How Roles Affect Letting Go (Part II – Feminine Role)

Masculine Role

By Cathy Eck


Feminine Role

In the Feminine Role, we let go of the beliefs that our authorities/experts impose on us.

We act as their reflection until we let go. 


Read the above words related to the feminine role.  See why no one wants to be feminine?  When roles were created by the patriarchy, they modeled the masculine after the sun.  The feminine role was modeled after the moon, which is nothing without the sun’s reflection.

Positive thinking, affirmations, even logic, etc. don’t work for the feminine role because the feminine role doesn’t appear to have power to change their mind.  Often, as a feminine reflection, we don’t hear any words or beliefs; we only feel the emotion related to the belief.  People often say, “I can’t find the causal beliefs.  I just feel endless emotions.”  That means they’re stuck deep in a feminine role.  They’re the effect of an authority’s beliefs.

Psychology was mostly developed by men.  When therapists view projection, they believe that everyone projects.  But when we’re in the feminine role, we don’t project, we receive.  If you want to drive someone insane, tell them they’re projecting when they’re actually receiving your projection.  It feels like you’re in the movie Gaslight.  We’ll search our mind endlessly to find out how we’re projecting and won’t find the answer.  In a moment of personal desperation, I decided to follow my emotions.  Eventually, I ended up at the causal belief in what felt like the person’s mind who played the masculine role and said I was projecting on them.  Could I let this go?  Did I have the right to let go of what appeared to be his thought?  Damn right, I did, and then I felt relief like I ‘d never felt before.  I’d accidentally discovered the secret to letting go from the feminine role.


Confusing Masculine Program

There’s a confusing program that exists in almost every masculine false mind (we all have one).  When the masculine role is projecting, they often blame the feminine role for what they are doing.  For example, I had someone say that I rejected them.  I didn’t think I rejected them, but they were sure I did.  After I understood this false-self pattern and roles, I saw that they were rejecting me while telling me I was rejecting them.  Once you can recognize this pattern, you’ll find your sanity level goes up dramatically.

The means to exit feminine roles was hidden because people in masculine roles need the feminine to be powerless so they have a nice projection screen for their shadow.  They won’t let us off the hook; we must let ourself off the hook.  

At first, this feels strange almost like you’re cheating or doing something devious.  That’s part of the trap; you have every right to delete anything you want from your mind.  It often feels like you’ve gone into another person’s mind.  But you’re actually still within your own masculine mind aspect, which has become the mirror image of the mind of the person in the masculine role.

Freedom from feminine roles requires using your emotions as they were designed.  As long as the feminine role thinks they’re flawed because they have emotions, they’re stuck.  When people in feminine roles realize that their emotions will lead them to the causal belief, and they can let that belief go, they have power.  Real power.  Nothing is incurable or impossible once we realize this.  The feminine regains it’s power over everyone and everything.  The masculine role loses its competitive advantage; it’s exposed.


The Process

First, we witness (watch) our emotions (not wallow in them).  The emotion is our feminine mind aspect within the illusion.  It’s the reflection or effect of the masculine false self.  So as we witness the emotion, we’re actually following the emotion to the causal belief.  Eventually, you’ll hear beliefs arise, and those are causal beliefs. Let them go even if they seem absolutely true.  Keep doing this until there’s no more emotion.  Sometimes the causal beliefs feel like they’re in our mind.  Other times, it will feel as if we’ve left our mind and entered the mind of the person in the masculine role.  Clairvoyants see this as cords of energy between the cause and effect.  Remember, we’ve actually never left our own mind.  You’ll see this with practice.

I usually address the beliefs I want to let go in words.  I’d say, “This belief doesn’t feel good (since I feel emotions), it isn’t true, so I’m letting go of my father’s belief that I’m lazy.”  That is how I do it.  There are no magic words.  I’m simply reminding myself of the truth — beliefs that generate emotion are false.  When we realize the belief isn’t true, it goes.  Other people use visualization or other words.  How you remove the belief is up to you.  Be creative; use your strengths.

Letting go from the feminine role doesn’t just improve our life, it improves the world.  But it does take practice, courage, willingness, and time.  As you get proficient, you can remove causal beliefs you accepted from any authority in your past or present.  If you feel like you’ve lived past lives, you can even take the causal belief out of yourself or others in the other life.  I used to do this in hypnotherapy sessions.  Now I teach people to do it themselves consciously.

Be patient!  The first time I did this, it probably took an hour or more before I heard the causal belief.  I decided that I was going to sit my ass down and follow the emotion until it took me to the cause.  I was willing to sit for days if necessary.  Fortunately it didn’t take that long.  When you succeed, you won’t believe the relief you’ll feel.

When we find the cause of our emotions and remove it, the emotions no longer have a purpose.  They disappear.  We become peaceful and calm.  We feel like a small part of us was reborn.



The Dark Side of Positive Thinking

People run toward the light, the positive, like a moth to the flame

People run to the light and the positive like moths to a flame. Like the moth, they often get burned.

By Cathy Eck


Positive Thinking Often Leads to Denial

Imagine that you have a spare room that is filled with junk.  There is stuff piled everywhere.  Cleaning this room is going to be quite a job.  You stand at the doorway looking at the room, and suddenly you notice one small space that is clean.  You realize that it feels good to look at that tiny space, and so you focus your attention on it.  In fact, every time you look in the room, you ignore the mess and stare at that one tiny, clean space.  Avoiding the dirt causes you to feel good, but you never notice what needs cleaning.  If you don’t see the junk, you will never have a clean room.


The positive thinking movement has given birth to many who like to look at the one clean space while the rest of the room stays cluttered.  It has produced people who are blind to their own dirt.  Such a perspective is very appealing to our false self.  The false self doesn’t want to be exposed.  It is composed of worthless junk, beliefs that keep us from being our True Self.


The True Self Wants to Feel Good All the Time

Our true Self doesn’t just want to feel good only when it looks at the few places in our lives that work.  It wants to feel good all the time, no matter what we are doing.


So if we are going to have a room or mind that is completely clean, we must look at what is dirty.  That doesn’t mean that we should wallow in the negative.  We would not jump in the dirt in the room and sit in it all day — that would not be very productive.  Likewise, worry, wallowing in our feelings, self-pity, or fear are just not effective.


In our very dirty room, we have to momentarily give our attention to each piece of junk, notice that it doesn’t belong in the room, and then remove it.  It isn’t that painful if we know that it can be removed.  And the job is achievable if we remove one item at a time.  Eventually, we are finished with the job.


On the other hand, if we look at the room, notice the dirt, and believe that it can never be removed, we will become very depressed.  We will feel hopeless and want to run away from our problem.  All the willpower in the world won’t get us to clean that room if we are depressed and convinced we can’t do it.  The same is true of our minds.  When our beliefs have cluttered our mind with lies, we can’t see the truth; in fact, we see clearing our mind as unachievable.  We are just not motivated to tackle the job.


Humans are Naturally Positive

We are naturally positive.  Just like our room is clean once we remove all the dirt, our mind is positive when we remove the beliefs that block our True Self.  The way to accomplish what appears like a very big job is to remove one belief at  a time.  Each time we notice a belief, realize that it does not serve us or anyone else, and let it go, our mental room becomes a bit cleaner until one day all that is left is our True Self.


Want to read more on this subject…Read Positive Thinking Versus Letting Go