By Cathy Eck
People hate to let go of their seemingly good emotions, like excitement, hope, or pride. “What would life be without excitement?,” they ask. To get off the bottom of the triangle, however, we must let go of all the causes of emotions. Excitement and anger are equally damaging effects of false beliefs.
When confronted with the notion of letting go … Actors fear losing their acting ability. Artists think they’ll lose their creative edge. People who believe they’re good fear they’ll lose their empathy. Those addicted to romance believe emotional chemistry is love. People fight to keep their emotions while simultaneously hating them. The illusion falsely promises that it’s giving us what we can only get by letting go.
There are so many techniques to get rid of the emotions generated by our false beliefs. Techniques like the Release Technique, EFT, and anything else that eliminates the emotion without removing the causal belief are popular. But they don’t fix the cause unless you happen to let the belief go.
The false masculine eliminates unwanted beliefs that cause emotion. They get it half right, and it would work if they had no psychological reversals. They totally believe their view of life is the right view. They forget to do the win-win test. Karma might be win-win for a guru since he’s certain he has none. But it imprisons billions of people. The apocalypse might look win-win for Christian Bible Thumpers, but it sucks for the rest of us. The false masculine holds themselves superior to the rest of the world. In their eyes if we were all like them, earth would be perfect. Can you see their delusion?
Emotions are so misunderstood. Many take substances to eliminate emotions. They keep jobs they hate or stay in bad marriages because the anger and pain they feel by staying where they are is less than the guilt, shame, poverty, or loneliness they believe they’ll feel if they leave.
Some people create pain to get rid of their emotions, WTF? Lisa Ling, reporter on Oprah’s channel, did a special on BDSM, Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM). When asked why they wanted to be dominated, beaten, and chained; the people said, “It feels good.” They believe they’re releasing emotions. Cutting is another way of trading emotions for pain.
People use sports for emotional release. They scream at their televisions or use their emotions as fuel when they play. I used to run. I pounded the pavement in anger and thought that was healthy. Sex without love is a sport if desired, rape if undesired by one participant. Neither sex nor sports are bad; but they’re not meant to be emotional release techniques.
People fight over stupid things or beat their children for emotional release. They justify it as discipline; but in truth, they just want to release their emotions.
Some vomit their emotions into creative work which is a false-self creativity. Artistic expression lives in the True Self. Creative ideas require us to go through the darkness of the false self. That’s why many great artists become crazy, manic, or suicidal. But what if they could let go? They could enter the darkness without a scratch.
The most ridiculous way to get rid of emotions is to relabel them good. We feel waves of excitement when something good happens only to be disappointed when we don’t get what we want. This produces addictions to food, drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, parties, adventures, drama, workshops, healers and psychics, sex, religion, etc. Life in the illusion creates the downward wave quite nicely. We go to others or substances to pull us back up.
Caretakers give outer care as well as a strong emotional projection. People feel better when they serve because shit flows downhill. Our unconscious masculine hates emotions; and it looks for victims to project its fears on. People give to charity to feel prideful or eliminate guilt. Charities represent the manifestations of our fears — the thing we want to see fixed in the world before it happens to us.
Many spiritual teachers and religious leaders use talent or knowledge to claim the false masculine role and stay there. They project their false feminine on followers. They often don’t realize that they have God complexes, not God, in their masculine mind. They believe they have the right to judge and punish their opposition — their own shadow — that would be us. Most of us fear people with God complexes so we don’t challenge them. If we do, we get what we expect — punishment, humiliation, or death. This is why we’re often silent about things that truly matter.
In truth, emotions are all the same. Labeling them keeps us stuck. Emotional release techniques only create more confusion. If we follow our emotions, they’ll take us to the causal belief. Once we understand this, freedom becomes possible. Emotions go away naturally when we let go of the cause. Our mind is a beautiful, organic system that leads us to the perfection that the illusion claims to be humanly impossible.
Letting go is compassionate. I wanted to learn how because I didn’t want to project on others. I didn’t want to explode on others. I didn’t want to reflect their baggage. I didn’t care to run anymore. I just wanted to love and free others.
When tempted to seek emotional release or feed an addiction, first stop and ask yourself: “What thought or problem am I trying to eliminate?” Follow your emotion by witnessing it. We listen and let go when we discover the causes. As we practice letting go, we stop playing the “Pass the Emotions” game.
Even for those of us who practice witnessing our emotions and letting go, it isn’t fun when they arise. But emotions are the guide on the path to the True Self — Heaven on Earth. If you want that destination, you must take the path that goes there.