Letting Go and Children

Masculine and feminine roles

By Cathy Eck

 

Masculine Role Teachers

Once we understand the illusion’s roles, letting go becomes easier.  New Age teachers, clergy, gurus, and pop psychologists are well meaning, but they don’t understand roles.  All the techniques taught in expensive workshops and self-help books came from people who managed to somehow get themselves into the masculine role.  The masculine role is funny.  You feel enlightened because suddenly the emotion leaves your body; it gets projected on your shadow — your students, employees, children, or followers.

The masculine role was designed so that the power was in the role.  That way, one could be a wimpy, little man and rule the world (think Wizard of Oz).  The masculine role is blind; they believe the shadow they see is real.  It isn’t.

Now you’ve entered a new chapter of life or you wouldn’t be reading this.  You’re letting go so you can remember your pure thinking.  If you turn your thinking into a system after you remember it, I’ll kick your ass.  I’m joking!  The True Self has no beliefs to impose on others, and they know everyone has the truth inside them.

 

Why?

Why did you look to those false teachers?  You were trained to do so as children.  You were raised by people who thought you’d be perfect if you thought like them.  That’s the blindness of the masculine role.   We learn it; then we do it to others who are feminine to us.

Today’s parents try to self-help their children.  They’re fixing their own projection.  Kids write to me and beg me to write to their parents.  But that’s not my job.  They must learn to let go from the feminine role.

 

Feminine Role Escape

The last thing to give someone in the feminine role is a masculine technique — like affirmations.  It won’t work for them.  They don’t believe they can change their mind because they’re stuck in a masculine shadow.  If they manage to drag that masculine ass to a self-help workshop, the masculine role will question their sanity.  The masculine mind views itself as positive and shiny already.  They already know this stuff.

The person in the feminine role will emotionally back up like a sewer because they’ll think they must be the problem; they don’t know what they’re doing wrong.  Their mind will run in circles.  They’ll take responsibility for what’s being projected on them, which gets them nowhere.

 

Religious Parents

Religious parents are masters of the false masculine.  The good parent (masculine role) projects their anger on the bad child (feminine role).  The kid goes to school and bullies (projects).  He gets a taste of the masculine role and does to others what was done to him.

The parents says, “I didn’t cause that.”  Yes, they did!

They caused it because they didn’t realize that their child was their shadow reflection.  As soon as the child can work his way into the masculine role, he becomes the good masculine and projects until he finds a mate — someone who can play his powerless feminine.  Roles aren’t true; but they get passed down from generation to generation as if they’re true.  To play the role of our parents feels satisfying because from the child’s point of view, we’ve made it into the role of authority.

Many children psychologically reverse their minds to be good (people pleasers).  They learn to do the opposite of what the parents and teachers are projecting.  They obey the words, and ignore the projection.  They take the parent’s control dramas and turn them into love.  They take punishment and turn it into discipline.  They often say things like “My parents did the best that they could.”  These people will unconsciously repeat the same drama with their children because they’ve relabeled it as good or right.  Once psychologically reversed, the illusory world doesn’t look up-side down anymore.  

There’s a huge price to pay for psychologically reversing our minds.  We can’t experience unconditional love.  I was married to a people pleaser.  When I finally could unconditionally love him and give him total freedom, he thought I hated him.  He was looking for the emotional connection he felt with his family of origin and the earlier version of me, and it wasn’t there anymore.  Emotions only exist in false-love connections.

 

The Exit Ramp

In the exit stage, we redefine roles.  We must become a strong and firm masculine leader to those in the illusion (often our parents).  We must support truth and expose falsehood.  This takes courage.

One Easter, we went to visit my in-laws.  One of my children was excited about the candy that was coming since my mother-in-law had been talking it up.  Suddenly I heard my mother-in-law reprimanding my child for jumping around.  She said, “I’m going to tell the Easter Bunny you’re bad — you don’t deserve candy.”  He looked at her so strange.  He didn’t believe in the Easter Bunny since I told my kids the truth — that it was a story.  But she spoke her words with such conviction that, for a moment, he questioned his truth.

I ran interference for him.  I explained to my mother-in-law that she held the Easter Bunny in mind as a lie — a means of control, not a cute story.  My son gave her a chance to correct her thinking, and she damn well better take it.  I wasn’t mean, but I was firm.  I explained to her that kids jump.  He wasn’t doing anything wrong; he was reflecting the contrived excitement that she projected on him.  She didn’t understand; and I didn’t care.  My child felt protected.

People raised in religion are taught that suffering or sacrifice is the way to God.  They often got punished as children for doing things that kids do.  As parents, they do what was done to them.  That’s sad, but it’s still wrong.  The best advice I can give any parent is before you discipline your children, take the mote your parent’s gave you out of your own eye.

 

 

 

How Roles Affect Letting Go (Part I Masculine Role)

Masculine role

By Cathy Eck

 

Letting go from the masculine role is very different from the feminine.  In this two part article, I’ll explain why.  Remember roles are a key aspect of the illusion; no role is the truth.

 

Masculine Role

In the masculine role, a true leader lets go of the problems or flaws they see in others.

In the masculine role, we see our mind reflected in our view of the world. 

I once had a collection of rare books on mental power from the late 1800’s/early 1900’s written by Rosicrucians and Masons who were spilling their guts, usually just before they died.  I suspect that they were trying to alleviate their guilt for taking advantage of others who fell for their mind tricks.  Positive thinking and mental projection worked for these men because they were playing powerful masculine roles in politics, religion, or business.  Their words had power over others because they had authority.

This evolved into the New Thought movement; teachers claimed that you just had to train your mind to be positive and visualize the world as you want it to be.  It sounded good, but I wondered, “Where does the negative go? What about reality?”  I asked many teachers this question, and their answers were usually the same, “You can’t let go of the negative.  You have to rise above it.  And rise above it, they did.”

 

Changing Our Mind

If we’re in a masculine role, it’s relatively easy to change our mind.  When I owned a business, I was the leader (masculine role); I could change my mind quickly because I had the power and authority to do so.  My feminine role employees blindly followed my vision.  Consequently, I needed to make sure my vision was win-win because I had a lot of responsibility.  People gave over their power far too easily.

I became concerned about this practice of simply changing our mind to positive or good thoughts.  Something wasn’t right.

I noticed that when I corrected a thought in my mind with affirmations or some other technique, I’d see the thought move outside of me to someone who played a feminine role in my life.  These techniques caused projection.  I was covering up my negative thought and identifying only with the positive.  So now I saw the negative in others instead of myself.  I wasn’t making the person that way.  They already had the ability to play that role; but I also wasn’t helping them change or grow.

This is why people who use New Thought techniques to become positive or good want to teach or preach to all the negative people around them.  They’re fixing their own projection, and usually charging quite well for the service.  We often call them inspirational or motivational speakers, but they’re master projectors.  If you feel your emotions when you listen to them, you’ll realize this quickly.

Rising above beliefs and projecting them on others allows those in masculine roles to live above the unwanted half of their beliefs and the related emotion.  It isn’t just leaders of religions and nations that use this technique today; it’s found its way in to nearly every profession.

Let’s say that a person has a fear of disease, so they study medicine.  They put knowledge, and often a desire for money, on top of their fear and beliefs.  Patients, who share their fear of disease, see them as their role of doctor; they don’t notice the belief in disease or fear that rests in the doctor’s shadow.  The patient unconsciously agrees to play their feminine role.  If the patient is suggestible and submissive, they’ll most likely leave with a diagnosis.  The doctor will see his fear and beliefs in disease projected on them regardless of whether it exists or not.

When the masculine role projects, they don’t see reality.  They’ve disengaged from their shadow; they don’t feel when they speak a belief about the patient.  But they should.  They’re psychologically reversed.

 

Letting Go In the Masculine Role

I watched my mind to see how I let go in the masculine role.  If I succeeded in letting go of the belief in my mind that I saw in the other, my feminine object of projection didn’t have the flaw anymore.  It was like magic.  I now felt a horrific sense of responsibility.  I never wanted to contribute to someone’s problems or flaws.  This allowed me to learn how the masculine role becomes the cure.

I turned to all the ancient stories and books that I’d collected, and finally they were clear.  In fact, this was exactly what Jesus was doing when he healed people.  He played a proper masculine leader.  He  looked at the person before him and recognized that the flaw he saw, and they believed they had, wasn’t true.   It was an illusion.  This is the power and beauty of the pure masculine role.

The masculine role falls when it uses it’s role for power, control, or riches.  The masculine role must assume that the mote is in it’s own eye.  When we’ve purified our masculine role and come across this false leaders, we see the tricks very clearly.

 

Feminine Sucks

Jesus let go of the beliefs (lies) he saw in another and healed them in his presence without medicine, surgery, or techniques, but he couldn’t keep others in masculine roles from projecting on them again.  He often said, “Go forth, and tell no one.”

My eyes were now open, but I moved to a feminine role in my life.  I could see projections coming at me, but I couldn’t stop them.  I felt trapped in the illusions of the people playing masculine roles.  Jesus’ story exposed this dilemma.  He was powerful in the masculine role, but when he became feminine to the false politicians, he lost his power.  The continuation of the illusion depends on the masses being stuck in feminine roles.  I had to find the key to letting go from the feminine role.

To be continued…

Exposing the Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

Wolf in Sheep's Clothing

By Cathy Eck

 

Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing Persona

A lot of people were really bothered by Ariel Castro — they should be.  He represents the wolf in sheep’s clothing.   This type of abuser is doing most of the damage in the world today.  The wolf in sheep’s clothing is actually quite common and often has authority and power in the illusion.

The wolf in sheep’s clothing looks good on the outside, but he or she hides a dark shadow underneath their sweet, kind, often intelligent, persona.  The wolf in sheep’s clothing keeps abusing sheep because people are afraid to expose the wolf.  We’re taught that goodness is measured by what you do, what you say, and how you look.  Those things can all be faked.

It’s not nice to question someone’s words or integrity, even when they give clues that we should.  The wolf is often a very good clone of the True Self.  However, the wolf has a shadow.  The True Self casts no shadow.

Clever wolves know how to speak falsehood without showing emotion.  Like news reporters, they can tell a horrible story with an absolute calm, controlled demeanor.  It’s no wonder that people get so emotional watching the news.  When the person in the masculine role (the reporter) doesn’t experience their own emotions, the listener (in the feminine role) does.  This has been a trick of the power-hungry for thousands of years.

Others disguise their emotions as charisma.  We treat their emotions as a sign of enthusiasm.  But their emotions are really a sign that they’re showering us with their beliefs — not the truth.

People willingly give their power to these master manipulators.  They trust them completely.  They never expose them.  And worst of all, when they feel emotional around these wolves in sheep’s clothing, they assume there’s something wrong with them.  They don’t suspect the calm and nice (or charismatic) wolf in sheep’s clothing.

When people speak from truth, they cast no shadow.  When people speak from falsehood, they always cast a shadow.  Often you can’t see their shadow, but you can feel it.

 

We Believe Them Without Question

When these wolves in sheep’s clothing speak, we believe them.  We ignore our emotions because these people generate constant emotion.  We focus on their words or appearance, which are always socially correct.  When we realize we’ve been blindsided, we wonder how we could have missed the clues.

We don’t realize that the problems that wolves share, the warnings they give us, and the hope, excitement, or terror they inspire in us isn’t real.  They’re simply giving us a report of their OWN illusion.  When we believe them, we get lost in their false world.  And we’re never powerful in another person’s illusion.

We can see this playing out in the United States.  An illusion of fear and terror took flight with the Bush administration (9/11).  Recently, people have commented that Obama is sounding and acting more and more like Bush.  He’s clearly stuck in Bush’s fear-based illusion.  He thought he could fix it with hope and change.  But hope and change are powerless in another person’s illusion.

The wolf in sheep’s clothing is everywhere.  Leaders at all levels pass on their illusions because they believe them.  We’re brainwashed to trust authority without question.  No one fixes the cause (let’s go of the causal beliefs) because they believe the illusion that was passed down to them is true.

 

Responsibility is Key

We’ve all fallen into this trap.  Most people live their whole life in their parent’s illusion.  Most live in their country’s illusion and in the world’s illusion.  People live in their religion’s illusion.  No one is living THEIR life.

We try to fix our childhood or our country or world because we believe what we see.  Fixing the illusion only makes it even more real and powerful.  Fixing the effect of illusory beliefs is equal to not fixing anything at all.

When we stop fixing illusions and instead see the beliefs that we accepted or the false conclusions we made as our responsibility, we can expose and eliminate them.  We can clearly see that it was all just an illusion.  Neither a dream, illusion, nor a wolf in sheep’s clothing have any power once we realize that they’re false.

Obama is treating Bush’s illusion as if it’s true.  He’s trying to fix it, and he can’t. No one can fix another person’s illusion, but we can see it as false.  We can dissolve it with the truth.

A great leader isn’t someone who fixes illusory problems.  A great leader is someone who sees the truth behind problems.  A great leaders takes responsibility, finds the causal beliefs, and dissolves illusions.  They don’t blame others.  They discriminate between true and false.  And they don’t project their OWN false beliefs or make their illusions our reality.

We need great leaders at all levels of life — parents, teachers, government, religion.  We must stop believing leaders that are vested in religions, big business, or political parties.  Their eyes are veiled with their illusions, and they can’t lead.  Knowledge of the system doesn’t make one a leader; clear vision does.  When people see problems as real, their vision is clouded.  They can’t lead, even when their intentions are good.

 

Listening With Our Bodies

The wolf in sheep’s clothing will lose power when people start listening with their bodies and trusting their emotions to discriminate.  The truth always sounds and feels good and calm.

Start listening to news, television advertisements, or political speeches with your body.  Listen with your body even when talking to friends or family.  You’ll see how much falsehood you’ve accepted.  You’ll start to recognize the wolf in sheep’s clothing before they trap you.

When we discriminate and let go, we retain our power.  The speaker’s emotions stay with them; they lose their false power naturally.  No one can deceive a True Self.  When people discriminate, the wolf in sheep’s clothing must take off their mask because the sheep won’t follow them anymore.

 

Understanding Soft Labels and Hard Labels

Story explains our perception of the sun-moon-earth

By Cathy Eck

 

Soft Labels

In a previous post, I wrote about labels that I call soft labels.  I spoke of a dream where a mother labeled one twin happy and another twin sad.  The labels limited the twins’ life experience, but the mother wasn’t being malicious.

The mother probably didn’t realize that she was seeing two opposing aspects of her own personality reflected in her twins.  Our children take on labels and roles that often, as parents, we don’t recognize as our own projections.

Our True Self doesn’t have labels or roles.  However, our false self always sees children in a feminine role.  The masculine role asserts or gives; the feminine (or passive) role receives.   Since children have little or no power, they always play a feminine role.

Our mental programming and design came about through story; early stories related the feminine to the moon or the earth.  The sun was always the masculine God role giving light and warmth.  The feminine might be moon-like and reflect the sun’s light.  Or it could be earth-like and absorb the sun’s light.  These symbols were mental metaphors, not physical.  It is heavenly to be feminine and reflect the sun’s light and love.  But if a human sun asserts its beliefs or labels instead of love and light, its feminine will be like the moon and reflect those beliefs or be like the earth and absorb them.  She won’t be in heaven anymore.

The masculine isn’t pleased when his crap shows up in his feminine; so he blames her for dragging their asses out of heaven.  But it was the sun’s fall from love and light that caused the problem.  Beliefs are like fluorescent light compared to the sun.  They aren’t the real thing and produce minimal growth; but they can do the job of lighting the room.

As adults, we step into bigger roles.  A wife is still usually feminine to her husband.  An employee is feminine to the boss.  A slave is feminine to the master; and a patient is feminine to the doctor.  When we are in the feminine role, we hope that our sun is shining with pure white light.  But often they’re just a fluorescent bulb.

 

Hard Labels

Hard labels come from authorities with a desire for dominance.  They know the sun has power over the moon/earth; they use that power to project the negative part of the illusion on to the feminine.  This allows them to float above the illusion’s manure pile.

The person in the feminine role doesn’t detect the projection if they treat fluorescent light as if it’s sunlight.  They trust the authority (person in the masculine role) as if they are being directed by God.

As long as the feminine takes the projection and submits like a good slave, the authority is content.  But when the feminine tries to take back her power or reflects the projection, the masculine often slaps a hard label on them.

Imagine a slave who decides he deserves more food.  When he makes his case, the master says, “You’re selfish.  You think you deserve to eat like me.”  The master is the selfish one, but he projects selfishness on his feminine slave with conviction.  The slave believes the authority and backs off.  He’s been trained to do so.  This is one of the most sinister tricks of the false self.

 

The false self masculine uses labels to cause the person in the feminine position to believe that they are doing to them (masculine person) what the masculine person is actually doing to the feminine person.

Complex, confusing — welcome to the false self”s world.  So let’s look at another example.  The wife says she’s going for a walk alone.  The husband feels left out.  So he throws his baggage on her back.  He says, “You’re so demanding.”  Her feminine training kicks in and she starts to wonder, “Am I too demanding?”  In that moment of doubt, the aggressor has won; he’s created acceptance of his projected belief on his feminine target.

Another great example of label slamming was seen in the 2012 Presidential election.  The marketing pieces and debates were full of label slamming the opposition.  It’s a strategic power move to trick the opponent into accepting the slammed label and losing his power.

Once we believe a label, we become feminine to the labeler.  When we see the game, we don’t fall so easily.  When we learn to let go, the game no longer works.  This is how the feminine regains her freedom — ending slavery forever.

 

The New Leader

We need new leaders who don’t project labels into people’s minds, who help people let their labels go.  Imagine going to a doctor/healer who listens to your problem then helps you see the labels and beliefs that caused the problem.  I’ve done this many times; when a client is willing to let go of the cause, natural healing kicks in.  Imagine a lawyer that helps both parties let go of their causal beliefs resulting in true love and true justice.  Imagine a leader that sees problems in his company or nation and realizes that the problems are his own projection.  Big problems would disappear very quickly.  The problems on this planet only look big because leaders want power, and they have no power without problems.

This type of leader existed long ago.  I hope to bring this old way of leading back.  But we don’t have to wait for the big guys to step up to the plate.  We can start wherever we are.  Everyone has leadership roles even if they are very small, and we can transform our own sphere of influence — set an example.  We can share this information with others so that one day all leaders must lead the true way because the people will no longer take their projections.  The feminine will finally be free.

 

For leaders who want to learn how to step into these giant shoes…click here.

Living Life from the Eye of the Hurricane

Life became calm when we live from the eye of the hurricane

While the rest of the world is blowing around in the wind, our True Self always lives from the eye of the hurricane where life is calm and quiet.

By Cathy Eck

 

Hurricane as a Metaphor

In the ancient world, everything had meaning.  Every event had a lesson.  Every person and every experience was a mirror into our inner world, our thoughts and our beliefs.  The ancient ones understood that nothing could happen to us unless we had a belief that allowed it into our experience.

This was a very powerful way to live.  It isn’t easy to take responsibility for the problems that come into our life, especially when they are as big as a hurricane.  I’ve known this for years and still struggle with it every day.  But it is how we were born to live;  if we have the responsibility, then we have the power.

The trick to life in the ancient world was to stay in the eye of the hurricane where everything was calm.  Since our beliefs created our reality, our job was to make sure that we didn’t accept beliefs into our mind that allowed problems to enter our life experience.

Our True Self has no beliefs.  The True Self doesn’t know of problems.  Very few people live from the True Self.  Often it takes a crisis for people to drop their beliefs and live from the truth.  People who have been polarized by the 2012 election will help another out in a crisis regardless of party if their lives or homes are in danger.  It is sad, but often reality.

 

Our True Self Lives in the Eye of the Hurricane

Our True Self doesn’t know of problems.  The True Self is always calm, always clear, always empowered.  While the rest of the world is flying around in the winds of their false self, the True Self sits calmly and quietly in the eye of the hurricane.

While many people live through an event like a hurricane, each person has a unique experience.  According to the ancients, each gets their own personal message.  Each one gets the challenge that they need the most.  The reason for the challenge is only to push them to let go, to move to the eye of the hurricane, to stop fighting life by rigidly holding on to beliefs that just aren’t true (especially the beliefs they have about their fellow human beings).

The Eye of the Hurricane is simply a symbol.  But every challenge that comes us has an eye.  It is that place in our minds where we can see the beliefs that allowed the experience to unfold for us as it did.  The more we let go, the easier it is to stay in the eye.

The ancients taught us that nothing bad could happen if we didn’t have a belief that let it in.  So bad events and people expose the beliefs we hold in mind.  Sadly that information was lost, and losing that secret stripped us of our power.  We won’t let go of beliefs if we don’t know they are false or don’t know we can let them go.

 

Authority Moved to the Center

Kings don’t have slaves if people are empowered.  Religion isn’t necessary if people recognize their power.  You don’t need prophets or oracles to talk to God for you if you can do it yourself.  So early religious and political leaders made God responsible and humans powerless.  Kings and priests could talk to God, and God said what the kings and priests decided they would say.  Humans became mortal and flawed.  The Goddess was silenced; and the link between the normal human being and God was cut.  People no longer understood why bad things happened to them when they tried so damn hard to be good.

When the leaders are sitting in the eye of the hurricane, and we are flying around in the wind, it does no good to take personal responsibility because we’ve given them our power.  We have to recognize that leaders are not our authorities, we are.  We have to let go of the beliefs that keep us inferior to our leaders.  We have to take back our power.  We have to know that we control our destiny.  We have to know that our own thoughts and beliefs affect the quality of our life.

 

Taking Back Our Power

It is time that we all take back our power.  We need to look at our beliefs and if they don’t increase our personal power, help to keep us safe and secure, or reconnect us to God, then we need to let them go.  We were meant to live in a diverse and crazy world from the eye of the hurricane.  We were meant to live from certainty and clarity.  We were meant to be able to discriminate between truth and falsehood.  We were meant to be responsible for our life, and that is very good news.

People can play a leader role in religion and in politics if they can inspire us and make win-win decisions that support our personal power.  They can help us to stand in the eye of the hurricane along side of them.  They don’t get to tell us what to think or who we are.  They don’t get to stand in the way of our safety or our connection to God.  They don’t get to tell us how to live.  They don’t get to control our destiny.  And if they do throw us out in the wind, we have the right to ignore them because they are false.  We have the right to live in the center, in the eye of the hurricane.

 

Staying in the eye of the hurricane requires eliminating level confusion.