I Want Freedom BUT I Already Fixed That

Freedom from emotions

By Cathy Eck

 

People are becoming more and more aware of the illusion; they hide from it, vent about it, or feel like they’re stuck in a prison with no parole.  No wonder so many people are depressed.  Others fight the illusion or rebel against it, but they never win.  Why are we so afraid of this giant cartoon?

You see, if we’re bothered by another person’s illusion, it has taken up residence in our OWN mind.  Freedom is about destroying the beliefs in OUR mind that have cast us into roles in other people’s illusions.  We must realize that their illusion can’t affect us if we don’t believe it.  If we believe that we MUST fix another person or get them to see they’re wrong so we can be free, we still share their belief.  The more we let go, the more clear this becomes.

 

Fear Rules the Illusion

Letting go allows us to see that we’re all victims of the illusion; we’re not really victims of each other.  If we’re getting something we don’t want from another or from life, we believe that what we got is real or true; or we believe that the person who cast us in the feminine role has power over us.  Getting free requires using our emotions to go inside our mind and find our causal beliefs.

People want guns because they fear other people are bad and could harm them.  People join religions because they fear their soul was stained — they want a better afterlife or next life.  People adopt diets, exercise routines, or practices because they fear death, aging, weight problems, or illness.  People follow authority because they fear punishment.  People take jobs they hate because they fear being without money or believe they need the benefits.  Most of our doing is simply to counteract fear and paranoia.  It’s not creative.

Paranoia and fear make us vulnerable to clever marketing.  In fact, we can often see our beliefs by looking at what we’re tempted to buy.  We wouldn’t want to fix the problem if we didn’t still believe we had it.  You can be sure that the minute we fix one illusory fear, someone will find something else to scare the shit out of us  Then they sell us yet another product or service.  We win when we no longer believe we need anything from another — that’s freedom.

The True Self has no emotion because it holds no beliefs; the false self is filled with beliefs and emotions.  Emotions are the effect, not the cause.  So if we think we need a gun, we need to look at the beliefs causing our fear of other people.  If we think we need religion, we need to follow our fear of sin to the causal religious beliefs.  If we think we need our partner to spend more time with us, we must follow our emotion to our loneliness.  If we think we need a food or exercise regimen, we should follow our fear of illness or fat to find the causal beliefs that were probably learned from an expert.  As we let go, we’re relieving the experts, which have ruled our lives, of their duty.

Often we think that mental solutions fix the cause.  We’re attracted to spiritual teachers, mental techniques, and practices like positive thinking, visualization, meditation, yoga, Tai chi, EFT, new religions, hypnosis, or NLP because they seem to put new and improved beliefs in our mind or relieve our emotions.  Sometimes we grasp a moment of clear sight, which causes us to let go.  But that is rare and often not easily repeatable.  We eventually grow tired of these techniques too.  Now we’re ready to let go.

By the time that we realize this, we’re often exhausted.  We’ve tried so many things.  We have no desire to do much of anything; and that’s good.  We’re finally tired of fixing problems.   Fortunately, it doesn’t take physical energy to let go.  But it takes desire, persistence, and courage.  Then we see the horrible truth.  We meet all the things we thought we fixed because we didn’t fix the cause; we fixed the effects.  That’s a real “Oh FUCK!” moment.  It looks like we’re going backwards before we can go forward; this causes many people to quit letting go before they even get started unless they understand what’s going on.

 

Getting to Freedom

To get to freedom, we have to heighten our awareness of our own mental processing by witnessing our thinking.  We observe what we’re driven to do and constantly ask ourselves why we’re doing it.  We stop living on automatic.  We must get painfully honest with ourselves; and stop looking for others to fix our emotions and problems.  And we must stop fixing the emotions and problems of others.

“Why?” becomes our best friend.  Why am I feeling that I need to do this, be this, or want this?  Why do I think I need this product, practice, or person?  The answer points to the cause; and it won’t feel good.  But you now know that you were doing all that work or spending all that money only to fix a stupid belief that didn’t even feel good.

We have to realize that every time we fix the effect, we give the causal belief more power.   And that’s why we often feel so much emotion when we stop fixing the effects.  We’ve been covering that emotion with products, practices, or practitioners for a long time.  It’s like going cold turkey with an addiction.  Actually, the biggest addiction on this planet is fixing the effects of our beliefs to eliminate our emotional discomfort.  Nearly everyone has that addiction.   We thought we desired the thing that fixes the effect, but all those emotions were just begging us to remove the causal belief.  When we remove the false belief, the false desire disappears as well.  We won’t see that particular problem again.

 

 

Blame, Shame, and Guilt: The Illusion’s Superglue

Blame, Shame, Guilt

By Cathy Eck

 

Most of us have been taught to take the blame for things that we didn’t cause when we were stuck in feminine roles.  We’ve been guilted or shamed; and we’ve been taught to please others, especially authority, even if their demands are ridiculous.

Blame, shame, and guilt are the Superglue of the illusion.  They don’t exist in the true world.  Therefore, with some discrimination and wisdom, we can free ourselves from them.

 

Blame

In the true world, there are no roles.  But roles dominate our social structure (the illusion), and that isn’t a problem as long as we honor the natural flow of the energy in the illusory roles we play.  Blame involves a reversal of the natural flow of masculine and feminine roles.

Normally, the masculine energy (intellect) holds the beliefs, and the feminine energy reflects those beliefs.  In blame, the masculine energy says that the cause of the problem lies with the person or people playing the feminine role.  Or sometimes, the person in the masculine role blames another masculine role (like Obama and Bush/Romney).

If we are in a feminine role in the illusion, we cannot be blamed unless the leader wasn’t really leading.  If the masculine role is leading from truth as it should, nothing bad can go wrong.  When things go wrong, it’s the leader’s belief that’s the cause, not the follower’s reflection of the belief.

Only the person in the masculine role can drop the causal belief.  The emotions and wild behavior, that often occurs in the people in the feminine role, are the effect of the false beliefs of the masculine.  When the mind of the authority changes, their feminine reflection changes.  To fix the feminine is to fix the effect.  To blame the feminine is to blame the effect.  It doesn’t make any sense.  But we accept this reversed way of thinking because we’ve been trained to.  Everyone in the illusion is breaking their own mirror.

If you blame the feminine, you can’t solve the problem.  The feminine doesn’t have the responsibility; it’s not the cause.  The child can’t fix their parent’s belief.  The employee can’t fix their CEO’s vision.  Church members can’t fix their preacher’s mind.  Citizens can’t fix their leader’s flawed perspective.  The feminine can leave when they’ve had enough, or they can let go and become the masculine.   Fighting (or war) happens when the feminine has had enough and tries to take the power back from the masculine. Crimes are often committed against someone who reminds the criminal of their hated masculine authority.  To fix problems, the authority, masculine role, must take responsibility, fix their own mental cause, and everything will go back to perfection.  But that almost never happens in the illusion.

Early Bible stories trained our western mind to reverse our natural cause and effect thinking.  Eve (feminine) got blamed for the fall.  Moses (masculine) blames his people (feminine).  When you understand the masculine-feminine relationship in the illusion, you can’t be fooled into taking the blame any longer.

This is also true within ourselves.  When something goes wrong in our life, the cause is in our intellectual masculine mind.  Our emotions are only the messenger — we should never shoot the messenger.  If we let go of our own causal beliefs, our emotions will calm down immediately.  But often our own inner mental masculine, just like outer physical masculine authorities, wants to be right at all cost.

 

Guilt and Shame

Guilt and shame are given to us by authority figures (masculine roles).  No one is born with guilt or shame.

These two emotional states can be difficult to let go because someone else imposed them on us.  Our mind says that we can’t let guilt or shame go; the authority must free us.  Since we’re lower in power (feminine) than the authority (masculine), we think that we don’t have the right or ability to remove the causal belief.  This is a disgusting trick of the false mind.  It can keep us stuck for a whole lifetime.

The True Self is not capable of doing anything wrong because right and wrong comes from the false self.  If we did make mistakes (sins), we did so because we were caught in the illusion, a false self.  We didn’t want a false self; our authorities gave it to us when they taught us their beliefs and said they were true.  Our false self was created in the image and likeness of our false authority figures.

I’ve followed many people’s guilt and shame back to the source; they all lead to a really powerful, but rigid, authority figure (usually religious).  Crime is not caused by evil people.  Crime is caused by the religious-perpetuation of the belief in good and evil and right and wrong. We see it because we believe in it.

 

Freeing Our Mind

In my experience, and I’ve done this hundreds of times, the person who is blaming, shaming, or guilting was projecting their responsibility, negative character trait, or belief on to the person in the feminine role.  Once we take the blame, shame, or guilt, they have no reason to ever fix their problem.  Their mind feels a sort of fake freedom.  That’s why when we let their projection go, they often react with lots of emotion.  That’s their problem. When you drop blame, shame, or guilt from your mind, your True Self can breath again.

If you are someone who thinks others should be blamed or shamed or guilted, you probably aren’t reading this blog.  But just in case you are, remember that when you point the finger at another, three fingers are pointing back at you.  The cause is within your mind; and if you let go, they won’t reflect you anymore.  Letting go is always win-win for everyone.

Seeing Events from the True Self Perspective

The True Self Perspective

By Cathy Eck

 

Letting Go

Letting go is so very simple … too simple for our complicated, modern minds.  People analyze their mind, talk about it, and contemplate it.  Those are tools that fuel the false self.  You can’t fix the false mind, you have to let it go.

You can’t get to the True Self perspective by way of the false self.   No belief system will take you to your True Self.  The True Self has no beliefs.  At best, belief systems create a nice clone of the True Self.

If you want complete, permanent freedom, you must let go of the false mind.  To do that you must know this:

All beliefs are lies (the word lie is buried within the word belief for a reason). Beliefs that are judgmental or harmful to yourself or another generate emotion.  That emotion is saying, “Let the belief go.”

 

When you let go of beliefs, only the True Self perspective remains.  All emotional charge is gone because you’ve eliminated the false.  If you are ill, healing can now take place.

 

An Example

It’s rarely the big events in our life that confuse us — those are obviously wrong.  It’s the little events that often trap us in the false world of beliefs.

When I was about four years old, my grandparents were driving on a Sunday afternoon; they stopped by our home unexpected.  My mother had planned a simple dinner; but now that my father’s parents were visiting, she got out the china and made a nice dinner.  However, she didn’t have anything for dessert because we didn’t usually eat dessert.  She whipped up some Jello; and when she served it, my grandmother said, “Jello, that isn’t dessert!”

My dad was dumbfounded, and my mother ran off crying.  I sympathized with my mother — big mistake.  I rubbed her back and talked to her like I was the mother and she the child.

I’d often contemplated that moment with lots of whys.  Why did my grandmother say that?  Why did my grandmother’s comment upset my mother so much?  Why didn’t my father defend my mother?  Why did it still bother me decades later?

The answer to the last question is that I hadn’t yet seen the memory from the True Self perspective.  We hold memories in mind, along with the emotions they generate, until we see them from the True Self perspective — free of beliefs.  If a memory has no beliefs, it has no emotion.  It feels like a dream when we think it.  It has no future attracting power.

 

Slow Motion

I went back to the event and replayed it in very slow motion.  I didn’t try to fix the event or change it…it was what it was.  I saw it this time with the single eye of truth.  My grandmother said, “Jello, that isn’t dessert.”  That felt neutral to me and probably to my dad.  My mother, however, heard the same words and a belief arose in her mind that generated emotion.

My mother was now deep in psychological reversal.  She went into an old pattern of low self-worth, not good enough for my dad, or just plain bad.  What she was thinking clearly felt bad to her, but she took that emotion as a sign that her belief was true.  That error in her thinking was the cause of all her pain.  It’s the primal error that keeps the illusion alive in all of us.

As a four-year old, I believed my mother; so I fell into her illusion with her.  Sympathy does that — that’s why it’s considered good in the illusory world.  My fall into her illusion was the cause of my emotional pain.

At the time, my mind said, “My grandmother hurt my mother.”  I believed it as a child.  But now, it didn’t feel good, so I let it go.  Remember letting go is moving out of right and wrong so this isn’t about whether Jello is or isn’t a dessert or whether my grandmother was socially correct.  In truth, my grandmother spoke words and triggered an old wound in my mother.  In truth, my grandmother didn’t hurt my mother, she exposed a belief in my mother.

Then I thought, “Why didn’t my father defend my mother?”  Now I noticed that under my question was a judgment that he should have defended her; that felt bad too.  All should’s feel bad.  Defending isn’t necessary for a True Self.  If my mother wasn’t lost in her baggage, she probably would have laughed and said, “I’ve got your fat son on a diet.”  Then my dad would have had to deal with his beliefs.  At which point, he’d probably have pointed out that my grandmother already had enough dessert on her fat ass.  Everyone at the table had wounds, and it was only a matter of who’s wound got exposed first.

In most situations, the one who blows the fuse is the one with the most inward-directed beliefs because they’re the most sensitive.  We often call them the black sheep.

If my mother had desired freedom (instead of looking good), she would have used that exposure to find her own emotional pain’s causal belief.  My grandmother exposed her wound; she didn’t cause it.  She did, however, have responsibility for the Jello since she created a chubby son.

The voice that says “You hurt me,” is from the false self.  The True Self knows that if something that someone says feels bad, it just isn’t true.  The person who said it isn’t evil, they’re just stuck in a false belief system.  Thus if you get rid of the false self, you no longer believe other false selves.

This little example shows how we undo our psychological reversals.  Once I let go of my OWN erroneous beliefs, I could see the memory clearly.  Now I saw the simple solution that my wounded family couldn’t see — the Dairy Queen at the top of the hill.

Following Your North Star by Aligning the Masculine and Feminine Roles

Following North Star

By Cathy Eck

 

When I first got involved in this work, I realized that the ancient people saw masculine and feminine as mental concepts.  This felt peculiar at first.  In modern society, we associate masculine and feminine with physical bodies. But I felt there was something very important to discover in accepting the ancient point of view.

I now see that understanding the masculine-feminine connection is key to following our North Star.  It keeps us on our path and helps us discriminate in a world where everything is upside down.

 

Masculine and Feminine Review

In the beginning, the world was Eden-like. People were in touch with their True Selves.  Our True Self is androgynous, unified, and doesn’t have beliefs. We could live eternally from the True Self, and enjoy pure, calm feelings all the time.  But we wanted to create; so we invented the mind.

While the True Self (God Self) is shared by all, the false self (which lives in our mind) isn’t shared.  This is purposeful.  Our minds are our creative palettes.  Each artist has a different palette, and each individual creator has a separate mind.  (See the post about minds as individual containers.)

Masculine energy was naturally giving, assertive, yang, and outward (just like the male sexual organ).  Ideally male energy was like the sun; it unconditionally gave without expecting anything in return.  It gave us what we needed — light and warmth.  It supported growth.  That was our True Self masculine role model.

Feminine energy was absorbing, yin, and inward, like the earth; the earth absorbed the sun’s rays to produce vegetation.  Receiving/absorbing became associated with the True Self feminine role model.

The roles that we play mirror these macrocosmic concepts.  The masculine role was designed as the giving role, such as teacher, doctor, clergy, employer, or parent.  The feminine role was the receiving role, such as student, patient, employee, or child.  The role doesn’t always match the person’s sex.

If the person in the masculine role is like the sun and gives truth, unconditional love, and joy, the people in the feminine roles are creative.  Things grow perfectly.  If the masculine leader believes in good-evil, dominance-submission, right-wrong, or win-lose, then the feminine becomes emotional or what is often labeled bitchy.  The false masculine causes the feminine to move from absorbing like the earth to reflecting like the moon; absorbing the false masculine’s beliefs would destroy her.

A good leader corrects his mind when he sees his nasty reflection; he’ll let go of his false beliefs.  Everything returns to perfection.  If the leader needs to be right or defends his beliefs, then the people in the feminine role will become more and more emotional.  They must; they’re simply the leader’s bad reflection.

 

The North Star

Many people are now seeking an authentic life.  Their North Star is set on truth, unconditional love, peace, or freedom.  They end up an emotional wreck when they look at the world today.  I was one of those people, and I was very confused.  By resetting my North Star on truth and freedom, all the beliefs that I’d accepted from the illusion were exposed as false.  The beliefs were arising constantly so I could let them go; but I didn’t know how.  I was dying under an emotional tsunami of beliefs.

The seemingly calm people in the illusion have their North Star set on something false like getting approval, making money, or looking good.  Some set their North Star on romance, obedience, or power.  They aren’t trying to escape the illusion.  In fact, they contribute to it.

Our emotional navigation system was originally set to true and false.  If our masculine aspect thought truth, we felt good.  Emotions (feminine) signaled us only if we thought something false.

In the illusion, we set our North Star in a different direction.  We become psychologically reversed from our original setting.  We go deeper into the illusion.  But the system still works.  Once, we set our direction, our mind takes us where we want to go.  It doesn’t judge our choice of North Star.

If you’re born into a house and punished if you don’t obey, you’ll switch your North Star to match your parents’.  If you’re born into a house where making money was valued, you’ll set wealth as your North Star.  Most of us have altered the original setting of our North Star to some extent.

Let’s say you make wealth your North Star.  You’ll feel calm when you have thoughts that lead to making money; you’ll feel nervous agitation (emotion) when you fear losing money.  Someone who speaks the truth will generate emotion in you if the truth isn’t aligned with making money.  You’ll think the truth is bad.  The masculine-feminine connection works the same regardless of the direction you point it.

It isn’t bad to set your North Star toward a false desire, but you’ll accept more beliefs.  You’ll eventually pay a price for your choice because it will get you stuck in the illusion.  You’ll probably reject your True Self most of the time.  The path of the True Self is always much greener.  But no one tells us that when we’re stuck in the illusion, and we forget that we can let go.  Also, too many people make their destination the right destination, which negatively impacts others.

 

Following Your North Star

Decide the direction you want to go, and choose your North Star wisely.  Then start to think; watch your thinking and beliefs.  If your masculine intellect is thinking in alignment with your North Star, your feminine will be insightful, calm, and wise.  Your destination is assured.

You might recognize this concept as the three Wise Men following the star to Jesus, the True Self.  The false leader (Herod) couldn’t find the True Self; he had a false self North Star; his star was in the illusion.  Therefore, he wanted to kill anyone under two, meaning anyone who was still ONE.  It’s a system that’s as old as time.

The Four Levels of Relationships

relationships

By Cathy Eck

 

Level Confusion in Relationships

In many of my posts, I talk about the nemesis of initiation — level confusion.  Relationships are highly complicated by level confusion.  We view dysfunctional  relationships as normal or even good.  Unconditionally loving relationships are considered fantasy story material or boring.

The pyramid above is physically oriented.  Relationships at the bottom are much more noticeable because they create strong emotions and dangerous physical effects.  The top of the pyramid is barely visible because our bodies and minds are calm and the effects produced are pure, harmless, and lacking in drama.

 

Level 1:  Unconditionally Loving Relationships

This is where we begin our journey on earth — the True Self.  We love everyone; differences are celebrated and complementary.  No one harms another.  People are creative, joyous, and free.  Spirit, mind, and body are congruent.  This level is the goal of initiation — death of the false self; rebirth of the True Self.

When we look at the world through this spiritual or divine orientation, we focus on our own thinking and our own creating.  Our minds hold only true, undivided thoughts.  This level is perfect, but it would become boring if it was the only way we lived.  So we created level two.

 

Level 2:  Mental Relationships

In mental relationships, we create beliefs.  If we use our mind as designed, beliefs are personal or shared for purposeful co-creation.  When our creation is complete or the desired result is obtained, the beliefs were meant to be dropped.  We return to level one until we wish to create again.  This is called first-cause creation.  If we stay in first-cause creation, we remain a mental virgin — our mind is a pure, creative womb.  Our creations are win-win for everyone.  Life is joyous and free; we don’t experience problems.

However, if we create or borrow beliefs that separate us from others such as pretty versus ugly, rich versus poor, or Republican versus Democrat, we move into second-cause creation.  Second-cause beliefs contain an element of judgment, dividing us from the whole.  They’re always accompanied by emotion, which is the signal that what we’re thinking isn’t true and isn’t in our best interest.  When people learn to ignore their emotional signals, they hold on to beliefs as if they’re true.  They become half instead of whole.  They look to emotional relationships for completion, falling even further from their True Self.

 

Level 3:  Emotional Relationships

Most emotional relationships are labeled chemistry or romance.  But they also occur between people who are like-minded in beliefs (especially religious or political).  Beliefs cause us to feel alone and separate; emotional relationships seem to fix that separation.

Emotional relationships are usually held together by seemingly positive emotions such as romance, hope, excitement, and pride.  These are the most damaging emotions.  They pull us right into the illusion and hold us there.

All emotions are signals from our True Self that we’re creating with second-cause beliefs.  It’s as if we’re now running on limited battery power instead of unlimited electric current.  Consequently, emotional relationships last only because the fear of leaving outweighs the emotional pain of staying.  Death provides a welcome ending when our battery power runs out.

In emotional relationships, we feel connected when we’re with the one or ones who complete us.  Outsiders threaten our fragile beliefs and seeming connection.  Group power is false power that pretends to be real power.

Letting go of emotional relationships requires finding the causal belief that got us into the relationships.  We must move up to level two, find the second-cause belief, and let it go.  People often fear losing codependent emotional relationships and miss the opportunity to become whole or to experience higher level relationships.

Emotional relationships feel powerful because emotions create drama and the ups and downs of excitement.  Over time, emotions create disease and problems, which often unite us in yet another dysfunctional way.  Sadly, our creative power is diminished at this level.  Life eventually pulls us down into opposition.

 

Level 4:  Opposition in Relationships

The bottom level of the relationship pyramid is opposition.  It’s the foundation of the physical illusion.  People, who live completely within their false self, view this level as the truth.  Religion invented this world of opposites spiced with judgment — I’m good; you’re evil.  Business and gaming entered the picture — I win; you lose.  Moral and social behavior was defined — I’m right; you’re wrong.  Politics got involved — I dominate; you submit.

This level is the domain of fundamentalist religions and political division resulting in war, poverty, disease, and suffering of all types.  The only way to stay alive at this level is to create second-cause beliefs that place us above others, such as being part of a chosen group.  That takes a lot of effort to sustain because others will work hard to knock us off of our fragile pedestal.

Seeing level four as true is what causes people to have an apocalyptic view of life.  They see themselves as good; those who try to knock them off their pedestal of false superiority are labeled the enemy or evil.  Many try to resolve oppositional problems by looking for someone (like a savior) or something (bigger bomb) that neutralizes all their causal beliefs.

 

The Solution

True safety and real relationship comes from dropping all second-cause beliefs.  We must move out of our false selves and allow our True Selves to lead.

We must follow our emotions to unveil our second-cause beliefs.  We take responsibility for our beliefs, let them go, and ignore the creations and beliefs of others who are lost.  This is how we regain our creative power.

If we organized the above pyramid based on creative power instead of physical power, the levels would be reversed.  Unconditional love has the most creative power.  Opposition has almost none; it’s only about survival.

Unconditional love is pure creative energy.  When the initiate reached that level, they were said to create as Gods.  Earth became their heaven.

Facing Our Fears the Initiate’s Way

Facing our fears

By Cathy Eck

 

Facing Our Fears 

There’s a popular book called, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.”  I’ve never read it, but I’ve heard plenty of people quote it.  The title says it all.

The underlying premise of “doing it anyway” is that our fears (or any emotions) have no purpose except to annoy the hell out of us. We need to get rid of them; and if we want to achieve anything in life, we need to will our fears into submission.  Personally, I think that’s an arrogant assumption.  We were all born with emotions; they obviously have a purpose.

So what should we do with fear or any other emotion?  How were we designed?

 

Initiate’s View of Facing Our Fears

The initiates saw facing our fears in a very different way.  When you understand their point of view, life gets much easier. Initiates didn’t differentiate between emotions.

Try this experiment.  Think of a situation that scared you, and feel the emotion in your body.  Now think of something that made you angry, and feel the emotion in your body.  Now think of something that excited you, and you’ll find the same emotion in your body. You might feel the emotions in a different place or with different intensity, but the feeling of all emotions is virtually the same.

The label that we place on our emotions is an intellectual decision based on the circumstances.  Our emotions don’t have labels.  So taking off the label is the first step to using our emotions correctly.  Emotions aren’t fear, anger, grief, or shame.  They are a signal that our mind needs correcting.

As you know from my other articles, emotions were considered a signal to the initiate that they were thinking wrongly (falsely).  The mind was seen as a container of thought. While we’re all connected as one at the level of the truth (True Self), our false selves were designed to be individual and separate. This was so we could all create uniquely.  Each of us could have different ideas and beliefs and experience different lives.  But as you know, people started to control what others believed.  Humans started to fear and believe authority and accept other people’s beliefs as their own.  We also accepted the belief, “If it’s true for them, it’s true for me.”  Consequently, people became connected (or one) at the false self level.  Big mistake!!!

Emotions were simply a sign from our True Self to let go of the belief that was causing the emotion.  So, from the initiates’ perspective, keeping a belief, ignoring or facing our fears, and doing it anyway was a prescription for suicide.  The initiates understood that beliefs are the cause of our life experience.  The effect is the emotional warning that such cause (belief) is leading us down the wrong path; and if we ignore that emotional warning signal, we may not like the outcome.

To complicate things more, we often think that our emotions are caused by others.  Often they are, but it’s because we believe what they’re saying.  So our emotions are still caused by us.  But retraining our mind takes effort because we were trained to believe others and obey them, especially authority figures.

 

What Do We Do With Emotions?

This sounds incredibly strange at first.  Only your True Self can understand it.  Facing our fears makes sense to our false self; it equates letting go with dying or disappearing.

It took me a long time to figure this out because my own false mind kept replaying its faulty tapes.  But I realized it didn’t hurt to try.  And when I tried it, I liked it.

Our emotions tell us when a causal thought is false.  Most of what normal people think is false.  They’d be emotional all the time so they reverse their internal system creating psychological reversal, causing them to appear unemotional.  They are mentally wired to win in the illusion, not live authentically.

If you let a causal thought go, the related emotions disappear. Imagine that you’re talking with someone who makes you very angry. The anger is caused by the fact that you believe what they said; they were simply spouting off their beliefs.  If another person tells a complete lie, you won’t get emotional unless you believe their lie.  Our bodies are designed to be magnificent lie detectors. People in power messed with our signaling systems so they could lie, and we wouldn’t know it.  Other times we’re feeling emotion as an effect of what we thought or judged about the other person.  Most people think that the emotion confirms that their judgment of the other is correct.  It’s actually proof that their judgment is false. It doesn’t matter what the person has said or done in the past, our minds are wired to help us let go of judgments and see the True Self in everyone.

 

Thoughts Matter

Most people are other directed.  To heal our minds, we must become inner directed.  The ancient Greeks said, “Know Thyself.”  They meant know your thinking — your mind.  Jesus said, “It’s not what goes into the mouth that defiles a man, but what comes out of the mouth.” He wasn’t talking about food choices or vomit.  He was talking about words.  Our words come from our mind, our thoughts, our beliefs.  Using our emotions as our guide frees our minds from beliefs and purifies our words.

Our beliefs create our reality.  When we listen to our emotions and let our beliefs go, our minds becomes free and our bodies become calm.  We have returned to the mental state from which we were born. The initiates called this being reborn of a virgin.  We begin life again, but this time we know how to stay free.

 

People also believe that life is a struggle, but that’s wrong too. If we do the right struggle by becoming mentally free, we don’t have to do the physical struggle.  Read more here.

Understanding Soft Labels and Hard Labels

Story explains our perception of the sun-moon-earth

By Cathy Eck

 

Soft Labels

In a previous post, I wrote about labels that I call soft labels.  I spoke of a dream where a mother labeled one twin happy and another twin sad.  The labels limited the twins’ life experience, but the mother wasn’t being malicious.

The mother probably didn’t realize that she was seeing two opposing aspects of her own personality reflected in her twins.  Our children take on labels and roles that often, as parents, we don’t recognize as our own projections.

Our True Self doesn’t have labels or roles.  However, our false self always sees children in a feminine role.  The masculine role asserts or gives; the feminine (or passive) role receives.   Since children have little or no power, they always play a feminine role.

Our mental programming and design came about through story; early stories related the feminine to the moon or the earth.  The sun was always the masculine God role giving light and warmth.  The feminine might be moon-like and reflect the sun’s light.  Or it could be earth-like and absorb the sun’s light.  These symbols were mental metaphors, not physical.  It is heavenly to be feminine and reflect the sun’s light and love.  But if a human sun asserts its beliefs or labels instead of love and light, its feminine will be like the moon and reflect those beliefs or be like the earth and absorb them.  She won’t be in heaven anymore.

The masculine isn’t pleased when his crap shows up in his feminine; so he blames her for dragging their asses out of heaven.  But it was the sun’s fall from love and light that caused the problem.  Beliefs are like fluorescent light compared to the sun.  They aren’t the real thing and produce minimal growth; but they can do the job of lighting the room.

As adults, we step into bigger roles.  A wife is still usually feminine to her husband.  An employee is feminine to the boss.  A slave is feminine to the master; and a patient is feminine to the doctor.  When we are in the feminine role, we hope that our sun is shining with pure white light.  But often they’re just a fluorescent bulb.

 

Hard Labels

Hard labels come from authorities with a desire for dominance.  They know the sun has power over the moon/earth; they use that power to project the negative part of the illusion on to the feminine.  This allows them to float above the illusion’s manure pile.

The person in the feminine role doesn’t detect the projection if they treat fluorescent light as if it’s sunlight.  They trust the authority (person in the masculine role) as if they are being directed by God.

As long as the feminine takes the projection and submits like a good slave, the authority is content.  But when the feminine tries to take back her power or reflects the projection, the masculine often slaps a hard label on them.

Imagine a slave who decides he deserves more food.  When he makes his case, the master says, “You’re selfish.  You think you deserve to eat like me.”  The master is the selfish one, but he projects selfishness on his feminine slave with conviction.  The slave believes the authority and backs off.  He’s been trained to do so.  This is one of the most sinister tricks of the false self.

 

The false self masculine uses labels to cause the person in the feminine position to believe that they are doing to them (masculine person) what the masculine person is actually doing to the feminine person.

Complex, confusing — welcome to the false self”s world.  So let’s look at another example.  The wife says she’s going for a walk alone.  The husband feels left out.  So he throws his baggage on her back.  He says, “You’re so demanding.”  Her feminine training kicks in and she starts to wonder, “Am I too demanding?”  In that moment of doubt, the aggressor has won; he’s created acceptance of his projected belief on his feminine target.

Another great example of label slamming was seen in the 2012 Presidential election.  The marketing pieces and debates were full of label slamming the opposition.  It’s a strategic power move to trick the opponent into accepting the slammed label and losing his power.

Once we believe a label, we become feminine to the labeler.  When we see the game, we don’t fall so easily.  When we learn to let go, the game no longer works.  This is how the feminine regains her freedom — ending slavery forever.

 

The New Leader

We need new leaders who don’t project labels into people’s minds, who help people let their labels go.  Imagine going to a doctor/healer who listens to your problem then helps you see the labels and beliefs that caused the problem.  I’ve done this many times; when a client is willing to let go of the cause, natural healing kicks in.  Imagine a lawyer that helps both parties let go of their causal beliefs resulting in true love and true justice.  Imagine a leader that sees problems in his company or nation and realizes that the problems are his own projection.  Big problems would disappear very quickly.  The problems on this planet only look big because leaders want power, and they have no power without problems.

This type of leader existed long ago.  I hope to bring this old way of leading back.  But we don’t have to wait for the big guys to step up to the plate.  We can start wherever we are.  Everyone has leadership roles even if they are very small, and we can transform our own sphere of influence — set an example.  We can share this information with others so that one day all leaders must lead the true way because the people will no longer take their projections.  The feminine will finally be free.

 

For leaders who want to learn how to step into these giant shoes…click here.

Why are Human’s So Gullible?

By Cathy Eck

What follows is a clip from The Tonight Show with Jay Leno.  Trevor Moore, a comedian, made up fake and useless inventions.  Watch the innocent people who are asked to test his products.  Would you have fallen for his trick?

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Marketing, Politics, Religion…Lies, Lies, Lies

Every day we are bombarded by marketing.  We buy things that we don’t really want.  We hope that the claims that the advertisers make are true.

We listen to politicians and hope they are telling the truth.  But do they ever tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

Recent studies claim that people don’t just lie daily, they lie hourly.  People lie about everything.  People no longer feel guilty or shameful when they lie; they only feel bad when they get caught.  Some people even feel bad when they don’t lie.

 

White Lies are Still Lies

This is a subject near and dear to me.  Growing up, I was unable to tell a lie of any color; then I married a man who was normal in the lying department.  I remember hoping that he would teach me how to communicate.  He did; over time, he convinced me that lying was socially correct.

In his eyes, I was rude and uncaring.  He saw lies as charm and kindness.  He told people what they wanted to hear even if it was complete crap. You might recognize him as a people pleaser.  People pleasers are damn good liars.  I went along with his beliefs for many years, but then I realized that I didn’t like myself anymore.

My relationships had become superficial, including my relationship with him.   When I didn’t tell the truth, I couldn’t tell if others told me the truth.  I accepted compliments that I knew were white lies.  Trying to figure out what others wanted to hear was too much work for me.

One day, I decided that I was returning to complete honesty even if it had a price.  I revamped my business around telling the truth, and my business thrived because it was my business.  But the rest of my life didn’t thrive.  I felt as if I had broken some sort of nonverbal agreement that said, “I won’t expose your lies if you don’t expose mine.”  But that isn’t relationship, at least not in my world.

 

Why Do We Lie?

I didn’t belong in that world, and I left it.  I don’t miss it at all.  Exiting from that world required me to face the reasons that I’d accepted lying as right, spiritual, or nice.  Here are a few:

1)  The truth hurts; people don’t want to hear the truth

2)  People don’t want your opinion; they want support for their opinions

3)  If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all

4)  Everybody lies

5)  Life is competitive — winner takes all

6)  You get punished if you tell the truth

7)  I hurt people if I tell them the truth

Lying has a price that people deny.  My husband believed that God wanted him to be nice, and truthful wasn’t nice.  Since everyone in his life was such a hot mess, then lying was being nice, I guess.  But lying perpetuates their mess.  Agreeing that someone is incurable doesn’t help them find a cure.  Lying keeps people stuck.

 

The Truth Does Set Us FREE

God wants us to live from truth and unconditional love.  When we lie to another or to ourself, we cut ourselves off from God.  Then we have to get from others what we would normally get from God.  We are people pleasers because we need people to like us — we are lonely because we are cut off from God.  It  is a giant circular mess.

 

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Beliefs Are an Acceptable  Form of Lying

My biggest challenge since I reverted to telling the truth is that most people don’t believe me.  The truth often sounds stranger than fiction.  The truth feels odd when we are used to hearing beliefs, which are half-truths, and lies.

On some level, people want to be lied to.  Our false self doesn’t like when our beliefs are challenged.  We were programmed to be that way.  People would rather believe for a moment that their face will lose the wrinkles from an air machine or their junk will stay in place than face the facts and fix the true cause, which is always a belief.  People are suckers for beliefs that feel good in the moment because they hope that the new seemingly positive belief will counteract all the negative ones.

You can’t cure a belief with another belief.  At best, you get some temporary relief.  If these innocent people in the video knew they were beautiful or had junk that stayed in place, they wouldn’t even be pulled into the salesman’s world.  We don’t need hope when we live from the truth.

 

Letting Go Brings Us Back to Our True Self

The biggest lies we were ever sold are: we can’t let go of beliefs, we must believe authority, and we can’t tell the truth from a lie.  Those beliefs cause us to be gullible.

When we let go of the lies in our own mind, we see the lies clearly in others.  We don’t fall for other people’s beliefs, and sometimes they don’t like that.  Like this video, their thoughts, beliefs, and even their lies become funny to us.  We feel comfortable exposing them, and sometimes they even laugh along with us.  Sometimes they find someone else to lie to.  Either way, we don’t end up as the proud owner of  a Junk Jumbler.

 

While we are on the subject of lying, “Here are my Top Ten Biggest Lies Ever Told.

The Third Eye and the Illusion: Healing Mental Blindness

 

Pythagorean Triangle Process

We become confused when an authority takes a bottom of the triangle concept and moves it to the top or vice versa.

By Cathy Eck

 You might want to read the Third Eye and the Triangle Process first since it explains the above diagram.

 

Control Our Mind; Control Our Sight

You might wonder how we lost our natural third eye sight?  The false self wants power over the True Self.  In Jesus’ terms, the True Self was the Father within.  The false self was Satan.  Initiates knew that the top of the triangle related to truth; either side of the bottom of the triangle was false.  False was not inherently bad unless you added judgment.

If I want to control you, I take one side of the bottom of the triangle and add judgment, making it right or good.  If you don’t fit my criteria for good or obey my laws, you’re labeled bad or wrong in my world.  No one wants to be bad or wrong, so we don’t discriminate, we simply blindly obey authority figures.  When we accept an authority’s false judgments or beliefs into our own mind, we cover up our truth or our third eye sight.

We don’t do this naturally.  Two year olds are known for a lack of obedience to authority.  But if you punish them enough, they will learn to obey.  This is the key; we learn to obey.  We are not born obedient.

 

How the Fashion World Controls our Minds

Let’s start with a simple example.  The fashion world wants women to follow the trends and buy their clothes.  So beauty (a top of the triangle concept) gets redefined as whatever they say it is — tall, excessively thin, big mouth, high cheek bones, etc.  In truth, beauty is within the eye of the beholder, and everything is beautiful when see with third eye or unified vision.

Pretty, however, has an opposite — ugly.  So the fashion world carefully promotes their definition of pretty and makes their definition of ugly bad until every woman feels bad about themselves and sees the models as superior and elite.  Now they have us captive; we are hypnotized to obey their rules of beauty.  We might not like it, but we buy the products and we take notice; we do what we can to look like the models so we can be called beautiful.  But you see, even if we do meet their criteria, we’re still not happy.  Because our True Self values beauty, not pretty.

Now if we look at our triangle, one side of the bottom of the triangle (pretty) is being treated as the top of the triangle (beauty).  It knocks beauty off the top, so no matter what we do, we can’t feel beautiful.

If you have read anything about this, you know that the current fashion world definition of beauty is really ugly.  They didn’t like the fact that voluptuous models got the attention, not the clothing.

 

How Religion Hijacked Our Third Eye

Religion invented good and evil.  Our True Self is good.  It can’t be anything but good, and it has no opposite.  So religion redefined good to fit their criteria; and that automatically created the opponent of good, or evil.

People who try to follow the prescribed definition of good wonder why they never feel free or true joy because they are stuck at the bottom of the triangle trying so hard to avoid evil.  Those who behave from the true natural state of goodness are called disobedient or disrespectful because they don’t honor the false good rules.

By creating artificial definitions of pure concepts that are natural to every one, we fall from the third eye, unified perspective, to the false dualistic perspective.  People then try to wake up the third eye or create third eye practices in the east; or in the west, they pray or suffer or hope.  But the problem is not that the third eye is asleep or defective.  It is that we are looking out of our natural dual vision, and our vision has been hijacked.

Our natural two-eyed vision isn’t bad; duality without judgment is pure creative potential.  It is as if the whole triangle lights up.  It is judgment, such as good and evil, that blocks the third eye vision.

 

Even the Symbol of the Third Eye was Hijacked

Back of US Dollar Bill; Great Seal of the US

The Great Seal of America displays the third eye. Some say it is the Eye of Providence or God watching over us. Others proclaim it is the Eye of Big Brother.

 

Even the third eye symbol has been hijacked.  The initiates saw it like Jesus did; a symbol of pure vision.  But later it became the sign of false authority, the rule makers, and those who watch to see if we are naughty or nice.  The false self loves to pretend it is the True Self, and it has become damn good at it.

 

A Cooperative and True World

When we look through our third eye, we see a cooperative world.  If you long for such a world, your heart is trying to convince you to let go of the world you see.  It isn’t easy. Our minds have been trained to believe what we see.  But, the truth is that we see what we believe.

We’re not all clones in the true world. We have different focuses, different ways of expressing ourselves, and different talents and gifts.  But we don’t conflict at the top of the triangle.  We use duality to create: we don’t use it to dominate or control.  We cooperate.

It is unlikely that us normal folks can win over the few who have mastered the duality game, nor would we want to develop their skill.  But we can let go of the entire game by purifying our mind as Pythagoras and others suggested.  We can reject the bottom of the triangle thoughts; and slowly move to the top where all things are possible.