Intention: Win-Win (Compassion) or Win-Lose

Compassion

By Cathy Eck

 

Win-Win

As an entrepreneur, I read lots of business books.  When I finished one, I’d go to Barnes & Noble to get another.  One night, I stopped at B&N to get my latest fix.  I noticed a book on the display that said “Win-Win” on the cover.  I didn’t buy the book or even look inside it.  But I loved the sound of those words — win-win.

I bought another book and left the store.  But I couldn’t get win-win out of my mind.  I thought, “I’m going to start living my life that way.  If something isn’t win-win, I won’t do it.”  I didn’t realize that I’d just opened a gateway to compassion…one of the most important keys to initiation.

The next day, during a restroom break at work, I was washing my hands; and I dripped soap on the sink counter.  Those soap droplets caught my attention.  I wondered if just leaving them on the sink was win-win.  After all, we had a maid.  But then the soap would stay there looking messy until the maid came.  I also sensed an attitude of superiority in me as if I was too important to clean.  That didn’t feel win-win.  How could I possibly be more important than the woman who cleaned this restroom?  It really wasn’t win-win to pass the responsibility for my mess on to the maid even if it was technically her job.

Eventually, I pulled down some paper towel and cleaned up my mess.  But I hadn’t just cleaned the counter.  I’d also cleaned something in my mind.  I realized that when I reached that win-win place of thinking over this stupid little thing, I felt a deep calmness that I’d not felt since childhood.  It was way beyond anything I’d felt with meditation.  Meditating quieted my mind; but I was letting go of my shallow false masculine perspective, which freed my mind.

Back at my desk, I picked up a sales contract.  Suddenly it didn’t look win-win.  I called the potential customer and offered to make changes in his favor.  I wasn’t playing games anymore; I treated him the way I would want to be treated.  Again, I felt that peace.

This experiment started with a physical focus — doing that which was win-win.  But it shifted into something much bigger — letting go of any thought that wasn’t win-win.  That, I’d learn, is the meaning of compassion.  Compassion is what tames the false masculine.

 

Intention

About ten years later, people started to write books on the power of intention.  But there was no compassion in their intention setting.  They were thinking an intention before they did something like “Send me that which is for the highest good.”  It sounded nice, but they were washing their hands of responsibility — letting the universe decide what’s good for them.  Unfortunately, the universe doesn’t act as our fair and just concierge; we get what we believe.  This allowed the person to look compassionate without being compassionate.  Compassion doesn’t happen until we let go of beliefs.  It purifies our mind when we let go of the false masculine’s judgmental win-lose, good-evil, or right-wrong thoughts.

Others set intentions like, “I intend to win this race,”  or “I intend to lose twenty pounds this month.”  They were willing the future into submission for their benefit — another talent of the false masculine.

My intention to live from win-win caused me to go deep into my mind and to question my own thinking.  I was letting go before I even understood letting go.  To really get to win-win on any subject, I had to consider everyone that might be affected by the situation — the true application of the Golden Rule.  Letting go of the false masculine beliefs and judgments transformed my false physically-oriented perspective into the true, pure mental perspective of life.  Of course, when my mind was right, top of the triangle with no opposite thoughts, my behavior followed.  I couldn’t imagine harming another.

 

Compassion

Later, I decided to do my Ph.D. Dissertation on the initiation story of Jesus, and I used this same technique.  Unlike Christians, I didn’t want to copy Jesus’ actions; I wanted to understand, and find in myself, the mind of Jesus.  I’d take a Bible quote that didn’t make sense such as, “The meek shall inherit the earth.”  I started with the win-lose interpretations that I’d been taught:  “You have to be submissive to get to heaven.  You get rewarded for giving others what they want.”  None of the thoughts that popped into my mind felt win-win.  They didn’t produce that calmness or compassion.  So I kept dropping every belief that arose and kept digging for the truth.  You see, the truth wasn’t in some guru or in the ethers for channels to pick up; it was in my mind resting quietly below all of my false knowledge.

After letting go of many thoughts about this quote, I dropped into that now familiar place of win-win.  Jesus was talking about the mental, not the physical.  He was already in that compassionate place when he spoke.  When we let go of our beliefs and knowledge, our mind becomes meek, quiet, and pure.  We can’t imagine fighting or willing in order to get what we want.  And yet, our meek mind is extraordinarily powerful because our mind is so clear and creative.  We easily get whatever we focus our mind on — we inherit the earth.

I repeated this process for thousands of hours until I decoded the path of initiation from the story of Jesus.  He was a compassionate dude; and it wasn’t because of what he did but because of how he thought.  Then I saw it everywhere — initiation was embedded in many ancient myths and legends.  You can’t see it until you get the right perspective.  Real freedom, real peace, and real power are revealed when we exercise compassion and let go until our thinking becomes completely win-win for everyone.  That’s how we bring heaven back to earth.

We Are the Body — Western Meditation

God in the stars

By Cathy Eck

 

Nobody or Body?

A popular saying among spiritual teachers is “You’re Not the Body.”  Since authoritative gurus/teachers say those words, people believe them.  If we aren’t our body, then we’re “nobody.”  Why do we even have a body?  Same thing goes for our senses.  The body and senses are the effect of our mind.  A True Self in a body with sharp, clear senses is as good as it gets.

Many people send their True Selves floating high above their body trying to get to the God in the sky.    Others long for the OBE (out-of-body experience).  People desire relief from the heaviness of the emotions they feel in their body.  When they exit their body, they no longer notice their emotions.  So they feel lighter.  Often they encounter the thought forms that constructed the illusion or words of truth that have been spoken within the context of the illusion.  They bring these beliefs back with them and create the next expensive workshop to success or enlightenment.  They think they’ve found the exit to truth, but they’ve been fooled.

Our truth is resting quietly below the illusion; the illusion is a construct made by human minds that veils our True Self.  We find our True Self by letting go of our false mind.  We find it in our mind — not out there somewhere.  But we have to know what is true and what is false — discrimination is key.

Floaters, as I like to call them, are highly suggestible.  As a former hypnotherapist, they make great hypnotic subjects.  When we’re hypnotized, we’ll accept anything authorities tell us.

Can you see the trick?  Magicians in powerful masculine roles of Lords and Priests have used hypnosis for thousands of years.  They got people to chase the light to a God in the sky, ignoring the True Self (discrimination system) within the body, so people didn’t notice they were being lied to.  It’s so amazingly clever that I almost have to admire them.

 

Who’s Speaking in my Mind?

Gurus keep disciples in a hypnotic state.  The disciple hears the guru’s beliefs as if they’re true.  Soon the disciples start thinking exactly like the guru.  

When my son was six, he took a martial arts class in something called Hwar Do.  The Korean teacher had an athletic, young AMERICAN woman for an assistant; she spoke with exactly the same Korean accent as her teacher.  It was like he was her mind.  It was creepy.

In my business life, I took the popular Landmark Education/EST training.  The seminar leaders spoke just like Werner Erhard.  Again, it was creepy.  They allowed their teacher to possess their mind.

Partners, lovers, and parents can also take over our mind.  Some wedding vows say “One mind, one heart.”  “Holy Marital Crap, Batman,” said Robin.

Lately, I’ve seen creepy kids on TV that speak or perform like little adults.  That’s not genius; it’s mind control.  They’re Mini-Me’s of their parents.  I love the ones that talk politics, like they were born knowing the American political system.

Religion produces the same result.  The preacher, wearing a costume that shouts authority, bores the living shit out of the congregation in a big room (that echoes) using routine, rituals, and repetition.  We stop discriminating, and our unmanned body absorbs their every word like a giant sponge.  Later when their words arise in our conscious mind, it’s our chance to let them go; but most people think the words are true and believe them again.  They hold on to those words.

Native practices use movement, chanting, or ceremony.  Vision quests and traditional meditation get us to float above our body.  Drugs do the same thing.  Letting go happens when we are in our body — feeling our emotions.

The false mind’s job is to remember.  It remembers anything until we tell it not to.  Words like, “That’s false.”  Or, “Wow, I don’t need to remember that anymore,” or my personal fav, “What the fuck was I thinking?” help us let go.  We’ve all had the experience of studying for a test and forgetting everything by the next day.  Our mind holds on to information that we need or that we consider true, but only as long as we think we need it.  Letting go is a declaration of falseness.

 

Western Meditation

One antidote for floating is what I call western meditation.  You can find the western meditation process link here.  There’s a PDF below.

In western meditation, you aren’t trying to relax or get specific results.  You’re doing what the Greeks called “Knowing Yourself” — knowing your mind.  You’re simply asking your mind to give you all its got right now.

When you tell your mind that your thoughts are false, you’ve given it permission to drop the answers to yesterday’s exam.  If emotion does arise as you do this, witness the emotion until it goes.  Beliefs and emotion go together.  If you’ve had a belief for a long time, there’s often lots of emotion attached.  Emotions always means the belief is false.

Initiation is about turning our body into a Temple for the Living God, a home for your own True Self — not a church.  When beliefs float us above our body or hypnotize us, no one is home.  We might get ideas, but we often can’t manifest those ideas in the world without lots of willpower.  Like a filmmaker, we want to bring our story to life.  If we can’t live our story, then “We don’t get no satisfaction,” (says Mick).

For most of the world, it takes too much willpower to create — people become apathetic.  They have too many beliefs to leap over.  They don’t even have the willpower to use their willpower.  In truth, the purpose of willpower is to will our mind to discriminate and let go.  Eventually, we won’t need willpower anymore.  Then our dreams are no longer in the clouds; they’re our normal reality.  We’re creators again.

Meditation for the Western Mind pdf

Exposing the Hidden Shadow of the New Age

Positive and Grateful

By Cathy Eck

 

New Age Trap

The New Age is a particularly sneaky illusion trap because it looks like the path to the True Self.  We force our mind to get positive, and positive is a quality of the True Self.  We use our will to manifest what we want; and being a creator is a True Self quality.  We gain a quiet mind through meditation; and the True Self’s mind is quiet.  We start to succeed and win; and the True Self never does anything that isn’t win-win.

But sadly, the New Age (and self-help movement) is actually like putting ice cream on top of manure.  You see, you were born positive, grateful, with the ability to create everything you wanted, and with a peaceful and quiet mind.  If you feel you need to create those things, it’s because you believe you aren’t those qualities.  So when you put that positive ice cream on top of the negative manure, you get a shit sunday.

Every New Age or self-help technique is about fixing effects.  The false self created the New Age and self-help movements because they keep us seeking for another lifetime or more.  So let’s look under the rug and expose some of the most popular New Age (self-help) techniques.

 

Affirmations

This is an easy one.  If you need to say, “I am rich,” you clearly believe you’re poor.   The affirmation is an attempt to fix the bottom of the triangle by switching to the winning side.  In fact, the affirmation causes projection of the poor side of the bottom of the triangle on to others.  And that projection eventually comes back to you like a boomerang.  This is probably where the notion of karma came from.

Affirmations are always fixing the effect; not the cause.  But if you look under the affirmation, you can find the causal belief with ease.

Let me tell you how this probably started.  Someone accidentally got positive one day (accidentally let go), and they noticed that everything repaired itself.  So they made it into a process.  But that doesn’t work.  Positive on top of manure is a shit sunday.  Remove the negative manure and you’ve got a clean plate.

 

Gratitude

Did you know that the person who wrote the book on the gratitude journal went bankrupt after making millions on her book?  Her own gigantic lack-of-gratitude projection came back to collect payment.  Our projections all come back in time.  The truth is that gratitude is natural; it’s not a process.  Our True Self is always grateful.  It doesn’t have to say it; it exudes it.  If you think you have to express gratitude; you’ve accepted the shadow message that you aren’t grateful, probably because you read her book or listened to Oprah.

 

Vision Board

There are now apps for making your vision board.  This probably got started because someone felt artistic and started making a picture of their desires.  They loved the picture and then watched as the image became reality.  Their vision board became real because they were connected to their True Self.

But that isn’t what happens for most because they put stuff on the board that they just happen to want or like.  It seems everyone puts Oprah on there these days.  Others put cars, houses, spouses, children, and places they want to go.  They behave like they are placing orders.

The things we really want can’t be visualized.  In truth, we want freedom, creativity, joy, peace, and unconditional love.  Try putting those on a vision board; you have to downgrade the feeling to words.  But if you find your True Self by letting go, you’ll create a perfect life that you love without visualizing it first.   The vision board is simply backwards creating, and it solidifies the horrible belief that you have to work hard and use your will to get what you want.

 

Meditation

Why do people meditate?  They want a quiet mind.  I can assure you that when we let go our mind gets quiet and calm.  But letting go creates a virgin mind that is free and creative.  Meditators don’t generally let go of their beliefs unless they do something like what I call western meditation; they usually suppress or project their unwanted beliefs and thoughts on to others.  They teach their minds how to ignore their thoughts and emotions.  Those thoughts have to go somewhere; they usually go onto others who are feminine to them.

Meditation was born in countries that played the feminine aspect of the world.  While the western world was creating dual false thought and keeping the winning side, the eastern world was getting the west’s shadow projection.   Easterners, used meditation to rise above the western projections.

Floating above one’s mind became enlightenment.  Good meditators floated high above their minds and became gurus while the rest of the people in those countries literally lived in the guru’s projected shit.  Shit does flow downhill.  Now the easterners are all trying to think like westerners, and we’re meditating because our shit is coming back at us.

 

You can always expose a false process by taking it to the extreme.  Imagine if you couldn’t get anything unless you affirmed or visualized it.  At some point, you’d make breathing, eating, and walking extremely hard.  Your belief in the process would kill you.  The goal of the false self is death.  The word evil (death) is live spelled backwards.

When you find yourself with the urge to affirm, draw a vision board, put a crystal up your butt, or call in the angels, ask yourself “Why am I doing this?”  Then just let go of the answer and save yourself the time, energy, and money.

We already are what we strive to be; and when we let go of our beliefs, we see our natural perfection.  No one needs to know the truth; we already know it.  We only need to let go of the beliefs that cover up the truth — then we’re free.