Letting Go Leads to “I Never F**king Believed You Anyway!”

Hating from the Illusory Egg

By Cathy Eck

 

Am I Letting Go?

People often say to me, “I don’t know if I’m letting go or not.” That’s because letting go feels odd.  Holding on feels normal. Often knowing that we did let go is more about realizing that we didn’t hold on. It’s really that simple at times.

There are also occasions when someone cuts through a huge mental program. They feel unlimited for a little while, and now they want to hold on to that clarity and unconditional love.  We’re so trained to hold on.  But the truth is that we can’t let go of our True Self; and we cause problems by holding on to the false self.  Holding on never makes sense.

Sadly, the illusion has caused people to believe that if they let go, the Mormon Tabernacle Choir will play; and Jesus will walk through their wall and kiss their feet.  That won’t happen; the false self never validates the True Self.

 

Quiet Art 

I want to share a great example of the calm, quiet art of letting go. This moment was particularly sweet; it demonstrates how our mind changes once we begin to break our false self away from our True Self.  These two mind components are meant to be separate. Western religious teachings about the soul combined these two mind aspects.  The eastern concept that everything is illusion discourages discrimination. Once our two minds start to separate, we get to a place that I call, “I never fucking believed you anyway.”

I was mentoring Jane (not her real name) on the subject of her sick cat.  She was in a damned if I do and damned if I don’t mindset. After letting go for a few minutes, she felt that she knew what to do.  She felt clear for a brief moment; then she said, “I feel guilty.”

To understand the next part of the interaction, you must understand how I mentor. Stupid as this might sound to those of you who are desperately trying to escape the feminine role, I purposely place myself in the feminine. I allow myself to feel as they speak. You see, being feminine isn’t bad when we can discriminate.  If they trick me, and occasionally they do, I’ve discovered yet another trick of the false masculine self that I must let go.

When someone is psychologically reversed, they speak words that are completely false; but they have no corresponding emotional reaction.  When that happens, I’ll feel the emotion they should feel. Their emotion is projected out.  I can then push them to revisit their statement. Oddly, Jane wasn’t psychologically reversed on this issue. Neither she or I felt emotion when she said, “I feel guilty.”  I said, “I don’t believe you. I don’t think you feel guilty at all.”

Jane has a great sense of humor and is super honest. She cracked up and said, “Your right. I thought I was supposed to say that.”  We both had a good laugh. You see, Jane was raised Catholic. She was taught that she should feel guilty every time she did something that her parents or religion didn’t like, which was often being her True Self.  She learned how to say the words, “I feel guilty,” and even act out the part of a guilty child. But there was a part of her, her True Self, that never believed the act.  Sadly, as time when on, she started to believe her own words; then she felt the corresponding emotions.

Jane had already let go of a lot of guilt-ridden beliefs in earlier sessions.  In this session, the belief that she should feel guilty showed up like a recording that she could play if an authority figure questioned her behavior. It had a purpose when she was younger; now it had none. It was easy for her to see that the belief was false because this time she saw it as a false-self act.

I’ve heard similar words from people who lost loved ones. They think they should display grief, but they don’t feel it. They put on an act; eventually, they come to believe their own act.  When I talk to them, I ask them if they really feel emotion; and they say no.  You see, we only feel emotion when we believe something false.  If we think only unconditionally loving thoughts for someone who leaves our life, we feel no emotion.  We might even feel blissful.  Emotion (or grief) means we’re thinking something other than unconditionally loving thoughts.  Perhaps, we’re fearing our future or feeling lonely — thoughts we should let go.  Society has many ways of convincing us that we should feel emotion when we shouldn’t and shouldn’t feel emotion when we should.  Oy vey!  This keeps the illusion, and our false self, thriving.

 

Giving the Projection Back

In Jane’s case, a priest or perhaps her parents might now be squirming with guilt that appears to have no cause.  Jane is no longer accepting their projection.  It has boomeranged back to the source. This is how the notion of karma started. It’s not a physical punishment for bad behavior.  It’s a mental condition whereby a projected belief gets returned to the source.  It’s divine justice.

Jane’s situation is common with emotions that we label shame, guilt, grief, fear of punishment, or retribution, as well as emotions like hope or excitement; they’re all emotions that usually began with beliefs in someone else’s mind. We either believed them because we felt we had to or because we wanted to.  We just forgot to let their beliefs go when they weren’t useful anymore.  But it’s never too late to let go.

Life would slowly return to perfection if those who held false beliefs also felt their own emotions.  We’d witness the true art of cause and effect as it was designed to be lived.  We’d all be creative and wise.  We’d no longer believe the illusion, and it would dissolve.  We’d all be free.

What We’ll Do To Get Rid of Our Emotions

Emotions

By Cathy Eck

 

Releasing Emotions

People hate to let go of their seemingly good emotions, like excitement, hope, or pride.  “What would life be without excitement?,” they ask.  To get off the bottom of the triangle, however, we must let go of all the causes of emotions.  Excitement and anger are equally damaging effects of false beliefs.

When confronted with the notion of letting go … Actors fear losing their acting ability.  Artists think they’ll lose their creative edge.  People who believe they’re good fear they’ll lose their empathy.  Those addicted to romance believe emotional chemistry is love.  People fight to keep their emotions while simultaneously hating them.  The illusion falsely promises that it’s giving us what we can only get by letting go.

There are so many techniques to get rid of the emotions generated by our false beliefs.  Techniques like the Release Technique, EFT, and anything else that eliminates the emotion without removing the causal belief are popular.  But they don’t fix the cause unless you happen to let the belief go.

The false masculine eliminates unwanted beliefs that cause emotion.  They get it half right, and it would work if they had no psychological reversals.  They totally believe their view of life is the right view.  They forget to do the win-win test.  Karma might be win-win for a guru since he’s certain he has none.  But it imprisons billions of people.  The apocalypse might look win-win for Christian Bible Thumpers, but it sucks for the rest of us.  The false masculine holds themselves superior to the rest of the world.  In their eyes if we were all like them, earth would be perfect.  Can you see their delusion?

 

So Misunderstood

Emotions are so misunderstood.  Many take substances to eliminate emotions.  They keep jobs they hate or stay in bad marriages because the anger and pain they feel by staying where they are is less than the guilt, shame, poverty, or loneliness they believe they’ll feel if they leave.  

Some people create pain to get rid of their emotions, WTF?  Lisa Ling, reporter on Oprah’s channel, did a special on BDSM, Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM).  When asked why they wanted to be dominated, beaten, and chained; the people said, “It feels good.”  They believe they’re releasing emotions.  Cutting is another way of trading emotions for pain.  

People use sports for emotional release.  They scream at their televisions or use their emotions as fuel when they play.  I used to run.  I pounded the pavement in anger and thought that was healthy.  Sex without love is a sport if desired, rape if undesired by one participant.  Neither sex nor sports are bad; but they’re not meant to be emotional release techniques.

People fight over stupid things or beat their children for emotional release.  They justify it as discipline; but in truth, they just want to release their emotions.

Some vomit their emotions into creative work which is a false-self creativity.  Artistic expression lives in the True Self.  Creative ideas require us to go through the darkness of the false self.  That’s why many great artists become crazy, manic, or suicidal.  But what if they could let go?  They could enter the darkness without a scratch.

 

Good Emotions?

The most ridiculous way to get rid of emotions is to relabel them good.  We feel waves of excitement when something good happens only to be disappointed when we don’t get what we want.  This produces addictions to food, drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, parties, adventures, drama, workshops, healers and psychics, sex, religion, etc.  Life in the illusion creates the downward wave quite nicely.  We go to others or substances to pull us back up.  

Caretakers give outer care as well as a strong emotional projection.  People feel better when they serve because shit flows downhill.  Our unconscious masculine hates emotions; and it looks for victims to project its fears on.  People give to charity to feel prideful or eliminate guilt.  Charities represent the manifestations of our fears — the thing we want to see fixed in the world before it happens to us.    

Many spiritual teachers and religious leaders use talent or knowledge to claim the false masculine role and stay there.  They project their false feminine on followers.  They often don’t realize that they have God complexes, not God, in their masculine mind.  They believe they have the right to judge and punish their opposition — their own shadow — that would be us.  Most of us fear people with God complexes so we don’t challenge them.  If we do, we get what we expect — punishment, humiliation, or death.  This is why we’re often silent about things that truly matter.

In truth, emotions are all the same.  Labeling them keeps us stuck.  Emotional release techniques only create more confusion.  If we follow our emotions, they’ll  take us to the causal belief.  Once we understand this, freedom becomes possible.  Emotions go away naturally when we let go of the cause.  Our mind is a beautiful, organic system that leads us to the perfection that the illusion claims to be humanly impossible.

Letting go is compassionate.  I wanted to learn how because I didn’t want to project on others.  I didn’t want to explode on others.  I didn’t want to reflect their baggage.   I didn’t care to run anymore.  I just wanted to love and free others.

When tempted to seek emotional release or feed an addiction, first stop and ask yourself:  “What thought or problem am I trying to eliminate?”  Follow your emotion by witnessing it.  We listen and let go when we discover the causes.  As we practice letting go, we stop playing the “Pass the Emotions” game.

Even for those of us who practice witnessing our emotions and letting go, it isn’t fun when they arise.  But emotions are the guide on the path to the True Self — Heaven on Earth.  If you want that destination, you must take the path that goes there.