

Apple of Tree of Life or Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil

By Cathy Eck

 

Understanding masculine and feminine roles is key to stripping the illusion from our mind.  Masculine and feminine roles were created through stories that were presented as right or true.  The stories caused our minds to accept the masculine role as authority, deserving of obedience and respect.  Once that was accomplished, the masculine roles in the world could abuse their power.  They still do.

When we don’t understand roles, we can’t and don’t discriminate between true and false.  We also tend to either project on others or absorb or reflect the projection of our authority figures.  Let’s look more closely at roles.

 

Inner Roles Defined

Our inner mind has a masculine and a feminine aspect.  When we’re thinking from our True Self, those two mental aspects work together seemlessly.  This was called the alchemical marriage.

When we’re thinking from our True Self, we think only productive thoughts.  We hear creative ideas and truthful thoughts that are calm and harmless to ourselves and others.  We get ideas that cause the world to evolve.  We move nicely along our True path. The effects of our thoughts are always good and win-win in nature.

 

False Mind

Our false mind was created by others who wanted us to think their way.  They wanted to become our false God.  Our minds weren’t designed to hold false beliefs.  In fact, we’re all given a powerful lie detector — emotions.  When we feel emotions, it’s because our OWN mind is thinking false thoughts.  That occurs because:  we’re holding false beliefs in mind and aren’t discriminating; or our authorities are projecting their beliefs on us, and we believe them.

The false self is born whenever we accept our first false thought (belief); the roles in our mind change.  In the false self, the masculine intellect is the inner and outer authority; the emotions become something to eliminate because emotions expose the false self.

In most religious stories and myths, masculine had all the power.  God was male.  That elevated the intellect.  Now an intellect offers a belief, and we do feel emotion at first.  But we can’t do a damn thing about it.  The intellect has authority.  So we accept their thought into our own mind as true.  We just ate the apple from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.  If we do this enough, we’ll start to feel emotion when the True Self speaks and calmness when we hear our beliefs.  We’ve been psychologically reversed.

Someone says to us, “You’re an ass.”  If they’re not our authority, we’ll say, “No, I’m not.”  We’ll let their comment go.  However, if an authority says it, we’ll accept their thought into our mind and hold on to it.  We’ll feel helpless to let it go because we been trained to believe that we can’t change the minds of authority.  Clever huh!

The social norm of respecting elders keeps us from discriminating.  Obedience to authority causes us to ignore emotional signals.  Putting knowledge ahead of our emotions prevents us from questioning the doctor, teacher, parent, or clergy.

 

Outer Roles Defined

Outer roles aren’t about bodies or sex.  A woman can play a masculine role.  A man also plays many feminine roles.

I’ve explained before that the clergy, policemen, parent, doctor, and teachers are all examples of masculine roles.  The masculine role has authority or is the one that’s asserting or giving.  The feminine role receives.

Roles aren’t inherently bad.  If I give you a gift, I’m playing the masculine role.  You’re in the feminine role.  If I serve you a meal, I’m in the masculine role as giver.  Those are pure transactions.  We call them first-cause ideas.  They don’t trap us in the illusion.

Second-cause thinking, however, contains judgment defined by “the man” (although people can be savvy about saying that God spoke to them).  Second-cause thinking creates inequality through position, pedigree, race, culture, religion, or sex; it traps us in the illusion.

Good and evil are critical to the illusion; we aren’t whole if our mind believes in good and evil because we can’t be both at the same time.  We can’t win and lose at the same time.  We live life like we’re riding waves — we’re up, then we’re down.  We’re always half of a whole.  That’s not balanced  — it’s a disaster.

 

Escaping Roles

To escape the illusion, we must recognize and understand roles.  If a person plays an authority role, or a more powerful role within the illusion, they must honor the role responsibly.  The husband can’t blame the wife or kids in a traditional marriage.  The teacher can’t blame students.  They’re the authority.  If we play the role of authority, we must accept responsibility.  We get the credit and the blame.

Likewise, if we’re playing a feminine role, we must learn not to blindly accept beliefs or labels from authority.  We must listen to our emotional lie detector.

If we’re with a friend on equal footing, the masculine and feminine roles gently switch back and forth.  The person speaking is masculine; the listener is feminine.  There’s no competition or desire for power.  The notion of authority must go for us to return to the Garden of Eden.  That won’t happen until enough of us have individually eliminated our beliefs about obedience to authority, second-cause thinking, and judgment from our mind.  Normal thinking must return to purely True and False.

To get out of the illusion, we do the opposite.  When we fell, we believed authority without question.  We took in beliefs as if they were true.  Now we look at the beliefs of those authorities from our past and see if their words had an emotional component.   We let go of the beliefs regardless of who gave them to us.

If your mind isn’t too psychologically reversed, you can make the correction on our own.  If not, get someone to help you discriminate.

Eventually, we learn to be in the illusion but not impacted by it.  Authority loses it’s false power.  We’re free.

Projection and the Shadow

shadow

By Cathy Eck

 

Projection and the Shadow

People have become far too psychologically savvy.  That isn’t good because most people are very outer directed.  Instead of using psychological knowledge to fix themselves, they try to fix others.  Everyone’s giving advice — mostly bad advice that gets us stuck in the illusion.  Initiation was very different from modern psychology.  The high initiates, who had already purified their mind, mentored the lower initiates.

To understand projection, we must understand the idea of the personal shadow.  “Everyone carries a shadow,” Carl Jung wrote, ” and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.”  Most people in power identify with good or right and project bad or wrong on to others.  Their blindness to their own faults is often misconstrued as self-confidence.Only an authority or masculine role can project; those in the feminine role receive. Thus children don’t project on parents or teachers.  Citizens don’t project on leaders. Employees don’t project on bosses.

What we call the collective mindset is determined by the elite.  Whatever beliefs they hold as true (and don’t identify with) will be projected out on to the world.  People see this as a conspiracy; but it’s just how projection works.  Most of them think their beliefs are right, good, and true.  They think they’re doing a great service, and the rest of the world is just inferior, stupid, or bad.

Jung also said that some people have a good shadow; they identify with the less desirable half of their personality and project their good qualities.  Often they think they’re being humble.  Some of the people I mentor have done this because they didn’t want to be like the assholes that played a masculine role in their early life.

In the illusion, we train people to be feminine from birth.  Our school and religious systems have one authority with lots of receivers of knowledge.  In most cases, questioning that authority was frowned upon. Our minds and bodies were conditioned to take in information without exercising discrimination if it comes from an expert (one who has knowledge).

When I started to understand discrimination, I struggled with the fact that my mind knew something was false, but my body received the information as if it were true.  I wasn’t my own body’s authority.  I was horrified.  We should all be the only authority of our body; it’s OUR body.  But I had accepted the projections of many seeming body experts.

Projection Defined

Jung defined projection:  “shadow, in being instinctive and irrational, is prone to projection: turning a personal inferiority into a perceived moral deficiency in someone else.”  In others words, what we see in others is actually in our own mind.

Initiation differs from Jung.  Most shadow work talks about embracing the shadow.  The initiates said to get rid of the whole false self — good and bad aspects.  That way, you’re left with just the True Self.  You can’t just let go of what you don’t like; you have to let go of the opposite that you do like to get to freedom.  People don’t like to do that.  For example, you have to let go of your own Tony Robbins style hyper-motivation before you’ll stop seeing lazy people everywhere.  You have to let go of your half-full persona before the half empties stop raining on your parade.

Projection defines the world we see.  The greater our power and the more we judge, the more we project.  If an authority sees their projection in another and convinces them that what they see is true, they can cause that person to be stuck in their illusion.  They’ll have power over that person whenever they push the button they installed.  We’ve all known people who can push our buttons.  They’ve simply installed a powerful psychological reversal button.

We can escape their illusion if we recognize that when the projector says “we’re lazy,” we feel emotion.  The emotion means their statement isn’t true.  Bigots and racists always see their own projection.  If we let their words go because they are untrue, the emotion usually reverts back to the projector.  The projector generated the emotion, in the first place, by thinking something false; so they deserve to have the emotion back.  Lying in their own sewage might force them to let go or to at least question their projection.  But don’t be fooled, they won’t go down easy.  Usually when they feel the emotion return to them, they’ll say you projected on them.  Often they will try to send the emotion back to you another way.  Ultimately we stop taking projections when we let go of beliefs.

Projection and the Masculine Role

The person projecting is always in the masculine role; they hold beliefs or a belief system that they believe to be true, and they usually blame the effect of their belief system on the feminine.  They don’t take responsibility for what they see in the world.  When we’re with such people, they often speak to us as if they’re talking to themselves; they are.

We don’t project from the feminine role; the feminine role has no power in the illusion.  But we become the target for the projection of the same sort of authorities.  They’re like heat-seeking missiles.

We won’t discriminate when projections come our way if we’re filled with beliefs.  We’ll accept their projection and then resent or hate it even if we know it’s wrong or bad.  We’ll waste our time trying to defend it, which only makes it stronger.

Projection only exists in the illusion.  The True Self has no beliefs that give power to experts or authority.  We see them as keepers of knowledge; and we aren’t interested in knowledge when we have our own wisdom.  Thus, as we let go, we move out of the illusion where everyone minds their own business and lives their own life.