When Letting Go Doesn’t Appear to Work

When Letting Go Doesn't appear to work

By Cathy Eck

 

Often, people fear that letting go isn’t working because they’re not getting physical results.  Letting go is all about creating a mental shift.  Physical changes are a bi-product of letting go, not the purpose of it.  Always keep score based on your mental state.  Does your mind feel more clear?  Are you more at peace?  Do you recognize that your emotions are helping you discriminate?

Related to this issue are questions like these.  “How does one know if they’ve let go?”  “How does letting go happen?”  “Help me, Cathy, I don’t know what to let go.”

 

Letting Go Always Works

If we have no beliefs, we can’t create a false experience.  Our problems, pain, and emotions remind us to let go; but they don’t often tell us what to let go.  Let me give you an example.

Someone has a disease that a medical doctor has labeled “incurable.”  They believe doctors cure disease.  They also have a belief that diseases are true and given to us by God as lessons or punishment.  Their mother thinks they’re bad because they’re gay.  They believe their mother is their authority.   So they think their disease is punishment for being gay.  This represents a complex of beliefs.  Their disease won’t leave until they let go of most of this complex.  If they hold on to any of these false beliefs, that belief can provide the platform for their disease to continue to thrive.

If we discriminate, we’ll feel emotion when we think any of the above statements.  Complexes can be very tricky.  Lots of subtext will arise as we let go of beliefs that we’ve considered true in the past.  We might hear voices that try to get us to feel guilt or shame for letting such things go.  We might fear loneliness if we make ourselves too different.  The voices might say that letting go isn’t working; it will try to get us to fix the effect of the problem or look for a rescuer.  It isn’t just the directly-obvious beliefs that cause our problems.  Consequently, I push people who want their life to change to let go of everything.

You can’t screw this up.  You can’t let go of the truth.

 

Did I Really Let Go?

If we really let go, we won’t think the belief again.  More important, we won’t be looking for an answer to our problem or someone to save us from it.  We also won’t be trying to keep the problem away with prayers, lucky incantations, or superstitions.  It can take a lot of work to get to the free perspective.  But when we completely let something go, we don’t have to do it ever again.

We’ll forget we ever had the problem.  It feels like we dreamed it.

You can’t fake letting go.  You either did it or you didn’t.  Lots of teachers, gurus, politicians, and speakers appear to be very spiritual, unemotional, and free; but we only see them in the masculine role.  They’re always on stage or in the pulpit.  We look up to these people, which lifts them up to false heights.  Then we live in their shadow, and their shadow isn’t pretty.  We think there’s something wrong with us.

If one is playing a masculine role, they’re free of a belief when they no longer see it in themselves or those who are feminine to them.  If they’re a preacher who sees sinners, the sinner is still suppressed in them.  If they’re a teacher who has stupid or bad students, the judgment of stupidity or disobedience is within their mind.  The challenge of the masculine role is to never give beliefs to others or project beliefs on them.

However, if we’re playing a feminine role, we’ve submitted our creative authority to others who appear superior to us.  We must be careful that we don’t blindly believe these authorities.  In the feminine role, we’re constantly challenged by others who think they know what’s true for us.  The challenge of the feminine role is to feel, discriminate, and never blindly make another’s words our truth.

 

Roles Are Key

As you can see, roles are played in reverse in the illusion.  Those in masculine roles believe it’s their duty to tell others what to believe.  Parents, teachers, doctors, politicians, and clergy all tell others what to believe.  They think we don’t know the truth; we have to learn it.  Likewise, we’re taught to blindly believe authority, even when what they say feels bad.  We’re forced to respect people who don’t deserve respect.

These two psychological reversals are at the core of the whole illusion deception.  That deception causes all the suffering, poverty, pain, and disease on this planet.  None of it would exist if people did three things:

1) Didn’t believe anything another said that felt bad (feminine role).  They trusted their emotions over authority.

2) Never imposed or projected a belief on another (masculine role).

3)  Let go of all second-cause beliefs that they’ve accepted from others in the past.  Second cause beliefs contain judgment — good/evil, right/wrong, superior/inferior, etc.

That’s it.  Number three takes time.  Sadly, it isn’t done in a weekend workshop.  But we all have the ability to do it.  To let go of the illusion is the greatest service we can provide the planet and others.  It doesn’t even cost a thing.

It’s painful to see how many beliefs we’ve accepted.  Exiting the illusion is like finding our way out of a labyrinth; we must let go of what doesn’t work so we can find what does.  If we’re still clinging to our past practices and techniques that haven’t worked, we won’t find the exit.

Letting go, unlike other practices, has an end.  Letting beliefs go reveals our True Self.  If the process appears slow or ineffective, it’s because the false self still has too much power.  Be persistent; let go of whatever you can.  In time, you’ll be rewarded with the revelation of your True Self — pure freedom.

 

Roles: When the Masculine Pretends to Be Feminine

leadership:  Masculine and feminine roles

By Cathy Eck

 

More About Roles

This post is a continuation of our discussion of the nature of  masculine and feminine roles within the illusion.  When we understand the illusion, we can get free of it if we choose to do so.  The illusion isn’t part of our True Self.  We can drop it and forget it; and we won’t miss a thing.  If we believe the illusion is true; however, we’ll perpetuate it whether we know it or not.

Roles are the kingpin of the illusion.  To let them go, we first understand roles mentally; then we learn to feel our way out of roles using our emotions as our guide.  Letting go of our masculine mind is completely different from letting go when we’re stuck in the feminine mind.  We all must learn how to do both since we all have a masculine and feminine mind aspect.

If our masculine mind or intellect is filled with beliefs, it will be weak.  When we play a masculine role, we’ll be a weak leader.  We’re all weak leaders until we let our beliefs go.  Weak leaders use physical force, manipulation, fear, lying, or omission to get their way.  They’re very competitive, and they’re stuck in being right.

If our masculine mind is weak (because it’s filled with beliefs), and we’re playing a feminine role, we’ll be stuck living with weak leaders who abuse us mentally, physically, or emotionally.  Nevertheless, even in the most hopeless of feminine roles, we can gain our freedom if we strengthen our OWN inner masculine mind.  We do that by letting go of OUR OWN beliefs, not putting more beliefs in.  As the masculine aspect of our mind becomes free and loving, we gain true power; we move above our abusers energetically; they stop abusing, go away, or give us what we deserve.

 

Masculine in the Beginning

In the beginning, the leader or master (masculine role) had all the power and responsibility.  The followers had no power and no responsibility other than obedience to the wants and needs of the leader; they played a slave role.  Obviously, the master role appears to be a much more rewarding role.  However, when we accept either role within the illusion, we actually accept both roles within our OWN mind.  We can only play one role at a time.

Masculine-dominant minds (or people in authority) project their unattractive roles out on to other people who have the mindset to play those roles.  They appear more powerful than they actually are.  People with feminine-dominant minds end up playing roles they don’t want to play.  They wonder how in the hell they got tricked.  Often the authority tells them God gave them that problem or role; they just have to accept what is.  Bullshit!

If we project out the slave role and play the master role, we appear to have more power over our life and choices.  We could let go of all roles completely and gain freedom; but most fear they’ll become a slave if they do that.  On the other hand, if we strongly identify with the slave role, we feel powerless to gain our freedom.

Most people believe the illusion is true so they just want a masculine role; they want their beliefs to be the right ones.  They want power and authority.

Occasionally people move out of the slave role and into the master role.  That looks like freedom, but it isn’t.  They generally succeed by fighting, having a superior talent, or outsmarting the master.  The prize is the masculine role; but now they’re the target.  Others will try to defeat them.  This is the nature of the masculine illusory game.

 

Most Clever Trick  

The masculine mind eventually developed a clever trick because it wanted the power and rewards of the masculine role but not the responsibility.  Masculine leaders started to behave in feminine and caring ways while masking their uncaring, self-serving, or weak beliefs (the cause of all problems).  They would blame others for their failures.  However, they still took full credit for their successes.  Oddly, if you study Plato’s legend of Atlantis, it’s the trick that supposedly caused it’s final destruction.  The story has a good lesson for us.

When people in masculine roles pretend to be victims and avoid responsibility, things get destroyed, problems multiply, and nothing comes to completion.  We can’t fix the problem if we can’t find the cause.  It’s like blaming the wrong person and sending them to jail.  It doesn’t fix anything; the real criminal is still running free.

The majority of people don’t see that they’re living a role projected on them by some person in a masculine mindset or role (not God).  In fact, the person they often run to for belief reinforcement, vote into office, or pay to fix an undesired effect is almost always the cause of their problem.

The ancient initiates taught us that the cause of a problem is always in the mind of the person in the masculine role (the authority or leader).  These false leaders affect us when we accept their beliefs.  We store their beliefs in our own masculine minds.  Then we go looking for answers in the wrong places.

When a leader is ineffective, it’s because they still hold old beliefs.  Weak leaders tend to hold a very Old Testament view of God and life; that doesn’t work anymore.  People are becoming smart enough to realize that the Old Testament God sounds too human.  Unconditional love (God) doesn’t punish or hurt; nor does it make us obey laws that are not win-win for everyone.

The goal of life is to escape the illusion.  We each have a masculine and feminine mind aspect that’s meant for giving and receiving gifts, wisdom, and love.  If we escape the illusion in our own mind, we become a true leader in our own big or small piece of the world.  According to Plato, that’s how we avoid destroying our world and our life.