Slavery and Freeing Our Minds

Statue in Cuenca, Ecuador

By Cathy Eck

 

Traveling in the Feminine Role

I’m back home reflecting on my nearly three months in Ecuador.  When most people travel, they either go as tourists, which means they see the sites and stay in places that are sanitized from reality; or, they go in a service, ministry, or business capacity.  Tourist and service are both masculine roles.  In masculine roles, we have choices and power (even influence) over others and our situation.  In traditional feminine roles, we have little or no influence.  We must observe and let go of whatever comes at us.  Traveling in the feminine role is useful for freeing the darkest parts of our mind — especially our inner slavery.  It’s an inner, rather than outer, adventure.

In a country like Ecuador, everyone shares the same point of view.  They practice the same religion, and their culture has been molded into one common perspective.  They have no reason to question their perspective.  You’re either an insider or an outsider.

I accepted my feminine role as an outsider.  No one there even knew what I did.  I wasn’t trying to change minds; I was simply trying to free my own mind.   We tend to blindly accept beliefs when we’re in the feminine role because of our training as young children.  By willingly taking on a feminine role, we can see, discriminate, and let go of the automatic mental programs that accepted the beliefs of others without discriminating first.

 

Slavery

When I got home, this quote by Ezra Pound was on my Facebook wall.  “A slave is one who waits for someone to come and free him.”  Powerful quote!  

Physically everyone in Ecuador was free; yet mentally, no one was free.  We can’t see mental chains; most people train themselves to no longer feel them.  They don’t notice the smallness of their prison cell because others have the same cell.   They label their chains a fact of life — the truth.  

When acceptance lacks the desire for change, it’s not acceptance; it’s apathy.  Apathy keeps us stuck in slavery; apathy places hope in a savior.  

I grew up in a town with conformity of beliefs, much like Ecuador.  It was filled with apathy masking as acceptance.  Things usually came easier to me because my desires didn’t have to travel through a huge labyrinth of beliefs.  Then I married one of the insiders; over time, his cultural and religious beliefs infected my mind.  Everything became more difficult for me as his beliefs took root in my mind.  I kept weeding — attempting to remove his beliefs.  I just couldn’t find the causal root.  There was something in my mind that caused me to blindly believe him over and over again.  I looked everywhere for someone that could erase his beliefs — kissed a lot of frogs that weren’t princes during that time in my life.  I was stuck in slavery, looking for someone to rescue me.  No one did because they were slaves too.  Their techniques could provide relief from the effects; but they couldn’t eliminate the beliefs — the cause.

When I discovered letting go of beliefs, I was overjoyed.  I could now free my husband from his mental slavery too.  But he was looking for a physical savior.  My truth sounded crazy; he thought his beliefs were the truth.  “What, my problems aren’t real?  You think I created my problems?  You think my beliefs aren’t true?” he said again and again.  Over time, problems tend to have payoffs.  People bond around problems.  To expose their illusion feels unloving.  His family believed they were given a burden by God to carry together; and I was unwilling to share that burden so I was bad and unloving.

I hated their judgment of me.  I wasn’t bad or unloving; I was trying to free them.  I constantly tried to defend myself.  But proving their beliefs wrong meant holding on to their beliefs.  My freedom required letting go of their beliefs, not proving them wrong.  Right-wrong, win-lose, good-evil all keep us stuck in mental slavery.  Only by realizing that a belief is powerless and false, and letting it go, do we achieve real freedom.  We don’t have to correct beliefs; we only have to stop fueling them.  Let them go.  Without fuel, they die a natural death.

Ecuador tested me to stay free of beliefs that were very familiar.  Even with beliefs as thick as mud, I usually managed to let go.  Whenever I fell for a belief, I could feel my emotions closing in on me; I’d immediately go to work on my own mind.  I didn’t try to defend myself.  I didn’t try to prove them wrong.  I simply  took responsibility for my error and dug myself back out of the mental quicksand.  This time, I didn’t become a slave in their illusion.  I passed my own initiation test.

I observed the causal patterns within my mind that caused me to believe others in the past.  In almost every case, I didn’t want to be judged, I tried to defend myself, or I didn’t want to follow their rules.  In order to prove them wrong, I needed to accept their belief as real.  Now I was at war — the inner battle of good and evil that never ends.  The more I tried to fight their belief in my mind, the more real it became.  I was keeping myself enslaved in their world.  Only I could free myself.

Freedom is about knowing your OWN mind so well that others can’t tarnish it.  Freedom is about discriminating with such mastery that no one can trap us in their illusion.  Freedom is being our True Self anywhere and anytime.  Escaping the illusion requires thinking from true and false and micromanaging our own mind while allowing others to think whatever they want.  The other’s perspective was real for me only because I believed them.  They didn’t enslave me: I enslaved myself.  Therefore, I could also FREE myself and so can everyone else.

 

Understanding Soft Labels and Hard Labels

Story explains our perception of the sun-moon-earth

By Cathy Eck

 

Soft Labels

In a previous post, I wrote about labels that I call soft labels.  I spoke of a dream where a mother labeled one twin happy and another twin sad.  The labels limited the twins’ life experience, but the mother wasn’t being malicious.

The mother probably didn’t realize that she was seeing two opposing aspects of her own personality reflected in her twins.  Our children take on labels and roles that often, as parents, we don’t recognize as our own projections.

Our True Self doesn’t have labels or roles.  However, our false self always sees children in a feminine role.  The masculine role asserts or gives; the feminine (or passive) role receives.   Since children have little or no power, they always play a feminine role.

Our mental programming and design came about through story; early stories related the feminine to the moon or the earth.  The sun was always the masculine God role giving light and warmth.  The feminine might be moon-like and reflect the sun’s light.  Or it could be earth-like and absorb the sun’s light.  These symbols were mental metaphors, not physical.  It is heavenly to be feminine and reflect the sun’s light and love.  But if a human sun asserts its beliefs or labels instead of love and light, its feminine will be like the moon and reflect those beliefs or be like the earth and absorb them.  She won’t be in heaven anymore.

The masculine isn’t pleased when his crap shows up in his feminine; so he blames her for dragging their asses out of heaven.  But it was the sun’s fall from love and light that caused the problem.  Beliefs are like fluorescent light compared to the sun.  They aren’t the real thing and produce minimal growth; but they can do the job of lighting the room.

As adults, we step into bigger roles.  A wife is still usually feminine to her husband.  An employee is feminine to the boss.  A slave is feminine to the master; and a patient is feminine to the doctor.  When we are in the feminine role, we hope that our sun is shining with pure white light.  But often they’re just a fluorescent bulb.

 

Hard Labels

Hard labels come from authorities with a desire for dominance.  They know the sun has power over the moon/earth; they use that power to project the negative part of the illusion on to the feminine.  This allows them to float above the illusion’s manure pile.

The person in the feminine role doesn’t detect the projection if they treat fluorescent light as if it’s sunlight.  They trust the authority (person in the masculine role) as if they are being directed by God.

As long as the feminine takes the projection and submits like a good slave, the authority is content.  But when the feminine tries to take back her power or reflects the projection, the masculine often slaps a hard label on them.

Imagine a slave who decides he deserves more food.  When he makes his case, the master says, “You’re selfish.  You think you deserve to eat like me.”  The master is the selfish one, but he projects selfishness on his feminine slave with conviction.  The slave believes the authority and backs off.  He’s been trained to do so.  This is one of the most sinister tricks of the false self.

 

The false self masculine uses labels to cause the person in the feminine position to believe that they are doing to them (masculine person) what the masculine person is actually doing to the feminine person.

Complex, confusing — welcome to the false self”s world.  So let’s look at another example.  The wife says she’s going for a walk alone.  The husband feels left out.  So he throws his baggage on her back.  He says, “You’re so demanding.”  Her feminine training kicks in and she starts to wonder, “Am I too demanding?”  In that moment of doubt, the aggressor has won; he’s created acceptance of his projected belief on his feminine target.

Another great example of label slamming was seen in the 2012 Presidential election.  The marketing pieces and debates were full of label slamming the opposition.  It’s a strategic power move to trick the opponent into accepting the slammed label and losing his power.

Once we believe a label, we become feminine to the labeler.  When we see the game, we don’t fall so easily.  When we learn to let go, the game no longer works.  This is how the feminine regains her freedom — ending slavery forever.

 

The New Leader

We need new leaders who don’t project labels into people’s minds, who help people let their labels go.  Imagine going to a doctor/healer who listens to your problem then helps you see the labels and beliefs that caused the problem.  I’ve done this many times; when a client is willing to let go of the cause, natural healing kicks in.  Imagine a lawyer that helps both parties let go of their causal beliefs resulting in true love and true justice.  Imagine a leader that sees problems in his company or nation and realizes that the problems are his own projection.  Big problems would disappear very quickly.  The problems on this planet only look big because leaders want power, and they have no power without problems.

This type of leader existed long ago.  I hope to bring this old way of leading back.  But we don’t have to wait for the big guys to step up to the plate.  We can start wherever we are.  Everyone has leadership roles even if they are very small, and we can transform our own sphere of influence — set an example.  We can share this information with others so that one day all leaders must lead the true way because the people will no longer take their projections.  The feminine will finally be free.

 

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