By Cathy Eck
For part I, click here.
Unraveling victimhood requires understanding how we got stuck in it in the first place. The intricacies of the illusion need to be exposed; but until recently, exposing the illusion meant a short life or lots of torture. I faced those fears every day in the early stages of writing this blog.
The illusion lives on because we can’t see the cause of the problems in our lives. We’re all victims of magical slight of mind. We’re told to look outward to people who aren’t the true cause instead of inward to our beliefs because the illusion needs believers. Remember the word belief contains the word “LIE” within it.
When we fix effects instead of the cause of anything, the problems keeps repeating. A perpetrator shows up in our life as the effect of our own causal beliefs. But I know, it doesn’t look that way when we’re in it. The cause is never outside. In addition, nothing is incurable; but we must find the causal belief.
Victim, perpetrator, and rescuer are all different forms of masculine and feminine roles playing off of each other. In truth, there are no roles. They’re all illusory. We’re also trained to see the feminine role as powerless. That training is very difficult to break. Victim is generally a feminine role; however, some victims are actually perpetrators in disguise. As people have become smarter, they’ve become better players of the illusion game.
When we’re free of beliefs, no one can trigger us — we remain calm and peaceful all the time. If I say to you, “You’re an elephant.” You’ll laugh. You know you aren’t an elephant. If I say, “You’re stupid.” You might believe me. Your mind will search for times you were stupid. I’ve triggered your belief that you can be stupid. If you let that belief go, you’ll not be bothered by my comment. You’ll laugh because you know it’s false. This is key; I’m only a perpetrator if you believe what I say. Otherwise, I’m a comedian.
The difference between tragedy and drama is drama has less beliefs. The difference between drama and comedy is comedy has less beliefs. As we let go, we laugh more. We become lighter; we enlighten. When we have NO beliefs, we can’t be tricked or triggered by others. We stay light.
We’re often shocked at the beliefs that arise in our mind as we witness our emotions. We never consciously accepted most of these beliefs. We suddenly realize how heavy our thinking is.
I often hear, “I wasn’t raised in religion; yet I’m finding religious beliefs in my mind. How did they get in there?” I was shocked by this too. As I let go, I become aware of the person who gave me the belief. The mystery does start to unravel. Letting go causes us to break false-self connections with people who gave us beliefs. Consequently, people fear they’ll lose someone if they let go of their shared beliefs. Often they feel strong resistance from the other as they try to let go. If we keep letting go, we’ll eventually have only a True Self connection with people — just unconditional love.
We got beliefs by being born to people who had them even if they didn’t talk about them. Kids are telepathic until at least seven years of age. We’ve sympathized with religious friends and family. When we believe another’s problem, we also believe the causal belief that they can’t see. We fear religious people who impose their beliefs on us. If we fear something, we believe it. Or we’ve had a teacher of truth or followed inspirational speakers who float above their beliefs. Remember, if we’re going to someone for the truth, we believe we don’t have it. So we make a great projection screen for someone who believes they have the truth, when they don’t.
We all have perpetrator-victim within us until we let both roles go. The master and the slave both believe in slavery. The slave has an inner master and the master an inner slave. The criminal and policemen both believe in crime. Neither can play their role without the other. They’re like conjoined twins. They’re both victims of the illusion playing false roles. That’s why criminals often plead temporary insanity. They don’t know how they got into the role; but once they did, they played the it like they were going for an OSCAR.
Because of the way we hold masculine and feminine roles in mind, it appears that the slave is stuck in the master’s illusion. We forget that the master needs the slaves or his desire is thwarted. The policeman needs criminals. Doctors need patients.
This is difficult to understand because of our perceptual training. We’re taught to see doctors as good; they’re serving. (See comic book truth for more.) If we drop all belief in disease, we don’t need doctors. They move from rescuer to perpetrator.
Soldier is a completely illusory feminine role (obedience and sacrifice), yet people sign up to kill because it’s reframed as service and heroism. Our desire to be seen as good or worthy gets us in victim roles. The trick wouldn’t work if we let go of the beliefs that say we aren’t good or worthy.
We must ask ourselves, “Why do I feel compelled to play this role?” The answers we get will all be false; they’re our causal beliefs. Another good question is, “What is the perpetrator thinking about me?” Again, whatever answers arise are beliefs, let them go. You can’t let go of the truth, and our mind is 99.99% bullshit. So always err on the side of letting go.
Once we strengthen our True Self (our true savior) and weaken our own false self (which has both victim, rescuer, and perpetrator), we can no longer be cast into these illusory roles — we can’t be a victim anymore.
To be continued…