Help! I Can’t Find the F***ing Causal Belief

Beliefs can't find the cause

By Cathy Eck

 

Not a day goes by that I don’t hear, “Help Cathy, I can’t find my fucking belief.  I know it’s there because my life sucks or my body is screaming in pain.  But I can’t find the belief.”  There are many reasons why this happens.  Shit, I sometimes say it to myself.  Here are some of the most obvious and common reasons and fixes:

 

1)  The belief is hiding under what I call a “protector” belief.  Our false mind wants to live forever; it fears death and exposure.  When the protector is on duty, our mind is generating thoughts like:  “I can’t find the belief.”  “This is too hard.”  “I can’t do this.”  Those are protector beliefs that guard the causal belief.  Our false mind is trying to get us to stop letting go.  If we let go of these distracting protective beliefs, the causal belief often can be seen.

2)  The belief looks like it’s absolutely true.  It could be a belief that we’ve had forever.  It might be a collective belief that we know nearly everyone else believes.  It might be a belief that has created in our reality many times.  Remember, our reality up until this second was created by that causal belief.  If we let it go completely, our reality will change.  It has to.  An example of such a belief is, “Dad will never change.” Yes, that has been true until now, but it’s a belief.  Dad does have a True Self; and if we connect with that True Self, he can change.  These beliefs tend to feel like walls that we can’t get around until we go through them.

3)  We can’t bear to feel anymore emotion, so we keep distracting ourself.   Beliefs generate emotion.  Long standing beliefs are laced with lots of emotion.  Our false mind will try to tell us that the emotion means the belief is true; it’s lying.  That’s its job.  Sometimes, we just have to face the belief and all that emotion with courage.  We have to outlast it.  We’re becoming masters of our minds.  It isn’t the easiest thing we’ve ever done.   It can be like a war; and we need to win every battle.

4)  We’re still feminine to the person who inserted the belief into our mind.  We have physical symptoms, and we can hear the doctor’s voice saying the diagnosis.  We feel emotion when we hear his/her words, but we still view the doctor as powerful and knowing.  We fear going to hell, and we know it’s false; but we still view our mother or the priest as our authority.  To be free, we must have no masters other than our True Self.  This is about letting go of false gods.  Our True Self always has an answer and always knows what’s right for us.  But if we’re listening to others, we won’t hear it.  Often we hear religious voices saying listen to God.  Our True Self is God.  The voices we hear in our mind that sound like mom, dad, and the priest/preacher are false gods.

5)  We’ve got a conditioned response that masks the belief.  For example, we have a saying that we use to sooth ourself like, “Everything happens for a reason.”  “God has a plan.”  Or we do something conditioned like go for a run or kneel and pray.  Our conditioned responses show us what we believe.  We do them to ease the emotion (fix the effect) that the active belief is spewing.  Get rid of the belief, and we no longer need to fix the effect.

6)  We want to keep the belief.  Often our belief has a payoff.  We want to get rid of the pain, but we get a lot of attention for it.  We don’t like drama, but it’s how we relate to our friends; and we want to star on a reality television show.  I’ve worked with actors who believe they need their past emotions to act; they don’t, but try to tell them that.  We can’t hold on and let go at the same time.  Sometimes freedom is simply a choice.

7)  We feel no emotion when thinking an unwanted thought.  We’ve hit a psychological reversal.  So switch directions.  Think the opposite.  For example, you keep thinking, “I don’t make enough money.”  There’s no emotion.  It just feels like harsh reality.  So switch to the positive side of it.  “I make all the money I need.”  Ah, the emotion comes pouring out saying, “Good try.  That was a false line if I ever heard one.”  Many of us are painfully honest people.  We speak about reality too much.  My advice on that is to talk less, let go more.  The reality will shift; then you can talk again.

8)  We’re in other people’s minds.  We’re looking at what another said or did and wondering about their thinking when what matters is our thinking.  A man cuts us off in traffic.  We wonder why he did that?  That keeps us from watching our own mind.  We don’t notice that we have fear of bad drivers or judge angry people because our energy and attention is devoted to the driver’s mind.  Bring your attention back to your thinking.  Western meditation is great for this.  Their thinking is their own problem.

9)  We’re reasoning.  We don’t need a reason for why something happened.  What we need is the causal belief.  If  we’re reasoning, we’re too much in our logical false masculine mind.  If we drop into feeling, and just witness our emotions while listening to our thoughts, we’ll find the causal belief in our mind, which is the only reason we need.

 

The biggest trap is looking at what normal people do and thinking we can do that too and get free.  Most people, regardless of what they say they want, are on the express train to hell.  We have to remember that fitting in means riding the hell-bound train.  Freedom means getting off at the next stop.

 

 

All One or Alone: The Creative Mind as an Individual Container

 

Minds are individual containers.

By Cathy Eck

 

All ONE

One of the biggest areas of level confusion to become popular with the New Age movement was the idea that we’re all ONE.  At the level of the True Self (or God), we’re absolutely all ONE.  That oneness can’t be broken or destroyed.  It’s a bond of unconditional love, peace, joy, and freedom.   It is eternal and lives beyond the boundaries of space and time.

But our minds were designed to also separate us from others so that we could individually create.  Imagine if we couldn’t hold individual thoughts.  We wouldn’t be able to focus on an individual creative project or be separate unique beings.  We’d become constantly confused by the thoughts of others.  Sadly, this is exactly what happens when we accept the idea that were all ONE at the level of false selves.

The way we’re designed, our True Self develops an idea.  As creators, we have to make that idea physical.  In order to do that, we create beliefs to bridge the nonphysical idea with the physical manifestation.  These beliefs are false, but they aren’t harmful if guided by our True Self (also called first-cause creation).  Time, colors, shapes, space, and tones are all beliefs that were created by our True Self for creative purposes; they bring us great joy.

 

Left and Right Brain

The structure of our brain mirrors our false mind.  Our left brain is masculine in nature.  It’s intellectual and allows us to hold ideas, intentions, memories, and beliefs.  Our right brain is feminine and receptive.  It receives inspiration and wisdom to bring our vision to life.

Ideally, our masculine mind sets a pure creative intention.  Then our right brain (feminine) receives wisdom and creative inspiration to move toward the vision.  The left brain holds the wisdom (now beliefs) received by the feminine mind, and the process continues until we reach our destination.  Then we let go of the whole false mind so we can create again.

If we get off the path and start missing the mark of our vision (sinning in the ancient world), we get an emotional signal from our feminine, which gently guides us back on to our path.

When we use our individual mental containers (false minds) in the way they’re designed, we move toward our vision without stress or problems.  We effortlessly travel the delightful journey from idea to fruition.  But as you can see, we must listen to our emotions and self-correct as needed.

 

What Went Wrong

We all came to the earth experience with a unique perspective.  In a perfect life experience, we’d naturally accept the creative projects that are right for us.  We’d choose only beliefs that are necessary to fulfill those desires.  We wouldn’t hold on to anything that’s unnecessary.  We wouldn’t get caught up in other people’s beliefs or desires.

When my children chose to unschool, I noticed that they innately understood what they needed to learn.  If a subject wasn’t part of their future, they didn’t want to learn it.  I could not motivate them.  They even knew that things like cursive writing would become obsolete as we moved toward mobile devices and email.  It became obvious that I was a very poor substitute for their True Self, which clearly had the big picture.

However, in the illusion, we think teachers know what we need to learn.  We think preachers know what we should believe.  And we think authorities are needed to keep us in line.  We think doctors, dietitians, and trainers know what’s best for our bodies.  We act as if we have no clue what’s right for us.  We put everyone’s beliefs and knowledge in our containers, filling them with worthless crap.

We assume that what’s right for another, especially if they’re an expert or authority, is right for us.  We wonder why we’re so unhappy with our lives.  We’re constantly faced with decisions and problems.

 

Cleaning Out the Container

If we want to live from our True Self and create as designed, we have to clean out our mental containers (false selves).  We have to take responsibility for what we put in them.  What isn’t true or necessary for our perfect life needs to go.  If others don’t like us letting go of their precious beliefs or judgments, that’s their problem.

We must let go of the beliefs that don’t serve our own creative desires.  We must let go of allowing others to tell us what to believe and how to live our lives.  We must trust that letting go never hurt anyone, and we can’t let go of what is True.  We must use our emotions to show us what to let go when we’re confused or indecisive.

As we clean, our mental containers become virgin.  They only have within them what we need for our own divine creative experience.  We live fully in the present without trying to be in the present.  Our past supports our present and our future.  Our mind is quiet except for what we actually need to think or believe.  We have no decisions to make, no confusion to unravel.

When we achieve this level of clarity, we’re still all ONE at the level of the True Self. However, our minds are now well-stocked, but neatly organized, individual containers at the level of the false self.

When we erroneously combine our false selves, we sadly end up ALONE.  Loneliness occurs when we are hoarders of the beliefs and desires of others.  Our containers become so full of worthless information that we can’t find our True Self.  We spend our life looking for who we are.

Other people’s beliefs belong to them, and they don’t just jump into our mind.  We allow them to come in, and we hold them hostage.  If we use our mind as designed, we live as creators in the image and likeness of God.  We’re loving True Selves that are ALL ONE and perfect creators with virgin false selves that are ALONE.

There Are No Rules — Dropping Your Rulebook Part II

Empty Rulebook

The goal of initiation is an empty rulebook.  Unconditional love and the truth is all we need.

By Cathy Eck 

This is a continuation of Part I so you might want to read that first by clicking here.  

You now understand that rules and beliefs work together.  You recognize that anyone who either promotes a rule, makes a rule, or obeys a rule is not being their True Self.   Like me, you probably recognize that you have a pretty big rulebook to let go.

 

Getting Stuck Versus Gaining Freedom

We are born with no rules; as True Selves we would do nothing that was not win-win.  To get stuck in the illusion, we accept the concept of good and evil, right and wrong, or win and lose.  We accept that humans are imperfect or even bad.  Then we borrow beliefs and rules that support those premises and build our rulebook.

Our rulebook is a unique blend of our religion, our parental influence, our community, and our culture.  Our role and birth order in our family will make a difference in our book of rules.  Our choice of activities, dreams, and personality will all go into making our custom rulebook for life.  Since the rules often came loaded with fear, promises of punishment, or threats of hell, we keep that rulebook firmly in our mind like we are guarding a treasure chest.

The True Self operates based on true and false.  It accepts only the truth, and it lets go of that which is false.  Since all rules and beliefs are false, the goal of initiation is to get back to our True Self and drop our entire rulebook.  But you don’t have to drop them all right away.  Start with the ones that cause you the most problems.

 

Hard Working Sally’s Rulebook

Sally dreamed of being a fashion designer.  As a child, she and her best friend, Rachel, were constantly creating new fashions and playing dress-up.  Sally’s parents gave her some well-meaning advice.  They taught her that she would get her dream if she went to church every week, got perfect grades in school, went to college, and was deserving in God’s eyes.  They told her it would require very hard work.

Sally did her very best to follow the rulebook she was given, but all doors seemed to be closed; her dream was fast becoming impossible.  She decided that she must not be deserving.  She tried so hard to be good, she worked very hard, and she constantly wondered what she did wrong.

To add insult to injury, Rachel got a job with the top design firm in New York.  Rachel didn’t go to college, never went to church, was an average student, and slept around.  To Sally, this looked incredibly unfair.  She wanted to be happy for Rachel, but she just couldn’t.  Rachel didn’t fit Sally’s rulebook; and yet, she got what Sally wanted.

It is these seemingly unfair moments that cause us to examine our rulebook.  The purpose of these experiences is to show us that our rulebook isn’t true.  But often we can’t the obvious.  What Sally didn’t consider was that Rachel’s parents didn’t give her a rulebook.  They gave her unconditional love and told her she could have whatever she wanted from life.  Without a rulebook, Rachel’s True Self easily led her to success.

 

Dropping Sally’s Rulebook

If Sally wants to have her dream, she has to start chipping away at her own rulebook.  First she must recognize that her rulebook isn’t true.  It is just the rulebook that her parents gave her.

If a rule is true, it works for everyone; and it feels good.  Sally must also recognize that she wouldn’t have a dream that she can’t achieve.  She just has to remove enough rules so that the dream can be fulfilled.  The rules that got her deep into the illusory world limited her too much for her dream to manifest.

Rachel exposed Sally’s beliefs.  But often, a Sally will make a Rachel wrong instead of fixing their own mind.  Sally might decide that Rachel must have slept with someone to get the job.  That way, Sally can keep her rulebook intact; she can justify her own failure.  This rationalization would keep Sally stuck and continue to push her dream away.

To get free, Sally must recognize that going to church, working hard, and getting perfect grades are not requirements for success — they were false rules in her parent’s rulebook.  She will have to look at what she believes makes someone deserving.  She must look at success from new eyes.  As she lets go of more and more beliefs or rules, she will create an opening for her dream to come true.  When the opening is large enough, she’ll be a fashion designer.

 

You Didn’t Write the Rules;

But You Sure as Hell Believed Them

We’ve all been stuck in someone’s rulebook.  Often people feel overwhelming panic or fear at the thought that they have followed a book of lies; I sure did. It seriously rocks your world.  But acknowledgement is the first step toward freedom.  You can’t drop a rule that you believe to be true, good, or right.

The only reason you know another’s rulebook so well is that you were taught it, believed it, and then saw the proof.  We see what we believe.  The physical proof that you observed was the manifestation of the rulebook.  You accepted your authority’s rules because you were innocent and didn’t know how to discriminate between true and false; you trusted others.  Sadly, the others we trusted didn’t know they had a flawed rulebook.  You didn’t do anything wrong, you’re not being punished, and you are deserving.

Initiation reverses our rulebook and opens the gateway to fulfillment of our dreams.  When our rulebook is gone, the illusion disappears.  All that remains is the truth, which is an empty rulebook.

 

That was the appetizer, now here is the meal.