Living Outside the Box: Freedom

Getting outside the box

By Cathy Eck

 

Freedom

Getting freedom is about living life outside the box that others call truth or reality.  Some people just accept the box, and they never give it another thought.  They even seem to enjoy life in the box.  But some of us don’t enjoy the box at all.  We want out.  So we try to physically remove ourselves from the box.  That doesn’t get us to freedom.

Some move to the country and buy lots of land.  They get off the grid, dump their phones and computers, and live with nature.

Others make lots of money.  They believe, “Money buys freedom.”  Their bank balance causes them to feel worthy.  They can go anywhere anytime by boat, plane, or driver.  They can buy drugs and plastic surgery to keep their mind calm and their body looking young.  They can eat expensive foods prepared by world-class chefs and work out with the best trainers and equipment so they can restrict their body from revealing their beliefs without feeling the lack that us normal folks feel.

Then there are the ones that falsely set themselves aside religiously.  They’re part of a group of chosen people.  They’re going to heaven; we won’t be with them.

Others separate themselves from the status quo with education or knowledge.  They become an expert.

We all want freedom from problems and people who want to control us.  We hide from those that drive us crazy.

We try to get free by changing or upgrading things in our physical world or setting boundaries.  But we aren’t really getting freedom that way; we’re only getting a little relief from the effects of our beliefs.  Running away to an island doesn’t free us.  Fixing effects will never get us freedom.  But don’t get me wrong.  Freedom isn’t about smiling from your prison cell either.

Most people want freedom, but they have a physical perspective so they try to get freedom by fixing their physical reality.  Their physical reality is simply the effects of their beliefs.  Until they eliminate their beliefs, freedom is impossible; life will prove that to them.   The reclusive will be annoyed by a bear who becomes a constant nuisance.  The rich person will find his money can’t buy him happiness.  The religious will wait their whole life for their chosen moment, and it will never happen.  The special diet and exercise will stop working one day.  The educated will find that their knowledge is false.  The crazy friends will come back in different bodies.

 

The Mental Perspective

True freedom is a perspective.  Freedom comes from within.  If our mind is free, our body and life will reflect that freedom.  The outer world becomes the effect of our free inner world.  When our mind becomes pure, we have no effects that need fixing anymore.

When we let go of our beliefs (our false self), we naturally move into the mental perspective.  We can see both sides of duality from this perspective.  So we want to have win-win interactions with others.  We become truly enlightened and free as our True Self.  Our false desires fade away.  We become like we were initially, at birth.

What we try to fix in the physical perspective is probably our biggest trap.  The one who runs away and hides in nature has a fear of people.  Relationship beliefs will keep them stuck even if their only relationship is that bear.

The billionaire’s trap is money.  For him or her to get free, they might have to lose it all.  It’s too easy for them to fix effects with money.  That’s why Jesus said that it was pretty damn hard for the rich person to get to heaven.

If we want to fix our body, then that’s our trap.  We have to stop the madness and start letting go.

If knowledge is our trap, we’ll keep seeking more and more knowledge only to find it’s all worthless currency.

The religious and spiritual get impatient waiting for their savior to come or the comet to destroy the earth.  They keep looking outside so they never discover their real savior inside.  They believe prophets when they have the best prophet inside — their True Self.  Shit, they’re the ones they are waiting for.

We can push away the entire world of people, but the crazies will still find us.  We all want to hide from those we perceive as powerful.  Let them come, but let go while you’re with them; you’ll diffuse their power.  They’ll probably leave you alone after that.  We ultimately have to recognize that the people with the most beliefs and emotions are actually powerless.  When we get that, they can’t hurt us anymore.  The one with the least beliefs has the most natural power; that’s why we were forced to submit as small children.  Our parents felt powerless around us when we reflected their beliefs.

 

Perspective Change

Freedom is a perspective change that happens from within once we discriminate using our emotions, let go of beliefs because they have an emotional warning that says they aren’t true, let go of listening to other’s knowledge, and let go of obeying or fearing false authority.  Slowly, we find that our perspective shifts from the physical view of the world to the mental view of the world.  We have the big picture.  We see clearly, and we know what path or direction to go in any moment.  We aren’t avoiding life; we’re really living life.  We’re creative.  We know everything we need to know.  We live where we want to live, and other false selves don’t bother us.  They’re probably afraid of us.  We do what we want to do with whomever we want to do it with.  The world even seems to support us in being who we are.

Oddly, we don’t feel special; we actually feel normal.  We have power, but not power over others.  We simply feel like our Self.  We feel free.

The Game: Falling In and Digging Ourselves Back Out

Game

By Cathy Eck

 

Tricks and Traps in The Game

You just dug yourself out of a big false self trap after feeling emotions and listening to your false repeat crappy beliefs and criticism for days.  Now you’re sailing again.  You feel like your True SELF.

Then suddenly, you feel that all too familiar confusion.  You feel emotion in your body again, maybe even panic or pain.  Your mind is looking for reasons.  Ah shit!  You thought you’d finally made it out, and now you’re right back in the poop soup again.

I know it sucks.  But in this moment, it won’t do any good to get frustrated, impatient, or angry.  You just fell in to the illusion again, and you have to dig yourself out.  There are seemingly endless tricks and traps on the way out of the illusion.  You will meet and defeat them all.  That’s initiation!

The True Self is patient.  It’s immortal.  Today, tomorrow, next year, next life…it’s all the same.

But try as I do to get people to just let go and get back to their True Self, they always want reasons for the big question: “Why did this happened to me?”  Reasons take us outward; freedom requires going inward.  However, giving our mind a logical reason can sometimes help forward movement.  Letting go of the reasons you hear in your mind (like God is punishing you) always helps.  Here are a few useful reasons that will keep you in the game.

 

Reasons The False Trapped Your Ass Again

1) You just accepted a feminine role to a false masculine, and that person caused you to accept their beliefs.

2) You heard someone say something that sounded good, true, or positive (like a teacher, guru, preacher), and you accepted their positive statement without noticing the emotion that came with it.  We’re trained to be in our mind, to be good students that take in what the teacher says without discriminating, and so we miss the invaluable signals our body senses give us.  Besides, when we get truth from another, it’s no longer truth; it’s knowledge.  Let other people’s truth go and find your own truth.

3) Your false self felt sympathy for another instead of compassion.

4) You just got competitive and choose sides or needed to win.  Freedom is an individual game.

5)  You presumed another couldn’t meet you at the True Self level, and so you became something acceptable to them.  You united with the lowest common denominator — the one with the most rigid beliefs.

6)  You feared the judgment or punishment of another.  So you did what they told you to do.

7)  You looked for a reward or looked to see if a problem went away yet.  If you have to look for results or rewards, you aren’t trusting your True Self yet.  Keep letting go.

8)  You didn’t trust your quiet inspiration.  Instead you followed expertise, social norms, or knowledge.

9)  Your mind is saying, “Who are you to do this?”  “This is too hard.”  “Cathy is a dumb fuck with a big imagination.” “Cathy wants you to accept her belief system.”  or “Emotions are bad; I don’t want to feel them.”  I offer you one belief that you need to get free:  “You can let all beliefs go.  You don’t need them.”  Everything I write supports that one belief because you need it to get free.  When you’re free, you’ll drop that ONE belief because you won’t need it, and I won’t look like a dumb fuck with a big imagination anymore.

10)  You saw someone else’s reality and thought, “This could happen to me.”  You must remain an impartial voyeur of other people’s lives.  If what they’re living brings up emotion, let go of your belief in that potential.  Their beliefs are creating their reality.  This is easier after you take responsibility for your own mind; you see that everything has a mental cause.

11)  Someone said you hurt them or didn’t support them; and you believed them.  Only the false self can be hurt; and only the false self needs support.  If you need others to support you, you’re listening to your false self.  Enjoy supporters if they come, but don’t need them.  Let them go.

12)  You have direction confusion.  You read this blog because you want freedom — you want to be your True Self and live from win-win.  It feels good when you think toward freedom and bad when you imprison yourself with beliefs.  But a religious person wants to be good according to dogma.  They feel good when obedient and bad when they disobey.  Someone who wants to win will feel great when they win and like shit when they lose.  We set the direction for our mind.  We don’t have the right to set the direction for other’s minds.  And they don’t have the right to set the direction for our mind.

13)  You followed excitement or emotions outward instead of inward — such as following romance, hope, or lust!

14)  You’re trying to figure out someone else’s mind instead of discriminating in your own.  Their mind is their problem.  Your mind is your problem.

 

It’s a Game

The collective illusion has gotten very tricky, especially since the addition of self-help and the New Age.  Knowing the tricks makes it easier to win the game.

See your quest for freedom as a giant video game.  You beat one level, and then you have to confront a more difficult level.  At some point, you win the game; or you die.  So what, you just start a new game.  If you watch people play video games, this is their attitude.  They feel good playing because that’s the attitude of our True Self.  Life is a game — an individual sport.  We enter into this big dangerous arena filled with beliefs (lies), and some of us figure out how to discriminate and beat the game. The prize is freedom, living as our True Self, and fulfillment of our desires (without anyone else having to lose).  It’s a great game — worth playing.

Who’s Writing Our Story?

Happily Ever After

By Cathy Eck

 

One of the best ways to learn about life is to study stories.  Reading fiction, devouring biographies, and immersing myself in movies has taught me so much.  But to mine wisdom from stories, we must discriminate between true and false, feel our emotions, and understand roles.

Story writing mirrors what goes on within our minds during the creative process.  The True Self is the father and the physical world is the mother; the child is our story (the effect).  In order to have interesting stories, it’s necessary to go beyond the purely win-win nature of the True Self.  The mother does this by dividing thought without judgment (called first-cause creation or wisdom).  Second-cause creation happens when a false masculine role divides thoughts in a judgmental way — win/lose, good/evil, etc.  This is referred to as knowledge.  A perfectly crafted story starts in the True Self, filters through the knowledgeable false self, and emerges into the physical world.

 

Desire

A story falls flat if the protagonist doesn’t want anything.  Some protagonists have a True Self desire like finding unconditional love, peace of mind, or freedom.  But other protagonists have desires such as serving their country, revenge, or getting rich.  These are stories without an exit from the illusion.  However, occasionally what looks like a false outer desire is actually a metaphor for the part of the person’s True Self (inner desire) that they think they’ve lost.  Ancient stories are nearly always this way, and companies like Disney are masters of this formula.

If we have a strong desire, we contain the necessary feminine wisdom within to fulfill that desire (alchemical marriage).  But often, we look to masculine knowledge/beliefs for the answer (labeled as two men sleeping together in the ancient world).  Desire and fulfillment are side-by-side until we introduce beliefs/knowledge.

 

Beliefs

A great story is a dance between unrelenting desire and the obstacles that keep it from being fulfilled.  Beliefs give birth to obstacles.  The more beliefs we have, the more obstacles between us and our desire.  It’s a simple formula.  But if the obstacles are too complex, we’ll give up.  The ultimate giving up is dying.

One could make a strong case that the purpose of life is to be dropped into a physically oriented world where everyone wants us to play a part in an unsatisfying collective production instead of playing the lead role in our own production.  Following authority figures and accepting their beliefs casts us into a role in the collective story; it keeps us from living our story.  Until we wake up…

 

First Act

Our unrelenting desire is formed early in our story.  Something in life goes off track, or we accept a big belief system; now we have a desire to get back to our True Self.  This is called the inciting incident.  We might have a huge life-changing loss, or we might have a slow deterioration of our desire until it appears unattainable.  When the desire has lost it’s spark, we’ve abandoned our personal story.   We’re lost in the illusory maze.

Once we write off our desire, our story changes from an interesting screenplay with a strong theme to a long, dull ridiculously dramatic soap opera.  That’s the illusion.  We go from drama to drama without any real conclusion.  Drama can even become addictive since it relieves boredom; and the illusion is very slow and boring.

 

Second Act

In the second act, we meet obstacles created by the beliefs we accepted from authority.  We thought the illusion was going to be fun; it’s actually filled with problems and suffering.  Our false self was meant to be a creative container, but now it’s filled with knowledge and beliefs.   We fit it and even accept what is… UNTIL… we come to a cliff, and our enemy is right behind us — we must j-u-m-p.  We must let go in order to live; part of our false self must die in order for our body to continue to live.  This is often the theme of a great exit story.  Death or facing death forces us to let go.

If we won’t drop our beliefs, we’ve got a serious story problem.  We’re stuck in the second act.  We’re seeking, which is trying to find something within the illusion that only exists outside of the illusion.  Sound familiar?   We’ll try to change the illusion’s story to something nicer or create false exit doors.   But, only the author of the story can change it; they have the masculine role.  We might even pretend to be satisfied, but we aren’t; acceptance is often apathy in disguise.

Take the Jesus story.  Christians massacred the real ending, which was that we all find the Christ (True Self) within; and they changed it to Jesus returning.  But he never does.  Even if he did, they’d kill him because they hate the True Self.  Jesus, to a Christian would look like the part of themselves that they view as evil — the part that won’t obey their rules.  The people who read my blog have often played the role of Jesus to a believer; and the believer crucified them.

 

Third Act

As we move toward our True Self by letting go, we gain the masculine role in our lives.  We realize that all the characters in our life are actually in our OWN mind.  We must ask:  Which characters advance our story?  Which ones are nothing but an obstacle?  The obstacles have to lose their false power (become supporting cast) or leave the story.

Imagine that you’re a really lost character.  You might invent a wise helper character to play with, like Merlin to Arthur.  Or you could create a transformative experience, like Buddha.  Or you could find the mysterious blog that shows you how to let go of your beliefs and unlock your desires.  You see if you’re here, you’re working on that third act; and now you have the tools to create a great ending — a real, eternal happily ever after.

Stay Out of Other’s Minds (We Aren’t Meant to be Psychic)

Psychic

By Cathy Eck

 

Psychic Studies 101

When I was in graduate school, I took a class in psychic studies.  I’d just read the book, “Psychic Discoveries Behind the Iron Curtain,” and I fantasized about being able to make better business decisions or being able to detect people’s hidden motivations.  In class, we did these creepy exercises where you extended your energy into the other person’s energy field.  Then you said whatever you heard in your mind.  I felt like I was sticking my hands in raw sewage.  When they connected with me, I was even more creeped out.   Fortunately, my grade was dependent on how well I wrote about my experiences and not my success rate.

Although, one day we had to guess where our teacher was.  He was hiding somewhere in the city.  Someone came into class and said to draw whatever we thought.  I thought of a giant dick so I drew that.   Turns out he was standing by the water tower above.  So everyone thought I got it right.

Another time, we had to do a reading about someone based on name only.  I decided to go ice skating and write whatever I thought about while skating.  I wrote about rats.  Turned out my person was kind of a rat, a shrewd business wheeler-dealer.  He also had rats in his NYC apartment.  But quite honestly, his last name sounded like a mafia name.  It was a great metaphor.

Was I psychic, or was I just fucking around and happened to get some things sort of right?  I vote for fucking around.

 

Battered Minds

As part of the class, we had to attend a “Battered Minds” group meeting — professional psychics who were stuck in victimhood because they saw a vision of something bad, like 9/11.  I got up and walked out after a few minutes.  They were all compulsive whiners.  They believed every emotionally wrapped thought that entered their minds; they had absolutely NO discrimination.  They thought everything was about them.

Clearly they tapped into the collective illusion and saw 9/11 or some other tragic event.  But was that helpful?  To me, it only proved that they believed the illusion to be true and unchangeable.  I didn’t want to marinate in their world view.  The illusion won’t disappear until we stop believing it.

The purpose of a prophet is not to tell us the future so we can sit in fear and wait until the dreaded prophecy passes, declaring said prophet right or wrong.  It’s to recognize where we’re headed and to drop the thoughts that are causing that unwanted future from the collective conversation.

Psychic Studies 101 was many years ago, and I’ve done a lot of discriminating and letting go since.  The ancient ones were right.  Everything is mind.  The best place for our mind to be focused is on itself.  If everyone let go of their own unwanted thoughts, the world would be amazing in no time at all.

Most people are highly focused on other people’s minds.  In fact, I’ve mentored people pleasers who admitted that they often get in other people’s minds so they know what to say to please them.  False minds analyze and hold onto other people’s thoughts in order to look good, stay safe, keep them in their life, or say the right thing.  Our false minds have gotten erroneously connected and intertwined; and that’s why we’re all so damn confused.

Our job is our OWN mind.  If someone else’s experience generates emotion when we hear them talk, then it isn’t true for us.  If they want to make it true for them, that’s their prerogative.  But freedom is about being a master of our own mind; and that requires minding our own damn business.

 

The Lesson

We were required to experience a bunch of personal readings during that class.  I taped them all.  A few years ago, I listened to the tapes one last time before I trashed my tape recorder and tapes.  More than a decade had passed, nothing in them came true.  Nothing!  These were professional psychics, not students.

The future that they saw had been wiped off my mental hard drive.  They were reading my false mind, and I’d let much of that go.  Most of them tapped into my false desires and told me what I wanted to hear.  They picked up on my false fears and told me that they wouldn’t happen.  They said what I longed to hear to sooth my crappy beliefs.  They also gave me reasons for things that were happening in my life — spirit attachments, angels, karma, or past lives.  That was all bullshit too.  False minds love reasons.  But reasons are worthless.  The false mind has got 99 problems, and it’s causing all of them.

Intuition is also a false self skill that allows us to work around our beliefs.  It’s very helpful in the illusion, but it’s worthless if our goal is freedom.  Inspiration is what we want.  Inspiration comes from our True Self.  It’s usually silent.  We just find ourself doing something without much thinking at all.

Quite frankly, I wanted psychic or intuitive power because I was afraid of my future.  I’d become accustomed to being blindsided.  I wanted advance warning to avert problems.  I no longer trusted my True Self to keep me safe.  I’d become afraid of surprises because they were usually bad.

What I really wanted was to purify my false mind and take what I got, knowing that it would be what I wanted, needed, and earned.   I didn’t want to have a concrete and perfect plan; I wanted to be constantly pleasantly surprised.  I didn’t want to see the crappy illusion and grab only the good stuff.  I didn’t want to will the world into submission.  I didn’t want to know people’s beliefs and say the right thing to please them.  Psychic Studies 101 was very interesting but truly worthless.  So I closed that door and got back on the path to freedom.

 

Love! The Most Confusing Word in the English Language

True Love

My daughter’s rescued dogs.

By Cathy Eck

 

Words are Crazy

I love the word fuck.  It’s so clear and versatile.  If I say, “What the fuck?”  You know what I mean.  If I say, “You look fucking gorgeous!”  We’re in harmony.  If I say, “Fuck you.”  You get my drift without any further explanation.

However, if I say “I love you,” now you’re confused.  Does she mean she like… really loves me?  Does she want to have sex with me?  An exclusive relationship?  To marry me?  Three little words, “I love you,” create more relationship confusion in one day than fuck has ever created — and people claim fuck is the bad word.  But don’t worry; fuck comes to the rescue.  If you say, “I fucking love you man.”  Now you are safe.  Confusion gone.

 

Love is Enough

Nothing feels worse than hearing someone say, “My love is not enough to….. (fill in the blank)”  The statement isn’t true.  But in desperate moments, those words often come out of people’s mouths.  They wonder if they’re being punished when they love something so much and can’t make it right or save it.  That’s love in the illusion.  If you choose to believe in it, you get the consequences.

Unconditional love is the most powerful force in the universe.  I’m certain that it’s enough.  But love has been so watered down and so misused that it’s lost its incredible power.

Let’s start with romantic love.  We use the term “fall in love” for a good reason.  We take our whole True Self and cast it aside so we can be half of another person.  We define a good relationship as becoming more concerned over whether they like us then whether we like us.  Therefore, it’s also common to say, “I lost myself in that relationship.

We believe that strong emotions mean love.  But since you read my blog, you aren’t falling for that trick, are you?  The emotion is saying that what we’re thinking right now is false.  That’s all.  Emotional chemistry means that this person gets us to think a lot of false thoughts. True love is calm.  And sex should be the effect of love, not a synonym for it.

 

That’s Not Love

Some of you were raised by parents who told you that discipline was love.  My mom would smack us with her big wooden paddle and then tell us she did it because she loved us.  WTF?  That wasn’t true then and never will be true.  She was getting an emotional release because her thinking about us sucked.  That’s not love.

Then there are the people who think worry is love.  When we worry about someone, we’re projecting our fear on them.  That’s not love.

There’s the notion that sympathy as love.  When we sympathize with another, we’re believing the same lies that they believe making it harder for them to fix their situation.  Compassion, where we know they’ve just accepted a belief that isn’t true, and we know they can let it go, is equal to love.  Compassion comes from the True Self.

Controlling or fixing another isn’t love.  Someone who says, “I want you to read this self-help book because I love you.”  That’s not love.  While I freely express my ideas on my blog, I don’t even make my own kids read it.  It’s there for people who want it.  True love doesn’t need support or validation.

People equate love with doing shit.  That’s not love.  I’ve been told that love is thank you cards, cleaning, various activities, offering to buy dinner, hugs, visiting, calling, squeezing the toothpaste from the bottom, handing over the remote, etc.  I’ve been told that love is gifts, surprises, and the right words.  And I don’t believe any of it.  Fuck you Hallmark and 1-800-FLOWERS.

It’s all an issue of good old level confusion.  At the mental level, love is simply making sure that what we think of another when we think of them is loving and true.  When it’s not, we let go.  That’s it.  The mental level is what’s true.

People who feel inclined to follow the socially acceptable laws of love, as described above, view life from the physical orientation.  They often do nice things while talking about you behind your back or secretly hating you in the privacy of their mind.  They can look loving without really being loving.  If we’re honest and honor our emotions, we’ve known it all along; but usually, we didn’t want to admit it.

Humans spend their lives trying to get love when all we can control is our ability to give it.  In my experience, that’s enough.  When we get our mind clear enough that another’s false self has no power over us anymore, they’re really easy to love.  Our love power returns.

 

Unconditional love

Unconditional love is a nice word pairing — kind of like steak and Merlot; but most people don’t really know what it means.  We can’t do unconditional love.  We can’t figure it out.  We can’t pretend it.  Love doesn’t have power until it’s unconditional, and it isn’t unconditional until we let go of our false definitions of love.  Sometimes, that’s a long list.

False love is power over another — possession, fear-driven, and controlling.  It only has the power that we believe it has.  True unconditional love is a creative, healing, and unlimited power.  But we can’t fake it until we make it.  The way out is awkward, emotional, and often scary.

Often we wake up one day and realize that all the things we thought we loved about others aren’t real; their masks are covering something we don’t want to see.  But True love doesn’t turn away because when we remember another’s True Self by letting go of the false we see in them, we meet them at the True Self level.  Then we see our own reflection and it’s fucking awesome.   And I know that you know exactly what I mean.

The True Masculine Role (How It Looks)

Leading

By Cathy Eck

 

It’s hard to explain the power of the True Masculine role, mostly because there aren’t many good examples.  The masculine role is the role that has fallen; and it took the feminine right along with it.  Sadly, the fallen masculine leader tries to fix the feminine, its own reflection, instead of looking in and fixing the cause in its own mind.  This keeps everyone stuck.

 

Know your Role

The first step to owning the True Masculine Role in your own mind and life is to always know your role in any situation.  I’ve written plenty about that.  Sometimes the role is obvious.  But sometimes, it isn’t.

For example, in two people of equal status, the one speaking is the in masculine role; the listener is feminine.  We also have tricky ways of getting into the masculine role.  If we see the world as positive and negative, the most positive person will tend to have the masculine role or higher status.  In a spiritual or religious group, the good person will take the lead.  In the illusion, the one who’s right or wins takes the Grand Puba position.  Conscious of this or not, we’re always looking to get that coveted masculine role.

If we can’t win fairly, we might trick the person into giving up their power; or the relationship might be one long power struggle.  Nothing is off-limits in the illusion.  It’s all about the drama.

 

True Masculine

The True Masculine is like the sun — unconditional, expressive, and giving.  Giving is key; too many men want the masculine role so they can receive.  That’s not how it works.  In the True Masculine, there’s no hidden agendas — no masks.  We don’t need a mask to give, to express our True Self.  We only need a mask when we want someone to give to us who doesn’t want to.  Then we’re weasels wearing the mask of a good person.

A religious leader is giving a sermon on obeying God.  They’re a false leader.  They’re looking at the congregation and saying, “You need fixing.  You’re all disobedient.”  But wait, he’s in the masculine role; if he’s seeing disobedience, guess where it is — in his OWN mind.

The husband looks at his wife and sees a bitch.  The question he must ask is what beliefs is he holding about her.  She’s the reflection; he’s got the cause in his mind.  Or perhaps he’s not giving her unconditional love; he’s trying to get attention, sex, his way.  In the illusion, the feminine role reflects what you give.  You give shit; you get shit back.  Deal with it.

The mother looks at her child and thinks he’s lazy.  No, he’s not.  She’s holding her hard work ethic as true when it’s just a belief.  The child is showing her what she fears — who she would be if she didn’t put on her show as a hard worker.

The false masculine fixes the effect of their mental projection, and then sends the projection a bill or punishment.  The reflection always has a WTF look on their face.  I write this blog primarily for those in feminine roles with WTF looks.  But they will escape one day; and then I hope they’ll use what they learned to become the True Masculine that they never knew.  Revenge is never sweet.

 

Hints for Success in the Masculine Role

1)  Shut the fuck UP!  I mean that.  Just let go of what you see in the other that you don’t like or is false.  When we’re in the masculine role, we have the power.  We also love to spew our knowledge all over the place.  But the wisdom is in the feminine role.  We don’t need to train the feminine to follow our rules or think like us, we just need to stop projecting on them.

2)  FEEL!  What you’re thinking about the person in the feminine role does generate emotion in YOU.  You’ll feel it if you stop thinking — get out of your head.

3)  WIN-WIN!  Notice that if they accept your way of thinking, you’ll win or be right, but they’ll lose.  When a True Masculine leads, everybody wins…and I mean everybody, everywhere.

4)  Stop thinking about the other.  Stop giving status reports or reasons.  Stop prophesying what you believe the person will do next.  Just watch your own mind, and let go of what’s false, which is probably everything.  If you have to, lock yourself in a closet.

 

It’s a Dance…

When I was in my twenties, I went to New York City a lot for business.  I always went dancing after work (and drinking).  One night, Teddy, a really chubby, short guy with super thick glasses and the worst hair, came up and asked me to dance.  Teddy asked a lot of girls to dance, but no one said, “Yes.”  I wasn’t looking for a man; I was married.  So I wasn’t sizing up his looks like the single girls.  When I hit the floor, I had one of those American Idol moments when Simon Cowell would go “Holy Shit.”  This guy was an amazing dancer.  He was smooth and light.  But he was also a very powerful leader.  Under his lead, I didn’t need to think — I could just reflect.  I seriously “had the time of my life.”  For the first time, I realized the awesomeness of being cast in a pure feminine role with a True Masculine in the lead.  Reflecting can be really fun.

Every time I went to New York, I’d go dancing with Teddy.  Eventually, we both changed jobs and lost touch.  But I’ll never forgot what it felt like to dance with someone who not only knew he could dance, but also knew that I could dance.  That’s the best analogy that I’ve ever found for the True Masculine.  S/he not only has self-confidence and self-trust, but they have confidence and trust in those who are feminine to them.  They see everyone else as their reflection; and their reflection is perfect.

 

Discipline — Time To Say Goodbye!

DisciplineBy Cathy Eck

 

I Got OWNED

Recently, I had the OWN (Oprah) channel on while doing some housework.  The producers set up a help desk where people could ask questions of “spiritual” advisors.  Three times, the experts recommended “discipline.”  They said it was necessary for success.  The first two times, I simply noticed that their comment felt bad and immediately let it go.  But the third time, expert Carolyn Myss put me over the edge.  I realized that I was looking in the face of a huge collective psychological reversal.

An overweight woman (by expert standards) asked Carolyn for help.  Carolyn said, “Do you tend to gravitate toward pleasure?”  The woman said, “Yes,” as she smiled.  Carolyn responded critically, “That’s your problem.  You have no discipline.”  The woman looked like she wanted to slit her wrists or shit her pants.  “Okay, now you pissed me off, Carolyn Myss,”  I thought.   I decided to really look at this word, discipline.  My emotions were screaming, “False.”

 

Discipline

The “New Oxford American Dictionary” put things in perspective for me very quickly.  Here’s what it said:

1) the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.
2) the controlled behavior resulting from discipline.
3) activity or experience that provides mental or physical training.
4) a system of rules of conduct.

Discipline is clearly unnatural; it involves training humans, like animals, to do what an authority or expert wants them to do.  It’s key to a society based on good and evil, right and wrong, or win and lose.

Since the disciplinarians are already in the illusion, or they wouldn’t be using discipline, discipline is inflicted on those in powerless feminine roles, like children.  Our minds record the voices of those who provide discipline until we acquire self-discipline, meaning we inflict reward and punishment on ourselves.

Oddly, the word discipline is very similar to disciple, another highly feminine role.  Well, that made sense.  Carolyn Myss is a recovering Catholic; her Catholicism often bleeds through in her books and teachings.  The other two men who suggested discipline were M. Scott Peck, spiritual psychologist/author, and DeVon Franklin, Hollywood wanna-be preacher.  Discipline and religion are clearly interconnected; both take us toward hell while claiming to take us to heaven.

The truth is that if we’re disciplining ourselves or others, we’re not good, we’re false.  Discipline is following someone else’s rules that don’t feel good and don’t make sense to us.  We should never have to do that in a sane world.  If we’re obeying rules that don’t feel good and telling others to do the same, we’re clearly playing a false masculine role.  We shouldn’t be leading anyone, not even ourselves.

In the TRUE masculine role, we do what we’re inspired to do.  We provide a vision — not rules.  The True Masculine has no desire to discipline others; there’s no need for it.  You trust the people that you create with.  Discipline isn’t even a word I’ve ever needed to have in my vocabulary.

When led by false masculine authorities, we have to muster up unnatural energy to do what they want us to do in the way they want it done.  We become exhausted and depressed.  We hate life.  Then we discipline those below us (like our kids) because we’re starving for energy and life force.

 

Discipline or Abuse?

Just last week, someone posted on Facebook a comment about the lack of discipline in kids and how it’s because parents no longer spank.  Of course, I couldn’t shut up because children were involved.  So I wrote, “People will stop disciplining their children with physical punishment when they call it what it really is, child abuse.”  You see, calling authoritarian bullying, unnecessary rules, enslavement, and physical punishment “discipline” makes the unacceptable acceptable.

Discipline produces slaves and obedient citizens, not successful or creative people.  It’s a winning formula in the illusion.  It has worked for thousands of years because we don’t stop and examine the reality or the real effects of discipline.

 

Pleasure

Carolyn Myss exposed the whole illusion around discipline when she said, “Do you tend to gravitate toward pleasure?”  That’s when my emotions screamed, “Stop the madness. Your are Myss-taken.”  She was saying, “If it’s pleasurable, it’s bad for you.”  The idea that we’re supposed to be happy while we suffer is the Catholic mantra; it’s not true.  We all naturally gravitate toward pleasure until we’re brainwashed to gravitate toward pain by following beliefs that generate emotions.

We’re all born to people who were already cooked to well done in the illusory oven before we arrived.  If we could talk, we would have screamed, “Stop!  That doesn’t feel right.  I didn’t come to earth to see how well I could suffer.”  Instead we got disciplined to become like our caretakers and authorities until eventually we couldn’t see the error in the illusion — it looked normal.

It’s not too late.  We can let go of needing discipline right now.  We can start to follow our inspiration at any time.

Carolyn Myss answered the woman’s question, but it’s doubtful that it helped.  She gave her the cause of her weight problem.  This woman thought she didn’t have enough discipline when she actually had too much.  Her inner food police disciplines her constantly, piling guilt and shame on her food and reminding her that she’s not following the diet and exercise rules for a thin body.  She believes the rich and successful (and disciplined) experts even though what they say feels horrible; her True Self knows the advice is false — it’s fixing the effect.

To get free, this woman needs to let go of trusting experts who keep telling her to be more disciplined so she can look the way they say she should look.  She needs to stop dieting (which has the word die in it for a reason) and start living from her own True Self.

You Can’t Buy True Freedom with Money

Abundance and freedom

By Cathy Eck

 

“True freedom is doing what you want, when you want and with whom you want to do it with.” 

 

I didn’t write the above quote.  Tony Robbins wrote it, who is all about money and following excitement.  He isn’t living or offering true freedom.  But he uses that quote as if he is.

This is level confusion at it’s best.  Level confusion happens when people make statements from within the illusion that are true only at the True Self level (outside the illusion).  If people did whatever they wanted within the illusion, things could get really bad.  Beliefs dramatically distort what we want.  That’s why the illusion has rules.  Only beliefs can create a rapist, serial killer, or thief.  They would all agree that’s a damn good quote.

If our minds are pure, we’ll live as he described.  Our doing flows naturally from our pure mind, not beliefs.  We won’t do anything that isn’t win-win.  Abundance is a bi-product of such thinking.  We get what truly belongs to us.  We charge what feels right, not what the market will bear.

I watched Tony Robbins on the Oprah channel about a year ago.  He was a ball of over-the-top excitement.  Following excitement is always bad news.  Even Oprah was jumping up and down screaming his affirmations, and she’s a fucking billionaire.

 

Level Confusion and God

Oprah, award show winners, and mega-preachers all say , “I’ve gotten all of this from God.”  More level confusion.  Oprah, for example, is gifted in her ability to interview people.  But her billions came from advertisers, marketing, and the “O” brand.  Viewers paid her with their time watching tons of ads instead of programming.  Her billions came from keeping more for herself than those who worked for her.  It came from taking risks and winning.  She plays the illusory game very well.  And I have no problem with the illusion as a game.  But don’t call winning the illusory game God’s plan or God’s will.  That’s lying.

The same thing happens when people say “God told me this or I channeled this from spirit.”  We fall for the trap thinking that their words are better than the words that we think.  I know that when people listen to their OWN True Self all the time, every problem on this planet will disappear.  I can’t wait.

 

The Reality

The reality is that we get money (even donations) from other people, not God.  So we have to really look for the highest level of equality and fairness.  We all want to get paid for offering our True Self expressed in products and services.  We don’t want a handout.  It looks like the illusion’s winners are doing this until you put freedom as the goal.  Then you see that most products and services hold people hostage or offer comfort for the zoo animals so they won’t try to escape.

An economy is part of an illusion that has a certain amount of money within it.  It’s not unlimited.  Abundance is thrown around by leveled-confused teachers, but it doesn’t exist within the illusion.  The illusion is all about limitation; those who get more than their share of that limitation win at the expense of others who lose.

Like the koala above, we lose our abundance when we get caged in the illusory zoo.  When others seem to take care of our needs, we give up abundance, freedom, and life itself.  The best example is the monastery.  We think monks are holy people, but they’re just cared for people.  They give up freedom of thought for a room and a couple of meals a day.  Most of the world takes jobs they don’t love; the zoo looks attractive because they fear they won’t find any eucalyptus leaves on their own.  That’s just not true; but if we believe it, it becomes our reality.

 

The Teachers

Speaking the truth at the false self level of reality is false.  It has no power at the wrong level of reality.  That’s why I expose the false and let you figure out your truth.

Let’s get real!  If you need to keep your gratitude journal, what are you?  Ungrateful.  If you need to focus on the positive, what are you?  Negative.  If you need to preach about abundance, you’re poverty in a great wrapper (or rapper if you are Yeezus!)  The True Self is already positive, grateful, and abundantly wired.  False masculine leaders teach us how to fix our false self to make it a True Self clone like them.  A True Self clone has a God complex and is admired in the illusion; but it’s unlikely to ever get free.  They’re trapped too; they just live in a nicer habitat.

These super false selves are so psychologically reversed that we can’t see their error.   We believe they’re True Selves.  That’s the problem.

They should feel emotion when speaking beliefs, but they don’t.  They think their beliefs are golden truth.  When we receive their projected words, we feel emotion like that excited Tony Robbins audience; but we don’t let go or walk away because we also get their psychological reversal.  We come to believe that they spoke the truth; after all, they’re successful.  We accept their projection and send them a check.

When we encounter beliefs that have been given to us by someone we once labeled good, nice, or enlightened, we generally feel emotions that we might label guilt, shame, or rebelliousness for letting go.  Our mind can think that we’re letting go of the truth.  That keeps us stuck.  We feel like we must hold on to the beliefs in case we need them later on.  And this brings us back to one of the biggest tricks of the illusion.  It tells us that it will give us what we can only get by letting go.  So just let go of these teachers, preachers, and leaders and their inspiring quotes; and you’ll find your own natural inspiration much more quickly.

How Roles Can Screw Us Up, and How to Escape Them

Think Different

By Cathy Eck

 

Roles 101

I really enjoyed my ex-husband’s father.  When everyone went off to church on Saturday night or Sunday morning, we would turn off the television, drink an icy cold Iron City, and laugh at our stupid stories.  He was alive, smart, and so much fun.  He was healthy and vibrant.  But the minute the door opened and the family returned, he was an actor who had been signaled to get his ass on stage.  He became a sick, old man who never amounted to anything.  His shoulders dropped.  His back hurt.  His smile turned into a frown, and he would quickly turn on the television.  He had a long-standing role in that family; there was nothing I could do to stop him from playing it or to convince my husband that I knew a different man than he did.

After enough time, I too would fall into a similar dreadful role that I couldn’t escape.  But I was like Andy in “The Shawshank Redemption.”  I was willing to chip away a little each day until I found my way back to freedom.  I learned about roles, and how deadly they can be, from observing my husband’s family.  I’d guess that the leading cause of death is giving up because you can’t escape an unwanted role.

We might have a good white-sheep role like the cute one, funny one, or smart one.  Or we could be a black sheep role like the sick one, negative one, or loser.  Roles are constructed with labels; once people associate us with a particular label, they’re often very slow to let that label go.  They don’t notice when we change; and we often feel like we’re stuck in Shawshank prison with little hope for parole.

 

Projection

Here’s where things get dicey.  People assign roles when they project the unwanted half of their beliefs out through their physical eyes (the bad side of the bottom of the triangle).  We can’t see them do this so we get tricked.  In the illusion, people (in masculine roles) see their own reflection without knowing it.  The masculine projects; the feminine reflects.

They call you the perky one because that’s how they see you, not how you really are.  Suddenly, you’re more perky in their presence; you might like that they bring out that quality in you.  But if they call you lazy or rude because you don’t talk around them (since they bore the living shit out of you),  you’ll find yourself unable to be perky even if you normally are.  Even worse, with a “bad” label, they’ll try to fix you, cementing the label more deeply.

In my experience, the best escape route is to let go from the feminine role until we get into the masculine role.  What we do next is critical.  Most screw up right here.  Once in the masculine role, we must let go of anything we see outside of us that generates emotion until the whole world appears free.  We can’t get free while holding people hostage in roles with our beliefs.

Getting rid of the need for approval is key to getting free of labels.  We must stop measuring our success based upon what others think of us and start measuring our success by the purity of our OWN mind.   Likewise, we stop measuring other people by what they say or do and start measuring them by the quality of their thinking.

For example, we say that people who inspire and motivate others are good people.  But why are they inspiring and motivating?  They see an uninspired and unmotivated world.  They’re fixing their own projection.  When we move into the masculine role, we see our beliefs about others, people, animals, plants, and the world.   It is our job to let go of what we see until we see free choice, true versus false, and a divine sort of justice.  Most people fix their projections and call it a career.

 

No Roles

The mental perspective is the cure for everything wrong in the world.  From a physically-oriented perspective, medical doctors are helpful; mentally oriented, they’re cursing patients with labels called diagnoses. They focus on sickness, not health.  In a physical orientation, veterans are heroes; mentally oriented, they’re blindly obedient killers.  Physically oriented, caretakers are servants to the needy; mentally oriented, they’re enablers or prison guards.  If we cling to a physically-oriented role, we can’t get free.  It’s impossible!

If you feel like you don’t fit into the world, you probably are more comfortable with the mental perspective.  You might feel judgment from others because people with physically oriented perspectives fit in; they think they’re good and right.  They have a free pass to be completely irresponsible with their mind.  You may have tried to avoid the physically-oriented world, but that isn’t necessary.  I assure you that the illusion won’t affect you once you let go of your beliefs and let your free mind lead your physical body and experience.

Roles disappear once we adopt the mental perspective.  Those who were perceived as good become false; and those who were labeled bad or wrong are revealed to be reflections of false good roles.  It becomes clear that the normal view of life is illusory; whatever was wrong in the illusion will be false in the free world.

When this mental shift happens, shit no longer happens.  A different world is revealed; it was hidden below our beliefs all along.  Roles, authority, and the illusion lose their false power.  We have nothing to fear anymore.  It was all just the boogie man under the bed; he wasn’t real.  The illusion takes over our imagination so we lose our creativity; when we let go of the illusion, our creativity returns.

Fortunately, we don’t have to wait for others to live from this perspective.  It’s there when we let go of our OWN physically-oriented perspective.  It’s there when we live entirely from the mental, True Self, perspective — the world of mental cause producing physical effect.

Letting Go Leads to “I Never F**king Believed You Anyway!”

Hating from the Illusory Egg

By Cathy Eck

 

Am I Letting Go?

People often say to me, “I don’t know if I’m letting go or not.” That’s because letting go feels odd.  Holding on feels normal. Often knowing that we did let go is more about realizing that we didn’t hold on. It’s really that simple at times.

There are also occasions when someone cuts through a huge mental program. They feel unlimited for a little while, and now they want to hold on to that clarity and unconditional love.  We’re so trained to hold on.  But the truth is that we can’t let go of our True Self; and we cause problems by holding on to the false self.  Holding on never makes sense.

Sadly, the illusion has caused people to believe that if they let go, the Mormon Tabernacle Choir will play; and Jesus will walk through their wall and kiss their feet.  That won’t happen; the false self never validates the True Self.

 

Quiet Art 

I want to share a great example of the calm, quiet art of letting go. This moment was particularly sweet; it demonstrates how our mind changes once we begin to break our false self away from our True Self.  These two mind components are meant to be separate. Western religious teachings about the soul combined these two mind aspects.  The eastern concept that everything is illusion discourages discrimination. Once our two minds start to separate, we get to a place that I call, “I never fucking believed you anyway.”

I was mentoring Jane (not her real name) on the subject of her sick cat.  She was in a damned if I do and damned if I don’t mindset. After letting go for a few minutes, she felt that she knew what to do.  She felt clear for a brief moment; then she said, “I feel guilty.”

To understand the next part of the interaction, you must understand how I mentor. Stupid as this might sound to those of you who are desperately trying to escape the feminine role, I purposely place myself in the feminine. I allow myself to feel as they speak. You see, being feminine isn’t bad when we can discriminate.  If they trick me, and occasionally they do, I’ve discovered yet another trick of the false masculine self that I must let go.

When someone is psychologically reversed, they speak words that are completely false; but they have no corresponding emotional reaction.  When that happens, I’ll feel the emotion they should feel. Their emotion is projected out.  I can then push them to revisit their statement. Oddly, Jane wasn’t psychologically reversed on this issue. Neither she or I felt emotion when she said, “I feel guilty.”  I said, “I don’t believe you. I don’t think you feel guilty at all.”

Jane has a great sense of humor and is super honest. She cracked up and said, “Your right. I thought I was supposed to say that.”  We both had a good laugh. You see, Jane was raised Catholic. She was taught that she should feel guilty every time she did something that her parents or religion didn’t like, which was often being her True Self.  She learned how to say the words, “I feel guilty,” and even act out the part of a guilty child. But there was a part of her, her True Self, that never believed the act.  Sadly, as time when on, she started to believe her own words; then she felt the corresponding emotions.

Jane had already let go of a lot of guilt-ridden beliefs in earlier sessions.  In this session, the belief that she should feel guilty showed up like a recording that she could play if an authority figure questioned her behavior. It had a purpose when she was younger; now it had none. It was easy for her to see that the belief was false because this time she saw it as a false-self act.

I’ve heard similar words from people who lost loved ones. They think they should display grief, but they don’t feel it. They put on an act; eventually, they come to believe their own act.  When I talk to them, I ask them if they really feel emotion; and they say no.  You see, we only feel emotion when we believe something false.  If we think only unconditionally loving thoughts for someone who leaves our life, we feel no emotion.  We might even feel blissful.  Emotion (or grief) means we’re thinking something other than unconditionally loving thoughts.  Perhaps, we’re fearing our future or feeling lonely — thoughts we should let go.  Society has many ways of convincing us that we should feel emotion when we shouldn’t and shouldn’t feel emotion when we should.  Oy vey!  This keeps the illusion, and our false self, thriving.

 

Giving the Projection Back

In Jane’s case, a priest or perhaps her parents might now be squirming with guilt that appears to have no cause.  Jane is no longer accepting their projection.  It has boomeranged back to the source. This is how the notion of karma started. It’s not a physical punishment for bad behavior.  It’s a mental condition whereby a projected belief gets returned to the source.  It’s divine justice.

Jane’s situation is common with emotions that we label shame, guilt, grief, fear of punishment, or retribution, as well as emotions like hope or excitement; they’re all emotions that usually began with beliefs in someone else’s mind. We either believed them because we felt we had to or because we wanted to.  We just forgot to let their beliefs go when they weren’t useful anymore.  But it’s never too late to let go.

Life would slowly return to perfection if those who held false beliefs also felt their own emotions.  We’d witness the true art of cause and effect as it was designed to be lived.  We’d all be creative and wise.  We’d no longer believe the illusion, and it would dissolve.  We’d all be free.

Freeing Yourself From a False Masculine Authority Figure

Freeing ourselves from roles

By Cathy Eck

 

You left home years ago.  You felt that you were now the creator of your own life. And yet, mom and dad keep showing up. You’ve married or dated them. You’ve seen your older kids acting like them with your younger kids, and you’ve even worked for them. You know their beliefs are false; so why are they still in your life?

We have to approach this problem the same way that we would view someone in a masculine role who keeps hiring irresponsible employees, has a wife that shops till she drops, and has kids who are addicts. We have to find out the beliefs that got them in this unwanted situation.

 

Projection

We don’t realize that within our minds both the masculine and feminine roles exist. In the physical world, however, we only play one role. We can’t play two roles at one time. So the masculine role in any situation projects the role that they don’t identify with.  This is why everyone wants those powerful masculine roles.

You see, there’s no unconscious mind. We see the contents of our mind every time we look at the world through the eyes of the masculine role. We view others as separate only because they’re physically separate.  False masculine projection in the illusion creates false-self connections. Ultimately, the false masculine wants possessions — obedient slaves and fans.

If we’re in the false masculine role, we project the feminine roles necessary to fulfill our needs — patients, customers, clients, servants.  We’ll tell ourselves we’re helping them.  But we’re projecting crap roles on those who are feminine to us.  We can clean up the mess quickly and easily.  If the person in the feminine role shops too much, we must realize that we want to buy more, but we hold back. We judge waste, or we think sacrifice is virtuous.  If we think our feminine is lazy, we probably fight laziness with our will.  We have pride in our overactivity.  We see the person in the feminine role as bad or wrong.  We would never be like them.  The payoff is we get to be good or right if we keep them on the hook.

If we’re in the feminine role, the masculine roles project on us. It feels like we have to wake his or her ass up to get free.  And yet, we can’t see how that’s possible.  Their judgment feels so damn strong.  In truth, we do have beliefs that got us into the feminine role as their reflection. We aren’t victims. But we have to understand how our mind holds the false relationship to get free.

 

File Storage

To solve this dilemma, I had to go back to my computer programming days. There are lots of files on your computer’s hard drive. To find a file, you must know its name. Search for the wrong name, and you won’t find that file.  Let’s say that you find the file, and now you want to delete it. You hit delete, and the program confirms: “Are you sure you want to delete ‘name of file.'” You respond “yes.”  You were able to delete that file because you knew you no longer needed it.  The same is true with our minds; we can delete a file when we’re clear it’s useless.

Let’s say your dad (masculine role) was a bigot. You observed his judgment from the feminine role and stored his bigotry under a file named something like, “Dad is a bigot.” Or, “Southern men are bigots” if you lived in the south and all his friends were bigots. Now you think, “I can’t delete that, it’s true. He is a bigot.” No, it’s not true. It’s real. Your dad has a True Self that’s not a bigot. For you to get free, you have to free him within your mind. If you let go of your observation of him, you won’t notice his bigotry any more. It will have the same feeling as talking about banana soufflé. We feel emotions when others speak falsely only if we believe them.

Let’s say dad had a belief that you’re lazy.  Determine how you stored the file. I discovered that my mind stored such information something like: “My dad believes I’m lazy.” When you find the right words, you’ll generally feel emotion arise.  The wrong words won’t bring up the emotion.

What people fail to realize about letting go is that to get free, we have to free every person on this planet that can generate an emotion in us. It’s daunting, I know. We’re turning everyone back into their True Self within our mind.  You’ll realize this when you completely adopt the mental perspective of life.  If you see something, and are bothered by it, you’re still contributing to it with a belief.

 

Important Caution

People in false masculine roles often feel no emotion when projecting.  They believe they’re really seeing the other person’s flaw because they see the other as physical only and separate; in truth, they’re seeing their own reflection.  If you’re in the masculine role, like parent to kids, teacher to  students, preacher to congregation, you’re always contributing to any false situation or problem, I.e., win-lose, good-evil, right-wrong, dominance-submission, etc. The masculine role is always responsible.  Just let go of what you see in the other.  Don’t take the credit for the shift.  You didn’t heal the person or situation; you simply stopped torturing them.

Projection makes letting go difficult, but not impossible. We have to decipher our role to find the causal beliefs — the file name. If you feel stuck, just vent to the wall or complain to your diary. You’ll say the belief. Then don’t fall into the trap of justifying your position; just let go. Freedom requires letting go of our false notion of justice, victim and perpetrator, and wanting punishment or retribution. We all deserve freedom.  We’re all victims of the illusion.

Letting Go Isn’t Therapy or Self-Help

Phoenix Rising out of ashes

By Cathy Eck

 

Letting go is natural.  But we’ve been trained to use our minds in a very unnatural way to keep the illusion alive.  It all began with the all-pervasive psychological reversal, the belief that a thought is true if it generates emotions.  It caused us to believe in emotionally heavy problems, injustice, war, suffering, and disease.  Once we believe these things exist, we see them.  Without that psychological reversal, all unwanted things would disappear.  Instead of healing the psychological reversal, we try to prevent our fears from manifesting, try to make peace with what we’ve already manifested, and try to release all the emotions we’ve generated.

 

Therapy and Self-Help

In therapy, people talk about their problems.  They go back to their past to understand what happened or to discover why they feel like they do.  They justify their emotions or train themselves to no longer feel them.  Therapy rarely invokes letting go.

During my early research days, I often turned on the Dr. Phil show in the afternoons for a break.  I thought it would support my efforts.  It didn’t.  It created unrelenting emotions within me.  Dr. Phil projects his moral, religious viewpoint into the world — right and wrong, good and evil.  He fixes his massive projections on the show.  He sees a reward-and-punishment world.  He believes the past creates the future.  As I moved toward my True Self, my body signaled the error in his divided point of view.  I came to realize that Dr. Phil only felt emotion when he was bad according to the Christian definition of good and bad; I felt emotion around both sides of the bottom of the triangle.

In self-help, people put ice-cream on their manure.  They get their anger out, or they make peace with their shadow.  If you let go, you no longer have anger or a shadow.  You don’t need the ice cream.  In self-help, people try to drop their ego, but they don’t even know what their ego is.  Most are trying to drop their True Self.  Trying to fix ourselves hasn’t worked because we aren’t broken.

I can explain anything that happened to anyone in five words:  “THEY FELL INTO THE ILLUSION.”  Nothing can happen to any of us without first accepting an illusory belief or putting a false self above us as our authority.

Therapy and self-help rarely find the causal belief because they’re focused on causal incidents.  They falsely assume that our emotions come from actions, events, and trauma.  They don’t realize that our emotions come from our own beliefs or believing another’s thoughts; we start accepting beliefs in our mother’s womb.  It looks like we’re born with original sin.  We might get the fallen illusory viewpoint early in life, but it isn’t who we truly are.  I suspect that’s why babies come out screaming.

When we’re truly free of a past belief, we recognize how we perpetuated it.  Every time the belief entered our conscious mind, we felt emotion.  We believed that the nervous agitation meant the thought/belief was true.  So we ran from it.  We didn’t turn and face it and say, “You are not true.”  Humans might face fears on the outside by doing dangerous activities or telling their wife they had an affair; but they rarely face their fears on the inside where it truly matters.

Therapy creates comfort in the illusion.  When the illusion’s drama gets too hot, therapy cools things down.  Self-help helps us win.  When we feel defeated, self-help beefs up our will.  Occasionally, therapy or self-help cause someone to let go; but it’s usually an accident.

 

Drama

To create drama, we think false thoughts.  When those thoughts manifest, we blame others.  We avoid responsibility for our minds and creations.  We keep our focus outward.  We even expect others to fix our emotions.

Mom feels lonely; she wants us to visit.  She thinks she has no purpose; she’s not loved.  She’s memorializing the past.  She’s repeatedly thinking false thoughts that generate emotion.  If she let them go, she wouldn’t need us to fix them.  The people in our life don’t realize that their emotions are caused by their own thinking.  When we let go, we find out how codependent we really were.  We find out why we weren’t living our life.

 

The Dreaded Plateau

Therapy and self-help are attractive because they don’t discriminate between true and false.  People often plateau in initiation because they want to keep someone else on the hook, they don’t want to let go of their projections, or there’s a part of the illusion they like.  They want the criminal punished.  They’re sure their child is lazy.  They don’t want to let go of competition because they think it makes sports fun.  They love Christmas and look forward to the excitement of the holidays.  They want the money their traditional medicine career provides.  They love going to self-help workshops.  They fear losing their hot boyfriend.  All of their friends are Christian.  Therapy and self-help don’t put such things at risk, but letting go does.  Or so we think…

We don’t have to give up anything outer by letting go.  We’re just letting go of false perspectives.  We stop wanting justice for illusory errors.  We drop competing, not sports.  We buy gifts and decorate our house with lights anytime.  We become a healer who drops labels instead of creating them.  We go to creative workshops instead of self-help.  We realize that if hot boyfriend doesn’t like our True Self, he’s wrong for us.  We see goodness in all people, not just our fellow church members.

Our false mind says that we’ll lose something we think we need or love by letting go, but it’s lying.  We can’t screw up by letting go.  We can’t lose.  Losing things that weren’t right for us is winning.  If something is truly ours, we can’t lose it.  And in my experience, if it wasn’t really mine, I didn’t miss it — not even a little.  Freedom was infinitely better.

Testing to See if a Desire is True

Is my desire true

By Cathy Eck

Desire

You’ve got this nagging desire that just won’t go away.  How do you know if it’s really a good desire to pursue?   Is it a True Self desire?  Or is it a false trap that will just get you in deep doo doo?

Or you’re mentally stuck with two seemingly equal choices.  How do you choose?

 

True Desires

Let’s review what I’ve discussed before.  A desire from your True Self will feel calm and peaceful.  You’ll enjoy thinking about it so long as you don’t start thinking about the fact that you don’t have it or start trying to figure out how to get it.  If you do that, you’ll feel emotional excitement.

A True Desire won’t solve a problem.  The True Self doesn’t know about problems.  True Self desires don’t fix effects; they’re creative in nature.

The most important test of all — it will be win-win for you and everyone on the planet.  No one will feel diminished, nor will their True Self be harmed by fulfillment of this desire.  It’s okay if their false self gets a little shaken up.

 

Deserving

The big block to fulfilling desires is frequently related to deserving or worthiness.  Often successful people thank God for their success, “Look what God gave me,” they say as they accept the award given to them by “humans.”  They often add, “You can do it too.”  They’re hoping we won’t judge their extraordinary success.  The truth is that they made choices and had beliefs that led to that success that would make sense if we could read their mind.

In the end, it’s much kinder to say to someone, “I happened to find something that lots of people want or need,” rather than, “God gave me this because I deserve it.”  The first leaves the listener with a proper understanding of the winner’s path to success.  The second leaves the listener wondering what’s wrong with them.  We’ve often been that listener, which has led to the confusion we feel around deserving.

Astrology was one of the first ways that false deserving was created.  “Look it’s on my chart that I am to rule this land.  Fuck you guys!”  Now we use it to justify being an ass.  “I can’t help but be stubborn, I’m a Taurus.”  Astrology was also made by men, not God.

Along the same line, some people go to psychics to tell them if they’re deserving.  Some use divining tools to make decisions.  Some look for signs and signals.  Some are called, which is really funny.  Who’s calling?  Dah!  Ring, ring, it’s your false self!

The bottom line is that if we desire it, and it’s a true desire, we deserve it.  And there is a way to get it….letting go of the beliefs that stand in the way.

 

Saved By a Pendulum

I cured myself of the desire dilemma after I learned the art of dousing or divining.  I thought it was insanely cool.  I found the well site on my property.  I often made great decisions using the pendulum.  I was a pendulum master.  One day, I paid attention to my mind while doing it.  I was mentally directing the pendulum to spin, and my body translated it into subtle, undetectable movements.  When I just watched my mind, I could see that I was hoping for a particular answer.  That was my desire, dah!  Or at times, my mind was afraid of the answer.  Again, I could see my real desire, but now I could see that I believed it was impossible.  Or I feared I’d pay for my desired choice later on.  My emotions were far superior; they gave me truly insightful feedback.  I ditched the pendulum.

Let’s say, I wanted to know if I would get a contract or a house I loved.  Those were stupid questions.  The answer was more complex, “If I’d let go of my doubt and beliefs about not getting the contract, I’d get it.”  “If I’d stop listening to the advice of experts, I’d get the house.”  I could drill down and decide what to let go by just asking and feeling for emotional feedback.

I was going through all of this pendulum trouble because I feared people questioning my deserving.  The pendulum was like saying, “God gave me permission to have what I want.”  People convinced me that God was moving the pendulum.  But that was a lie.  I was moving it.  I realized that I was embarrassed by my creative capacity.  I was afraid of being judged by people who were prideful of their suffering.  Others in my life believed that if God didn’t call me, I wasn’t allow to move forward.  But God didn’t know my number because God was only calling people to support his crazy illusion.  I didn’t listen to that God…he made me want to barf.  The other God, that Creator from Genesis I, he was resting…taking a long nap.  I imagined what he would say…

“What are you asking me for?  I gave you a piece of me — your True Self.  You’re a creator.  Create what’s inspiring to you and harmonious with my other kids.  I will be in every one of your creations.  However, if you create in a way that’s harmful to your brothers and sisters, I won’t be around to watch.  You’re on your own, kiddo.  I’ll always love you, but if you fuck up, I’ll miss you.”

 

The Lesson

Think about flipping that coin or asking your Magic Eight Ball what you want to know?  Just do it in your mind.  Notice what you’re hoping for.  That’s your answer.  Now check out that answer.  Is it win-win for everyone who’s a True Self?  Does it feel calm?  Is it creative.  You have your answer!  If it meets those tests, it’s True.  Now you can focus on letting go of all the beliefs that stand in the way.

 

 

 

How Do You Know If Someone is Their True Self or False Self?

True Self doesn't wear a mask.

By Cathy Eck

 

True Self Please Stand Up

In order to get free and enjoy life on earth, we must know a True Self from a false self.  It’s hard because there are many damn good clones out there.  You can take drugs, have an insight during visualization, or go through a near death experience and gain a glimpse of the truth.  Such experiences shut down our intellect.  We go beyond the construct of space and time.

But space and time aren’t the problem.  When the intellect is used correctly by the True Self; it becomes the perfect masculine — the ultimate leader and visionary.  When the false self uses the intellect, it stuffs it with knowledge, beliefs, and rules.  Then we can’t access our truth because our mental computer is a cluttered mess with badly labeled files and lots of viruses.

The real point of everything I share is to master our own mind so that we’re always discriminating.  In this way, we don’t take in files that are infected with viruses.  Our mind contains the perfect virus protection software, which keeps us living our OWN life within an imperfect world that values knowledge over wisdom.  That’s freedom.

 

Clues

Everyone is trying to get our support for their illusory world.  Our job is to not accept the role they want to cast us in.

Experts and authorities thought they were giving us the truth, and we believed them.  So how do we know who to believe?  How do we know what to let go?

The answer is right within the word believe!  Permanent lies that kind of explain things that we don’t understand aren’t necessary.  As we let go, we come to understand everything.  Until you get there, here are a few reminders!

 

1)  You can’t let go of the truth.  If you let go of everything that everyone ever said to you, you couldn’t go wrong.  You won’t go back to being a helpless baby.  That was a condition of size, not wisdom.  Babies are very wise. They get stupider as they grow up.

2)  Is the teacher/authority asking you to accept beliefs to fit into their world view?  There are many teachers who say, “I need you to wipe your slate clean,” but then they write all over it with their beliefs.  In this work, we wipe our slates clean and never allow another to write on it again without our conscious permission.  I never want you to believe something I say either, other than “You can let go.”  I explain the way the illusion is constructed only so that you might be more savvy about discriminating and not just believe everything you hear.  Eventually, when your discrimination is working again, you can let go of the knowledge I provided about the illusion.  You won’t need it anymore.  It will be the last file you delete.

3)  Do they think they have the truth and no one else does?   Everyone has the truth inside of them.  Most of us have forgotten that.  Experts think they have the truth when they have knowledge or beliefs.  They think they have something that no one else knows; they believe that makes them special.  Special and false are the same.  Knowledge and beliefs always have limits.  Just take them to the extreme to find them.  You can find the answer to anything on your own.

4)  Can they laugh at their beliefs or traditions?  If we can’t laugh at the things our false self says; it’s because we believe them.

5)  Do they want support, submission, or commitment?  You don’t have to shrink to fit into a True Self’s world.  The True Self doesn’t need to create a secure future with you.  False selves fear the future, and they want long-term commitments and certainty.  They want you to sign on the dotted line that you will never, ever change your mind and let them go.

6)  Are they trying to fix or change the illusion or float above it?  Most people in the west want to change the illusion to suit their personal tastes.  In the east, they leave it there but float above it in denial.  Neither eliminates the illusion, which is the only way to have real freedom.  Our false self can separate us from things we don’t like mentally.  But freedom only comes when we recognize that the things we don’t like are false.  They only affect our body and life if we believe them.

7)  Are they teaching you a quality that you already possess (but forgot)?  If they’re teaching you to be good, spiritual, peaceful, non-judgmental, loving, positive, or to know the truth, then you don’t need them.  They need to fix themselves.  People in the illusion all fix themselves by fixing others — nothing changes.  If we think we’ve lost our spirit, we’ll go hunting for it.  But we won’t find it.  We’ll take part of our false self and teach it to be spiritual.  We’ll create a better mask — a clone self.  When we let go, we remember that we’re all the things that religious and spiritual teachers are training our false self to be.

8)  The false self fixes one thing at the expense of another.  A person goes to a doctor or healer and gets a drug or treatment that fixes one thing but now gives them a different problem.  My son’s friend used to joke about Feng Shui.  He called it the “art of moving shit around.”  Everyone in the illusion is a Feng Shui practitioner.  They don’t fix shit, they move it around.  Old problems transform into new problems because no one ever removes the cause.  They’re just fixing effects.

That’s a start.  Everything in the illusion is backwards from the truth; but the illusion is not the opposite of Truth.  Chew on that one for a while.  The illusion is only a man-made invention; it’s completely false and has no power of its own.  It’s destructible.  When we let it go, the truth is what remains.

 

Respect: R-E-S-P-E-C-T, You Must Drop It To Get Free!

Respect

By Cathy Eck

 

Respect

We’re trained to give respect to others at a young age.  We’re told to respect our elders, teachers, preachers, experts, authority figures, and people of a higher class even if they harm others or give us false beliefs.  We train children to respect the false self when we’re naturally hard-wired to respect only the True Self.  This is what flips our emotions so they no longer keep us on track.  To get free, we have to reverse this training.   It isn’t easy.  We have to give up wanting false respect and stop giving undeserved respect to others.  When we don’t follow society’s rules of respect, however, people see us as bad or wrong.

Normal respect happens when someone expresses their True Self.  They love us unconditionally or see who we really are.  They do something creative or demonstrate an amazing talent.  It’s like applause or appreciation.  It’s a temporary nod of thanks for sharing something beautiful, true, or pure with us.  But even those experiences should only generate temporary respect.

False respect is a robot-like response based on mental programming.  False respect is defined by illusory social standards, qualifications, or rules.  False respect is often considered permanent once we qualify for it.  If we have been given the magic wand of false respect, we can be a jerk and people will still have to listen to us and believe us.  This is how dictators get so much power.

 

Unnatural Respect

We can’t worship two masters.  We can’t live as a True Self while worshipping or believing false selves.  What we do on the outside mirrors what we’re doing on the inside.  If we’re listening to false selves outside of us, we also respect our own false self.  We disrespecting our True Self and God.

Unnatural respect is all about one thing and one thing only.  It serves to keep people in the masculine role who don’t deserve it.  We don’t question them or their beliefs.  We shut down our discrimination.  We give them the same power in our mind that we’d naturally give our True Self: but unfortunately, they don’t deserve that position.

 

Level Confusion

Sadly, we have infused respect with level confusion.  Ideally, our True Self would inspire all of our actions.  Other people might give us ideas or teach us things, but our choices would come from inside of us.  When choices come from our True Self, they’re always win-win for all; the True Self never harms or diminishes another.

However, when someone plays their “respect me” card, we don’t believe that we can say, “No,” because the authority figure has a pedigree, knowledge, or a role.  They didn’t earn our respect.  This is often hard to see.  We confuse the knowledgeable or privileged false self with the wise, omnipotent True Self.  We believe their authority is earned, but it isn’t.  Often the people with the most rules and beliefs are placed in positions of authority.  Unnatural respect slams us into the feminine role underneath false leaders.  Then we feel powerless to reclaim what’s rightfully ours.

 

FEAR…FEAR…and more FEAR

When we recognize that people who said they loved us were operating from win-lose beliefs, we naturally lose our false respect for them.  That makes sense.  We feel bad because we want to respect everyone.  But false selves don’t deserve respect.  If we look below the urge to obey them, we’ll find the fear, the beliefs, and the rules that need to go.

As we let go, we hear the voices of the people who have controlled our mind.  We must stand firm and discriminate, but our automatic reaction is usually to just obey or try to keep the peace.  We must do our best to only give respect to our own True Self, and that means disrespecting false selves no matter how much they scare or threaten us.  We have to let them go.  When we completely let the false voices within go, the people without lose their power as well.  It’s like we become invisible to them.

Finally, we’ve cleared out our OWN mind; we now deserve natural respect.  We no longer judge.  We think in win-win ways.  We’ve lost our fear.  We love our mind.  But the people around us don’t give us natural respect.  They’re still listening to and respecting false selves because they’re afraid not to.  This can be the worst stage of all.  We’ve worked so hard to reconnect with our wisdom and truth, and people think we’re full of shit because we aren’t saying what the false selves say.  It’s tempting to turn back, and I suspect many do.  Some get stuck in anger at this stage when people in their lives ask them to prove themselves; the people should ask their false authorities for justification but they’re afraid of their false authorities.

In these moments, we’re facing the earliest moments in childhood when we accepted the illusion because we believed we had no choice.  We couldn’t go off on our own; we were too young.  We’re remembering being small and yet knowing the truth, but no one understood or heard us.  Maybe we couldn’t even talk yet, but we felt emotion when something was false.  We cried.  For some, that was pretty much all the time.  Why didn’t they feel the same emotions?  Why did they demand our respect?  Why were we seen as bad or wrong?

If you allow this  sadness, powerlessness, and despair to erupt and listen as your beliefs arise, you’ll realize that you accepted beliefs about the world, yourself, and other people that weren’t true.  Listen, as your beliefs rise into your mind.  Realize they all generate strong emotion so they’re false; notice that they aren’t win-win for everyone.  Let them go.  You’re no longer a powerless child.  You did nothing wrong.  You were just an innocent True Self.  People who didn’t remember who they were saw you as flawed.  They were wrong.  You can let their error go now and be free.