Exposing my Inner Comedian — Comedy is Honest

Steve Kaplan

By Cathy Eck



I love comedy, but I’m not fond of jokes, silliness, or trickery.  I didn’t understand my perspective of comedy until I found Steve Kaplan.  So when I got an email saying that I could repeat his intensive at a very reduced rate, I jumped on it.

I must explain that if the Dali Lama was at the Starbuck’s across the street, I wouldn’t even twitch my leg.  But for Steve, I happily drove to LA.  I know my truth, but I didn’t know how my truth fit into the world of comedy.  I knew this was the next step in my quest for mental freedom, and I felt inspired to accept the role of student for a weekend.

Steve has done for comedy what I’ve done with beliefs.  Steve has watched endless comedy movies, studied the art of comedy throughout history, and most important, Steve has let go of everything that he thought he knew about comedy so that he could see with fresh eyes and hear with fresh ears.


7th Sense

Awhile back, I declared humor to be the seventh sense.  I knew that was true because when I could laugh at my past, I was free of it.  Laughter was like a super power.

According to Steve, humor and truth walk hand-in-hand.  Comedy is honest.  Comedy says what is natural, not what is expected or politically correct.

Last night, Bill Maher was on Jay Leno’s show.  Jay acknowledged Bill for being nominated for 32 Emmys, but never winning.  Jay said (paraphrased):  “Unlike most of us comedians who say that others like and want to hear, you say what others need to hear.  I hope I’m around when you finally get what you deserve.”  Bill is funny without making jokes; he says what is obvious and honest.  We laugh.  He has a job because so few people have the balls to say what is obvious.  Most of us fear humiliation or punishment.

For much of my life, I was surrounded by people who believed that “The truth hurts.”  My inner comedian said that the truth will set you free, but no one believed me.  I put my inner comedian on the shelf in my mid-twenties.  I’d just won the Toastmasters’ East Coast Comedy Competition.  But I couldn’t compete further because my boss wouldn’t let me off work, and my husband didn’t even know I’d competed.  They didn’t find me funny.  I figured that I had a deformed view of comedy.  I’d be better off not using it.  But that felt like part of me died.

Comedy is truthful in Steve Kaplan’s perspective, but it isn’t unkind.  I’d guess that Steve’s Jewish — most people in movies or Hollywood are.  Yet, he starts off his seminar telling a Hitler joke.  Then he says, “Why is a joke funny about a person who was responsible for killing 60,000,000 people?”  Steve didn’t say, “Hitler killed 6,000,000 Jews.”  He said, “Hitler killed 60,000,000 people.”  Steve recognizes as important and worthy 54,000,000 more people than the average Joe.  That’s why he can see into the depths of comedy — below the silly jokes.  The truth on any subject unites people and makes everyone worthy.



Given my focus in life, Steve blew me away when he walked up to a student and told him that he’d been looking at his stuff over lunch, and it sucked.  He went to a woman and said that he’d also looked at her writing, and it was amazing.  He was lying to both of them, and he later admitted that.  But the victims’ faces didn’t register lies even after he admitted lying.  The guy looked like he was going to cry; and the woman looked like she might lift off at any moment.

His point was that we believe words even when they’re lies. However, comedy happens when we tell the truth.  Comedy is the natural response for a particular situation and a particular character.  It’s what flies out of our mouth without going through our false-self editing process.

We’ve all lost our funny because we’re all trained to edit everything we say.  We look for what we should say, not what’s natural and true.  We even try to get into other people’s minds, where we don’t belong, so we can say what they expect.

Steve played a clip of a Soap Opera, “All My Children.”  A man and women were talking.  He explained that drama is unnatural.  People say what they need to say to look good, be strong, and be in control.  There’s the life lesson — the cause of drama.  Drama is the effect of people not saying what’s natural.  They say what will make them look good, right, in control, positive, expert, or spiritual.  The false self wants approval or control, not resolution of their problems, true love, or harmonic relationship.  Trying to get those false needs met creates drama, which ironically ends up costing the person the very approval and control they desire.


My Desire

Steve’s intensive validated what my True Self knew about comedy.  Initiation works that way.  You unveil the truth within you, and then you find others who validate your true perspective.

I wasn’t there to become Steve or memorize Steve’s words so I could quote them and sound knowledgeable.  I wasn’t there to find myself.  I wanted to be able to remember events of my past that I still held in mind in a dramatic way and allow them to transform into comedy.  When we can laugh at something; it has no power over us anymore.

Seriousness (gravity) is the demise of the True Self; it puts us in the grave.  Lightness (enlightenment) is comedy or seeing the funny in the false self.  The false self (illusion) is just one big lie pretending to be true.  It wants us to believe that the truth hurts, but it doesn’t.  When we laugh at the false self by telling the truth, we expose it and destroy it’s power.  It truly does set us free.

Honesty, Reality, and the True Self

Honesty and looking in the mirror

By Cathy Eck


Honesty Used Ineffectively

One of the biggest problems that arises in people who want to be themselves and free their mind is they’re usually really honest people.  Often their honesty gets them in trouble when trying to let go.  This was a mind trick that nailed my ass to the wall for a long time.

Let’s say you want to lose weight.  When you look in the mirror, you see reality.  You don’t like what you see, and your false mind honestly comments on what it sees.  Positive thinkers would say to look in the mirror and say, “I’m a skinny person,” 5000 times.  But you’re an honest person; that just doesn’t work for you.  It feels like lying.  In fact, it just makes things worse.  Since you can’t lie, and your reality is in your face, you feel hopelessly screwed by your own honesty.

The problem is that your beliefs have already created too much weight.  So how do you get behind the reality to let go of the beliefs?  What you must realize is that the beliefs you currently hold in mind in this very moment are the beliefs that got you to this point.  The good news is that as you look in the mirror, you’re probably feeling emotion.  That means that the beliefs are close to the surface of your mind.  The emotion will take you to the causal belief if you follow it.

The key is to change your mental focus from what you see to what you are thinking and feeling.  In that way, you can find the cause and let it go.

Our goal is to let go of any belief about weight that isn’t true.  If we can let go of all of the beliefs that we have about food, exercise, genetics, body type, or weight in general, then we won’t be able to create too much weight anymore.

Now I realize that I’ve picked a loaded topic.  Most of us can let go of food and exercise beliefs for a long time without running out of them.  We’ve accepted a hell of a lot of them; and if we’re honest, they all feel bad.  They can also be tricky to let go because we got most of them from experts.  But if we want freedom, we have to strip the power from the experts.  Our True Self is much wiser.


The Process

As we look in the mirror and see too much weight, we can feel the emotion arising.  Our honesty is dying to express itself.  If we’ve hung out in the new thought movement, we’ll want to put whipped cream on our honesty.  But don’t do it.  Whatever our mind is saying is just a belief; we don’t have to hide it or fear it because we can let it go.  This is really facing our fears.  Instead of decorating them, stuffing ourselves with some cake, turning on the television, or whining to a friend, we feel the emotion, witness the causal thoughts as they arise, and let them all go.

Let’s say that when you looked in the mirror you said, “I’m so fat.”  That comment clearly doesn’t feel good.  But you say, “That isn’t a belief.  It’s true.  I am fat.”  And therein lies the problem. Focusing on reality or labeling it solidifies the belief even more.  It makes it even harder to create change.


Honesty is Your Ally

Most people say, “You must deny what you see.  Cancel, cancel.”  That’s just fixing the illusion, and the illusion will come back later on.  We must remove the illusion to eliminate the problem completely.

We succeed if we turn our honesty on our mind.  This is what allows the situation to change.  Our biggest mental downfall, that perpetuates all problems, is that we’re all far too focused on reality.  We talk about reality; we warn people about reality.  But reality is caused by our beliefs.  Reality isn’t the truth.  Remember reality is our True Self, plus our beliefs.

We must stop commenting on what we SEE in the mirror; instead, we turn our ally of honesty on our mind.  Our mind says, “You look terrible.”  That comment clearly doesn’t feel good; so it isn’t true (meaning it isn’t who we really are).  Go into mind clean up mode.  Stay focused on the job at hand.  Our mind can continue to comment all it wants; but as it comments, we let go of every thought that doesn’t feel good.  In this way, we’ve begun the process of clearing our mind of all the beliefs that caused the excess weight.

As the beliefs go, we might spontaneously choose different food, find ourself taking up a sport, or just losing the weight without any action at all.  Our True Self will inspire us if any action is necessary for us.


The Goal of Life

The goal of life is not to prove reality right.  Anyone can do that.  The goal of life is to return to our True Self.  To do that, we must let reality know that we know it’s false.

This is the hardest switch for people to make in freeing their minds.  Almost no one does it.  It’s especially difficult when it comes to our body, our finances, or world events.  It drives us insane in relationships where we let go, and the other person keeps reminding us of reality.  But that’s why initiation isn’t for wimps.

Our false self thinks that we have to fix reality.  But reality is an illusion.  It makes no sense to fix a false illusion.  Eventually, one incredibly wonderful day, we no longer hold any beliefs in our mind.  Then reality and the truth are the same thing.

So be honest about what you are thinking, not what you see.  Be hard core in forcing your mind to drop whatever thoughts contain emotion.  Then you can turn anything around.

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Goals, Resolutions, and Hard Work

Our True Self is Abundance, longevity, healthy, sucessful

What we desire is usually what others says we should want or have or our natural state of being covered by beliefs.

By Cathy Eck


Action is Not the Answer

The new year is when we set our goals and resolutions.  Many of those resolutions are things we think we should want or do according to other people’s standards.  Other resolutions are states of being that are completely natural for our True Self.  Our True Self was covered by beliefs causing us to think that we have to work hard to get the things that we already are.  We are taught to think positive, take recommended actions, get the right education, and kiss the right asses to get our resolutions.  We rarely succeed because deep inside, we know it is all a lie.


The Cause

We lost our perfect life when we started to accept the myths and stories that the storytellers originally invented for entertainment.  People started to manifest the drama in the stories because they believed the storytellers who said the stories were true.  The people created problems just like the characters in the stories.  Then they went to the storytellers and said “Why did this happen to me?”  The storytellers were honest but not truthful; they said, “The Gods did it.”

But who were the Gods?  They were the constellations in the sky that took on life simply because storytellers started to see them in clumps which they named and gave personalities, talents, and power.

If the God in the sky died because he was eaten by a bear, and you were subsequently eaten by a bear, the God did it.  The mythology about the God was the source of the drama; so by default the God was the source of the drama.  The storyteller conveyed the myth as the truth; and you, who got eaten by said bear, believed the storyteller which caused it to happen to you.

Nothing has changed much.  If you knew the full story and could read everyone’s mind, you’d see exactly why bad things happen to people.  You’d realize there are no victims.  You’d be able to accurately predict what anyone’s life would look like presuming they don’t let any beliefs go.  Rarely does someone let a belief go because they are taught early in life to accept beliefs as the truth.


Storytellers Everywhere

Today we have a lot more storytellers.  Of course, we have Hollywood, but we don’t really believe what they tell us.  We know their drama is fiction.  Doctors are storytellers, nutritionists and personal trainers are storytellers, lawyers are storytellers, teachers and parents are storytellers.  And those damn clergy are the biggest storytellers.  They all want us to believe that they are conveying the truth of the Gods.  We believe them, and then we have to do what they prescribe to treat the cause their God put in our minds.

It is a wonder that anyone ever accomplishes a resolution.  You want to lose twenty pounds so you go to the personal trainer and nutrition storytellers.  Talk to ten of each and you get ten different stories.  Storytellers always put their own spin on a story.  Now they tell you what to do; and you have zero motivation to do it.  You think you have no willpower.  Bullshit.

Everyone has willpower, but we don’t have willpower to get our goals, resolutions, and dreams by following someone else’s protocol.  And when we can’t do that, we believe that we must be a failure when we just don’t buy their story.  We want to find the way to our goals and resolutions that’s right for us, our truth, because that way will be fun and joyful.  That way won’t be hard work or painful.


Getting Your Resolutions

So how can we get our New Year’s resolutions the natural way?  Ask yourself these questions with complete honesty.  Notice how many of your answers are just things you’ve heard from others.  They might be reality for them, but they aren’t true for you unless you choose to believe them.  Remember one of the first beliefs we accept is that if it was true for them, it must be true for me.  Just get rid of that one and your life will improve dramatically.

1)  Why do I want to achieve these resolutions?

2)  What do I believe I have to do to get the resolutions?

3)  Do I want to do what I believe I have to do?  Why or why not?

4)  Can I recognize that what I don’t want to do isn’t true, even if an expert said it?

5)  If you’re convinced the expert is right, go on the internet and look for another expert that says exactly the opposite.  They both can’t be right.

6)  Can you stop believing experts?  Can you listen to your True Self and trust that what feels free and joyful might be the true solution for you?

7)  Who would be bothered if you didn’t do what they believe?

8)  Imagine that you don’t get the goal; what does that say about you?

9)  Imagine getting the goal; what does that say about you?

10)  What beliefs would you have to let go to get the goal without any effort or action at all?

11)  Is there anyone (including God) that you’re trying to impress or please?


Okay if you answer all that honestly and let go of the answers that feel bad, I guarantee that you won’t have to do nearly as much work (if any) to get your resolutions.  Lester Levinson called this the butt system.  He said, “You change your mind when you decide to get everything by sitting on your butt.”  He’s right.  Do your mental work first, then you will either get the resolution, or you’ll realize you didn’t even want it.


Coaches also like to tell you to be positive.  That isn’t the answer because your True Self is already positive.