How Do You Fulfill Desires?

How do you get what you want

By Cathy Eck

 

Desires Aren’t the Enemy

According to the ancient initiates, when we live from our True Self, our desires and our thoughts/beliefs become so perfectly congruent that we easily fulfill desires.  But if we live from a fabricated false self, then we try to follow beliefs and fulfill desires of others.  We aren’t naturally equipped to fulfill desires that aren’t our own, so we need hard work or willpower.  It’s our free will choice which way we live.

Most people have a belief system of some sort, and they fulfill desires pretty well if they follow their belief system to the letter.  If we like our beliefs and aren’t harming others, there isn’t a problem with having a belief system.  Overzealous believers, however, often erroneously think their beliefs are the truth.  If others (who aren’t in power) feel damned or stuck in an unsatisfactory life experience when they can’t follow or obey, the believer has gone too far.  They’ve confused beliefs with the truth.  That’s where letting go comes in to save the nonbelievers.

A good way to find out what you still believe (and it might surprise you) is to ask yourself:  “How do I fulfill desires?”  Here are some popular answers:

 

Sky God

Is an outside God in the sky the grantor of your wishes and keeper of your destiny?  Some treat God (or Jesus) like a concierge.  If God deems them deserving, they fulfill desires.  If sky God is your answer, then the next question to ask is how does God decide if you’re deserving?  Often when people answer this question, they realize that God’s rules are exactly like their parent’s and early authority figure’s rules.  This belief also becomes transparent when you realize that atheists tend to fulfill desires too.

 

Hard Work 

Most westerners have some hard-work ethic in them.  If we believe that hard work fulfills desires, then we can’t do something we love and get rewarded.  We have to make everything hard or convince others that we’re suffering enough to deserve a reward.  Also, we discover that some things can’t be created or fixed with hard work — we reach the limit of our belief system.  Hard work doesn’t create great ideas.  No amount of hard work can cure something labeled incurable.  The True Self creates in ways that are simple and easy.

 

Positive Thinking

When people realize that thoughts fulfill desires, they’re usually horrified at what they’ve been thinking.  They’ve accepted lots of beliefs.  They see that their mind is conditioned to accept things that feel terrible without discriminating.

Occultists and magicians realized long ago that emotional people were easy to deceive; they used that to their advantage.  Those in power still create problems to generate emotion in others.  While everyone is distracted in their emotional confusion, the people in power do whatever they want.  Pay attention, you’ll see this pattern wherever problems exist.

 

Karma

In the west, we say, “What goes around comes around”  — the western version of karma.  Originally, karma was based on the understanding that when you create in the illusion, you get both sides of duality.  Pretty and ugly, rich and poor, or war and tolerance go together like two sides of a coin.

Even when we only identify with one side of duality, we get the other as a bonus unconsciously.  The side we’re not identified with is projected out on to others, and it does come back to us in time.  Other people eventually return our projections.  Letting go resolves karma because it gets rid of projected duality.

 

Obedience, Being Good

Some believe that if they are good or obedient, they’ll get what they want.  They’re often very frustrated when they see that others aren’t good (by their standards) and they, too, fulfill desires.  When we obey authority or another’s belief system, we’re disobeying our True Self.  When we let go, we come to see that our True Self fulfills desires, not authority.

 

Magical Thinking

There are all kinds of magical belief schemes to fulfill desires from four-leaf clovers to mind games.  Some people actually worry to fulfill desires.  Others think they protect themselves with fear.  There are superstitions, guardian angels, and fairies.  All of these are mind tricks that work sometimes when you believe them because they are long-standing thought forms.  But they aren’t foolproof and most people don’t know why they work when they do or why they eventually fail them.

 

Willpower

People use willpower to fulfill desires in any number of physical or mental ways.  Willpower overpowers strong beliefs.  Old-fashioned willpower benefits from the group mind — mafia, KKK, or religion.  But visualization or affirmations are also forms of willpower. Underneath the use of willpower of any kind is the belief that one lacks real power.  They need to force their desires to manifest.

 

What’s the Answer?

Everyone has a unique mix of how they fulfill desires.  Religion, upbringing, culture, personal history, and teachers all give us beliefs.   Beliefs tend to be unpredictable keeping us in a state of confusion.

If you’re an atheist, God isn’t part of your answer.  Some cultures treat willpower as crucial to fulfill desires; others find it rude.  If you believe in the luck of the Irish, a four-leaf clover is an asset.  If you’re raised on superstition, you’ll create problems by breaking a mirror.  In the illusion, beliefs rule; and those who know and follow their own belief rulebook do well.  Those who let go do better.

There are also some belief trump cards like being born to royalty.  Being told you’re chosen is like winning the lottery of beliefs.  When we let go, even these wide-standing beliefs don’t limit us.

 

The Great Equalizer

The great equalizer is the power of letting go.  According to the ancient initiates, when your mind is clear or virgin, you think a desire once; then you fulfill it by following your inspiration.  When no beliefs block our desire fulfillment process, we’ve returned to the Garden of Eden.  

Facing Our Fears the Initiate’s Way

Facing our fears

By Cathy Eck

 

Facing Our Fears 

There’s a popular book called, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.”  I’ve never read it, but I’ve heard plenty of people quote it.  The title says it all.

The underlying premise of “doing it anyway” is that our fears (or any emotions) have no purpose except to annoy the hell out of us. We need to get rid of them; and if we want to achieve anything in life, we need to will our fears into submission.  Personally, I think that’s an arrogant assumption.  We were all born with emotions; they obviously have a purpose.

So what should we do with fear or any other emotion?  How were we designed?

 

Initiate’s View of Facing Our Fears

The initiates saw facing our fears in a very different way.  When you understand their point of view, life gets much easier. Initiates didn’t differentiate between emotions.

Try this experiment.  Think of a situation that scared you, and feel the emotion in your body.  Now think of something that made you angry, and feel the emotion in your body.  Now think of something that excited you, and you’ll find the same emotion in your body. You might feel the emotions in a different place or with different intensity, but the feeling of all emotions is virtually the same.

The label that we place on our emotions is an intellectual decision based on the circumstances.  Our emotions don’t have labels.  So taking off the label is the first step to using our emotions correctly.  Emotions aren’t fear, anger, grief, or shame.  They are a signal that our mind needs correcting.

As you know from my other articles, emotions were considered a signal to the initiate that they were thinking wrongly (falsely).  The mind was seen as a container of thought. While we’re all connected as one at the level of the truth (True Self), our false selves were designed to be individual and separate. This was so we could all create uniquely.  Each of us could have different ideas and beliefs and experience different lives.  But as you know, people started to control what others believed.  Humans started to fear and believe authority and accept other people’s beliefs as their own.  We also accepted the belief, “If it’s true for them, it’s true for me.”  Consequently, people became connected (or one) at the false self level.  Big mistake!!!

Emotions were simply a sign from our True Self to let go of the belief that was causing the emotion.  So, from the initiates’ perspective, keeping a belief, ignoring or facing our fears, and doing it anyway was a prescription for suicide.  The initiates understood that beliefs are the cause of our life experience.  The effect is the emotional warning that such cause (belief) is leading us down the wrong path; and if we ignore that emotional warning signal, we may not like the outcome.

To complicate things more, we often think that our emotions are caused by others.  Often they are, but it’s because we believe what they’re saying.  So our emotions are still caused by us.  But retraining our mind takes effort because we were trained to believe others and obey them, especially authority figures.

 

What Do We Do With Emotions?

This sounds incredibly strange at first.  Only your True Self can understand it.  Facing our fears makes sense to our false self; it equates letting go with dying or disappearing.

It took me a long time to figure this out because my own false mind kept replaying its faulty tapes.  But I realized it didn’t hurt to try.  And when I tried it, I liked it.

Our emotions tell us when a causal thought is false.  Most of what normal people think is false.  They’d be emotional all the time so they reverse their internal system creating psychological reversal, causing them to appear unemotional.  They are mentally wired to win in the illusion, not live authentically.

If you let a causal thought go, the related emotions disappear. Imagine that you’re talking with someone who makes you very angry. The anger is caused by the fact that you believe what they said; they were simply spouting off their beliefs.  If another person tells a complete lie, you won’t get emotional unless you believe their lie.  Our bodies are designed to be magnificent lie detectors. People in power messed with our signaling systems so they could lie, and we wouldn’t know it.  Other times we’re feeling emotion as an effect of what we thought or judged about the other person.  Most people think that the emotion confirms that their judgment of the other is correct.  It’s actually proof that their judgment is false. It doesn’t matter what the person has said or done in the past, our minds are wired to help us let go of judgments and see the True Self in everyone.

 

Thoughts Matter

Most people are other directed.  To heal our minds, we must become inner directed.  The ancient Greeks said, “Know Thyself.”  They meant know your thinking — your mind.  Jesus said, “It’s not what goes into the mouth that defiles a man, but what comes out of the mouth.” He wasn’t talking about food choices or vomit.  He was talking about words.  Our words come from our mind, our thoughts, our beliefs.  Using our emotions as our guide frees our minds from beliefs and purifies our words.

Our beliefs create our reality.  When we listen to our emotions and let our beliefs go, our minds becomes free and our bodies become calm.  We have returned to the mental state from which we were born. The initiates called this being reborn of a virgin.  We begin life again, but this time we know how to stay free.

 

People also believe that life is a struggle, but that’s wrong too. If we do the right struggle by becoming mentally free, we don’t have to do the physical struggle.  Read more here.

Inspiration vs Motivation: Initiation 102

The further you are from the center, the wilder the ride

By Cathy Eck 

 

Inspiration or Motivation

I became possessed by this topic nearly thirty years ago as a business owner.  Some rare employees loved their work and needed no motivation to do a stellar job.  Most did their jobs well but did better with incentives, and some couldn’t be moved with a forklift.  They were apathetic and had no motivation.  All problems came from the last group.

My curiosity prompted me to  enroll in a Master’s Degree program in Transpersonal Psychology (because I still thought the answers were outside of me).  I wanted to help this last group and eliminate our problems; but I also wanted to make sure that my children fell into the first group.  I realized that those who required no external motivation lived from the inside out — from inspiration.  The inspired ones were the happy ones.

Most of the world lives from the outside in.  Something good happens, and they are happy.  Something bad happens, and they are sad.  They are emotionally tossed about by the world, never able to stay happy for long unless they micro-manage their life.

I first noticed this watching my mother and her supposed love for football.  When her team won, life was good.  When her team lost, I wished I lived on another planet.    As a young child, I couldn’t understand how a football team could affect her moods in such a profound way.  Enjoying football is great; letting football ruin your day or week is insanity.  I wanted my dad to get her therapy, but my dad said she was normal.  “Normal, my ass,”  I thought.  The seed to understand the link between thoughts and emotions was probably planted in my childhood family room.

 

What About Passion?

My mother would have said that she was passionate about football and her team.  She was inspired to watch football, and she almost sounded reasonable.  But I later learned that inspiration doesn’t drag your ass around and make you crazy.

Even the best of psychology looks outside for the cause, so it is doubtful that therapy would have helped my mother.  They would have told her to pick a better team.

If people are out of work, it’s the economy’s fault.  If they are sick, germs, toxins, or an unhealthy lifestyle caused it.  Wars are caused by terrorists.  But the real insanity is that people go to speakers or clergy to get motivated or inspired.  No one says to themselves, “Gee, this might be backwards” because we are trained so well to think this way.  And don’t even get me started on the notion that God is outside of us handing out rewards and punishments like Santa Claus.

We are all born inspired.  Children don’t need motivation to learn to crawl or walk.  Plants don’t need motivation to pop out of the soil.  We are hard-wired for growth and exploration.  Inspiration handles life nicely until humans tell us to do what they want us to do; then we need motivation.  My conclusion, with my third group of apathetic employees was simply that they were in the wrong career.  I did them a favor; I fired them.

 

Initiation Reverses Our Direction

The initiates said that everything has a cause, and the cause is always in our own mind.  Even the person who just cut you off on the freeway couldn’t have done it without a belief in your mind (which might appear to be unconscious) that allowed him or her into your world.  This is why abusers groom their prey; they have to insert a belief in their prey’s mind for the abuse to occur.

There is always a causal belief for anything in our life.  It sounds crazy when you’ve never heard that before, and it is painful to go down this alley because we feel so responsible. We have to remember that we borrowed the beliefs that got us into this mess from others because we came to this earth as innocent children without discrimination. We didn’t do anything wrong.  At the same time, once we know better; we need to reverse the damage.

When I finally understood this, I found it sort of funny because I realized that in the beginning, it must have been extremely hard to get people not to follow their inspiration.  As I’ve worked on my own mind, I’ve seen tricks, traps, and blind spots indicating that our history was filled with instances of the collective false mind nearly losing to the True Self.  So the gamemasters had to install a patch in the software.  They had to invent yet another religion or create a new dictator or rewrite history in some bizzaar way to make sure that we didn’t figure out that we are powerful, unlimited beings who don’t have to do what they want us to do.  The elite, rich, and powerful of the world are nothing without the slaves that do their work for them.  When you realize that, you lose your motivation do serve them.

Quite frankly,  initiation would take an hour or a day if we didn’t have so much training in living from motivation.  Everyone is looking for answers out there, when the answers are inside of them.  It is the ultimate mental trick.  As we let go of beliefs, our focus moves inward to the center where life is calm and consistent.  When a wheel turns, if you are on the rim, you get a wild ride; but if you stand right in the center, you barely move at all.

Thus, initiates were described as calm, peaceful, and wise.  They didn’t display emotions.  But this wasn’t because they had slick poker-faced personalities.  They had no emotions because they had no beliefs.  They simply weren’t being tossed and turned by the chaos of the world.  They created their lives from the inside out, and lived from the center of the wheel.

 

Santa or Satan, same letters, and both are embedded in the illusion of Santa.

Where’s the Proof? Initiation 101

Initiation, Where's the proof?

By Cathy Eck

 

How can you prove that? Why isn’t this taught or spoken of more?  Do you know people who have mastered their minds and no longer have health issues?

 

Occasionally, I get an email like the one above.  The questions are very reasonable.  I recognize that I don’t sound like everyone else.  Initiation is not like anything else out there, and it sounds crazy until you understand it.

 

Where’s the Proof?

I share freely nearly two decades of full-time research into ancient initiation.  I was drawn to the teachings of the mystery schools because they said the graduates healed the sick, manifested whatever was needed, and remained eternally youthful.  I wanted to see if it was true or if it was pure mythology.  I went into this project with skepticism but a very open mind.  I also committed that I was willing to risk everything, including my life, for the answer.

Initiates were said to be taught and then tested.  However, their tests weren’t for grades; they were do or die.  You had to embody what you learned, not just memorize information.  Today we memorize information.  We don’t embody it.

The initiate became the proof.  People didn’t go into initiation with a money back guarantee.  Passing the test was the proof.  The initiate knew that these tests were the natural consequences of their beliefs and an opportunity to prove their mastery.  Without beliefs, there would be no tests. By letting go, they gained the eyes to see and ears to hear.  They became like pure-minded children.

I took what I learned very serious, and tested it out.  I failed and failed, but I refused to give up.  My outer world didn’t change much for a long time, but my inner world was becoming quiet and clear.  Worry and fear were disappearing.  Problems were becoming less frequent.  When I looked at the Bible or mythological stories, I could stand in the shoes of the author; it looked nothing like what I was taught.  There were no contradictions; everything made sense.

My own proof came from my success, not the other way around.  People get rewards from initiation based on their own perseverance.  I can’t promise anything.  I’ve had results in every aspect of my life.  The short list of problems that I’ve healed includes migraine headaches, shoulder pain, persistent cough, heartburn, constipation, female problems, chronic fatigue, depression, joint pain, MS, allergies, asthma, skin problems, digestion problems, and lower back pain; all were healed without any medication, diet changes, or help.  I’m sure there are more that I’ve forgotten.  Once I found the causal belief, my True Self healed my problem.  The ancients were right.

Nevertheless, my old beliefs had lots of power; they didn’t go down without a fight.  So I understand why people don’t trust what I say; I’ve been in their shoes.

Most people look to a false outer God, an expert with knowledge, or an outer solution; the Jesus they worship said that God was within.  He also said we could do everything he did.  Why do I sound so crazy?

 

Why Doesn’t Anyone Else Say This?

My guess would be money and power.  There are people who know what I share, and they use it for their own self gain.  I thought about doing that, but I chose to attempt to even the score.  I felt that was the win-win thing to do.

I now understand why people use this wisdom for self gain because people who believe religion, a guru, or their doctor over their own True Self don’t appreciate the information.  Instead of trying it, they make it wrong.  I’ve tried to help people who acted like they were possessed as they defended their limitations and problems.  It makes you want to say, “Screw you.”  Thus people in the know become jaded and quit sharing the information.  Others fear that those who benefit from the wisdom will harm them.  Some take vows of silence.

I don’t fix other people and I don’t care to; but I do help them find their inner power because I know where to look.  I expose beliefs as untrue because they are harmful, and people who benefit from those beliefs don’t like their winning formula being exposed or laughed at.  But you come to see beliefs as just plain stupid, funny, and worthless.  We want them to lose power.

I never ask anyone to accept beliefs except for the belief that they can let go.  You need that belief until your True Self kicks back into power.  The end goal is a free mind with no beliefs.

 

Why Do I Do This?

Most, if not all, suffering is avoidable if we know how to let go.  I know that when I heal something in my body or let go of a belief, it is far better than sex, drugs, or meditation.  It is the best gift that I can possibly give away.

Today initiation happens within the world at work, home, and in our communities.  If we understand initiation, we can sail through life’s challenges.  Throughout all of history, initiation has been viewed as the way to freedom — the short cut to heaven on earth.

Initiation is different because it is universal.  Christians need saving.  Jews follow the laws.  Muslims follow Mohammed.  Easterners undo karma and seek enlightenment.  If people want to follow those routes, I suggest they do them to the letter.  When they do that, as I once did, they will see the holes.

 

Proof

When we have no more doubt, we see proof.  I hope to become the proof  of what I’ve learned from initiation because it is a universal perspective.  Initiates lived with unconditional love; I’d like to be just like them.  

I don’t expect anyone to believe me because that would be asking them to accept beliefs.  If they let go, they will see the same things I’ve seen because the truth is within everyone.

  

I’m always very happy to answer questions.  

The Hidden Lie In “Do You Want to Be Right or Happy?”

Do You want to be right or happy?

By Cathy Eck 

 

Right Or Happy 101

In the early 90’s, I attended the Landmark Forum.  We were given an exercise to call someone with whom we had unfinished business.  The goal was to finish our business with them — to remove any incompletion.

I called my mother.  Growing up, she often threatened to leave us or to kill herself.  I had images burned in my mind from her drama.  I called her at 6:00 AM; and I explained that I was doing this exercise, and I needed to know what in the hell she was thinking.  You know what she said, “Cathy, it never had anything to do with you.  That was one of the many ways that women of my generation got what we wanted from our thick-skulled husbands.  I’m sorry if you thought I was actually going to leave you.  I only did it because it worked.”

I never had a bad feeling again about my mother’s drama because she shared her logic with me.  Once I understood her, I could decide if I agreed or disagreed.  While I refused to use her logic, I could see that it probably would have worked with my equally thick-skulled husband.

So now I was sailing high.  This realization lifted years of weight off my shoulders, and I felt light again.  But then our Forum leader said something that clouded my eyes once again.  He was, of course, talking to a thick-skulled man; and he said, “Do you want to be right or happy?”

I thought, “What a stupid question.” I never thought I had to choose between being right or happy.  Immediately, I thought to myself, “Happy, of course.”  Just then my intellect processed the belief and my baggage returned; my mind said, “Well if you want to be happy, then you can’t be right.”  If you read my post from yesterday, you can probably see that my know-it-all baggage kicked in yet again.

 

Stuck in the Middle With You

I was now stuck in circular reasoning; and I couldn’t get out.  If I was right, according to this leader who was a human behavior authority, then I couldn’t be happy.  If I was right and pretended to be wrong, then I wasn’t happy either.  Right or happy?  Right or happy?  It was tormenting me.  It seemed that this saying had pushed happiness completely out of my life; and my husband played right or happy like a fine violin.

Eventually, I sorted out my circular reasoning by moving out of happy and unhappy, right and wrong, and moving into true and false.  I discovered that choosing between right or happy didn’t make any sense.  They weren’t opposites.  This incident gave birth to the triangle process, which I still use nearly every day.

Right and wrong, good and bad, or happy and unhappy all live at the triangle bottom. When we live at the bottom of the triangle, we move back and forth between the opposites.  The ancients called this being stuck on the cross because you get no forward movement.  At the triangle bottom, you’re stuck in flawed reasoning; and you will not move until you resolve it.  But people don’t see the flaw in their logic because the back and forth movement looks like change.

We see this in politics.  People believe that changing from Republican to Democrat or vice versa is change.  But both are bottom of the triangle perspectives; both are equally full of shit.  When we are stuck at the bottom of the triangle, we think one side is right or good because we can’t see the shadow on the other side.

 

No More Unhappy and Wrong

In my case, I had to realize that I didn’t want to play right and wrong; I wanted to play win-win (top of the triangle).  I could accept any idea where we both won or nothing.  Suddenly, I could see clearly.  My husband’s ideas were always about him winning, meaning that I lost.  Now I had confidence in my decisions, and I didn’t feel guilty for being right.

Then there was happy and unhappy.  Again these are bottom of the triangle states of being.  Happiness is dependent on outer circumstances making us happy.  We get the job, so we are happy; but then we get fired, so we are unhappy.  We have the kids, so we are happy, but then they grow up, and we are unhappy.  We buy the house, so we are happy; but then it needs repairs, so we are unhappy.  You get the gist.  The desire for happiness puts us on a roller coaster.  Joy comes from within.  It is permanent and unconditional.  Joy lives underneath the illusion of happiness; and you find it when you let go of all the things you believe make you happy or unhappy.

 

Finally, I’m Right and Happy

It took me years to unravel this mystery.  Now people learn it in an hour and apply it for a lifetime.  We have the ancient masters to thank.  Everything I write about came from them.  I just translate their clues much like someone translates Hebrew or Greek.  I guess you could say I’m the “Initiate Whisperer.”

My job is to make your journey quicker and easier by giving you their wisdom in modern form.  For me it is very fun because I was wired to do this job.  It is my part of the big picture.

Any yet, for a long time, I resisted sharing what I knew because I was so afraid of being right — and I looked pretty weird.  My baggage put stops up in every direction.  I had a lot to let go.  But eventually, I cleared away the clouds, and I realized that the ancient masters were appealing to me because they thought in win-win terms and because they lived from joy.  In the language of modern bullshit, they were right and happy.

 

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