Taking Your Power Back By Playing a Game

Breaking through the wall

By Cathy Eck

 

FYI:  This is an advanced post that might not make sense if you’re new to letting go.

Stuck in Someone’s Beliefs

My blog readers aren’t heads of government, religions, or corporations.  They’re creative people who feel stuck in belief systems that were imposed upon them by others.  They often feel locked in a feminine role.

The majority of leaders and authority figures (even family leaders) see enemies and problems to be fixed in the people who play feminine roles beneath them.  They don’t realize that the problems and enemies they see actually exist ONLY in their own mind.  They speak as if the illusion that their mind created is real and true; it is for them.  We all see what we believe.  The false masculine thinks that its beliefs are God’s laws.  It rewards and punishes accordingly.

Our problems began when we believed our first false masculine leader or parent.  We began to see what they said we should see.  Life on earth has been this way for thousands of years.  It will change when we stop believing what others claim to see or know — when everyone admits that the Emperor is buck naked.

Here’s a game to help you escape the feminine role.  It’s challenging, and it’s designed to show you what to let go, to improve your discrimination, and to flip your mind back into the mental, True Self perspective.  Ultimately, we want letting go to become like driving — it’s mostly automatic.

 

The Game

See yourself in front of an audience consisting of difficult people from your life — people who judge you or want to control or fix you.  They can be people you know, authority figures, or imaginary people.  You can even invite God.  Let them speak one at a time.  Allow them to say what’s wrong with you or what you need to believe or be to please them.

I want you to see that what they say is their projection and their own level confusion.  Often they are looking only at what you are doing and judging their own beliefs about it.  Sometimes they don’t even see you.  Here’s an example:  One audience member looks at you and says, “You’re lazy.  You haven’t done anything lately.”  From the physical perspective, they’re right.  You’ve been doing lots of inner work.  But you aren’t allowed to tell them off, defend yourself, or react in this game.

First, you must recognize that they’re speaking from their physical perspective — the beliefs that form their illusion.   Notice how their comment feels to you.  You probably feel emotion; remember, the emotion means that what they said was FALSE.  If you take that emotion in and defend it, you enter their illusion.  You’re powerless because their illusion is a foreign land for you.  If you simply let go of their comment because it’s FALSE, your mind stays clear and free.

Take it slow.  You might feel lots of emotion regarding their comment.  You want to drain it all by witnessing it and remembering why you felt the emotion.  Don’t label the emotion anger, fear, or rage.  That just makes it real.  The emotion is simply saying that what they said was false.  That’s all!

You’ve been letting go a lot lately; and it’s true that you’re not doing much physical work.  But are you lazy?  Mentally, no.  In fact, mentally speaking, they’re lazy.  They haven’t let go of anything.  This is what frees you.  You see that they’re judging you from their physically oriented illusion.  They’re projecting their unwanted defect of mental laziness on you by confusing levels.  A person living from the mental perspective looks like an enemy to someone in the physically oriented illusion.  In the illusion, it’s all about what they see!

We all start life at the mental perspective; and as we accept physical perspective projections from others, we fall into their illusion.  By recognizing the error of the people who cast their stones upon us, we reverse our OWN fall.  Their fall is their problem.  Once you’re clear, you’ll have the words to explain yourself to them.  Or you’ll feel comfortable not responding at all.

 

Explain Yourself!

When we’re living from the mental point of view, we’re often asked by people in the illusion to explain ourselves.  People in the physical perspective don’t understand the mental perspective.  Often the only answer we have is that we did what felt right.  By untangling these two perspectives in your mind, you move out of right-wrong.  You no longer accept their projected judgment.  Their more limited physical perspective will only affect them if you let their beliefs go from your mind.

The trick to winning this game is to remember that what they say is what’s on their mind.  You must realize that neither their conviction, emotional projection, nor authority make their words true in the mental perspective.

Don’t go into their mind.   Keep watching your mind.  See what arises next.  In some instances, you’ll notice judgments toward them in your mind; and ideally, you’ll let them go even if they deserve the judgment.  If you let your judgments toward them go, you might just get to the True Self perspective and feel unconditional love for them.  You just see life from different perspective than they do.  Understanding cleans up that gap.  You’ll see them as powerless and lost — they’re in the fallen world.  You might want to help them, but you won’t want to fix them.  People fix others because they are afraid of them.  We help others because we care.

Your audience members can leave for two reasons:  1) They admit that they don’t want to let go; that’s fine but they must leave your mind (not necessarily your life).   2) They get it, and they let go.  They no longer belong in your audience of difficult people.  Your job is to clean out the entire audience.  That’s how you win the game.

Motivation…Creation…It’s Not All About Doing

Nuts turn into giant oak trees.

By Cathy Eck

 

What’s Motivation?

I hear it every day from someone. I have no desires..no motivation…I’m lazy…bored with life. I don’t know what to do.

The curse of the illusion is hard work.  Some do hard physical work.  Others do hard mental work in order to figure out how to avoid doing hard physical work.  People who seek freedom are sick of hard work.  We discover letting go; then we turn it into hard work.

The freedom we desire is freedom from the physically oriented, fallen perspective.  When we fell into the illusion, we accepted lots of beliefs that made creating very hard and slow.  We became feminine to a false God (a slave driver).  We became slaves of his system.  Doing became boring, routine, and uncreative.

The popularity of motivational speakers, prosperity preachers, and life coaches is proof that people aren’t in touch with their natural inner motivation.  They pump people up and generate lots of emotion by telling them what they want to hear.

However, what we want to hear is usually the opposite of what we believe.  So their motivation wears off quickly; our established beliefs usually win in the end.

 

Reward and Punishment

As we let go, we’re all a lot like my oldest child, who was imprisoned in the educational system for six years before I set him free with unschooling.  He’d already become institutionalized.  He was accustomed to outer direction and rewards.  I asked him to look inside for his true desires. He had no fucking clue how to do that.  He begged me to tell him what to do, but I didn’t.  Eventually, his desires for outer motivation, direction, reward, and punishment died since he stopped feeding them.  He was left with inner motivation after about two years of tears.

Inner motivation is different from outer motivation.  The True Self knows the future, without going to psychics.  It’s not going to learn cursive writing unless it plans to be a calligrapher or old fashioned letter writer, but it will learn texting or typing.

The True Self hates spoon-feeding and memorization.  It wants to understand and experience everything.  But most schools ruin that innate desire.  Children learn to walk with very little assistance. They absorb the understanding from someone who already knows how to walk; then they figure it out.  They don’t read “Walking for Dummies.”

When my children wanted to learn something new, I’d point them toward the inventors and innovators in their field of interest — people who found their own wisdom.  I wanted them to trust their own ideas and to see that true desires always seem crazy to others because they’re not their desires.

Most people memorize and copy what others have discovered.  There’s no life force in that.  Beliefs, traditions, stories, knowledge, and rituals get passed down from generation to generation.  It’s old and dull.  In the beginning, such information was minimal and useful — like how to make fire.  Now we pass down useless knowledge, political persuasions, and antiquated religious ideas.

It’s habitual.  In ancient times, dead ancestors were labeled Gods.  Few people in the past have questioned their ancestral teachings.  People got used to being told things that felt bad or sounded illogical.   Sacrificing our desires for the sake of keeping the family and collective illusions alive became normal.  We stopped discriminating when we heard something from an elder, teacher, or expert.  After awhile, we’d believe anything.

 

Creation

To understand true motivation, we must understand the creation process. Creation starts in our mind as an original idea.  We think about the idea, and it grows.  Eventually, we desire to share our idea because sharing gives it life.  Then we’re inspired to action. The whole process is organic and enjoyable if no beliefs get in the way.  But invariably beliefs do get in the way, and we lose our motivation unless we let those beliefs go.

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If our desire is true, we’ll be inspired toward the next step and the next step; but we might not know the final destination.  We might not have support from our mother or friends, but we’ll find support in the form of validation, clarity, or insight.

Roles disappear.  No one can impose their beliefs on us if we know the difference between the truth and a belief.  The world is a mess because people think their beliefs are true.  Then they spew their beliefs on others because they think everyone needs their truth.  We already share the truth; we’re born with it.  Beliefs must remain temporary and personal.  They support, rather than dominate, creativity.

 

Action

The false self is action driven toward rigidly-defined goals. It seeks rewards and avoids punishment.  It avoids the creative process because it’s focused on end results and approval. The True Self’s ideas often look risky to the false self.  Beliefs about insecurity arise along with a lot of emotion.  If we don’t let those beliefs go, we’ll find our inspiration too difficult to follow.

The key to living from our True Self is to focus on our own mind.  The false mind is always  in other people’s business.  It believes that it gains status by mentally or physically pushing others down below it with it’s knowledge and conviction.  It fears others stealing it’s ideas; it’s competitive.  The false self judges, debates, and takes sides.  I know these things look normal; but normal people are deep in the illusion.

We must get to the place where we’re always watching our mind, discriminating, and letting go.  Eventually, it becomes automatic.  Our false self is blindly obedient.  It will be obedient to others unless we retrain it to be obedient to our True Self.

Yea, when we live this way, we’ll look lazy, unmotivated, or too happy.  Others will think we’re playing too much.  That’s their problem.  Finding our True Self and expressing it is what we all really want.  It’s finding the kingdom of heaven and eating from the Tree of Life again.

Living the Masculine and Feminine Roles in Relationships

Earth as a mirror of our mind

By Cathy Eck

 

Getting Right Inside

I usually discuss the masculine and feminine related to roles; but the masculine and feminine are actually aspects of our own mind.  The correct inner relationship manifests correct outer relationships.  However, most people live as if the outer world and relationships create their thoughts.  They live life backwards.

In order to let go, we must move our attention inside of our mind.  We must take our focus off the belief-generated illusion and other people; we become inner directed.  Don’t confuse this with introversion.  Inner directed means our attention is on our OWN mind, not other people’s minds.  It means constant discrimination.

Whether we’re male or female, we came hard-wired with a masculine and feminine mind aspect — once called God and Goddess within  (True Self).  Living as a True Self is only possible when we let go of everything false from our minds.  We’re left with only true.  We now create in the physical world using only first-cause thinking.

When we’re thinking true thoughts, our inner masculine and inner feminine harmonize as one.  Our mind is unified (top of the triangle).  These are our most creative moments.  Our inner God now loves unconditionally and thinks only the truth or first-cause thoughts; hence our inner Goddess is creative and wise.  Our life works.

 

Inner Relationships Create Outer Relationships

Jesus said (paraphrasing), “Don’t do shit until you find the kingdom of heaven within.”  That was damn good advice.  If our inner masculine mind is a giant mass of beliefs and knowledge, our inner feminine mind will be emotional and non-creative.  What’s inside our mind creates what’s outside of us if we hold a masculine role.  When we don’t hold a masculine role, then we’re lowly cast members in the stories of the people who hold the masculine roles.

The true masculine leader was modeled after the sun.  The sun gives light and warmth unconditionally.  It doesn’t check to see if we’re worthy of it’s gift or ask for something in return.  Likewise, the masculine sexual organ gives.  Thus the masculine role was considered a giving/assertive role.

The feminine role was modeled after the moon or earth to reflect or absorb.  The sun, moon, and earth were metaphors for the mentally oriented masculine and feminine.  We assume that the sun sends pure light; but humans in the false masculine role send fluorescent (fake) light.

If the masculine mind or leader is like the sun (true) and loves the feminine unconditionally, the feminine reflects that unconditional love back like the full moon, or the feminine earth absorbs the sun’s rays and creates life.  However, if the false masculine mind or leader projects judgment, criticism, or discipline on the feminine, the feminine reacts unnaturally with emotion, rebellion, problems, or disease.

The True Masculine lets go of any thought that causes emotion or limits the feminine (not win-win).  But the false masculine doesn’t let go.  It thinks its beliefs are right and true.  It projects the unwanted part of it’s divided (second-cause) thinking on to its feminine using blame.  It believes that it can think false and get true.  That’s ridiculous, but that’s what it believes; it calls it discipline.

If we all lived as True Selves, creating would be cooperative with two or more whole people creating more than the sum of the equal parts.  A common goal or desire would unite people — not their beliefs.  The leader would hold the vision for the group — not impose beliefs or rules on them.

 

Reality of Relationships

The True masculine role is mentally oriented; its pure mind never gets tired of giving.  What effort does it take to think truth or love unconditionally?

The false masculine, however, is physically oriented; a false masculine mind says to physically give, sacrifice, or serve.  The false masculine leader (or God/Lord) gives discipline, rules, and beliefs.  It gives conditional love (rewards) and punishment.

Thinking false thoughts is exhausting.  But the false masculine is cunning.  It makes the rules and convinces others to do it’s hard work with lies while it receives the benefits, power, and credit.  Rules are false; they shouldn’t be obeyed.  But we’ve been psychologically reversed to obey.

A powerful false masculine leader (like royalty or a billionaire) feels balanced.  But, they’re not.  They’re living the beneficial side of both roles.  They have no compassion for their projection — the people living the shitty side of both roles who have no power and no rewards.  Thus the successful false masculine leader often does a little charity work or service to mask their projection and look generous.

False masculine leaders have no reason to change their mind, so we have to transform ours.  When we let go of their beliefs/rules in our mind even if they’ve created our reality in the past, we move into the True Masculine role naturally.  The true leader is the person with the purist mind in any situation.  They have more power than the balanced false masculine; they can make everything right.

In initiation, we don’t fight for the masculine role or win it by education, expertise, or knowledge.  We simply let go of all of our beliefs.  We let go of allowing others to project or impose their beliefs on us.  We let go of our judgments of others.  Our mind becomes clear and pure.  Then we rise naturally to the true masculine role.  It’s so subtle that we hardly even know we’ve done it.

In initiation, this was called becoming the Christ or the Son of God.  In religion, it’s called impossible.  Religion worships the false masculine; the false masculine always has an enemy or opposite like Satan.  The higher the false masculine rises in the system, the more it’s attacked by Satan.  However, when the True Masculine takes the lead, the false masculine loses its false power; it retreats or submits because it’s finally feeling its own emotions.  It’s pulled inward.  Its lies no longer work.  The war is over.

The False Masculine Trick: The Punishing God

False masculine

By Cathy Eck

 

Adam and Eve

The key myth that pervades western religious thinking is Adam and Eve.  After their little apple incident, they were punished.  We’re erroneously left with the impression that Eve was completely to blame.  Poor victim Adam got dragged down with her.  We accept that God has the right to reward and punish them forever.  Welcome to the illusion!

The story appears to be about men and women, our ancestors.  After a talk on a cruise ship, a man told me that he traced his entire ancestry back to Adam and Eve.  He gave me a copy.  He was Mormon; he’ll believe anything.  He also told me that his friend was chosen to sacrifice himself for the Mormons; he died shortly after.  He thought his friend was special.  I would’ve labeled him gullible.

Like this man, we get tricked into believing illusions — stories that make God into a supernatural he-man.  He has a man cave extraordinaire in the clouds with a golden throne; he sits around all fucking day judging, punishing, cursing, and envying his crappy little minions.  People became afraid of this God because he told leaders to kill their enemy.  Their emotions should have told them their leader was lying, but we all make the same error when terrorized.  We get psychologically reversed to obey false Gods and false leaders.  We think they’re powerful when in truth they’re very weak; that’s why they’re lying.  Dah!

In time, Adam and Eve’s story became so incredibly powerful and widely accepted that no one questioned it.  We look at the world and see people hating, judging, and punishing in the name of God; we don’t realize that religious beliefs are the cause because we think religion has the truth (at least our religion does).  When people worship a false God of hate, judgment, and reward and punishment, they become that.  Then they cover what they’ve become with a mask.

You might say, “Holy shit, this false God guy actually sounds like my parents.”   We tend to construct our false God in the image and likeness of our parents.  Mom and dad are both masculine roles to children.  Moses did this too.  He projected his false God out on his followers, but his God was really his mom and dad inside of his own mind.  People become the same sort of authority they learned from as children.  Bullies have already been bullied.

If we realize that our parent’s judgments, ridiculous disciplinary measures, and lack of trust in our True Self was false, we let ourselves off the hook.  We don’t say our parents did the best they could.  We recognize that they were tricked; we no longer believe them.  We no longer accept their judgment or punishment.  We’re no longer limited by their false thinking.  Their imaginary role in our life loses its false power.

 

Masculine and Feminine 

Adam and Eve isn’t about a man and woman.  It’s a story about roles.  This story replaced the original purpose of our false self, which was to hold information and short-term beliefs necessary for creation.  Now our false self holds the template for false roles that support a blindly obedient society where the majority function as slaves in support of few elite.

We now accept that the masculine role has the right to judge, punish, curse, and envy without the natural punishment of feeling emotions.  We feel no emotion when we think, say, or do something false once we hold false beliefs as the truth.

This created the psychological reversal extraordinaire that causes people to believe religion (it isn’t a gene).  A normal person, without this reversal, would feel emotion when they judge, suicidal when they punish or curse, and sad when they envy another.  They’d avoid the false masculine role because it’s too damn emotionally painful.  But avoiding the masculine causes us to get stuck in the feminine role with no way out — the double bind (catch 22).  It sucks.  The illusion offers no exit to freedom.  It doesn’t hold the possibility of the True Self because the True Self is the natural blend of the masculine and feminine (God and Goddess).

As people let go, they no longer believe authority figures.  They view them as false, not powerful.  They realize that feeling emotion (honoring their feminine) when a leader speaks means the leader is speaking false; they don’t obey them.  Eventually, they boot out religion’s false God and Moses; they can’t worship false leadership.

They move naturally into the masculine role.  But, they must catch their own false God within, or they will become the false masculine they hated.  Most people have an inner false masculine who’s very accomplished at projection.  We don’t realize when we’re in the false masculine role because we feel relief from leaving the feminine role.  We think we’re our True Self.  We’re not!

This is why it’s so hard for people to get free.  The false masculine feels a lot better than the oppressed feminine role; but it isn’t freedom.  It’s what creates teachers, preachers, inspirational speakers, and gurus.  They believe that if everyone thought like them, the world would be perfect.  The True Self wants everyone to be themselves.  The True Self doesn’t want followers.  The psychological reversal of the false masculine causes us not to feel emotions when judging, rewarding and punishing, or envying others.  The false masculine thinks it’s right when it’s false.  In fact, the false masculine hates the True Self because truth exposes it.  The truth sets us free of the false masculine!

When we understand this, we understand Jesus words on the cross, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.”  The false masculine has no idea it’s projecting.  On the cross means stuck in the feminine role; some people spend their entire life on the cross as martyrs or victims.  The false God loves a good sacrifice; it’s his entertainment while he smokes his cigar, drinks his brew, and counts his money on his golden throne.

The Game: Falling In and Digging Ourselves Back Out

Game

By Cathy Eck

 

Tricks and Traps in The Game

You just dug yourself out of a big false self trap after feeling emotions and listening to your false repeat crappy beliefs and criticism for days.  Now you’re sailing again.  You feel like your True SELF.

Then suddenly, you feel that all too familiar confusion.  You feel emotion in your body again, maybe even panic or pain.  Your mind is looking for reasons.  Ah shit!  You thought you’d finally made it out, and now you’re right back in the poop soup again.

I know it sucks.  But in this moment, it won’t do any good to get frustrated, impatient, or angry.  You just fell in to the illusion again, and you have to dig yourself out.  There are seemingly endless tricks and traps on the way out of the illusion.  You will meet and defeat them all.  That’s initiation!

The True Self is patient.  It’s immortal.  Today, tomorrow, next year, next life…it’s all the same.

But try as I do to get people to just let go and get back to their True Self, they always want reasons for the big question: “Why did this happened to me?”  Reasons take us outward; freedom requires going inward.  However, giving our mind a logical reason can sometimes help forward movement.  Letting go of the reasons you hear in your mind (like God is punishing you) always helps.  Here are a few useful reasons that will keep you in the game.

 

Reasons The False Trapped Your Ass Again

1) You just accepted a feminine role to a false masculine, and that person caused you to accept their beliefs.

2) You heard someone say something that sounded good, true, or positive (like a teacher, guru, preacher), and you accepted their positive statement without noticing the emotion that came with it.  We’re trained to be in our mind, to be good students that take in what the teacher says without discriminating, and so we miss the invaluable signals our body senses give us.  Besides, when we get truth from another, it’s no longer truth; it’s knowledge.  Let other people’s truth go and find your own truth.

3) Your false self felt sympathy for another instead of compassion.

4) You just got competitive and choose sides or needed to win.  Freedom is an individual game.

5)  You presumed another couldn’t meet you at the True Self level, and so you became something acceptable to them.  You united with the lowest common denominator — the one with the most rigid beliefs.

6)  You feared the judgment or punishment of another.  So you did what they told you to do.

7)  You looked for a reward or looked to see if a problem went away yet.  If you have to look for results or rewards, you aren’t trusting your True Self yet.  Keep letting go.

8)  You didn’t trust your quiet inspiration.  Instead you followed expertise, social norms, or knowledge.

9)  Your mind is saying, “Who are you to do this?”  “This is too hard.”  “Cathy is a dumb fuck with a big imagination.” “Cathy wants you to accept her belief system.”  or “Emotions are bad; I don’t want to feel them.”  I offer you one belief that you need to get free:  “You can let all beliefs go.  You don’t need them.”  Everything I write supports that one belief because you need it to get free.  When you’re free, you’ll drop that ONE belief because you won’t need it, and I won’t look like a dumb fuck with a big imagination anymore.

10)  You saw someone else’s reality and thought, “This could happen to me.”  You must remain an impartial voyeur of other people’s lives.  If what they’re living brings up emotion, let go of your belief in that potential.  Their beliefs are creating their reality.  This is easier after you take responsibility for your own mind; you see that everything has a mental cause.

11)  Someone said you hurt them or didn’t support them; and you believed them.  Only the false self can be hurt; and only the false self needs support.  If you need others to support you, you’re listening to your false self.  Enjoy supporters if they come, but don’t need them.  Let them go.

12)  You have direction confusion.  You read this blog because you want freedom — you want to be your True Self and live from win-win.  It feels good when you think toward freedom and bad when you imprison yourself with beliefs.  But a religious person wants to be good according to dogma.  They feel good when obedient and bad when they disobey.  Someone who wants to win will feel great when they win and like shit when they lose.  We set the direction for our mind.  We don’t have the right to set the direction for other’s minds.  And they don’t have the right to set the direction for our mind.

13)  You followed excitement or emotions outward instead of inward — such as following romance, hope, or lust!

14)  You’re trying to figure out someone else’s mind instead of discriminating in your own.  Their mind is their problem.  Your mind is your problem.

 

It’s a Game

The collective illusion has gotten very tricky, especially since the addition of self-help and the New Age.  Knowing the tricks makes it easier to win the game.

See your quest for freedom as a giant video game.  You beat one level, and then you have to confront a more difficult level.  At some point, you win the game; or you die.  So what, you just start a new game.  If you watch people play video games, this is their attitude.  They feel good playing because that’s the attitude of our True Self.  Life is a game — an individual sport.  We enter into this big dangerous arena filled with beliefs (lies), and some of us figure out how to discriminate and beat the game. The prize is freedom, living as our True Self, and fulfillment of our desires (without anyone else having to lose).  It’s a great game — worth playing.

How to Make It Our Own — Find Our Place in the World

Nicola Steffanina

By Cathy Eck

 

People often ask me, “If we want to do what you do, how can we make it our own?”  That’s tricky to answer because you can’t make what I do your own; that’s not how life works.

In the illusion, we think that becoming a practitioner or teacher of information/knowledge is the purpose of life.  But that’s a false-self purpose.  It never provides the freedom, joy, or harmony with others that we want.

 

UNIQUE POINT OF VIEW

Like so many other topics, we must blame level confusion.  Everyone’s purpose is to first find their True Self.  Then we have our own answers to everything we need or want to know.  We aren’t interested in other people’s knowledge anymore; we sure as hell don’t want to teach or practice it.  What I do is original for me; however, it becomes knowledge for anyone else because it isn’t their own.  We must first remember our own unique point of view by letting go of our false self.  Then ironically, we won’t want to make what someone else does “our own” anymore.

I mentor people who want to write.  I recommend they write whatever they’re thinking.  If it isn’t original, then they take a sentence/paragraph, let go of the beliefs around what they wrote, they rewrite, and let go again.  If they keep doing that over and over, they’ll eventually find their OWN voice.  When our writing, art, music, inventions, decorating, etc. come from our True Self, they’ll carry the stamp of our unique point of view.

 

MAKE IT OUR OWN — MENTAL LEVEL

Sometimes, people try to find their own expression by taking a little from this teacher and a little from that teacher.  That isn’t their own.  We aren’t compilations of other people’s minds; that’s a false self.  We can’t learn to be our True Self.

Often people ask about combining what I do with Reiki, therapy, religion, or something else.  That will never work — never — never.  Those are all belief systems.  If we completely let go, we’ll let those belief systems go too.  Letting go takes us in the opposite direction of almost everything else because we’re going for the cause; that can be confusing.

 

BRIDGE CAREER

Sometimes we need what I call bridge careers.  My blogging/mentoring is my bridge career for now.  It pushes me to keep letting go and pays the bills.

Let’s say you’re a hands-on healer.  You could continue your work while letting go of the disease labels that people bring you to heal.  Eventually, you’ll find that you want to mentor people because you don’t want them to think the hands-on stuff is doing the work.  Then one day, you might drop mentoring too.  Our careers naturally evolve as we let go.

 

MAKE IT OUR OWN — PHYSICAL LEVEL

At the mental level, to “make it our own” means to be our True Self.  Done!

At the physical level, our True Self uses our knowledge and talents.  What we do provides the channel for our unique True Self perspective to flow into the material world.  For example, there’s a San Diego physicist turned comedian who does humorous Powerpoint presentations.  He has a unique perspective of physics; the audience gets a hilarious class in physics.

My mentoring is almost never about the words or techniques that I use; it’s about reaching others where they are and finding a way to convince them that what they’re thinking is false so they’ll let go.  Another person could do the same techniques and speak my words and wouldn’t get results because they still believe the illusion is true.  It’s the True Self perspective that makes it work.

My oldest son (below) DOES hip-hop dance, choreography, and videography.  His True Self bleeds through his doing; he sees a world with everybody dancing so he has a free dance channel on YouTube so people of any age or any place can learn to dance.  Everybody wins.

My daughter (above) is a horse trainer; since she was a young child she’s rescued animals, but never with a victim mentality.  They come to her to find their true home.  Now she takes in horses that no one wants, rejuvenates them, finds and embellishes their gifts, then sells them for a profit to good homes.  Everybody wins.

Matt Steffanina

There’s no shortage of hip-hop dancers or horse trainers.  They do something quite ordinary in a unique way to fill a gap in the world that only they seem to see.  That gap created their desire; and following that desire got them into their perfect place in the world.

 

WHAT ABOUT THE MONEY?

The next question is usually,  “What about the money?”  I researched for fifteen years and blogged for over a year without making money from it.  I was inspired to do it.  I took what I call dumb jobs.  Then someone said, “Would you mentor me?”  I said, “Yes;” and mentoring was born.  Then another person said, “I’d like to give you a donation.”  So I learned how to add a PayPal button to my blog.  I do retreats when people ask for a way to meet others of like mind.  I listen to requests and questions; and I attempt to fill the requests in a win-win way.  My son’s and daughter’s businesses grew exactly the same way.  I call it organic growth.  You become yourself and express who you are; then you find the place where you’re wanted or needed.

Here’s where things get interesting.  I would write if no one read my writing.  It what I love to do.  My children would do what they do.  When we do things from our True Self, it’s life giving in the being and doing.   Belief systems, on the other hand, die without lots of believers and constant attention and support.  They need people to feed the dragon because the dragon is very hungry–that’s not win-win.  We’re switching an old paradigm; that’s not easy.  But, one day, people will only pay True Selves.  I promise it.

Redefining Success the True Self Way

Judgment Day

By Cathy Eck

 

Success and Heaven on Earth

My definition of success changed the day I first saw the above image.  It’s the Egyptian Weighing of the Heart Ceremony.  The deceased must have a heart as light as a feather, or they cannot gain entrance to heaven.  This wasn’t the judgment day scene I’d been taught; it was the best guidance for living life I’d ever encountered.  It was the truth.  It’s still my favorite image, and I intend to share everything I learned from it in a book.  So I’ll just leave it at that for now.

On that sweet day, years of unsuccessful research suddenly fell into place like a puzzle magically assembling itself.  I realized that the false self has a physical focus and hears the judgment day message as something which occurs ONLY at death; the True Self has a mental focus, and views the message as a guide for life.  If our True Self leads, our life becomes orderly.  Problems and suffering disappear.

 

Success as a Currency

Success is defined by society based on false physical/material standards.  Famous or wealthy people are successful.  A big house or nice car renders us successful.  Certain labels mean success.  Our body matching popular standards means success.

Just like the amount of money in our bank account defines our financial worth, our measure of success becomes our personal worth.  False selves honor the material definitions that give them the greatest worth in the illusion.  So, we spin around, chasing false material desires, to potentially be labeled worthy.  When we fulfill those false desires, we still don’t feel worthy because we haven’t gotten our mind right.  The physical is the effect of the mental, not the other way around.

There are also intangible currencies like being nice, doing good deeds, saying socially acceptable words, serving our country, or fitting in.  These are based on achieving a proper physical appearance.  We’re want others to judge us as successful, good, or right.  If we’re honest, our judging God is actually a complex of our human authority figures’ belief systems.  We become imprisoned by their success currency; we either submit to the definitions or rebel against them.  Submission and rebellion become our dreaded bottom of the triangle.

 

Success Defined Correctly 

The correct definition of success is mentally oriented.  We want our mind to measure up to our perfect inner standards.  Then whatever we express will be perfect.  We become the masters of our life, and only our life.

After staring at the above image for hours, I wrote down my OWN definition of success:    If anyone could cut my mind open, they would find nothing but unconditional love and truth.  It’s not very complex.  I never made it my brand.  Recently, I realized that I needed to share this; I saw people I mentor getting stuck on this very point.  Defining success in this way turned my life upside down; I had to remember unconditional love and truth as they were before I dove into the illusion.

People think unconditional love is caretaking, sympathy, tolerance, sex, making someone feel good, being kind and submissive, fighting for your country, believing mom and dad’s harmful advice, and not saying fuck.  Those are all examples of conditional love.  Unconditional love exposed and dissolved every false crack and crevice in my mind.  But now, I could no longer sympathize, enable someone’s beliefs, or have national, cultural, or social pride because I would be contributing to the illusion.  Unconditional love turns our world upside down.  Unconditional love and truth (along with all other True Self qualities) were powers that were hijacked by the false self and redefined.  Supporting anyone’s false self was hate, not love.

Creating this mental definition of success was infinitely more demanding than creating material goals.  It required disabling my will and letting go of everything I believed.  It demanded that I honor my emotions completely.  It also made others, who still had a physically oriented perspective, uncomfortable.  They couldn’t project their emotions on me anymore, and I didn’t look up to them.  It takes lots of practice to live this way.  But it’s worth it.

You might think, “Cathy, where’s freedom?”  You always talk about freedom.  Returning the powers of love and truth to the True Self allows for freedom.  My definition guides everything I do.  It’s my North Star.  The unconditional love gives me courage to speak up.  Truth allows me to honor my emotions and know what’s false.

 

Your Turn

How do you want your mind to be?  Do you want it filled with creative ideas or bursting with beauty?  Do you want it to sprout fun ideas for inventions?  Do you want a quiet, peaceful, and free mind?   What makes you, YOU?  Living from YOUR definition of mental success is the only way to be free and eternally joyful in the physical world.

Next, you must let go of all physical definitions of success that you’ve believed.  They’re ALL bullshit.  Suddenly, those supermodels you admired look artificial.  The billionaires look like crooks.  The muscle men look deformed.  Competitive athletes look barbaric.  Gurus look like big egos, the very thing they claim not to have (LOL).  You’ll take back your own True Self.  We actually project our True Self on false selves who fit society’s definition of success when we look up to them and believe them.  They look good only because we see our OWN True Self in them.  Take away that false halo, and they’re impostors.  Projecting our True Self is just as handicapping as projecting the unloveable parts of our false self.

The big secret is that there’s no outer judge on a cloud who decides if we go to heaven or hell when (or I prefer if) we die.  The judge is inside of us; it’s weighing our heart each moment against our own True Self’s measure of success.  We decide if we spend today in heaven or hell.  That’s freedom.

 

 

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Testing to See if a Desire is True

Is my desire true

By Cathy Eck

Desire

You’ve got this nagging desire that just won’t go away.  How do you know if it’s really a good desire to pursue?   Is it a True Self desire?  Or is it a false trap that will just get you in deep doo doo?

Or you’re mentally stuck with two seemingly equal choices.  How do you choose?

 

True Desires

Let’s review what I’ve discussed before.  A desire from your True Self will feel calm and peaceful.  You’ll enjoy thinking about it so long as you don’t start thinking about the fact that you don’t have it or start trying to figure out how to get it.  If you do that, you’ll feel emotional excitement.

A True Desire won’t solve a problem.  The True Self doesn’t know about problems.  True Self desires don’t fix effects; they’re creative in nature.

The most important test of all — it will be win-win for you and everyone on the planet.  No one will feel diminished, nor will their True Self be harmed by fulfillment of this desire.  It’s okay if their false self gets a little shaken up.

 

Deserving

The big block to fulfilling desires is frequently related to deserving or worthiness.  Often successful people thank God for their success, “Look what God gave me,” they say as they accept the award given to them by “humans.”  They often add, “You can do it too.”  They’re hoping we won’t judge their extraordinary success.  The truth is that they made choices and had beliefs that led to that success that would make sense if we could read their mind.

In the end, it’s much kinder to say to someone, “I happened to find something that lots of people want or need,” rather than, “God gave me this because I deserve it.”  The first leaves the listener with a proper understanding of the winner’s path to success.  The second leaves the listener wondering what’s wrong with them.  We’ve often been that listener, which has led to the confusion we feel around deserving.

Astrology was one of the first ways that false deserving was created.  “Look it’s on my chart that I am to rule this land.  Fuck you guys!”  Now we use it to justify being an ass.  “I can’t help but be stubborn, I’m a Taurus.”  Astrology was also made by men, not God.

Along the same line, some people go to psychics to tell them if they’re deserving.  Some use divining tools to make decisions.  Some look for signs and signals.  Some are called, which is really funny.  Who’s calling?  Dah!  Ring, ring, it’s your false self!

The bottom line is that if we desire it, and it’s a true desire, we deserve it.  And there is a way to get it….letting go of the beliefs that stand in the way.

 

Saved By a Pendulum

I cured myself of the desire dilemma after I learned the art of dousing or divining.  I thought it was insanely cool.  I found the well site on my property.  I often made great decisions using the pendulum.  I was a pendulum master.  One day, I paid attention to my mind while doing it.  I was mentally directing the pendulum to spin, and my body translated it into subtle, undetectable movements.  When I just watched my mind, I could see that I was hoping for a particular answer.  That was my desire, dah!  Or at times, my mind was afraid of the answer.  Again, I could see my real desire, but now I could see that I believed it was impossible.  Or I feared I’d pay for my desired choice later on.  My emotions were far superior; they gave me truly insightful feedback.  I ditched the pendulum.

Let’s say, I wanted to know if I would get a contract or a house I loved.  Those were stupid questions.  The answer was more complex, “If I’d let go of my doubt and beliefs about not getting the contract, I’d get it.”  “If I’d stop listening to the advice of experts, I’d get the house.”  I could drill down and decide what to let go by just asking and feeling for emotional feedback.

I was going through all of this pendulum trouble because I feared people questioning my deserving.  The pendulum was like saying, “God gave me permission to have what I want.”  People convinced me that God was moving the pendulum.  But that was a lie.  I was moving it.  I realized that I was embarrassed by my creative capacity.  I was afraid of being judged by people who were prideful of their suffering.  Others in my life believed that if God didn’t call me, I wasn’t allow to move forward.  But God didn’t know my number because God was only calling people to support his crazy illusion.  I didn’t listen to that God…he made me want to barf.  The other God, that Creator from Genesis I, he was resting…taking a long nap.  I imagined what he would say…

“What are you asking me for?  I gave you a piece of me — your True Self.  You’re a creator.  Create what’s inspiring to you and harmonious with my other kids.  I will be in every one of your creations.  However, if you create in a way that’s harmful to your brothers and sisters, I won’t be around to watch.  You’re on your own, kiddo.  I’ll always love you, but if you fuck up, I’ll miss you.”

 

The Lesson

Think about flipping that coin or asking your Magic Eight Ball what you want to know?  Just do it in your mind.  Notice what you’re hoping for.  That’s your answer.  Now check out that answer.  Is it win-win for everyone who’s a True Self?  Does it feel calm?  Is it creative.  You have your answer!  If it meets those tests, it’s True.  Now you can focus on letting go of all the beliefs that stand in the way.

 

 

 

How Do You Know If Someone is Their True Self or False Self?

True Self doesn't wear a mask.

By Cathy Eck

 

True Self Please Stand Up

In order to get free and enjoy life on earth, we must know a True Self from a false self.  It’s hard because there are many damn good clones out there.  You can take drugs, have an insight during visualization, or go through a near death experience and gain a glimpse of the truth.  Such experiences shut down our intellect.  We go beyond the construct of space and time.

But space and time aren’t the problem.  When the intellect is used correctly by the True Self; it becomes the perfect masculine — the ultimate leader and visionary.  When the false self uses the intellect, it stuffs it with knowledge, beliefs, and rules.  Then we can’t access our truth because our mental computer is a cluttered mess with badly labeled files and lots of viruses.

The real point of everything I share is to master our own mind so that we’re always discriminating.  In this way, we don’t take in files that are infected with viruses.  Our mind contains the perfect virus protection software, which keeps us living our OWN life within an imperfect world that values knowledge over wisdom.  That’s freedom.

 

Clues

Everyone is trying to get our support for their illusory world.  Our job is to not accept the role they want to cast us in.

Experts and authorities thought they were giving us the truth, and we believed them.  So how do we know who to believe?  How do we know what to let go?

The answer is right within the word believe!  Permanent lies that kind of explain things that we don’t understand aren’t necessary.  As we let go, we come to understand everything.  Until you get there, here are a few reminders!

 

1)  You can’t let go of the truth.  If you let go of everything that everyone ever said to you, you couldn’t go wrong.  You won’t go back to being a helpless baby.  That was a condition of size, not wisdom.  Babies are very wise. They get stupider as they grow up.

2)  Is the teacher/authority asking you to accept beliefs to fit into their world view?  There are many teachers who say, “I need you to wipe your slate clean,” but then they write all over it with their beliefs.  In this work, we wipe our slates clean and never allow another to write on it again without our conscious permission.  I never want you to believe something I say either, other than “You can let go.”  I explain the way the illusion is constructed only so that you might be more savvy about discriminating and not just believe everything you hear.  Eventually, when your discrimination is working again, you can let go of the knowledge I provided about the illusion.  You won’t need it anymore.  It will be the last file you delete.

3)  Do they think they have the truth and no one else does?   Everyone has the truth inside of them.  Most of us have forgotten that.  Experts think they have the truth when they have knowledge or beliefs.  They think they have something that no one else knows; they believe that makes them special.  Special and false are the same.  Knowledge and beliefs always have limits.  Just take them to the extreme to find them.  You can find the answer to anything on your own.

4)  Can they laugh at their beliefs or traditions?  If we can’t laugh at the things our false self says; it’s because we believe them.

5)  Do they want support, submission, or commitment?  You don’t have to shrink to fit into a True Self’s world.  The True Self doesn’t need to create a secure future with you.  False selves fear the future, and they want long-term commitments and certainty.  They want you to sign on the dotted line that you will never, ever change your mind and let them go.

6)  Are they trying to fix or change the illusion or float above it?  Most people in the west want to change the illusion to suit their personal tastes.  In the east, they leave it there but float above it in denial.  Neither eliminates the illusion, which is the only way to have real freedom.  Our false self can separate us from things we don’t like mentally.  But freedom only comes when we recognize that the things we don’t like are false.  They only affect our body and life if we believe them.

7)  Are they teaching you a quality that you already possess (but forgot)?  If they’re teaching you to be good, spiritual, peaceful, non-judgmental, loving, positive, or to know the truth, then you don’t need them.  They need to fix themselves.  People in the illusion all fix themselves by fixing others — nothing changes.  If we think we’ve lost our spirit, we’ll go hunting for it.  But we won’t find it.  We’ll take part of our false self and teach it to be spiritual.  We’ll create a better mask — a clone self.  When we let go, we remember that we’re all the things that religious and spiritual teachers are training our false self to be.

8)  The false self fixes one thing at the expense of another.  A person goes to a doctor or healer and gets a drug or treatment that fixes one thing but now gives them a different problem.  My son’s friend used to joke about Feng Shui.  He called it the “art of moving shit around.”  Everyone in the illusion is a Feng Shui practitioner.  They don’t fix shit, they move it around.  Old problems transform into new problems because no one ever removes the cause.  They’re just fixing effects.

That’s a start.  Everything in the illusion is backwards from the truth; but the illusion is not the opposite of Truth.  Chew on that one for a while.  The illusion is only a man-made invention; it’s completely false and has no power of its own.  It’s destructible.  When we let it go, the truth is what remains.

 

Respect: R-E-S-P-E-C-T, You Must Drop It To Get Free!

Respect

By Cathy Eck

 

Respect

We’re trained to give respect to others at a young age.  We’re told to respect our elders, teachers, preachers, experts, authority figures, and people of a higher class even if they harm others or give us false beliefs.  We train children to respect the false self when we’re naturally hard-wired to respect only the True Self.  This is what flips our emotions so they no longer keep us on track.  To get free, we have to reverse this training.   It isn’t easy.  We have to give up wanting false respect and stop giving undeserved respect to others.  When we don’t follow society’s rules of respect, however, people see us as bad or wrong.

Normal respect happens when someone expresses their True Self.  They love us unconditionally or see who we really are.  They do something creative or demonstrate an amazing talent.  It’s like applause or appreciation.  It’s a temporary nod of thanks for sharing something beautiful, true, or pure with us.  But even those experiences should only generate temporary respect.

False respect is a robot-like response based on mental programming.  False respect is defined by illusory social standards, qualifications, or rules.  False respect is often considered permanent once we qualify for it.  If we have been given the magic wand of false respect, we can be a jerk and people will still have to listen to us and believe us.  This is how dictators get so much power.

 

Unnatural Respect

We can’t worship two masters.  We can’t live as a True Self while worshipping or believing false selves.  What we do on the outside mirrors what we’re doing on the inside.  If we’re listening to false selves outside of us, we also respect our own false self.  We disrespecting our True Self and God.

Unnatural respect is all about one thing and one thing only.  It serves to keep people in the masculine role who don’t deserve it.  We don’t question them or their beliefs.  We shut down our discrimination.  We give them the same power in our mind that we’d naturally give our True Self: but unfortunately, they don’t deserve that position.

 

Level Confusion

Sadly, we have infused respect with level confusion.  Ideally, our True Self would inspire all of our actions.  Other people might give us ideas or teach us things, but our choices would come from inside of us.  When choices come from our True Self, they’re always win-win for all; the True Self never harms or diminishes another.

However, when someone plays their “respect me” card, we don’t believe that we can say, “No,” because the authority figure has a pedigree, knowledge, or a role.  They didn’t earn our respect.  This is often hard to see.  We confuse the knowledgeable or privileged false self with the wise, omnipotent True Self.  We believe their authority is earned, but it isn’t.  Often the people with the most rules and beliefs are placed in positions of authority.  Unnatural respect slams us into the feminine role underneath false leaders.  Then we feel powerless to reclaim what’s rightfully ours.

 

FEAR…FEAR…and more FEAR

When we recognize that people who said they loved us were operating from win-lose beliefs, we naturally lose our false respect for them.  That makes sense.  We feel bad because we want to respect everyone.  But false selves don’t deserve respect.  If we look below the urge to obey them, we’ll find the fear, the beliefs, and the rules that need to go.

As we let go, we hear the voices of the people who have controlled our mind.  We must stand firm and discriminate, but our automatic reaction is usually to just obey or try to keep the peace.  We must do our best to only give respect to our own True Self, and that means disrespecting false selves no matter how much they scare or threaten us.  We have to let them go.  When we completely let the false voices within go, the people without lose their power as well.  It’s like we become invisible to them.

Finally, we’ve cleared out our OWN mind; we now deserve natural respect.  We no longer judge.  We think in win-win ways.  We’ve lost our fear.  We love our mind.  But the people around us don’t give us natural respect.  They’re still listening to and respecting false selves because they’re afraid not to.  This can be the worst stage of all.  We’ve worked so hard to reconnect with our wisdom and truth, and people think we’re full of shit because we aren’t saying what the false selves say.  It’s tempting to turn back, and I suspect many do.  Some get stuck in anger at this stage when people in their lives ask them to prove themselves; the people should ask their false authorities for justification but they’re afraid of their false authorities.

In these moments, we’re facing the earliest moments in childhood when we accepted the illusion because we believed we had no choice.  We couldn’t go off on our own; we were too young.  We’re remembering being small and yet knowing the truth, but no one understood or heard us.  Maybe we couldn’t even talk yet, but we felt emotion when something was false.  We cried.  For some, that was pretty much all the time.  Why didn’t they feel the same emotions?  Why did they demand our respect?  Why were we seen as bad or wrong?

If you allow this  sadness, powerlessness, and despair to erupt and listen as your beliefs arise, you’ll realize that you accepted beliefs about the world, yourself, and other people that weren’t true.  Listen, as your beliefs rise into your mind.  Realize they all generate strong emotion so they’re false; notice that they aren’t win-win for everyone.  Let them go.  You’re no longer a powerless child.  You did nothing wrong.  You were just an innocent True Self.  People who didn’t remember who they were saw you as flawed.  They were wrong.  You can let their error go now and be free.

Problems: The Gift that Keeps on Taking in the Illusion

It's not what we do, it's why we do it.

By Cathy Eck

 

Problems?

My dad was an engineer.  He loved to take things apart and put them back together.  He loved fixing things.  When we would break something, he was thrilled.  He got a chance to fix something.  He often said, “There isn’t anything that can’t be fixed.”  I loved those words, but I didn’t like problems.  In fact, I hated them.

While he was clearly talking about the material world and stuff, I heard his words on a completely different level.  His words fueled my quest to fix my mind and my body, even when others said it wasn’t possible.  His words provided a valuable reminder as I took my own mind apart that it could be fixed.  I thought I’d have to put my mind back together once I got all the pieces spread all over the floor.  But most of the pieces were unnecessary.  They weren’t keeping my body running or making my life better. They were just causing problems.  These unnecessary mental components weren’t true or necessary for joyful expression; they were simply someone else’s worthless beliefs that were like parasites.  They sucked the life out of me while giving nothing in return.

My dad was passionate about fixing things; he used his passion to help us out when needed.  But, he didn’t break things just to fix them.  If he couldn’t find anything to fix, he used his talents creatively by finding things to build.  He enjoyed the bottom of the triangle illusory state of fixing and breaking if the opportunity arose to play there, but he used it in a way that didn’t harm others.  He showed me that the illusion can be a sort of playground if we don’t take it seriously or force it on others.

 

Fixing and Breaking

The bottom of the triangle isn’t bad if used in a win-win way (directed by the True Self).  Old buildings must be destroyed before a new one can be erected.  Likewise, we destroy our false mind so we can rebuild it.  If we know the difference between True and false and creating from First (win-win) and Second (win-lose, good-evil) Cause, we can live outside the suffering that most people consider normal.  We avoid creating problems, and we can help others leave their problems behind if they ask for help.

As long as people break things, we’ll need people who fix them.  Nevertheless, we must understand how to use our talents properly on the way out of the illusion.  On the way into the illusion, we project our beliefs on to others and then fix the effect of our projection in the others.  We retain unwanted beliefs, often for financial gain.

I first noticed the power of win-win when I worked in technology. Someone would call me for tech support, and I’d just talk with them.  Often I had no clue what their problem was, and I sure as hell didn’t know the answer.  But they did.  If I talked in the correct general direction, they solved the problem themselves.  My clients were all becoming computer experts. They became confident that they could fix their own problems.  That made my job really easy.  I could focus on creating new ideas and products instead of fixing other people’s problems.  We were both happier.

This only works if we can see our creative potential, and if we don’t believe that we need customers for life.  I think dentistry is the worst example of second-cause creation.  They tell their patients to come in every six months so they can look for the problems that they expect to find so they can fill, drill, and bill.  I recently read a study that said people with the best teeth often don’t go to the dentist much.  Made sense to me.

Dentists, and other service people, don’t have to walk away from their professions; there’s a proper transition toward freedom.  First, they become a dentist that expects to find perfect teeth.  They do that by letting go of their knowledge and labels for problems; they recognize that problems come from beliefs and many of those beliefs are perpetuated by them.  In accounting, they’d call their expensive dental schooling a sunk cost.  It has no future value so you just write it off and move on.  They slowly wean their clients off of them and follow their creative inspiration to a better life.

 

The Lesson

With my dad, we were willing supporters in something that brought him fun.  Fixing stuff is clearly part of the illusion, but it was a fun, first-cause part of the illusion for him.  We didn’t need to break things to please him.  Often he involved us in the fixing process, contributing to our self-sufficiency and confidence that “Anything could be fixed if it happened to break.”   His knowledge wasn’t bad because it was directed by his True Self.  He still fixes things in his community for a cookie or beer, but only if asked to do so.

The dentist (and most fixers) make knowledge (expertise) more powerful than wisdom (truth).  He or she projects problems by believing that they’re true.  When I was little, I screamed when taken to the dentist.  I noticed they often had ugly or highly repaired teeth.  I felt their convoluted energy as they projected their flawed point of view on me.  Their beliefs got them bad teeth, and now they wanted me to have them too.  That’s second-cause creation; it’s how we perpetuate the illusion.

As we move through the path of initiation, we’re letting go of second-cause creations, beliefs, and memories.  They weren’t necessary parts of our mind or our life so we won’t miss them.  They were problems that only existed in the illusion — they appeared real but weren’t true.  After we trash these unwanted and unneeded components of our mind, we see that they created unnecessary detours and problems in our life.  We won’t ever make that mistake again.

Help! I Can’t Find the F***ing Causal Belief

Beliefs can't find the cause

By Cathy Eck

 

Not a day goes by that I don’t hear, “Help Cathy, I can’t find my fucking belief.  I know it’s there because my life sucks or my body is screaming in pain.  But I can’t find the belief.”  There are many reasons why this happens.  Shit, I sometimes say it to myself.  Here are some of the most obvious and common reasons and fixes:

 

1)  The belief is hiding under what I call a “protector” belief.  Our false mind wants to live forever; it fears death and exposure.  When the protector is on duty, our mind is generating thoughts like:  “I can’t find the belief.”  “This is too hard.”  “I can’t do this.”  Those are protector beliefs that guard the causal belief.  Our false mind is trying to get us to stop letting go.  If we let go of these distracting protective beliefs, the causal belief often can be seen.

2)  The belief looks like it’s absolutely true.  It could be a belief that we’ve had forever.  It might be a collective belief that we know nearly everyone else believes.  It might be a belief that has created in our reality many times.  Remember, our reality up until this second was created by that causal belief.  If we let it go completely, our reality will change.  It has to.  An example of such a belief is, “Dad will never change.” Yes, that has been true until now, but it’s a belief.  Dad does have a True Self; and if we connect with that True Self, he can change.  These beliefs tend to feel like walls that we can’t get around until we go through them.

3)  We can’t bear to feel anymore emotion, so we keep distracting ourself.   Beliefs generate emotion.  Long standing beliefs are laced with lots of emotion.  Our false mind will try to tell us that the emotion means the belief is true; it’s lying.  That’s its job.  Sometimes, we just have to face the belief and all that emotion with courage.  We have to outlast it.  We’re becoming masters of our minds.  It isn’t the easiest thing we’ve ever done.   It can be like a war; and we need to win every battle.

4)  We’re still feminine to the person who inserted the belief into our mind.  We have physical symptoms, and we can hear the doctor’s voice saying the diagnosis.  We feel emotion when we hear his/her words, but we still view the doctor as powerful and knowing.  We fear going to hell, and we know it’s false; but we still view our mother or the priest as our authority.  To be free, we must have no masters other than our True Self.  This is about letting go of false gods.  Our True Self always has an answer and always knows what’s right for us.  But if we’re listening to others, we won’t hear it.  Often we hear religious voices saying listen to God.  Our True Self is God.  The voices we hear in our mind that sound like mom, dad, and the priest/preacher are false gods.

5)  We’ve got a conditioned response that masks the belief.  For example, we have a saying that we use to sooth ourself like, “Everything happens for a reason.”  “God has a plan.”  Or we do something conditioned like go for a run or kneel and pray.  Our conditioned responses show us what we believe.  We do them to ease the emotion (fix the effect) that the active belief is spewing.  Get rid of the belief, and we no longer need to fix the effect.

6)  We want to keep the belief.  Often our belief has a payoff.  We want to get rid of the pain, but we get a lot of attention for it.  We don’t like drama, but it’s how we relate to our friends; and we want to star on a reality television show.  I’ve worked with actors who believe they need their past emotions to act; they don’t, but try to tell them that.  We can’t hold on and let go at the same time.  Sometimes freedom is simply a choice.

7)  We feel no emotion when thinking an unwanted thought.  We’ve hit a psychological reversal.  So switch directions.  Think the opposite.  For example, you keep thinking, “I don’t make enough money.”  There’s no emotion.  It just feels like harsh reality.  So switch to the positive side of it.  “I make all the money I need.”  Ah, the emotion comes pouring out saying, “Good try.  That was a false line if I ever heard one.”  Many of us are painfully honest people.  We speak about reality too much.  My advice on that is to talk less, let go more.  The reality will shift; then you can talk again.

8)  We’re in other people’s minds.  We’re looking at what another said or did and wondering about their thinking when what matters is our thinking.  A man cuts us off in traffic.  We wonder why he did that?  That keeps us from watching our own mind.  We don’t notice that we have fear of bad drivers or judge angry people because our energy and attention is devoted to the driver’s mind.  Bring your attention back to your thinking.  Western meditation is great for this.  Their thinking is their own problem.

9)  We’re reasoning.  We don’t need a reason for why something happened.  What we need is the causal belief.  If  we’re reasoning, we’re too much in our logical false masculine mind.  If we drop into feeling, and just witness our emotions while listening to our thoughts, we’ll find the causal belief in our mind, which is the only reason we need.

 

The biggest trap is looking at what normal people do and thinking we can do that too and get free.  Most people, regardless of what they say they want, are on the express train to hell.  We have to remember that fitting in means riding the hell-bound train.  Freedom means getting off at the next stop.

 

 

Labels: The Seeming True Self Destroyer (Part I)

Ambigram NO Labels NO Lies

By Cathy Eck

 

NO LABELS, NO LIES

If you’ve been reading this blog, you know that beliefs are disruptive lies that come disguised as the truth.  That’s why we accept them into our mind without discriminating.  We give others our beliefs with the intention of controlling or helping them because we can’t see beyond the belief to recognize that it’s false.  Labels are simply a collection of beliefs that we either hate or love.  Like beliefs, we often accept them without discrimination.

To escape the illusion, we must have precision in our words.  That precision supports us in seeing the difference between something illusory and something true.  The triangle process is a good way to develop word precision.  It helps us get real and identify what’s truly happening when words are exchanged.

The meaning of words is often reversed or confused in the illusion.  Beliefs are treated as if they’re true.  The false God is treated as the Creator; occult is confused with initiation.  Goodness, in the illusion, becomes obedience to authority.  Winning morphs into success when another loses.  The illusion is all about level confusion.

Labels beg for word precision.  If you don’t have word precision, you confuse and harm others.  We do to others what was done to us until we recognize that what was done to us was false.  People in the illusion label people for eternity.  They say, “You’re incurable.”  You’re a victim of wackadoodle disease.”  “You’re an idiot.”  “You’re ugly.”  “You’re fat.”  “You’re a Smith and will always be a Smith.”  “You’re an Asian, gay, or Hispanic.”  The one label that would not harm us, we rarely use, “You’re a human being.”

Labels also go the other direction, which is just as bad and more seductive.  “You’re a genius.”  “You’re beautiful.”  “You’re the Dali Lama.”  “You’re a saint.” or “You’re an old soul.”

Then there are the labels that we give ourselves.  After I sold my technology business, I decided I wanted to go naked — not without clothes — without labels.  People would, of course, ask me what I did.  I’d say, “Nothing.”  No one could accept that.  “Are you a housewife?  A mother?  A retiree?  A homeless person?  A fucking antisocial idiot?”  They wanted me to own a label dammit.

Eventually, we figure that if we’re going to get labeled anyway, we’d better label ourself.  “I’m an artist.”  “I’m a Muslim.”  “I’m a sufferer of wackadoodle disease.”  You watch, someone labeled hypochondriac will think they have that disease!  “I’m a fighter for truth.”  “I’m an engineer.”  “I’m shy.”  The very way we speak labels by saying “I am” or “You are” gives them permanence, making change difficult or impossible.

 

Labels Can Feel Like Murder

We must choose our wording carefully when discussing labels.  When someone asks what I do?  I answer in a temporary way.  Currently I mentor people and write.  In that way, I’m not defined by my current activity.  But our friends and family are often unkind and more permanent in choosing their labels.  They say,  “You’re so…..  You’re a ……  You always …..  You never…..”  They believe that what they see in us is true; it’s not.

I learned to watch my language carefully in business.  If I defined someone by their errors, I’d destroy a very good employee.  With my children, I learned the same lesson.   I didn’t want to ruin my perfect child.  In the masculine role, I had to discriminate between true and false constantly.  It took lots of practice.  We all behave as false selves at times.  We live in a fucking false world.  That’s reality.  But that isn’t who we are.

I learned that the truth looked like this, “You’re acting irresponsible today.”  The person was acting in a false way.  If it was my projection, the situation went away.  I avoided breaking my precious mirror.  If they were asking for help without knowing it, I offered help.  Often people do shitty things to us or behave in ridiculous ways because they’re asking for help without knowing it.  Letting go and then speaking in this way healed 80% of the situations.  The others were not correctable by me because they showed me something that they were reflecting for someone else in their life.  They wanted me to fix their handler; and I couldn’t do that.  But I could help them let go from the feminine role.

But one caution, this isn’t about saying the prettier words.  It’s about knowing the person isn’t inherently what they’re doing in this moment.

 

You Are vs. You Are Acting

You are acting… is a statement that opens the door to discover causal beliefs.  We can’t fix or find the cause of a problem if we think the problem is true — truth is immortal.  We don’t make friends or love someone by labeling them in a permanent way with “You are…”  We put them up against a wall when we do that.  No one can fix or change the truth.  We must admit something is false to let it go.  That is the secret of letting go.  Knowing that the words we thought or heard weren’t true.

If a doctor says, “You’re incurable,” find a new doctor.  If a teacher labels you ADD, get a new teacher.  If your preacher projects his sin on you, for God’s sake run like hell and find your True Self.  Sadly, people marinate in the soupy projection  of false masculine roles until they believe that the stone cast upon them was deserved.  It changes them forever and locks them into the illusion without an exit.  The only way to escape the label is to realize that it’s false.   We were just not acting like ourselves.  Or the person who said it was seeing their own reflection.

Once we realize that we’re just an actor, we can release the role we’ve played.  We can return to our own life path and find the happy ending to OUR own story.  We don’t have to live with our labels anymore.

We’re Not Followers or Seekers; But Leaders Don’t Want Us To Know

Leaders and followers

By Cathy Eck

 

The “One”

Followers and seekers of truth often write to me to ask me to confirm that their guru, teacher, preacher, or motivational speaker is the “One.”  I get lots of videos and book suggestions.  You only have to watch five minutes or read the first chapter to find the beliefs.  False leaders usually have good intentions.  They truly believe they’re helping others, but they create confusion in their followers because they don’t understand the True and false self (the term soul combined the two), they’re confused by masculine and feminine roles, or they’re still stuck in some version of good and evil.  They’re trying to fix the illusion (false self), not let it go.

I don’t like receiving those emails because I can’t give the writer the answer that they want to hear.  Invariably their guru/teacher/preacher is a very strong voice in their mind.  Often they fear letting that voice go.

I suspect they hope that I can resolve the dissonance in their mind.  I can’t, and I know that.  In fact, I can only make their dissonance worse.   If they want freedom, I’ll point them in the right direction.  If they want to prove their false leader is right, they’ll try to get me to follow him or her.

The unacknowledged desire of all false selves is to be more powerful than the True Self so it will submit.  As we listen to our past leaders’ voices within, we’ll find that motive; if we let that false-self motive go, our True Self can discriminate again.  Every false leader gives beliefs to their followers; beliefs are only knowledge, not wisdom.

The journey of initiation requires only one belief — you can let all beliefs go by knowing they’re false.  You’ll then discover everything else in your own perfect way.

 

Leaders and Followers

Following is natural only because we’re born helpless.  We have no choice but to assume the feminine role as a child.

Followers are playing a false feminine role; the other side of the bottom of the triangle is the leader.  Our false mind tricks us by taking the false leader and putting them at the top of the triangle, replacing our True Self.  Followers only need one core belief to keep them stuck in their role — that they don’t have the answers they need — the answer is outside of them; someone else has it.  This causes them to run to experts of all kinds, but the most insidious is the spiritual expert.  We’re born spiritual.  We don’t need to learn spirituality or the truth.  We only need to learn practical knowledge for an earthly skill — like how to type or read.

Followers’ or seekers’ lives turn into mysteries that can’t be solved.   The True Self, what they’re searching for, doesn’t have a role in the illusion.  At best, they can find a clone of a True Self.  People do project their True Self on leaders and teachers; false ones take it and run with it.  They don’t like to give it back; this can make letting go hard.  I don’t like when someone attempts to project their True Self on me; I feel like they’re trying to get me to validate their false self.  Once projected, the True Self becomes false — it’s actually annoying.  I’m only serving a small leadership role in the illusion as the tour guide.  I know the holes and dangerous beasts lurking in the bushes.  Nothing I offer is spiritual — but it’s really practical.

What we’re looking for in another (guru/teacher) or an object (Holy Grail/Ark of the Covenant) or a place (Shambala/ Atlantis) is our seemingly lost True Self.   We come to think this mystery is our life purpose — we all love a good story.  But our True Self gets anxious; it came here to create, not play “Hide and Go Seek.”

Leaders and teachers who tell followers what to think are everywhere.  We project our healing power on to healers and doctors.  Some people talk to aliens, angels, or ancestors to get what sounds like truth.  Some go to psychics or astrologers.   Some go on vision quests or long journeys.  Some join cults or brotherhoods.  And some use the old standby, religion.  A huge New Age business has developed around the sale of crystals and other “spiritual” paraphenalia.  Drugs are the gateway for many that appear to provide a glimpse of the True Self.  Sex addictions exist because the human orgasm stops the mind temporarily.  Practices are said to get us to God.  We’re looking for anything that rings true; and when we hear even a few true words or feel a moment of peace, we hold on to that person or thing.  This only makes it more difficult for us to find the real truth we so desperately desire.  We fear letting the false teacher or thing go because we believe it’s all we have.  But, it’s just our false self bullshitting us again.

 

Atlantis

Jesus warned people of false teachers, but the words that really spoke to me were Plato’s words from “Critias” about the destruction of Atlantis. My clarifications are in brackets. “…But when the divine portion [of man’s mind] began to fade away, and became diluted too often and too much with the mortal admixture [the ingredients of the false self], and the human nature got the upper hand, they then [leaders], being unable to bear their fortune [too big for their own britches], behaved unseemly; and to him who had an eye to see grew visibly debased, for they were losing the fairest of their precious gifts; but to those who had no eye to see the true happiness [those fucking believers again], they [false leaders] appeared glorious and blessed at the very time when they were full of avarice and unrighteous power.”  His words still apply today; nothing much has changed.  As you let go, you can see the false power — the ice cream coating melts.  All that’s left is a big pile of manure.

 

Simple Lessons On Unity, Wisdom, and Unconditional Love

Cruise Ship

By Cathy Eck

 

Several years ago, I was deep into researching the roots of all religion.  I had my nose in books most of the time, I’d gathered lots of knowledge and unveiled much wisdom on a range of topics.  I wanted to travel to places that I had studied but was low on funds.  I got the idea that perhaps I could speak on cruise ships after hearing a cruise ship speaker talking about the Mayan calendar; he recited the facts well but didn’t understand the calendar.  So I worked out a way to spend three months a year at sea speaking on cruise ships.  (FYI:  I will help anyone get free, but I don’t help people get jobs on cruise ships.)

I loved being at sea and visiting places I’d studied.  My talks covered mythology, ancient cultures and religions, ancient sacred places.  Sometimes I told interesting backstories about famous people like Columbus or Michelangelo.  I talked about the Knights Templar, native traditions, and even Atlantis.  I didn’t hold back on the wisdom.  If it was right for the talk, I said it.  People of all religions seemed to enjoy and accept what I said, which surprised me.  I started to understand how the truth on any subject does cut through the bullshit like a knife.  It unites us.  It seemed as if people forgot their beliefs for the hour that we hung out together each day.

 

Lesson 1

I stayed around after my talks for private conversations or questions; people usually lined up to talk to me.  Lots of them wanted to recruit me into their religion.  They would wine and dine me, give me a great sales pitch about how their path was “The One,” then they’d confess that they loved their religion, but it could use a little tweaking.  If I would come on board perhaps I could help them make it right.  I realized that people often believe that they can’t leave their religion, but they aren’t blind to its flaws.  They deeply want to improve it.  Of course, as a reader of this blog, you know that you can’t fix anything in the illusion.  The True Self lives outside the illusion.  To get to the truth, we must let go of the false, including false religion.  While I did say “No” to those offers, I learned a lot about religions.

 

Lesson 2

While on a repositioning cruise from Barcelona to Dubai, I gave nine talks, about Greece, Egypt, and Dubai, which were very popular.  The talks were early in the morning, but they were well attended; no one fell asleep.  I had an audience that speakers dream about.

One elderly woman came in early every day.  She always sat in the back.  The last day, she introduced herself to me.  She told me that she was 92 years old.  She snuck out of her room each morning while her husband was still asleep to attend my talks.  She attended every one.  She smiled at me, took my hand, and said, “All my life people told me that I was stupid.  I believed them.  But you talked about some very complex topics, and I followed every minute of them.  I’ve never been so happy.  I think about these presentations all day long.  Today while listening, I realized that I’m not stupid.”  We hugged and cried.  I explained to her that by some miracle, she had retained access to her truth even when no one else saw it.  What she couldn’t learn was knowledge, which was worthless anyway.  She told me that if she died tomorrow, she’d die knowing she was a wise woman.  She inspired me and still does.  When I feel that I just can’t do this work anymore, I think of her.

 

Lesson 3

One day, I was explaining the astrological symbolism behind the Sun God.  The sun was the metaphor for God because it was perceived as eternal, gave light and warmth, and was unconditional in its giving.  It didn’t care what race, culture, or tribe you were from.  It didn’t judge you as good or evil.  Everyone received it’s gifts.  It’s an amazing metaphor, and shows that the ancient people were wise.  They simply weren’t civilized or learned.  But wisdom trumps knowledge every time.

Civilization replaced the Garden of Eden, created a new God with laws, and made earlier people into barbarians.  The illusion was born.

In my talk, I explained how meaningful the Sun metaphor is today.  It’s a reminder of the power of unconditional love.  After the talk, a woman came up to me.  She said, “Could you please explain to me what unconditional love feels like?  I don’t think I’ve ever felt it.”  I tried different metaphors that often work — children, pets — she got that right away.  But then she looked down, paused, and qualified her statement.  In a soft voice, she said, “I mean what does it feel like when you receive it from another?”  I had to confess, I too didn’t really know.  I’d never felt it from another either.  But I’d felt it inside myself.  She brought up a sad reality.  Most of us haven’t received unconditional love.  Society has replaced it with romance, care taking, and lust.  In fact, to most people unconditional love feels bad because it threatens that which is false inside of them.  Unconditional love dissolves that which isn’t true.  And for those who want to hold on to their beliefs, it’s the enemy.

 

These wonderful people planted seeds in my mind giving birth to many of the techniques I offer today.  Everything I write about and share is designed to get us back to our True Self — the place of unconditional love, wisdom, and unity.  Regardless of our religion or culture, if we’re honest, we all seek the True Self.  We think we lost it; we’re told we left it in Eden.  That’s a lie.  Our True Self still shines just like the sun; it’s immortal, universal, light, warm, and completely unconditional.