Motivation…Creation…It’s Not All About Doing

Nuts turn into giant oak trees.

By Cathy Eck

 

What’s Motivation?

I hear it every day from someone. I have no desires..no motivation…I’m lazy…bored with life. I don’t know what to do.

The curse of the illusion is hard work.  Some do hard physical work.  Others do hard mental work in order to figure out how to avoid doing hard physical work.  People who seek freedom are sick of hard work.  We discover letting go; then we turn it into hard work.

The freedom we desire is freedom from the physically oriented, fallen perspective.  When we fell into the illusion, we accepted lots of beliefs that made creating very hard and slow.  We became feminine to a false God (a slave driver).  We became slaves of his system.  Doing became boring, routine, and uncreative.

The popularity of motivational speakers, prosperity preachers, and life coaches is proof that people aren’t in touch with their natural inner motivation.  They pump people up and generate lots of emotion by telling them what they want to hear.

However, what we want to hear is usually the opposite of what we believe.  So their motivation wears off quickly; our established beliefs usually win in the end.

 

Reward and Punishment

As we let go, we’re all a lot like my oldest child, who was imprisoned in the educational system for six years before I set him free with unschooling.  He’d already become institutionalized.  He was accustomed to outer direction and rewards.  I asked him to look inside for his true desires. He had no fucking clue how to do that.  He begged me to tell him what to do, but I didn’t.  Eventually, his desires for outer motivation, direction, reward, and punishment died since he stopped feeding them.  He was left with inner motivation after about two years of tears.

Inner motivation is different from outer motivation.  The True Self knows the future, without going to psychics.  It’s not going to learn cursive writing unless it plans to be a calligrapher or old fashioned letter writer, but it will learn texting or typing.

The True Self hates spoon-feeding and memorization.  It wants to understand and experience everything.  But most schools ruin that innate desire.  Children learn to walk with very little assistance. They absorb the understanding from someone who already knows how to walk; then they figure it out.  They don’t read “Walking for Dummies.”

When my children wanted to learn something new, I’d point them toward the inventors and innovators in their field of interest — people who found their own wisdom.  I wanted them to trust their own ideas and to see that true desires always seem crazy to others because they’re not their desires.

Most people memorize and copy what others have discovered.  There’s no life force in that.  Beliefs, traditions, stories, knowledge, and rituals get passed down from generation to generation.  It’s old and dull.  In the beginning, such information was minimal and useful — like how to make fire.  Now we pass down useless knowledge, political persuasions, and antiquated religious ideas.

It’s habitual.  In ancient times, dead ancestors were labeled Gods.  Few people in the past have questioned their ancestral teachings.  People got used to being told things that felt bad or sounded illogical.   Sacrificing our desires for the sake of keeping the family and collective illusions alive became normal.  We stopped discriminating when we heard something from an elder, teacher, or expert.  After awhile, we’d believe anything.

 

Creation

To understand true motivation, we must understand the creation process. Creation starts in our mind as an original idea.  We think about the idea, and it grows.  Eventually, we desire to share our idea because sharing gives it life.  Then we’re inspired to action. The whole process is organic and enjoyable if no beliefs get in the way.  But invariably beliefs do get in the way, and we lose our motivation unless we let those beliefs go.

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If our desire is true, we’ll be inspired toward the next step and the next step; but we might not know the final destination.  We might not have support from our mother or friends, but we’ll find support in the form of validation, clarity, or insight.

Roles disappear.  No one can impose their beliefs on us if we know the difference between the truth and a belief.  The world is a mess because people think their beliefs are true.  Then they spew their beliefs on others because they think everyone needs their truth.  We already share the truth; we’re born with it.  Beliefs must remain temporary and personal.  They support, rather than dominate, creativity.

 

Action

The false self is action driven toward rigidly-defined goals. It seeks rewards and avoids punishment.  It avoids the creative process because it’s focused on end results and approval. The True Self’s ideas often look risky to the false self.  Beliefs about insecurity arise along with a lot of emotion.  If we don’t let those beliefs go, we’ll find our inspiration too difficult to follow.

The key to living from our True Self is to focus on our own mind.  The false mind is always  in other people’s business.  It believes that it gains status by mentally or physically pushing others down below it with it’s knowledge and conviction.  It fears others stealing it’s ideas; it’s competitive.  The false self judges, debates, and takes sides.  I know these things look normal; but normal people are deep in the illusion.

We must get to the place where we’re always watching our mind, discriminating, and letting go.  Eventually, it becomes automatic.  Our false self is blindly obedient.  It will be obedient to others unless we retrain it to be obedient to our True Self.

Yea, when we live this way, we’ll look lazy, unmotivated, or too happy.  Others will think we’re playing too much.  That’s their problem.  Finding our True Self and expressing it is what we all really want.  It’s finding the kingdom of heaven and eating from the Tree of Life again.

Too Good To Be True, Etc.

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By Cathy Eck

 

In my mentorship program, I require participants to write down their personal version of Heaven on Earth.  It isn’t the same for any two people.  But there is a harmony among them.  There’s never a case where one person’s Heaven on Earth would prevent another from having their Heaven on Earth.  That’s how I know they’ve tapped into something true.

After writing their Heaven on Earth, I ask them to write about their reality.  The difference is huge.  I learn a lot about them.  I learn what brings them joy.  I also learn what’s currently bringing them pain and suffering.  If they’ve been involved in New Age or Eastern religions, they’ll have a hard time writing this document.  They’ve become quite good at ignoring their desires or making them bad.  If they’ve been in western religion, they have lots of desires, but their reality is not even close.  Often they’re embarrassed by the desires; they think they don’t deserve them.  Or they think they’ll get them when they die if they go to the Heaven sold by religion.

In some cases, their mind and emotions work for them.  When they read their Heaven on Earth, they feel calm and peaceful.  Life feels right.  When they read their reality statement, they feel emotional and powerless.  Their emotions are pointing to the beliefs that are causing this gap.  The True Self would have no gap between reality and Heaven unless it’s a fun gap.  It also wouldn’t have emotional agitation.

When we understand this, we see how religion and spiritual teachings make people miserable.  They’re pushing Heaven away from earth by causing people to believe that their desires are imaginary, wrong, or impossible.  Most people are basking on the fringes of hell while telling themselves that they’re almost in heaven.  Spiritual and miserable are close cousins in the illusion.  Most people don’t see this, but they would if they watched themselves talk.

 

Defeat or Drop

The illusion looks very powerful and impossible to defeat for most of us.  Some people achieve success by finding a crack.  Others have strong wills and win a battle or two.  But nobody wins the war.  The illusion eventually kills us all.  It’s impossible to defeat the illusion by fighting it.  No one has ever won that war, and no one ever will.  However, it’s possible to forget the illusion — to not believe it exists.  And when enough of us do that, it won’t exist anymore for anyone.  Earth will be Heaven again.

There are some big beliefs that fuel the notion that our dreams are impossible or imaginary, and our reality is painfully true.  The main one is that people think thoughts that generate emotion are true, when they are actually false.  This keeps us all living like salmon trying to jump upstream.  It’s hard work.  I wouldn’t want to be a salmon.

With each of these false statements below, notice that they aren’t win-win for everyone.  Either some people must lose, or everyone must lose.  Also, if you pay attention to your emotions, you’ll see they’re false beliefs.  If they do feel good, look for some sneaky-ass pride telling you that you’re good for having this belief.  Or see if you’re labeling the emotion excitement.

 

It’s Too Good to be True

It’s easier to see how disgusting this statement really is when you look at the opposite.  “If it’s really bad and I’ll hate it, It’s true.”  We often say things like “It’s Too Good to be True” to make ourselves seem humble.  If we were all shining brightly, no one would be humble.  Only arrogant people will tell us that we need to be humble.  Only those who want company in their misery will tell us that “It’s Too Good to be True.”  If something feels calm and peaceful, it’s true.  We don’t need to prove that to anyone.

 

Hard Work is a Virtue

Most of us in America have ye olde Puritan Ethic.  We’re embarrassed or labeled lazy if something comes to us easily.

In common conversations, normal people whine, complain, blame, or look for justification, praise, or support for their “life is hard work” point of view.  No wonder many of us would rather be alone on an island.  If hard work was virtuous, it would make us happy and joyful too.

After letting go for a while, I didn’t have anything to complain about.  People didn’t notice.  They just saw my silence as more air time for them to bitch.  After awhile, I decided there was no value in many relationships.  I couldn’t see that when I was complaining half of the time.  Normal crappy relationships looked like friendship.

I wondered what a real friendship looked like.  I realized that I wanted to talk about fulfilling my dreams, creative ideas, and new things I learned.   One day, it hit me.  Those were things that I talked about when I was young.  Maybe we get old and sick only because we keep accepting more and more of the illusion as true until it kills us.

 

Some Things Never Change

This statement screams level confusion.  The True Self doesn’t change.  All creative potential doesn’t need to change.  The false self should continue to change along with the True Self, but as people get older, they usually resist change.  A baby changes from week to week, children change from year to year.  Adults change from decade to decade, and most old people don’t change at all.  Then what’s the use of living anymore?  So we don’t.

 

Think of some more of these widely accepted false beliefs, and let them go.  If you notice yourself saying them, pay attention to why you said them.  Close the hole in your false mind by letting go of the reason you said it.  Do this enough, and the distance between your reality and your Heaven on Earth will shrink.  Until one day, they gap will be gone.

 

 

 

Goals, Resolutions, and Hard Work

Our True Self is Abundance, longevity, healthy, sucessful

What we desire is usually what others says we should want or have or our natural state of being covered by beliefs.

By Cathy Eck

 

Action is Not the Answer

The new year is when we set our goals and resolutions.  Many of those resolutions are things we think we should want or do according to other people’s standards.  Other resolutions are states of being that are completely natural for our True Self.  Our True Self was covered by beliefs causing us to think that we have to work hard to get the things that we already are.  We are taught to think positive, take recommended actions, get the right education, and kiss the right asses to get our resolutions.  We rarely succeed because deep inside, we know it is all a lie.

 

The Cause

We lost our perfect life when we started to accept the myths and stories that the storytellers originally invented for entertainment.  People started to manifest the drama in the stories because they believed the storytellers who said the stories were true.  The people created problems just like the characters in the stories.  Then they went to the storytellers and said “Why did this happen to me?”  The storytellers were honest but not truthful; they said, “The Gods did it.”

But who were the Gods?  They were the constellations in the sky that took on life simply because storytellers started to see them in clumps which they named and gave personalities, talents, and power.

If the God in the sky died because he was eaten by a bear, and you were subsequently eaten by a bear, the God did it.  The mythology about the God was the source of the drama; so by default the God was the source of the drama.  The storyteller conveyed the myth as the truth; and you, who got eaten by said bear, believed the storyteller which caused it to happen to you.

Nothing has changed much.  If you knew the full story and could read everyone’s mind, you’d see exactly why bad things happen to people.  You’d realize there are no victims.  You’d be able to accurately predict what anyone’s life would look like presuming they don’t let any beliefs go.  Rarely does someone let a belief go because they are taught early in life to accept beliefs as the truth.

 

Storytellers Everywhere

Today we have a lot more storytellers.  Of course, we have Hollywood, but we don’t really believe what they tell us.  We know their drama is fiction.  Doctors are storytellers, nutritionists and personal trainers are storytellers, lawyers are storytellers, teachers and parents are storytellers.  And those damn clergy are the biggest storytellers.  They all want us to believe that they are conveying the truth of the Gods.  We believe them, and then we have to do what they prescribe to treat the cause their God put in our minds.

It is a wonder that anyone ever accomplishes a resolution.  You want to lose twenty pounds so you go to the personal trainer and nutrition storytellers.  Talk to ten of each and you get ten different stories.  Storytellers always put their own spin on a story.  Now they tell you what to do; and you have zero motivation to do it.  You think you have no willpower.  Bullshit.

Everyone has willpower, but we don’t have willpower to get our goals, resolutions, and dreams by following someone else’s protocol.  And when we can’t do that, we believe that we must be a failure when we just don’t buy their story.  We want to find the way to our goals and resolutions that’s right for us, our truth, because that way will be fun and joyful.  That way won’t be hard work or painful.

 

Getting Your Resolutions

So how can we get our New Year’s resolutions the natural way?  Ask yourself these questions with complete honesty.  Notice how many of your answers are just things you’ve heard from others.  They might be reality for them, but they aren’t true for you unless you choose to believe them.  Remember one of the first beliefs we accept is that if it was true for them, it must be true for me.  Just get rid of that one and your life will improve dramatically.

1)  Why do I want to achieve these resolutions?

2)  What do I believe I have to do to get the resolutions?

3)  Do I want to do what I believe I have to do?  Why or why not?

4)  Can I recognize that what I don’t want to do isn’t true, even if an expert said it?

5)  If you’re convinced the expert is right, go on the internet and look for another expert that says exactly the opposite.  They both can’t be right.

6)  Can you stop believing experts?  Can you listen to your True Self and trust that what feels free and joyful might be the true solution for you?

7)  Who would be bothered if you didn’t do what they believe?

8)  Imagine that you don’t get the goal; what does that say about you?

9)  Imagine getting the goal; what does that say about you?

10)  What beliefs would you have to let go to get the goal without any effort or action at all?

11)  Is there anyone (including God) that you’re trying to impress or please?

 

Okay if you answer all that honestly and let go of the answers that feel bad, I guarantee that you won’t have to do nearly as much work (if any) to get your resolutions.  Lester Levinson called this the butt system.  He said, “You change your mind when you decide to get everything by sitting on your butt.”  He’s right.  Do your mental work first, then you will either get the resolution, or you’ll realize you didn’t even want it.

 

Coaches also like to tell you to be positive.  That isn’t the answer because your True Self is already positive.