What If I Like My Beliefs? What Do I do With Annoying Believers? Etc.

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By Cathy Eck

 

Beliefs and Believers

Beliefs aren’t really a problem if we truly understand that they’re all false. Believers of all sorts fear other peoples’ beliefs; they think the others’ beliefs can affect them.  Beliefs can’t affect us unless we believe them.  Really!  Likewise, prophecy only affects people who accept it as true.

This wisdom makes life inherently fair.  But believers do need opposition to take their imaginary punishments.  For a long time, I feared believers; that fear cast me into unwanted roles within their illusions.  Once I no longer believed them, they lost their false power over me.

People with strong beliefs challenge us during initiation.   They show us what we still believe.  That’s a valuable service.  We also get to practice not judging them for having beliefs.  They’re living a false illusion; but they aren’t bad.

Beliefs die a natural death without human fuel.  Consequently, believers hate when we ignore them; but too often we argue with them.  Arguing puts us on their false level.  We lose when they say we offend them.  We’ll lose if they trigger doubt in us by pulling out an out-of-context Bible verse.  Many Food Police would reel me in with their charisma as they talked about their bullshit belief of the day.  Believers are always armed and ready to defend their beliefs.

Resist their pull to battle; it only gives them power.  Just realize that their beliefs are false and let them go.  In this way, you stay in power.  You see, us nonbelievers aren’t psychologically reversed like them, we feel the emotions that they should feel since they just lied.  But they believe they spoke the one-and-only truth — they feel nothing.  In most any battle, the emotional person loses.  Chances are, that will be us.

However, if we discriminate and let go, the emotions we feel leave us and return to their source — the believer.  If we stay in our True Self, said believer must deal with their own emotions.  If we’re wise, we give them what they fear most — unconditional love.  Pure love dissolves anything false.  It’s the most powerful weapon in the universe.  I never attack a believer; but if they attack me, I shoot them with love.  They hate it.

 

What if We Can’t Let Go?

There’s no belief you can’t let go.  However, letting go often takes time.  What if you’re in an urgent situation, like a health crisis?  You can feel lost between two worlds.  The best and safest thing to do is to honestly admit that you don’t believe you can let go right now; follow your beliefs to the letter.  Do whatever you believe will result in healing the effects.  After the crisis is over, let go around that subject until you release the causal belief.  Regardless of what you’re told by experts, the problem will disappear and not return when you no longer hold the causal belief in mind.

My biggest surprise around letting go, and what comes as a shock to people I mentor, is that any situation that we didn’t fix at the cause earlier in life will come up again in initiation.  If we had a physical problem earlier in life, it’s wise to look at the beliefs that caused that problem while our health is still good and our mind clear.  If we had relationship problems that we fixed with therapy or boundaries, get ready!  People often get upset when they regain the weight they once lost through dieting and exercise.  They fixed the effect, not the cause.  We’ll probably meet these problems again, but now we’ll know how to let go.  This time, we’ll remove the cause.

 

Can I keep my religion?

Of course. You won’t be completely free, but you can keep it.  I recommend that anyone with a tradition, practice, or religion, which they believe they want to keep, should live it fully, honestly, and completely.  Do it exactly as prescribed.  Don’t cheat.  In that way, you’ll see it for what it is.

When you practice a tradition, practice, or religion selectively, you’re not really following the tradition.  You pick up all of the beliefs of that tradition, yet don’t follow the protocol — that’s dangerous.  Many people make up their own rebellious rules or beliefs — not realizing that their modifications have no power against the fundamentalists’ beliefs.

If you live any belief system fully without cheating and still like it, then keep it.  But don’t become a zealot.  Even if it works for you, it’s still a belief system; it’s unfair to force others to accept your beliefs.

 

Challenging Beliefs

Many of us were taught to never challenge another person’s beliefs.  It’s certainly not good to argue over beliefs since we get the cooties of the person we argue with.  But we must challenge the beliefs within our own minds.

If another person has beliefs, and they’re happy with them, then I just make sure that I don’t believe them and infect my mind.  However, if they ask me to listen to their problems, to help them fix their problems, or to take care of them in some way, then that’s a request for help.  I give them support by helping them find their causal belief and let that belief go.  I’m not a caretaker.  If they don’t want their belief challenged, then they can fix their own problem.  I won’t fix their effects.  Jesus demonstrated this by “letting the dead bury the dead.”  In other words, those in the illusion can take care of the illusion’s problems.

Generally, I’ll only help another clean up their mess if they let go since I know the problem won’t happen again.  When people are forced to take responsibility for the effects of their beliefs, they often choose to let go.  My methods sound cruel to some, but they’re not.  In my experience, when I hold people to the truth, they often rise to the occasion.  When I rescue someone who’s drowning, I usually drown with them.

Lust, Clergy, Gurus, and A Man Called God

Sai Baba, A Man Called God

By Cathy Eck

 

A Man Called God

Yesterday, I saw an amazing film at the “San Diego Black Film Festival” entitled, “A Man Called God.”  The description read:  “India’s most infamous Holy man, a fanatical cult, fifty million followers, one American family, an epic tragedy…”  I had a hunch I knew the film’s message; but quite frankly, I was shocked that anyone had the guts to tell it.

Years ago, I lived in a small town in Virginia that was filled with devotees of a guru called “Master Charles.”  I watched people slowly lose themselves; eventually, they couldn’t do anything unless the guru gave them permission.  They were possessed.  They thought they were spiritual, but they were really just fucking lost.  You could see it in their eyes.

In addition, I also met many New Agers.  Much of what they said sounded true until they talked about their gurus — often Sai Baba.  I’d feel strong agitation in my stomach — the feeling you get before you vomit.

Ironically, my ex-husband had priest friends, and I felt that same level of emotion in my stomach every time I was around them.  My body simply couldn’t stomach them, but I thought perhaps there was something wrong with me.

For communication purposes, I’ll label this emotion disgust or lust.  But you can’t let go of a labeled emotion.  In truth, the emotion was my True Self screaming that these men or their devotees/believers were speaking falsehood.  I mostly just politely ignored them — unless they tried to recruit me.  Then I honestly told them what I felt.  At which point, I was severely judged.

 

Clergical Lust

Why is there so much lust in clergy?  More important, why do followers turn a blind eye even when they know abuse exists?

Lust was probably the real reason early Biblical leaders had so many wives.  If someone is spewing beliefs (lies) all day long, they become filled with emotions.  Their emotions were saying:  Let go.  Shut up.  But they believe their minds are telling the truth — their strong emotions must be validation of righteousness.

Lots of these men turn their emotion into charisma and dissipate it on followers.  Others gravitate to violence or war.  Many turn to sex.  When we don’t know the purpose of our emotions, and we can’t let them go, we project the release outside of us; and we do awful things to ourselves and others to get emotional relief. 

 

The Story (Spoiler Alert)

Kristoff St. John wrote and produced the film.  I learned that he’s famous for his Emmy-winning performance on the American soap, “The Young and the Restless,”

As a young boy, about thirty years ago, Kristoff’s stepmother became enamored with Sai Baba.  She took young Kristoff to India.  Sai Baba asked Christopher St. John, Kristoff’s father and a famous actor/film artist, to make a documentary about him.  Consequently, Christopher arrived in India with a full camera crew and began filming.

One day, young Kristoff talked to some local college students (something forbidden by Sai Baba).  They told him that Baba had sexually abused them; they were paid to keep quiet.

Meanwhile, Kristoff’s stepmother was becoming possessed by Sai Baba.  The look in her eyes says it all (picture below); it’s a look I’d seen by every devotee in Virginia.  All she wanted was a look, touch, or word from her guru so she could feel whole.

Eventually Kristoff was sexually abused by Baba.  Contrary to orders, he told his father.  The story evolves, and Sai Baba forces the family to leave; his stepmother didn’t leave until her life was threatened.  Other devotees, whom they’d met in India, ended up mysteriously dead.

The raw footage of this movie is old.  But Kristoff and his team put it together beautifully; it’s a work of art with a powerful message.  Kristoff had to heal before telling the story.  San Diego was his first showing, and his ten-year old daughter was present.  He didn’t hide this horror from her — I could see how much she appreciated that.  It brought them closer.  Honesty doesn’t harm our children; it’s our secrets that harm them.

Sai Baba died on Easter, 2011, with a $9 billion estate.  Devotees took his Easter death as a sign, but the truth was they simply took him off life support.  Sai Baba was famous for producing white dust from thin air — vibhuti.  Turns out, Sai Baba’s grandfather was a famous magician; it was a damn good trick.

A Man Called God

 

The Trap

In the east, it’s gurus.  In the west, it’s the Pope, his minions, or the false notion of Jesus as God.  Why do people follow these false teachers?  It’s simple.  We’re trained to follow our emotions — we believe relief is outside of us.  We’re not trained to let go of causal beliefs.

When I felt emotion around gurus, clergy, or their followers, I viewed it as a signal from my True Self to ignore them.  When believers feel emotion, they think it’s a sign of truth.  Devotees say they feel unconditional love from the guru — but it’s actually magnetism.  The gurus and clergy hold a belief that they have the truth; the followers also believe their gurus or clergy have the truth.  The complementary beliefs magnetically link creating a false sense of calmness. When we try to pull away, we feel the strong emotions again; we often run right back for relief.

I felt validated watching the film.  I’d often been judged for my repulsion to gurus and clergy.  The devotees/believers labeled me unspiritual and even evil.  Often I wondered if they were right; I’d fall into seeming endless sadness.   But I’ve learned that if we continue to trust our emotions, and use them as designed, eventually the truth does set us free.

I applaud Kristoff.  Having the courage to share the truth without even an ounce of victimhood set him free of his past.  He’s created a huge crack in the illusion leading the way for others to expose the con men in their life.

A Man Called God

Which One of Us is the Idiot? Resolving Right and Wrong

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The Bible is like an empty book. What we see inside is a reflection of our own mind.  If our mind is fixed on right and wrong, that is what we see within its pages.

By Cathy Eck 

 

How Do We Know If We Are the Idiot?

A Facebook post inspired this article.  It points to a mind trap that kept me stuck for years and still trips me up from time to time.  It is easily resolvable once you see the trick.

The post had a photo of a Bible; underneath it were the words:

“I believe everything this book says, and I don’t care if you call me an idiot.”  

Right and Wrong?

Another Face of Good and Evil

This Facebook post reflects the current stance of the Fundamentalist movements today.  They feel that their faith is being challenged by nonbelievers.  They are sure they are right; and everyone who doesn’t think as they do is wrong and abusive.  So many people are realizing that religion has simply not worked.  They are eliminating the middle man and doing their best to live from a place of love.  They label themselves spiritual rather than religious.

When we make that shift, the old status quo comes out spitting.  It is like the bully on the playground who hides the fact that he feels powerless.  The bully’s power rests in getting you to accept his powerlessness by convincing you that you are the bad guy, the misfit, the outcast.  The bully projects their imaginary opponent on to you and hopes you’ll accept their projection.

This is where we get tricked if we aren’t wise to their game.  You see, what this Facebook post really says is, “If you don’t believe as I believe, then you think I’m an idiot.”  She is talking to herself explaining her view of the world to us.

We won’t get sucked in to her perspective if we can see that this is all in her mind.  It has nothing to do with us.  She’s stuck in two minds, but she only identifies with one of those minds, the believer.  She is fighting an imaginary battle of right and wrong with an enemy that she has projected.  Her enemy thinks she’s an idiot.  It also keeps her stuck in her own illusion.

We clearly don’t want to enter her world.  So we have to avoid the temptation to give her what she wants, which is to label her an idiot or get angry at her projection.   If she gets us to go there, she’s got the power.  We prove her illusion right, and we won’t do very well in her world.

 

The Right and Wrong Power Game

This is a frequent power strategy in the illusion.  The winners of the illusion do this masterfully, and they rule the world.  The goal of the false self is to exalt itself within the illusion.  It believes that it is right, and you are wrong.  It is good and you’re evil.  If it can get you into the illusion in this way, it wins and you lose.  Guaranteed!

The first time I saw this was in a Catholic church.  The priest gave a sermon on judgment.  Since I didn’t perceive him as an authority, I could see that he was talking to himself.  The congregation that he pretended to talk to were just his own projection; the people he judged.  But everyone else saw him as an authority so they all believed what he said.  They saw themselves as judgmental and felt bad about themselves after the sermon.  He was reinforcing the belief that the church planted in them long ago, which was that they were sinners.  I didn’t have that planted belief; so he looked like the fraud that he was to me.

I wish I could say that I didn’t fall into the same trap in my life, but my own authorities did the same number on me.  This is how we all fall into the illusion.  But we can dig our way out when we resolve right and wrong within our own minds.

 

Resolving Right and Wrong

Last week I watched a PBS special on Abraham Lincoln.  They said that during the Civil War, Lincoln faced a deep dilemma.  He saw two opposing sides, and both thought that God wanted them to win.  Both saw the other as the evil enemy.  Who was right in God’s eyes?  He struggled and struggled with this moral issue.

This is the dilemma of the world right now.  We all seeing opposing forces everywhere and don’t know which is right and which is wrong.  When everyone looks good, who is telling the truth; who is lying?  Who is good and who is evil?  Who can we trust?  These are questions that have the potential to push us to freedom.

When I heard about this moment in Lincoln’s life, I resonated completely; and I knew how powerful that experience must have been for him.  When we have a moment where two opposing sides both sound plausible, we have our moment where the truth can shine through.  But we must recognize that both sides are false opponents fighting their own inner battles.  The truth has no opponent; you can’t find it in duality.

Lincoln had to step out of religion and politics and get to what mattered, which was freeing the slaves.  For me, freedom is always the key.  Every time this sort of situation comes in my life, my mind, I have to recognize that if I oppose their belief, I’m an idiot in equal measure.  I’m stuck in their right and wrong world.

But if I allow both sides to be wrong (including my side if I’m involved in the conflict), the truth rises right out of the darkness.  It is just like parting the Red Sea.  The conflict disappears and only the truth remains.

 

The triangle process is very helpful in deciphering the truth hidden under right and wrong.