Redefining Success the True Self Way

Judgment Day

By Cathy Eck

 

Success and Heaven on Earth

My definition of success changed the day I first saw the above image.  It’s the Egyptian Weighing of the Heart Ceremony.  The deceased must have a heart as light as a feather, or they cannot gain entrance to heaven.  This wasn’t the judgment day scene I’d been taught; it was the best guidance for living life I’d ever encountered.  It was the truth.  It’s still my favorite image, and I intend to share everything I learned from it in a book.  So I’ll just leave it at that for now.

On that sweet day, years of unsuccessful research suddenly fell into place like a puzzle magically assembling itself.  I realized that the false self has a physical focus and hears the judgment day message as something which occurs ONLY at death; the True Self has a mental focus, and views the message as a guide for life.  If our True Self leads, our life becomes orderly.  Problems and suffering disappear.

 

Success as a Currency

Success is defined by society based on false physical/material standards.  Famous or wealthy people are successful.  A big house or nice car renders us successful.  Certain labels mean success.  Our body matching popular standards means success.

Just like the amount of money in our bank account defines our financial worth, our measure of success becomes our personal worth.  False selves honor the material definitions that give them the greatest worth in the illusion.  So, we spin around, chasing false material desires, to potentially be labeled worthy.  When we fulfill those false desires, we still don’t feel worthy because we haven’t gotten our mind right.  The physical is the effect of the mental, not the other way around.

There are also intangible currencies like being nice, doing good deeds, saying socially acceptable words, serving our country, or fitting in.  These are based on achieving a proper physical appearance.  We’re want others to judge us as successful, good, or right.  If we’re honest, our judging God is actually a complex of our human authority figures’ belief systems.  We become imprisoned by their success currency; we either submit to the definitions or rebel against them.  Submission and rebellion become our dreaded bottom of the triangle.

 

Success Defined Correctly 

The correct definition of success is mentally oriented.  We want our mind to measure up to our perfect inner standards.  Then whatever we express will be perfect.  We become the masters of our life, and only our life.

After staring at the above image for hours, I wrote down my OWN definition of success:    If anyone could cut my mind open, they would find nothing but unconditional love and truth.  It’s not very complex.  I never made it my brand.  Recently, I realized that I needed to share this; I saw people I mentor getting stuck on this very point.  Defining success in this way turned my life upside down; I had to remember unconditional love and truth as they were before I dove into the illusion.

People think unconditional love is caretaking, sympathy, tolerance, sex, making someone feel good, being kind and submissive, fighting for your country, believing mom and dad’s harmful advice, and not saying fuck.  Those are all examples of conditional love.  Unconditional love exposed and dissolved every false crack and crevice in my mind.  But now, I could no longer sympathize, enable someone’s beliefs, or have national, cultural, or social pride because I would be contributing to the illusion.  Unconditional love turns our world upside down.  Unconditional love and truth (along with all other True Self qualities) were powers that were hijacked by the false self and redefined.  Supporting anyone’s false self was hate, not love.

Creating this mental definition of success was infinitely more demanding than creating material goals.  It required disabling my will and letting go of everything I believed.  It demanded that I honor my emotions completely.  It also made others, who still had a physically oriented perspective, uncomfortable.  They couldn’t project their emotions on me anymore, and I didn’t look up to them.  It takes lots of practice to live this way.  But it’s worth it.

You might think, “Cathy, where’s freedom?”  You always talk about freedom.  Returning the powers of love and truth to the True Self allows for freedom.  My definition guides everything I do.  It’s my North Star.  The unconditional love gives me courage to speak up.  Truth allows me to honor my emotions and know what’s false.

 

Your Turn

How do you want your mind to be?  Do you want it filled with creative ideas or bursting with beauty?  Do you want it to sprout fun ideas for inventions?  Do you want a quiet, peaceful, and free mind?   What makes you, YOU?  Living from YOUR definition of mental success is the only way to be free and eternally joyful in the physical world.

Next, you must let go of all physical definitions of success that you’ve believed.  They’re ALL bullshit.  Suddenly, those supermodels you admired look artificial.  The billionaires look like crooks.  The muscle men look deformed.  Competitive athletes look barbaric.  Gurus look like big egos, the very thing they claim not to have (LOL).  You’ll take back your own True Self.  We actually project our True Self on false selves who fit society’s definition of success when we look up to them and believe them.  They look good only because we see our OWN True Self in them.  Take away that false halo, and they’re impostors.  Projecting our True Self is just as handicapping as projecting the unloveable parts of our false self.

The big secret is that there’s no outer judge on a cloud who decides if we go to heaven or hell when (or I prefer if) we die.  The judge is inside of us; it’s weighing our heart each moment against our own True Self’s measure of success.  We decide if we spend today in heaven or hell.  That’s freedom.

 

 

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Testing to See if a Desire is True

Is my desire true

By Cathy Eck

Desire

You’ve got this nagging desire that just won’t go away.  How do you know if it’s really a good desire to pursue?   Is it a True Self desire?  Or is it a false trap that will just get you in deep doo doo?

Or you’re mentally stuck with two seemingly equal choices.  How do you choose?

 

True Desires

Let’s review what I’ve discussed before.  A desire from your True Self will feel calm and peaceful.  You’ll enjoy thinking about it so long as you don’t start thinking about the fact that you don’t have it or start trying to figure out how to get it.  If you do that, you’ll feel emotional excitement.

A True Desire won’t solve a problem.  The True Self doesn’t know about problems.  True Self desires don’t fix effects; they’re creative in nature.

The most important test of all — it will be win-win for you and everyone on the planet.  No one will feel diminished, nor will their True Self be harmed by fulfillment of this desire.  It’s okay if their false self gets a little shaken up.

 

Deserving

The big block to fulfilling desires is frequently related to deserving or worthiness.  Often successful people thank God for their success, “Look what God gave me,” they say as they accept the award given to them by “humans.”  They often add, “You can do it too.”  They’re hoping we won’t judge their extraordinary success.  The truth is that they made choices and had beliefs that led to that success that would make sense if we could read their mind.

In the end, it’s much kinder to say to someone, “I happened to find something that lots of people want or need,” rather than, “God gave me this because I deserve it.”  The first leaves the listener with a proper understanding of the winner’s path to success.  The second leaves the listener wondering what’s wrong with them.  We’ve often been that listener, which has led to the confusion we feel around deserving.

Astrology was one of the first ways that false deserving was created.  “Look it’s on my chart that I am to rule this land.  Fuck you guys!”  Now we use it to justify being an ass.  “I can’t help but be stubborn, I’m a Taurus.”  Astrology was also made by men, not God.

Along the same line, some people go to psychics to tell them if they’re deserving.  Some use divining tools to make decisions.  Some look for signs and signals.  Some are called, which is really funny.  Who’s calling?  Dah!  Ring, ring, it’s your false self!

The bottom line is that if we desire it, and it’s a true desire, we deserve it.  And there is a way to get it….letting go of the beliefs that stand in the way.

 

Saved By a Pendulum

I cured myself of the desire dilemma after I learned the art of dousing or divining.  I thought it was insanely cool.  I found the well site on my property.  I often made great decisions using the pendulum.  I was a pendulum master.  One day, I paid attention to my mind while doing it.  I was mentally directing the pendulum to spin, and my body translated it into subtle, undetectable movements.  When I just watched my mind, I could see that I was hoping for a particular answer.  That was my desire, dah!  Or at times, my mind was afraid of the answer.  Again, I could see my real desire, but now I could see that I believed it was impossible.  Or I feared I’d pay for my desired choice later on.  My emotions were far superior; they gave me truly insightful feedback.  I ditched the pendulum.

Let’s say, I wanted to know if I would get a contract or a house I loved.  Those were stupid questions.  The answer was more complex, “If I’d let go of my doubt and beliefs about not getting the contract, I’d get it.”  “If I’d stop listening to the advice of experts, I’d get the house.”  I could drill down and decide what to let go by just asking and feeling for emotional feedback.

I was going through all of this pendulum trouble because I feared people questioning my deserving.  The pendulum was like saying, “God gave me permission to have what I want.”  People convinced me that God was moving the pendulum.  But that was a lie.  I was moving it.  I realized that I was embarrassed by my creative capacity.  I was afraid of being judged by people who were prideful of their suffering.  Others in my life believed that if God didn’t call me, I wasn’t allow to move forward.  But God didn’t know my number because God was only calling people to support his crazy illusion.  I didn’t listen to that God…he made me want to barf.  The other God, that Creator from Genesis I, he was resting…taking a long nap.  I imagined what he would say…

“What are you asking me for?  I gave you a piece of me — your True Self.  You’re a creator.  Create what’s inspiring to you and harmonious with my other kids.  I will be in every one of your creations.  However, if you create in a way that’s harmful to your brothers and sisters, I won’t be around to watch.  You’re on your own, kiddo.  I’ll always love you, but if you fuck up, I’ll miss you.”

 

The Lesson

Think about flipping that coin or asking your Magic Eight Ball what you want to know?  Just do it in your mind.  Notice what you’re hoping for.  That’s your answer.  Now check out that answer.  Is it win-win for everyone who’s a True Self?  Does it feel calm?  Is it creative.  You have your answer!  If it meets those tests, it’s True.  Now you can focus on letting go of all the beliefs that stand in the way.

 

 

 

Fire, Passion, and Desire

Calaveras Big Tree National Park

By Cathy Eck

 

Calaveras Big Trees National Park

I recently took a day trip to Calaveras Big Trees National park in California.  The park is home to some of the remaining giant sequoias — the world’s largest trees.  These trees are so amazing.  When you’re underneath them, you feel the same calmness that you feel from a wise elder.  The largest sequoia is 275 feet tall and 36.5 feet in diameter.  The oldest tree lived for 3200 years.

The most enlightening fact that I learned about the Big Trees was that they need exposure to fire at certain times in their life cycle in order to thrive.  Before humans arrived, fires were started, mostly by lightning; those fires might burn uninterrupted for months at a time.  The first people to arrive in this area, over 12,000 years ago, understood this cycle; they adapted to it.  They realized that the fire improved their own food supply, gave them better materials, and opened travel routes.  But modern humans build permanent houses; we obviously don’t want our houses destroyed.  So we put out the fires the giant trees need to survive.

These long-living trees aren’t harmed by the fire.  The fire burns out the competition for water and sunlight.  Without the fire, the forests become unhealthy and overcrowded.  The forest rangers are now looking for ways to create small controlled fires.  In this way, they can keep the trees alive and not destroy the nearby houses and other buildings.

 

Fire as a Symbol

Fire has always been associated with the sun for obvious reasons.  Since the ancient people viewed the sun as the perfect metaphor for God, because it gave light, warmth, and was unconditional, fire came to represent God or pure divine energy.  Fire also symbolizes the energy of passion and desire.  And it’s equated with emotions that flow outward such as anger, hatred, jealousy, and rage.  Fire is yang and assertive in nature; it’s masculine energy.

If our desires comes from our True Self, our fire is in balance; we offer our best to others and the world.  On the other hand, if we’re passionate about achieving false desires and winning at the expense of others, our fire is burning out of control.

Likewise, when beliefs fill our mind that restrict our true desires or passion, our fire can’t burn.  We drown our fire with the water of emotion.

 

The Message of Fire and the Big Trees

If the giant sequoia does thrive and live a long life, they’re among others trees; but they stand alone, independent.  Likewise, codependence, and the emotions that go with trying to please others, often restricts our own growth.  Their weeds choke out our life force.

Too often, people feel responsible for another’s emotions.  The truth is that our emotions are the feminine reflection of our own masculine mind.  When we join another in sympathy, we usually strengthen their beliefs and drown with them.  We put out our fire trying to put out their fire.  In truth, they just might need a long-burning fire to destroy their weeds.

If we’re emotional or overly sensitive, it’s time to look very hard at our desires or trim back our beliefs.  Sadly, some religions and philosophies prescribe just the opposite.  They tell people to trim their desires and believe their beliefs.  In this way, they pour water on our fire.

 

Level Confusion

The metaphor of the giant sequoia trees is ripe for level confusion.  The typically physically-focused person would look at the sequoia’s need for fire and relate it to people.  They’d say, “Yes, this is a message that when population is too big, we suffocate each other.”  They’d take it as proof for the survival-of-the-fittest theory.  They’d suggest getting rid of the little people so the big ones can thrive.  They’d even condemn people for building permanent homes.

Symbolism is harmful and ineffective when it is interpreted at the purely physical level. It causes people to see others as the problem.  Then the problem can’t be solved.  Symbolism unites only when we apply it to our minds.

Symbols, just like emotions, always point inward.  They show us what to let go, not where to go or what to do.  For the trees to grow very old and very large, they need the support of fire.  If their life force (fire energy) is strong, they’re not consumed by the fire, they’re nourished by it.  Mythology often talks about disasters destroying people and places.  But it also talks about the connected ones (who had the fire of God within) and knew what was coming.  They either had the power to endure it or the foresight to move out of the way.  When we don’t have pure inner fire, we can’t endure the outer fire.  Our beliefs or weeds steal too much of our life force.

Fire is assertive.  When our fire is from the True Self, we’re a contribution to the earth.  We give more than we take.   Our unconditional True Self burns away the beliefs that keep people sick, suffering, or enslaved.  The giant sequoia isn’t suffering or sacrificing as it grows; it is just doing what comes naturally.  It’s inspired from within so nature removes what could harm it from without.

Weeds (or beliefs) take far more than they give.  They keep us from reaching our true potential.  Beliefs block our true fire, our real power.  Like the weeds, they take all the nutrients and give nothing back.  When they arise, with their powerful flood of emotion, we must face them, not fear them.  We must let them know that they are false, and they have no power.  Each time we do that, we are purified by the fire of truth and wisdom.  One day, we’re the tallest tree in the forest — not by force of will but by force of nature.

 

 

How Do You Fulfill Desires?

How do you get what you want

By Cathy Eck

 

Desires Aren’t the Enemy

According to the ancient initiates, when we live from our True Self, our desires and our thoughts/beliefs become so perfectly congruent that we easily fulfill desires.  But if we live from a fabricated false self, then we try to follow beliefs and fulfill desires of others.  We aren’t naturally equipped to fulfill desires that aren’t our own, so we need hard work or willpower.  It’s our free will choice which way we live.

Most people have a belief system of some sort, and they fulfill desires pretty well if they follow their belief system to the letter.  If we like our beliefs and aren’t harming others, there isn’t a problem with having a belief system.  Overzealous believers, however, often erroneously think their beliefs are the truth.  If others (who aren’t in power) feel damned or stuck in an unsatisfactory life experience when they can’t follow or obey, the believer has gone too far.  They’ve confused beliefs with the truth.  That’s where letting go comes in to save the nonbelievers.

A good way to find out what you still believe (and it might surprise you) is to ask yourself:  “How do I fulfill desires?”  Here are some popular answers:

 

Sky God

Is an outside God in the sky the grantor of your wishes and keeper of your destiny?  Some treat God (or Jesus) like a concierge.  If God deems them deserving, they fulfill desires.  If sky God is your answer, then the next question to ask is how does God decide if you’re deserving?  Often when people answer this question, they realize that God’s rules are exactly like their parent’s and early authority figure’s rules.  This belief also becomes transparent when you realize that atheists tend to fulfill desires too.

 

Hard Work 

Most westerners have some hard-work ethic in them.  If we believe that hard work fulfills desires, then we can’t do something we love and get rewarded.  We have to make everything hard or convince others that we’re suffering enough to deserve a reward.  Also, we discover that some things can’t be created or fixed with hard work — we reach the limit of our belief system.  Hard work doesn’t create great ideas.  No amount of hard work can cure something labeled incurable.  The True Self creates in ways that are simple and easy.

 

Positive Thinking

When people realize that thoughts fulfill desires, they’re usually horrified at what they’ve been thinking.  They’ve accepted lots of beliefs.  They see that their mind is conditioned to accept things that feel terrible without discriminating.

Occultists and magicians realized long ago that emotional people were easy to deceive; they used that to their advantage.  Those in power still create problems to generate emotion in others.  While everyone is distracted in their emotional confusion, the people in power do whatever they want.  Pay attention, you’ll see this pattern wherever problems exist.

 

Karma

In the west, we say, “What goes around comes around”  — the western version of karma.  Originally, karma was based on the understanding that when you create in the illusion, you get both sides of duality.  Pretty and ugly, rich and poor, or war and tolerance go together like two sides of a coin.

Even when we only identify with one side of duality, we get the other as a bonus unconsciously.  The side we’re not identified with is projected out on to others, and it does come back to us in time.  Other people eventually return our projections.  Letting go resolves karma because it gets rid of projected duality.

 

Obedience, Being Good

Some believe that if they are good or obedient, they’ll get what they want.  They’re often very frustrated when they see that others aren’t good (by their standards) and they, too, fulfill desires.  When we obey authority or another’s belief system, we’re disobeying our True Self.  When we let go, we come to see that our True Self fulfills desires, not authority.

 

Magical Thinking

There are all kinds of magical belief schemes to fulfill desires from four-leaf clovers to mind games.  Some people actually worry to fulfill desires.  Others think they protect themselves with fear.  There are superstitions, guardian angels, and fairies.  All of these are mind tricks that work sometimes when you believe them because they are long-standing thought forms.  But they aren’t foolproof and most people don’t know why they work when they do or why they eventually fail them.

 

Willpower

People use willpower to fulfill desires in any number of physical or mental ways.  Willpower overpowers strong beliefs.  Old-fashioned willpower benefits from the group mind — mafia, KKK, or religion.  But visualization or affirmations are also forms of willpower. Underneath the use of willpower of any kind is the belief that one lacks real power.  They need to force their desires to manifest.

 

What’s the Answer?

Everyone has a unique mix of how they fulfill desires.  Religion, upbringing, culture, personal history, and teachers all give us beliefs.   Beliefs tend to be unpredictable keeping us in a state of confusion.

If you’re an atheist, God isn’t part of your answer.  Some cultures treat willpower as crucial to fulfill desires; others find it rude.  If you believe in the luck of the Irish, a four-leaf clover is an asset.  If you’re raised on superstition, you’ll create problems by breaking a mirror.  In the illusion, beliefs rule; and those who know and follow their own belief rulebook do well.  Those who let go do better.

There are also some belief trump cards like being born to royalty.  Being told you’re chosen is like winning the lottery of beliefs.  When we let go, even these wide-standing beliefs don’t limit us.

 

The Great Equalizer

The great equalizer is the power of letting go.  According to the ancient initiates, when your mind is clear or virgin, you think a desire once; then you fulfill it by following your inspiration.  When no beliefs block our desire fulfillment process, we’ve returned to the Garden of Eden.  

The Creative Process From the Inside Out

Beliefs fill the gap

Beliefs fill the gap between our mundane life and our desires.

By Cathy Eck

 

The Normal Creative Process

The normal creative process involves setting goals, deciding what actions to take for success, and finding the motivation to do what must be done.  Getting the goal, or the perks associated with the goal, is the purpose of creating in this way.

This process takes willpower, hard work, and dedication. Once our mind accepts that creating happens from the outside in, it requires that we continue to do so. It can become exhausting over time. We live in the future instead of the present.

Creating from the inside out is different. We still create a goal, intention, or desire, but the purpose of that desire is simply to set our direction – achievement of the goal is secondary. We focus our attention on the beliefs and thoughts that stand between our current reality and our desire. We clear the gap between them. Once we are congruent with our desire in mind, body, and spirit, it must manifest.

 

The Mind is Key

Most people have evolved in their thinking to recognize the importance of their mind. However, most have replaced physical hard work with mental hard work — visualize the dream, say those affirmations, believe and you will achieve. Willpower is still key, and more people fail than succeed.

True inside-out creating looks new, but it’s actually very old. It was the way that initiates created in ancient times. It was said that the initiates entered mystery schools as mortals and exited as Gods.

The initiates knew that problems had mental causes – beliefs created the gap between mundane reality and the desired result.  The initiate let go of his or her beliefs until the gap disappeared.

Schools of initiation made great leaders, with pure, loving minds that manifested anything they desired effortlessly. The initiate didn’t take action until it was effortless and inspired. The majority of their work was mental.

In the ancient mystery school, you weren’t permitted to convince others to believe or support you. You weren’t permitted to change your behaviors unless inspired. You weren’t permitted to request advice. You weren’t permitted to fix the effects of your beliefs. You weren’t even allowed to change your mind. You simply let go of your beliefs so completely that it was as if they had never existed. You were only allowed to ask for support in letting go. Your mentor, or initiator, helped you to discriminate until your mind became clear.

 

Why is this so powerful?

When you work toward fulfillment of desires in this way, you become completely inner directed. Instead of focusing on results, you observe and let go of the thoughts and feelings in your mind and body. You move out of the future into the present. You focus on your own life instead of others. Of course, the past has colored the present so the past does arise, but only so that it can be examined, reviewed, and let go. The initiate’s mind becomes a discrimination machine, separating the wheat from the chaff until only the truth remains. This was called finding the kingdom of heaven first so that anything could be made manifest.

If you do this process and your desire is not right for you, you’ll lose the desire. You won’t get it, and you won’t care. A true desire doesn’t disappear; it expects to be fulfilled. You can’t screw this process up, and you can’t harm others by letting go. That alone makes it a wonderful process.

Beliefs can be let go, but you can’t let go of the truth. In addition, the desires you fulfill this way will never have a backlash that you’ll have to deal with later on. The process is holistic and pure.

Our human challenge comes from sharing earth with others who have different desires and goals and allowing them to fulfill their dreams while traveling down our own lane. Eventually, we learn that we win when others win; that was the final lesson of initiation. The initiate realized that competition doesn’t work; joy is in cooperation and co-creation.

 

It’s Worth It

At first, this way of living creates a mental apocalypse. People are shocked when they begin to witness their minds. Their complex of beliefs, which the ancients called the false self, doesn’t go down easily; it has tricks and traps. Letting go can feel as if one is fighting the battle of Armageddon within.

But each small victory over the false self exposes more of the True Self. For some, the false self wins; and they get pulled into the outer-directed world once again. Others will remark. “I know I was born to do this; it just feels right.”

So it is a choice — a way of living that’s there for us when we choose it. You know you’re ready when you can’t find the motivation to create in the old ways anymore. You just can’t say one more affirmation, follow one more practice, or force yourself into action anymore.

For me, this way of living became so much more than creation. Creating from the inside out is completely win-win. Jealousy, fear, and anger go away. You become incredibly cooperative and find joy in others realizing their dreams. You find aspects of your life improving that had nothing to do with your goals. Health improves, problems cease to exist, and relationships become easier. You laugh more at life because it becomes much less serious.  In short order, you can’t imagine going back to the old way of creating.

In the ancient world, this divine way of life was only available to those who could leave their homes and families. But now, we can all choose the path of initiation and achieve mental and emotional freedom in this life.

 

Here’s an article about a local San Diego woman who did create from the inside out.

There Are No Rules — Dropping Your Rulebook Part II

Empty Rulebook

The goal of initiation is an empty rulebook.  Unconditional love and the truth is all we need.

By Cathy Eck 

This is a continuation of Part I so you might want to read that first by clicking here.  

You now understand that rules and beliefs work together.  You recognize that anyone who either promotes a rule, makes a rule, or obeys a rule is not being their True Self.   Like me, you probably recognize that you have a pretty big rulebook to let go.

 

Getting Stuck Versus Gaining Freedom

We are born with no rules; as True Selves we would do nothing that was not win-win.  To get stuck in the illusion, we accept the concept of good and evil, right and wrong, or win and lose.  We accept that humans are imperfect or even bad.  Then we borrow beliefs and rules that support those premises and build our rulebook.

Our rulebook is a unique blend of our religion, our parental influence, our community, and our culture.  Our role and birth order in our family will make a difference in our book of rules.  Our choice of activities, dreams, and personality will all go into making our custom rulebook for life.  Since the rules often came loaded with fear, promises of punishment, or threats of hell, we keep that rulebook firmly in our mind like we are guarding a treasure chest.

The True Self operates based on true and false.  It accepts only the truth, and it lets go of that which is false.  Since all rules and beliefs are false, the goal of initiation is to get back to our True Self and drop our entire rulebook.  But you don’t have to drop them all right away.  Start with the ones that cause you the most problems.

 

Hard Working Sally’s Rulebook

Sally dreamed of being a fashion designer.  As a child, she and her best friend, Rachel, were constantly creating new fashions and playing dress-up.  Sally’s parents gave her some well-meaning advice.  They taught her that she would get her dream if she went to church every week, got perfect grades in school, went to college, and was deserving in God’s eyes.  They told her it would require very hard work.

Sally did her very best to follow the rulebook she was given, but all doors seemed to be closed; her dream was fast becoming impossible.  She decided that she must not be deserving.  She tried so hard to be good, she worked very hard, and she constantly wondered what she did wrong.

To add insult to injury, Rachel got a job with the top design firm in New York.  Rachel didn’t go to college, never went to church, was an average student, and slept around.  To Sally, this looked incredibly unfair.  She wanted to be happy for Rachel, but she just couldn’t.  Rachel didn’t fit Sally’s rulebook; and yet, she got what Sally wanted.

It is these seemingly unfair moments that cause us to examine our rulebook.  The purpose of these experiences is to show us that our rulebook isn’t true.  But often we can’t the obvious.  What Sally didn’t consider was that Rachel’s parents didn’t give her a rulebook.  They gave her unconditional love and told her she could have whatever she wanted from life.  Without a rulebook, Rachel’s True Self easily led her to success.

 

Dropping Sally’s Rulebook

If Sally wants to have her dream, she has to start chipping away at her own rulebook.  First she must recognize that her rulebook isn’t true.  It is just the rulebook that her parents gave her.

If a rule is true, it works for everyone; and it feels good.  Sally must also recognize that she wouldn’t have a dream that she can’t achieve.  She just has to remove enough rules so that the dream can be fulfilled.  The rules that got her deep into the illusory world limited her too much for her dream to manifest.

Rachel exposed Sally’s beliefs.  But often, a Sally will make a Rachel wrong instead of fixing their own mind.  Sally might decide that Rachel must have slept with someone to get the job.  That way, Sally can keep her rulebook intact; she can justify her own failure.  This rationalization would keep Sally stuck and continue to push her dream away.

To get free, Sally must recognize that going to church, working hard, and getting perfect grades are not requirements for success — they were false rules in her parent’s rulebook.  She will have to look at what she believes makes someone deserving.  She must look at success from new eyes.  As she lets go of more and more beliefs or rules, she will create an opening for her dream to come true.  When the opening is large enough, she’ll be a fashion designer.

 

You Didn’t Write the Rules;

But You Sure as Hell Believed Them

We’ve all been stuck in someone’s rulebook.  Often people feel overwhelming panic or fear at the thought that they have followed a book of lies; I sure did. It seriously rocks your world.  But acknowledgement is the first step toward freedom.  You can’t drop a rule that you believe to be true, good, or right.

The only reason you know another’s rulebook so well is that you were taught it, believed it, and then saw the proof.  We see what we believe.  The physical proof that you observed was the manifestation of the rulebook.  You accepted your authority’s rules because you were innocent and didn’t know how to discriminate between true and false; you trusted others.  Sadly, the others we trusted didn’t know they had a flawed rulebook.  You didn’t do anything wrong, you’re not being punished, and you are deserving.

Initiation reverses our rulebook and opens the gateway to fulfillment of our dreams.  When our rulebook is gone, the illusion disappears.  All that remains is the truth, which is an empty rulebook.

 

That was the appetizer, now here is the meal.

There Are No Rules Except Those You Believe

The Eagle Landing

The eagle has no rules to follow. It lives from its True Self, doing what it was meant to do.  It is perfect.

 By Cathy Eck

 

How to Succeed at Anything

Within the hypnotic win-lose illusion that most people think is reality, success happens in one of two ways.  Either we make our own rules and convince others to accept them or follow them, or we follow someone else’s rules.  Often our parents choose our rulebook for us.

The false mind is the keeper of rules.  It rewards us when we follow its rules,  and it punishes us when we don’t.  God (the True Self) has no rules.

Our false self punishes us when we disobey rules, not God.  If you are like most people, you do a damn good job of punishing yourself and anyone else that breaks the rules you believe to be right.

For most of my life, I looked for someone’s rules to follow.  I looked to every religion, every philosopher, and anyone with even a little authority.  Their rules were just not acceptable for me.  I wanted to live from my True Self, the place of no rules.

 

We Can Make Our Own Rules

We have the right to make our own rules, but we usually don’t because we’ve been convinced by authority that we must obey their rules.  The world began with no rules.  The illusion was created when leaders made up rules and wrapped them in fear of a false God that would curse, punish, and smite the disobedient.

These leaders were privileged people who knew the secrets of life; and they used those secrets to gain power over others, rather than empower others.  They knew that we make our own rules; and they also knew that if you instill fear, guilt, or shame in someone, they will follow your rules.

It is easy to follow your own rules — especially when they exalt you and diminish others.  Leaders still convince us that their rules are THE rules, and they benefit from that.  When someone sees through their selfish game, they label the wise seer a heretic, traitor, or evil because with no rules, they have no power over others.

 

Doesn’t “No Rules” Lead to Chaos?

People believe that without rules, the world would be chaos.  The opposite is true.  All rules come from a core belief that people are bad.  If we are bad, we need morals and rules to keep us in check.  So the false illusion is based on the premise that people are born bad.  Once you think you are bad, you either follow the rules to be good or you rebel against the rules and prove the authorities right.  Both contribute to sustaining the illusion.

If you follow someone’s rules or promote another’s rules, you’re living in their false illusion.  You’ve kicked out your True Self (and God) and put someone else in charge of your life.  Without our True Self connection, we feel unsafe and alone.

 

Rules are Beliefs

Rules are simply beliefs.  Beliefs are divided thoughts.  We need divided thought to create.  You can’t see these black words on a black page.  But beliefs are meant to be temporary.

Parents make ridiculous rules.  Many teachers should be in prison for their rules.  And don’t even get me started with clergy.  Business people start out with great visions, and pretty soon they have a bunch of rules.  The false mind loves rules; obedience is its modus operandi.  Obedience runs the military, causing millions to ignore their True Self and kill others.  The True Self, however, is like the eagle.  It follows a win-win vision.

I used to buy lots of diet books.  They all have the same format.  For the first two chapters, they convince you that their rules are right.  Eat bananas and coconut oil for two weeks and get a svelte figure.  So why don’t diets work?  We know that most people will gain the weight they lose back plus a few extra pounds as a bonus.  Diets don’t work because they are a commitment to follow someone else’s rules.  Your body is not fond of doing that because your body is hard-wired to your True Self.  Besides, the first three letters of diet are DIE.

I bought my last diet book when I realized that calories are a measure of heat.  If I eat too many calories I should get hot, not fat.  Since that day, I’ve let go of thousands of beliefs about food.  One day, I’ll just be my perfect weight.  I won’t have to DIE to get there.

 

A Life of No Rules

We have to realize that other people’s rules are for them to follow.  Most people don’t even follow their own rules.  They just want you to follow them.  If someone’s rules don’t bring you pleasure, let them go.

I will follow a win-win rule, like stopping at a traffic light.  It doesn’t play favorites.  Its purpose is organization.  I won’t follow win-lose rules that support elitism.  No one has the right to make rules for another that restrict their freedom and joy.

The most important rules to let go are those that cause us to feel shame, guilt, or fear when we disobey them.  When you let go of all the rules you’ve been following, you will find a wonderful secret.

Spoiler Alert!  When you become your True Self, you have the power to create win-lose rules and even get people to follow them.  But you won’t do it.  Only a false self makes and follows win-lose rules.  A false self wants power because it is powerless.  The True Self has unlimited power so it doesn’t need power.  The True Self is like the eagle. It does what it was designed to do, which is always perfect and always free because the eagle has no rules.

 

For Part II of this article, click here.