Letting Go of Masculine and Feminine Roles

Apple of Tree of Life or Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil

By Cathy Eck

 

Understanding masculine and feminine roles is key to stripping the illusion from our mind.  Masculine and feminine roles were created through stories that were presented as right or true.  The stories caused our minds to accept the masculine role as authority, deserving of obedience and respect.  Once that was accomplished, the masculine roles in the world could abuse their power.  They still do.

When we don’t understand roles, we can’t and don’t discriminate between true and false.  We also tend to either project on others or absorb or reflect the projection of our authority figures.  Let’s look more closely at roles.

 

Inner Roles Defined

Our inner mind has a masculine and a feminine aspect.  When we’re thinking from our True Self, those two mental aspects work together seemlessly.  This was called the alchemical marriage.

When we’re thinking from our True Self, we think only productive thoughts.  We hear creative ideas and truthful thoughts that are calm and harmless to ourselves and others.  We get ideas that cause the world to evolve.  We move nicely along our True path. The effects of our thoughts are always good and win-win in nature.

 

False Mind

Our false mind was created by others who wanted us to think their way.  They wanted to become our false God.  Our minds weren’t designed to hold false beliefs.  In fact, we’re all given a powerful lie detector — emotions.  When we feel emotions, it’s because our OWN mind is thinking false thoughts.  That occurs because:  we’re holding false beliefs in mind and aren’t discriminating; or our authorities are projecting their beliefs on us, and we believe them.

The false self is born whenever we accept our first false thought (belief); the roles in our mind change.  In the false self, the masculine intellect is the inner and outer authority; the emotions become something to eliminate because emotions expose the false self.

In most religious stories and myths, masculine had all the power.  God was male.  That elevated the intellect.  Now an intellect offers a belief, and we do feel emotion at first.  But we can’t do a damn thing about it.  The intellect has authority.  So we accept their thought into our own mind as true.  We just ate the apple from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.  If we do this enough, we’ll start to feel emotion when the True Self speaks and calmness when we hear our beliefs.  We’ve been psychologically reversed.

Someone says to us, “You’re an ass.”  If they’re not our authority, we’ll say, “No, I’m not.”  We’ll let their comment go.  However, if an authority says it, we’ll accept their thought into our mind and hold on to it.  We’ll feel helpless to let it go because we been trained to believe that we can’t change the minds of authority.  Clever huh!

The social norm of respecting elders keeps us from discriminating.  Obedience to authority causes us to ignore emotional signals.  Putting knowledge ahead of our emotions prevents us from questioning the doctor, teacher, parent, or clergy.

 

Outer Roles Defined

Outer roles aren’t about bodies or sex.  A woman can play a masculine role.  A man also plays many feminine roles.

I’ve explained before that the clergy, policemen, parent, doctor, and teachers are all examples of masculine roles.  The masculine role has authority or is the one that’s asserting or giving.  The feminine role receives.

Roles aren’t inherently bad.  If I give you a gift, I’m playing the masculine role.  You’re in the feminine role.  If I serve you a meal, I’m in the masculine role as giver.  Those are pure transactions.  We call them first-cause ideas.  They don’t trap us in the illusion.

Second-cause thinking, however, contains judgment defined by “the man” (although people can be savvy about saying that God spoke to them).  Second-cause thinking creates inequality through position, pedigree, race, culture, religion, or sex; it traps us in the illusion.

Good and evil are critical to the illusion; we aren’t whole if our mind believes in good and evil because we can’t be both at the same time.  We can’t win and lose at the same time.  We live life like we’re riding waves — we’re up, then we’re down.  We’re always half of a whole.  That’s not balanced  — it’s a disaster.

 

Escaping Roles

To escape the illusion, we must recognize and understand roles.  If a person plays an authority role, or a more powerful role within the illusion, they must honor the role responsibly.  The husband can’t blame the wife or kids in a traditional marriage.  The teacher can’t blame students.  They’re the authority.  If we play the role of authority, we must accept responsibility.  We get the credit and the blame.

Likewise, if we’re playing a feminine role, we must learn not to blindly accept beliefs or labels from authority.  We must listen to our emotional lie detector.

If we’re with a friend on equal footing, the masculine and feminine roles gently switch back and forth.  The person speaking is masculine; the listener is feminine.  There’s no competition or desire for power.  The notion of authority must go for us to return to the Garden of Eden.  That won’t happen until enough of us have individually eliminated our beliefs about obedience to authority, second-cause thinking, and judgment from our mind.  Normal thinking must return to purely True and False.

To get out of the illusion, we do the opposite.  When we fell, we believed authority without question.  We took in beliefs as if they were true.  Now we look at the beliefs of those authorities from our past and see if their words had an emotional component.   We let go of the beliefs regardless of who gave them to us.

If your mind isn’t too psychologically reversed, you can make the correction on our own.  If not, get someone to help you discriminate.

Eventually, we learn to be in the illusion but not impacted by it.  Authority loses it’s false power.  We’re free.

Following Your North Star by Aligning the Masculine and Feminine Roles

Following North Star

By Cathy Eck

 

When I first got involved in this work, I realized that the ancient people saw masculine and feminine as mental concepts.  This felt peculiar at first.  In modern society, we associate masculine and feminine with physical bodies. But I felt there was something very important to discover in accepting the ancient point of view.

I now see that understanding the masculine-feminine connection is key to following our North Star.  It keeps us on our path and helps us discriminate in a world where everything is upside down.

 

Masculine and Feminine Review

In the beginning, the world was Eden-like. People were in touch with their True Selves.  Our True Self is androgynous, unified, and doesn’t have beliefs. We could live eternally from the True Self, and enjoy pure, calm feelings all the time.  But we wanted to create; so we invented the mind.

While the True Self (God Self) is shared by all, the false self (which lives in our mind) isn’t shared.  This is purposeful.  Our minds are our creative palettes.  Each artist has a different palette, and each individual creator has a separate mind.  (See the post about minds as individual containers.)

Masculine energy was naturally giving, assertive, yang, and outward (just like the male sexual organ).  Ideally male energy was like the sun; it unconditionally gave without expecting anything in return.  It gave us what we needed — light and warmth.  It supported growth.  That was our True Self masculine role model.

Feminine energy was absorbing, yin, and inward, like the earth; the earth absorbed the sun’s rays to produce vegetation.  Receiving/absorbing became associated with the True Self feminine role model.

The roles that we play mirror these macrocosmic concepts.  The masculine role was designed as the giving role, such as teacher, doctor, clergy, employer, or parent.  The feminine role was the receiving role, such as student, patient, employee, or child.  The role doesn’t always match the person’s sex.

If the person in the masculine role is like the sun and gives truth, unconditional love, and joy, the people in the feminine roles are creative.  Things grow perfectly.  If the masculine leader believes in good-evil, dominance-submission, right-wrong, or win-lose, then the feminine becomes emotional or what is often labeled bitchy.  The false masculine causes the feminine to move from absorbing like the earth to reflecting like the moon; absorbing the false masculine’s beliefs would destroy her.

A good leader corrects his mind when he sees his nasty reflection; he’ll let go of his false beliefs.  Everything returns to perfection.  If the leader needs to be right or defends his beliefs, then the people in the feminine role will become more and more emotional.  They must; they’re simply the leader’s bad reflection.

 

The North Star

Many people are now seeking an authentic life.  Their North Star is set on truth, unconditional love, peace, or freedom.  They end up an emotional wreck when they look at the world today.  I was one of those people, and I was very confused.  By resetting my North Star on truth and freedom, all the beliefs that I’d accepted from the illusion were exposed as false.  The beliefs were arising constantly so I could let them go; but I didn’t know how.  I was dying under an emotional tsunami of beliefs.

The seemingly calm people in the illusion have their North Star set on something false like getting approval, making money, or looking good.  Some set their North Star on romance, obedience, or power.  They aren’t trying to escape the illusion.  In fact, they contribute to it.

Our emotional navigation system was originally set to true and false.  If our masculine aspect thought truth, we felt good.  Emotions (feminine) signaled us only if we thought something false.

In the illusion, we set our North Star in a different direction.  We become psychologically reversed from our original setting.  We go deeper into the illusion.  But the system still works.  Once, we set our direction, our mind takes us where we want to go.  It doesn’t judge our choice of North Star.

If you’re born into a house and punished if you don’t obey, you’ll switch your North Star to match your parents’.  If you’re born into a house where making money was valued, you’ll set wealth as your North Star.  Most of us have altered the original setting of our North Star to some extent.

Let’s say you make wealth your North Star.  You’ll feel calm when you have thoughts that lead to making money; you’ll feel nervous agitation (emotion) when you fear losing money.  Someone who speaks the truth will generate emotion in you if the truth isn’t aligned with making money.  You’ll think the truth is bad.  The masculine-feminine connection works the same regardless of the direction you point it.

It isn’t bad to set your North Star toward a false desire, but you’ll accept more beliefs.  You’ll eventually pay a price for your choice because it will get you stuck in the illusion.  You’ll probably reject your True Self most of the time.  The path of the True Self is always much greener.  But no one tells us that when we’re stuck in the illusion, and we forget that we can let go.  Also, too many people make their destination the right destination, which negatively impacts others.

 

Following Your North Star

Decide the direction you want to go, and choose your North Star wisely.  Then start to think; watch your thinking and beliefs.  If your masculine intellect is thinking in alignment with your North Star, your feminine will be insightful, calm, and wise.  Your destination is assured.

You might recognize this concept as the three Wise Men following the star to Jesus, the True Self.  The false leader (Herod) couldn’t find the True Self; he had a false self North Star; his star was in the illusion.  Therefore, he wanted to kill anyone under two, meaning anyone who was still ONE.  It’s a system that’s as old as time.

Add Freedom, Truth, and a Heretic and You Get the Gateway To Gold

Cayce Gardens ARE, Virginia Beach

By Cathy Eck

 

People are Perfect

I’m writing this article from the ARE (Association for Research and Enlightenment) library in Virginia Beach.  The library was founded by “the sleeping prophet” Edgar Cayce; it houses the Cayce Readings. Most people don’t know that it’s the second largest metaphysical library in the world.  The first is the Vatican.

Those men in funny hats and robes might look like they don’t appreciate new thought, but they’re immersed in it.  We share the same information except I share everything I learn and know.  They don’t.  I want people to thrive because I know people are perfect. They want people to survive only to support the illusion.  I see life as a creative experience; they see it as a competitive game.  I see heaven on earth now; they see it after death.

Religion was founded on the idea that people are sinful and stupid at the core. People aren’t worthy of the truth, nor are they able to handle it with their small minds.  I couldn’t disagree more.

 

Memories

I wanted to return to this library to let go of some painful memories.  I loved every minute in this library, but it was my escape.  I came here looking for answers, and I found my Self.  At first, I just wanted to be able to explain life to my kids.  The way people read the Bible, they contradicted themselves constantly, often in the same sentence.  The Pope made rules and then dropped the rules when people quit going to church.  Telling my kids that Santa was the giver of presents and then later telling them that lying was bad seemed hypocritical.

In the end, it wasn’t about the books in this library.  Somehow, this place triggered my True Self.  Marinating among the pages made my Self stronger.  My perspective changed back to my childhood perspective, my emotions started guiding me, and my natural discrimination returned.

 

Sinister Beauty

Ancient writings have a sinister beauty about them.  If you read them as stories about the mind or the psyche, they’re beautiful, congruent, and pure.  But if you look up to them from the physical perspective, they support the illusion and are completely disempowering.

From the True Self perspective, man was powerful, God’s precious child, and perfect.  From the physical (false self) perspective, man was sinful, dirty, and badly in need of fixing.  Yet, both perspectives existed in the same story.  It was all about where you stood as the reader.  Did you stand at the top of the triangle or the bottom?

 

Heretic

For a long time, I would see both perspectives at the same time in the same story.  It drove me crazy.  I realized that the perspective that made my heart sing wasn’t the perspective that everyone believed.  I wanted to free my friends and family.  But they weren’t as enamored with my discoveries as I was.  They saw me as a heretic, and suddenly I knew what that word meant.

Hera in Greek mythology was Zeus’ wife.  She saw through his shit and called him on his game regularly.  While his minions looked up to him as God; she knew he was just a wimpy man.  He needed his big trident to feel important.  Hera beat Zeus at his own game; over and over again, she proved he was an imposter.  He hated her for exposing him, but it was exactly what he needed to be free of his ridiculous false self.

This is the job of the feminine.  It discriminates using emotions. Perpetuating the illusion required turning Hera into a first-class bitch.  A heretic was someone who speaks the truth that exposes the illusion.  When you discriminate or live from your True Self, you’re a heretic — welcome to the club.  When we fear being a heretic, we stay in the illusion.  The road to freedom is paved with courage.

 

My Inner Hera

While my days in this library were filled with joy, my nights were filled with tears.  I didn’t like being seen as an evil bitch — a heretic.  When I shared my discoveries, I was mocked, told I was going to hell, and told I was completely crazy by everyone, even those who supposedly embraced new thought.  I learned that people are terrified of exposing the illusion because heretics haven’t lived long in history (his story).  In fact, religion has made the True Self into the devil.  Thus humans invent infinite ways to fix the effects of their thinking rather than just address the scary cause.

Finding the answers took a few years.  Figuring out how to explain it so people could understand it took longer.  Getting the confidence to share it took a few more years.  I knew the truth sets us free.  I knew that people deserved this information even if they didn’t know they deserved it.  But I was terrified to share it.

 

Letting Go

I realized that I had to let go of the judgments and beliefs that I’d accepted from society.  I had to free myself first — eliminate any doubt in my own mind.  In a strange way, I came to admire the game makers.  They pulled off a good one.  As I saw how they created the illusion of power, the power started to dissolve.

As I continue to let go of my own beliefs, everything becomes right. I get the right words and the courage to write them.  The right people read those words.  It’s not a miracle; it’s normal.  Winning in the illusion is about doing what’s easy; freedom from the illusion is about letting go so you can do what you thought was impossible.

I share what I’ve learned so that others know it’s safe to be themselves.  As I sit in this library, I’m reminded of how far I’ve come; I’m also reminded of how far I have yet to go.  But as I sit here today, I’m much more content with the journey.  In fact, I’ve grown to enjoy it.

 

Discriminating Between a Belief and the Truth

Truth or Beliefs

By Cathy Eck

 

The Lie in Belief

Somewhere around the 14th century, the word belief, as we spell it today, became part of the English language.  Prior to that time, the word “lie” wasn’t within it.  I guess we’ll never know if it was intentional or just an accident.  But I like to imagine some rebellious genius saw through the illusion and somehow caused that change in spelling.  I like to imagine him with his buddies laughing over a beer at what he’d managed to do without the powerful church ever noticing his little trick.

You don’t need to learn the truth.  You came to earth hard-wired with it.  What you need to do is let go of the beliefs that veil the truth.  

 

The distinction between the truth and a belief is so important.  People use the terms incorrectly all the time.  They aren’t interchangeable.  For example, people will say, “I believe everyone is born good.”  No, that is the truth.  But then that same person will say, “Sin sends you to hell.”  Now that is a belief; but if you question them, they’ll say, “It’s the truth.”

People also confuse reality with truth.  What happens in our lives, i.e, reality, is the effect of the truth plus our beliefs.  Reality isn’t the same as truth.  Our reality is a mess because of our beliefs.  Remove the beliefs, and reality will reflect the truth.

Now I’m not talking about changing our language to simply say the word that we need to make our point.  That’s deception; and too many people have mastered the deceptive arts.

 

What is Truth?

What people find if they completely let go or if they have a near-death experience is always unconditional love.  So truth includes love.  Freedom fits nicely into truth since unconditionally loving people always give others their freedom.  Peace and joy also coexist with truth.  Words like unity, omnipotence, or eternal refer to the unchangeable element of truth.

At some point, thought, or logos according to the Greeks, became divided.  Opposites like black and white or male and female, or concepts like color and musical tones are examples of division of thought. Division was originally for creative purposes.  This sort of division, called first-cause creation, was considered true and good.  Genesis I describes this creative act and attributes it to God.

 

Judgment Arrives

But look at what happens when judgment is added in Genesis II (also attributed to God).  The Creator God rests, and a new God emerges.  In human terms this happens to all of us when our false self becomes more powerful than our True Self.  Thought is now divided into good and evil, creating the potential to harm.  Judgment isn’t God-like; it’s a human false-self quality.  Thus, the word belief (with the word lie included) fits perfectly.  Beliefs are technically divided thought plus judgment.

The Bible is filled with judgment; thus it can’t be completely the word of the Genesis I God or of truth.  It’s a collection of stories about humans who mixed truth and beliefs as we still do today.  However, if it’s properly interpreted, Bible stories can show us what to let go and how to discriminate in order to return to our God-like pure mental state.

Our minds are hard-wired to hold on to the truth so our minds will hold on to a lie if it’s relabeled as truth.  However, if you recognize that a belief is just a lie, you can let it go.  The True Self sorts thought based on the criteria of true and false; the false self sorts thought based on good and evil.  It’s actually very simple.  This realization removes the false power from religion and politics.  Can you see why this was kept secret?

 

Sin

The hot topic of today’s believers is that being gay is a sin.  They say that it’s in the Bible so it’s true.  But they’re judging another so they’re completely in belief.   Their error is in believing the Bible contains only truth.

False selves want to keep beliefs alive, and they do that by getting others to agree or disagree.  Fighting over beliefs keeps them alive; ignoring them allows them to die a natural death.

We’d have no problem if people simply realized that minds were meant to be individual creative containers of thought.  Our beliefs were meant to affect only our life.  But people control others by forcing their beliefs on them.  They do this to make their beliefs more powerful.

Priests devote their entire lives to religious study; yet they don’t fear being gay.  They don’t fear going to hell.  When they’re caught, they’re not even punished.  Sin was a human-made belief.  What constitutes a sin was human crafted to suit the needs of the leaders.  Eating meat on Friday used to be a sin; then it wasn’t.  People change their minds, not God.

Beliefs take us away from our True Self and place us in the religion-made illusion.  The illusion in the extreme is the only hell.   Once we let go of good and evil, we can clearly see the religious perspective as a limitation.

 

The Way Out

Here’s the good news.  If you don’t believe something, it doesn’t affect you.  When you remove any belief from your mental container, you’re free of it.  Since you can’t let go of the truth, you cannot possibly screw this up.

Ultimately that is how I found out what was true.  For many years, I simply let go of all the beliefs that I learned from religion, education, medicine, food and nutrition, disease, education, etc. and then I noticed what was left — love, freedom, peace, joy, harmony, creativeness.

The path to heaven is paved with discrimination.  It’s the most important skill we can acquire on earth.  When we understand what is true, and we reject that which is false, then the distance between heaven and earth decreases until one day they are the same place.